How Can I Learn To Speak Up For Myself?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Shy Girl.
Shy Girl: Hi, Cynthia and Bob. Does The Council have any advice on how I can move on from the effects of selective mutism? When I was four years old, I moved to a new country with my family. On the first day attending a new school, I was introduced to my new class, and just having them look at me triggered my selective mutism. I couldn’t speak for the first two years at school, and it took me a while to find the courage to talk.
Although I have no problem speaking up now, I often find that when I’m in a new situation or feel uncomfortable, I tend to withdraw inward and dim what I truly want to express, experiencing physical symptoms like blushing and feeling small. It’s affecting my courage and my ability to speak up when it counts the most, like in dating.
Council: And so what we see here is – of course being preplanned that you would go through this – you wanted to learn what it would be like to feel in these different situations, not being able to talk.
In another lifetime you had a stutter that affected you. And in that lifetime, you would wish that you could talk regularly, without the stutter; that you could talk slowly, and take your time, and be understood, and feel good with it. So in this lifetime you’re trying to heal that other lifetime with the stutter that was very painful.
So we would say, when you find yourself blushing or having difficulty speaking, what are the thoughts that are running through your head? When you discover what it is, you are to replace them with thoughts like, “I can speak. This is so wonderful. I am so grateful. I can take my time. I can speak, and people will hear me and understand what I say.”
So that’s why you’ve created it in this lifetime, because you wanted to feel the gratefulness of being calm, and taking your time, and just speaking. So you have created it perfectly. And now we would say, do the work. Of course, helping the body, it would be good to do the chakra breathing, especially the throat, so it would have more energy to work the way you want it to.
And just remember that whatever it is that you want, pretend you have it already. And actually, in this lifetime, you do have it already because you left the stuttering behind.
Shy Girl: Can you sense what guidance my spirit is trying to tell me?
Council: Your spirit is trying to get you to follow through on what you planned, to feel the difference, to perhaps now learn about the stuttering and compare how you would feel when you had that to what you have now.
And what you are looking for is to find the feeling of gratefulness. When you reach that point, it will begin to bother you less and less – less blushing, less being shy. You will just be overcome with gratefulness that you can speak and people can hear you, and understand, and not walk away and make fun like they did in your past life.
Shy Girl: I know that my true self is more extroverted and likes exploring new places, but my fear hinders my ability to completely enjoy myself in new situations. I want to maintain my true energy constantly and consistently, and be myself regardless of what situation I’m in.
Council: And sometimes we find there is an exercise where you look in the mirror and you speak to yourself in the mirror, and watch your eyes as you’re speaking, and how you feel. And as you begin to recognize the gratefulness of what you have, you will put that inside of you, and that will grow stronger and stronger. So as you begin the exercise of speaking in a mirror, it will become easier and easier for you. And you will see that little by little, feeling that you are shy or that you don’t like the way you speak, or that there is a problem, that will begin to fade.
And so we wish you love, and peace, and happiness on your journey, and just enjoy. Find things to enjoy, and the rest will take care of itself.
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Meditation to Balance and Align Your Chakras
This post is a follow-up to our previous post which answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jaden. In the session we did with The Council to answer Jaden’s questions, The Council recommended we provide Jaden with some of their techniques for balancing and aligning his Throat Chakra, Third Eye Chakra, and Crown Chakra, which are traditionally the top three energy centers within our physical body. In this post we provide techniques for the balancing and alignment of each of the seven chakras, or energy centers, which are located in the body between the groin and the top of the head. Following the text below we’ve included an audio recording of these techniques for readers who desire this. Please let us know if you enjoy working with these techniques.
First Chakra
To balance and align your first chakra, which is located at the base of your spine or groin area, imagine a clear box in front of you. Now imagine filling this clear box with the color red. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the red color out of this box and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the box, and then breathe normally. Imagine the red color leaving the box so the box is clear again, and then imagine the clear box disappearing. Your first chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Second Chakra
To balance and align your second chakra, which is located two inches below your navel along your spine, imagine a clear pyramid, but without its top or cap stone. Now imagine filling this clear pyramid with the color orange. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the orange color out of this pyramid and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the pyramid, and then breathe normally. Imagine the orange color leaving the pyramid so the pyramid is clear again, and then watch the clear pyramid disappear. Your second chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Third Chakra
To balance and align your third chakra, which is located just beneath your breast bone along your spine, imagine a 3D image of a clear plus sign in front of you. Now imagine filling this clear plus sign with the color yellow. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the yellow color out of this plus sign and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the plus sign, and then breathe normally. Imagine the yellow color leaving the plus sign so the plus sign is clear again, and then imagine the clear plus sign disappearing. Your third chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Fourth Chakra
To balance and align your fourth chakra, which is located at the level of your heart along your spine, imagine a clear circle in front of you. Now imagine filling this clear circle with the color green. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the green color out of this circle and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the circle, and then breathe normally. Imagine the green color leaving the circle so that the circle is clear again, and then imagine the clear circle disappearing. Your fourth chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Fifth Chakra
To balance and align your fifth chakra, which is located in the middle of the throat, imagine in front of you a clear chalice or wine glass with a long stem and a cross located in the stem. Now imagine filling this clear chalice with the color sky blue. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the sky blue color out of this chalice and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the chalice, and then breathe normally. Imagine the sky blue color leaving the chalice so the chalice is clear again, and then imagine the clear chalice disappearing. Your fifth chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Sixth Chakra
To balance and align your sixth chakra, which is located between your eyes and slightly above your eyebrows, imagine a clear Star of David in front of you. Now imagine filling this Star of David with the color Indigo or dark blue. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the indigo color out of this Star and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the Star, and then breathe normally. Imagine the indigo color leaving the Star of David so that the Star is clear again, and then imagine the clear Star of David disappearing. Your sixth chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Seventh Chakra
To balance and align your seventh chakra, which is located at the top of the head, imagine a clear lotus flower in front of you. Now imagine filling this lotus flower with the color purple. When you’re ready, with a single breath, breathe the purple color out of this lotus flower and in through your nose, then down to the base of your spine, up to the top of your head, out through your mouth, back into the lotus flower, and then breathe normally. Imagine the purple color leaving the lotus flower so that it’s clear again, and then imagine the clear lotus flower disappearing. Your seventh chakra should now be aligned and balanced.
Closing
Use these techniques whenever you feel sick, tired, drained, or your energy doesn’t feel right. You should not use these techniques daily. As you learn more about each chakra and you feel that one or more of them isn’t properly aligned, you can use the techniques just for the chakra that needs realignment.
As mentioned in the opening paragraph, we’ve included an 8-minute audio recording of these chakra balancing and aligning techniques in the following section.
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Feeling Down After a Recent Energy Healing
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from a reader named Linda about a distant energy healing she received recently to clear her aura of negativity. Since the healing took place she’s felt down, not much joy, and seems to have lost her flow in life. She asks The Council if these feelings will pass, or is there something she can do to re-establish her joy and get unstuck from where she finds herself?
The Council begins by pointing out the ability to heal herself lies within Linda rather than within an external healer. Sometimes when you go to another person for a healing, that person will send you healing energy and your body and spirit will use this energy in the way that’s best for you. What The Council sees is that this healing stirred up a lot of Linda’s emotions and instead of getting the full clearing she wanted, these emotions have been brought up so she can learn to heal them herself.
The Council suggests meditation, prayer, working with crystals, and using her healing inner light. See the energy go into and around her body and lift out what needs to be removed.
Another exercise Linda can do is one she also used in a lifetime as an American Indian where she would stand on a hilltop on a windy day, raising her arms, and ask the Wind God to blow through her and remove whatever is negative or she doesn’t need.
The Council says the reason these emotions were stirred up is to get her to know she has the power to heal herself. And they add that the person Linda chose to do this energy healing did exactly what was necessary, with love, to push her forward in finding her true self.
Listen to the entire 6-minute session we did with The Council (below) on Linda’s questions to hear all their guidance for Linda and the rest of us. And let us know what you think.
How to Navigate Through a Period of Standstill
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Sarah who feels like after being drawn to experiences like lucid dreaming, meditation, and connection with her spiritual self, her life has come to a standstill recently and she asks The Council how to navigate through this period of feeling stuck.
The Council says what Sarah is experiencing is what some people call the void. She will feel stuck and cut off, but while she’s in what she calls this stuck place she should review what she’s learned, go deeper into it, and use it in her everyday life.
While Sarah is in this stuck place her spirit is very busy planning the next phase of her life. She is figuring out on a deeper level her path and the direction she wants to go, who she wants to pull into her life, where she wants to live, and what she wants to experience. The Council says Sarah is in a very good place and recommends she have more understanding with people she brings into her life.
Sarah asks how she can connect more deeply with herself and manifest more quickly. And The Council recommends sitting in a quiet place and figuring out how she can know her spirit loves her personality self, but without using any words, just feeling this love in her heart. This will eventually help her feel more connected.
Sarah asks what lessons she’s here to learn. And The Council says her lessons now are to be independent, be loving to herself, and push forward on her path of spiritual growth. And they say on this path she will bring in the right people to help her along her way. Do not look for approval from others. Approve of yourself and you will see yourself move forward.
Sarah asks what she’s struggled with in past lives. And The Council says the past life that’s affecting this life is one of slavery where she suffered without having the freedom to go and choose what she wanted, and feeling very oppressed. In her current lifetime she wants to spread her wings, learn more, be independent, and not need approval from others.
Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) on Sarah’s questions to gain a deeper appreciate for The Council’s guidance for Sarah and the rest of us when we feel stuck in the void.
How is It Possible There is No Separation Between Spirit and Human?
Jose’s Comments and Questions
Several months ago after reading one of our blog posts about how every human being – as a spiritual being in a human body – creates every aspect of their human experience (pleasant and unpleasant, wanted and unwanted), a thoughtful reader named Jose asked The Council whether humans have the free will and power to create a better-feeling human reality when we feel spirit is creating a reality we’d rather not experience. Jose also asked some additional questions about the nature of spiritual reality and it’s relationship to our human experience.
In response to his questions we did a session with The Council and published 5 separate posts describing The Council’s information and guidance for Jose and other readers interested in this information (links to these sessions at the end of this post). Recently Jose posted a comment expressing appreciation for the information in those 5 posts and how they opened his mind to some new questions. This post is the first in a series that describes two new sessions with The Council on Jose’s recent questions. This post was originally published on July 5, 2013 and has been revised several times as our understanding of these sessions evolved.
Feeling Separate From Spirit
Jose says The Council’s teaching that spirit sometimes creates challenging or difficult human experiences leaves him feeling like a slave or a pet; and spirit seems like an uncaring master who creates negative human experiences (like pain, loneliness, fear, lack, desperation, etc) to satisfy a selfish desire for spiritual expansion. Jose compares spirit to a matador who enters the bullfighting ring for the adrenalin rush, but has no compassion for the bull (which he equates with his body/mind/ego) that is physically hurt, humiliated, and is ultimately killed in the process. Jose concludes, “the mind/body has no choice but to follow blindly and painfully without knowing what the lesson or purpose was, is, or will be” in physical reality.
Jose also asks 3 questions related to these comments: one about why spirit would chose to be born as a child without limbs, one about why a buffer of time is needed between our human desire and our manifestation of what is wanted, and a question about whether it’s possible for spirit and its mind/body/ego to both simultaneously have free will to do what is wanted. Jose politely ends his comment with an apology if his questions sound too harsh, “but would love to know The Council’s opinion on the matter.”
Overview
The two sessions on Jose’s questions generated a lot of thought-provoking information and guidance from The Council – too much to comfortably include in one post. In this first post of the series, we focus on The Council’s advice regarding Jose’s feelings that spirit doesn’t care about the difficulties humans experience, and we address aspects of his question about a child born without arms and without legs.
We plan to follow this post with additional posts on Jose’s questions, and in each post we’ll focus on how you and Jose can feel more connected to spirit’s unconditional love when you feel like spirit, or something else out there, is giving you a hard time.
Praise for Jose’s Questions
Although Jose’s question may seem harsh, The Council offered the following praise for Jose:
“And we applaud him for his thinking, and how he is trying to explore different ideas. And so we hope, as he comes to the reading of this material, that he will begin to let [in] the feelings that will come with the words.”
Mind/Body/Ego is One with Spirit
If you’re looking for some uplifting spiritual reading and you’re not particularly sympathetic to Jose’s point of view, you may be wondering if you made a wrong turn with this post. But The Council says that from the point of view of who you are as an eternal spiritual being, there are no wrong turns in your human experience, only opportunities to use your free will and power of choice to find better-feeling ways of focusing your attention, and allowing more of the feeling of love you are in spirit into your human experience. And that’s a big part of what this post is about.
Seeing People as Spirit in a Physical Body — An Exercise
Today we would like to give you
an exercise for the week.
Everywhere you go,
if you are on a bus or a train,
walking down the street,
or standing in line in a store,
wherever you are,
look at the people around you.
Pick one or two and just remember
they are spirit in a physical body.
They are here just like you,
experiencing their reality.
Just concentrate on them as spirit.
Your energy will begin to change.
You will align with who you really are.
This is a wonderful exercise to do
with difficult people in your life.
While it may not make you love them,
it will soften your feelings toward them.
This exercise will change your vibration.
And although you are concentrating on others
in a more understanding way,
you will be the one who benefits from this.
Try it, you’ll like it.
—The Council

