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Creating Your Ideal Partner

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Starfish. We previously answered Starfish’s related questions in our post, Will I Meet My Ex Again, Or Meet Someone New To Share My Life With.

Starfish: Hi. I want to continue my question on this topic. After I posted this, I met a man who was my first boyfriend. I was in a relationship with him for one year, and then we broke up.

Council: Now when you think of this relationship, was it fun? Was it something you enjoyed? And we ask you to remember that part of it.

Starfish: My ex-boyfriend, who I loved dearly, but I was bored with the connection. So I keep blaming myself, even though he loves me so much.

Council: And why do you blame yourself? It was boring? And what did you do to make it exciting? What is it that you brought to this relationship? What is it that you wanted to talk about, and that you wanted to share? Always look at what you bring to the relationship. That is a #1 step in any relationship.

Starfish: My intention was still to have a partner who I can get married to. I met two other men after him. I feel like in my mind the man, K, was my husband, but so far the connection is unable to start. He’s busy with things in his life, and we are unable to meet or get to know each other.

Council: So there you are being shown that what you have is what you’ve created right now. The person not wanting to have more contact with you shows you were this person is right now. That does not mean that you cannot change this. You can. You have to start with meditations, with seeing it, with visualizing it, appreciating it, and working with the vibration. But from what you tell us right now, the man is not in a place to want to have more of a relationship with you.

Starfish: I only got to see him three times in the last four months. This made me question my intuition, and that maybe I was wrong because he doesn’t communicate or answer my texts much.

Council: Well your intuition is correct, that you are noticing he’s not returning texts, or calls, or wanting more to do with you. That is correct.

Starfish: Which makes me feel like he doesn’t want this connection.

Council: At the present that is true, but once again we say you can do the work, and you change it. And a lot of people will say, “You know, it’s hard work. I don’t want to do that.” Okay, that’s fine. Then move on and create the person of your dreams.

Starfish: But when we’re together, it feels good. I did not have the same feeling with the others. The other guy, N, he’s everything I wished for in a partner – the nice way he treated me, his communication – except our connection is more like friends.

Council: And can you appreciate how wonderful it is to have this kind of person in your life? You can stay friends and have a wonderful relationship.

Starfish: I’m confused about who to keep focusing on moving forward to create a reality with. I know I want to be with the K guy, but the circumstances are so against it, which makes me question if I’m heading the wrong way.

Council: If you are questioning, you are not sure you will be able to make this [relationship] happen. So #1, you would have to stop the questioning and start the knowing that this is what it is right now, but this is the way it’s going to be, and start working on the way you want it. And that’s how you change it.

Starfish: Or I’m just making toxic decisions for myself. The other connections were much easier, but my feelings are not in it.

Council: Alright, so follow your feelings. Create another person, and another one after that, and another one after that. Create as many as you can, and how wonderful it is that you can keep creating them. But keep creating and adding to each relationship what’s missing, and what you would like in it. And then you will create the perfect person for you.

Starfish: I don’t want to keep creating new people in my life because I’m very tired of this temporary experience.

Council: Well, you must first become aware of what it is you want, and what it is that’s lacking in all these other relationships, and create this one person that would have what it is you need that you don’t get in these relationships. So when you know what you don’t want, you will know what you want. Take a look at the relationships you’ve had. What is missing? And now add to the person who would be the ideal for you. And if you say you’re tired of creating, then you will just be stuck right now until you take the bull by the horns and say, “Okay, this is my life. I will create what I want.”

Starfish: I just want to choose one person and stick to that. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

Council: And maybe it is your way of having fun, by creating all these people. There are many people who can’t even create one person, and you have been able to create several. So you can have fun with that. And you can say to yourself, “Well let’s see what I create next, and maybe this one will have everything that I want.” But be excited and be happy about it. When you are looking at it like you are tired of creating, you will never bring in the relationship that you want.

And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create, create.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Starfish and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll publish an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready.

If you prefer to have a private half-hour telephone conversation with The Council, you can pay us $60 through PayPal by clicking on this link. When we receive your payment, we’ll email you to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and questions.

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June 25, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Desire, Feelings, Marriage, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Move To My Parent’s Empty Apartment In Another City And Look For A New Job?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gašper.

Gašper: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I hope that I’m not burdening you with too many questions. My decision-making is quite slow, and so I ask for your help.

Council: (Laughing) We don’t know what burdening is.

Gašper: If you have the time, I’d like to ask a couple questions regarding my career. My current job is very demanding and boring, but well-paying. The thing is, my parents are offering me their apartment rent-free in a bigger city where I could get a lower-paying job, but it might be more interesting and less demanding, at least for a while.

Council: Yes, and you need that right now. You need that so that if it’s less demanding, you’ll have more time. And what you need is more time to learn more things that you find interesting.

Gašper: But I would mostly lose my current social circle whose company I now very much enjoy. Does The Council see a brighter future for me if I relocate to this bigger city?

Council: Yes, we do. And there is always a way to stay in touch with people. And you may find after a while that it’s no longer needed because you’ll be in another social circle. But we would say this is a gift, being able to move somewhere else. And even though people (we see) are so interested in money, that’s not the answer. The answer is to have a job that makes you happy, to have time to read, watch videos, take classes, and learn something else that will put you on a completely different path.

Gašper: I like to read books about afterlife hypnotherapy.

Council: Oh, wonderful.

Gašper: And I’m considering taking on expensive courses on this subject, and maybe start my own hypnotherapy counseling in the future.

Council: Ah, wonderful.

Gašper: Now this would not be boring for me. Does The Council see any good outcomes if I take such a career turn?

Council: Definitely. And we’d say to add to this, learn about past life regression, learn about how to do hypnotherapy for past lives, life between lives, and read everything you can get your hands on on this subject. It will take you into a very successful career. More and more people are looking for this, and they need this. So it’s very wise for you to go in that direction.

Gašper: I guess the answer would be to take the rent-free job where I could gather enough energy to take the hypnotherapy courses.

Council: There, you see, you had the answer all ready.

Gašper: Sending you lots of love and light, Gašper.

Council: Oh, and we send you lots of love and light. And we will be watching you. We’ll be watching you expand, you will grow, you will learn, and you will find much happiness.

Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Gašper and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll publish an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready.

If you prefer to have a private half-hour telephone conversation with The Council, you can pay us $60 through PayPal by clicking on this link. When we receive your payment, we’ll email you to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and questions.

And lastly, if you like this post, please click the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know.

April 16, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Helping Others, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Do I Dream Of My First Love?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lolly.

Lolly: I often dream of my first love. I’m in my 60s. What does it mean? And does he dream of me?

Council: What it means is it makes you happy to think of this. There are good memories there. You’re in a part of your life that needs happy thoughts, you are reflecting on the past and perhaps the one that got away.

So all it is is your conscious mind is bringing up thoughts of this one person. A first love is very important in someone’s life, and so you are back there. Think of how it started. Think of the whole relationship. See how you feel. And that is why you are bringing it in. To look at it, and find good things about it. Feel good about it. And that’s what you want at this particular time of your life. Not to meet this person again and start up a relationship, but to enjoy those memories.

Lolly: Does he dream of me?

Council: We would say he’s had an occasional thought of you in the past, but it’s not something that’s ongoing. But yes, you are not forgotten. And there are also good memories there for that person. So it’s wonderful.

Listen to the entire 2-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Lolly and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll publish an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready.

Or if you prefer to have a private half-hour telephone conversation with The Council, you can pay us $60 through PayPal by clicking on this link. When we receive your payment, we’ll email you to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and questions.

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July 20, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , | 2 Comments

Why Have I Never Had A Romantic Relationship?

This post answers relationship questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.

Anonymous: In general in my life, I have a pattern of avoiding closeness and intimacy, and I feel easily constrained. I have never been in a romantic relationship, and especially when I was younger I felt considerable discomfort when I was approached in this respect.

Council: This was pre-planned for you to accept who you are, to be independent, and to watch and learn from the people around you. This was more for you to learn about you in this particular lifetime.

Anonymous: On the other hand, I don’t feel that I’ve had extremely strong desires or commitment to change in this area, but continuing as I have been also doesn’t feel right to me.

Council: Remember, at this point this was pre-determined by you before you came into this body, but you have the ability to change anything that you have pre-planned. And so with that, acknowledge you are at a place where you are uncomfortable in this solitary life. Maybe you’d like to experience a relationship, but not a permanent relationship. We see that’s not what you wanted. You can focus on perhaps even having a close friend. You can focus on that and then decide whether you like this, or whether it is better being more on your own and learning more about you.

Anonymous: What causes my blocks, and how can I address and heal them?

Council: There is no block. This was a choice. And the way you change this is to focus on what you’d like to experience now. Acknowledge what you planned, and now you’d like to change it a little. And the more you can focus on how you’d like it to be, to visualize it, feel it, what it might be like, you can change it. So there’s nothing to remove. Possibly there is a change or a new experience that’s wanted, and you are all in charge of that.

Anonymous: Or are they not blocks, and this is an indication that I intended to live a solitary life and focus on other things?

Council: You did intend that, but you have the ability and the power to change what you previously planned to do.

Anonymous: I try to visualize what I think each version of life could look like, but nothing feels like something I can commit to or settle into. Thank you.

Council: If you are visualizing and it doesn’t feel good, remember the feeling you get is from your higher self. If it doesn’t feel good going into a different sort of relationship, that is your higher self speaking to you.

And so we would say, then focus more on being happy, and different sorts of relationships come into your life so that there is a change and you do enjoy it. But to push and try to create something that does not feel good will not work well.

Blessings to everyone. And we see you all growing in leaps and bounds right now. And you will learn from your thoughts. You will learn from what you see going on in your life. You will learn from your planet. And what is going on? Just watch what’s going on in your life and you will know what you are creating.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own free question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages and we’ll answer it when we have time.

If you prefer to keep your comment private, you can pay $60 to speak with The Council on the telephone for a half-hour by clicking this link. Once we receive your payment, we’ll contact you by email to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and your questions.

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April 14, 2024 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Have I Lived Any Past Lives In Spain?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.

Anonymous: I’ve been coming across a lot of material regarding Spain, even though I have no connection to it in this lifetime. I feel that this is significant and tied to other lifetimes. Is there a past life connection there?

Council: What we see is a past life of you in Spain. You lived a life as what they called, gypsies. And you were so good at performing, and dancing – we believe they called it the Flamenco then – and singing. And you became very, very popular.

And you were part of a nomad tribe that kept moving to different places. But because you were so popular, you were welcomed into the society of people that were wealthy, where in that time they didn’t appreciate gypsies and would usually throw them out of their towns because they thought they were thieves. You were considered different because of your talent. But after many, many years of performing and becoming older, you wound up living in Turkey with your tribe. Your tribe of gypsies moved to Turkey.

And so it was a very happy life for you. And it would be good for you to learn more about it, and read about it, and see if anything strikes a chord. You dressed with beautiful makeup, you wore bright colored clothes, and your performances were outstanding. So we’d say we’re dealing here with a star. (Laughs). So we hope you research this and find out more about it.

And then find out where the gypsies came from. We know before Spain they were in India, and then your particular tribe wound up in Turkey. So that would be a good adventure for you to learn about it and see what strikes a memory? What brings a dream, or something that feels good to you?

What a lovely, lovely question.

Listen to the entire 3-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the end of most of our blog pages and we’ll answer it as soon as we have time.

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July 6, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

I Feel My Marriage Won’t Let Me Move Forward With What I Want

This post answers some follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Angie. Angie previously asked The Council some questions which we answered in our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man?

Angie: I do have another part to what I’d like to ask regarding my husband, Chris. First, I felt that I needed to get clarification on my connection to Brent (a co-worker – see previous post) as that has been weighing heavily on my mind. Is Brent aware of the kind of connection we share from other lifetimes and that we both pre-planned to come together in our current life to support each other? If not, how can I help him understand?

Council: He’s not aware of anything more than a friendship. If you want him to open up to more than that and question what you both have in this relationship, you’d have to visualize that, but allow him to be who he is. At this time we don’t advise you to push for Brent to be more than a friend. Be a good friend and companion to him. You can talk about things you have in common. You can make that apparent, but his growth and desire to learn more about you must come from him.

Angie: Although my husband and I have remained married for almost 24 years, I haven’t felt we were always aligned with each other. We’ve had our ups and downs, but something was missing between us. I don’t think we ever connected on the level I was looking for in a marriage.

Council: In this connection you’re looking for did you look at your husband from your heart? Did you look for loving things about him even when things are difficult? Do you connect by realizing your husband is also a spirit, and he has his challenges and feelings he needs to work through? Did you connect by appreciating your husband and looking for all the good things in your marriage? When you look for these things, you’ll find them.

Angie: In between our down times, Chris and I had many good years.

Council: That’s wonderful, and it’s good to think about and remember that.

Angie: But when I decided to go back to school, it was the most challenging time. It was challenging because I had to balance taking care of our two sons, focus on my studies, and try to have Chris understand that completing my degree was important to me and will bring success to our family.

Council: Do you know that you created all this and you both agreed to experience this challenge? Did you know you wanted to create this challenge to see if you could handle it so that you’d feel good about yourself? Did your husband agree to this challenge to learn to see you differently, or handle jealousy? There are different reasons this challenge was created, but because you both went through this, it’s something you both want to learn from.

Angie: The extra challenge was how Chris seemed upset with me for what I felt was being focused on my education. After all my hard work during a semester and taking my final exam one weekend, Chris accused me of being with someone else. It was the most hurtful thing to hear him say. There were other moments where I had to tell him I would continue to reach for my goals with or without him.

After I graduated and had a full-time job lined up, things smoothed out. Chris was happier and I thought I’d be happier along side him. I was happy for the next couple years. By this time both our sons were attending college and I was paying their tuition and room and board.

Council: We’d ask you to review what was going on that you were happy for a couple years. Take a good look at that and see what you created and what you went through. What was Chris going through?

Angie: I was able to provide my sons with financial support mostly because we didn’t have a mortgage. Things were going well for us. Chris and I decided to look into buying a new house, but it didn’t work out. I felt is wasn’t the right time. He kept pushing for us to buy a house. I still felt it wasn’t the right time and I explained to him, I’m paying quite a bit in tuition for our boys, including my own expenses and tuition loans. I wasn’t going to take on extra expenses that would come with buying a home. Instead of receiving his understanding, he reacted with a threat of divorce.

Council: In that do you realize you learned to make a boundary, and what you wanted to experience, and what you didn’t want to experience. Look at how you’ve grown, and how you were clear with what you wanted, and you were able to voice it.

Angie: Chris threatened divorce one other time. This was the turning point for me to focus on myself even more. I’m left wondering if our coming together was to have our children and provide for them up to the time they’d begin to create their own lives.

Council: That was part of what your lives are about.

Angie: I know I’ve had a lot of personal growth and I’ve noticed my husband seems to be stuck in the same place and not moving towards his goals as much. This has made it feel like we’re growing apart. Has our marriage run it’s course?

Council: It’s only run it’s course if you decide that’s what you want. If It’s what you want, you’ll create it to go in that direction. It’s really all up to you. That’s one of the great understandings we all need to learn when we create a reality. It’s all up to you.

Angie: I feel the urge to move forward with what I want and I don’t think I’ll be able to fully do this while I’m married to Chris. I do love and care for him very much, but I want to go toward what’s fulfilling and brings happiness.

Council: Meditate on this. Picture yourself going forward with your husband and picture your life without him. What feels better? You’ll always know by how it feels. Do you wish to stay in this marriage and work out the problems? Is this something you wish to create and grow from? Or is it time that you wish to be on your own?

There isn’t any wrong answer. You’ll experience what you need to experience. Your higher self, which is you, is in control and well aware of what you want to create in this life. The best thing is to remain calm, meditate, and visualize what you want.

And so we wish you all love, and light, and happiness, and gratitude on your path. Be supportive of one another and love yourself, as well as others in your life. And remember every single day, you’re all spirits in a physical body, and you’ll create whatever you focus on. Even if you focus on something negative, you’ll create that. We urge you to have positive thoughts, laugh as much as you can, have fun, remember the wonderful and happy memories, and stay in the positive.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Angie and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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March 23, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Feelings, Gratitude, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Is Loud Rock ‘N Roll Music Bad for Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks if loud rock ‘n roll music is bad for our souls and bad for our children? They add that this is a serious question. They say we don’t listen to much pop music in our house, but my partner will let our children listen to hard rock.

The Council asks if Anonymous sees this brings their children enjoyment? Are they happy while listening to this music? That is what you need to notice. What do you see happening when they listen to this music? We don’t see anything negative going on here and being in a state of fear about what kind of music your children listen to isn’t necessary. It will change as time passes. If you see them enjoying this music, why would you want to take that away from them?

Anonymous says the lyrics are fine, even poetic, but I have a hard time believing it’s good for them physiologically or spiritually. It’s loud and aggressive and they say the kids love it. Am I overreacting?

The Council says you’re here to experience different things in your life and it’s not for us to tell you to enjoy this and don’t enjoy that. You have free will. Listen with an open mind and then make up your own mind. That’s your free will.

Anonymous closes by asking The Council what type of music they enjoy? They say we love everything. Even loud rock ‘n roll music.

Listen to the entire 2-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for this anonymous reader and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 26, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Free Will, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

Is Shamanism Connected to My Life’s Purpose?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, My, who experienced a dark night of the soul and recently started connecting with her higher self and the divine. She feels drawn to shamanism, especially the musical instruments like the drum and rattles, and she asks if there any connection between this interest and her life purpose?

The Council says many people think their life’s purpose is something they’re here to do, but they say you don’t always have a life purpose. Frequently you want to just jump into a lifetime and see what comes up. You want to play with other spirits you know.

The music, drums, and rattles you’ve all done in other lifetimes. You’ve created this interest in your current lifetime for the joy of it.

When something comes up in your life and you have no idea why it’s there, but you’re very drawn to it, we say follow that feeling. Do it, not so much to question where this feeling came from and did I do this before, but to learn if following this feeling makes you happy and brings you joy. This is a reminder you’ve all come into the Earth path to bring in love and joy.

Go forward with this feeling. Go into it more. Then you’ll get another desire and you can figure out something else you like, and we say go for that. And when you’re in that feeling or desire and something else comes along that you’re drawn to, it doesn’t mean you’ve done this in another lifetime, but it could be something you’re creating in your current life because you want to see how you enjoy it.

Whenever there’s something you or anyone is drawn to, go for it. There’s no mistake in doing this. If you follow this feeling and you’ve had enough of it or you decide you don’t like it anymore, then you can change your mind and do something else. It’s that easy. But while you’re here, take what you think will bring you joy and try it.

My says her mission in this lifetime is to help others and be of service, but I just don’t know which direction to go. Any insight will be much appreciated. The Council says your mission is to bring love, show compassion, and show kindness. Share what you learn. This is something you wanted to do. You wanted to discover many different things and share them with others because you wanted to bring joy into this life. This is your main mission. Share anything that gives you joy and by doing this you bring more joy to yourself and others.

Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for My and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 10, 2021 Posted by | Creation, Desire, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Soul | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Finding a Loving and Financially Secure Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Diana, who says she’d love to meet her soulmate husband soon and she asks if The Council has any insights on this and if there’s anything she can do to speed up the process.

The Council asks Diana what she’s thinking about to create this marriage in her life. They encourage her to think more about what she will bring to the relationship and not so much about what her husband will bring. As she begins to focus on herself and what makes her happy, she’ll begin to attract that in another person.

Diana asks if The Council is able to see her future husband and The Council says it’s her beliefs and what she focuses on that will pick the husband that she calls in with her thoughts and feelings. They say there are perhaps 10 different men that can come into Diana’s life, and as she focuses on what she wants and what she brings to the relationship, she will draw the most appropriate husband to her.

Diana says she struggles with issues of lack and poverty and she’d like to meet someone who doesn’t have these struggles. The Council says as she struggles with these issues she’ll bring in someone she’s attracted to, but he’ll have similar issues. That is why it’s very important to work on herself and her thoughts first.

If Diana’s thoughts are on lack and poverty it is unlikely she’ll be able to attract someone who’s wealthy. She can change her thoughts to: her abundance is growing  and she’s ready to receive more in her life. She is a spirit in a physical body. There is abundance all around her, she just has to claim it with her thoughts.

Listen to our 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Diana and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 6, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment