Will I Be In A New Relationship Before My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Full Dreamland.
Dreamland: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. I appreciate all your guidance to me and others over several posts. I am in the middle of a separation from my husband. I have been told by a psychic that he will be in another relationship soon. I have also been told I will be in a relationship once I master being happy alone and learn my lessons around independence. I want to know if I will get married, or be in a new relationship, or if my husband will.
Council: Oh, is there a race here? Who’s going to do it first? Very interesting.
There’s more interest in finding out, not if you will get married again, and who will do it first, because no psychic can tell you. From moment to moment, your path can change. And a very good psychic may look and say, “Yes, I see you married. How wonderful.” And then the choices you make the next day can move the energy in another direction. So no one knows for sure what will happen.
We would say, if you want to see yourself married again, maybe you can be kinder to people. You can learn from what you went through in one relationship and make sure you don’t do it in another. It always comes from you looking at yourself – what you can do and how you can be on the path that you want to take. So that is the lesson. Look at yourself and don’t worry about what your husband is doing. It’s really none of your concern. His lessons will come to him when he is ready.
But if you would like to be married again without the thought of who’s going to do it first – thinking like that will definitely hold anything good coming forward because you are not looking at it correctly. As we said before, this is not a race. This is about your relationship. What have you learned from being in it? How have you changed? Are you working on yourself? Or are you wondering what he or his family is going to do?
Dreamland: I want to know what are my husband’s lessons with respect to my child and me.
Council: Well we won’t tattle, so we won’t tell you his lessons. But his lessons to you and to your child were to, when it was set up in your mind, your spirit, to come together in a loving fashion, to go through certain experiences, and find a kind, loving way to handle it. That’s what your lessons are. Everyone’s lesson is, when you come here, handle everything with the one answer, which is love, kindness, and compassion. So that’s why you are here. Have you learned it in your marriage? You would think that at one point it was there. Why did it change? What happened?
And this is not for you to look at him or his family and say, “They did this, they did that. He did this. He let them do that.” It was for a while this was going on. What is your part in it? How are you handling it? Are you honest, and sitting down and talking and saying, “You know this is going on. It’s uncomfortable. It hurts. And let’s see what we can do about it because we’re going down the wrong path.” It is that simple. The answer is always, “What am I doing? Am I kind? Am I understanding? Am I loving?” Though we hope, at this time, that you are doing that.
Dreamland: Will he ever realize the mistakes he made in our relationship and feel sorry for what he has done to us? Or will it be very easy for him to forget us and move on, and live his new life happily and without any regrets?
Council: You are not letting go of the thought of him realizing what he did was wrong, he’ll have regrets, he’ll miss you. Again, you are wasting time trying to figure that out. What you figure out is, how am I now as a person? Why do I have to know what his lesson is? That is none of your concern. We would never tell you another person’s lessons. Of course, he might be sorry, and then again, he may not.
But you’re taking your thoughts, your choices, and you’re putting them in the wrong direction. Work on yourself. Let go of what happened. Let go of getting even. Let go of wishing him not wellness, not a good situation, not being jealous if he gets married, and if he gets married first. Can you see that?
Dreamland: I find it disturbing that he and his family can keep on ruining innocent girls and his own child’s life, and not face any consequences. I’m trying to find peace in this situation. Thank you for helping.
Council: It’s not up to you to prepare to find out that he is having a hard time, or that he is having terrible consequences for disrupting other people. Again, we see you are concerned about will his family learn that? We would like to say, have you learned that? Have you learned that all of this has to do with you? It is your responsibility to change how you act if you find you are jealous, if you’re angry, if you’re wishing him and his family wrong. You are on the wrong path. And so when that begins to change, when you realize that, then you will find happiness.
And who knows, maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, you can dream of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, and what you need to know is within you, and when you need that information, you will remember.
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What Can I Do About My Dysfunctional Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name Anon Reader.
Anon: Hi, Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. I was wondering if you had any insight into my lifelong tumultuous relationship with my mother? My sibling and I have always felt that she is controlling, self-centered, cruel, and emotionally violent. I can appreciate from a distance that we all do what we feel we have to do or say, and function according to our programming, but I also can’t continue with this dysfunctional relationship in its current form, and fear I should seriously prepare to walk away if that’s best.
Council: Well #1, we would say there is no programming going on. What’s going on is choices and free will, and that’s what you’re here to learn about. Free will that no matter what kind of relationship you have, how does it make you feel? Can you improve it in any way? What choices do you have?
And so, we see the three of you in several lives together as children, and not getting along, and fist-fighting, and tumbling around on the floor, and beating each other up as children, and trying to get each other into trouble.
And so, it has come forward in this lifetime as one of you as the parent, and then the other two as children. But it was your wish to see how you could create a life where one of you is the adult, how they would handle it, how you would respond to them instead of just three children fighting. It was to learn how to not be in competition, how not be in, “Who’s the boss, and who’s going to get their way?”
And it’s just a lesson from past lives that you have brought forward. You want to see how it can be done with one of you as an adult. And then, if for some reason you choose to walk away and not work it out, you may, the three of you, choose to come back as two adults and a child, or three adults. It is just the lesson that is wanted. It was how to get along, and how to get through difficult times, and jealousy, and attention, and abandonment issues all coming together, how you would handle it.
And so, as you think of this, now see how, with this knowledge, you handle this lesson
Anon: I’d appreciate any advice, and thanks so much for all of your work.
Council: It’s quite fun if you could sit down and picture the three of you as children, and what it might have been like in several lifetimes, fighting, and who was controlling, and who was the boss, and who was going to get their way. Imagine what they might look like. Imagine a certain age that you were all at. What does that look like?
And you can bring some funny thoughts into this lesson. And as the feeling about this lesson changes, in your reality, what you live through will change. So to start the change, to understand it, and perhaps change how you all get along now, which is what is wanted, you will do it by just daydreaming about what the heck it could have been like when you were children.
And who knows? Maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, you can dream of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, what you need to know, is within you. And when you need that information, you will remember.
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Finding Clarity in Unplanned Pregnancies
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named L.
L: Hello again, Bob & Cynthia. You were kind enough to ask for clarity for me a couple of years ago when I became pregnant unexpectedly. It was a tough time, and I lost the baby at the end of the first trimester. I could not go through with a termination, and offered to the spirit [of the fetus] that I would leave it to them to stay with me, or go. Our world was a little rocky, and the babe left.
I now find myself unexpectedly pregnant again at 42 years old. Again, my husband is not happy. I am shocked, but less so than before. Our relationship was already in conflict, and this is pushing the limits of mutual disrespect and fighting. I don’t feel as rejected as my last pregnancy with him, but I definitely don’t feel embraced.
I would love some clarity from The Council regarding this pregnancy and the way forward. Part of me hoped that we could make this pregnancy work, and bring us closer together, and [create] more harmony, but it has not. At 10 weeks pregnant, we can barely be civil to each other.
Council: We find that many people in your reality have the thought that bringing a new soul into this existence will solve one or many of these problems. Part of why this happens is to show you that nothing will change until you look at yourself, and what you are part of in this relationship, and why there is so much turmoil.
And so we ask you, what work have you done to look at this relationship? We’re sure that [with] what you’ve created in your reality, you are not all of a sudden aware that, “Oh, we’re having problems in this marriage, and whoops, we’re pregnant.” We feel that there have been things that needed to be looked at and talked about, which would change the relationship. And so, when there is another child, you are in a much better place.
And so we would say, it is your responsibility as a parent to try, always to try, to give your children a loving atmosphere. Love is #1. To give them education. To give them good character. And so, in your relationship, as it is, do you see this as possible?
And so then, when you decide if it’s possible or not, and things are always possible, but both parties must work on this. If it is possible, then you begin to behave, handle, and solve things differently. If it is not possible, then it is your place to decide: Do I bring this child into this atmosphere? Or wanting the child, [do I] change the atmosphere, leave the relationship, or get spiritual or mental help? Whatever you feel is needed that will take you through the steps in a healthy relationship.
And so we ask you, before you make a decision on what to do, really spend a lot of time on whether you want this child. If you don’t want this child, if you want this relationship to work, you really, really work on it, and not just be angry with each other.
L: I’m not in a position to be a single mother of three; however, I’m so sad at what our relationship has become for myself and our children.
Council: And so we ask here, you’re saying a mother of three. So you already have two children in this relationship. It just didn’t automatically happen. You have both created this so you can work on it and learn from it, learn about yourselves, and learn how to care for other people – your children.
One of the lessons in this is, there are already children involved. Now you wanted to learn [about] your responsibility, and how much you want to give them. And how much you want them to experience and learn in this relationship, so that when they go forward, and they are older, they would make choices, and they would have memories of what has gone on now.
So because it has been going on for such a long time, two children are already in this relationship that is unsettled, and now there may be a third. Again we ask you – you brought this in – the lesson was to learn about yourself and how to care for, not only the children, but each other. It is a lesson from other lifetimes, and it’s about caring.
And so we ask you to take your time, and to go into this, and truly do the work.
L: I’m looking for the light, as I feel at times so lost being pregnant at my age, and in an unhappy marriage with two young children.
Council: So again, because the lesson here was how you treat others, imagine how your children are feeling in this unhealthy situation. Do you want to change it for them? Or do you simply want to walk away and still change it for them, and then make it better for them on your own? Those are your choices. Or you continue as it is until you realize what must be done.
L: Any guidance would be appreciated. I wish for a happy, peaceful life with my family, and good health. Thank you, L.
Council: And so we would say at this point, sit down with yourself, with your thoughts, and say, “What is necessary to change this? What can I do on my end to make this better?” And concentrate on yourself. If you begin to work on yourself, your husband must do the same. He will see the choices you are making. He will see how you are responding. And so it would be the little domino effect. And then you will work on yourself, your husband will work on himself, and the children will see how different the relationship can be. You can change any situation you are in. And how to always use love as the answer, and treat each other with kindness.
And who knows? Maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course, we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, what you need to know is within you, and when you need that information, you will remember.
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Why Did My Ex-Partner Come Into My Life And Ruin It?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Zumzulis.
Zumzulis: I was writing before about a pregnancy with a person who smoked weed. I terminated the relationship, and we split. What happened after that was that he came running back after two months, and promised that he really wants a family, and we can create one.
Council: And was there something there that made you believe there was a change and it would be different? Look at what was said. Why did you go into this again?
Zumzulis: So I got pregnant again with him, and this time I regretted so much that I got back with him. He mentally abused me during the whole pregnancy and asked me to abort the child, or he would ruin my life.
Council: And so that is the second time you were in this relationship, and the behavior was abusive. And so, we would hope that at this point you would see it.
Zumzulis: I couldn’t believe that he trapped me again. It was even too late to terminate the pregnancy, and I felt mentally exhausted from the previous termination because I wanted a child so much, and we had planned it. So long story short, I have my child, and I ran from him when my baby was only 1½ months old after being treated like crap in my own home.
Council: And so, after these continuous getting back together, you have still experienced the same behavior, but now you have your child.
Zumzulis: I’m not going to get back with him this time for sure.
Council: Well we would hope so, because this will happen continuously until you get that lesson. And why would you put yourself through that over and over again? Even if this person were to come on their knees and beg you that they have changed, why would you take the chance and abuse yourself in this manner? So we would want you to be aware of this.
Zumzulis: I learned he is a narcissist. Now my baby is almost four months old, and I feel quite helpless because I am raising him almost on my own. The narcissist dad manipulates and abuses me by not looking out for the baby so I don’t have time for myself.
Council: And so, again, you are being abused. You don’t have time for yourself. At this point in your life, because of the choices you have made, the priority should not be who abuses you and what you have gone through, but how you are moving forward on a path for a different life for yourself and for your child. That is where the focus should be, not on blaming. It doesn’t matter. Where do you want your life to go now?
Zumzulis: I have sisters and a great mother, but my sisters are tired from their own kids, and my mother lives with my narcissistic dad on the other side of the country.
Council: So there’s a narcissistic dad also. So there are these interesting titles that you give to people. And yet we would say, look at yourself. This whole problem that you have is not about who is what, or how they treat you; it is about you. You are here to learn about you, what you will accept for this life, when you will get to the point where you know you are a spirit and you deserve better, and you can change it. All of this is about you, to learn about you. Take the focus off of everybody else and put it on yourself. You are capable. You can do this. You need to focus on where you want to go in the future.
Zumzulis: So when I came back to my parents, my father started abusing my mother, and I couldn’t stay any longer. So basically I have no help. Could you please give me any guidance on why this person came into my life, and ruined it, and still keeps trying to destroy my life, even if the cost is to abuse his own child?
Council: Because you set it up this way. Because you have decided this is the lesson you wanted to learn about yourself. And so, this lesson of being abused, and blaming others, and not having any help, keeps saying to you, “What do I do about it. What do I do about it?” And that’s where the focus should be.
So there is no blame on anybody else. It is a lesson that you called in, that you have created, that you wished to change. And when you get to that point, you will find where the right people will come into your life, and not think this man will track you down again, your father is abusing your mother, you know, maybe the neighbors will abuse each other. The point is to get away from that energy and know that, “I am strong, I have a child. It is my duty, my responsibility to take care of this child.” And you start to think like that. You will find the way.
Zumzulis: Another question I have is about my dreams. When I got pregnant, I had a very, very light, loving dream about my first boyfriend. After the dream, when waking up, I felt that I was free, and I will no longer have to suffer from this toxic relationship. But what does The Council say about that? What did it mean? Did the soul [of the child] that I got pregnant with save me. And what did it have to do with my first boyfriend?
Council: It has nothing to do with your first boyfriend. It is a wonderful memory. It is a dream that makes you feel good. But again, the purpose is not to go backwards, not to look for someone to take you away from this abusiveness. But look at this dream. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a relationship like that with someone? And you can find it. You can create it when you learn about yourself.
Zumzulis: I texted him and he is engaged already. I couldn’t stop thinking about him for the past couple of months. I started to feel like we broke up just yesterday, even though it’s been 10 years. Why do I feel this way if he’s engaged?
Council: Because you want that loving feeling. You think, “Oh, if their engagement broke up, maybe I can be with him. It will be wonderful.” Of course you could create that, but that is not the purpose. The purpose is, once again, what can you do?
You remember how it was. It was wonderful. You would like someone like that in the future, but how are you getting there. Do not go back into the past and think you can go into this relationship. What would you do if he married? Go into an affair? Would that be the right thing to do with that person’s wife? Would that be the kind of relationship you want? You would want someone for yourself that is good to you, that is good with you and with your child. And so going back only reminds you that there are good relationships and feelings you would like to have again. And so we would say, with this, move forward.
Zumzulis: Another dream I had was about my baby’s birthday. I dreamt he would be born on the 9th of November, and he was. Does it mean it was pre-planned?
Council: It could have been. It could be a sign that you decided that it would happen this way so that you’d know things are pre-planned. You can pre-plan, and you can take what you’re living now and plan the future the way you want it. And so take that sign as, you do have the power. You do have the availability to see signs that are sent to you to bring you where you want to be.
And so, we wish you love, and peace, and happiness on your journey, and just enjoy. Find things to enjoy and the rest will take care of itself.
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Creating A Life With My Partner Without Parent Or Friend Interference
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Peace.
Peace: Hello, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thank you for all your work and guidance.
I have a question about the people around me, their mindset, and how it’s affecting me. We have been having marital issues for a long time, and some of it is due to my partner’s parents. My partner has anger issues, as well. After we moved to a new city, his friends have been a source of frustration for me, as their mindset is very different from mine. This impacts my health negatively. Is it possible to create a life with my partner without the constant interference of his parents and friends?
Council: We would say, yes, of course it’s possible to create this, and you know the inner work that has to be done to create this. But we would ask you, why do you feel the parents interfere? And then when you finally move, you find that the friends are also interfering. So that is showing there that the question that needs to be answered, the question that needs to be worked on is, where is the communication problem? Have you spoken to your partner about this problem? How it makes you feel? How it affects you? And you are pulling that into you in a physical way because you are not having the conversation to really look at what’s going on.
And so you have a fear. And if you do not talk about it, and come to the reason why you have this fear, there will be others that will come in and cause this, what you think is a problem. People that perhaps you work with. It will escalate. And what it is you are supposed to be wanting to do, what you thought would be nice to do, was to sit down and together have these conversations to be understood about how you feel. But then also to hear what your partner says, and why there is this interference. Or why it is believed there is no interference, and it is just something that is annoying you.
It’s the conversation. It’s the communication of feeling. And when that begins to happen, and there is a true understanding of what the other person is feeling, what it is like for the other person, perhaps you feel this is an interference because your partner needs to talk, and confide to parents and friends because the feeling is not being able to have the conversations with you.
And so it is that sit down, and start very slowly about what goes on and why. And as you bring this to the surface, past traumas from this life and other lifetimes will come up. And you see that this not being heard, not being understood, is coming from a time where you were neglected, and anything you did say was not paid attention to. So knowing this, you look for it as you work with your partner on why this is going on now, and it will heal.
Peace: My husband is unable to grow out of this interference and is not able to distinguish between this relationship’s best interests. Or is it all happening so that my kid and I move on and completely create a new life without him?
Council: We would like to say here that running off with your child will not cure what you are trying to heal. You will create it in another relationship. There will always be some sort of interference until you quietly sit down and work, and keep working on conversation, how you feel, what it is that you need, and paying attention to what your partner is trying to say. It’s the understanding of communication that is wanted here.
Peace: Thanks.
Council: And so we wish you love, and peace, and happiness on your journey. And just enjoy. Find things to enjoy, and the rest will take care of itself.
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Will My Husband And His Family Learn Their Lessons For Their Bad Behavior?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Soul Peace from a post we published called, How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?
Soul Peace: Thank you, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have a quick follow-up question. Can you please help me get the answer when you get a chance?
I want to know if my husband and his family, including his parents and sister, will learn their lessons, or will be punished for their selfish, manipulative, bad behavior with me and his ex-wife?
Council: And so we would ask you, what are your thoughts on this? We feel that you wish that they would be punished. And in your lifetime, everything is created by you. So we would say, “If you believe and want them punished, that’s what you will create. That’s what you would see.”
In their realities, they feel they are justified by acting whatever way they are acting. And so there’s no justification and no agreeing with you wanting them to be punished because they behaved in a negative way. That would not be part of their reality.
And so if you wish to move forward, if you wish to create a happy life for yourself, it would be good to try and see them in a different light, and not wish negative circumstances to happen to them. And so, this is a lesson for you to move on in grace, in higher vibrational energy, or to stay stuck and wanting others to be punished for what you feel you were treated not well.
And so here the lesson is: change the perspective. Work on that. That they will grow, they will change happily, that they will do it in good grace and easily. And that’s how you would move on and bring in a different set of people into your life.
And so, we would say to meditate on this, work on your heart chakra, and let that part of your life go.
Soul Peace: My husband’s family has a huge role to play in both the divorces. In my case they have impacted my mental health and the life of my child for their selfish motives.
Council: And so acknowledge you feel they have impacted your mental health and your child. Once again, you have allowed this. And you have allowed this because you want to learn how to live differently, to project how you act differently, how you can have thoughts that are more positive for yourself and not focusing on them. Are you creating a better life for your child?
So forget what you have seen, and what you think they have created, and take hold of your life. This is your lesson, and create what you want for you and your child.
Soul Peace: I want to know if they will learn their lessons. Thanks, Soul Peace
Council: They will learn their lessons. They will learn what they need to learn, not that they will learn how bad that they feel they were to you. There are many lessons going on here for many of the people involved. And eventually, if it is allowed, if they are willing to grow, everyone (and we will say here, everyone) will learn their lessons and move on beautifully.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here, on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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Creating Your Ideal Partner
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Starfish. We previously answered Starfish’s related questions in our post, Will I Meet My Ex Again, Or Meet Someone New To Share My Life With.
Starfish: Hi. I want to continue my question on this topic. After I posted this, I met a man who was my first boyfriend. I was in a relationship with him for one year, and then we broke up.
Council: Now when you think of this relationship, was it fun? Was it something you enjoyed? And we ask you to remember that part of it.
Starfish: My ex-boyfriend, who I loved dearly, but I was bored with the connection. So I keep blaming myself, even though he loves me so much.
Council: And why do you blame yourself? It was boring? And what did you do to make it exciting? What is it that you brought to this relationship? What is it that you wanted to talk about, and that you wanted to share? Always look at what you bring to the relationship. That is a #1 step in any relationship.
Starfish: My intention was still to have a partner who I can get married to. I met two other men after him. I feel like in my mind the man, K, was my husband, but so far the connection is unable to start. He’s busy with things in his life, and we are unable to meet or get to know each other.
Council: So there you are being shown that what you have is what you’ve created right now. The person not wanting to have more contact with you shows you were this person is right now. That does not mean that you cannot change this. You can. You have to start with meditations, with seeing it, with visualizing it, appreciating it, and working with the vibration. But from what you tell us right now, the man is not in a place to want to have more of a relationship with you.
Starfish: I only got to see him three times in the last four months. This made me question my intuition, and that maybe I was wrong because he doesn’t communicate or answer my texts much.
Council: Well your intuition is correct, that you are noticing he’s not returning texts, or calls, or wanting more to do with you. That is correct.
Starfish: Which makes me feel like he doesn’t want this connection.
Council: At the present that is true, but once again we say you can do the work, and you change it. And a lot of people will say, “You know, it’s hard work. I don’t want to do that.” Okay, that’s fine. Then move on and create the person of your dreams.
Starfish: But when we’re together, it feels good. I did not have the same feeling with the others. The other guy, N, he’s everything I wished for in a partner – the nice way he treated me, his communication – except our connection is more like friends.
Council: And can you appreciate how wonderful it is to have this kind of person in your life? You can stay friends and have a wonderful relationship.
Starfish: I’m confused about who to keep focusing on moving forward to create a reality with. I know I want to be with the K guy, but the circumstances are so against it, which makes me question if I’m heading the wrong way.
Council: If you are questioning, you are not sure you will be able to make this [relationship] happen. So #1, you would have to stop the questioning and start the knowing that this is what it is right now, but this is the way it’s going to be, and start working on the way you want it. And that’s how you change it.
Starfish: Or I’m just making toxic decisions for myself. The other connections were much easier, but my feelings are not in it.
Council: Alright, so follow your feelings. Create another person, and another one after that, and another one after that. Create as many as you can, and how wonderful it is that you can keep creating them. But keep creating and adding to each relationship what’s missing, and what you would like in it. And then you will create the perfect person for you.
Starfish: I don’t want to keep creating new people in my life because I’m very tired of this temporary experience.
Council: Well, you must first become aware of what it is you want, and what it is that’s lacking in all these other relationships, and create this one person that would have what it is you need that you don’t get in these relationships. So when you know what you don’t want, you will know what you want. Take a look at the relationships you’ve had. What is missing? And now add to the person who would be the ideal for you. And if you say you’re tired of creating, then you will just be stuck right now until you take the bull by the horns and say, “Okay, this is my life. I will create what I want.”
Starfish: I just want to choose one person and stick to that. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
Council: And maybe it is your way of having fun, by creating all these people. There are many people who can’t even create one person, and you have been able to create several. So you can have fun with that. And you can say to yourself, “Well let’s see what I create next, and maybe this one will have everything that I want.” But be excited and be happy about it. When you are looking at it like you are tired of creating, you will never bring in the relationship that you want.
And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create, create.
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Dealing With Wife’s Infidelity, Career Search, And Money Problems
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Roy.
Roy: Hello, Bob and Cynthia. Thank you for your wonderful platform. My questions center around three areas of my life where I’ve struggled the most. In my marriage I struggle with letting go of past wounds, as my partner had an affair several years ago, yet recently I’m obsessing over it and feeling very guarded.
Council: So you are suffering from the situation that happened to you. What have you done to let it go? Can you let it go?
If you are with this person and you constantly have the thoughts that: 1) there is no trust there, 2) you can’t make this work, and 3) it is uncomfortable, it’s very hard to turn it around.
But if you say, “Well, you know we both came here, we’re spirits, we wanted to be together. So the first thing as spirits, we have to find the love.” Show each other love, and do things that will bring happiness back into the relationship.
It is not so much thinking, “I’ve got to let it go,” because there’s hurt in those thoughts. But when you think, “We’ve planned this. We came together. We love each other. We want this to work,” that’s what changes what happens. And so, you have to want to bring joy, and trust, and love back into the relationship.
And, of course, communication is the first form of getting this (as we would say) out on the table, and discussing what can be done to bring the love that is there, and it is still there. How do you bring it forward?
Roy: I also struggle with finding a career path that I would find fulfilling.
Council: So what kind of desire do you have? What kind of joy do you have when you think of working? Even if you have an image of becoming a millionaire, how did you do it? What do you see yourself doing? It’s always important to play with you’re imagination and pay attention to what it feels like.
When you come into this reality, you always bring with you many, many gifts from other lifetimes. Well what is it? What brings you joy? Do you like to read? Do you like to draw? Do you like to be around people? Do you like to help people who have problems, or who are sick? Look and see what is of interest to you. Do you want to be around animals? Do you want to be outside? Do you want a job where you travel?
No one can give you that answer. You can’t sit back and say, “Tell me what I can do.” There are many, many things you can do, but now play with it. Do the work, and you will be surprised how fast this changes if you are intent on doing the work. You can do it. You can find it. It is already within you. Reach out for it. Be open to it being anything at all, but you will know because you will be happy doing it.
Roy: And I have financial problems that cause challenges in all areas of my life.
Council: And so we would say, as you tell us what is going on in your life, we would like to explain to you that energy is energy. It doesn’t always hit one area of your life. If you find yourself in (the word people use) a funk, it’s everywhere in your life. It will hit your finances, it will hit your relationships, and eventually it will hit your health. So right now, instead of putting pressure on yourself to feel better, to have a better relationship, to find a better job, work on yourself. How do I find a way to feel happy about anything? And by anything we say, are you happy walking down the street when you see babies playing together? Are you happy when you see a cute dog walking on a leash? Are you happy to look in store windows? Find the little things first. That is your challenge right now, because it is in every area of your life where things are not moving.
Find things to be grateful for and acknowledge them. Even if you were to find a penny on the street, laugh, acknowledge, “Okay, here’s some money.” Whatever it is, try to find the happiness in it. When you do that, you will find more and more things to be grateful for, and you will start feeling better, and you will find the right kind of job, and your relationship will improve. Find the gratitude. There is too much around you, and you have reason to feel this way. But now you know you are a spirit. You have the power to change your life by your choices, by how you think of things. And so we suggest you go on that path.
Roy: Any insights would be greatly appreciated. I feel I have been repeating patterns, and I am unable to move past this stage in my life.
Council: The pattern can be changed, but only you can do it. And you can do it. We see that.
And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create. create/
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How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Soul Peace.
Soul Peace: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. Thanks for all the guidance you provide through the blog. I want to ask The Council a question. I have faced relationship and emotional abuse issues in previous marriages. What kind of changes do I have to bring in myself in order to create a successful relationship?
Council: First, we would ask you to look at these relationships, and they always come with a lesson. And when you don’t get the lesson, it will happen again, and you’ll have another opportunity. And when you don’t get the lesson, it will happen again. The people may change, but the lesson is there.
So we ask you to look at this. What happened in each relationship? What did you do that you feel brought some of this on? There is always your part in it. What did you settle for? What did you not appreciate about yourself? There is always, always a lesson. And then when you acknowledge what it is, to thank yourself, to thank your higher self, and find ways – meditate on how to change your behavior.
Everything that happens to someone is part of their growth. It is always something they have created. So we would like you to understand this didn’t come out of the thin air, and no one’s trying to get even with you, or do this to you. You called it in, and it is your way of learning how to grow.
Number one, before you start anything, you must find a way to love yourself. Whether you look in the mirror every day and just tell yourself you love yourself, or appreciate yourself. Find things during the day that you appreciate what you have done. It is in honoring yourself and loving yourself that you would bring in the right people to love you. But if you have the negative words that you speak to yourself, or if you have doubts about who you truly are, which is spirit, all of that will get in the way. You have to find a way to find love for yourself. The rest will take care of itself. You will find the right relationships. Work on yourself first.
Soul Peace: My other question is around starting my company. I have always been inclined toward spirituality and metaphysics.
Council: That’s wonderful.
Soul Peace: Lately I have also faced emotional issues such as anxiety, and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
Council: And when you grow in one, which is spiritual, the second problem will disappear. So they go hand in hand. You become more spiritual, you meditate, you pray, you go out in nature, you walk on a beach. Whatever that is, the littlest thing, sit in a chair and look at the trees. All of that will begin to change your vibration. And when that changes, you make room for new ideas to come in, for new paths for you to go on. And that is another thing you can start to do right now.
Soul Peace: I’m thinking of creating something that helps people tackle these issues. How can I do this? Should I create a blog, or an app, or write a book that can help people?
Council: All three sound wonderful. But the easiest would be to start a blog so that you can write your feelings and what you’ve discovered. And have people write on it also, maybe to answer you or ask you questions. And so, the reaching out to other spirits with the intention of helping is what makes this happen. Of course, eventually a book would be wonderful, and you are very capable of all of this.
But we would say, when you begin this, make it very personal. Not just for you, but maybe for others whose stories you have heard. When you connect with people, they don’t want to feel like they are reading a book and getting information. They want examples. They want stories that feel real. Stories that you have gone through, and how you have gone through it, and changed it. Or people you know that write to you, or talk to you about how they have changed their lives.
Always make it about the person who has grown from the experience. Perhaps it was very hard in the beginning, but there was a way. What way did they choose to change it? Because that way will work for others, and that’s why you are there. To put this out. To get the ideas across that there is always a way. And by sharing with different spirits, the way will come forth.
Soul Peace: Being a spiritual and emotional coach is very different from my current line of work. I want to ask The Council if this is a direction I should go into.
Council: It’s a wonderful direction. How wonderful that by helping others, you’ll be helping yourself. By wanting to heal others, healing will come to you. It is a wonderful direction.
Soul Peace: And if this is a direction I should go into, what should be the starting point, and how do I grow this? Thanks.
Council: Begin to play with a blog. It’s very simple. Just throw out some ideas and see where it goes. Put yourself out there.
And so our wishes for happiness, and joy, and fun on your path go out to everyone.
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Please Explain My Connection To A Colleague Who Helped Me Land A Dream Job
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bobi.
Bobi: Dear Council. One day in March 2024, I went to sleep, and before sleeping, I made a wish. The wish was to change my job environment and be someplace where I could be part of a team.
Council: Bravo for you. It is so important to make a wish, or keep thinking, and imagining, and feeling what it is you want, especially before you go to sleep, because less doubt will come as you drift off into sleep.
Bobi: From my perspective, it was just a thought fleeting by. Exactly one day later, my ex-colleague (let’s call him JJ) called me and asked whether or not I’d be interested in a new job.
Council: Look at how fast that wish worked. It’s as simple as that all the time.
Bobi: Fast forward, I land a dream job in a perfect team, thanks to JJ, in the same company as him. We are not very close personally, but in my important moments he is a good mentor to me, and provides good guidance. And since March 2024, I regularly have dreams about JJ, as if in my dreams I can see his mood, his thoughts, and his worries. And also sometimes we are very physically close, but not intimate with each other in the dreams. This occurrence is very rare and applies only to JJ.
Council: It’s a feeling that comes when you meet with someone that you were very close to in other lifetimes, that you were able to help, or that person helped you, or you played as children in another lifetime, but there was a closeness. And usually that closeness that is felt is because you have been together many, many times. And that’s a wonderful thing to treasure and know, even though there is nothing now, know that there was.
And when you go to sleep at night, you can ask, “Where is this from? Can I see it? Can I have a scene appear to me of what went on?” And this also will come to you. But remember, it is a soul-to-soul experience that has shared many experiences, and that is why that feeling comes across to you.
Bobi: How can I understand what is happening to me in this physical or spiritual realm?
Council: This particular experience that you are feeling is from past lives, many of them. There is nothing we see here that, going forward there will be more, but you can change that. It should be that what comes to you, comes to you easily. It should be that there is no doubt. But being in the human form, that is not possible until you face the doubts. And whatever it is that you want, you do the work to create it.
So feel the love in this relationship, because there is. Think of how many different times you could have been together. And that should bring you the joy and keep the connection.
Bobi: Is this something coming from previous lives, karma, or how can I understand this bond? Thank you for your guidance.
Council: Well, this bond is… yes… because it involves many other lives. It is a wonderful feeling that you have had in many other lives. And you just sort of jump in to support each other, or to meet for a brief time just because it’s fun. And that’s how spirit thinks. We want to go into this reality and have fun. That is why we’re here.
And we send you love, and remind you to have fun on this journey. That was your purpose. You want to come in, and just mix it up, and have a good time. And everyone can get there.
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Understanding Your Pet’s Presence After They Pass
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Psdee42.
Psdee: Hi, Cynthia and Bob. Thank you for all the hope and comfort you provide.
My beloved dog passed away about two weeks ago and I’m still struggling with it. She was with us for almost 15 years, which is amazing, but it never feels long enough. Do our pets try to give us signs that they are with us, just as people do?
Council: Yes. And we find animals are so pure. Their souls always try to help you in this life. They carry a lot of light and a lot of love, which you know. And so when they pass on, they stay around you because they want to make sure you are okay. And it really makes them sad when it’s hard for you. So they try to show you, sometimes out of the corner of your eye you might think something is there, or ran past. Or you could hear a noise in another room and there’s nothing there.
They will try and show you – and we tell this to everybody – when you have an animal and it passes, and you’re so hurt, and you’ll never have another one, that’s exactly the opposite of what your pet would want. Because if you gave it a good home, there are so many more that need a good home, and they will send one. When you are ready, they will send one to you. Either you’ll decide to go to a shelter, or you’ll find a lost one. They will send you another animal that they know you would give a good home to.
So if this happens, many people feel guilty, like, “Oh, if I take in a new one, the old one will think I don’t love it.” It is exactly the opposite. So be aware of that.
But yes, you will get signs. Be still. Try to be happy, because that’s when they can reach you the easiest, and you’ll have proof the animal is around. You will have proof that the animal is trying to reach you. And when they reach you, they sort of get excited too, that you’ve let them in. So stay calm, stay happy, and enjoy the memories that you have had.
Psdee: Are they with our loved ones when they cross over?
Council: Oh, definitely. Yes. They are with other animals that are on the other side. Other animals come to greet them just like our people from our past come and greet us. And they will go, and they will be with people from your family and your friends. So yes, they are not alone. Believe us, they are having a good time here.
Psdee: I know my grief will lessen with time, but these questions weigh heavily on my mind and heart.
Council: Of course. And yes, it will lessen. But always remember that in the short time that they are with us, they are helping us, and it’s our job to do the very best we can for them. And this way there is love that goes back and forth.
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How to Set Boundaries with Toxic In-Laws for a Healthier Life
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.
Starfish: Hello, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thanks for doing all the amazing work. I have a question for which I’d like to seek The Council’s guidance.
I’m having issues with my husband and in-laws that are causing a lot of mental anxiety, and lung-related issues for me. My husband is too attached to my in-laws, and is not able to have healthy boundaries. My in-laws have certain toxic traits, and they come to have an extended stay with us, causing a lot of disruptions in my health.
Council: Has this always been this way, or are you just aware of it now? So we’d ask you to take a look at this.
Starfish: My husband prioritizes his parents and is not able to see the wrong behaviors done by them. I want to check if it’s possible to have a future for me where I can stay with my husband happily, and not have to deal with or live with my in-laws?
Council: And so we would say this would all be up to you; how you see it and how you work with the energy. It is possible for you to speak to your husband about this and come up with something that would work for the both of you. If there’s no cooperation on his side, then we would say, well what can you do? Can you have your in-laws in your home and not spend too much time with them? Are you able to look at how they behave, then do the work, and try to learn what makes them like that? What are they trying to accomplish?
There’s always a lesson in these difficult challenges. And so we would say, play with that and see what comes out of trying to learn from it. But again, you have to do the work of meditating and seeing the way you want it.
We feel right now you are more on the path of: Can I leave and make a good life for myself, rather than trying to fix it. And there is no wrong answer. The choice is always yours, but it is now time for you to realize the choice is yours. What can you do to try to live with this behavior? Can you talk to his parents? Can you tell them this is upsetting, and will not be accepted anymore? Can you be honest and have this kind of conversation?
But to be there and let it go on, and not say anything to your husband and to his parents is just sitting in this lesson, and we do know what happens. If you don’t fix it now, if you don’t learn from it, you will repeat it in another life until you get the lesson.
So we would suggest that this time do everything that you can to learn from this lesson. If you still feel that it’s not for you, then you make the decision to leave. But always know it is your decision. This will not come from anybody else. So if you see yourself not being able to communicate with your in-laws, you will create that. If you can do the work and see things getting better, then that will happen. But what are you doing with the visualization? How are you working on this?
Starfish: The other option is for me to move away from my husband and create a different life for me and my son.
Council: Yes, you can do that, but then again, look at the whole picture. Is that what you want? How will you move forward? In what area? How will it help you be a better mother? How would it help you make your child happy and give him a good environment? If it will make things difficult for you when it comes to finances, how will you handle that? What will you do with it? How you handle things means a lot. So you don’t want to take your child and move away, not have the right finances, be nervous, maybe take it out on the child, or be worried all the time. Make a plan. If you decide to leave, where will you go? How will you work? How do you see your life moving forward? And this again is visualization.
Starfish: Can The Council please guide me on which path me and my son will find happiness and peace? I want to understand whether it will be on the path with my husband, or leaving my husband.
Council: And no one can make that decision but you. We can not tell you, “Oh yes, you will be happy,” because we don’t know what will be going on in your mind in the future. Are you thinking the wrong thoughts so that you’re creating the wrong outcome? It is always, always up to you. You decide what you want and then do the work of what you want. Will you stay, or will you go? It is entirely up to you. You are the creator.
Starfish: Looking at my anxiety issues and lung disorder, I don’t think I can deal with my in-laws in the same house with the current attitude of my husband. My son and I have suffered a lot in this relationship and I don’t think I can suffer more, and I don’t know how to create a future with my husband without my in-laws’ influence. Sometimes I think my in-laws are here so that I can see the true colors of my husband and move on.
Council: Oh, no, no, no. They are here to see the true colors of yourself, and how you will respond to all of this. And remember, this is something you wanted to learn to grow from it. So this is always about you. And it’s easy to blame the husband, or you know, go off in different directions. It is always about you learning about you.
Starfish: Also, I’ve been told by The Council that if I move away from my husband, my child is going to learn different lessons without his father.
Council: How wonderful. Then there are different lessons.
Starfish: Can The Council please guide me on what will be my and my child’s lessons without the father?
Council: Without the father there will be many other lessons. And again, it’s what you create. Do you create a good home environment? If not, then one of the lessons will be for you or your child how to live in that, how to create it differently, how to move forward differently if it’s not what you want.
And so, until you decide what you want, you will not create the environment that you want. And so we can not tell you to do this or do that. First decide what you want, then devise a whole plan on how to do this where you are truly comfortable.
So your son and you will have different lessons, but that was all chosen, that was all pre-planned. Now which way your decision takes you will allow what other lessons you need to learn, and that you need to go through this lifetime to learn from. And it’s that simple.
Starfish: Thanks.
Council: It is our duty, shall we say, it is our work to help the souls that are in a human reality to learn that: #1, you are the creator. We are not here to give you answers. We are here to show you how to get the answers. And so we say, take your time. You can go back and forth with your decision until one day you will decide: This is it.
And so we all send you all the love from spirit for you to take in, to feel it, to picture it, and send it out again. And then you are on your way to healing not only America, the United States, but the whole planet. This is your purpose.
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Please Provide Clarity On My Unexpected Pregnancy In My Unhappy Marriage
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: Hello again Bob and Cynthia. You were kind enough to ask for clarity for me a couple of years ago when I became pregnant unexpectedly. It was a tough time, and I lost the baby at the end of the first trimester. I could not go through with a termination, and offered to the spirit that I would leave it with them to stay with me or go. Our world was a little rocky and the babe left.
I now find myself unexpectedly pregnant again at 42 years old. Again my husband is not happy. I am shocked, but less so than before. Our relationship was already in conflict, and this pregnancy is pushing the limits of our mutual disrespect and fighting. I don’t feel like my last pregnancy with him, but I definitely do not feel embraced.
I would love some clarity from The Council regarding this pregnancy and the way forward. Part of me hoped that we could make this pregnancy work for us, bring us closer together, and be more in harmony, but it has not. At ten weeks pregnant we can barely be civil to each other. I’m not in a position to be a single mother of three children, however. I’m so sad at what our relationship has become for me and our children.
I am looking for the light, as I feel at times so lost, being pregnant at my age, and in an unhappy marriage with two children. Any guidance would be appreciated. I wish for a happy, peaceful life with my family, and good health. Thank you, L.
Council: Unfortunately there are many, many people, when they are in relationships that are not working out, feel like they will have a child and that will bring you closer together. And that does not always work. Many, many times it makes it worse. You have a relationship where there are problems already. Do you think this new little spirit is going to change your life? The spirit agreed to come forward if that’s what you want, but the spirit will then have to deal with their issues, and you will still have your issues.
And so you are at a point where you must decide if you have this child and you wind up alone, is this what you want? Can you handle it? If you don’t have this child and you stay in this marriage, do you think it will improve at all?
But what we say is, now is the time to do the visualization the way you want your life to be. But make some sort of a decision, like no, I cannot be a single mother of three, or yes I can. What’s one more? But at least I’ll be free and out of this relationship. Or stay with two children and somehow we will get along.
But that won’t magically happen. What’s going to happen is your thoughts will create what will happen. So if you want to have this child, and you want to stay in this marriage, now is the time to see it, and to see it as if it’s already happening, to see it with joy in your heart that this worked out, this is wonderful. And that is how you create.
And we send you peach and love.
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Improving Self-Esteem for Healthy Relationships
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I am almost 44 years old and for the first time, I think I feel in love.
Council: Oh, that’s wonderful.
Bluestar: This guy is my Zumba teacher. The problem is that he’s 20 years younger than me, he already has a girlfriend, and I am hopeless and sad.
Council: And so why would you want to try and have a relationship with someone who is in one already, and perhaps is very happy? Is it just that you are looking for a relationship? And this has come along and there’s a feeling of familiarity, or just a fantasy that you can imagine, and it brings you happiness. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, but the reason is that you do want a relationship for yourself.
Bluestar: A while ago I had two Akashic record readings, and the guides told me they saw me with someone in the near future. But in the second reading they told me that until I had more self-esteem, I would not be ready to be with anyone.
Council: And that is true with everyone. You always need some self-esteem. The more you can love yourself, the more you will bring in the perfect partner for you. When you have serious issues about feeling good about yourself, how can you bring someone in who will appreciate you and love you if you do not love yourself?
Bluestar: So I would like to know, was this [Zumba teacher] the guy that the guides told me about, or is he a different man? And if he is another person, have I already missed that opportunity by not being ready?
Council: There is someone there for you. We would not say it is this person [Zumba teacher], even though with the correct imagery you can create it the way you want it. You have not missed any opportunities. When you are ready, when you realize you are loveable and there is someone for you, and you don’t know who it is right now, but that you can get excited that that person is there and will come into your life, that’s when you’ll create it.
Bluestar: Have I had one or more past lives with this Zumba teacher that I like, and if so, how were they, because his company seemed familiar to me from the beginning?
Council: It seems like in the early 1700s he was wealthy and you were a maid in his household. But you were very friendly then, you had good rapport, and that is the familiar feeling, that good rapport, that comfortability that you feel now.
Bluestar: I would like to know if this guy that I like has any romantic or sexual feelings for me now, or if he only feels friendship for me?
Council: We see it as friendship. Again, you have the ability to change it.
Bluestar: How can I work on my self-esteem as a woman to have a healthy romantic relationship with someone? I am trying to improve my relationship with myself by saying more positive things to myself and valuing my talents more, but I don’t really know what else to do.
Council: So take a look at what you do every day. If you cook something and it comes out nice, pat yourself on the back. Be aware of it and acknowledge it. “Oh, I did this and it tastes great.” Or, “I read this chapter in a book. I really enjoyed this book. I picked a good book.” Or, “I went and I got a haircut. I like this haircut. And if I’m not too crazy about it, well you know what? I learned I can go somewhere else.”
Look at the positive things that you do, the littlest things that you do every day. Even going to a store and buying groceries that you need. That you remembered to get this, you remembered to get that, and you’re taking it home. And there’s a little bit of independence that you do on your own. Make the effort. Look and acknowledge all the good things you do. As that happens, you will feel better about yourself, and then there’s Mr. Right.
Bluestar: I am waiting for your response, and I am sending you lots of love and gratitude for your time.
Council: And we send you love too.
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Finding Gratitude in Marriage
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initial, A.
A: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thank you for taking our questions. I would like some insight into my marriage. I don’t feel like I can be myself around my husband. It feels like my heart is closed off. I have a lot of resentment towards him, especially since having a child, and where the first few years I received almost no support from him.
Council: And so why are you now staying in that past, and what you experienced in the past? Can you see anything that you can be grateful for in your marriage now? Look at your partner. What is there that’s positive about him? Look for the good. When you do this you will find it. And the more you look, the more you will find.
A: I have found his behavior to be very selfish. I try to move past the resentment, but each new selfish act reminds me of the past. I no longer feel joy when I am around him.
Council: And so, when you see him do something you consider selfish, take a look at it. Is it really selfish? Or are you just going back into that feeling of how it was before? And if you see him doing something selfish, can you replace it and force yourself to find something that’s good? We ask you to look at this so that you can make a decision for yourself that’s more of what you want.
A: We have brought up divorce quite a few times. I’m not sure if this is the route I want to take.
Council: And that is why it’s good, at this point, to look for stuff to be grateful for in your marriage.
A: When I imagine that [divorce] future, part of it feels more freeing, but not all of it. I also don’t want to remain in a relationship where I feel alone and misunderstood.
Council: And when you feel like this, what usually happens in your human existence is you look for someone else. Someone that would give you the littlest bit of attention. And so we say, before you go there, look and see what works, and if there is great kindness in your marriage.
A: I’m not sure if I’m expecting too much from my relationship. I know I need to learn independence, but I’m not sure if this is the real problem, or if it’s just incompatibility between us.
Council: So again you’re saying you need to learn independence. What can you do to experience that now? Take that step in changing yourself. Take that step of learning something that you feel you need to learn. It is wise that you know that. So instead of waiting until later, do it now.
A: Another strange thing has been happening. I met this man…
Council: Ahhh!
A: …that I have hardly spoken with, and when I’m near him, I think about him. I have very strong feelings that cause me to question my marriage. This has happened twice now. I’ve never felt feelings like this towards another person.
Council: Because there is a longing in you that is looking for something new, something easy, something happy.
A: Who is this person to me?
Council: It is a spirit that you have called in because you feel something lacking in what you have now.
A: Are these my feelings, his feelings, or both?
Council: It is your feelings. And you can create it to go in any direction you want. But we say, question yourself, look for the good, come up with an answer, and then start the focusing and imagery on how you want your life to be.
A: Thank you very much for any insight you can provide.
Council: And we send you peace and love.
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Why Am I So Attracted To This Man?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initial, A.
A: Am I and the person I’m thinking about meant to have a romantic relationship in this life?
Council: We would say when you created this reality (this lifetime), what we see, and the conversation going on with this spirit was, again, something where you would come together and sort of see where it goes. We do not see you planning a romantic, long-term relationship, but more of a, let’s get together and see what happens.
Which makes it wonderful because from your standpoint you can create it any way you want to, where you are friends, good friends, or you have some fun and you go your separate ways. Or you can make this something permanent. And you can also pick how it goes, what you want to do together, what you want to learn, and how you want to find a way to serve and help others.
And so you have a whole new path in front of you. And it’s very, very good because it’s wide open. Decide what you want, think of it happening, and see it. Does it feel good? Then go for it.
A: Can you please tell me the specific reason I’m so attracted to him in this life?
Council: Oh, we see here two lives where you were a husband and wife team. So that familiar feeling, that bond is still there. And they were good lifetimes, so there’s a lot of happiness that, on a subconscious level, you both would remember. And so it’s sort of like, “Okay. Here we are. Let’s have some fun. Where do we go from here?” So enjoy it.
And so we give you blessings, we send you love, and light, and excitement on your path. And know, and really, really think about it, and know you are spirit, and you can create anything that you want.
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What Should I Do About An Ended Relationship I Can’t Move On From?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, DSS.
DSS: My romantic relationship of 7 1/2 years ended in February and I can’t move on. I feel so drawn, even obsessed, that I desire to be this man’s wife. Please help me with clarity. Should I continue to focus on a loving and wonderful relationship with this specific man, or should I focus on the same wonderful qualities with someone new?
Council: Well right there let’s say – which we’ve said many, many times – the way the question is phrased we will never ever tell you what to do, to tell you to move on or hold on, bend this, keep going, or hang on. The answer is within you.
And one of the reasons everyone is here at this time is to learn to listen to their feelings [from spirit]. And the feelings will always make you feel good. They will always be feelings of love.
So you ask about this person and you say that you cannot move on. That is the physical or human part of you that’s afraid to move on. There may be much better future partners for you. Or there may be a time where you would learn to meditate, a time to learn how to manifest, and you create what it is that you do want. And so it is possible for you to have anything, but to get there you have to realize, #1, the choice is yours, and you have to do the inner work to know that your journey starts in spirit.
Now we look and we see, was there anything created where you would be together this lifetime. And we see, yes, but more of a friendship, more of two ships passing in the night. And where you may not have a relationship, even a friendship right now, it was planned that you would sort of come in and out of each other’s lives. So now you ask yourself, what is it that you want? Are you okay with a friendship where you just come together every now and then, or do you want this romantic relationship?
So #1, if you want this relationship, you begin to meditate, you do things to get your vibration to rise. And you do that by thinking loving thoughts, funny thoughts, great memories, whatever makes you sit there and smile. When you’re finally in that place, then detail by detail you imagine what you want. If you want a life with this person, what does it look like? What do you do? And you don’t always have to know how it’s going to happen, but you’re going to put out there that it’s happening, and the universe will take care of it.
So #1, the thoughts, the imaging, that is sending the energy out to the universe, and the main key is feeling that you already have it. What does it feel like being married? Or being together again? And as a little child would pretend to be a movie star of an astronaut, you pretend. You look for that feeling that it is already really happening, and pay attention to how you feel. And the happier you feel about it, the quicker you can bring that in. So the work, the whole thing, deciding what you want, how to do it, how to manifest it and get it to happen, it’s all up to you.
And so we give you blessings, we send you love, and light, and excitement on your paths. And know, and really, really think about it and know you are spirit, and you can create anything that you want.
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How Can I Find Happiness and Children After Divorce?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eva, in response to our post, Should I Give This Man Who’s Come Back Into My Life A Second Chance?
Eva: Dear Bob, and Dear Cynthia. This is a follow-up question on the same subject, and I would really love to hear from you again.
I ended up getting a divorce, and that was something inevitable because my ex-husband and I kind of realized we would never be able to work things out.
My lover from the past, who has also gotten a divorce, has a very energetic role in my current life, and we’ve decided to be together and to try to have a child of our own. Do you think that the universe will give us a second chance? I really can’t describe the obstacles that we have overcome in order to be together, and that we both share the thought that we should stay together no matter what.
At this point I’d like to add that it seems my ex-husband has accepted this reality and doesn’t create any problems.
Thanks for your time. I’m looking forward to getting an answer from you. Love and light.
Bob: So do you think that the universe will give Eva and her new partner a second chance?
Council: So we see you say you got a divorce, and this man (your current partner) also got a divorce. And we see what you would like for yourself is a permanent family. And where we would never tell you what to do, you should be very clear with your new partner about what you want.
And have the two of you talked about marriage? Because sometimes people stay together, but one wants marriage, and the other partner doesn’t want to go there for whatever reason. We would say, be very, very clear about what you want at this time and with this person.
Can you make this marriage work? Of course you can. You know how to do it. You focus on what you want. You concentrate on the both of you going forward with the dream you have for however you want to see it and change it. Your ex-husband not interfering now is a good start.
So we would say, what is it you want? Do you want to be married to this person? Do you want a permanent home? Then you should state that, and make that very clear, and go ahead and move forward and do it.
If you’re a little iffy – we’ll stay together no matter what – we can see in your energy there’s a little tiny bit of doubt there. So once again, you would be the creator. If you want this, and if your partner wants it, then we would say, make it clear what it is that you want, and move forward with happy thoughts, with happy images, and then you will create it.
Bob: Thank you very much for your answers to Eva’s questions.
Council: Well this was indeed a wonderful day, and we enjoyed these questions. And to everyone who asks for our help, we are overjoyed when we are asked for help. We want you all to know that we are always with you. We always send you healing energy. And just know that no matter what, you are not alone. We are here. Talk to us like we are sitting next to you. Make us part of your life, because what we want is for spirit to come into your reality so you can learn that you are spirit. You are part of us. We are part of you. And as you go through joys, and hardships, and challenges, and rewards, we go with you. And so we send you blessings, and love, and light.
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Will I Ever Have An Intimate Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Derek.
Derek: Hello. I have come to you once before, several years ago, in the most crucial and largest turning point in my life. You gave me very intimate and heart-wrenchingly sound advice. This question is one that’s been on my mind but has been building a lot over the last few years.
I’m nearing 27 years old, and I’ve never had an intimate relationship. I’ve never had a girlfriend because I just feel that I’m too different from the people I come across to make anything work. For my sake and theirs, I have avoided it.
Council: When you speak of being different, do you feel less than, or more than? Do you feel like you don’t fit in? So we would ask you to play with those thoughts and see the feelings and thoughts that come to you when you think of being different.
Sometimes thinking you’re different makes you feel very wonderful because you have a lot to offer. Others think that by being different, you are less than, you don’t equal up to everything, or you have nothing to offer. So there are different ways to look at this. And we would say for you, your difference is that you are you.
You have come to this reality to work through challenges, which we will talk about. And you are different because each spirit is different in different lifetimes, and at different times of one life where there are many things you wish to learn.
And so yes, there is a difference, but it is a good difference, and we would like you to try to convince yourself to think about, “How am I different? And are there people that are also different that are looking for partners, or better jobs, to improve their life?”
But we want you to know, what you have planned is definitely different, but it doesn’t make you less than. It doesn’t mean that you cannot have a relationship. So if you think you are different, and you cannot have a relationship, we ask you to change that focus, and get excited about who you’ll meet, who will also be different in their own way. And keep that door open, that you are excited, and you want to pull in another person that you feel is different.
Derek: I long for an intimate spiritual friendship that I know is really my yearning for spirit. However, I have not advanced far enough along yet to experience God intimately in meditation.
Council: You can always sit quietly in a chair and talk to God, whether you feel it or not. It’s a connection that’s always there. You don’t have to reach a certain level, but begin to know in your heart that God is there listening, speaking to you, and you are open to making the connection even greater than it is.
Derek: I know I ultimately have control over my life…
Council: Well that is true.
Derek: …and it’s my decision whether or not to pursue God quickly and directly alone, or maybe through another.
Council: Let us say here, it’s wonderful you are seeking God, and many people do in their own way. But you are saying to directly seek God, or perhaps find God through another – yes, people that come together that feel a great bond, even if they have a life with challenges, that bond with that person is helping you both seek God. It’s helping you both connect with God.
So there is no, “Should I or shouldn’t I have a relationship.” A relationship will not prevent you from connecting with God. There is a coming together. And when spirits come together, you connect with God whether you know it or not. But for you to think you either do it alone or do it with another person, we say you can do it with another person. Many people do it with another person. And so, do not feel it must be one way, or you get to leave and stay by yourself.
Derek: I have only been working with a girl at work for three days (as of typing this), and we’ve barely spoken, but I feel a strong connection to her. I’ve gotten lovesick for at least one other girl in the past that destroyed me for a time. Is my heart accurate in my sudden feelings for this girl in particular?
Council: We would say that the feeling that you are getting with this girl is showing us that you are in a place where your thoughts are different, that you are becoming more open to a relationship, that what you are going through is allowing another person, another possibility of someone to come into your life.
That doesn’t necessarily mean this is the forever person. But little by little we see here that you will try to bring in someone in your life, and that is a step forward for you. This is very, very good. And so if it works, it is wonderful. If it doesn’t work, then you will bring in someone else. You are in that place of letting go of the past and what you wanted to experience in this lifetime.
Derek: Am I meant to be with another in this life?
Council: If that is what you want.
What has happened is in one of your past lives you had many partners, so to speak. You visited many brothels, and that was your life, going woman, to woman, to woman. And towards the end of your life, you were very disappointed and sad that your life didn’t become more, where there was someone special in your life. You just went and had many, many women.
And so on leaving that lifetime you thought, “Well, the next lifetime I will forget all this running around. I will just have a life for me.” And so that is why you have not been bringing somebody in. But in spirit, before you came into this life, you decided you wanted to bring somebody in, but it would be one person who would be special. You would be special to each other. There wouldn’t be running to brothels or loneliness. You will find the in-between place. The happiness that you wanted with family and with an intimate relationship. And that is what you are trying to work through this lifetime. Isn’t that clever of you?
Derek: If I’m not meant to have somebody in my life, I will no doubt continue to seek the Lord with as much zeal as I can muster.
Council: Seek the Lord anyway, but you are meant to have somebody in your life. That’s what you wanted to work through. But it is your focus. No one can do this for you. You can think about this life we have told you about, and you can play what we call “connect the dots”, and realize, okay, in that life you had too many women, but nothing personal or that meant a lot. And then in this life, so far you’ve had nothing.
So now you can see why you have nothing now. This is what you created. You wanted to see what it would be like to just be by yourself. But now you have done that, and now you can focus on, “Okay, I’m letting go of the challenge of that past life, and I want someone special in my life”. And as you focus and meditate on that, your life will begin to change.
Derek: The path has been very difficult and lonely though. I don’t know if it’s appropriate to ask for a timeline, but when will I meet this girl, if ever? When will I marry, if ever?
Council: You can marry. You will meet someone, but the timeline, that is up to you. How much energy do you put into meditating on this? Getting excited about this? Feeling like, “This is what it’s like if I meet someone?” And start imagining what it would be like. You are the one who does the work.
And so, if you do it a lot, you’ll pull someone in quicker. If you just imagine what it would be like every now and then and then get depressed, it will take longer. It is all up to you. The timeline is up to you. Did you want to have someone in your life this time? Yes. And if you do the work, that will happen.
Derek: Is there one out there looking for me the way I am looking for them?
Council: Yes, there is.
Derek: Will a relationship delay my search for God?
Council: Never. You will search together. That’s the beauty of it.
Derek: Thank you. I love you.
Council: And we love you.
Bob: Thank you for your answers to Derek’s questions.
Council: Well this was indeed a wonderful day, and we enjoyed these questions. And to everyone who asks for our help, we are overjoyed when we are asked for help. We want you to know that we are always with you. We always send you healing energy. And just know that no matter what, you are not alone. We are here. Talk to us like we are sitting right next to you. Make us part of your life because what we want is for spirit to come into your reality for you to learn that you are spirit. You are part of us. We are part of you. And as you go through joys, and hardships, and challenges, and rewards, we go with you.
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How Can I Overcome My Fear Of Being Known?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Saturn.
Saturn: Hi. I want to ask about how to heal my reserved side of myself. I’ve always been very closed off and scared when I meet new people. This frustrates me as my personality is not actually like that, and people usually misunderstand who I am because I’m unable to express my true self.
Council: Your true self is to be quiet and not express yourself a lot. It’s your purpose in this lifetime to accept yourself the way you are, and not try to change and be the way different people want you to be, so you can be 10 or 20 people fulfilling everybody else’s thought of who you are. So we would say, relax into you, being quiet, being reserved. Accept yourself. It’s a wonderful place to be.
And we would also like to put out there that being this way, you will teach other people about how others are that are reserved and quiet, who they truly are. That they are nice, or they are mean. You will teach them. And that’s the purpose that you have all agreed to. So whoever you meet, you have pulled in to show them that perhaps being quiet is a nice gift.
And if you accept it, and can smile, and talk when you feel like it, others will see how true that is. Being quiet is a nice gift. And they may want to get to know you better, but not forcefully. They will learn to accept what you have to offer.
Saturn: This might be because I grew up in a strict childhood environment, and trauma caused me to be repressed. People sometimes think I’m too serious or that I’m judging them, even when I’m not.
Council: So can you accept them? Let them think what they want. Let them judge you. That’s none of your business, what they think about you. You are only to be who you are and accept yourself, and then they will learn to accept you.
Saturn: I have no intention of making people feel hurt or uncomfortable…
Council: That is a good thing.
Saturn: …yet I still am, with just my presence of being too distant and cold. But I remember even before that as a very small child, or even as a baby, I have always been afraid of people truly seeing me. I feel this fear to the depth of my soul, as if it is me, but I know it’s not. I wonder if this issue is due to past lives, and how can I be more open from now on?
Council: So yes, we would say the discipline and being afraid of showing yourself has popped up for you in quite a few lives, but that was all created to bring you to this point. And so, an enemy, from a soldier, from an authority figure when you were young, and so your thought is to be quiet and to hide. Well now your job is to sort of connect the dots and know that was then. These feelings are here for you to heal them, but the feeling of being afraid and having to hide is not now. That was then. Connect the two lives, and when you do that, you will see a change happening.
Bob: Any more advice on how Saturn can be open from now on?
Council: A little at a time, but don’t do it under pressure. When you start to accept yourself, you will come out of your shell, you will be able to talk more, to communicate more, but it must come from you first accepting yourself and knowing it’s okay to be the way you are.
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Follow-up Questions From A Married Woman About A Man She Met
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Lisa, about our post, How Do I Handle A Relationship With A Man Who Isn’t My Husband?
Lisa: We got sexy over the phone. I pulled back. I told him we know each other from previous lives, and I know he’s in my life for a purpose, but we have to work together to market each others business, and help each other because we’re on the same wavelength. He replied, “Wow, let’s just end this now.”
Council: He’s not very intuned with knowing you from a past life, and that’s just where he is at this time. But he was going in one direction and you shut it down, so the interest in not there.
Lisa: Now I’m thinking is he going to tell my husband on me? Is he going to be upset and rude if I go to the park on Wednesday, and I keep getting angel messages that it’s part of my life’s divine purpose?
Council: We would say here to ask yourself why are you going back to the park? Why don’t you stay away from it for a while If you are in fear of him talking to your husband? Just – what is it that they say in your reality right now? – ghost yourself. Don’t go there. And stop thinking of being afraid that he will tell your husband. In that fear, if you constantly do that, you will create it. We do not see him wanting to do that, but you are very powerful, and in your fear you will create it. So we would say, do yourself a real easy favor and just stay away.
Lisa: But he’s not speaking to me, so what do I do?
Council: Nothing. He is not speaking to you. Is that not a clue? Is there something about him not speaking to you that you do not understand? It’s very clear he’s shutting this down. So we would say to pay attention to that. Don’t open up something that’s not going to go in the direction that he wants.
Lisa: Will he speak to me again?
Council: We would say, eventually, if you stay away for a while and not go into how you have to help each other out, and you know each other from other lives. Just be cordial. That’s it.
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Why Do I Dream Of My First Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lolly.
Lolly: I often dream of my first love. I’m in my 60s. What does it mean? And does he dream of me?
Council: What it means is it makes you happy to think of this. There are good memories there. You’re in a part of your life that needs happy thoughts, you are reflecting on the past and perhaps the one that got away.
So all it is is your conscious mind is bringing up thoughts of this one person. A first love is very important in someone’s life, and so you are back there. Think of how it started. Think of the whole relationship. See how you feel. And that is why you are bringing it in. To look at it, and find good things about it. Feel good about it. And that’s what you want at this particular time of your life. Not to meet this person again and start up a relationship, but to enjoy those memories.
Lolly: Does he dream of me?
Council: We would say he’s had an occasional thought of you in the past, but it’s not something that’s ongoing. But yes, you are not forgotten. And there are also good memories there for that person. So it’s wonderful.
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Is The Man In My Dreams From A Past Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jayden. in response to our post, Do My Favorite Aunt And I Share A Past Life Connection?
Jayden: Hi. I also want to ask about my past life connection. Ever since I was a kid, I kept having these dreams or visions about a guy named, Liam.
Council: Ah, we would correct that. It was Len-Am. In the life that you’re referring to, everyone had a name, something they were called. And after that was, -Am, and that would tell people that’s who they were. So if your name was Joan, it would be, Joan-Am, or John-Am. So you were referring to Len-Am, who was a husband at that time, a wonderful relationship, and you were Mu-Am. So there was Len-Am and Mu-Am. Isn’t that wonderful? You were close.
Jayden: In my dream, he was usually lying in a hospital bed and seemed to be dying. I think I was his lover or married partner.
Council: You were his married partner.
Jayden: I used to think this was all my imagination until I learned about spirits because whenever I connected with him in my mind, I felt very intense emotions, like profound love for him and from him, but also lots of grief, and I always ended up crying. So I want to ask The Council, is he a real person from one of my past life memories?
Council: Yes, definitely. And you are still connected in spirit and working on other levels together.
Jayden: Or is he present in my current life right now as a spirit guide, and will I get to meet him in this lifetime?
Council: There is a possibility you would meet when you are much older, and that is a possibility that was wanted by the two of you in spirit. And so if you both want to create it, that will happen. But for now, the connection is there. And connect through your thoughts with this spirit.
Bob: Would you say that Len-Am would be considered a spirit guide to Jayden at this point?
Council: Yes, we would say that. This person is in spirit and helping Jayden. And they are still on some level creating as they are going along in their current lifetime. So we say, there is that possibility where they do meet at a much later age.
Jayden: It would be lovely if you can add any extra details or insights about this, or anything relevant that I need to know at this point in my life. Thank you, and lots of love and light to you all.
Council: And so we say what is most important now is to realize you are still spirit, not in the physical sense yet, but spirit. The both of you are still connected and are still working together. So ask at night before you sleep to have visions of the two of you. Be able to talk and know going forward what you want to create. It is very possible to have this communication. It is a very strong communication.
And so we would say to Len-Am and Mu-Am, have a wonderful lifetime, whichever way you choose to use it. In this reality, you will both learn from it.
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Do I Have Hybrid Children?
In this post an anonymous reader asks The Council about hybrid children.
Anonymous: Hi. I’m enjoying the part of my job where I get to go on long rides, listen to interesting podcasts, and observe information. That is what I’m doing today and it inspires me to move towards the things I love most in hopes of transitioning to a life led by passion, especially in terms of a career.
So today I’ve been listening to various interviews and my question is about hybrid children. I was visited while young, and I’m wondering if I have hybrid children?
Council: Some people think of hybrid children as an alien or a spirit that comes and has a child with an Earth-form person. Others think hybrid children are children from other dimensions, or from other galaxies. And so we would say here, you have come from other galaxies, many, many lifetimes of traveling around, and you are still in human form now. And so, if you believe your connection to other lives in other galaxies, or in other life forms makes you hybrid, then yes, it does.
But we see you as spirit that’s gone from lifetime to lifetime and traveled the many, many galaxies, millions and millions of stars and planets that we know, in your human form, we know nothing about. And so, yes, you are human, and yes, you are part of many, many other lifetimes in many other dimensions.
Bob: When Anonymous says, “I was visited while young,” I’m imagining she’s talking about being visited by an alien.
Council: Yes, we see that.
Bob: When she says, “I’m wondering if I have hybrid children,” I’m imagining that she’s asking…
Council: First, let us say that many people, many human forms, are visited by other life forms, but they are then going through a process where they forget it. Some do remember, and again, it makes you part of many, many other life forms. And so, yes, you’ve had a visitation more than once.
Bob: And when she asks, “I’m wondering if I have hybrid children,” I’m imagining that she’s asking if she had physical children with the aliens who visited her.
Council: Not in this particular lifetime.
Anonymous: What are the nurseries like?
Bob: I’m not exactly sure what she means by that.
Council: Some – what you would refer to as nurseries – are communities where all the children are raised together. The babies are raised together, not with just one (what you would consider) mother and father. There are some communities where a mother and father role is taken on, and a certain amount of children (maybe between 5 and 10) are allocated to them. There are different ways that different realities raise their children. There are some realities where children are born, but are not yet in complete solid form. They are just spirit. And so they are in lit rooms with certain temperatures until they form on their own their (what you would call) physical body. And so there are different nurseries in different realities and in different dimensions.
Bob: And that would include nurseries for hybrid children.
Council: Yes.
Anonymous: And if I can meet them or communicate with them.
Council: You have already been communicating with them on what you would call an unconscious level. We would say to meditate. That’s always the first step. Put yourself outdoors in the evenings to talk in your mind with whatever form you decide you want to communicate with. And then just have the patience to wait, and do that, and you will have your meeting, your ability to see and feel another life form. So for you, this should be easy.
Bob: I get the impression that Anonymous is asking if they can meet or communicate with her hybrid children, and you’re suggesting that in this particular physical lifetime, she doesn’t have any hybrid children?
Council: Not in this lifetime, but she can communicate with children from other lifetimes in other dimensions. And so with the intention, and putting yourself in the right environment, this can be accomplished.
Anonymous: My daughter, who is here being a human with me now, has a lot of extraterrestrial connections, and we are curious about all of this, as well as our direction in life embracing expansion.
Council: Right now your direction for you and your daughter is to experience life here in this dimension and in this reality, to learn that you can create with your very powerful minds, and to communicate with people here on the level that they are at in this human form, and in this reality. So it’s about meeting people and learning from them their behaviors, their stresses, and their loves. Learn about it. Talk to them about it. And then eventually, when you go back into spirit form or come again, you’ll be able to share the knowledge that you get.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re suggesting that Anonymous be more focused on aspects of her physical reality.
Council: Exactly.
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Do I Have A Soul Contract To Have A Relationship With A Man I Met 5 Years Ago?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Capricorn.
Capricorn: Hi, Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. I was wondering if you could possibly help me with a query I’ve been struggling with. Thank you for what you do on this blog, by the way.
There’s a man I briefly met in higher education about five years ago. I’m inexplicably drawn to him. We barely spoke. We were more like friendly acquaintances, but as far as I know, there was a mutual physical attraction.
Council: And this was something that you agreed upon, and this was the time you decided to call that spirit into your life.
Capricorn: I haven’t seen him in years, so I initially forgot about him. But at the beginning of this year, he popped into my head out of the blue and I started thinking about him again. I can’t figure out why I’m so drawn to him when we barely spoke. I do find him attractive, but there are many physically and mentally attractive people around. And we were only acquaintances, so it should be relatively easy to forget him.
Council: And it looks like you called this person into your life when you are either bored, or in need of affection and attention. And that is what we see is going on now. And yes, you’ve had many lives with this person.
Is there anything that was planned to get together in this lifetime? We don’t see that, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t create it. You can create whatever it is that you want.
And so we would say, look at it, and before you begin to create more, what is it that you need with this person? What is lacking that you are looking for? You will find answers, and then you will decide whether you wish to put in the energy, a lot of energy, a lot of visualization, and a lot of feelings into creating this.
Capricorn: Could you please help me figure out if that’s all there is to this crush of mine?
Council: At this time we would say, yes. Like we have said before, there was nothing planned to have more. And once again, that doesn’t mean you can’t create it.
Capricorn: Did I sign a particular soul contract with him going into this life, or did I have any past lives with him?
Council: Past lives, yes. Contract? Here we go with the contract again. There was no contract. You had past lives with the agreement of, “Oh, maybe we’ll get together, maybe we’ll be friends, maybe you’ll come into my life at a certain point when I need you.”
And so it works both ways. When you call this into your life, this spirit will not only come for you, but you will have things that are there for the other spirits. So there will be growth and there will be something. But again we see here, we want you to look at this and see why you are bringing it in at this time. What are you looking for?
Capricorn: Or is this purely about physical attraction and my own issues with limerence and nothing more?
Bob: And because ‘limerence’ is something that we weren’t particularly familiar with, we looked it up. And it says: Limerence is a state of mind that describes an intense, obsessive, and involuntary infatuation, or romantic desire for another person, and is based on the uncertainty that the other person also desires you.
Council: It’s part of your issues. It’s part of a desire. And so again we say, think for a long time about this. And if you do bring this in, what kind of life do you see for yourself? What is going on?
And that is why you’re bringing this around at this time. You are looking for this to fill a feeling that is important for you to feel for yourself – a feeling of love for yourself, a feeling of knowing who you are, and a feeling of learning how powerful you are.
It could be that you want to create this relationship to see how powerful you are. And all of this is fine. It’s your reality to choose, and do what you wish.
Capricorn: We seem to be quite similar in some ways, and have interests in common, so intuitively I felt there might be something there, but I can’t explain any of it. Also, can I manifest a relationship with him if I decide to do that, or would that be impinging on his free will?
Council: You would not interfere with his free will. There would be an acceptance that person would feel, and that would be created. And then in another reality, if this person didn’t want to be with you, there would be a second reality where you are not together. And so there is no way you can change his free will, or the free will of anyone that you’d like to call into your life.
And so, enjoy your creations and learn from what we teach. There’s always a way it will help you. And just asking the questions shows that you are on another path to expand, to learn how to create, to look at yourself, to show kindness, and to bring in the happiness that we all want. And so we say, have fun with this.
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Did I Pre-Plan For Any Spirits To Be My Spouse Or Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, RA_Reader.
RA_Reader: Dear Cynthia, Bob, and The Council, I so appreciate your work. I was wondering if I planned meetings or contracts with a spouse and children for this lifetime, and anything else I might need to know with respect to this topic, such as timing and opportunity. Thanks so much.
Council: We love how so many of you are so hung up on these contracts, and you have to do something because you signed a contract, and if you don’t live up to that contract, you will be turned into a cinder block.
But we would say here, there’s no particular person or spirit that you wanted to meet in your current lifetime. There are many spirits that you agreed to have in your life, and you have all agreed to come together.
And so you are one of the many who wanted the freedom to create as you go along. Yes, you can have children. That was in your thoughts. You can have a marriage. You can also travel a lot. That was something that was wanted. But there were no spirits that you have to meet that are going to be your children, and no partner with a spiritual contract.
It’s just that so many of you got together and said, “Okay, let’s play along, and we’ll show up at a certain time. Let’s see what we can do with it.” And it was the freedom which is wanted more and more in this particular lifetime. The freedom to create as you go along. And when you find the person, you will know it. And the trials could be easy, or they could be difficult, but you will know it, and you will always grow from it. And you will experience what you focus on.
And so enjoy your creations. Learn from what we teach. There’s always a way it will help you. And just asking the questions is showing that you are on another path to expand, to learn how to create, to look at yourself, to show kindness, and to bring in the happiness that we all want. And so we say, have fun with this.
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How Do I Handle This Relationship With A Man Who Isn’t My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lisa.
Lisa: I met a man who makes me smile and feel special. Being around him instantly raises my vibration and makes me happy.
Council: With familiar souls that usually happens.
Lisa: We’re drawn together like magnets. He has asked me out, but I’m married and won’t have an affair. I want this person in my life as a friend because I feel like we bring each other up and can help each other, but I’m not exactly sure why the Sun or the universe brought him to me.
Council: The universe, or God, or whatever you believe in, brought him to you because you have called it in. You are at a point in your life where you want someone to make you feel special.
We suggest you begin to find things about yourself that make you feel special, so it doesn’t have to come from an outside source. When you begin to appreciate yourself and not rely on this person to help you feel good, then your relationship can move on and you can become friends.
Lisa: Is he my twin flame or soulmate? Am I crazy and he’s just a player, and I’m making this up because I want to feel loved?
Council: Yes, you’ve created it because you wanted to feel love, but it’s someone that you’ve known in other lifetimes. There’s that coming together with sort of a giggle because it’s what you have planned, and how you go forward with what you both create out of this relationship is in the works. And so, it’s a wonderful place for you to be at this time.
Lisa: My husband doesn’t know about him. If he did know about him, I’d never be allowed back to the park, even though we are just friends and only talk at the park. How should I handle this?
Council: Well, you can be honest and tell your husband this. Or you can just go there and not feel that this is something you have to be sneaky about because it’s just a friendship. And you have to be very clear that you want to keep the relationship just a friendship.
And so eventually we would hope you would get to a point and say, “Oh, I met this person and we talk a lot.” And maybe you can find out if this person is married, what kind of job is this person interested in, and does he have a family? And just repeat that to your husband so it is open, it is honest, and everyone will be okay with it. Let go of the thought that you have to keep this information quiet, or secret, or you won’t be able to go to the park. That will bring in drama and chaos.
So just think of it as a familiar soul. You’re friends right now and you’re just going to go forward. It doesn’t have to be secret. There’s nothing wrong. When you feel things have to be secret, that will create problems.
And so we send you all love, and wonderful, wonderful experiences, and clarity, and fun along the way. Life is always supposed to be fun, even in the difficulty. It’s the way you look at it. And know that no matter what, you have the ability to change it.
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How Can I Handle My Husband’s Secrecy And Lying?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, about her relationship with her husband.
Kristi: I am in what is turning into a dire situation, and I desperately need some help, clarity, and guidance. I have been married for 21 years, and have recently found out that my husband has been engaging in secretive behaviors that he’s been lying to me about. I found out he has been hiding and lying to me about these behaviors for most of our marriage, which that alone has completely destroyed me and the foundation of our relationship. During the past year, my gut has been telling me that he’s still lying to me, but he denies, denies, denies. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but my intuition isn’t letting me move on.
Council: So you say here you want to give this person the benefit of the doubt, and yet you have no belief in what he’s saying. So right there is a block that is in the way for it to turn around and have any sort of door open to a conversation that would be of benefit. So do you truly want to talk about it? Do you truly want to believe it? Or do you truly want the proof that this is going on?
So we’d say this question is all about you, not what your husband is doing. This is about learning your feelings, learning to go with what you believe, and really searching for how you feel.
So the best way to start is by asking, What is it that you really want? Do you really want to stay in this? Or do you finally want the proof that this is going on and you can release yourself from this partnership? So that’s the first lesson in this.
Kristi: I still feel like he’s lying to me to keep me from leaving him.
Council: And that must be very unsettling and very unhappy.
Kristi: I’ve tried everything in order to get the full truth out on the table so we can confront it, heal it, learn from it, and move past it, but he just wants to sweep it under the rug and move on.
Council: Here there’s a fear of speaking about it, and there are lessons that he is going through that you don’t understand or need to know right now. So trying to get this out on the table to talk about will not work right now. That doesn’t mean it will never work, but it will not work right now. Are you okay with this? Is there enough forgiveness, is there enough love there for you to wait it out and see what happens?
While you’re waiting it out, you have to do the imagery work, the feeling work, to see it the way you want it to be. And you can not do this unless you search yourself and you find out, do you really want it to be, or do you really want a way out? And then do the imagery work.
Kristi: During the last year my self-esteem has eroded and I found myself suicidal for the first time in my life.
Council: So now we ask you…that is a very serious thought…suicide. Why would you want to end your life because of a problem in a marriage? Why would you want to ruin your life because your partner is doing things that you don’t understand, you don’t appreciate, or you don’t like? Is that what your spirit really wants? Do you think your higher self wants you to end this life? No. It wants you to figure it out. Figure out who you are. Figure out what you want. No one can take good feelings about yourself from you unless you let them.
If he is doing something that you don’t understand and you think it is horrible, why would you end your life, which you can create any other way you want, because of another person’s problem?
So this question that you are coming to us for an answer, isn’t about your husband, how to get him to do this, how to get him to do that. It’s about you. Your higher self is saying, find guidance and listen to the answers, and figure out who you are so you don’t end this reality prematurely. We hope that is understood.
Kristi: I’ve tried to find concrete proof of his behavior, but I’m coming up short.
Council: You know they say when you search hard enough for something, eventually you’ll find it. So instead of looking for concrete proof that your husband is lying to you, look for proof that he’s not lying to you. So if you want the marriage, look for proof that the objectionable behavior is not happening. Really look for signs. If you want a way out, then keep looking for proof that it is happening. Do you see here how you are in control? Your thoughts, your mind – what you look for, you will find. You will create it.
Kristi: I have a difficult time ending my 21-year marriage based on my gut feeling with no definitive proof.
Council: Yes, the proof has to come from who you are, who you find out you are, and what you really want.
Kristi: I’m really struggling. Why am I taking the word of a liar over my own intuition? He has been gaslighting me for over a year and I’m doubting myself now. I don’t want to break up our family, and I want to believe him, but I’m lost. I’m scared I’m going to make the wrong decision and have regrets. I do love him, but our relationship isn’t in a good place right now. I personally am not in a good place either because I feel frozen and unsure of myself.
Council: Find thoughts that make you feel good first. Before you decide anything in this relationship – if it’s memories, if it’s fantasies, if it’s scenes from a movie – find something to think of that makes you feel good. From that vibration you ask yourself, “What is it that I want?” The answer then will come and it will be very clear. And the feeling you get with the answer that you see will help you make the move. And if it’s truly what you want, your higher self will show you how to deal with this all along the way, how to see it, how to let go of it, how to have patience knowing this person has their own problems, and the suffering, and perhaps – and we say here, perhaps – the lying.
So we’d say, do the work. Take the challenge. You created this because you wanted to find clarity, because you wanted to know how to learn more about yourself, and how you wanted your life to go on, and how you’d be of help to this other person who desperately needs it. Or how to let that other person find another way to deal with it and you go your merry way.
This is all about you, all about what you want. So do the work to make yourself feel good. Stop thinking of ending your life and start having happy, wonderful thoughts, and then start seeing your future. How would I be if I were free going on? How would it be if I stayed and helped? Does it make me happy to be of service? Will this change? And yes, it will change, if you want it. So the question is all about you.
Kristi: We can’t keep going on like this. I’d like to ask The Council for any insight about this situation that they can provide. What lessons are in play here? And what’s the best way to handle this situation? I don’t know how to reach him, and I’m afraid too much damage has been done.
Council: How about thinking, “Oh, I do know how to reach him. It will come to me. There will be some sort of peace. We will be able to work on this. He will soften and talk to me. We’ll find a way to know what we have to do, and I will be of service, not only to him, but to us. And so we wish you well on this.
Kristi: Thank you for any insights you can give me. With many thanks, Kristi.
Council: And so we send you blessings, and happiness, and light, beautiful energy to carry you through your days. To meditate and pray, or have a few moments a day to have happy thoughts, and move forward in your life, knowing every single thing that you are experiencing, you have brought in to be of service, to learn from it, and to bring healing and love into your reality.
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Do My Favorite Aunt And I Share A Past Life Connection?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks about their relationship with their aunt.
Anonymous: I’d like to ask a question about my relationship with my aunt. She has been my favorite aunt, and she’s almost like a second mother to me ever since childhood.
Council: And yes she was in another reality (lifetime).
Bob: The aunt was this person’s mother in another lifetime?
Council: Yes
Anonymous: We grew apart due to several family-related conflicts after I moved across the country. I want to ask if we share a past life connection.
Bob: Which you said that they do.
Council: Oh, and there is a very good life, we see, a very happy life for the two of you in Lemuria, which was also at the time of Atlantis. And what you did in the schools, you took the young children and you taught them – very interestingly here – to use their thoughts to bring in energy, to lift heavy objects, to learn how to work with colors and vibration, to move things around, and to heal with this.
And so in that particular lifetime, your purpose was to teach the children, very young children, how to play with energy, how to create it to make their lives more prosperous, more creative, and to learn how to work with – and I hope you’re ready for this – when someone is hurt by something you do or say, you teach them forgiveness.
And here’s where we play connect the dots. So what goes on with you and your aunt? What needs to be forgiven? Are you in a place where you can reach out now? Because you are bringing that lesson from that life into this life to see if you remember how to use it. How about that?
Anonymous: I think she may be a star seed like me. Possibly from Pleiades or Sirius. Can The Council please guide me about what are the lessons we are to learn from each other with these physical distances and conflicts?
Council: That there is no distance between love and two spirits, as you were and are again. There is love.
So if something has made a disruption in this relationship, now it’s up to you. Do you want to reach out? Do you want to try and make it happen? Can you make a phone call? Can you write a letter? Can you send an email? Are you ready to try to bring love back into this relationship?
You taught it, so you know how to do it. If this is something you want, meditate on it, pray on it. You will find the action to be taken will come to you. You will get an idea. But we would say, see it in your head first. Feel it that, oh my God, you are so happy, you are in touch with each other again. See it, feel it, because it’s already there for you. And once it’s created [on an emotional level], you will bring it into your physical life.
Wonderful lesson. And so we send you blessings, and happiness, and light, beautiful energy to carry you through your days, to meditate and pray. Or have a few moments a day to have happy thoughts and move forward in your life knowing every single thing that you are experiencing, you have brought in to be of service, to learn from it, and to bring healing and love into your reality.
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Can I Manifest A Romantic Relationship With A Guy I Met Online?
This post answers relationship questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine.
Christine: I have finally met this online guy twice. Our connection is incredible. However, I realize the reason it’s been so difficult for us to meet and manage any stability is due to his mental illness. Although I fully support him and want to be there for him, I can’t deal with the ghosting. He’s either completely obsessed with me, or disappears and I don’t exist.
Council: So from what we are hearing, it is very difficult to deal with this, and you’re not in a place that can accept it as it is and have the relationship when you can, or completely walk away. So #1, that is something you need to focus on and decide what works best for you.
Christine: I really sense we’ve had so many lives together, and he agrees, but were we ever in a romantic relationship in any lifetimes? I’d love to know that.
Council: We see many, many lifetimes, and yet – interesting that you ask this question – there’s never been a romantic relationship. You were always siblings or neighbors, and always growing up to around the age of 15, we see. And then, for whatever was going on in your lives at that time, you separated. So in your current lifetime, there is the coming together again, but in his way. This is how he will protect himself from the parting, which is not wanted.
Christine: I’ve discovered when he ghosts me, he’s playing video games, and I think he’s living in a virtual world.
Council: Yes.
Christine: But in 14 years of communication, he’s never mentioned it at all.
Council: So in 14 years this is never mentioned, you never got closer, and where it’s frustrating, you are still there in that relationship. What does this relationship give to you? And again, at this point, is this what you want? It’s a wonderful relationship if you find that it’s enough for you, but we hear and feel that more is wanted. In this particular relationship, and of course you can always change it, but it would take a lot of imagery, work, and feeling to change it. If that’s something you don’t want to do, then this will not get much better than what you have right now.
So there is the accepting that you wanted to learn, or put it on the side and have it when you can have it with this person, and find another relationship that’s more permanent.
So you have options here, but you have to figure out what it is, and then do the mental work to create it. That’s by meditating on it, seeing it down to the last detail the way you want it, over and over. And when you see it, feel it. Feel it like you already have it. And of course when you do this, the universe will bring it to you.
Christine: When he tells me he loves me, is it true, or is it the mental illness talking?
Council: In his reality, he does love you as best as he can, which is wonderful.
Christine: When he tells me, I can feel it and I can hear it, but is it really him, and is it coming from his soul?
Council: Of course it’s really him. There is no fake him. It’s what he’s feeling. And we would say, it would be nice for you to be able to accept that. Because as much as he can love you, he loves you.
Christine: He believes I’m his soulmate, but I feel we’re karmic. I feel like he’s punishing me in this life because of our previous past lives.
Council: There is no punishing going on here. It is something you both agreed to. And you agreed to experience it, and in it learn your likes and dislikes, and how to handle it. And most of all, like what everyone here is doing is, learn to accept it. If there’s true love there and you want to be in it, then accept it. But only you can decide what you want at this point.
Christine: Am I able to manifest a relationship with him, or if we haven’t planned to be together in this lifetime, am I able to do that?
Council: You can create whatever it is that you want, but we would say there are many lessons there. So we’d say for you, do the work. Go back and see how you met. How did it develop through the years into what it is? Fourteen of your Earth years is quite a long time.
Christine: I thought you can manifest whatever you want. I’d love some answers and would be grateful if you can provide me with some guidance. Much love, Christine.
Council: Well that’s a wonderful letter. And there’s so much in this lifetime for the both of you to realize, to accept about each other, to create more. And perhaps accept the relationship the way it is, but have another relationship where you get more out of it.
There’s learning that can be done. You can share with this person what you find out, what you’re working on, asking that person if they’d like to work on it also. And that, again, would bring a closeness. So you can just respond with what you find out for yourself, and share it, and see if just the sharing changes the relationship.
And so we wish all of you great happiness on your journey. You all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And with that we would say, have fun with it.
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Why Am I So Attached To The Person On My Mind?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about a person who’s on their mind.
Anonymous: Please help me understand why I’m so attached to the person on my mind. I have many theories, but I’m at the point where I need a definitive answer from Spirit. I hope that this is meant to be, and The Council can help me.
Council: We hope that if this is what you want, you know what to do about it. You are already doing the work in your mind to see it and experience it the way you want it to be, but we see here with this particular person, there are many, many lives together. The most important is in an orphanage in the early 1800s where you both lived. We find, for some reason, spirits that go through living together in an orphanage, that live a life of being abandoned and alone, seem to bond together, and they love coming back – they just love it.
There was also a life – just for fun we’ll tell you – when the Emperor Tiberius was alive and you were Roman soldiers in the Pretorian guard. We see in this life you were together again, both males, wanting to be in direct contact with the Emporer. That was wanted and worked for.
We see another life as farmers in Ireland, working the crops and taking care of the animals.
And so there were a lot of times coming together, and just having fun, and learning other things along the way. So again, in this lifetime there was no real commitment for you and this person to go into a loving relationship. And so if you’re enjoying this, then take hold of it and create it now the way you want it. But yes, this person on your mind, you share many, many lifetimes.
So you are in a good place that you recognize it and that there’s a familiar feeling. Right there should tell you, so now you don’t just handle it, as in let’s see what happens, or I’ll go with it, or maybe I’ll try to make it happen. Yes, you can reach out and try to make it happen, but first do the inner work with the imagery, the thoughts, and the feelings, and then you’ll create it the way you want it to be.
And so we send you blessings, and happiness, and light, beautiful energy to carry you through your days, and to meditate, and pray, or have a few moments a day to have happy thoughts. And move forward in your life knowing every single thing that you are experiencing, you have brought into this reality to be of service, to learn from it, and to bring healing and love into your reality.
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Help Me Understand Why My Efforts Amount To Nothing
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Desperate.
Desperate: I try to be a good person and to imagine good things for myself, but somehow I’ve ended up in relationships with narcissistic men and dead-end jobs.
Council: So it’s good that you realize this, you see this, but then ask yourself, what have you learned in these relationships? How would you do it differently?
And then it’s most important to start writing down, or thinking over and over, and visualizing the kind of relationship that you do want.
Desperate: I always imagine myself as a mother with kids and a large family, and I’m 43 years old, I’m alone, and I’m not fertile. I did everything I could. I pursued relationships, studied, and graduated, but somehow none of my efforts bears fruit. Could you please help me understand better my current situation?
Council: You had one particular lifetime – you had about 10 children – and that one was difficult, but you were very happy and your family was very happy. So you come in and you want to do it again, but another part of you wants the freedom to explore other things in your life.
So we say here, are you happy with your environment? Do you imagine you living somewhere else? And can you follow through about different places, read up about them, and get maps of different areas? When you do this, you open yourself up to a different way of life, to more independence, but you find more people that you’d want to build relationships with.
You will find a partner. And so, working together with this partner it could – if this person wants to explore it – have something to do with children, which is something you both spoke about when you were in spirit.
So again, for right now, just begin to think of what you want? But do more of the work. Do the chakra breathing. The chakras have to be aligned so you can bring in what you want. And when you write it down, it makes the image deeper in your conscious mind.
So be specific. Go into great detail about what it is that you want. And as you do this, you bring that in closer and closer to you. So we would say to do this at this particular time. But first of all, do the chakra breathing.
Bob: Desperate asks if her current situation related to past lives, which you’ve touched on. Is there anything else you want to say about the relationship of past lives to the current situation?
Council: There is a lot of movement that you want. You thought you would move around a lot in this particular lifetime. But we see if you concentrate now, a very important move will come along that will change your whole style of how you live, where you live, and who you live with. And so this next particular move should allow you to bring in with you and others what you have planned in spirit.
Desperate: How can I change course?
Council: You do the chakra breathing, you can collect pictures of places you’d like to visit, you can collect pictures of families standing in front of houses, and everything else that you want. We believe if you look at these pictures and if you imagine what you see – that you are in the picture – or you have something similar, that strong image will start to bring it into you.
Desperate: Thank you in advance, and thank you for the wonderful work you do. Sincerely, Desperate.
Council: It’s all up to you at this point. Do the work. You don’t have to know how it will happen, but do it and you will see the change. But first of all, do the chakra breathing.
We wish all of you great happiness on your journey. You’ve all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And with that we would say, have fun with it.
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Why Have I Never Had A Romantic Relationship?
This post answers relationship questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: In general in my life, I have a pattern of avoiding closeness and intimacy, and I feel easily constrained. I have never been in a romantic relationship, and especially when I was younger I felt considerable discomfort when I was approached in this respect.
Council: This was pre-planned for you to accept who you are, to be independent, and to watch and learn from the people around you. This was more for you to learn about you in this particular lifetime.
Anonymous: On the other hand, I don’t feel that I’ve had extremely strong desires or commitment to change in this area, but continuing as I have been also doesn’t feel right to me.
Council: Remember, at this point this was pre-determined by you before you came into this body, but you have the ability to change anything that you have pre-planned. And so with that, acknowledge you are at a place where you are uncomfortable in this solitary life. Maybe you’d like to experience a relationship, but not a permanent relationship. We see that’s not what you wanted. You can focus on perhaps even having a close friend. You can focus on that and then decide whether you like this, or whether it is better being more on your own and learning more about you.
Anonymous: What causes my blocks, and how can I address and heal them?
Council: There is no block. This was a choice. And the way you change this is to focus on what you’d like to experience now. Acknowledge what you planned, and now you’d like to change it a little. And the more you can focus on how you’d like it to be, to visualize it, feel it, what it might be like, you can change it. So there’s nothing to remove. Possibly there is a change or a new experience that’s wanted, and you are all in charge of that.
Anonymous: Or are they not blocks, and this is an indication that I intended to live a solitary life and focus on other things?
Council: You did intend that, but you have the ability and the power to change what you previously planned to do.
Anonymous: I try to visualize what I think each version of life could look like, but nothing feels like something I can commit to or settle into. Thank you.
Council: If you are visualizing and it doesn’t feel good, remember the feeling you get is from your higher self. If it doesn’t feel good going into a different sort of relationship, that is your higher self speaking to you.
And so we would say, then focus more on being happy, and different sorts of relationships come into your life so that there is a change and you do enjoy it. But to push and try to create something that does not feel good will not work well.
Blessings to everyone. And we see you all growing in leaps and bounds right now. And you will learn from your thoughts. You will learn from what you see going on in your life. You will learn from your planet. And what is going on? Just watch what’s going on in your life and you will know what you are creating.
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Am I Facing A Dark Night Of The Soul?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: Hello. Can The Council please let me know if I am facing a dark night of the soul? I’m misunderstood by a lot of people in my life, and it’s getting hard for me to continue with a lot of close relationships. I’m starting to lose trust and confidence, which is impacting my health a lot.
Following a fallout with my manager at work I have also faced a job loss recently, which has further amplified this health issue. Can The Council please guide me about how to come out of this despair, and if I have a past life history with my old manager?
Council: We would like to say here that if you were in this dark night of the soul, which is a very hard place to be, you wouldn’t be asking for our guidance because you wouldn’t be believing in anything. You’d be feeling completely alone. So the fact that you are asking shows that you know there is something more than you out there, but you don’t have a lot of patience to want to wait for it. It’s an uncomfortable feeling.
And so we would say when you have that feeling of this dark night, the best thing to do is to go into your heart chakra in your chest and build that up. Start filling it with green energy. Put this energy in your chest, down your arms, around the outside of your body, and just see the color green getting brighter, growing, going all the way down to your fingers and spurting out your fingers.
Work on the heart chakra. When that is getting the attention and the energy it needs, your thoughts, the way you feel, and what you experience in your life will change. It will get better. The heart chakra is very, very important. And so you can do the whole chakra meditation, or just for now work on the heart, but that will begin to lift your spirits.
Sometimes you can look for a little pinhead of light in the heart chakra, so it’s all green, but one little dot of white light. Watch it grow until it comes out of your body and all around you.
Bob: Any advice on a past life history with their old manager?
Council: Let’s see. You met in another life, very late in life. You took in a lot of homeless children, and it was hard, but you loved being of service. And it was almost like you had this life together, but you always felt you could do more and you didn’t, and it was very upsetting. And unfortunately when you left that reality, you weren’t happy with how you handled it, and you sort of blamed each other for holding each other back, or not doing things the right way.
And so in your current lifetime you wanted to see if you could work together, if you could take direction, if you can get along and make things happen, and really make things grow and advance in your careers. You wanted to get to a place where you could understand what each other wanted or needed, where in that other lifetime you didn’t. You just went around your business doing whatever you thought would work, but there wasn’t that togetherness. And so you wanted to come together again in this lifetime to see if that could happen.
Anonymous: I used to have a good relationship with this manager to begin with, and then it deteriorated very fast, which impacted my mental health a lot.
Council: So look at this relationship. What made it deteriorate? What sticks out for you?
Anonymous: I also have an on/off, mostly off, relationship with a husband who has an extreme ego. He misunderstands me, and justifies his bad actions with reasons that exist in his head, possibly influenced by my in-laws.
Council: It is influenced by – very interesting here – what you experienced in that past life with your boss. Not understanding exactly what you are experiencing with your husband, you wanted to experience this again to see how you could change it, how you could understand it, and how you can handle it. And so that problem with your husband is coming from a past life, and your desire to know how to change it. Can you do that?
Anonymous: It feels like I’m hitting a wall in all areas of my life. This hurts my child, as well. I’m trying to keep my thoughts positive, but it’s like fighting an internal battle every ten minutes and gets exhausting. Please guide me. Thanks a ton for the great work you guys do.
Council: Get into a place where you are willing to have this husband – where you see he wants his way, and does things his way, and it’s uncomfortable – get into a place where all you do is see it, and just think, let me flow with it. Let me have good thoughts, not want to change it, just have good thoughts and bring light to myself. And without bucking the problem and making it worse, not getting to a place where I must change this and I must change that, let me just watch it. Let me just flow with it, and I want peace, and I want things to work out. And just flowing with it, you will see how easily it comes.
Blessings to all, and have fun with your creations.
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I Feel Like Women Should Not Tolerate Or Allow Sexism
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to our post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me?
Anonymous: I do have a follow-up question for The Council regarding this topic (sexism). You mention allowing people to live their own path. I have a hard time allowing this behavior.
Council: How would you feel if you believed a certain way, or you did things a certain way, and people wouldn’t let you behave the way you want to? They wouldn’t allow you to have your own thoughts. That’s what you are explaining here. We are here to allow. It may be very difficult for us to allow, but we are here to learn that.
Bob: This reader seems to feel that they have a difficult time allowing this particular behavior (sexism).
Council: It doesn’t matter what the behavior is. You have some sort of problem with allowing it, and so change how you look at it. It may be upsetting for you, but can you say, “This is that spirit’s path. This is the way it wants to be. This is what it is choosing.”
They don’t need your okay to be this way, but can you open your heart to accept the way people are? You don’t have to agree with them, but you can not hope that everyone will think the way you think.
Anonymous: Why must we allow negative behavior?
Council: Because would you want to be living with robots that all behave a certain way and everyone is happy and good? What would you learn from this? How will you grow? How will you learn to expand if it’s only people who behave a certain way, who speak a certain way, and carry themselves a certain way? There’s learning in this for you. You may not like it, but you chose it.
Anonymous: Sexism is degrading and demeaning. I personally don’t feel like women should tolerate that behavior, or allow it when it comes to themselves, or when they see other people being victimized.
Council: Who are you to tell other women what they should allow and what they should accept? Again, you can only allow and accept what works for you. You can not say these women are wrong and how do they let this happen? There are reasons they are going through this and you don’t have to know what those reasons are.
Again, you are not allowing. This is your big, big lesson. So calm yourself down. Tell yourself, “I don’t need to understand this upsets me. So if people talk the way I don’t like, if they behave the way I don’t like, I don’t have to get angry. I don’t have to go into a big speech about how they’re behaving. I walk away.” Take yourself out of the presence of this sort of behavior. You’re in control. You don’t have to stand there and fight because it’s going to get you nowhere.
And you are determined to have these people act the way you want them to act. How would you like it if that was reversed?
Anonymous: Should we not help to raise peoples’ thoughts and vibrations?
Council: Yes, but you don’t stick it down anyone’s throat. And you don’t give anyone your opinion unless it’s asked, unless there’s a healthy dialog going on about this. But even if it is, allow the other people to have their say. If you can’t hear this, then you don’t belong in that dialog because you are not allowing.
Anonymous: Allowing negative behavior helps perpetuate it.
Council: In your reality. In others’ reality, allowing that behavior opens their eyes to try to find a way to change it. And so again, it’s all how you perceive it.
Anonymous: A father who is a womanizer can easily pass that behavior and thought process down to their sons.
Council: That’s one way. And another way is, the child will grow up seeing this and not agree with it, and not like it at all, and be totally different. You are going towards the negative. You are not allowing what’s going to happen. You see it only going in one direction.
Anonymous: When we have the opportunity to teach better options, shouldn’t we take it?
Council: If it’s wanted, yes. If you do it in kindness and show that there is another way without stomping all over somebody else for the way they are behaving, yes, you can do it with love. Everything with love.
Anonymous: I simply can’t turn my head and allow this negative low-vibration way of thinking. Sure, we can’t make someone think a certain way, but we can educate.
Council: If they want to be educated. There could be people around you saying, “Oh, there she goes again with a speech, with a, ‘You can’t take this, and you can’t take that, and this is not right.'” And so there are people that will look at you, where you think you’re doing a great job, and they are so tired of your behavior, but they are allowing you to do and say what you want to. It always goes in both directions.
And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.
We’d like to thank this anonymous reader for having the persistence and courage to take issue with The Council’s guidance in their original post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me? We imagine there are many people who feel the same way. By questioning The Council’s guidance it’s given The Council a valuable opportunity to make an important point about allowing people to behave in ways we don’t agree with rather than trying to change their behavior to be more in line with what we believe.
This point is not always easy to understand, yet it seems fundamental to what The Council has been teaching us for many years. We hope this anonymous reader and other readers who agree with her will be able to consider, as The Council suggests, that there are reasons these people who disagree with them are going through this different point of view, and you don’t have to know what those reasons are to allow them to believe in them.
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Do Pleiadians Come Here And Go Through Abuse For A Reason?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to our post, Do I Have A Connection To The Pleiades Constellation?
Anonymous: Do Pleiadians come here and go through abuse and addiction for a purpose?
Council: Many Pleiadians come here just to observe. They may put themselves in a situation where who they deal with and where they live, the surrounding people will be abusive so they can learn from this situation, watch it, and see how it develops to see how we, in our Earth reality, handle this. At times they might find this situation very interesting and want to experience it, but they can leave immediately, at any time.
And so Pleiadians come to Earth to learn or try to help. So maybe there’s a situation where they help someone being abused, or being an abuser. There are many reasons for Pleiadians to observe these situations, but it’s all a learning situation.
Bob: So it sounds like Pleiadians come here to go through abuse mostly for learning reasons?
Council: And where they are in their emotional reality and how they are developing, they will handle these situations in different ways.
And so again it’s the choice to experience what you focus on, and do you want to turn it around? Where do you want to see this going? Is it helpful to learn this? And how do you use this situation to help others? And that’s how we evolve. We help ourselves, we learn to understand, we learn to love, we learn to help, and we move on.
Bob: Are Pleiadians different from souls that come from other places in this regard?
Council: All souls are one.
Bob: So Pleiadians and all other souls sometimes come to Earth to go through abuse and addiction?
Council: Not all. Again, it’s the choice of the soul.
And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.
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What Did My Soul And This Man’s Soul Plan For This Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about a relationship.
Anonymous: I have questions connected to a comment on your post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny? I think I had something similar, but with a guy over social media who I felt helplessly drawn to know. He happened to move to my city, we met, and it was wonderful.
Council: We’d like to say here that if this is someone that you would like to get together with, you never miss your destiny. It goes in the direction that you want. If you feel you should have done this or you should have done that, and it drifted apart, and it didn’t work, you will get another opportunity to have what you want.
Now if you do the work, it would be with that same person, or if you just think of a perfect relationship, a wonderful relationship that makes you happy, you will bring it in. But you never miss a date with destiny. It will come around again if you want it.
Anonymous: He pursues me romantically, and it looks like we have feelings for each other. But he is polyamorous and has someone else, as well, who he’s marrying to bring into the country, which was a massive shock.
Council: So why would you want a relationship with someone that’s married to somebody else? And how do you see this happening? Do you want to be the third wheel? Wouldn’t you like to have a relationship of your own with this person, or some other person that you bring into your life? So we would say very seriously, ask yourself why on Earth would you want to be in a relationship with someone who is married to somebody else?
Bob: It’s possible that when Anonymous says, “He has someone else, as well, who he’s marrying to bring into the country…”
Council: It doesn’t matter why.
Bob: It may not be a romantic relationship. It may just be somebody that he wants to bring into the country.
Council: And those are excuses and that would not bring in the kind of relationship she’s looking for.
Anonymous: When, as you say in your post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny?, I think of all the good things that could come out of our being together and I feel intensely happy. But the idea of him being with other women only partly feels okay to me. I was wondering what our souls planned in this lifetime?
Council: The plan that we see was to just come together and have fun. We don’t see it becoming anything more than that. Of course that can always change. You are the creator. You can change that.
Anonymous: Did we say we’d just be friends, romantic partners, or in a polyamorous relationship?
Council: It was more or less let’s see what happens. Nothing, nothing, nothing is written in stone. Even if you made a contract and you signed it in blood, or you signed it in vibration, you can change it. You are the creator, and that is what is important for you to know.
But more than that it’s for you to find out what is it that you want? How do you want to experience this? What kind of a life do you want to have? Who do you want to bring into it? How do you want it to be?
We are sure you wouldn’t want to be somebody that’s on the side, that’s with a man who’s married to someone else. That’s not what we see you wanted.
So follow what you have both planned and just have some fun. And then you can move on, or perhaps you can change it, and you can if you do the work. And so it’s up to you.
Anonymous: If we were just meant to be friends, how many more of these little scenarios with men have I lined up for myself…
Council: As many as you want.
Anonymous: …before meeting the one?
Council: It’s all up to you. It could be one, it could be ten. It’s your thoughts and your feelings that will bring in the relationship that you want.
Anonymous: And how do I bypass these little scenarios and get straight to him?
Council: By focusing on what you want. The answer is very simple: focus, focus, focus. It’s not always easy to do, but that’s where you use discipline. How bad do you want it? Do you believe you can do it? And there’s no reason why you can’t do it. You are a spirit. You came here to play, to have fun, and create. That’s what you focus on now.
Anonymous: Another thing I was thinking that’s connected to the post, Did I Miss A Date With Destiny? Is it possible for the two of us, if we contracted to marry other people, to choose to stay together and marry each other instead? Are there any consequences to doing this?
Council: There are no consequences. You are the creator. And if you decided to stay together, then the other people that you would have been with have other souls that will jump in and come into their reality.
So no one is left hanging. There is no horrible mistake. There is no destiny that’s been missed. It’s all up to you. Have fun with it. Relax with it. Be happy with it. Everything will work the way you want it.
Anonymous: And do the people we don’t end up marrying, that we maybe had a contract to marry, find other people instead?
Council: In your mind please rip up this contract. There’s no contract that you can not change. Everything is changeable. Nothing is in stone. Forget all about that. There’s always Plan B, which we hear in your reality. There’s another scenario that will work out. No one will be left hanging.
Anonymous: Thank you. I’m a very curious soul and can’t wait to feel how the answers will expand my heart and my life.
Council: Have fun with it. These are fun questions. We love being part of this. We love watching you. We love giving you supportive energy. We love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.
And it might help when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, that you say to yourself, “Wow. Wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.
And we wish you all love and light. And take out your crayons and your paintbrushes and create the colors, the happiness, the feelings, anything you want.
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How Can I Attract A Loving Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jay.
Jay: I’m just so confused. Why is it that the guy I didn’t have any energetic connection with ended up being the guy I could open myself up to, while the guy I had a connection with triggered something in me to shut down?
Council: How could you think there’s no energetic connection if you can open yourself up to someone? We would say to take another look at this because if you feel safe enough to open up in any way that you imagine, there is a positive energetic connection there. So look for it, feel it. It’s definitely there.
Now it may be not what you want at this moment, but you have to give it time to grow, and watch it, and learn from this. And when there is no energetic connection, what do you mean by energetic connection? A love attachment, Intimacy? There’s much more than that in a connection.
And so watch and look at how you feel with both people and learn from it. And be aware of what’s going on. Be open to what you see.
Jay: I don’t know if I should continue dating or not. It seems to drain my energy, so I’ve decided to focus on creative pursuits to build myself up a bit more.
Council: So why does it drain your energy? Are you trying so hard to make something happen? Is it not going in the direction that you want?
You can date and keep things very light, and learn about yourself in these relationships, and learn about these people in the relationship. So there’s a lesson in there. There’s a learning that you wish to go through.
Jay: I did reach out to the first guy to be friends with him because I felt it was easy to open up to him, but I’m worried I could be setting myself up for an attachment.
Council: That’s because it’s something that you want, a relationship. It doesn’t mean it will be with this person. Can’t you have a friendly attachment to this person and then see how you feel? Or let things grow? Or fall apart? But watch these relationships?
Jay: What can I do to move past this and attract and keep a loving relationship with a man I desire, especially since I’ve never been in a relationship before?
Council: So if you’ve never been in a relationship before, imagine how you’d like your relationship to be. Nobody can do that for you. Nobody knows what you want.
So you have to do the work of getting yourself in a good vibration. Either meditate or think of happy thoughts. Anything to raise your vibration. And then imagine with the person you want, or a brand new person, how would you like it to be? And focus on that, and feel that.
And that’s how you bring in what you want. You always do the vibrational work first. It’s already happening for you. So for you to bring it in, imagine the way you want it.
These are fun questions. We love being part of this, we love watching you, we love giving you supportive energy, and we love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.
And it might help, when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, to say to yourself, “Wow, wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.
And we wish you all love and light, and take out your crayons and your paint brushes, and create the colors, the happiness, and the feelings. Create anything you want.
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Why Do You Put Yourself In Hurtful Situations With Your Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wairua, in response to our post, “How Can I Heal My Relationship With My Brother?”
Wairua: Thanks for your answers. What you’re suggesting (in the previous post mentioned above) is what I’ve been trying to do for the past year or so, but in the last few months, every interaction I have with my brother seems like an opportunity for his wife or him to criticize me and make accusations against me through messaging.
Council: Well one of the things we’d like to ask you is, if this is such a difficult relationship and if you feel criticized all the time, then why do you go back into it? When you keep doing the same thing and you see it’s not changing, it’s not the correct way to move forward. It’s not a way to find a different way to handle this, or to be in this situation. So we would say, when you’re feeling hurt and criticized, we ask you, why do you keep doing it? Do you think maybe it would be okay to accept not bothering with your brother at this time? If you do something different, you’ll get a different reaction, even if it takes a while.
So do you have the ability to pull away? And there’s nothing wrong with that. And when there’s contact again, be open, and see if your brother is open to finding another way to find out his thinking on this. But it’s more now about you questioning why you put yourself in such a hurtful situation when there’s not only criticism from your brother, but also from his wife.
As we see it now, if you go on reacting in the same way, the situation will not change. So a newer way is to let him go and send him lots of love whenever you can. And allow him to learn the lessons with his wife that he has to learn going through this to come around to a different way of handling it, but to stay in an upbeat, happy vibration, knowing that this can change for you. You know you can feel better about this relationship, whether it’s to be out of it right now, or just out of it for a while, and staying in the vibration of happiness.
And of course we understand it’s very difficult to go through this, but you have to know here that what you imagine and what you keep thinking will create what you experience. So if you stay in the thought of feeling criticized, feeling hurt, and of not having a relationship, it will stay like that. So it’s your duty to change the thought. And the thought would be, let me step away from this. Maybe he’ll find a way to want to speak with me. Maybe he’ll miss me if I don’t keep calling and going through this criticism. It’s about you. Part of what you experience is by making boundaries and of appreciating yourself.
And no matter what goes on around you, stay in a higher vibration. When someone is in anger, when someone is being mean, they can’t reach you when you are in happiness. When you aren’t seeing your relationship changing, when you are seeing it getting better, and feeling it, that lower vibration can not reach you. It must change in your reality, and that is the key. What you need to focus on now is to make a decision, feel good, and just let it go for now. And with your thoughts, and with your feelings, keep creating the way you want your life to be. And know, to really know, this can change, but I must take the steps to handle the situation differently. When I handle things differently it must change.
Wairua: The relationship between me, my brother, and his wife has become so toxic that I feel I can no longer have anything to do with him because every conversation or interaction with him, however nice and pleasant, always comes back to bite me on the butt with false accusations, insults, backstabbing, attacks, judgments, and sometimes downright harassment.
Council: So listen to what you have just explained. Why would you want to stay in that? You can change it.
Wairua: Any kind of interaction with him at this stage has become dangerous for my mental health. So recently I’ve almost completely cut them out of my life in order to keep myself safe from the games my brother’s wife is playing. I haven’t found a way to have a relationship with my brother without his wife being there eavesdropping, interfering in some way, and finding a way to attack me.
Council: The way to have a relationship now is to have it differently. To have the relationship you want in vibration. Create it in vibration. Pretend, and see, and feel the way you’d like it to be. When you start it off in vibration, it must change. And that is how you change it. That is how you have the vibration with him right now. You have it with the good thoughts, with love, and seeing it be the way you want.
Wairua: The only way I know how to deal with this is to have nothing to do with them at all.
Council: That’s fine for right now, but you will have everything to do with him right now in vibration.
Wairua: Having nothing to do with them hurts and isn’t what I want, but I haven’t found any way to protect myself and keep myself safe while still having a relationship with him.
Council: And so instead of thinking of, this hurts, this relationship I can’t have, you change the thought to, I’m so happy, I’m so excited when we get along again, and I’ll create it in my thoughts, and have it that way for now.
Wairua: Do you have any other suggestions? Thanks again.
Council: Start building what you want in vibration. You will definitely see the change.
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What Are The Spiritual Reasons For Alzheimer’s And Dementia?
This post answers questions from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: What does The Council want us to know about Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia? Specifically, what can they tell us about caring for someone with these illnesses, and the spiritual reason for these illnesses?
Council: Number 1, these souls are so brave and so courageous to come into this reality and experience these diseases for themselves, and mostly for the people around them.
Do not think for one moment that these people do not understand what is going on, because they do. There’s a way they want to teach you to understand them without words, to understand them and communicate with them through feelings.
And when you do this, at one point you will find that there is communication. And even though their outward way of behaving or trying to speak does not make sense, watch them. And when you watch them, see what you feel. No matter what, they want you to love them the way they are.
They mostly have decided to do this so that you can experience love, to have the love inside of you grow more than you ever thought it could, and to accept them the way they are, and they will know it. They will know when you’re trying to communicate. They will know that even though they are different, you are accepting them. You are giving them love, and that will help you grow, and that will help them grow.
And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can. Feel it for yourselves every single day, and you’ll begin to change your life for the better.
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How Can I Heal My Relationship With My Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wairua47, after they read our post, Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?
Wairua: Thanks for answering this question about estrangement in the earlier post. I have a very similar situation with my brother, so these answers are helpful. I’d like to know the cause of my situation, and in what area are there lessons to learn?
Council: There are lessons in every part of everything you experience.
Wairua: And are there any possible solutions to help heal what I thought was a great relationship with my brother. We’re both in our 40s and it turns out he may not have been honest with me over the years about our sibling relationship. I have no idea for how long.
Our relationship has recently turned extremely toxic by his wife who apparently thinks I’m the worst person on the planet, and she has started airing 25+ years of supposed grudges against me. Most of these grudges make absolutely no sense to me and seem insane.
Council: Remember here that you and your brother have allowed this to come into your lives to experience it. So even if his wife is causing problems, it’s his place to deal with it in any way he can. Even if he doesn’t believe what she’s doing, he’s trying to find a way to deal with that. You, on the other hand, are blaming her and maybe blaming him. You don’t know what’s going on.
We’d suggest, at this time, that you have the best relationship with your brother that you can have right now. What would that be like? Would it be when you speak with him not to bring up the complaints and don’t mention his wife? When you act like that, do you have a better relationship with him? And so remove what you think the problem is and see how your relationship goes.
Wairua: When I message my brother he usually ignores me. But when I call him on the phone he appears to enjoy speaking to me and has good things to say, be he seems to avoid questions about all the stuff his wife says.
Council: And again we suggest you not bring that up. It’s very difficult for him to deal with it at this time. And so he may love talking with you, but he doesn’t want to go into the problems, and that’s the way he needs to handle that right now.
Wairua: But then, after every nice phone conversation with him, I always get some upsetting, or angry, or accusing messages from either his wife or from him. Obviously I’m not actually sure who’s actually messaging me. This has been continuing for months. He never seems to try to get in touch with me unless there’s a complaint, and recently I’ve asked him multiple times to call me about the last complaining message, but he just ignores me so I’ve given up trying.
Council: So if you were to get a call from him with a complaint, you can say something simple like, “I love talking with you, and when we don’t talk about complaints the conversations are better. So I won’t bring it up and I would appreciate if you don’t bring it up.” And this way it stays on sort of an even keel where you can somehow have the relationship until you realize something different about it, or your brother realizes something different.
So again, allow yourself a good conversation. Still call your brother when you want to and enjoy that. And if there are any complaints after your conversation, you don’t mention them.
Wairua: I’d love some help. He’s my only sibling. We have no cousins or other family and he means the world to me.
Council: We see here, the way this is going, it has a very good chance to heal, so don’t push it and don’t complain. And allow yourself, your brother, and his wife to do whatever they need to do, and it will flow.
And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can, feel it for yourselves every single day, and you’ll begin to change your life.
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Are There Past Lives, Karma, And Did My Ex-Boss And I Pre-Plan Our Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about past lives, karma, and her relationship with her ex-boss.
Anonymous: I would like to ask The Council whether there are past lives, and karma, and whether the current relationship with my former boss is something we had to experience in order to learn and grow from?
Council: Yes, there are past lives. On the other hand, karma is not the way people think of it in your life and in your world. Karma is only something you think you have to repair, or something that you think you have to change and make amends for. And the only karma that you will experience is what you think you have to experience. What you go through in your life, how you treat people, how you show empathy and love for others, that’s why we’re here.
So what is the most important thing, and we’ll underline this and say it many, many times. You’re here to show love, in any situation, in any way you can, like kindness, empathy, and love. Focus on your current life, not the past. You are not here to repay anything. You are here to bring love from spirit into this reality.
Anonymous: Here’s some context. When I was 23 I found a job which I really liked and wanted immensely. It was the only one I applied for right after school. At the interview I met my boss, let’s call him M. He did make an impact on me in a neutral way, but I have very strong memories from that meeting and I was accepted into his team. The whole process was super smooth and lucky for me. We worked together for three years and had a neutral relationship most of the time, but I felt very loyal to him and didn’t want to disappoint him.
After three years I decided to move teams for career growth. So for one year I was in a different company, but since I was unhappy, I searched for different jobs. Suddenly I was approached by a recruiter and recruited into a new company in a dream job made for me. And then I also discovered that my former boss, M, who I wasn’t in touch with at all, will be joining that company as my new manager on the same date. I felt it was a really big coincidence and luck on my side. I felt this is how things are meant to be.
We worked together again for one year, which was really intense. There were lots of ups and downs, both positive and negative, with successes and failures, but I always believed in him.
Council: Doesn’t that show you on some level that you are supportive of each other from other lifetimes, and that there is a comfort or a familiarity there, even if it goes no farther? It is just the getting together, popping in and out of each other’s lives that brings you to a point where you would discover, “Oh, there’s something here. What could it be?”
And then some people would go into past lives and other people would start thinking, “Maybe there’s something here. Are we supposed to be more?” It just gets you to feel familiar, that we all know each other, that we’ve been with each other at some point in different lifetimes. It’s just to get you to feel there’s something more, and there is. There’s so much more than just this reality you’re living in now.
Anonymous: We had a lot of disagreements, but in the end we discovered that we have a lot in common, and we strive for the same vision and values. However, before we could start working together, my boss, M, was fired. I was heartbroken for a long time, but then suddenly this experience made me evaluate my whole life, my values, and my approach to life, which is very positive, and since then I think about him a lot.
Council: We see that there will be another coming together, so you’ll have that opportunity.
Anonymous: I wonder if this experience is something that was meant to be, because for both of us it was a very intense learning relationship, and I wonder if there is more to it for us in the future?
Council: Yes. And if you wonder if it was meant to be, we would say of course it was meant to be because it’s happening for the both of you. You have both decided to make this happen, so let’s see where the two of you take it next.
As always we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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How Do I Let Go Of An Ex-Friend With Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsey.
Lindsey: I’d greatly appreciate The Council’s insight on a friendship that I’m having a hard time letting go of with love. We’ve known each other for about 15 years, and the last five years haven’t been great. During this time I’ve felt the friendship to be somewhat toxic and one-sided. There was a breaking point for me about three years ago, but I still showed up in group settings. I’ve since distanced myself more this past year, declining gatherings if she would be present. I dream of her often, which I find odd since we’re not in each other’s lives currently.
Council: It’s because subconsciously you do think of this person all the time without being aware of that. And so you would dream of this person, you’d have memories come up about this person, and you’d be, with your human brain, trying to figure out what’s going on, where in a situation such as this you’d have to come more from your heart and not your brain.
And so if it’s a toxic relationship, it’s fine to put an end to it if that’s what you want. But would you stay out of social situations because of this one person? And if you did, then once again your focus is on this person. There would be other people there for you to talk with and hang out with. And so think of it this way. If you need to let go of this relationship, that’s fine. But look at the surroundings, the people you want to be with, or don’t want to be with, and then make the decision for what you really want. And make yourself comfortable in that situation, and learn to focus on these other people. And you would see your feelings would be different hanging out with others in that group.
Lindsey: These past few years I’ve done a lot of self-work and I’m unwilling to allow people in my life that bring down my vibration, or don’t have good intentions.
Council: Ahh, right there, you don’t want people in your life that will bring down your vibration. Let’s see. We will put it this way. You are in control of your thoughts. And so other people that are around you, how you choose to see them will bring your relationship up or down.
Are you practicing accepting people the way they are? Maybe not understanding them. Maybe not even liking the way they react to things, or the way they treat you. But if you could find one good thing, even it’s, “Well, you know, I really don’t like being around this person, or this person annoys me, but they are going through their stuff, and I’ll send them some love.”
Or if I can’t do that, don’t focus on their negative qualities. And so when you don’t focus on these negative qualities, your vibration will not go down. You can simply think, “Oh, they’re on their path. I don’t get it. I don’t have to get it. I don’t have to understand it, but I can accept that.
Lindsey: Do you know if this is a relationship from a past life?
Council: We’d say, yes, there were several past lives. But what we’re trying to teach now and get people to understand, that past life doesn’t matter. It could have been wonderful. it could have been horrible. It could have been some of one and some of the other. You are here now to learn how to focus and create the relationships and life that you want.
And so even though many people like to know about the past – did I have a life with this one, did I have a life with that one – it really doesn’t matter. You are taking leaps up the ladder of enlightenment and growing, where you can let go of the thoughts of the past and see what’s going on now, how you handle it, how you can accept someone, and then just let it go and put your focus somewhere else. You will see a huge change in how you feel, and how your vibration is.
Lindsey: Do you have any advice on how I can be more at peace with the distance between us so I can honor the boundaries I feel are needed?
Council: Honor your boundaries, the ones that make you feel comfortable. Know that you had a relationship for a while. Try to remember the good parts of it and now say, for whatever reason I don’t understand yet, it’s time to let that relationship go. It’s so simple. It’s your choice.
Lindsey: Many thanks for all your guidance.
Council: So focus now on what you want – a new someone in your life, a more peaceful relationship with people around you, being able to feel more love from your heart. Even if you don’t like someone, you can just understand you are a spirit, they are a spirit, and you are all on your own paths.
And so as always, we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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Why Am I Intimidated By My Boss?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Audrey.
Audrey: I know I have a romantic past life with my boss, but why am I intimidated by him, or almost scared of him?
Council: What we see here is there’s not a life with a romantic relationship. In this particular past life you were siblings in a very large family and he was the oldest, and your parents had passed over already so he was taking care of the family. And your brother was very stern and very, very strict. He gave you and all the siblings many, many chores to do, and it was a hard relationship.
And when you were about twelve years old he left. He abandoned the whole family and you were terrified. And you even tried to find him, but you couldn’t, and it left you with a feeling of fear. And then you thought if he came back, what would he be like?
So that is disturbing you in your current lifetime because you’ve come together to try and be nice to each other, try to be supportive of each other, you working for him, him working with you. But that particular life does not have a romantic relationship between the two of you.
So we suggest you meditate on this life. Try to imagine being in a big family with him taking care of you, and it was a very hard life, and then being abandoned, but yet being afraid if he came back, what would he be like.
Bob: And what about Audrey’s question, why am I intimidated by him or almost scared of him?
Council: You were intimidated and scared of him in that previous lifetime. You were very young and he had to take on the whole family and try to take care of them. And he was a very angry person because he had to take care of everyone. So that left you in that lifetime being afraid of him, being intimidated, and having to do everything he said.
And so, in your current lifetime the feeling is coming up. But what you work on in this lifetime is that you don’t have to be intimidated, you can make boundaries, and you can be together as co-workers and friends. And the two souls here just want to get on pleasantly in this lifetime and be supportive of each other.
Bob: And you don’t see any past lives where Audrey had a romantic relationship with this soul?
Council: It doesn’t pertain to what’s going on now. This life as brother and sister is what’s affecting their current lifetime.
Bob: Is there a past life where they had a romantic relationship?
Council: We’re sure there probably are many.
Bob: But this past life as brother and sister is the one that’s affecting her currently?
Council: Yes, that’s what we said. Yes.
Bob: Okay.
Council: And so we wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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Can We Influence Another Person’s Lifespan?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about whether we can influence another person’s lifespan, and is in response to a post we recently published called, What You Create In Your Life Is The Only Thing That’s Important.
Anonymous: I found it interesting that The Council said the person who asked the question for this other post could imagine her husband passing (leaving his physical body) and this would make it happen. Or she could imagine him living longer if she didn’t want him to pass. I’m surprised because I didn’t believe we could affect someone else’s lifespan.
Council: We can’t. We definitely can not affect another person’s lifetime.
So let’s put this as simply as we can, and many people may have difficulty understanding this. You, as a spirit, are a gigantic ball of light. There are many, many parts of you in this life. When you create your own life, you focus on what you want, and part of you will experience that. If you want your partner to live, and you focus and focus, and see it happening, and you feel it, you will experience that.
If your partner wants to move on, a part of him will create that in his life and he will experience what he wants. So he will pass on. So you are not allowing him to die or be alive. You are creating what you want in your life, and you’re not forcing a life on your partner that he doesn’t want. He will still have the life he wants.
So you both will experience two different kinds of lives. In your life, your partner will experience living and getting well, and you will experience that. In your partner’s life, he will experience passing out of this lifetime. He will experience that and you will experience that.
So always focus on what you want. Don’t worry about what the other person wants. They will create whatever they focus on, and you will create whatever you focus on, and you will all have whatever it is that you want.
Anonymous: I thought that would be up to the soul of the person in question…
Council: It is.
Anonymous: …and couldn’t be influenced by another person.
Council: It’s not.
Bob: So your advice for that anonymous reader to imagine her husband passing and this would make it happen?
Council: If she focuses on that, and keeps focusing, and seeing it, and feeling it – whatever she focuses on will be created. It’s the law of the universe. But the other person will also create what they want.
So it’s not your place to be here worrying, “I’m going to force what I want on another person.” Or, “I’ll have things happen to him that he doesn’t want.” No. You’ll create what it is that you want. And how wonderful it is that your partner has the freedom, as a spirit, to still create what he wants.
So you will both experience the two different situations, but you’ll only be conscious of one of them.
Bob: I see. So it’s a question of multiple realities?
Council: Exactly. We always have the freedom to create. That’s why we say no one creates in your life but you. And your partner, or your neighbor, or your mother, or your father, has the ability to create what they want. So don’t focus on what other people want. Focus on what you want.
Bob: So Anonymous imagines her husband passing and this makes it happen. Does that have any influence on the husband’s life?
Council: Only in her experience. It doesn’t affect his life. He will create and experience whatever he’s focusing on. Her partner will pass on in the wife’s reality, but he will not pass on in his reality if he doesn’t want that.
We wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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What You Create In Your Life Is The Only Thing That’s Important
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks about her relationship with her husband.
Anonymous: I have a question about my family and marriage. My husband is not very supportive and he’s very calculating in our relationship. I lost my job three months ago and he doesn’t support me financially.
Council: So we’d ask you, what are you doing in this time? Are you trying to find another job? Are you being careful about what you think? When you constantly think this is hard, your husband is manipulative, he’s not supporting you – as you think of this, you create more of it. So hopefully we have all learned that.
So now think of when the relationship was better and when he was supportive. And also think about, I don’t need to depend on that. What can I do for myself? It’s a lesson in being independent.
And so we’d also say, yes you’ve written for some guidance and we would simply ask, have you sat down and spoken to your husband about how you feel? And not in a threatening way and not to have a fight, but if he was supportive before, why isn’t he supportive now? Find out where he is on his path, what he feels, and why he’s acting like this.
In your particular situation, communication is very important. So the first step is to sit down and have a talk about what’s going on, and why there is that change.
Anonymous: Verbally he supports me, but when it comes to money his attitude toward me is very calculating.
Council: So that is what you speak about. It’s good to have questions about this. It’s good to bring this up so that there’s a dialog.
Anonymous: I’ve been managing everything on my own. He’s not this way with his parents and other friends.
Lately he’s saying that he may not live long. I also have intuitions, being an empath, that he may not be able to live beyond two or three years. Can The Council please guide me if my husband’s soul has planned an ending, and what I can do to improve the relationship so that I’m truly happy for whatever time we have together?
Council: Well we’d say here it’s not important what your husband is planning. It’s important what you imagine will happen. If you don’t want your husband around, yes, you could imagine him passing from this incarnation very soon, or maybe lasting a year. But when you have that feeling it’s going to happen, you will create it because of that feeling.
You can change that if you don’t want your husband to leave this lifetime. Imagine him getting better, feeling better, becoming more of a partner, and having more understanding between the two of you.
It’s important for you to know what you create in your life is the only thing that’s important, and it comes from your thoughts and your feelings.
So don’t waste energy thinking about what is he planning or what is he doing. How do you want your life to go forward? How do you want it to unfold? That’s how powerful you are. We hope you understand this.
And so we wish you all love, happiness, and excitement on your journey, and think of wonderful, wonderful things to experience. It could be the littlest thing, but focus on that, and be in a state of gratitude for everything that you have and everything you’ve passed through. And that vibration of gratitude, little by little, will begin to change your life.
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What’s Blocking Me From Attracting A Romantic Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who wants to know what’s blocking them from attracting a romantic relationship in their life.
Anonymous: Could you please give me some insight into what’s blocking me from attracting a romantic relationship.
Council: You are.
Anonymous: I feel like I’m at a great place in my life and I’m generally very happy, but I’d love to experience a healthy romantic partnership and create a family with someone. I’ve been single for many years and I’ve done a lot of self-work, and I truly feel I have a lot to offer.
Council: Are you enjoying being single? Are you doing all sorts of things to make yourself happy? Because when you’re in that vibration of making yourself happy, you can bring more and more things into your life that will make you happy.
Anonymous: So I’m curious if there’s a block there that’s preventing me from attracting a life partner?
Council: The only block is you. No one can create a block in your life. You are the creator. So what’s stopping you is that maybe you don’t always believe that you’ll get a partner. Maybe you’re not being grateful enough for the life you have being single. What do you find that brings you happiness being single? Think of those things and the universe has no choice but to match what you’re thinking.
So if you’re thinking of things that make you happy, the universe will give you more things to make you happy. It’s like the universe says, “Oh, she likes to feel like that. Let’s do more things to help her stay feeling like that.”
And in the same respect, when you feel miserable the universe will go, “Oh, okay. She likes feeling miserable so let’s give her some examples of feeling miserable.
Pay attention to how you feel. Take your life in the direction that you want. Again, you are the creator. It will come if you do the work. Do you have the discipline to bless everything about being single? Think of things you’ve enjoyed being single. It’s that simple.
We wish you all love, happiness, and excitement on your journey, and think of wonderful, wonderful things to experience. It could be the littlest thing, but focus on that. And be in a state of gratitude for everything that you have and everything that you’ve passed through. And that vibration of gratitude, little by little, will begin to change your life.
And so we send you love.
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How Can I Deal With My Difficult Son?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ten.
Ten: I asked a question previously about creating a loving and lasting relationship with someone, and how that works with soul contracts. I’d like to understand what’s happening with my current situation. The person I’m imagining being with has moved to the other side of the world, which is perhaps the exact opposite thing I would like to have created.
Council: When you are creating, do you go into great detail on how this would happen?
Now this person moved away. Does it occur to you that things would come together and this person would move back, or you would move there? You don’t have to know how it’s going to happen, but just see yourselves together and believe it will happen, because every time you doubt, it slows everything up, and what you’re trying to create can’t come to you.
You can’t create what you want from being in a place of feeling the lack of what you desire, of thinking you don’t have it, of thinking it’s not working, of thinking it’s not going to be, and of thinking what’s wrong. So you have to get into that state of believing and feeling it’s already happening.
Ten: I have some understanding there are some things that are more or less predetermined, and this is making me doubt my ability to create the long-term relationship I want to have with this person.
Council: So if you listen to what you’ve just said, it’s making you doubt. The doubt is there. You keep creating doubt about how this would happen, or that you can even make it happen.
Ten: And I also doubt my free will.
Council: Ah. So doubting your free will it will never let it happen. Everyone has the free will to create whatever they want. And how fast you bring it in depends on: do you meditate on it, do you feel it all the time, do you see it all the time, and not go into the doubting, doubting, doubting?
You have free will. Of course you can create this, but you must get to the place where you know. You don’t have to know how, but you know it’s going to happen.
Ten: Is this somehow a wrong person that I have very little free will to create a happy relationship with?
Council: There is no wrong person if this is the one you want to create your life with.
And so, while you can’t control how the other person feels or works, you can create what you want. You want to have a relationship with this person. And so pretend like a little child would pretend they are an astronaut. Pretend it’s already in your vibration because it is. It is already in your vibration, but it can’t get to you when you keep going into: pererhaps it’s the wrong one, or I doubt this, or I doubt that. Keep thinking like this and you will not create it.
Ten: You mentioned “the right person” in the post above, Is The New Man I Met Right For Me? I’ve been imagining and feeling good about things until he moved away, and I still believe it’s possible, but I still belive it’s impossible and my efforts will be in vain.
Council: And so that’s part of the human condition. You believe something can happen, but suppose you’re wrong and you don’t want to get hurt because it won’t happen. And that’s exactly why you’re here. You are here to realize you are the creator. You are very powerful. You can use your mind, with discipline, to create whatever it is that you want.
And so that’s why you’re going through this now. It’s a lesson to show you that part of you knows it can create, but the fear comes in because you don’t want to be hurt, and suppose it’s the wrong person, and suppose it doesn’t happen.
So now you have a choice. Do you go with the good-feeling thought and keep thinking of the way you want it, and most of all, keep feeling it? Or are you going to let the fear take over and hold back everything that’s already there for you? Keep working on creating the dream you want.
And so we send you love, and light, and the thoughts to keep you in the positive vibration, and little by little learn how you are powerful spirits, and that you can create all of your desires.
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Can I Use The Akashic Field To Communicate With People Who Are Dead?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Stephen.
Stephen: Can the Akashic Field be used to communicate between the living and the dead?
Council: The Akashic Field is the universal memory of everything that’s been done. It’s something you can look into to discover about yourself and others, but to communicate with other spirits, that’s not what the Akashic Records are there for.
If you want to communicate with other spirits, we suggest that you learn to meditate. And do not call any particular spirit forward, but just in your meditations say, “I am available to all the good spirits that would like to come and communicate with me.” And always remember to do this. Surround yourself with the beautiful white light. And with discipline, and it may not happen right away, but with discipline you will be able to communicate.
And so we’ve enjoyed this again and we send you all blessings, and love, and happiness. And enjoy what you’ve created. And if you don’t like what you’ve created, then change it. Change it with your thoughts and how you think.
You’re a great spirit that’s here to learn many, many different things. And you’ve all created this time to come into this reality knowing it would be difficult, and knowing there would be a lot of chaos. But you came in to hold the beautiful light, to love no matter what, and you will see your lives change.
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Is The New Man I Met Right For Me?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophia, in response to our post, Letting Go Of Struggle And Handling Your Situation Differently.
Sophia: Thank you for your answer to my question about my partner smoking weed (marijuana), and me thinking of terminating my pregnancy. I did end my pregnancy and I broke up with my boyfriend. It was very difficult for him, and not easy, but liberating for me. He stopped smoking marijuana and he still wants to be with me. He started meditating and working on finances.
Soon after the breakup I met a guy who got me very interested because it seems like we have a lot in common. We feel very close to each other. Our parents live just 18 kilometers away. We both like to stay active. We grew up working hard. We have the same approach to work and living in a village. Our personalities are similar. And we both are interested in spirituality and self-growth, which is a very important point for me.
Council: So what we hear is a lot of … again … we, we we. Before it was the we with the person who was smoking marijuana, and you were pregnant, and you didn’t know if you wanted to have the baby. And so now that is terminated. And now you meet this wonderful person, and you have this in common and that in common. And we say, “And what about you?” What have you learned about yourself during the time you ended one relationship and started another? Jumping into another relationship you can create difficulties, and you can create a relationship not working out if you haven’t learned about yourself.
So we’d say, go back to the time when there was no other person in your life. What is it that you wanted for yourself? Not a relationship, but what is it that you want to be? How do you want to be? How do you want to live? And so you will grow from that, and then, again, you can pull in one, two, three other relationships. Whatever it takes for you to see, is this what I want? Is it not something that another person wants?
Don’t be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. Look at it. Is it the same? Does it have similar traits that your first relationship had? Did it work out and then all of a sudden it didn’t work out? So that person has a problem and you have a problem. And again, you are in something that isn’t going simply the way you want, where it’s easy and loving, and that’s it.
Everyone has baggage and everyone has to learn something. And so you need to learn about yourself and this other person needs to learn about himself. And in that time it’s good for you to not, what is the saying, put all your eggs in one basket. Allow this person to be who he is. Allow yourself to be who you are. And do not want your life to be without challenges because there are always challenges, and we learn to grow from them.
And so we’d say to enjoy what you have. When it turns difficult, is there anything similar in it that you had in your other relationships? Are you willing to learn from this? Are you willing to hang in there and see if it changes? Are you ready to run because it’s too much for you at the time?
And so right now your purpose is to learn about you, what you want, and what you don’t want. Where is your understanding of yourself? Where is your understanding of this other person? And so when you examine all of this you begin to know, I don’t have to stay in this relationship, I don’t have to jump into a relationship. And if this one doesn’t work I have to find someone else right away. This time is about you so that you don’t keep creating the same relationships that are so fun, that are so loving, that you want the same things in the beginning, and then, puff, out of nowhere it goes downhill.
Sophia: Since we met it all went so smoothly and quickly that I thought he was the one for me. It all seemed very positive. Everywhere we go it seems like people want to get closer to us. So what happened after it all went so quickly that he got scared of a relationship, and hasn’t healed past relationship trauma?
Council: It’s part of his life’s purpose. It’s part of him having to maybe learn why there’s a fear of relationships. Is he ready to jump into another relationship? Maybe it’s wonderful in the beginning, but when it gets very serious he can’t handle that right now. That’s for him to work out.
You, on the other hand, should be looking at: Okay, this person has a problem. Is it worth it? Is there really so much in common? Are there loving feelings? Or am I just here because it’s another relationship?
Sophia: So we started communicating less. My question is: Is it a sign for me to heal after my previous relationship…
Council: Of course.
Sophia: …and not jump in so quickly, and give him time to heal…
Council: Wonderful.
Sophia: …at the same time so then we’ll both be ready? Or is it a sign to move on because we’re not a match?
Council: It’s time for you to give each other time to learn, to heal and become friends, or to move on. Whatever it is, you can create this with your visualizations. So there’s nothing set in stone, but the key right now is for you to let each other heal. And for you, concentrate more on yourself and what it is you truly want.
Sophia: That close feeling we both felt keeps me thinking he could be the one for me.
Council: It could be. Let’s see what you create.
Sophia: I never felt so similar to anyone in my life so far. I feel that the universe is giving me a chance to choose a partner, as a lot of men showed up who pursue me, but they are either lacking something or they aren’t ready, like a guy who seems could be a great match.
Council: It’s not that they pursue you and are lacking something, or are not ready. It’s because you are lacking something and you are not ready, because you are not doing the work to understand yourself. Work on yourself.
Sophia: That’s very interesting for me. Hope it all will work out at the end.
Council: Do you see that you create someone … whether it’s one time, two times, three times, or four times … that’s so wonderful in the beginning, it looks like there’s so much in common, and then it goes poof. You create this scenario over, and over, and over until you do the work on yourself. And then when you’re happier with yourself and more aware of what you want, the (so to speak) right person will come along. But it’s all about you learning about you now.
We thank you and we send you all love, and blessings, and happiness, and wonderful, wonderful uplifting thoughts. And think of being in the light, and in love, and spreading it out everywhere you go.
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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