Is My Husband A Narcissist?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Wanderer.
Wanderer: Hello, Council, and Bob, and Cynthia. I have a very important question as I am going through an emotional and spiritual enlightening process. I want to check if you think my husband is a narcissist.
Council: Aah, so we hear you say you are going through an enlightening process, but being more enlightened, you would not be interested in somebody else being a narcissist. So right there is something for you to look at – how you are looking at this person or people in your life.
And even if they were under this title that you give them, it does not matter. What helps you grow as a spirit, and evolve, and have new people coming into your life is to allow them to be however they are. You may see them as narcissistic, and yet others may not.
So again we say, check on your perception of what is going on. And even if you feel they are [narcissistic], we would say to you, so what? Are you not here to learn to love? Are you not here to learn how to accept everyone the way they are? How you handle this is with your thoughts. If you evolve and allow them to be, you will find more peace, and it doesn’t matter what they are. And we hope you will work on this.
Wanderer: His family dynamics are such a way that I see very selfish behavior from men. This includes creating a story that includes selfish motives, not having boundaries, thinking children are supposed to serve elders, and so on.
Council: And in this, what is your behavior like? You can be aware of this, but are you kindly setting boundaries so you do not let the others affect you? Are you treating the children with kindness in love?
Everything that you see in another, take a look, because a part of it is for you to see what is bothering you, and what is going on in your life. Are you part of this? Are they a mirror to show you? And of course, we see, yes, your thinking, your perception, and your actions also need to be looked at so that they can change.
Wanderer: My husband has been neglectful and has double standards – different standards when it comes to his family, and different expectations when it comes to our own family.
Council: And that is part of his growth. It is part of who he is. And all you need to do is to be aware of it, and then act appropriately for yourself with kindness, and with letting others be.
Wanderer: I want to check if he is a narcissist, and if there’s any hope for a change.
Council: We would say that your belief that he is a narcissist makes it true for you. But we would also say that there are others who do not believe that. So is this person a narcissist, or isn’t he? It is what you believe. It is what you choose to see.
And at this point in humanity, how everyone is here to bring the love from spirit into your lifetime, it is what you choose to see. And even if you think he is, and his whole family is – they’re all narcissists – so does that mean that you have to be like that?
It’s like, wish them well, hope that they change, but you do the changing, you make your boundaries, you always be kind and show love. And it is not always easy, but we can tell you this: if you begin to try to be accepting, if you begin to show the littlest kindness, and not keep tabs on what you do, and what they do, if you come with that intention, your life will change. You will grow. The people in your life will change. You will bring new people into your life, and you will find happiness. And so take the attention and put it on yourself. How would you like to be?
Wanderer: Interestingly, I think my mother has also been somewhat neglectful toward my Dad, and has been unable to love him truly. So there’s a pattern in this behavior I can see where they don’t see their own faults, and they weave a storyline that suits them.
Council: And we see the pattern, and this does not make it good or bad. It makes it come to your attention that we see the pattern that you are seeing negatively into each person, that you are tuned into that negative vibration where you will find things wrong with others. Again, take a look at this. Do you see the pattern? Are you willing to change? And most important, how will you go forward? What about you? What about your thoughts? What about your actions?
It is all coming to a head that you will see all these actions in others that you think are horrible, but we would say, what is your part in this? You wanted to learn this. It is here in front of you. And so you are in a wonderful place on your path where you have the ability to acknowledge, but then to plan how you want to be.
Wanderer: I’m trying to develop more self-love…
Council: That’s the key.
Wanderer: …and self-worth at this time to be able to choose better.
Council: That’s the key. You’re getting it. We are very proud of you.
Wanderer: I have a question on my personality type, as well. My husband is a master at gaslighting, and tells me that I’m narcissistic, where I’ve only been a giver in this relationship.
Council: And so he sees you as this. Do you see the pattern that is going on between all of you? And he sees you as narcissistic. You do not believe you are that way. And that’s what you [should] think of when you see him as narcissistic, or his family. They don’t believe they are that way. And so the lesson is right there in front of you.
Wanderer: Can The Council please guide me if I have any narcissistic traits?
Council: To other people, yes. To you, no. What is more important is how you see yourself, how to be honest with yourself, the way you are acting, and never mind what everybody else thinks. That is your lesson going forward.
Wanderer: Also, can The Council please guide me on how I overcome this narcissistic and financial abuse?
Council: You begin to love yourself. Really, really love yourself, and to show kindness to yourself, to others, to make boundaries with love, and with kindness. Then everything will begin to change.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are, that you are all spirits here on the same path of bringing love, of bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, and of feeling good about yourself. How learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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What Can You Tell Me About Our New Cat?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named The Inquisitor.
Inquisitor: I am wondering if you can tell me about my new kitten? We adopted a new special breed of cat because of allergies in the house. He is so unlike any kitten I have cared for, and I am wondering if I can provide him with something more.
Council: We would want to say here that just like a human being – animals, plants, and minerals – they all want the feeling of touch. They want the feeling of love. And they are here to teach you to bring it out so that you grow with these feelings.
Inquisitor: I have scarcely seen him play, and he just wants to be close to us and sleep. His appetite is good, he is very vocal, and he gets a lot of human availability and attention.
Council: So this is wonderful. Not only for the cat, but for the people around it. It is the cat’s purpose to bring out the feeling of love. And so if this is all the way you say it is, this is all that it is getting, it is all that is needed. And that also is all that is needed in human form. The touch, the compassion, the feeling of love, and safety. And so you are doing a good job.
Inquisitor: It has been a few weeks. Does he miss his family?
Council: This animal does not think that way. You are his family, and that is what it knows.
Inquisitor: Does he need a companion?
Council: At this time, we do not see that. Maybe if it becomes more playful, you may see it may want a companion, but right now it is very important what you are doing, and all is fine.
Inquisitor: Do we know him from some time in the past?
Council: We do not see that with this particular animal. And so it is a new soul that has come into your life. Welcome it.
Inquisitor: Any information you can share about him is very appreciated.
Council: And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, about feeling good about others, and about feeling good about yourself. How learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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Do I Have Hybrid Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Shawn.
Shawn: Do I have hybrid children? My name is Shawn and I’m from Virginia. I have been seeing UFOs, and aliens, and hybrid children.
Council: Very interesting that at this time, where what you would call aliens are being chosen to come forward, and a little at a time having the human person identifying with them and seeing them. Some believe they are part of them.
And so, you are in that place where you are open to communication. And when you ask, “Do you have hybrid children?” we would say, in this particular human lifetime, no. But you have been around thousands of years, and have been in different galaxies, on different planets. And so there were children there that were yours. Would you consider them hybrid? No. They were your children then. And so it is easy for you to feel a connection, and wanting to know more.
We would say, what would be very interesting for you to find out, it would be the aliens (so to speak as you identify them) that came into Atlantis and taught the people there because they were more advanced. They taught the people in Atlantis how to use energy to build things, to create, and to move things. And so any stories you can find, perhaps movies, any books, on how Atlantis was developed, you would find interesting because you were part of that.
Bob: By hybrid children, Shawn is refering to children of human and alien parents together?
Council: Yes, yes. And so in this lifetime there was no connection between the human and an alien to have children, in this particular lifetime.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here on the same path of bringing love and bringing acceptance, about feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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Finding Gratitude in Marriage
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initial, A.
A: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thank you for taking our questions. I would like some insight into my marriage. I don’t feel like I can be myself around my husband. It feels like my heart is closed off. I have a lot of resentment towards him, especially since having a child, and where the first few years I received almost no support from him.
Council: And so why are you now staying in that past, and what you experienced in the past? Can you see anything that you can be grateful for in your marriage now? Look at your partner. What is there that’s positive about him? Look for the good. When you do this you will find it. And the more you look, the more you will find.
A: I have found his behavior to be very selfish. I try to move past the resentment, but each new selfish act reminds me of the past. I no longer feel joy when I am around him.
Council: And so, when you see him do something you consider selfish, take a look at it. Is it really selfish? Or are you just going back into that feeling of how it was before? And if you see him doing something selfish, can you replace it and force yourself to find something that’s good? We ask you to look at this so that you can make a decision for yourself that’s more of what you want.
A: We have brought up divorce quite a few times. I’m not sure if this is the route I want to take.
Council: And that is why it’s good, at this point, to look for stuff to be grateful for in your marriage.
A: When I imagine that [divorce] future, part of it feels more freeing, but not all of it. I also don’t want to remain in a relationship where I feel alone and misunderstood.
Council: And when you feel like this, what usually happens in your human existence is you look for someone else. Someone that would give you the littlest bit of attention. And so we say, before you go there, look and see what works, and if there is great kindness in your marriage.
A: I’m not sure if I’m expecting too much from my relationship. I know I need to learn independence, but I’m not sure if this is the real problem, or if it’s just incompatibility between us.
Council: So again you’re saying you need to learn independence. What can you do to experience that now? Take that step in changing yourself. Take that step of learning something that you feel you need to learn. It is wise that you know that. So instead of waiting until later, do it now.
A: Another strange thing has been happening. I met this man…
Council: Ahhh!
A: …that I have hardly spoken with, and when I’m near him, I think about him. I have very strong feelings that cause me to question my marriage. This has happened twice now. I’ve never felt feelings like this towards another person.
Council: Because there is a longing in you that is looking for something new, something easy, something happy.
A: Who is this person to me?
Council: It is a spirit that you have called in because you feel something lacking in what you have now.
A: Are these my feelings, his feelings, or both?
Council: It is your feelings. And you can create it to go in any direction you want. But we say, question yourself, look for the good, come up with an answer, and then start the focusing and imagery on how you want your life to be.
A: Thank you very much for any insight you can provide.
Council: And we send you peace and love.
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Does My Girlfriend Have Spiritual Insights, Or Is She Crazy?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gašper.
Gašper: Hi, Bob and Cythia. Thank you for these great posts. It does relate to what I’m bringing into my life, although it seems strange to me why I would bring myself difficulties, as there are so many options for me to have fun on Earth.
Council: Because when you are in spirit, you have an idea of what you may want to create, what challenges you want to face, and how you want to work through them. And so this is all setup, and now we would say, “How are you handling your challenge?”
Gašper: I wonder if I can directly ask a related question here? My girlfriend of 11 years has completely changed from being shy to being extroverted and intensely spiritual. She claims she’s the reincarnation of Jesus Christ and listens to literature relating to him and other spiritual things like the Tao Te Ching, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, and so on. But a lot of people suggest that she’s delusional, although she says many things that seem wise and spiritual. She claims that she feels pain all across her body and connects that to the crucifixion in her previous lifetime.
I don’t know where she’s at. Is she a mental patient who’s psychotic and schizophrenic, or are these spiritual insights real that she claims she can feel and understand?
Council: Unfortunately there are many people that are in institutions that are thought to be psychotic and out of their minds, and in fact they are experiencing what they say, for whatever reason that they worked out in spirit.
Now with this person, being an introvert and not sure who she was or what she wanted, she was very sad, and wanted to be this kind of person and that kind of person, and just lost her way. But how she handled it is – and many people would not understand this – to make herself happy she has connected with many lives that she has had. She has connected with things she has imagined she would like to do, and this has taken over her personality.
And this person is very happy thinking she’s Jesus Christ, or a saint, or someone that is very happy, that is very aware of their life, that is able to practice prayers, that is able to practice shamanic beliefs and pagan beliefs. There are many, many lives that she has experienced that she just opened up to in this lifetime because there was such a horrendous not knowing and not being happy with who she was. We hope that is understood?
Gašper: Life with her has become increasingly difficult, as I find her behavior, which includes shamanic dances, singing, yelling, and shaking during sleeping very odd, uncomfortable, and unsocial.
Council: Of course. This is very unacceptable in our reality and our culture. So her being happy and tapping into these different lives sets everybody around her thinking, “This person is crazy.” She’s not crazy. She’s tapping into all the other little pieces of her that she went through in other lifetimes. This doesn’t make it easy for you or the people around her.
Now we have come here to help each other. We have come here to just be. And so in your place, we would say kindness is the best thing you can give her, and maybe talking about things that she experienced before these changes came. You can talk to her and ask her how she changed when she was so quiet, and see what she’s able to tell you.
And you will learn from this, and that is part of this. This is a big experience for her to help you learn about other lives and about so much more than you can experience in this lifetime. This is opening a door for her and for you. How you wish to handle it and what you can feel is comfortable is for you to decide. But we would say, there is no excuse for meanness, and there is no excuse for anger or violence. And we’d like to make that very clear.
And so now you have to play with the thought of what she’s going through. How does it affect you? What are you learning? And how do you want to go forward with this?
Gašper: And my friends and family tell me that I’d better escape such a partnership.
Council: If you wanted to escape it before the lesson is finished, you wouldn’t have created it.
Gašper: I regret that I was aggressive towards her yesterday due to her behavior. I promised to her and myself not to act that way again. It’s as if she and I don’t live in the same world, and that the truth doesn’t lie in either of these two worlds. Thank you.
Council: And so again we would say, you both created this situation and agreed to it. Besides being frustrated or worried and hearing everybody else telling you that she is nuts, what are you learning? What kind of person is she when she’s doing these other things? How does she act when she thinks she is Jesus? How does she act when she’s doing shamanic dancing? Everything that she does, look at this and learn. There are things in here you will learn from.
There is a possibility that in time she can revert back to what she wants to experience here, but maybe be more extroverted, maybe being able to understand and see what she’s gone through, and then take it to the next level.
And so we would say, do what you can, watch this behavior, and forget everybody else’s opinions. What are you learning? Could there be a grain of truth to what your girlfriend is saying? Yes, there is. And now you know she went there because she was so unhappy being who she was. And she is so happy when she is dancing, or in ritual, or reading a bible, or telling a story about Jesus. Watch how the personality changes, and you will see how she was in all these other lives.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying that Gašper and his girlfriend had pre-arranged in spirit to have this kind of relationship…
Council: Yes.
Gašper: …and that he planned to see it through? Because it sounds like he’s questioning whether or not to leave his girlfriend.
Council: The idea was to go through it together and learn from it. And that’s where it is right now. Now is the learning process. If you look at what’s going on right now without judgement, without flipping out and thinking she is nuts, but look at the different lives she’s lived, look at the different personality when she becomes each one of them, and in there is something you both wanted to learn. And we don’t give that away because then we’re handing you your lesson. Just watch it. And then whether you wish to stay in it is totally up to you. But we would never tell you, “Yes, you have to stay there.” No, you don’t. But be in it, and learn from it. And I think if all goes the way you wish it would go, then eventually things, whether it’s by running to a doctor and getting medication, something will turn it around. The idea was to be in it and learn in it. Learn about that person, and then – surprise, surprise – learn about yourself. Who are you while this is happening? How do you handle it?
Very, very brave spirits. This was indeed a wonderful day and we enjoyed these questions. And to everyone who asks for our help, we are overjoyed when we are asked for help. We want you all to know that we are always with you. We always send you healing energy. And just know that no matter what, you are not alone. We are here. Talk to us like we are sitting right next to you. Make us part of your life, because what we want is for spirit to come into your reality, for you to learn that you are spirit. You are part of us, we are part of you. And as you go through joys, and hardships, and challenges, and rewards, we go with you. And so we send you blessings, and love, and light.
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Did I Pre-Plan For Any Spirits To Be My Spouse Or Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, RA_Reader.
RA_Reader: Dear Cynthia, Bob, and The Council, I so appreciate your work. I was wondering if I planned meetings or contracts with a spouse and children for this lifetime, and anything else I might need to know with respect to this topic, such as timing and opportunity. Thanks so much.
Council: We love how so many of you are so hung up on these contracts, and you have to do something because you signed a contract, and if you don’t live up to that contract, you will be turned into a cinder block.
But we would say here, there’s no particular person or spirit that you wanted to meet in your current lifetime. There are many spirits that you agreed to have in your life, and you have all agreed to come together.
And so you are one of the many who wanted the freedom to create as you go along. Yes, you can have children. That was in your thoughts. You can have a marriage. You can also travel a lot. That was something that was wanted. But there were no spirits that you have to meet that are going to be your children, and no partner with a spiritual contract.
It’s just that so many of you got together and said, “Okay, let’s play along, and we’ll show up at a certain time. Let’s see what we can do with it.” And it was the freedom which is wanted more and more in this particular lifetime. The freedom to create as you go along. And when you find the person, you will know it. And the trials could be easy, or they could be difficult, but you will know it, and you will always grow from it. And you will experience what you focus on.
And so enjoy your creations. Learn from what we teach. There’s always a way it will help you. And just asking the questions is showing that you are on another path to expand, to learn how to create, to look at yourself, to show kindness, and to bring in the happiness that we all want. And so we say, have fun with this.
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Are There Past Lives, Karma, And Did My Ex-Boss And I Pre-Plan Our Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about past lives, karma, and her relationship with her ex-boss.
Anonymous: I would like to ask The Council whether there are past lives, and karma, and whether the current relationship with my former boss is something we had to experience in order to learn and grow from?
Council: Yes, there are past lives. On the other hand, karma is not the way people think of it in your life and in your world. Karma is only something you think you have to repair, or something that you think you have to change and make amends for. And the only karma that you will experience is what you think you have to experience. What you go through in your life, how you treat people, how you show empathy and love for others, that’s why we’re here.
So what is the most important thing, and we’ll underline this and say it many, many times. You’re here to show love, in any situation, in any way you can, like kindness, empathy, and love. Focus on your current life, not the past. You are not here to repay anything. You are here to bring love from spirit into this reality.
Anonymous: Here’s some context. When I was 23 I found a job which I really liked and wanted immensely. It was the only one I applied for right after school. At the interview I met my boss, let’s call him M. He did make an impact on me in a neutral way, but I have very strong memories from that meeting and I was accepted into his team. The whole process was super smooth and lucky for me. We worked together for three years and had a neutral relationship most of the time, but I felt very loyal to him and didn’t want to disappoint him.
After three years I decided to move teams for career growth. So for one year I was in a different company, but since I was unhappy, I searched for different jobs. Suddenly I was approached by a recruiter and recruited into a new company in a dream job made for me. And then I also discovered that my former boss, M, who I wasn’t in touch with at all, will be joining that company as my new manager on the same date. I felt it was a really big coincidence and luck on my side. I felt this is how things are meant to be.
We worked together again for one year, which was really intense. There were lots of ups and downs, both positive and negative, with successes and failures, but I always believed in him.
Council: Doesn’t that show you on some level that you are supportive of each other from other lifetimes, and that there is a comfort or a familiarity there, even if it goes no farther? It is just the getting together, popping in and out of each other’s lives that brings you to a point where you would discover, “Oh, there’s something here. What could it be?”
And then some people would go into past lives and other people would start thinking, “Maybe there’s something here. Are we supposed to be more?” It just gets you to feel familiar, that we all know each other, that we’ve been with each other at some point in different lifetimes. It’s just to get you to feel there’s something more, and there is. There’s so much more than just this reality you’re living in now.
Anonymous: We had a lot of disagreements, but in the end we discovered that we have a lot in common, and we strive for the same vision and values. However, before we could start working together, my boss, M, was fired. I was heartbroken for a long time, but then suddenly this experience made me evaluate my whole life, my values, and my approach to life, which is very positive, and since then I think about him a lot.
Council: We see that there will be another coming together, so you’ll have that opportunity.
Anonymous: I wonder if this experience is something that was meant to be, because for both of us it was a very intense learning relationship, and I wonder if there is more to it for us in the future?
Council: Yes. And if you wonder if it was meant to be, we would say of course it was meant to be because it’s happening for the both of you. You have both decided to make this happen, so let’s see where the two of you take it next.
As always we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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You’re Here To Learn To Use Your Thoughts To Create The Life You Want
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Rebekah.
Rebekah: I’ve been feeling a bit paranoid recently. I’m afraid of being powerless, I’m afraid of losing control of my mind, and I’m also afraid of developing schizophrenia.
Council: So many people in your reality right now are feeling powerless and are wondering what’s going on in this world, forgetting that you are the one that’s creating your world. Feeling powerless and worried and confused, that vibration is all around. And so how you counteract this is by thinking about the way you’d like this world to be, the way you’d like to be, and the way you’d like your friends and family to be. Ask to see it. Ask to see more people experiencing joy. Put that out there and then just watch and see what the universe brings to you. You are not powerless, and you are not out of control. You are just here to learn how to use your thoughts to create the life that you want.
Rebekah: My cousin has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and I wish I could know how to help him.
Council: Your cousin’s journey is different from yours, and by helping him you can not change what he’s created for himself. There are reasons he wants to go through this. And so all you can do is show him love, show him understanding, and show him kindness at all times. That’s your only role here. You can’t change another person. Look at him as a spirit. Respect him for whatever reason he’s chosen this path. Part of it is to get you to accept it.
Rebekah: Anyway, I was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) a few years ago. The diagnosis makes sense to me. My therapist said I seem to be currently experiencing some kind of trauma response, but the trauma is unknown. I did psychedelic mushrooms for the first time on New Year’s Day this year and had a frightening experience of being a baby and being afraid.
Council: When you’re in this condition of being afraid of losing your mind, do you feel it’s wise to experiment with mushrooms?
Rebekah: My boyfriend called my Mum and she helped me settle down and reframe what I was experiencing. But I do wonder if that triggered me in some way because I started becoming paranoid and obsessed with doing the right thing and making the right decision for my higher self.
My therapist said my ADHD was making those intrusive thoughts 100 times worse because I’d start overanalyzing everything and struggle to snap out of it. I’m currently on anxiety medication that has helped a lot, but right now I feel myself slipping a bit and I just feel a bit on edge. I had a bit of an energy drink today and also some wine last night, so maybe there’s my answer.
Council: So again we ask, do you think that was wise? Did it work out positively for you? Or are you now having an experience where you don’t feel that good?
And so when you make choices, just sit back and see how they affect you. Did it make it better, or did it make it worse? And then there is your answer. And then in the future, you have the choice to do it or not to do it again.
Rebekah: But I feel different, and feel all the pressure to save the world.
Council: And that is impossible.
Rebekah: I feel powerless and powerful at the same time. I have so much restless energy and so many ideas, but no follow-through. I’m so afraid of losing the people I love and something bad happening. I guess I’m just hoping for some guidance from The Council.
Council: We’d ask you to do the chakra meditations. And for you we’d say to be outside more, to be among the trees, to be around nature, and that will help the way you feel. Reconnect to the Earth. Learn how to ground. And then work on finding happy thoughts, whether it’s something you fantasize about, or whether it’s a memory you have, like a happy childhood or a holiday. Think about that. When you use the discipline of your mind to choose your thoughts, to choose happy thoughts, your energy will change. It’s the law of your universe.
Rebekah: I’ve started a counseling course in an effort to have a career in something I enjoy, but I’m worried I won’t be able to handle it with my mindset.
Council: So how do you go into this course when you are already worried? The thing before you go into this course is to change your vibration by thinking this course will be wonderful for you. It will give you more understanding of what goes on. It will help you bond with people and understand what they go through. And that sort of thinking will change how you feel.
Rebekah: How do I become comfortable with powerlessness?
Council: You are not powerless. That’s the first thought. If you let your mind and your thoughts rule you, then you’re not in control, but you have the choice to have better thoughts. And once you get in line with that, you will see how strong you truly are.
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How Can I Stop Feeling So Depressed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sunshine73.
Sunshine: I was hoping The Council could help me. You and The Council helped me once about sickness. I have another problem I’ve always dealt with ever since I was a small child. It’s depression. As a young child I didn’t know what it was. I just knew I felt sad a lot and didn’t know why.
Council: You felt very sad. And this comes from the life you lived in ancient Rome where you lived in Pompeii and you were there A.D. 79 when Mount Vesuvius erupted. You lost your whole family and everyone you knew, and eventually you succumbed to these ashes that covered many bodies. Many people drowned. And that is staying with you, and your subconscious remembers that past life, and now it helps you go through this depression.
And so knowing where it came from, look around you. See what your family is like. Do you have them in your life? Does it make you feel good? Are you appreciating that whoever you have in your life, you reach out to show kindness, to show love, and to help when it’s needed? That’s your lesson from your lifetime in Pompeii. So when it was time to leave, it was already too late to help yourself and your family.
And so now experiencing depression and experiencing sadness are leftover feelings from that life. And you brought this in so you could learn to be there for yourself, be there for others, and let go of the depressed feelings.
There is no ending. We’re all spirits, and we come in life after life. And so you’ve chosen this time to be there before something horrible happens to show love and to reach out. And that’s what you desired to do in your current lifetime. But we see here what you’re feeling – the depression and the sadness – is so strong that reaching out to others will help erase the depressed feeling.
Sunshine: I’m now almost 50 years old and nothing has changed. I still deal with depression on a regular basis. I try different things and sometimes they help for a little while. Is there anything in a past life that’s causing this?
Council: Yes. And knowing it (and it takes a little time for your present mind to accept it), knowing where the sadness and the depression are coming from, that alone will help you release it.
Sunshine: How can I stop feeling this way so much?
Council: You can read about that time in Pompeii. Look at pictures of the city that was dug up, knowing that you were there and that was your home. And just sometimes going back to that life you can experience how wonderful it was before the end came. And that will also help you let these depressed feelings go. And remembering, even though you transitioned in that life, here you are again. You are safe.
Sunshine: I’ve been trying to do some work with crystals to help, but I don’t really know if I’m doing that right either. I just know I can’t go on living my life in sadness. I want to be happy and enjoy my life and my family.
Also, is it depression that takes all of my energy?
Council: Of course. Depression makes you feel a loss of wanting to do anything in this life, taking your energy, and making you feel fatigued all the time. Depression is a heavy energy. So accepting where it comes from and thinking eventually: Oh, the depression is from this past life and I don’t need to feel this way now. There’s nothing in this lifetime that’s causing me to feel this way. It’s just something I wanted to heal, and now with this understanding, I will heal it.
Bob: Anything to add about Sunshine’s working with crystals?
Council: Crystals are always good. Some people, when they meditate or just sit in a chair for 15 or 20 minutes, surround themselves – north, south, east, west – with clear quartz. Hold one in your right hand and one in your left hand, and that moves the energy.
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How Can We Advance Humankind And Help The Universe Evolve?
This post answers two very important questions for The Council from a reader named, Richard.
Richard: Will you summarize the general guidelines for what each person can do to positively contribute to the advancement of humankind and the evolution of the universe?
Council: For everyone who’s reincarnated, it was always your decision to come here to have fun, to find different ways to do things, and to have new experiences. So how do you evolve? What makes things better?
What makes things better is if you can go day to day, no matter what goes on in your life, and feel love. That’s what makes things better. Show kindness to yourself and others. Say kind words, be uplifting, and help out. Know and feel when you do these good things and tune into yourself. How do you feel? Because doing good for others will always make you feel good.
Bring white light into this reality. And when you focus on bringing the white light in for your whole planet, that helps to bring more positive thoughts not only to yourself, but everyone. This white light and acts of love and kindness will change the reality you’ve created. And that is how you advance. You stand strong in the reality of: you are spirit and you are love. You’ve come in here to spread this love everywhere. And when you can connect with that love and share it on a daily basis, you evolve. And it’s wonderful because you bring everyone in your reality with you. It affects everyone when you are kind.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying the advancement of humankind and the evolution of the Universe depends on the advancement of the individual and the evolution of the individual.
Council: Every individual has a position in this reality of bringing forth love. You knew this and planned it, and jumped in here with the attitude that: I will bring forth love no matter what. When you do this, understand it’s the energy you’re putting out there. It’s not just for you. And the more you love, it grows and grows to the people around you, to where you live, to the whole planet.
And many don’t realize this, but the energy you put out and the thoughts you put out affect everyone. You are releasing these thoughts, these vibrations, and these feelings. Would you like to be part of changing your world into something positive, or something negative?
It’s so simple. You don’t have to go and fight a war. You don’t have to try to do this and try to do that. You just have to love, and show it every day.
Bob: So to restate what I said before, by showing love on a personal level you’re advancing humankind and the evolution of the Universe?
Council: Yes.
And also we watch you every day. We see how you handle things. We see how you’re living your life. And when you’re in this love and you’re spreading it, it doesn’t stop there. It affects us in spirit. We grow from this. We are in a place of great love, and when you’re negative, we are still positive, but when you show love and you put more love out there, we grow also.
Richard: What can individuals do to discover their soul’s purpose for incarnating?
Council: Everyone has a different purpose. The main purpose is what we’ve said about love. Maybe in this lifetime you want to be a teacher, maybe this lifetime you want to travel a lot, maybe this time you want a family. And that is secondary because no matter what you pick, the traveling, the family, the teacher, the actor, everything you do, the main point of you being here is to spread love in what you choose this lifetime.
Many people in your reality think, what did I choose to do? Am I doing the right thing? When you’re in spirit there are many that don’t choose anything. There are many that say: Let me just jump in and wherever I see I’m needed, if it feels good I’m going to do it. If I can help others I’m going to do it. I’m going to meditate. I’m going to help people through their hard times. I’m going to send beautiful thoughts out. They say this because their higher self knows this is true.
The #1 reason to be here isn’t should I do this? Should I open a store? Should I open a gym? The #1 reason you’re here is to be of service and to show love. And as you show it to others you will feel it. You’ll also grow. You will also bring peace to this world.
And as we’ve said before, when the time comes there will be so much love, there will be so much peace, and there will be many diseases where all of a sudden cures are found. There will be many diseases that no longer exist. They’ll be wiped out. And that’s from the work you do by showing love.
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Will I Find A Partner To Love And Who Loves Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, In This Lifetime, who read our post, Can Your Desire for Something Create It in Your Life? She says: I learned from this post there could be different experiences going on for myself that I came to this world to have. And she asks: What experiences is it that I’m here to have and learn from?
Council: You very much wanted to be independent. You wanted to be a creative person. You wanted to learn about your spiritual path. You wanted a family with the right person that would be there for you. But most of all you wanted to learn to be independent. You wanted to feel confident in your intelligence, how you tuned into different people, and how you treated people. Then you wanted to recognize how people treated you. It was these characteristics you wanted to learn about in yourself and in other people.
Lifetime: A counselor who can hear spirit led me to believe I came into this world to break free from a controlling and narcissistic husband who I shared many lifetimes where I was unable to break free successfully.
Council: You created these lives and that would be a big part of learning to be independent. If you feel you created this person and wanted to break free, there’s your challenge of independence.
Lifetime: I ended the marriage six years ago, have taken many years to let go, reconsider my beliefs, and relocate across the country.
Council: There you are. You’re on the right path.
Lifetime: Yet am I able to experience a committed partner in this lifetime who I can love as fully as I know I’m capable, and who can and will love me deeply?
Council: You’ve pre-planned this meeting also. Keep focusing on independence, keep focusing on feeling good about yourself, and know that everything you want, you will create.
Lifetime: I carry the herpes virus and although it hasn’t been active for a long time, I feel this is shameful and limits my opportunities for love.
Council: We suggest you let go of this shame and know you also created this. Even though you’ve had herpes, this touches on your challenge of making you focus on the fact that no matter what’s in your life, you deserve love and you’re a wonderful person. Always make sure you’re kind. You wanted to bring out compassion and kindness in this lifetime.
Lifetime: Many people say my ex-husband didn’t treat me well and I’m worthy of being treated so much better. I haven’t found love with a partner, but I’ve reconnected with things about myself that I lost in my marriage. Will I find happiness in this lifetime?
Council: If you believe you deserve a partner who loves you, you can create this. There’s no question that you can have a good partner and happiness in your life, but you must believe you deserve this.
Lifetime: Or is this a lifetime of independence and finding love in myself, but not the pleasures of a shared life with a partner, as I had hoped would eventually happen after leaving my abusive marriage?
Council: You’ll find this person when you believe you deserve this relationship, when you love yourself, and are proud of yourself and what you’ve accomplished. Then you’ll bring in the right person for you.
Lifetime: Please let me know what my intention was for my current lifetime.
Council: Your intentions were independence, feeling good about yourself, creating what you want, and learning more on your spiritual path.
If you don’t meditate now, learn how to meditate. Stay with good thoughts. You wanted to be kind to others as well as yourself. When you do all these things you’ll be on the right path for you, for what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. Work on loving yourself first and you’ll attract the partner you’re looking for.
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How Can I Get Into Alignment with My Purpose?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Angela, in response to a post we wrote called, Feeling Like I Want to Go Home, Even When I Am Home. Angela says, I’ve also always felt like I want to go home even when I am home. It’s nice I’m not the only one who feels this way. I feel like my soul is hurt and that’s part of the reason I feel this way. Can you ask The Council what I’m supposed to be doing? I’m so lost. How can I get into alignment with my purpose so I can find some peace?
The Council recommends creating with your imagination, the way a child does, in order to get into alignment with your purpose. Your answer is within you. There are many things you choose to do in spirit when you create a new reality. Eventually you may pick one of those things and you go in that direction. Or you want to have fun and you check off many different things that you want to do in your current reality. The way to get there is to really not be so serious about it and not worry that you’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing.
The main thing you’re here for is to show compassion and love to yourself and others. Be supportive and help others around you that maybe aren’t having an easy time of it. Every day when you show kindness, when you can make a person smile or feel better even for a few moments, that’s your purpose. When you can do this, everything else will come to you.
For you right now we don’t advise much prayer. Just sit quietly and think about what you want. Think of yourself as a spirit and you’re the creator of what happens in your life. Think great thoughts and have dramatic imaginations. When you do this and have some fun with it, you’ll align with your purpose.
You must be in the vibration of happiness to create what you want. You’ve already created with your thoughts many things that are there for you that you want. What you have to do is line up with these creations. See them as if you already have these things and are living with them. But before you can do that you need to find a way to be happy.
Some people might say that sounds simple, but maybe it’s difficult for you to be happy. You’re depressed. You’re lost. You don’t know what to do. That feeling of depression, that feeling of being lost, is because you’re not lining up with the many, many things you’ve already created and are waiting for you in an accessible dimension. Your higher self is trying to tell you to change the way you’re thinking. Change the way you see things.
Try to have fun. Find a way to laugh. And always use your imagination. Whether you believe something can happen or not, if you play like a child with your imagination, you’ll create it. It’s as simple as that.
On the subject of going home, many people want to feel this way because on an intuitive level they remember what it’s like to truly be home in spirit. Each of us at one time or another wants to go home. Maybe it’s because you feel lost and you’ve forgotten how to create. Maybe it’s because you want your life to be easier. It’s a feeling that you need the love and peace that’s here in spirit. You can bring this love and peace to you in your reality and then you’ll feel happy with where you are. And you can truly know you will come home when you finish creating what you want to do.
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What’s The Council’s Take On Human Rights Abuses in Palestine?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Over The Wall, who asks what The Council’s take is on the human rights abuses in Palestine, such as the home evictions and demolitions, and the poisoning of crops? I’ve seen this situation brought up briefly in Brian Weiss‘s and Neale Walsch‘s books, but not directly in any spiritual material. How does The Council see this situation playing out as society transforms in future decades?
The Council repeats that things will change as people’s thinking changes. As everyone evolves and they have better thoughts, like wanting peace, and spirit wanting to bring love into this reality, things will eventually change. As we currently see this situation, the way things are going now will continue for the next five to ten years. But what must be understood is that if everyone gets together and wants peace, at any moment the situation will change. In a year or two if people create the reality they want with love and peace, this situation will change.
The Council says the abuse in Palestine is going on now because it’s a reminder. Earlier in history we had concentration camps and wars and now we have these abuses. It begins by trying to keep the information from being made public. But other spirits’ desire for this information clashes with keeping everything under control the way certain governments want. And so there’s a period where the abuse goes on because this experience is wanted in spirit so we can learn about ourselves, about what we create, what we understand, and what we’ll tolerate. This abuse is an experience and a reminder to show you what’s possible when you’re negative and you’re not working on creating a better you.
The change in this abuse doesn’t come when you protest in great masses of people. The abuse will change when you look inside yourself and see what allows this abuse to take place. Ask yourself what you really want? Why are you here? Spirit is here to have experiences and learn from them. We’re trying to learn compassion, support for one another, and freedom to be who we are. But when we don’t go in this direction there’s turmoil.
In your day-to-day life how do you treat yourself? How do you treat others? Do you extend a helping hand? Do you show love no matter how difficult it is? Can you change your perception of things and see them as turning out better? That’s the only reason this abuse is going on – to learn from it and learn about yourself. But the abuse won’t change by fighting against it. It’s by visualizing and creating the peace in your vibration first. And it’s about you reaching out on a daily basis and showing the kindness and understanding that’s needed to no longer want these cruel situations.
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What Can I Do To Serve Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Venus Trine Jupiter, who says they met a glowing blue-skinned woman on the street the day they submitted their comment. They say, After doing some Googling I’m almost sure she was a Starseed. I felt divinely inspired and touched. Perhaps this was a sign for me. As a result I’d like to ask The Council what I can do now to serve the name of love.
The Council says it’s interesting what you’ve created to bring you to a place where you want to serve and show love. You’ve created this glowing skinned person to make you feel there’s a sign. Many people need a sign before they go off in a healing direction or show love, compassion, and kindness to others. What you brought into your life is a person that had a condition with their lungs that affects the color of their skin because there isn’t enough oxygen.
This was brought into your life and created by you so you’d feel there’s something special about your seeing this blue-skinned woman. It’s wonderful that you created this person because it got you to a place of wanting to be of service and wanting to show love.
Venus Trine Jupiter closes by saying, I work for Jesus Christ and love is my mission. I’d love to hear a message coming from this source. The Council says your belief that you work for Jesus Christ is a wonderful thing. We advise you to study his words and what he taught while he was here on Earth. He wanted you to learn to love one another as you love yourself, not instead of yourself.
Always show yourself love in the things you do. When you look in the mirror, love the image that you’ve created for this lifetime. Speak words of kindness. Be supportive of people when they need it. Send beautiful energy to people you don’t know that you pass on the street. That is being of service.
When someone around you is negative, try to find the words to change the subject, or come at it from a different perspective. This is what Jesus taught. Show love in everything you do – compassion, support, understanding, and being a good listener – and then you’ll be doing what Jesus taught.
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Do My Current Career Struggles Relate to Job Karma?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Adhvazila, who asks about their professional life. They say, I’ve been struggling on the professional front for quite some time. Does this have anything to do with job karma and will it end any time soon?
The Council says they don’t like to use the word karma. Karma is really just a choice you make. In many of your lives you had it very easy, didn’t have to work, and had no patience for people who lived by standards that weren’t up to yours. In your current life you thought you’d like to experience the difficulty, the struggle, and how to accept it and change it. And that’s where you are right now.
We see you coming out of these career difficulties when you become grateful for the job you have, even if that’s not something that’s easy. Focus on the fact that you are working and that you can support yourself. Show this attitude of gratefulness and then begin to look elsewhere for other jobs. Put out there the kind of work you’d like to do. Show patience and kindness to everyone you meet because of the way you were in other lives. This is what you wanted to express in your current lifetime.
Adhvazila says, There’s a sense of loss of direction and currently my situation is also quite stressful. The Council says when you’re feeling stresssful it’s good to take deep breathes every day. Be grateful for the job you have. If the stress comes from your work or if it comes from the people you work with, be patient and kind and you’ll see the stress reduce.
Adhvazila asks, Will I ever be able to earn a good living in a less stressful environment? The Council’s advice is to love what you have and you’ll come out of the situation you’re in.
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Why Was I Chosen to Have My Four Beautiful Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sandra, who has two sons and two daughters. In the past three weeks she’s met two beautiful people that came into her life unexpectedly. Both are from different walks of life and don’t know each other. They’ve both told me my children are on this Earth for a reason. The Council responds that we’re all here for a reason, and the main reason is just to have fun, experience what we wish to experience, and bring love into this reality.
Sandra says these two people have told her that her children are Star Seeds and will be part of the up-and-coming war. The Council says there’s a great fascination right now in our reality and many beings want to know where they’re from, what planet, what star, and are they Star Seeds. In reality, The Council emphasizes, we’re all Star Seeds. We’ve had experiences on other planes of existence. We’ve gone from one reality to another and one planet to another.
Sandra says she’d love to know where her children come from and why I was chosen to carry these beautiful souls? The Council says you agreed to bring in these beautiful souls rather than being chosen, to have the experience of being with them, loving them, teaching them to love, and seeing the directions they want to go in.
You agreed before coming into this reality that the lessons and experiences you all wanted agree with one another. You were allowed to do this because this is what you asked for and the souls of your children agreed. The souls of your children liked the ideas you have and what you want to learn we want to learn. We’ll go through our stuff, you’ll go through your stuff and we’ll see what happens.
You and your children have been in the Pleiades, you’ve been Arcturians, and you did a lot of work on Orion. The majority of your work was to go from place to place passing on the information these other realities are experiencing, both positive and negative. You taught many people. You were on councils to help each place come up with laws to live by, always bringing peace. Among what’s known as the Grey People there was lots of aggression, and you were on councils to protect that reality and work with others to keep that reality peaceful.
Your children will eventually have a lot of people around them and a lot of friends. They’ll be very happy and peace-loving.
The Council doesn’t see any up-and-coming war that’s planned. As you bring your thoughts and focus into every reality, you’ll create peace and you’ll create war. War is never wanted and The Council doesn’t see it for the reality you are currently in.
The choices you make, the thoughts you think, your intentions, and how you treat each other will determine the reality your experience. On a day-to-day basis always look for the love. Always put out kindness. Always look to help others that need help. These are some of the best things you can do in your current reality.
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Is Shamanism Connected to My Life’s Purpose?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, My, who experienced a dark night of the soul and recently started connecting with her higher self and the divine. She feels drawn to shamanism, especially the musical instruments like the drum and rattles, and she asks if there any connection between this interest and her life purpose?
The Council says many people think their life’s purpose is something they’re here to do, but they say you don’t always have a life purpose. Frequently you want to just jump into a lifetime and see what comes up. You want to play with other spirits you know.
The music, drums, and rattles you’ve all done in other lifetimes. You’ve created this interest in your current lifetime for the joy of it.
When something comes up in your life and you have no idea why it’s there, but you’re very drawn to it, we say follow that feeling. Do it, not so much to question where this feeling came from and did I do this before, but to learn if following this feeling makes you happy and brings you joy. This is a reminder you’ve all come into the Earth path to bring in love and joy.
Go forward with this feeling. Go into it more. Then you’ll get another desire and you can figure out something else you like, and we say go for that. And when you’re in that feeling or desire and something else comes along that you’re drawn to, it doesn’t mean you’ve done this in another lifetime, but it could be something you’re creating in your current life because you want to see how you enjoy it.
Whenever there’s something you or anyone is drawn to, go for it. There’s no mistake in doing this. If you follow this feeling and you’ve had enough of it or you decide you don’t like it anymore, then you can change your mind and do something else. It’s that easy. But while you’re here, take what you think will bring you joy and try it.
My says her mission in this lifetime is to help others and be of service, but I just don’t know which direction to go. Any insight will be much appreciated. The Council says your mission is to bring love, show compassion, and show kindness. Share what you learn. This is something you wanted to do. You wanted to discover many different things and share them with others because you wanted to bring joy into this life. This is your main mission. Share anything that gives you joy and by doing this you bring more joy to yourself and others.
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What Unfinished Business Do I Still Have in My LIfe?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Sam, who says he doesn’t understand what to do anymore. He says, I need answers. What is this unfinished business I still have?
The Council says in Sam’s current lifetime it’s very important to bring in peace. You lived in many wars in past lives and saw lots of destruction.
Counseling is a good role for you. Look at your friends and family. When it’s apparent there’s a lack of understanding or tension, you can step in and find a way to bring people together. This is the direction you want to go in, but it doesn’t mean your whole life has to be devoted to this. You didn’t create your life this way in spirit. But you did want it to come into your life and when it does it’s good not to ignore it. As a loving spirit, come in and try to bring some agreement and understanding into these people’s lives.
If you go in this direction you also planned to teach children about kindness, how to get along, and how to be helpful. We don’t see this as a career for you. Not all lessons come from something you have to be employed at. If you haven’t been able to work with this counseling you can start looking for it now in your life.
In your meditations and prayers you can ask for people to talk to you about their difficulties, whether it’s finances, relationships, health, work, or no matter what it is so you can learn to be an understanding ear for these people.
People need to be heard. And even though you might not have the words to fix everything, sit, listen, and try to understand and this will provide a healing for these people that find their way to you. This is something you’ve wanted to do for many lifetimes.
Be very sensitive when people’s energy doesn’t feel right. Maybe they’re upset and keeping something inside. Just by offering love with your thoughts these people will open up to you and that’s where you can step in and be of help.
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Is My Family Trauma More Spiritual Than Psychological?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gloribet, that were prompted by her reading of our post, What is the Purpose of My Life? Gloribet says she experienced much pain as a child because of emotional abuse and hard discipline from my father. This seems to be a theme in my father’s family where there’s a lot of trauma that’s passed down through generations.
The Council says the reason your family is experiencing this trauma is that each person wanted to work with this trauma and learn from it. You came together as a family to experience this trauma so that each person can realize it’s in the family and ask why this is going on? Just having this thought will provide each of you with support.
Gloribet says this trauma had a great effect on me. I put my life and health at risk constantly, but I’ve always been very protected. Now I’m healing and growing spiritually from what I lived. Is there a spiritual component to the pain in my father’s side of my family? Is the cause of this generational trauma more spiritual than psychological?
The Council says it’s always spiritual. It comes into your human life as a psychological problem or challenge, but your spirit chooses this challenge in order to work its way through it. Every member of your family has a different reason for going through this trauma, but you all came together to offer support you can feel on an energy level.
Gloribet asks: How can I help my family break from this trauma and give my aunt’s children a chance at a life filled with love and light rather than anger and pain? The Council says you can’t change anyone else. Your cousins will go through what they need to go through until they come to a place of understanding and learning. How you can help others in your family not have to go through this trauma is by treating everyone with kindness, empathy, understanding, and love. Don’t always focus on this problem in your family and talk about it. You’ll teach the younger generations through your actions and let these people know there’s someone there for them to speak about this trauma if they choose.
Gloribet asks if her helping with this family trauma is part of her chosen spiritual path and will help her with her personal growth. The Council says if your path has been difficult, it was chosen by you in spirit. Of course you’re on the right path. Will you get to where you want to go? Yes, when you show kindness and love and accept people for the way they are.
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Memories of Waking from Frequent Nightmares as a Child
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Jen, who had frequent nightmares as a child. I don’t remember the nightmares, but I do remember the way I woke up from them. I’d see and hear British soldiers marching in red and blue uniforms and bearskin caps.
The Council informs Jen she’s remembering a past life she shared with Cynthia (the person channeling this session). Cynthia was an adult running with many children trying to escape these British soldiers who were killing Americans during the Revolutionary War. Jen was one of the children. This has come through so you can connect with The Council and Cynthia. You were one of the children in that lifetime that agreed to go through being killed by these British soldiers so Cynthia could experience the grief and guilt and to have the memory of this experience so she could change it, heal it, and let it go in her current lifetime. You were in that lifetime to help Cynthia have this experience.
You also wanted to learn about fear, abandonment, and thinking only of yourself. In your current lifetime are you more concerned about yourself than others? Do you see people around you that you feel are judgemental or selfish? If you see this, how does it make you feel? What can you do to understand why other people are like this, or why are you like this?
The Council feels you’re on the right path in your current life. Add much more kindness to your life. This is what you wanted to experience. You wanted to not only be kind to people, but to help them also. If you haven’t already begun this path, that’s what you’re working toward.
The Council says you won’t erase the memory of this past life with the British soldiers, but once you understand why this memory is with you and where it comes from the fear you had won’t be associated with it.
When you experience strong memories coming through into your current life, read as much as you can about past lives. This will give you more understanding of what you went through and maybe why you went through it.
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Why am I Having Mental and Physical Health Problems?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carl, who’s wondering why he’s increasingly having problems with his mental and physical health and vitality despite feeling more aware of God, and he wants to know what he’s doing to perpetuate this struggle. He also feels he has a big purpose in this lifetime and asks how the world will come to know him.
The Council asks Carl what routine he uses for getting to know God. Do you feel the joy and happiness from knowing God? Do you feel all is well? If you feel this way the mental and physical challenges you’re going through will decline. The Council says to read about God is one thing and to think about God is another, but they ask Carl to find the feeling of God. Go into your heart and look for the light, even if it’s just a pinpoint. Grow into this light and have it expand. In this light feel for God. God is within you.
The Council says any physical and mental problems always stems from the spirit being confused on it’s path. By bringing the focus of God back into your life and your body the physical and emotional challenges you feel, no matter what they are, will slowly disappear.
How quickly Carl is able to feel better depends on him. How often are you willing to feel the presence of God in your heart and sit in this vibration? Once you begin to do this, even if it’s just for one minute, you’ll begin to see the change. You’ll see how nice this feels and you’ll want to stay in this vibration. You’ll gradually meditate for longer periods of time to stay in this vibration longer and your life will begin to change.
The Council says by Carl not being enough in the light his thoughts aren’t appropriate for what he’s trying to achieve. Change your thoughts. Focus on the energy of love. Be kinder to yourself and do more things you enjoy. If you can get in the vibration of laughter you’ll begin to heal faster.
The Council says each spirit that’s here knows Carl. The fastest way to get people to know you and want to know more about you is to offer these people love, kindness, a service if you can help someone, or an ear to listen to them. As people begin to see you their idea of who you are also changes. The Council says you can take this into any part of your life. You can take this into relationships, you can take this into your career, and you can take this into family matters. By working on this level of love, kindness, and service, doors will open to you and people will want to be around you.
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Why Does My Brother Hate Our Parents?
This post answers questions for The Council from a woman who goes by the name, Peace, who asks if her brother has unfinished business from past lives and that he seems to hate their parents. The Council says sometimes this experience of hate comes from the present rather than the past. Perhaps it’s something he saw in another life and decided he wanted to experience it in this lifetime.
Peace asks the reason for her brother’s anger at their parents and sometimes at her. The Council feels Peace’s brother came into this life wanting to experience anger and then be able to find times when he experiences kindness and understanding. Peace’s role in her brother’s life, which was her pre-birth agreement with him, is to be patient and and understanding of him. Try to express uplifting and loving thoughts to him. By understanding this is something your brother wished to experience you’ll be able to let go of his anger.
Peace asks if she’s supposed to support her brother as a loving sister? The Council says, yes. Your brother wanted to learn about feeling anger he wasn’t able to understand and he needed several people in his life to show him kindness when he felt this anger. As you’re able to show him this kindness, a new understanding will come to him and he’ll begin to see there’s an effort by you and others to be empathetic.
Peace says her brother has an incurable disease and asks why he created this and will he ever overcome it? The Council says there’s a slight possibility her brother will overcome his disease, but he created it as part of what would help him experience anger and not feeling as good as others.
Peace says her brother has a short temper and she’s worried about the person he’ll marry or if he’ll find a suitable wife for himself and be able to stay in this relationship. The Council reminds Peace it’s not her job to worry about a future wife for her brother. Your job is to be understanding, uplifting, and comforting to him.
If your brother creates a life with a wife, and The Council says there’s a slight possibility this will happen, then he’ll need to experience other lessons with his wife. If her brother does take a wife, Peace needs to stand by and watch, not take sides. Send them love and understand whatever they create, whether discord or harmony, it’s part of their pre-birth plan.
Peace says she wants her brother to become a better person and The Council says in order for this to happen she must also become a better person. Become more loving, supporting, uplifting, and understanding. This will help both of you become a better person.
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Why Do I Have a Negative Relationship with My Stepmother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Distressed, who asks why they have such a negative relationship with their stepmother. It seems she’s always filled with anger and negative energy toward everyone and I always feel fear when I’m around her.
This situation is familiar for both of you because you were brothers in another lifetime. In that lifetime your stepmother was your older brother, was quite angry and violent, and took it out on you and you would run away from him. Although your brother cared for you in his own way in this other lifetime, he didn’t understand his behavior wasn’t positive and didn’t understand why you wouldn’t be close with him.
In your current lifetime the two of you decided to come back in and your stepmother would be angry again and you wanted to see if you were able to show kindness to your stepmother and try to understand. All that was wanted in spirit from both of you was to be in each other’s presence and try to understand what the other person was going through.
That doesn’t mean you need to be abused in this relationship, but knowing there was anger from another lifetime should be helpful. Know you’re trying to help your stepmother work through this anger and learn that even though someone is angry and negative with everyone, you would still be kind.
Distressed asks what lessons they’re meant to learn from each other. The Council says acceptance and love. No matter what, show love and try to turn the situation with your stepmother around. But don’t show love with expectations. Just show love. Whether your stepmother choses to grow and learn from your love is her spirit’s job. How does your spirit grow from the love you try and show? It was planned that you’d discover love no matter what else happened in your relationship. Allow the other person to be who they are and just accept them that way.
Distressed asks how they can improve their relationship with their stepmother? The Council advises not to expect the stepmother to change right away. But instead of running away in fear, which is how you handled this situation in your other lifetime, stay short periods of time and try to be pleasant. Listen to what your stepmother says and try to understand how her words affect her and how she sees her circumstances. All you need to do is try and understand and eventually your stepmother will notice what you are doing.
The Council says perhaps learning about what you experienced in this other lifetime will help you be more patient and understanding in your current lifetime. As you become more patient and understanding, your stepmother will change.
You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something you’re grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.
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Who Was I In My Past Lives?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Mona, who’s been fascinated by the idea of reincarnation for many years and is interested in learning who she was in her past lives.
Mona was the wife of a Roman soldier who had many servants and she was very popular in the courts of the high rulers. But no matter what she did in that lifetime and no matter how she advanced in her standing, it was never enough. The Council asks if Mona is satisfied and grateful for what she has in her current lifetime, or are you always looking for more?
The Council sees Mona was a teacher in the early 1800s and they ask her if she’d like to teach or help people in her current lifetime. Do you like to reach out and be there for people when they have problems? These lives were very good for you and you were very close to spirit and taught love and kindness.
Because these two lives jumped out at The Council they ask in your current life if you experience people that are difficult to be around, can you find the compassion for forgiveness, for understanding, and for helping these people?
The Council adds there was a life where Mona was involved in medicine and helping others. And because she enjoyed this, these emotions, thoughts, and desires are very much with her in her current life to reach out and help in any way. Helping others is the path you wish to be on in your current incarnation.
The Council also sees a lifetime where Mona was a woman who drove a truck and delivered food and donated items to poverty-stricken people. And The Council laughs that Mona loved driving that truck.
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I Don’t Know How to Move Forward in My Life
This post answers questions from a reader named, Garnet, who says she doesn’t have a father in her life, and she was her mother’s replacement for a husband she never had, a replacement for a mother her mother never had, and a replacement for friends her mother never had.
The Council asks Garnet, because she has a mother and grandmother that acted in certain ways, what does she think the lesson for Garnet is? When you tune into this lesson you’ll see the parts that made your mother’s life difficult and made your life difficult. Do you want to continue living with these difficulties? You don’t have to behave the same way your mother and grandmother behaved. You can take the giant leap to know this isn’t how you want to be. This isn’t how you bring love into your life and to others around you.
Your mother and grandmother are two very brave spirits who have lived their lives to show you how they affected you. How can you change your life moving forward. This is a magnificent lesson for you to learn, experience, and now bring love into this lesson and change your life for the better.
Garnet says she doesn’t know how to move forward because she’s lost her sense of self. The Council suggests if Garnet has friends who have loving families, watch them. How do they relate to each other? What part of that would you like in your life? If you don’t have friends with loving families, you can learn how to move forward by watching TV shows or movies of families where the mother and father are good parents and the children are learning, growing, and experiencing happiness.
You’ve learned from your family the lesson of how you don’t want to be. You can now look at other people in your life or TV or the movies and this can teach you how you want to be moving forward. Focus on how these people bring happiness into their lives and show kindness to themselves and others.
Garnet says it was because of an unrequited love in her life that she was able to unload her problem with her mother, but she doesn’t feel grateful for her mother’s role in her life. The Council says perhaps not right now, but as Garnet gives her relationship with her mother more thought, she may come to appreciate her role in Garnet’s development.
The Council tells Garnet that when you’re in the vibration of feeling sad and not feeling love for her mother, her family, and for herself, how can you expect to draw in a partner that loves you? The first thing you need to do is understand you are a brave spirit for coming into this difficult situation and start loving yourself. When you begin to love yourself you’ll bring a loving partner into your life.
Garnet asks why she went through this experience with her mother and what’s she’s done to deserve such a bad life? The Council says Garnet planned this life in spirit so she could turn it around. Then she’ll see the second part of what she planned, which is a happy life – the kind of life she wants. But first she must change her vibration by changing what she focuses on.
Now is the time to understand it was a tough lesson that you picked. Now The Council has given you some explanation of your life, and your job right now is to feel good about yourself and to find the second part that will be more of what you want.
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Does This Man in My Life Have Romantic Feelings for Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says she’s had feelings for a man she’s close to for about a year and a half and she’s too afraid to tell him. She knows he’s attracted to her, but she doesn’t know if he has romantic feelings for her. Sometimes she thinks he cares and sometimes she thinks he doesn’t. Sometimes he purposely says things to hurt her feelings. Anonymous asks The Council what past lives of ours affects this current life? Are we ever going to be together?
The Council says you were with this man in a past life, but he was the woman and you were the man. In that lifetime you had a harem and this man was one of the women in your harem. You didn’t like this woman, didn’t choose to be with her, were cruel to her, and she was heartbroken. In your current lifetime you’ve decided to see how you can get along and heal what was done in this previous life. This man is caring and has affection for you, but there’s an underlying anger coming from the past life in your harem that he doesn’t understand.
Whether you can be together depends on what you’re able to create in this lifetime. Is this man able to grow and look at himself and his behavior toward you and have an understanding of why he’s unable to be kind all the time. Are you willing to be patient and help him grow? If it’s too difficult for you to be around his anger, then it’s your choice and your right to leave this relationship.
It’s one of his lessons in his current life to learn about his anger from this previous life. Your lesson is to give him the opportunity to create happiness in your relationship. Are you showing this man understanding? Even if you do show understanding, if you feel there’s too much mental abuse, you have the right to decide the relationship isn’t going in the direction you both thought it would and you can complete this relationship in another lifetime.
You can explain to this man what we’ve told you about this past life even if he’s not willing to understand this now. You will be planting a seed, so to speak, and he’ll be able to think about this and perhaps it will help him change and grow.
You are both supposed to learn kindness in your relationship and find whatever you can to appreciate about each other. The Council says this is much deeper than just having a relationship. They say it’s finding the good feeling by being around the other person. This is what you both are trying to accomplish in this lifetime.
Even if your relationship is not a romantic one, are you able to show love to each other? Can you experience joy, understanding, and be supportive to each other? This will heal what has happened in your past life.
The Council says there isn’t a specific intention in your pre-life spiritual plans to have a romantic relationship with this man, but a romantic relationship is possible if you both desire it and you do the inner work to make this happen.
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How Can I Improve My Relationship with My Son and His Anger?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks how she can improve her relationship with her 5-year old son who’s quick to anger. Anonymous says she tries to meet her son’s anger with patience and love, but she’s burning out.
The Council says this is a difficult journey for Anonymous. The soul of her son planned to come in with a lot of anger and have this anger most of his life. The meanness and violence he can show is something that’s been agreed to in spirit by the people he comes in contact with. And her son chose to be this way to teach the people around him how to show gentleness and kindness when they’re affected by someone like him.
The Council recommends spending a lot of one on one time with her son.
Her son has chosen music to make him feel better and The Council recommends she play music for him, particularly classical music like Beethoven and particularly at night before bed, and have him create movement to this music. This should help him deal with his anger. And The Council advises trying to keep him in small groups rather than larger ones.
Learn to be kind and gentle with your son’s behavior, but teach him what’s acceptable behavior and always show that you’re loving him. You may not approve of his actions or words, but inside there’s a very brave soul that wants to be accepted and also taught how to be.
The Council repeats that her son’s behavior was agreed to in spirit and asks her not to become upset with him. He wants to learn about frustration and not being understood, and then being understood by people who are capable of teaching him.
Part of her son’s brain will have a difficult time understanding what he’s being taught because he’ll be overcome with feelings of frustration. When this happens she must remember this is her lesson also and she must learn how to handle his feelings. This is a new experience for her that was also agreed to in spirit.
The Council recommends Anonymous meditate and find time for herself. They add that counseling for her to help deal with her son may be necessary. And they also recommend reading books on past lives to learn about difficult lessons and challenges . This lesson touches everyone in the family because everyone wanted to bring love into this reality no matter how difficult it was.
Anonymous asks what she and her son are here to teach each other in this lifetime? The Council says her son is confused and this will bring on outbursts and behavior that’s unacceptable. When his behavior isn’t acceptable, it’s good for whoever’s with him to talk about this with him and how there are more acceptable ways of handling his frustration rather than with outbursts or being mean. Explain, in very short sentences, how your son can change his behavior.
Anonymous says she’s begun to think of her son as mean, and even though she realizes this is unfair and unhelpful, it’s difficult for her to find evidence to the contrary. The Council says it’s not horrible that Anonymous notices her son is mean. This is exactly what she is supposed to be doing. When this happens, talk to your son about his behavior and teach him more desirable ways to get what he wants. This is what’s needed.
The Council suggests hand holding and touch will become important to her son. Go slowly. As you take the time, you’ll see progress. It’s an important lesson for everyone around your son to become kinder and more understanding. As this occurs you’ll begin to see positive changes because everyone that volunteered for this lesson will be learning.
In closing The Council encouraged us to keep up our good work, to which Bob replied that we’ll try. The Council laughed and quoted a great spiritual teacher (Yoda from the Star Wars movies) who says, “There is no try, there is only do.” And they add they will help us do.
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Relationship Advice
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Kelly, who’s looking for guidance on how to create a loving, supportive relationship with her current boyfriend, or whether she should let the relationship go. And she asks about her soul agreement with this boyfriend and about any past lives they share.
The Council says if Kelly was in a tortured relationship they would never advise her to stay in it. If this was the case they would advise preparing herself by growing until she was ready to leave. But if there’s the smallest hope this relationship will work, The Council says it’s Kelly’s job to hold onto that hope and not to focus on this relationship’s problems and what’s going wrong. They advise her to do the work to make herself happy and more understanding so she can grow.
The Council advises Kelly to learn from this relationship. And more than anything else they suggest focusing on her happiness, not focusing on her boyfriend changing. Find anything in the relationship she can feel grateful for. As she focuses on the littlest things to be grateful for she’ll begin to see more and more of this happening in the relationship. This isn’t because her boyfriend is changing, but because Kelly is bringing in the vibration of gratitude for what’s in her life.
The Council says if Kelly lets the fact that people around her don’t understand her boyfriend or don’t understand why she’s in this relationship, she’ll have difficulty changing her thoughts about the relationship. These people aren’t living with Kelly and perhaps they don’t see the things she can find to be grateful for.
As Kelly finds love, patience, and happiness in this relationship, that’s how these things begins to grow. Don’t focus on changing her boyfriend and what he must learn or how he has to be. Allow him to be how he is. That’s how Kelly stays in this relationship and gets it to be the way she wants.
The Council says Kelly and her boyfriend have shared other lives together where they’ve played different roles and some were good lifetimes and some weren’t. In their current lifetime Kelly and her boyfriend thought it would be wonderful to come together and have their relationship work out, but The Council doesn’t see this happening yet because Kelly hasn’t created this yet. The Council says Kelly is capable of creating the relationship she desires by focusing on: what she appreciates, her gratitude, her love, and every happy thing that happens. The Council says it’s not necessary to let this relationship go.
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Are All Miscarriages Pre-planned in Spirit?
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from a reader named Tracey who thanks us for our post, Are All Abortions Pre-planned in Spirit Before Birth?, and she asks if all miscarriages are also pre-planned in spirit before we are born? After Tracey had her first child she’s had three miscarriages, but she wants another child very badly. She asks The Council if there are spiritual lessons she needs to learn before she’ll be able to deliver another child, or is she only meant to have one child in this lifetime.
The Council begins by saying that like all abortions, miscarriages are also pre-planned in spirit. And they go on to say as you hold the feeling of what you desire in this lifetime, at any time you can change what’s been pre-planned in spirit. Your higher self is able to contact the higher selves of the people involved and change what you originally pre-planned. Most of the time what you pre-plan will be carried out, but you can recreate your life at any time in this lifetime.
The Council says Tracey pre-planned to have this second child, but she has to focus on this and let go of the doubts that she can have another child. Tracey’s miscarriages were planned so that this desire would become stronger and that would be her focus.
Tracey wanted to experience feeling she didn’t deserve to have another child. She wanted to experience feeling too sick to have another child. She wanted to experience feeling unable to have a child come to full term and have a beautiful life with her. And then at the correct moment she wants to realize she is the creator of her life and she is able to change these feelings to what she desires.
The Council says it was the same soul that miscarried three times and they add that this soul will return to Tracey again in a pregnancy and when she’s ready she will have this child. Because Tracey and this spirit have known each other before there is a strong desire from both souls to have another lifetime together and focus on kindness.
The Council asks Tracey to meditate on this spirit who wants to come to her again and be in this lifetime with her. Picture the soul of this child sending Tracey love and support so they can be together again. As she holds this focus, that is a way to create this in her life.
Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Tracey and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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What Is My Main Purpose in This Lifetime?
This post is inspired by a reader named Darla who is asking The Council for some career advice. She’s been a stay at home mother for 14 years and loves her children very much, but now she’s ready to re-enter the workforce and she has huge insecurities about what type of job she’d be suited for. She feels lost and like she’s not traveling down the right road to genuine fulfillment, and she asks The Council her main purpose in this lifetime.
The Council begins with a statement that everyone’s main purpose in all lifetimes is to bring the feeling of love into whatever you create. And they suggest Darla begin slowly and perhaps jump around a bit until she finds what gives her the most joy.
The Council says Darla intended to be of service, make a difference, and teach the people she meets how to speak their truth using pictures and stories. If she still feels joy around being with children they suggest she start out by volunteering with them, or possibly young adults or older people.
The Council sees Darla wanted to work specifically with pictures and recommends finding opportunities to teach children to make pictures of what kindness looks like. They say there was also a desire to work with older people who have memory problems and they suggest working with colors to stimulate them.
The Council says Darla has the ability to feel what others are feeling and this is a great gift. They recommend feeling what is needed in each situation, learning more about it, and coming up with ideas to bring out the comfort and joy in each person she works with by talking about feelings that need to be spoken and released or drawing pictures of these emotions. They say this will take time. And they add that of all the things Darla wants to create in this lifetime, trust, love, and safety figure prominently.
The Council says if Darla goes in this direction she’ll open a door within her and find the gifts she needs to bring out the creative side in people. They say this is a big job and it will lead her on a wonderful path, and there will be lots of growth and change within her as she finds ways to do this.
The Council says Darla wants to find a way to teach kindness to the people she meets. And they say as she goes from place to place she’ll see what’s needed and create her own way to bring this kindness out in others.
The Council says if Darla begins in the workforce, even if she finds herself working in a restaurant or a retail store or an office if that’s what’s needed at this point in her life, they say to go with this. But everywhere she goes, without judgement she will see how people treat each other and ask herself how she can show kindness and teach it creatively. The Council says this will take time, but there will be many rewards as Darla moves forward this.
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Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
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If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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