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How Do I Cope With My Fear Something Terrible Will Happen To My Daughter?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Clare.

Clare: Hello Bob, hello Cynthia, and hello to The Council.

About two years ago my daughter was born. And since then I’ve been experiencing various intense fears about her being safe, about me being here for her, and being able to protect her. I’m afraid I might die, or that someone might kill me.

I feel more vulnerable since my daughter was born. For example, when I take a sip of a drink, I’m afraid someone might shoot me. I see what terrible things are happening in the world, like wars, school shootings, rape, and kidnappings. It’s truly horrifying what’s happening to small children or teenage girls, and it scares me deeply.

Council: We would like to say here, my goodness! You have picked a lifetime where you are trying to heal many, many lives of abuse, of being terrified, of early deaths, and losing family. So all of this is now going on for you to heal, and to find out why you are feeling like this.

We would like to tell you that the most recent [past life] was in World War II, where you and your daughter now, who was your sister then – the two of you, young girls taken away from your parents – and were in one of these concentration camps, and were abused, and were trying to stay alive. And seeing so much abuse going on, and you being two years older, feeling responsible for taking care of your sister, and trying to keep her safe. So that, #1, is what’s coming up for you and your daughter.

Clare: These fears paralyze me internally.

Council: And if you can imagine, that is how you were in that past life: terrified, paralyzed with fear, and not knowing how to protect yourself or your younger sister.

Clare: Is this connected to what is currently happening in the world? Or does it reach back into past lives?

Council: Both. We would say, unfortunately the way the world is at this time, it would bring up those subconscious memories.

Clare: What can I do so that these fears don’t paralyze me, and so that I can breathe fully and freely again, so I can feel love and safety in my heart, and know that we are okay?

Council: The #1 thing is, when you find out about a past life, it takes a little while, but when you accept it, and you realize what you are afraid of is not going on right now – you are not in a [concentration] camp right now. These are memories that come with a lot of feeling, but it’s to get to the place where you realize that was then, this is now. It is not happening now. And when we died in that life, we’re still okay because here we are. We’re okay. It’s a past life. It is not hurting me. It is not happening now.

Clare: Can you also tell me whether my daughter and I have shared lives together, and what soul contracts we made for this lifetime?

Council: The soul contract is that you both wanted to be together again, but in a happier atmosphere. So it is your place to find a way to realize what is happening now. We are safe, and come up with thoughts that can prove to you that you are not in that same situation again. Everything that goes on with you now must start with your thoughts. That’s how the healing will start.

So you have to find a way to think, “I’m safe.” Even if you sit down for ten minutes a day, and in that ten minutes think of love, and think of happiness. Come up with fantasies of what it would be like and sit in that happy feeling. As you begin to do that, that will grow more and more and will help you to release the fear. And it will help you realize it is not going on now. I am fine.

Clare: What can I do to help our relationship thrive and to love each other, even when she becomes an adult woman?

Council: We would say, as a child, play. Find play, happiness, and fun things to do. That is important. And that will go into adulthood, and you will have a much easier and happier life together because you’re going to start changing it now.

Clare: Friendships with women still feel impossible for me, and I can’t maintain any female friendships. Even within my family, no woman communicates with me. I’ve always felt like I had to submit to them. And when I expressed my opinion, nobody liked it. What can I do differently with my daughter?

Council: Show her love and understanding. Find happy things to do. The woman problem is also from that same life. If you realize you are in a camp with women, and sometimes they were very mean to each other, just trying to survive, so that is also part of the same past life.

So it is your choice, of course, but it is your hope to heal this [situation] in this lifetime. And for you to do it, you must change your thoughts. You have to have control of your thoughts. Ten minutes a day will be enough to start this.

Clare: I would like to have a beautiful, warm, and heartfelt relationship with my daughter.

Council: And you can have this. You have to do the work, but you can have this.

Clare: Thank you very much in advance for your advice and insights. I’m sending light and love. Clare.

Council: And so we send you love. We send everyone happiness, and hope, and the ability to change your lives. To know that you can, and make [your life] exactly the way you want it. And that is why we’re all here right now. Love to you all.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Clare and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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March 3, 2026 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

What’s Up With My Best Friend Who I Just Confessed My Love To?

Maria says she’s currently having issues with her best friend, Dave, who she just confessed her love to. She says he’s sort of cold to her right now, though she may be just imagining it. The Council says it’s wonderful to have the freedom to confess love for another person. It’s for yourself that you do this. Whether it’s accepted or not, speaking of love for another person is a wonderful feeling, and they ask Maria to tune into this feeling.

Maria says a close psychic friend told her she and Dave were either family or romantically involved in several past lives. The Council says as Maria continues to create her life, things can be changed but right now the relationship isn’t going in the direction of a love interest. It’s more of support for each other.

Maria says she’s learning a lot of lessons from how she handles her relationship with Dave, such as how to express herself honestly and have a wider perspective of what’s possible. The Council says this is great growth on Maria’s part.

Maria asks The Council why she hasn’t gotten over telling Dave she loves him and asks if she’s missing another lesson or should she just be more patient? The Council advises Maria to not only be more patient, because she’s able to create this romantic relationship if it’s what she wants, but what she needs to do is to stay in the vibration of love and go forward with what she wishes to create.

The Council advises Maria to allow Dave to be who he is. Be supportive without pressure to go into a different type of relationship. See Dave with love and send him energy so he’s able to work through the lessons he wishes to go through and change.

The Council advises Maria to remain in the present with Dave and to listen to him with her heart and try and be supportive. As you do this you also grow.

There’s a big lesson here for Dave about safety. As he learns to be safe with you and as he learns you’re not trying to change him and you accept who he is, his walls will begin to come down and he’ll be more present with you. Along with the thought of you becoming more loving and more patient, also see Dave becoming more trusting and more caring. When you do this inner work it’s the beginning of creating. In your feelings about Dave, love and acceptance is what’s needed and the rest will come into play.

Listen to the entire audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Maria and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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August 3, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Trusting Your Way to a Romantic Relationship

This post answers a follow-up question for The Council from a woman named Nina. We posted The Council’s response to her previous question in our post, How Can I Have a Romantic Relationship?

Nina says she’s been scared and distrustful as long as she can remember. She now has improved relationships with friends and family, but she doesn’t have any luck with romantic relationships.

The Council says it’s good to open up with friends and family first, and as she sees success in these relationships they ask her to stretch and begin to trust other people around her. Then when she’s in a place of comfort within herself she may look forward to finding a partner in a romantic relationship. The trust issues run very deep for Nina and it’s safer for her to build her relationships slowly at first with family and friends.

Nina asks The Council if something happened in a previous lifetime that’s influencing the difficulty she has trusting people today?

As a child in England in the 1800s she was abandoned and has trust issues from this experience. In a different lifetime she was sold to another family because her birth family wasn’t able to provide for her. And during the Holocaust Nina was put in a concentration camp and lost her family. In each of these lifetimes there’s an issue of abandonment and not trusting those around her.

The Council says Nina is trying to heal these three previous lifetimes in her current life. The situations she’s created in this lifetime aren’t as horrible as the ones she’s come through in other lifetimes. She’s decided in her current lifetime to work on trust issues with family and friends and without being abandoned or something horrible happening to her. Because Nina has made her experience lighter in her current lifetime, in spirit she felt she was able to handle these situations, change them, grow, and trust people.

The Council reiterates that as Nina is able to realize she’s safe with family, close friends, work colleagues, and new people she meets, then she’ll be able to bring in the right sort of romantic partner for herself. And The Council expresses confidence that Nina will be able to do this.

Listen to our entire 4-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Nina and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

February 28, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Whether to Leave an Abusive Relationship

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Jolanda who says it’s taken her a long time to realize her husband (who is the father and step-father of their children) is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and their stepchildren.

Jolanda asks if she’s right to stay with her husband and The Council says there was a pre-birth agreement they would come together in this lifetime. They see previous lifetimes where Jolanda had experienced a lack of courage and in this lifetime she desires to learn to be a protector of herself and her children. The Council adds that her children are part of this agreement and it’s their purpose to push Jolanda to become the protector she wants to be.

The Council asks if Jolanda feels it’s safe for her children to be around her husband, or is it time to move on to protect them. The Council says these questions are there to push her in the direction she wants to go. And they add Jolanda doesn’t need to grow any more to realize the relationship with her husband is an abusive one.

The Council says Jolanda’s spirit wants to experience the other side of the coin – the kind of partner she’d feel unconditional love with and feel her children are safe, growing, and happy. They say it’s her choice and the lesson to protect herself and her children is right in front of her.

Jolanda says it’s difficult to be yelled at, blamed, ignored, and devalued by someone who means the world to her. And The Council asks if she believes by staying in this relationship she’ll acquire the strength she needs and the love she wants.

The Council advises Jolanda to love herself and her children and put herself on a path where she experiences this, and to picture herself as strong and happy, having a loving partner and happy children.

The Council says if Jolanda stays in this relationship it will stay the way it is. This is the way she created this relationship – to stay this way until she finds the strength to change it.

Listen to the entire 11-minute session (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Jolanda.

May 22, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | 2 Comments