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Dealing With Wife’s Infidelity, Career Search, And Money Problems

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Roy.

Roy: Hello, Bob and Cynthia. Thank you for your wonderful platform. My questions center around three areas of my life where I’ve struggled the most. In my marriage I struggle with letting go of past wounds, as my partner had an affair several years ago, yet recently I’m obsessing over it and feeling very guarded.

Council: So you are suffering from the situation that happened to you. What have you done to let it go? Can you let it go?

If you are with this person and you constantly have the thoughts that: 1) there is no trust there, 2) you can’t make this work, and 3) it is uncomfortable, it’s very hard to turn it around.

But if you say, “Well, you know we both came here, we’re spirits, we wanted to be together. So the first thing as spirits, we have to find the love.” Show each other love, and do things that will bring happiness back into the relationship.

It is not so much thinking, “I’ve got to let it go,” because there’s hurt in those thoughts. But when you think, “We’ve planned this. We came together. We love each other. We want this to work,” that’s what changes what happens. And so, you have to want to bring joy, and trust, and love back into the relationship.

And, of course, communication is the first form of getting this (as we would say) out on the table, and discussing what can be done to bring the love that is there, and it is still there. How do you bring it forward?

Roy: I also struggle with finding a career path that I would find fulfilling.

Council: So what kind of desire do you have? What kind of joy do you have when you think of working? Even if you have an image of becoming a millionaire, how did you do it? What do you see yourself doing? It’s always important to play with you’re imagination and pay attention to what it feels like.

When you come into this reality, you always bring with you many, many gifts from other lifetimes. Well what is it? What brings you joy? Do you like to read? Do you like to draw? Do you like to be around people? Do you like to help people who have problems, or who are sick? Look and see what is of interest to you. Do you want to be around animals? Do you want to be outside? Do you want a job where you travel?

No one can give you that answer. You can’t sit back and say, “Tell me what I can do.” There are many, many things you can do, but now play with it. Do the work, and you will be surprised how fast this changes if you are intent on doing the work. You can do it. You can find it. It is already within you. Reach out for it. Be open to it being anything at all, but you will know because you will be happy doing it.

Roy: And I have financial problems that cause challenges in all areas of my life.

Council: And so we would say, as you tell us what is going on in your life, we would like to explain to you that energy is energy. It doesn’t always hit one area of your life. If you find yourself in (the word people use) a funk, it’s everywhere in your life. It will hit your finances, it will hit your relationships, and eventually it will hit your health. So right now, instead of putting pressure on yourself to feel better, to have a better relationship, to find a better job, work on yourself. How do I find a way to feel happy about anything? And by anything we say, are you happy walking down the street when you see babies playing together? Are you happy when you see a cute dog walking on a leash? Are you happy to look in store windows? Find the little things first. That is your challenge right now, because it is in every area of your life where things are not moving.

Find things to be grateful for and acknowledge them. Even if you were to find a penny on the street, laugh, acknowledge, “Okay, here’s some money.” Whatever it is, try to find the happiness in it. When you do that, you will find more and more things to be grateful for, and you will start feeling better, and you will find the right kind of job, and your relationship will improve. Find the gratitude. There is too much around you, and you have reason to feel this way. But now you know you are a spirit. You have the power to change your life by your choices, by how you think of things. And so we suggest you go on that path.

Roy: Any insights would be greatly appreciated. I feel I have been repeating patterns, and I am unable to move past this stage in my life.

Council: The pattern can be changed, but only you can do it. And you can do it. We see that.

And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create. create/

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Roy and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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June 17, 2025 Posted by | Career, Feelings, Imagination, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Best Care For My Aging Dad?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden.

Eden: Hi, Bob & Cynthia. Could you please ask The Council how to best care for and support my aging dad? He lives just over an hour from me and is now 83 years old with a lot of health challenges popping up. He has a healthy mind, though, so we don’t want to explore putting him in care because he has said he’d absolutely hate that.

Council: With a healthy mind it is always good to encourage them to do more and more. You may have to spend more and more time with him, but do not take that independence away. And give them compliments on what they remember to do. It is always important to uplift the soul.

Eden: I’m concerned about him because he lives alone, and I’m aware he’s beginning to need more help. However, he is quite resistant to help because he likes to be independent.

Council: And so maybe, to get his input, you can suggest, “How would you like to have someone come in once a week and clean, and that’s it?” Or, “How would you like someone to come once a week and bring you food?” You do not change the whole environment. You get him accustomed to some sort of help, even if it’s for an hour a day. “Someone is coming in to make you lunch. Someone is coming in to do your dishes.” And that’s it. You do not do it every day. You do not let someone come in and take over. That is when spirit becomes depressed and loses itself.

Eden: So it’s a challenge to get him to accept help with things around the house, even though it’s clear that he needs the help.

Council: That is why we suggest one thing. Let someone come and do just one thing.

Eden: How can my sister and I best support him while also maintaining our own lives and jobs, and living an hour away from him?

Council: Of course it’s a difficult time to go through something like this, but as adults, you and your sister would have to set aside time that you both agree on, and that you can make visits to your father. Also, when there are times that you can’t visit, you have that person come in just to do that one thing so that he always has the ability to speak to someone. It is important that you keep speaking, that you have ideas and you share them, or a joke and you share it, because communication is important.

Eden: Do you see that we’ll have to cut back on our workdays to help care for him?

Council: We do not see that right now. And so with your imagination, focus on the way you want it to be. If you want him all of a sudden to say, “Yes, I need to go and live somewhere else,” or “I need to have more help,” now is the time to be imagining the way you want it to be, not the way you don’t want it to be. So see it being a helpful situation, seeing everyone being happy about what’s happening, and that is how you create it. Do it now.

Eden: How can we convince him to accept help and be willing to spend a little bit of money to receive that help?

Council: That is why we continuously say, do one thing. It is scary for an elder person to think they are losing their independence. But if he sees one person come and it’s not that bad at all, and the person is nice, and there’s no big change, and his life is not being taken away from him, then he will agree to more help. But this takes time, and we say, start small.

Eden: There are government-supported options for help at home which are subsidized. However, he is very resistant to spending any money on himself.

Thank you in advance for the advice.

Council: Right now the best thing is to get him to accept small amounts of help.

We send you peace and love.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Eden and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages, and we’ll publish an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready.

If you prefer to have a private half-hour telephone conversation with The Council, you can pay us $60 through PayPal by clicking on this link. When we receive your payment, we’ll email you to arrange a mutually convenient day and time for your phone call and questions.

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January 3, 2025 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Imagination, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

What You Create In Your Life Is The Only Thing That’s Important

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks about her relationship with her husband.

Anonymous: I have a question about my family and marriage. My husband is not very supportive and he’s very calculating in our relationship. I lost my job three months ago and he doesn’t support me financially.

Council: So we’d ask you, what are you doing in this time? Are you trying to find another job? Are you being careful about what you think? When you constantly think this is hard, your husband is manipulative, he’s not supporting you – as you think of this, you create more of it. So hopefully we have all learned that.

So now think of when the relationship was better and when he was supportive. And also think about, I don’t need to depend on that. What can I do for myself? It’s a lesson in being independent.

And so we’d also say, yes you’ve written for some guidance and we would simply ask, have you sat down and spoken to your husband about how you feel? And not in a threatening way and not to have a fight, but if he was supportive before, why isn’t he supportive now? Find out where he is on his path, what he feels, and why he’s acting like this.

In your particular situation, communication is very important. So the first step is to sit down and have a talk about what’s going on, and why there is that change.

Anonymous: Verbally he supports me, but when it comes to money his attitude toward me is very calculating.

Council: So that is what you speak about. It’s good to have questions about this. It’s good to bring this up so that there’s a dialog.

Anonymous: I’ve been managing everything on my own. He’s not this way with his parents and other friends.

Lately he’s saying that he may not live long. I also have intuitions, being an empath, that he may not be able to live beyond two or three years. Can The Council please guide me if my husband’s soul has planned an ending, and what I can do to improve the relationship so that I’m truly happy for whatever time we have together?

Council: Well we’d say here it’s not important what your husband is planning. It’s important what you imagine will happen. If you don’t want your husband around, yes, you could imagine him passing from this incarnation very soon, or maybe lasting a year. But when you have that feeling it’s going to happen, you will create it because of that feeling.

You can change that if you don’t want your husband to leave this lifetime. Imagine him getting better, feeling better, becoming more of a partner, and having more understanding between the two of you.

It’s important for you to know what you create in your life is the only thing that’s important, and it comes from your thoughts and your feelings.

So don’t waste energy thinking about what is he planning or what is he doing. How do you want your life to go forward? How do you want it to unfold? That’s how powerful you are. We hope you understand this.

And so we wish you all love, happiness, and excitement on your journey, and think of wonderful, wonderful things to experience. It could be the littlest thing, but focus on that, and be in a state of gratitude for everything that you have and everything you’ve passed through. And that vibration of gratitude, little by little, will begin to change your life.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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December 17, 2023 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Gratitude, Imagination, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | 1 Comment

Tell Me About The Guide I’ve Been Communicating With

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Liza.

Liza: I’ve been interacting with a non-physical being for over two years now. It’s been wonderful and still is, but we have limitations on how we communicate. I’d dearly like to know more about this being, and why this being has chosen to be in my life at this time.

Council: Because you’ve made an agreement with this spirit, and at this time you’ve pulled it in.

And so it takes time to learn how to work with your guide. And you should treat this guide as you would any friend. When you communicate, if you don’t understand, tell this guide to slow down and explain what they’re trying to communicate. Tell your guide if you don’t really understand what’s happening. Ask them how else you can reach them.

We’d say #1 is to meditate more because this opens your psychic ability. When you communicate, do you get blocks of information? Do you just get words? Do you hear things or feel things? And so you can ask your guides if you should put paper and pen in front of you, and hold it, and your guide will write the words? Should you sit in front of a computer? Should you just play soft music and sit quietly and your guide will talk to you? But on your end, the ability to relax and meditate opens up your centers so that you can have more communication, and the communication is there for you if you do this.

Play with your chakras. Learn to keep them strong and working. And know that when you talk to this entity, tell them you need more communication. Tell them you need to make the communication stronger. Does your guide talk to you through the alphabet? Does it talk to you using numbers? Ask this guide how it wants to communicate with you. Your guide will always try and find a way that it knows you’ll understand.

Some people with guides only see pictures. There are no words or information. Communication comes in pictures. If they give you a rose and it feels good, it’s a sign of love. If your guide shows you paper, sit in front of a computer or with a pen and paper and they’ll talk to you that way. And it takes time. But always question and tell your guide they need to make this clearer. That will come from the other side.

But be aware, do your work here. Always surround yourself with white light. Surround your chakras with the proper colors and symbols, and you will increase this communication. Some people work with their guides for years before they ever get some sort of system that works.

But it’s up to you to tell your guide if you don’t understand. Tell them you need it clearer. Give it to me another way. And maybe you’ll see your guide. Maybe you’ll see pictures. But be aware it’s up to you to do the chakra work, to do the meditation, and to ask questions.

Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with the positive thoughts. For what is going on in your reality, a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this, and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes with the right thinking.

You’ve created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You’ve agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to think happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and have them work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, help the ocean. You’re all here to make this reality better and better.

And so we wish you joy. And remember, coming into this life, you came in with the thought of having a joyous time and to find happiness everywhere. That is the purpose. Have a happy life. Enjoy it. Create fun. Create love. You can all do this.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Liza and the rest of us, and let us know what you think about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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August 22, 2023 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Love, Meditation, Questions & Answers | , , , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.

The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.

The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.

You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.

Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.

Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.

Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.

Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.

Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.

The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Unicorn and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. And you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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November 30, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

What’s My Life Purpose Now That My Husband Has Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grieving Widow, after she read our post, Why Did My Partner Crossover Sooner Than Expected?  She says I also have similar questions. My husband passed suddenly in a car accident and I’m unable to accept it. I’m constantly trying to connect with him and continue our relationship.

The Council asks Grieving Widow what she’d need to accept her husband’s death. You know he’s no longer in your physical reality, but he’s here in spirit. There are ways you can connect with him through meditation or asking for a connection in your dreams. You can ask for little signs he’s around that would give you the comfort he’s really gone nowhere. He’s still part of your life, being around you, seeing what you do. He left because it was his wish and his time to finish this lifetime. It was to give you a chance to explore more of who you are and what you want moving forward.

Grieving Widow says she doesn’t want to be here without her husband and asks The Council what is her purpose here without him? The Council says to find out who you are. What would make you happy? What ideas did you have while your husband was still here about things you wanted to do, but never had the chance? Now is the time to move forward and do these things.

Grieving Widow says we have three sons and my relationship with my oldest isn’t good. How can I help him with his life lessons and be the best mother to all my sons when I can’t even find joy in anything anymore?

The Council asks Grieving Widow if she’s saying she doesn’t find joy with her children? Do you focus at all on how to be with them, be part of their lives, and invite them into your life to give you some sort of comfort? Communication is needed here. There’s a coming together to bring you closer together.

What you need to remember is that your children will see how you’re carrying on now that your husband has passed on into spirit. How do you handle this? Do you show them that you’re aware your husband is now in the spirit world, and that you know at some point you’ll all go back into spirit, and that your husband is helping all of you from spirit? Do you talk to your children and uplift them in this moment?

The loss of a husband is traumatic, but your children have lost their father. Do you focus on that? This is a way for you to learn to be of service to others, and at this point it’s your children that need you. How will you be of service? The Council reiterates that much more communication is needed.

Grieving Widow says, I don’t believe I chose to be without my husband and I’m struggling to find a purpose to stay in this life. Do I have a purpose to remain here? The Council assures Grieving Widow that you did plan in spirit with your husband that he would pass. Your purpose, as we mentioned before, is to find out more about yourself and what you would like. What are your interests? Hold your children together. Bring your family closer. Be of service to others.

The Council understands in the human form this is a very difficult time for you. Give yourself more love by accepting you are sad at this moment, accepting this is a grieving time, accept all of that, but somewhere within that make time to help others through what they’re going through.

Grieving Widow says, I feel my sons will learn their life lessons better if I’m not here because I feel I hinder them. The Council reminds Grieving Widow that she is part of her children’s life lessons and they are very aware of how you speak and how you act. Remember that the way you do this, you are adding to their lessons and showing your children how to be and how not to be. They need you in their lives for many more reasons. Be aware of your behavior and your communication. This is part of what they agreed to learn and you have all agreed to this.

The Council understands Grieving Widow’s feeling that she’s hindering her children, but because you’ve all agreed to your husband’s passing, you don’t hinder them. And if you feel you hinder them now, how do you change that? If you can learn how to meditate and how to find things to be grateful for it will change your vibration and help you through this time.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Grieving Widow and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in a Comment box located towards the bottom of most of our post pages.

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March 7, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Gratitude, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

How Can I Help My Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.

The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.

If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.

StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.

Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.

A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.

You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.

Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.

The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.

StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?

The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.

If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.

You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.

Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.

By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.

On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.

The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.

Listen to the entire 11-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for StrugglingMom and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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February 21, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Guidance, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Why Did My Husband Cheat on Me with Another Woman?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Heartbroken, who says recently her marriage was falling apart because my husband was involved with another woman. I tried to understand why he got involved and what I might have done to cause the affair. The Council asks if Heartbroken has communicated with her husband about this and they say communication is the beginning of understanding. Rather than guessing why your husband had this affair or ignoring it, communicate with your husband and find out what went on for each of you.

Heartbroken asks The Council what her husband was trying to learn or experience from this affair. The Council says they don’t take the personal lessons of another person and explain them to someone else. The Council feels your husband’s lessons should come from him revealing this information to you. What The Council can tell Heartbroken is that both you and your husband chose this experience to learn commitment and what was more important in your current lifetime.

Heartbroken asks if her husband’s affair was pre-planned by the two of them in spirit. The Council says it was pre-planned something would happen to catapult both of you into this lesson of commitment, understanding, and communication to see how you learn from this. Heartbroken asks the purpose of this woman coming into their lives and The Council says commitment, understanding, compassion, and forgiveness.

Heartbroken asks The Council if she and her husband share any past lives with this woman that might have caused her to come between them. The Council says there’s no past life that’s caused this woman to come between her husband and herself. Her agreement was that when it was time for something to happen in the marriage, this spirit would volunteer to play that part. The Council adds that some other spirits also volunteered in case you were the one who cheated instead of your husband.

Heartbroken says her husband wants to save their marriage and not be with this other woman. And Heartbroken says she’s willing to forgive her husband even though it’s difficult. She asks The Council if there’s any possibility of this woman or any other woman coming back into her husband’s life.

The Council says if Heartbroken keeps focusing her attention on her husband being involved with one or more women and she stays in mistrust and doesn’t forgive him, she will create this situation in her life. Her husband can also bring in other women if the two of you talk about your difficulties, but you don’t hear what he’s saying and you don’t try to change your behavior so you become more attractive to each other.

Focus on forgiveness, love, and understanding. Think about the future and how you you’d like your life to play out moving forward. If you stay focused in your hurt and are unable to forgive your husband, you will attract more unpleasantness into you life. Or you can agree the affair was hurtful and neither of you wants to go through it again. How can the two of you make peace and look forward. What do you both desire? What little things can you do on a day to day basis to make each other happy?

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Heartbroken and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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November 22, 2019 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Law of Attraction, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , | 2 Comments

Am I Working Through a Past Life Connection with My Boss?

This post answers questions for The Council from an Anonymous reader who has a tumultuous relationship with their boss an wants to know if they have a past life connection with this person and they’re trying to work through it?

The Council sees a past life in England where you were both friends, running a general store, and having mistrust for one another. What you’re trying to accomplish in your current lifetime is to work together, but with a different kind of understanding.

Can you speak honestly with your boss the way you weren’t able to in the lifetime in England. If you’re uncomfortable how you’re being treated in your current life or there’s misunderstandings, it’s for your growth to speak up about these things. Your boss, if he wishes to grow spiritually, has to get to a place where he listens and tries to understand your point of view. There’s lots of communication the two of you wish to work out in your current relationship.

Anonymous asks why their boss insists on giving them work while they’re on vacation. The Council asks if you’re able to speak to your boss about this. And The Council asks if Anonymous respects themself enough to put up boundaries to let their boss know that when you’re on vacation, you won’t be available to do this work? Can you trust in what you deserve and make these boundaries? As long as you’re unable to give voice to these difficulties, they will continue.

Anonymous says they’ve tried to use a pendulum to get answers, but sometimes it doesn’t seem accurate and they want to know if this is a valid way to get insight? The Council says you’re able to get the pendulum to give the answer you want by using your mind and your energy.

The Council says when you want answers, the best way is to sit quietly and think of the problem, then let the problem go. When you can sit quietly and relax into the silence, the answers to your problem will come to you.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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July 21, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Decision Making, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Relationships | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Did My Twin Flame Pass On?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, StarSeedIndigo , in response to our previous post, Twin Flames, Twin Souls, and Soulmates – What’s the Difference. She begins by discussing aspects of her friendship with her twin flame.

The Council says the similar aspect of StarSeedIndigo and her twin flame are caused by both of them originating from the same higher self. You create this situation because what you want to experience in your current lifetime, you may not do it if you believe you’re alone. When you feel there’s someone with you that has much knowledge, it helps you grow and makes it easier for you to absorb information.

StarSeedIndigo says she typically receives her answers and guidance in her dreams. Six weeks ago she dreamt that she was going to her twin flame’s funeral. The Council interprets this to mean her twin flame is preparing her for his exit.

StarSeedIndigo says she knew in the dream that her twin flame passed on (physically died) in a motorcycle accident. Seventeen days after her dream, her twin flame actually did pass on exactly like in her dream. She says since then I’ve been unable to find peace and feel my soul is in shock. I feel alone and the presence of my twin is starting to fade. He’s been communicating with her in subtle ways, but she’d like to be able to communicate with him clearly.

The Council says the fear of loosing communication with the part of your higher self who was your twin flame is a fear you’re facing. The communication between these two parts of yourself will always be there.

StarSeedIndigo asks why the soul of her twin flame decided to leave at this time and what’s the most important lesson for her from his passing?

The Council says there was an agreement in spirit that when you get to a certain part of your life where you were ready to explore the rest of your life on your own, then the twin part of you would leave. This happened because you’re ready to go forward on your own. You’re ready to explore more of the spiritual world.

There’s a confidence you wanted to feel when you were ready to go forward, and you created your twin flame to help give you this confidence. He helped you have confidence to go beyond what most people believe. When your twin flame was with you it was easier to have this confidence. Now you want to know you can move forward communicating with the higher part of you, and learn and experience more. That is why you had this experience with your twin flame.

StarSeedIndigo asks if it’s okay for her twin flame’s soul evolution if she wants to continue communicating with him?

The connection to the part of you that played your twin soul will always be available to you. Even if you create other parts of yourself that go into other realities, that twin part of you will always exist, just as every part of every lifetime you’ve experienced still exists. They are there for you to research, connect to, and ask for greater understanding of these realities. The experiences of these realities (lifetimes) is never taken away.

StarSeedIndigo asks The Council for guidance for herself on her life path?

The Council advises StarSeedIndigo to go further in her studies and her understanding of the spiritual realm. There’s also a part of her that wanted to have a lot of travel in her life. When she feels it’s time to vacation or move somewhere she feels called to, they suggest she follow this feeling. This is what she wanted to create as she was setting up this life in spirit before she were born.

How much do you want to continue acquiring knowledge and to experience things that are very different from what are considered normal? Talk about what you learn with different people and go to places where more of this is available to you. And it would be good for you to learn different modalities of healing because you have access to this energy. That is what you planned up to this point in your life.

Listen to our entire 11-minute session with The Council to hear all their interesting guidance for StarSeedIndigo and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

May 6, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Healing, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Looking for a Meaningful Relationship

This post is about questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who says she’d really like a long-term, profoundly deep relationship. She also asks about a former male best friend who currently refuses to communicate with her, and she wants to know if they’re working through any past life experiences.

Sarah says she’s been trying to deny her desire for a relationship because she feels the best way to develop a healthy love is to go into a situation with someone without the expectation of falling in love.

The Council suggests that Sarah first think of the love she’s felt from other people and appreciate that. Then they suggest she write in great detail about the relationship she desires. The more detailed she can be will make it more likely she’ll attract this relationship to her. Focus on being ready for a relationship and that it’s okay to want it. Think about what she’s willing to bring to this relationship and what is her partner bringing? The Council says if Sarah is denying the relationship she desires, she’ll have difficulty manifesting it.

Sarah wonders if her desire to be an independent person is going against her desire to have a partner.  The Council feels Sarah has achieved independence and they don’t see her loosing herself in a relationship.

Sarah also asks about a male best friend who’s been in her life on and off for a long time. He’s been in love with her and multiple times she’s tried to be with him, but ended up running away. He currently refuses to have anything to do with her and this makes her very sad. This sadness and the longing seems out of proportion for the relationship they’ve had, even though she says she hasn’t been in love with him. Sarah’s curious if there’s something in their past lives that they’re working through.

The Council says we are all here to show love and compassion, and you learn about compassion by allowing yourself to feel what another person is feeling. Can Sarah understand how this man can feel abandoned, not good enough, taken advantage of, and foolish? Think about how this might feel for him. As Sarah understands these feelings, she can try to build a friendship with this man by speaking about her new understanding. The Council doesn’t feel it’s necessary to go into any past lives they’ve shared together.

Sarah asks if she should release this man permanently so he can have a life without the pain of her being in it (but not as his partner). The Council says when Sarah can speak with kindness about her new understanding of this man and how that makes her feel, she can try to speak with him about it. The heavy energy of not feeling wanted can lift and she can start a new kind of relationship with him. She doesn’t have to release this person from her life. They can be in each other’s lives, but differently than before.

Sarah asks what The Council sees for this relationship in the future. And The Council says that’s up to the two of them and what they wish to create. She should do the inner work of imagining how he feels when he realizes she doesn’t love him the way he loves her. As she understands this and continues to send love to herself and to him, things can begin to change.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Sarah and the rest of us regarding relationships, and let us know what you’re feeling.

November 16, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Imagination, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

How to Communicate with Autistic People

In this post a reader named EG asks The Council for advice on how to communicate with people who have Autism, after reading one of our previous posts on Autism.

The Council says to show these people love, compassion, and joy. Speak to them through your mind. In the beginning, if they allow you to touch them, it’s very helpful to reach out and touch their arm or their shoulder while communicating with them. When they’re feeling safe with you they’ll let you touch them.

When speaking with Autistic people it’s helpful for you to form pictures in your mind of what you are trying to communicate.

Meditation will raise your vibration and give you the support you’re looking for when communicating with Autistic people.

Autistic people are very wise and quick to pick up on your feelings. Surround yourself with the happiest, most loving vibration you can while you’re around people who have Autism.

EG closes by saying they guess they aren’t evolved enough to communicate with Autistic people, but they’d still like to try. And The Council laughs and replies that EG is more evolved than they believe.

Listen to our entire 3-minute conversation with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for EG and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel.

November 12, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Having More Loving Thoughts About Her Husband

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Vacha, who’s asked questions about her relationship with her husband before. She and her young son have moved back to be with her husband (and her son’s father) after a separation due to Vacha feeling abused in their relationship. She says everything is going well so far, but she isn’t feeling happy deep inside and suggests she may be finding it difficult to forget her husband’s past behavior.

The Council asks Vacha if her purpose for moving back with her husband was to be open to trying her marriage again? They say if she focuses on what happened in the past, she’ll never move forward. They ask what Vacha can do to make their relationship better? What would she like to see her husband doing, and talk to him about these things.

Vacha says she’s going to begin meditating on what to do and she asks for guidance to have more loving thoughts and be in a more positive state of mind. The Council says to have more loving thoughts, think about what brought her and her husband together in the beginning of the relationship. When she looks at her husband now, look at him with the understanding that he’s also a spirit in a physical body going through his own lessons. Is he trying to make the relationship work?

The Council says the purpose of this challenge in their relationship is for her to bring love into the situation, change it with her thoughts, and turn the situation around. See her situation the way she desires it to be. Stop focusing on being unhappy. Find the happiness from the memories she has and try to bring this happiness into her life every day.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Vacha and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

October 25, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

What are Our Lessons in This Lifetime?

This post is inspired by a reader named, Arvinda, who asks about the lessons she and her husband intend to learn in this lifetime.

The Council says we all have the lesson to show love to everyone, including ourselves. Sometimes there’s an idea of what you want to experience in this lifetime, and the rest of the time you’re learning how you create your life with your thoughts and your feelings. What are your thoughts attracting into this life? What experience are you bringing to yourself and how are you handling this?

The Council says your lesson learning in this lifetime is coming from another lifetime where you and your husband met in your early teens and your husband was mute (he couldn’t speak). There were many who were unkind to your husband in this previous lifetime and you tried to help him.

In your current lifetime one of your lessons is communication. You both planned to learn to communicate your feelings honestly with each other and to communicate your thoughts about what you go through daily. You are both here to learn how to listen to each other.

The Council asks if the two of you communicate well with each other? Do you stop to understand when your partner speaks? Do you try to understand the feelings behind the words? The Council says this may seem like something very simple, but they say it’s not simple. It’s a major leap in your soul’s growth when you can communicate and understand.

The Council says you then planned to take this lesson and expand it to listening to your children. Are you there for them? Have you helped them learn to communicate their truth and feelings? Do you show understanding? They say this is a major lesson.

And The Council says you wanted to expand this lesson further. How are you with the rest of your family? your neighbors? with people you work with? Do you listen to them? Do you try to understand what they are saying? Do you show patience and concern with these people? And most of all, do you show love with your words and your actions?

In this lifetime you and your husband wished to open your home to others and have them feel welcome. Do you do that with your family? with your neighbors? It was a great wish to have people come and feel safe.

You say you’ve done much, but haven’t received back what you’ve given out. The Council says when you do for others, you do from your heart, not with the thought of getting something back for what you’ve done. When you feel annoyed, that’s your higher self saying that you’re not going along with what you planned.

The Council says listen to your children and your neighbors and be there for them. Show love and show everyone it’s good to communicate. That’s how we connect in our physical reality.

The Council says it’s particularly important to get your husband to communicate because that’s what he’s carried over from the other lifetime where he wasn’t able to speak. You will coax each other to communicate.

Listen to the audio recording of our entire 11-minute session with The Council to hear their guidance for Arvinda and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel.

September 17, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 5 Comments