How Can My Husband And I Overcome Financial Difficulty?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Cristiana.
Cristiana: Hello, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I would appreciate your thoughts and guidance on how to overcome the financial difficulty me my husband and I are currently going through. What is the best course of action for me to take? I do have many business ideas, but I lack the resources, confidence, and motivation to move on with them. Also, there is a lot of indecision at play.
Council: Well #1, we see here the indecision always plays a big part when you’re trying to create something. And if you feel you don’t have the motivation to do this, then there is something lacking in whatever you think you should be doing.
It is always good when you are trying to create something in your life, whether it’s for money value, or a relationship, there should be a sense of joy and excitement that this is what you are going to create. When there’s so much doubt in the way, it will never happen.
It’s all there for you, but first, you need to make a decision. What idea sounds the best? Which one do you think would be the easiest to get started on? And so, you would play with it that way, and you would imagine how it would happen. And all the while that you’re doing this, what does it feel like? If there’s a sense of, “Oh, I don’t know if I could do this,” and, “Am I wasting my time trying to create that?” You will not create it.
So find something where the idea has you excited, that there is something you just love about it, and how you would make it grow and change, and how it would bring so much more into your life. So we say – and it is with anything you try to create – there must be joy. Not that you’re doing it like, “Maybe it will work, or “You have to do something, so let me try this.” Look for the sense of joy.
In the meantime, if you are not sure, then go around and play with different ideas. Maybe you can volunteer somewhere, or read up about it, or watch a movie about it, or research what it is. But always look for that feeling of excitement.
Cristiana: Which path will bring me the most success and fulfillment?
Council: The one you find the happy feeling with.
Cristiana: Many thanks and deep gratitude to you all.
Council: We would like to say here that we don’t have the magic bullet to step into your life and tell you that you need to do this. This is what’s going to work for you. We can only tell you to make a decision, and how to get there, and how to create it. And so the work is yours.
Maybe the ideas you have are not really what you want. Keep searching, but when you search, have that feeling of excitement. It’s coming. I’m finding my way to what is finally going to work for me and make me feel good. That’s how you begin.
And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create, create.
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Please Provide Clarity On My Unexpected Pregnancy In My Unhappy Marriage
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: Hello again Bob and Cynthia. You were kind enough to ask for clarity for me a couple of years ago when I became pregnant unexpectedly. It was a tough time, and I lost the baby at the end of the first trimester. I could not go through with a termination, and offered to the spirit that I would leave it with them to stay with me or go. Our world was a little rocky and the babe left.
I now find myself unexpectedly pregnant again at 42 years old. Again my husband is not happy. I am shocked, but less so than before. Our relationship was already in conflict, and this pregnancy is pushing the limits of our mutual disrespect and fighting. I don’t feel like my last pregnancy with him, but I definitely do not feel embraced.
I would love some clarity from The Council regarding this pregnancy and the way forward. Part of me hoped that we could make this pregnancy work for us, bring us closer together, and be more in harmony, but it has not. At ten weeks pregnant we can barely be civil to each other. I’m not in a position to be a single mother of three children, however. I’m so sad at what our relationship has become for me and our children.
I am looking for the light, as I feel at times so lost, being pregnant at my age, and in an unhappy marriage with two children. Any guidance would be appreciated. I wish for a happy, peaceful life with my family, and good health. Thank you, L.
Council: Unfortunately there are many, many people, when they are in relationships that are not working out, feel like they will have a child and that will bring you closer together. And that does not always work. Many, many times it makes it worse. You have a relationship where there are problems already. Do you think this new little spirit is going to change your life? The spirit agreed to come forward if that’s what you want, but the spirit will then have to deal with their issues, and you will still have your issues.
And so you are at a point where you must decide if you have this child and you wind up alone, is this what you want? Can you handle it? If you don’t have this child and you stay in this marriage, do you think it will improve at all?
But what we say is, now is the time to do the visualization the way you want your life to be. But make some sort of a decision, like no, I cannot be a single mother of three, or yes I can. What’s one more? But at least I’ll be free and out of this relationship. Or stay with two children and somehow we will get along.
But that won’t magically happen. What’s going to happen is your thoughts will create what will happen. So if you want to have this child, and you want to stay in this marriage, now is the time to see it, and to see it as if it’s already happening, to see it with joy in your heart that this worked out, this is wonderful. And that is how you create.
And we send you peach and love.
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Should I Accept A Healing Apprenticeship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kaitlin.
Kaitlin: Hi, Bob & Cynthia. It’s been a couple of years since you did a private reading for me. How are you? I have a question for you. In my reading, The Council said that on my path I would find different things I’d be interested in, and I would be a healer. I have found this to be true. I found something that I’m interested in that I want to pursue. I feel a little scared because it would be something I practice on my own, and I don’t know if it would bring a stable income.
Council: Isn’t it wonderful to be scared of something new, and then change your thought about it? “Wow! I’ve created something new for myself.” This will be an adventure. It’s always an adventure – scary at first – when you learn something new. But we will say here, if you enjoy it, do it. Face the fear and do it anyway, and it will bring to you an abundance of whatever it is that you need. So we would say, all spirits set up things that are a little frightening or new to learn. We’re all here to learn, not just to sit around.
So you can be of service to people. We see that would be very good for you. You can become great in the arts. You can become helpful to the less fortunate. Anything that brings you of service and makes you feel good, that’s the way to go. And so whatever it is, if you have to do it alone, you do it alone. but you do it quietly. You don’t have to tell anybody what you’re up to. Just try it and see where it takes you. Once again, one thing will lead to another, to another, to another, and you will have experiences that bring you joy.
Kaitlin: However, that’s not even my question. Besides this healing modality that I want to study, I was recently offered to be an apprentice to become a Pilates teacher after doing just two classes.
Council: Wonderful.
Kaitlin: This feels like something that the universe just handed to me.
Council: It handed it to you because you created it. Nothing that comes to you is not created by you. And so you have an offer of something different. And how does that feel?
Kaitlin: And it would provide a great income. However, there are things that I want to do, like travel on my own this year, and be a bit more free. And I don’t know if I want to commit to a year-long apprenticeship at this time, or even if I am interested in teaching Pilates in the first place.
Council: There is no wrong choice. If you agree to do this, you are making a commitment, and you need to learn to fulfill the commitment. But it’s only a year, and then you have learned things. You have met special people along the way, and you will get some joy from it, and then a year passes quickly, and then you can move on to travel and do other things.
So one will bring you an abundance of money, which will help you eventually get to do all the other things you want to do. So it could make you feel stuck, but then you change it to, this is preparing me, this is helping me get what I need to go on my new adventure of traveling and learning other things. So it’s how you look at it. And then if you feel – thinking about teaching – being still for a year, if that’s so horrible for you to commit to, then you don’t. There is no wrong choice here.
You think of it as being helpful, to prepare you for what you want to do, to get you more money, to get you more experience around people. Or you go straight to traveling around and doing other things. And so the choice, of course, as always is yours. And there is no wrong choice because if you commit to this, after the year you’re off and doing other things you want to do. Isn’t that a wonderful way to experience so many different things within a year or two when you start traveling?
And so we would say, think of it and decide what feels good in your body. What feels good when you think of it? Teaching for a year? “Oh, you’re a teacher.” People will come to you to learn how to do things. You will help people with how to do things they couldn’t do before. You’ll help people to feel good. That’s a wonderful thing. But if that’s not what you do, you will go off and do other things and still be of service. And so when you think of it that way, the choice will be easier for you to make and not so fearful.
Kaitlin: Do you think I’m silly to turn down this offer? And should I accept this opportunity because it was literally handed to me, and it’s a great offer? Or even though it scares me, it’s okay to say no and not commit to it now? I just feel like I’m not sure. even though it’s a wonderful offer. But at the same time, maybe I should take it because it was so easy and just unfolded for me. I can be a bit stubborn, so I’d love your opinion.
Council: First we must tell you, we’ll never tell you what to do. That’s your free will. We would tell you how to think about it, how to prepare for it, and then make a choice and tell you it will feel good when you make the choice. There are no shoulds – you should do this, you should do that. Everything will come around, you’ll be on your path, and you’ll get to where you’re supposed to go.
We’d say, instead of feeling miserable or fearful, and thinking you could be wrong, let that go and start thinking, “Wow, I have a great opportunity. Either way, there’s a great opportunity in front of me, and now let’s see what feels good to me.” So picture yourself teaching. Picture yourself traveling. What is it that you see? And which one feels better? And then you’ll make the choice, but you will get exactly where you want to be.
And so we send you love. And we send everyone happy feelings. Enjoy the day. Enjoy your life. Be grateful. Be happy. Think of things that you have done that brought you joy. Imagine things you can do that bring you joy, and then move forward.
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How Do I Let Go Of An Ex-Friend With Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsey.
Lindsey: I’d greatly appreciate The Council’s insight on a friendship that I’m having a hard time letting go of with love. We’ve known each other for about 15 years, and the last five years haven’t been great. During this time I’ve felt the friendship to be somewhat toxic and one-sided. There was a breaking point for me about three years ago, but I still showed up in group settings. I’ve since distanced myself more this past year, declining gatherings if she would be present. I dream of her often, which I find odd since we’re not in each other’s lives currently.
Council: It’s because subconsciously you do think of this person all the time without being aware of that. And so you would dream of this person, you’d have memories come up about this person, and you’d be, with your human brain, trying to figure out what’s going on, where in a situation such as this you’d have to come more from your heart and not your brain.
And so if it’s a toxic relationship, it’s fine to put an end to it if that’s what you want. But would you stay out of social situations because of this one person? And if you did, then once again your focus is on this person. There would be other people there for you to talk with and hang out with. And so think of it this way. If you need to let go of this relationship, that’s fine. But look at the surroundings, the people you want to be with, or don’t want to be with, and then make the decision for what you really want. And make yourself comfortable in that situation, and learn to focus on these other people. And you would see your feelings would be different hanging out with others in that group.
Lindsey: These past few years I’ve done a lot of self-work and I’m unwilling to allow people in my life that bring down my vibration, or don’t have good intentions.
Council: Ahh, right there, you don’t want people in your life that will bring down your vibration. Let’s see. We will put it this way. You are in control of your thoughts. And so other people that are around you, how you choose to see them will bring your relationship up or down.
Are you practicing accepting people the way they are? Maybe not understanding them. Maybe not even liking the way they react to things, or the way they treat you. But if you could find one good thing, even it’s, “Well, you know, I really don’t like being around this person, or this person annoys me, but they are going through their stuff, and I’ll send them some love.”
Or if I can’t do that, don’t focus on their negative qualities. And so when you don’t focus on these negative qualities, your vibration will not go down. You can simply think, “Oh, they’re on their path. I don’t get it. I don’t have to get it. I don’t have to understand it, but I can accept that.
Lindsey: Do you know if this is a relationship from a past life?
Council: We’d say, yes, there were several past lives. But what we’re trying to teach now and get people to understand, that past life doesn’t matter. It could have been wonderful. it could have been horrible. It could have been some of one and some of the other. You are here now to learn how to focus and create the relationships and life that you want.
And so even though many people like to know about the past – did I have a life with this one, did I have a life with that one – it really doesn’t matter. You are taking leaps up the ladder of enlightenment and growing, where you can let go of the thoughts of the past and see what’s going on now, how you handle it, how you can accept someone, and then just let it go and put your focus somewhere else. You will see a huge change in how you feel, and how your vibration is.
Lindsey: Do you have any advice on how I can be more at peace with the distance between us so I can honor the boundaries I feel are needed?
Council: Honor your boundaries, the ones that make you feel comfortable. Know that you had a relationship for a while. Try to remember the good parts of it and now say, for whatever reason I don’t understand yet, it’s time to let that relationship go. It’s so simple. It’s your choice.
Lindsey: Many thanks for all your guidance.
Council: So focus now on what you want – a new someone in your life, a more peaceful relationship with people around you, being able to feel more love from your heart. Even if you don’t like someone, you can just understand you are a spirit, they are a spirit, and you are all on your own paths.
And so as always, we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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Did I Miss A Date With Destiny?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous #3.
Anon #3: I’ve been experimenting with these techniques and I’ve seen how much of my body I’ve ignored in my decision-making processes. It’s been really useful and insightful, so thank you.
Bob: I assume Anonymous #3 is referring to The Council’s meditation techniques.
Anon #3: I had a strange experience connected to this which has thrown up related questions which I thought I’d ask. A couple of months ago I felt compelled, almost moved beyond my control, to apply for a job in another country, as jobs in my sector are scarce.
Council: Your strong sense of doing this lets you know that it comes from your higher self and that it was something you pre-planned in spirit before you were born.
Anon #3: Afterward I decided I didn’t really want this job. What was I thinking? When I was offered an interview, I was full of fear and a feeling I shouldn’t take this job, so I withdrew my application after journaling and finding nothing positive about it.
Council: So you created going further, an interview with someone interested in you. And yet what we see here is that out of fear you didn’t go in the direction of this job. And that, of course, is always your choice.
Anon #3: I don’t really understand what happened, and now I’m afraid I missed a date with destiny. Is this true? Did I?
Council: Never. Whenever there’s something that’s strongly wanted that perhaps you planned for in spirit, you’ll get the opportunity. When you miss it, you miss that particular opportunity. You don’t miss your destiny, or you don’t miss going on the path that you wish to go on. You will have other opportunities. It will come in other ways. It will always take you to where you want to go.
But we’d say to work on fear. What happens if you take a chance and do something very different? Do you go with love, or do you go with fear? If you go with fear, okay, you’re still not ready. Another opportunity will come along. It will always be there. And if, for some reason, you turn down everything that you create that will help you get there, you’ll have an opportunity to do it in another life. So there is no wrong answer.
The answer for you is to learn how to look at things with love instead of fear, to imagine the good that could come out of it, and that you are always protected. Your higher self, which is you, is taking you down this path.
Anon #3: Does the opportunity you’re destined for come around again?
Council: Of course.
Anon #3: Do we ever miss our calling?
Council: No.
Anon #3: And what happens to the soul contracts with the people I missed by not taking this opportunity? Do other people and experiences come in and take their place?
Council: Of course. It’s always planned in spirit. If I do this, what happens? And then a spirit will say, “Then I’ll jump in.” Or we’ll create something different and we’ll make ourselves be there. There are always backup plans. You are never left high and dry.
Anon #3: I also wonder about that strange, being moved to apply for the job, feeling.
Council: That was your higher self. When it comes with such force and you start thinking, “Am I nuts? What am I thinking of this for? Why would I want to do this?” It’s your intuition. It’s your higher self saying, “This is what I wanted. This is what I wanted. Come on. Come on.” And sometimes that feeling is overwhelming, and the choice is yours.
Anon #3: Was that my higher self moving through me, or spirit aligning me to my purpose?
Council: Definitely.
Anon #3: Or was I just wishful thinking and panic applying, as I really need a job?
Council: Wishful thinking doesn’t come with the force of a feeling that says, “I must do this. I don’t know why,” and doubting, and questioning. But the feeling that’s there is more than wishful thinking, and that’s how you know there’s something going on here. This is something I must want and my higher self is guiding me.
Anon #3: Does spirit ever move through us like that…
Bob: …meaning the panic applying for the job…
Anon #3: …and if so, how do we know it’s that and not us or our higher self?
Council: When it’s fear, you’ll feel it in your body. It’s a different feeling. It’s not overwhelming. There’s a lot of doubt and a lot of thinking going on with your brain, why you should or why you shouldn’t do something.
When it’s your higher self, the feeling is there and you know this is something that you need to follow, but it feels good. And you don’t have to know how it’s going to happen, or when, or where. But that feeling, that really overpowering feeling that sometimes you can just giggle about it, like am I crazy? What is this? It’s a good, happy feeling.
Anon #3: Also, I was wondering how I could have been moved to do something that I first changed my mind about and then felt so much fear around.
Council: Because being in the human body and thinking with the human brain, sometimes it’s very difficult to accept that your higher self can come through so strong, and there’s a lot of success and happiness waiting for you, but it’s the doubt and fear that holds you back.
And so you will go through two feelings. It will feel great, then it will feel horrible. What am I thinking? Oh, but imagine if this happened. A lot of going back and forth, but you always go with the feeling that feels good. When you doubt, that’s not your higher self. Your higher self will never take you down that road. Anything coming from your higher self will feel great.
Anon #3: I’d really love to feel clarity around this, so any light that you can shed that will help me move forward in my understanding would be appreciated. Hopefully there are others out there that will also find this information helpful.
Council: So when something comes so strongly and you don’t know whether to believe in if it’s right or if it’s not, and you have those back and forth feelings, just sit. Sit quietly for 10 minutes and think of it and the feeling that came with it. Will it bring you happiness? Is it something you could never imagine happening and that it could be so wonderful? Concentrate on the wonderfulness of it and imagine what it would be like. Play with it and you will bring it forward, and you’ll start feeling better and better about it.
And so the choice is to feel that good feeling. Imagine what it would be like and just take a chance. You can even go on an interview and if you’re still afraid, turn it down. You will get other opportunities.
Have fun on your journeys. Everyone is on their journey. Find the good feeling and continue on that path.
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Should I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophie.
Sophie: Thank you very much for your answers to my questions in your post about pregnancy and my partner smoking marijuana. They are straight to the point.
It seems that I got pregnant not when I was writing to you, but now, and I want your advice on how to make the best decision. My biggest concern is the baby’s health due to my partner’s marijuana smoking. As far as I know he stopped, but who knows for how long? Also I got a terrible stomach virus at the same time I became aware I’m pregnant.
Council: We’d like to say right here: Do you realize you already have made the decision of what to do, and you are now just creating little scenarios to show you what’s going on?
And so you talk about your boyfriend on marijuana, then you talk about an upset stomach. What else is there?
Sophie: My progesterone dropped down at that time, but now it’s going up again.
Council: And so the progesterone dropped.
Sophie: Is this virus a coincidence, or something I should consider also?
Council: The virus isn’t a coincidence. It’s another way you show yourself what you choose to do.
Sophie: I was also sick just a couple weeks back with a throat infection, but I didn’t take any strong medication, as I had a feeling I could be pregnant, and now I know I was.
Council: And again, now a throat infection.
Sophie: Another question is: Could it be the same soul as my previous pregnancy where I felt so much love for the fetus and was speaking to the spirit, and it said it would come back, and it showed up in a dream?
Council: We’d like to say here, and this is very important, you are giving yourself these different experiences that would stand in the way of a healthy pregnancy. And why you are doing that is because you and the spirit of this child would like to come together in this world.
We’d like you to know that the spirit you have this agreement with will come to you when the time is right. It doesn’t want to come and have a life where it’s not healthy. That is not what it wants to experience. Getting sick and having a partner with marijuana issues limits and will affect what happens.
And so at this time the child really doesn’t want to come into that lifetime. So there’s a lot for you to think about. And do you really want to have a child with this person?
Bob: Could you directly answer whether it’s the same spirit that she was pregnant with previously?
Council: Yes, it is. And it will come again.
Sophie: I kept talking to the spirit and before I knew I was pregnant I heard in my head, “I’m already here.”
The other side of why I want to continue is that I’ve wanted a baby for a couple years already. I feel that I want to take care of a little one and take some time from work to do something meaningful and loving.
Council: And so do you feel that you are capable of taking care of this child and giving it the best life you can provide for it financially and healthwise? Where you are now, is it the best life you can provide for this child?
Sophie: Also I have some concerns if I don’t continue with the pregnancy I’ll blame my partner, as it’s his marijuana use that’s my biggest concern.
Council: And that right there says a lot, which you need to look at. So do you have a child and maybe it will come with some sort of defect because your partner is on marijuana, or you are creating sicknesses that could affect this child? Is that what you want? Or do you want to give the child the best life that you can?
Sophie: And how are we going to plan the next pregnancy if my partner continues to smoke marijuana?
Council: Well we’d think you have a choice whether to continue trying to have a child with this person, or not. The choice is always yours. Look at what’s going on. Look at everything you’re creating. You are giving yourself the answers if you stop and look at it.
Sophie: It might be just a waste of time and a delay to fulfill my dream of having children and a family, so I’m not sure if I’ll be able to continue the relationship.
Council: There is a very good question that you are asking yourself. And the way we see it, you already have the answer. And there is no right or wrong answer. It’s to go by what you know, what you feel, and to have clarity on it.
Sophie: But I don’t know if I’m brave enough to change the direction of my life and take a chance that something brand new might come up, and leave my current relationship knowing it won’t be so soon when I can plan a family with someone new, who first needs to appear.
Council: And so because you’re afraid to take a chance, you’ll stay in this relationship that you’re already questioning? And why shouldn’t you find someone else? Don’t you think you deserve it? Of course you’ll find someone else if it’s your true intent to be happy and in a healthy marriage with healthy children. It’s all there for you, but the choices you make will or won’t bring that in.
Sophie: It seems my partner also plans to propose, and it seems like forever already that I wanted to be engaged and plan a family.
Council: And so that’s not happening either?
Sophie: It’s what I really want in my life, but another concern of mine is his daughter from another relationship, which is hard for me to deal with sometimes, and also the part where we’d all live together.
Council: And there you go again. We’re only pointing out to you what you already know and what you’re telling us. And so have the clarity to look at this. Why would you choose to have this sort of life, and there’s another child in it that’s difficult for you to deal with. That’s not going happily into a relationship. Again, the choice is yours, but the lesson here is to open your eyes, believe in yourself, and then follow what you want, whatever you want.
Sophie: I feel so lost. And whatever choice I make, of course there will be consequences and a delay in my dream.
There’s another question. Do you see that if I decide to change the direction of where I’m going, would it be a good idea to get back together with my first boyfriend and make a family?
Council: The energy is very good there.
Sophie: Somehow an idea came into my mind about him one day and he wrote to me. He proposed to me when we were together, but I said no, as I thought he’s not caring enough for a family and there should be something better, and we broke up. But after almost four years apart, neither he nor I so far created a family.
Council: And so we feel perhaps you created your current relationship to show you that this isn’t what you want, and maybe what you had before is still there for you and you want it. It’s very interesting what you’ve done. You’ve created these two relationships, and you’re at a point now where you can choose.
Sophie: My previous boyfriend also wants a family already.
Council: Wonderful.
Sophie: He said he misses my family, and he got along well with them. And my family also talks well about him and says he was the best of the partners I had.
Council: And so there’s another positive. Are you listening? We’re telling you that’s two positives you’re telling us already about your old relationship.
Sophie: It was my longest relationship I’ve had so far. Maybe you could share some techniques on how to make the best decision, as I feel so stuck and now both decisions seem like carrying some of the worries I think about.
Council: And so we can’t make the decision for you. But from what you’ve told us here, if you look at your current relationship, there were many things in it that weren’t positive. When you think of this new relationship, you’ve already given us a few positive answers about this person.
So look at this person and reconnect with him. You want a child and this person wants a child. Is this person healthy? Do they smoke marijuana or don’t smoke marijuana? Does this person want to have a happy, healthy child, and acts in ways that will have this happen? See the choices of things that this person wants and what you want. Do they combine nicely? Do you want the same things? Is it safer? Do you feel safer in that relationship?
So just look at it. Reconnect and look at it. Go slowly and look at it. And perhaps your child will come from that. It’s all your choice.
Sophie: As you said in the post that answered my last question, I’m thinking of my baby being healthy and beautiful, and having a wonderful time growing up.
Council: In your present relationship do you think that’s possible? This is another question to answer.
Sophie: But in the first weeks when I had a feeling I might be pregnant, my only thoughts were that I can’t accept my partner smoking marijuana and it having an effect on my baby.
Council: There is your answer if you care to truly hear it.
Sophie: At the same time I feel so irresponsible that I put myself in a position where I’m considering pregnancy termination again. It’s not how I want to live. Hope to hear from you.
Council: Good luck with your choices. Be positive. Know there’s so much more for you, and there’s no reason to be afraid to take a chance and go in a different direction. And we send you love and support in whatever you choose.
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Will My Baby Be Healthy And My Partner Stop Smoking Marijuana?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I wrote to you previously about the termination of a pregnancy because my partner was financially unstable. I also wrote because the fetus in that pregnancy that I had a connection with showed up in a dream. And also I experienced unconditional love I felt during the time I was pregnant that I never felt before.
Now I feel I might be pregnant again, but I didn’t plan this pregnancy. The situation of my partner’s finances hasn’t changed. He even turned out to have a marijuana addiction, which I don’t support, and we started arguing about it.
Council: First we’d like to say here that although you say the pregnancy is unplanned, you planned this pregnancy in spirit. You wouldn’t have brought this pregnancy into your life experience if you didn’t want it. So you created this pregnancy. Now why have you created it?
And then you turn and look at your partner, which we see is having a problem with marijuana. Why have you created that in your lifetime? Is it a way to sever ties with this person? Is it a way to realize, “Well I want to be with this person, but perhaps it’s better for us not to have a relationship where we have children?” Always question yourself, because there’s no one that will create anything in your life but you.
Zumza: I want a baby, but I’m scared that my partner’s marijuana addiction will affect the health and development of the baby.
Council: Yes, of course it can affect the baby’s health. And so that’s something that’s making you question: Should you have a baby? Should you have a baby with your current partner? So look at your situation from that point of view. Your situation is all about you and learning what you want. It’s not about trying to cure someone of marijuana or helping them with better financial ways to bring in money. It’s not about you going out and getting another job to fix the financial situation.
What is it that you want? Look at whether this person has a problem with finances, if this person has a problem with marijuana, yet tells you he wants children, but yet smokes the marijuana knowing it can have a defect on the child. What is that showing you? So allow yourself to see the whole picture and then take yourself out of it and realize, what is it that you want?
Zumza: He started smoking marijuana again recently and before that he was smoking during the summer. I live a clean life and if his addiction continues I just want to end this relationship.
Council: So it sounds here like you’re not only saying it, but feeling that you want to end this relationship. And so, what else do you need to see to end it?
Zumza: Do you see if I continue the pregnancy, I will have a healthy baby?
Council: We can’t say to you, “Yes, you will have a healthy baby,” or, “no you won’t have a healthy baby; this isn’t a good idea,” because you will create the outcome. We feel the direction you’re going in – and you can always change your direction and the choice will always be yours – the direction that you’re going in is to scare yourself out of this relationship. If you have a baby and you’re not comfortable going forward because of your partner’s marijuana addiction, you will create a problem with the child that is born because of this addiction.
And so before you go into this, feel what it is. Are you uncomfortable taking the chance of having this child with this person? Are you uncomfortable about maybe having a child that will have some sort of defect because of your partner’s marijuana addiction? You are creating this so that you can open your eyes to what you want, what you will settle for, or what beautiful happiness you are looking for and will find, but perhaps it will be with someone else.
You can’t change your partner. If he stops smoking marijuana right now, what’s to say he won’t do it again? If there’s a problem with finances, who’s to say there won’t be problems again? It’s in your belief at the moment, from what we see, that you are creating a way for you to look at your situation, to look at the truth of what you’re saying, what you are bringing forth, and to make a decision from that. No one can make this decision for you.
Zumza: Will my partner quit smoking marijuana, and why is he smoking it?
Council: He’s smoking it for many of the needs that he feels he has. That doesn’t matter. Will he quit? Maybe, maybe not. It’s his choice. Right now, with the energy around him, we don’t see him quitting. If he does quit, he will return to smoking marijuana. This is what is seen now because that’s what is being created now. Can he change? Yes he can, when he’s willing to create for himself how he wants to live.
And so is it something that you want? Again, look at it. Question yourself. It’s about you. What do you want in your life? A partner that you have to worry about, or maybe someone brand new where it feels perfect, there’s happiness, there’s no problem, and a child will come from another relationship. And so, again, it’s your beliefs, it’s what you choose to focus on now. That will show you the direction your life is going in.
Zumza: Why did I get pregnant at the least favorable time?
Council: This is you. This is what you’re creating. You have a desire for a child, but perhaps you’re creating your situation with the least favorable experiences because you need to see what your partner is like. Do you want to keep him in your life? Do you want to take a chance and raise this child alone?
And so, again, look at your choices. You are creating this so that you will open your eyes and see what it is that you have created so far. And do you want to keep creating on that path, or do you want a new path?
Zumza: I promised myself I wouldn’t terminate a pregnancy ever again.
Council: If it’s a promise that feels good to you, then we’d say, go for it. Is it a promise that you’ve made to yourself, but in the background is the worry that this child can be born with a defect? We’d say, look at it again. If you wish to have this child, then you must do the inner work and see this child being perfect, happy, and see yourself raising this child with joy and fun. That work must begin now.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Pregnant With An Unplanned Third Child At 40 That My Husband Doesn’t Want?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: I’d love to ask The Council’s advice. I’ve recently determined I’m pregnant with our third child. It was unplanned, and I’m 40 years old. I’m struggling to find clarity in my heart about what to do. We’re in a big transition, seeking a new home and work. And physically I feel how challenging another child would be on my body and my energy. And my husband doesn’t want another child.
Council: You already know your husband doesn’t want this child. It sounds like you have a problem with knowing how you’d handle this new child and that it will be stressful.
And so we’ll say here, where we can never make the decision for you, it’s so wonderful that no matter what you decide, we see here that this spirit, and you, and your husband have agreed to either way, having the baby or not having the baby. It was thought that spirit would come in at a certain time and you would then all decide, were you ready?
And so if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, that you don’t feel in your heart it is a good decision, it’s okay not to bring forth this child into this reality. You’ve all agreed to this. And so there’s no wrongdoing. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. The child will go on and, if it wishes, be born to another couple. It may stay in the spirit world for a while, or a long time. Nobody will suffer from this.
And so the decision is yours, and it should be made with love. You and your husband send each other love and send this spirit love. This spirit already is sending you love.
And so everything, no matter which way you decide, will be perfect.
L: And yet I also feel it’s a divine blessing to conceive without trying, and there’s immense grief considering how to end the pregnancy.
Council: It’s a divine blessing because you are divine, the child is divine, your husband is divine, and you’d agreed to have this child if it was at a good time and if it would be good for all three of you. So the three of you brought this pregnancy forward and brought it through with the knowledge that if it wasn’t a good time to have this child, you could end the pregnancy and release the child.
L: It’s very early, but I wouldn’t wish to wait very long if we take this path of stopping the pregnancy.
Council: This is understandable so all of you can go on. The spirit can go on, you can go on, and your husband can go on.
L: Can you shed any light on spirit and moving forward with love for our entire family?
Council: There’s all love for you in spirit. All of you have it within you. All of your higher selves know what’s planned. And any decision, and we say it again, any decision that you make is perfect.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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How Can I Get Unstuck on My Divinely Inspired Project?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Taylor, who’s been working on a divinely guided project for a few months, but the project is stagnating. She’s still working towards this goal, but feels like she’s hit a block and she asks The Council where her focus and efforts need to be right now, and if there’s anything that needs to be addressed before she can move forward.
The Council says coming into this reality Taylor wanted to feel her own power. You wanted to feel you were connected to source and you could make wise decisions. Does your path make you feel good? Ask yourself if you get excited about what you’re trying to create now? In your wildest dreams, what would you add to your project?
Go into every detail of your project and take away what needs to be taken away. Add to your project what needs to be added. Always ask yourself if your plans are finished. Do you really like what you’ve created? Or is this just the beginning and do I want my project to bring me more? Do I want my project to change and am I open to that change?
The best thing you can do right now is to start asking yourself these questions. The answers are already within you, but you need to focus. Whether it’s meditation or sitting quietly, you need to focus and ask yourself these questions.
Writing is good for you. Perhaps you can sit at a computer or sit with paper and write a question about where you’re trying to go with this project, and then wait. Think about this question. Send it out to the universe. What kind of ideas come into your head? These ideas don’t need to make sense at first. Ask who you’d like to be working with on this new idea that’s coming to you.
Continuously ask yourself where you want to go and what do you want to do? Is there more than one thing that I want to do? That would be wonderful. Ask these questions with each topic you’re thinking about working on and bring your focus with the ideas into your conscious mind so you can allow yourself to make the right decisions.
This project is your purpose and it’s what you wanted to experience. You wanted to be creative. You wanted to have many ideas and you wanted to know how you could make decisions. Sit quietly and get these answers. When you get these answers and you move forward, you’ll feel that powerful feeling that you wished to have in your current lifetime.
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What’s the Relationship Potential for Two of My Men Friends?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kali, who says: I’m open to a relationship since the sudden death of my partner and children’s father seven years ago. Two men are currently in my life as friends only. Both have major issues and I have a tendency to rescue others. Do I cut my losses and move on, or is the connection I feel with them both a reason to stay and see what develops?
The Councill asks if Kali wishes to go forward in this lifetime you’re creating and rescue these two? We won’t tell you whether to cut your losses or to stay in these relationships, but when you think of these things does it bring you joy? Do you want to move forward in something brand new, or do you want to stay in these relationships hoping to see where they’ll go?
This relationship of friendship is what you wanted to create when you were in spirit. Through these friendships you’ll have your eyes opened and you’ll see more about the three of you together. From what you experience in these two relationships you’ll make up your mind what you want and which way you want to go. Look at what you have. Is it more of the same? Is there much more that you want? Learn from this.
The Council says if Kali wants either one of these friendships to develop into a more meaningful relationship, if it’s wanted between her and the spirit of one of these men, it is possible. The higher self knows what’s wanted, but it’s not jumping out to give the answer because you want to learn how to recognize what it is that you want and how to create the desires in your life that you want to be fulfilled. This is a time to experience, to think, and then eventually make up your mind.
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Am I Working Through a Past Life Connection with My Boss?
This post answers questions for The Council from an Anonymous reader who has a tumultuous relationship with their boss an wants to know if they have a past life connection with this person and they’re trying to work through it?
The Council sees a past life in England where you were both friends, running a general store, and having mistrust for one another. What you’re trying to accomplish in your current lifetime is to work together, but with a different kind of understanding.
Can you speak honestly with your boss the way you weren’t able to in the lifetime in England. If you’re uncomfortable how you’re being treated in your current life or there’s misunderstandings, it’s for your growth to speak up about these things. Your boss, if he wishes to grow spiritually, has to get to a place where he listens and tries to understand your point of view. There’s lots of communication the two of you wish to work out in your current relationship.
Anonymous asks why their boss insists on giving them work while they’re on vacation. The Council asks if you’re able to speak to your boss about this. And The Council asks if Anonymous respects themself enough to put up boundaries to let their boss know that when you’re on vacation, you won’t be available to do this work? Can you trust in what you deserve and make these boundaries? As long as you’re unable to give voice to these difficulties, they will continue.
Anonymous says they’ve tried to use a pendulum to get answers, but sometimes it doesn’t seem accurate and they want to know if this is a valid way to get insight? The Council says you’re able to get the pendulum to give the answer you want by using your mind and your energy.
The Council says when you want answers, the best way is to sit quietly and think of the problem, then let the problem go. When you can sit quietly and relax into the silence, the answers to your problem will come to you.
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Why Can’t I Plan a Life Where Everything Falls Into Place?
This post answers questions for The Council about choices and consequences from a reader named, Audrey. She begins by saying that in our physical reality we have many opportunities to make a variety of life-changing choices. The Council interjects here that having choices is your main power and you have choices in everything.
Audrey goes on to say that once a decision is made, the consequences can be difficult and long-lasting. To this The Council responds that they can also be joyful. The consequences are only long-lasting if you allow them to be.
Audrey continues, “Examples can range from marrying the wrong person, to taking a crappy job, or saying the wrong thing even if it’s the truth and the surrounding people choose only to deal in fiction.”
The Council says coming into this reality you knew you’d have choices and life wouldn’t be perfect. When you’re making the wrong decisions, or you made a decision that now feels wrong, you have the ability to change these decisions and correct what you’ve done. You don’t have to stay in a bad situation.
In spirit, you think you’ll try something in your physical reality and if you don’t like it you’ll try something else. When you’re on the Earth path, whatever your choices are and they aren’t bringing you joy, then you change your choice. You change how you act in that situation and you bring love into it. If the situation doesn’t change, then you make a another decision, and another decision.
The important thing is to consider what you’ve learned from each of your choices. If you choose an abusive spouse and you get out of this relationship but don’t understand how you got into this relationship in the first place, if you don’t ask yourself what you’ve learned in this relationship and move on to another relationship, somewhere in that new relationship you’ll find more abuse. Each thing you’d like to change, it’s important to ask yourself why you don’t like this situation. How can I make this situation better. You have the ability to make these changes.
Audrey says she doesn’t like that pain, hardship, and difficulty from our choices can last for years in some instances. The Council replies this is always your decision.
Audrey writes that this blog says these experiences are for learning and soul growth, but this is difficult for her to accept. The Council says when you’re hurt or upset and you look at your situation in the moment it happens, try to pull back from the situation and look at it, realize you’re responsible for creating this situation, and ask yourself why you’ve brought it into your life. You have a choice to change your circumstances.
Audrey says she’s tried to make the right choices in her life and with hindsight these choices now seem wrong and she wonders what her life would have been like if she made different choices. The Council advises Audrey to focus on what she wants and can create now rather than think about what her life would have been like if she made different choices. Her life was what it was, and thinking about what it would have been won’t change that. Learn from what her life was and start focusing on on how she wants to move forward.
Audrey says if she’s learned her lesson from the choices she’s made, in this lifetime she can’t apply those lessons again because she’s not faced with the same opportunities. The Council says there will be similar opportunities, and if you’ve truly learned your lessons, you’ll make different choices.
Audrey closes by saying she doesn’t understand why we can’t just plan a peaceful, simple life where everything falls into place. The Council says when we’re in spirit, we know our physical reality isn’t a perfect place and we’ll make mistakes, but we want to jump into our reality and experience it. This is exciting for our spiritual being.
If life was perfect it would be like laying on a beach every day of your life – never leaving the beach, just laying there. After awhile this would get very boring. Where is the soul growth? Where is the learning? How do you experience what you can create?
You have complete control over how you create your opportunities, good and bad, and how you move forward in your life. In spirit this is very joyous and exciting for you. You ask yourself how you’ll jump into this life, make these opportunities positive, and bring love into them so you can feel that you’ve changed your perspective and your understanding. That’s why everything isn’t like laying on the beach or just falling into place.
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What if My Interest in Spirit as a Distraction from “Reality”
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Malia, who says her navel chakra feels weak, my will feels blocked, and I’m overly enmeshed with my family.
The Council says the reason for Malia’s blocked third or navel chakra is in many prior lives she had to do what she was told in her families. She had no say in what direction her life went. In her current lifetime it’s Malia’s intention to heal this situation. She wants to feel independent and make her own decisions.
The Council says Malia has created a situation where she’s enmeshed with her family and now she needs to figure out what’s going on in her day to day life rather than focusing so much on her navel chakra. Is there a way she’s able to handle her circumstances differently? Is she able to make protective boundaries so she doesn’t feel herself getting pulled into everyone’s world? The Council says the reason Malia’s having this experience right now is so she can learn from it and change it.
The Council says the reason Malia’s enmeshed with her family is her day to day choices. Her greatest power in the current lifetime she’s creating is her minute to minute decisions. Why does she allow herself to be pulled in to her family’s drama? Why does she create these experiences? By looking at her circumstances she’ll be able to find new ways to deal with them. She’s created these situations to learn independence, to speak for herself, make decisions, and make boundaries. Boundaries is a big lesson for her in this lifetime.
Malia says she feels insecure about her capacity to be independent. The Council says she has the capacity, the power, and the strength to be independent. That is what she’s chosen to learn in this lifetime. She’s created situations where she does’t feel independent so she can learn to overcome them.
Malia says she’s afraid she’s using her interest in spirit as a scapegoat rather than working on the reality she’s manifesting. The Council says spirit isn’t Malia’s scapegoat. As she meditates or intuitively pays attention to feelings and ideas that come to her, that is her higher self helping handle her challenges. This isn’t using spirit as a scapegoat. This is learning from her higher self.
Bob suggests Malia may mean she’s using her interest in spirit to keep from focusing on day to day choices The Council asked her to focus on. The Council says when you realize who you truly are as a spirit in a physical body, that is the most important thing. Your day to day choices becomes clearer when you understand this.
Bob asks The Council if they can think of a reason why Malia might be having this fear of working on her reality and having spirit as a scapegoat? The Council says the desire to stand up to people, be independent, face confrontation, and learn to say no are with Malia from other lifetimes. Rather than face these situations on a day to day basis she can believe that concentrating on spirit doesn’t allow her to change the experiences she’s having.
Intuitively Malia knows she has to face these challenges because this is what she’s created them for. The part of her that’s afraid to face these challenges will concentrate on what she thinks of as spirit and takes her away from what she has to do to have a different experience.
The Council recommends daily meditation, even if it’s only five minutes, and coming up with affirmations that remind her who she truly is as a spirit in a physical body. Read about spirit and the reason we’re here on Earth. As she feels more in tune with who she is, she’ll be able to handle her day to day experiences. Family and other relationships will become clearer.
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Which of Two Job Opportunities Should I Choose?
This post is inspired by a follow-up question from LearningSoulSite, who asks The Council which of two job opportunities in India will be better for her. One is for a startup IT company in the city where she is already located, and one is for a large IT company that wants her to move to Pune, India, which is a new city for her. LearningSoulSite says she doesn’t want to put herself in a more challenging situation than she’s already in.
The Council says LearningSoulSite has very cleverly created both of these job opportunities. They say the job that would require her to move is what’s wanted by her higher self. It will bring new opportunities, a new city, new friends, and to begin her life again.
They also say there’s no right or wrong answer here. If she’s in a place where she desires the security of remaining in the city where she currently is, this is fine. You will grow with this company.
If you choose the job opportunity that takes you to Pune and out of your familiar feeling and environment, you will be forced to grow and find new friends. If you feel you’re ready for this, that is the way to go.
The decision is yours. Whichever company you agree on, you will start your new life. The one that asks you to move is a giant jump in this reality; it is a lesson in trusting and believing in yourself. The other job opportunity that doesn’t require so much change, you will also grow there, but at a slower pace. Both companies will take you in the direction you need to go.
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Advice on Miscarrying a Pregnancy
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Miyam who is past her first trimester of pregnancy and she says she’s tried to abort with herbs because she can’t afford a medical abortion. Miyam has tried speaking with the soul of the unborn child in the hope of convincing it to miscarry, and she asks The Council for advice on convincing this soul to terminate it’s pregnancy rather than be born.
The Council says the spirit of this unborn child understands that Miyam wants it to miscarry, but the reason Miyam got pregnant was for her to realize she must take more control of her life and move it forward in the direction she chooses. The Council advises Miyam not to expect a miscarriage in this pregnancy. They say she must make a decision whether to give birth to the child and raise it by herself, or be brave enough to make the decision to end her pregnancy.
Miyam says she doesn’t plan on being a mother any time soon, and The Council repeats that the child won’t magically go away. They advise her to then move forward an have the pregnancy terminated, but it must be done soon.
The Council suggest Miyam continue speaking to the child and feel the love it sends her so she can be strong enough to make the decision that she wants. They say if she chooses to abort, this is fine. It was part of the pre-planning. The lesson for Miyam in this is to answer the question, where is she going forward from this point?
The Council suggests finding a way not to live with the man she apparently doesn’t want to be with. Find a way to live on your own. Move toward these dreams. They say that is Miyam’s answer.
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Is My Pregnancy a Mistake?
This post is inspired by a question from a reader who gives the name, Anon. She’s recently found out she’s pregnant after trying for 18 months, but now is afraid this pregnancy is a mistake. The same thing happened 18 months ago, but she miscarried. Anon says she’d never have an abortion, but keeps asking the soul to leave because she’s afraid having a child now will upset her family’s “lovely life”.
The Council begins by telling Anon a good question to ask herself is why she’s been trying to get pregnant if she feels the same way about this pregnancy as she felt when she miscarried 18 months before?
Anon says she wanted a sibling for her daughter, but now she’s scared. The Council recommends she practice changing her thoughts from fearful ones to ones of this child adding to the family’s happiness and increasing the family with love. They feel this is what Anon planned as a soul before she was born, but The Council adds there isn’t any reason for regret or anxious feelings if she doesn’t give birth to this soul.
The Council says when you create in spirit you have an idea what you’d like to experience in your human life. Once you are here you forget what you planned and this reality gets in the way. They say perhaps Anon has changed her mind because there is so much fear and she doesn’t know how to get past it.
The Council says to get past the fear Anon must come from the vibration of love. And they say she has the choice in every moment to stay in the fear, or imagine she’s ready to expand on the love she has with her family by giving birth to this child.
The Council says if Anon allows this spirit to be born, she is on one path these souls agreed to. And if she decides not to have this child, this was also part of the agreement. The Council says there is love in both decisions and Anon needs to stay in this vibration of love whatever direction she decides to take.
The Council says currently this child has no plan of miscarrying. They say if Anon tells this soul every day she’s changed her mind and doesn’t want the child to be born, she can cause a natural miscarriage. But they repeat that from their point of view this child currently plans on being born.
The Council repeats if Anon is determined not to go forward with this pregnancy, this is perfectly alright. But they also say Anon and this soul have been together in other lifetimes, they have many lessons they wish to learn together in this lifetime, and if this soul comes into this reality it will give Anon a lot of strength and pleasure.
The Council says Anon is experiencing the fear of the unknown, but she’s been told she knows this soul from before, they will have an interesting life, and they will learn many things together. They say the choice is Anon’s.
The Council says if Anon miscarries, this soul will return to her if she becomes pregnant again because they have many things they want to learn together.
While we like to think these sessions with The Council are important to the the person who asks the questions, this session seems to offer a broader wisdom we hope many listeners will appreciate. Listen to the entire 11-minute session (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Anon and for the rest of us.
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Loving Feelings with a Married Co-worker
This post is inspired by a question from a reader named T. who asks The Council the purpose of a beautiful soul in her life who happens to be a co-worker and married to another woman.
T. says she’s never felt so free and content just knowing he exists and feels unconditional love for him. She’s unable to see any unhappiness in his marriage, and while she knows he feels something for her, T. has no idea what this is. She asks for signs of his feelings, but finds them confusing.
T. wonders if she shouldn’t give energy to the idea of being with him one day, or sit back and wait for the right time to be with him. She asks The Council why they have come together, if they’ve lived past lives together, and what is his purpose in her life?
The Council asks T. why she would want to give up this unconditionally loving relationship and they add this is the reason we have come to this physical reality. She has created this relationship in her life and she needs it.
The Council asks if T. must have more, or if she’s able to appreciate the relationship she’s having right now? Does she want to come between this man and his wife?
The Council feels confident T. will create whatever she wants. Perhaps she’ll create an affair with this man – whether it ends well or not will depend on how she creates it.
The Council says T. is able to create a situation where this man leaves his wife. Or is T. able to enjoy this relationship, taking what she finds there, and create her very own partner without separating this married couple? The Council says there isn’t any judgement of her whichever she chooses. What feels better to her?
The Council says T. and the co-worker have lived past lives together and he’s in her life now to help her get in touch with loving feelings that will help her create what she desires. Will T. take the love she’s created in this relationship and create a new relationship where she’s able to share these feelings with someone else, and still remain friends with this co-worker? Or does T. want to create what she desires with this man she works with?
The Council says it’s very important for T. to focus on the feelings and emotions that are uplifting for her and then choose whether she’d like to share this love with her co-worker, or create someone new in her life to share this love with.
This is a choice The Council says wants to be made (presumably in spirit). As they see it, this choice was discussed before coming into this physical reality when T. was in spirit, and it was her wish to see how she could create loving feelings wherever she goes, whether it be in an intimate relationship or with family, friends, co-workers, etc.
The Council says this situation is not about creating the right partner for T. It’s about creating loving feelings in all her relationships.
Listen to the entire 13-minute session with The Council to get the benefit of all their guidance for T.
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Whether or Not to Have a Forth Child
This post is inspired by a question from Jackie, who’s looking for guidance from The Council about whether or not to have a forth child she’s now pregnant with. Jackie says her forth pregnancy was a planned one, but now that she’s pregnant she’s having second thoughts about it.
The Council advises Jackie to examine her thoughts and her life to see what’s contributing to this change from when she planned this child. Is it the people she’s speaking with, is it old fears coming up, is she not sure about her relationship with the father, or something else that’s troubling her.
Jackie says she’s afraid a decision to have this child will end many close relationships in her life, and The Council advises her to think about what she wants for herself. Is the idea of having another child something that makes Jackie feel good? What kind of pressure does Jackie feel from the people around her that makes her feel like she would loose these relationships?
The Council advises whatever decision Jackie makes, there are agreements with the souls involved to be part of this decision. If she has this child and looses these close relationships, this was agreed upon and it’s okay with everyone involved. If Jackie terminates the pregnancy, this was also agreed upon by the soul of this child, and these close relationships would stay in Jackie’s life. The Council says the answer to this decision is in these thoughts. How did she get from wanting the child to being afraid of having this child?
The Council asks Jackie if she decides to have this child, whether she’ll have the assistance she needs to raise it peacefully. Or is she not likely to have this assistance, in which case she might decide not to have it. Which decision does Jackie feel more comfortable with?
The Council reminds Jackie she isn’t here in this physical reality to drive herself crazy or suffer great hardships. If there isn’t great love and anticipation for this child, The Council says Jackie should look at that. Does the idea of terminating the pregnancy feel like a relief to her. Now is the time for Jackie to look at her thoughts and the feelings that go with them.
The Council advises Jackie that in our physical reality there will always be fears and there isn’t any right or wrong decision. She should feel how she is with the thought of having this child, and feel how she is with the thought of ending this pregnancy. The Council says either choice is fine because they were planned for in spirit. It’s just the road Jackie desires to take.
The Council feels if Jackie thinks about what they’ve suggested, she will have an ah-ha moment. And even if she can hold onto this moment for a few minutes, she will know what feels most comfortable and can make her decision. They say it’s normal to waffle back and forth after this ah-ha moment, but The Council says Jackie will get a strong feeling about what to do and she should follow that decision.
The Council feels Jackie is a lot stronger than she believed when she wrote her comment. They say a small part of the anxiety she felt in the previous year is making this decision a little difficult, but they think Jackie will learn how strong she can be if this is her choice. As she begins to look at what she has learned and come through in her life, she will take care of herself differently and her life will change for the better, regardless of whether she chooses to have this child or terminate this pregnancy.
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Ask a Question and Spirit Immediately Answers
This session is inspired by a reader named Sam and her questions about a relatively recent pregnancy she terminated. She says there are a lot of loose ends around the termination, and The Council begins by saying these loose ends Sam is talking about are all part of the learning and moving forward.
Sam says ever since she learned she was pregnant she’s been feeling a sense of wholeness and love for herself and she asks if this love is coming from the soul of her child. The Council says while the child’s soul is constantly sending her love, the love Sam is talking about is Sam loving herself because she has followed her pre-birth spiritual plan exactly the way she intended.This love is part of who Sam truly is as a spiritual being. The Council says Sam stepped forward to help this soul, who desired to briefly experience what it was like to be in a human body, and then leave Sam’s body quickly.
Sam says the father of this child wasn’t really there during this pregnancy and isn’t currently in her life. She asks if there’s any meaning to why he was never part of the pregnancy and termination. The Council says the father also agreed in spirit to help this soul experience a brief physical life, but it was never agreed he would stay with her and be a family. Sam says sometimes she thinks about the father and wishes she could tell him all she’s learned from terminating this pregnancy. She says part of her doesn’t think he deserves to know and part of her thinks she should tell him, and Sam asks The Council what she should do.
The Council says in Sam’s spiritual pre-plan, this soul would play the part of the child’s father and then leave Sam’s life. If she chooses to involve him at this point, they say she’d be drifting from what she originally pre-planned, but they add this is okay. This is part of the choice she has in her current lifetime and they advise Sam to think about this choice. She is able to communicate with the father non-verbally and she should know on some level this communication is received. When this information is needed by him, he will have the benefit of whatever she has spoken to him about.
Sam says she’s learned not to look at this experience as a mistake, but part of her feels sad and she wonders if this is from loosing the child or from what she describes as poor decisions she’s made in her life. The Council says if Sam feels she’s made poor decisions, has she learned from them. If she had the opportunity to make these decisions again, would she decide differently based on what she now knows. And they add that this is what life is about – learning and moving on. They also tell Sam it’s important to look at the choices she’s made that have worked out for her and that she feels good about.
When Sam says she feels like she’s running away from her true self, The Council replies there’s nothing wrong with the way she’s handling her situation and they advise her to be open, accepting, and move forward. She will learn from this experience. They advise Sam to feel good about herself, look forward to having more understanding, and feel that it’s safe to let her energy expand rather than holding it close to her physical body.
Sam asks if she shouldn’t feel ashamed for hiding this pregnancy from her parents, and The Council says she is here to experience the love of spirit and there is no purpose to feeling ashamed. There is nothing wrong with the choice she made to terminate this pregnancy.
At the end of this session The Council makes the point that they answered Sam’s questions long before she wrote them on our blog. But was she able to let the answers in? Was she able to sit quietly and understand that her thoughts and feelings or the things she suddenly understood, is spirit reaching out to her with the answers to her questions?
The Council points out that when you have a question, spirit provides you with answers instantaneously, but are you receptive to them? In Sam’s case she had these answers, but she needed them to come in a different way. So she created the answers through this blog. The Council explains we have yet to fully develop to the point where we trust our intuition, and our thoughts, and our feelings. And they add that this is why we are here in this physical reality.
The Council asks Sam to let go of any shame, any regret, or any thinking of wrong doing on this situation she is coming through. It was pre-planned by her in spirit and she executed it beautifully in her physical reality. And they remind Sam to hold on to the feeling of self love.
This session offers much guidance on many aspects of terminating a pregnancy. Listen to the entire 16-minute recording below to hear all of The Council’s advice for Sam and anyone interested in this subject.
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A Lesson in Forgiveness
This post is about a question from a reader named Tanya who asks The Council if she had a life lesson in self-forgiveness to learn from an abortion.
The Council says there’s a life lesson in just about everything we experience as challenging or where there’s a difficult decision to make. They agree Tanya’s abortion was a life lesson, and while abortion is often about learning self-forgiveness, in Tanya’s case it was more about learning to let go of a situation when the timing isn’t right, being okay with her decision, and learning that whatever she chooses is the right choice.
The Council asks Tanya if, rather than just focusing on forgiveness, if her abortions (The Council feels there were two) have taught her something about facing challenges after the abortion. And their advise is to see where she is in the moment and go with the decision that feels best to her.
The Council says post traumatic stress comes when you don’t quite know how to be okay with the decisions you’ve made. The more Tanya learns how to let let go and move on with her life, the more she’ll learn to accept herself and have more confidence in her choices. The Council also says as Tanya learns she’s a spirit in her physical body, she’ll become more okay with her decisions.
Bob asks if Tanya’s asking for forgiveness from the soul of the unborn child was for Tanya or the unborn child. And The Council says if she felt forgiven by this spirit it would help Tanya feel better and she could move on with her life.
When Bob commented it was his understanding from previous sessions that the soul of the unborn child was already forgiving, The Council agrees. But they add that Tanya wasn’t aware of this at that time. So she asked for and received this forgiveness.
Listen to the entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to benefit from all their guidance is this session.
(This session was one of two we did so the recording seem to end abruptly.)
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Should I Have An Abortion?
This post is about questions from a reader named S. who’s learned she’s pregnant. She loves children, always wanted them, and has been determined not to have her children suffer through poverty and unhappy circumstances the way she and her siblings did.
She left the father of the fetus the day before she learned she was pregnant because the relationship was an abusive one. S. says she’s currently in school and unemployed. Recently she was told by her doctor she has endometriosis and will have difficulty getting pregnant.
S. says she’s confused. She’s aware other spiritualists say it’s bad to abort a fetus unless it’s with a loving intention. She’d like her child to have a healthy mother and father, she knows this isn’t possible right now, and feels the need for a stable career.
Just days before she learned she was pregnant S. felt great comfort in her decision to leave her ex-boyfriend, and for the first time in her life was looking forward to loving herself and creating a whole person for a future partner and family.
S. wants to know why she’s pregnant now and if aborting this fetus has been the plan all along. She’s concerned about the karmic implications of abortion, and she’d prefer this soul return to her at a time when she can offer it a beautiful life with a beautiful father.
The Council begins by telling S. that leaving an abusive relationship is a giant step for her that shows self love. Having lived through a difficult time growing up, S. made the choice with love and wisdom not to repeat similar difficulties for her future children.
The Council is clear it’s not a bad choice to abort this pregnancy if that is S.’s choice; there’s no right or wrong. It was agreed before coming to this reality that this soul would come to her as a fetus and at that time S. would decide whether or not to have the child. The soul may choose to come back at a future time, but if it decides to move on there will always be another soul ready to come forward to help S. become a mother and go through the experiences she wishes to have.
If finishing school is the thought that makes S. feel best right now, The Council says this is the direction she should go in. If the thought of having this child now and somehow having a wonderful connection with this soul even if she’s on her own feels better, The Council advises to go with that. They remind her there isn’t any right or wrong and to pay attention to the way she feels when she thinks each thought. Follow the feeling of happiness, of love, of relief, and know that she’ll have lessons either way she chooses.
The Council advises S. there is much joy ahead whatever she chooses and by looking for this joy she’ll bring it into her reality. The key is to follow the better feeling thought.
Before S. chooses she should remind herself of the choice she’s already made to leave a bad relationship. The Council reminds her this is a wonderful decision she’s made. Somehow going through different experiences growing up helped S. make this choice. When she decides whether or not to have this child, all the knowledge and the feelings she’s experienced in her life up to this point will help her choose.
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Is Monogamy Okay?
This post is inspired by questions from Julia who was married for 12 years and has been divorced for 2 years. She asks why non-monogamous relationships disturb her so much and wants to know if she should be more open to them?
Julia was monogamous in her marriage, but now has questions about open relationships as a single person. Sometimes she thinks she should try it because she gets so obsessed in her romantic relationships, but the thought disturbs her to the core.
The Council suggests Julia find the love for herself she’s looking for in relationships and asks why she wants to experience something she knows will be unpleasant in order to fit in. They also suggest Julia listen to herself and ask why make herself uncomfortable.
The Council advises more self-love, more doing for herself, and being gentle with herself to draw in the right people.
In one lifetime she was one of many wives and wasn’t made to feel special. She was lonely, didn’t receive enough attention, and that began her uncomfortable feeling she carries into this lifetime. Perhaps knowing where this feeling of uncomfortableness with open relationships comes from will make it possible to release this and work on loving herself more.
The Council says it’s fine to be in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships, but encourages Julia to choose what’s comfortable for her and ask why she’d put herself in a relationship where there’s no comfort. Choosing a monogamous relationship with someone who has similar beliefs would be easier for her.
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Will My Aborted Child Return My Next Pregnancy?
This post is inspired by comments and a question from a woman named A. who says she became pregnant after quitting her job to go back to school. She decided to terminate the pregnancy so she could continue her education and provide a better life for her family, but feels concerned she took something away from her son. She asks The Counsel if this aborted soul will come back to her the next time she gets pregnant.
The Counsel says that A. didn’t take anything away from her son by having this abortion and that the spirit of the son participated in the decision. They go on to say the aborted soul will return the next time A. gets pregnant and it will be a very strong connection.
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Choosing Love vs. Battle
Gail’s question
In this post Gail talks about identifying with the spiritual warrior and asks The Council what this means to them. The Council responds by saying they don’t see Gail as a warrior. They ask her to look at her life and see that what she wants is a change in the way she’s manifesting. The warrior is one way to give Gail the strength she needs to make these changes, but The Council adds there are other ways.
Peaceful warrior
The Council adds that Gail can go in the vibration of the peaceful warrior, in the vibration of joy. And yet if she feels things are difficult and she needs to fight her way through to change what is not wanted, then the spiritual warrior is available to her. Both ways will take her to her goal.
As The Council has said many times, the bottom line is what she believes. If modeling herself after a warrior gives Gail comfort and that is her belief, then use this. But if if she can become the peaceful warrior, going within and finding the joy she truly is, there is nothing she cannot accomplish.
The choice is Gail’s, but The Council asks why go into battle when when she can go into love.
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This post is part of a series of 4 questions that were answered by The Council on January 4, 2015. Stay tuned for posts on the other 3 questions, which are all on the subject of abortion. Copyright ℗ 2014 Bob & Cynthia Dukes
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Making the Right Decision
How often do you make a decision and wonder if it was a good decision, or the right decision? Natalie writes that she recently made a life altering decision and she’d like The Council’s opinion on whether it will lead to a better, brighter future for her and her children. This post looks at The Council’s guidance for Natalie, which seems like good advice for anyone wondering if a decision is the ‘right’ decision.
“We feel there were many tiny little decisions made… and a life altering decision. Many believe that would be some huge decision that was made, but the tiniest decision you make can be life altering.
“But we would like to say here that she should relax, and enjoy, and live in the moment of her new decisions. We would like to stress that. “And so we believe that for a while this will be a very good move.
“Now we would also like to say (so that Natalie is not frightened when we say ‘for a while’) when you reach your goal or your dream, or have what you believe you wanted, and when you experience what you believe you wanted to experience… life would be very boring if that was it.
“There will always be a new desire, a new decision to make, a new path to travel on. And so while we see that her decisions were perfect for right now, she will have many experiences and then there will be more decisions.
“And so to try to say, ‘this is it…’ we would never say that. There is always more, and always more, and always more. And she will always have the guidance; if she pays attention and listens to the little voice, or the little gut instinct and the little bits of intuition she gets, she will constantly move forward.
“Movement on her part that was made right now, we see it as something she will enjoy.”
—The Council
Little Decisions Can Be Life Altering
Aside from The Council’s reassuring opinion that Natalie’s decision is a good one right now for her and her children, they make a few interesting points here that feel like good advice for almost anyone, starting with the idea that a little decision can be as life altering as a great big decision. If you want to change your life, it seems common to believe that really big decisions need to be made.
But The Council reminds you this isn’t the only way to change your life. It’s also possible tiny little decisions like following inspired hunches, instincts, and intuitions, can alter your life just as much as decisions that feels like really big ones.
Enjoy Living in the Moment of Your Decisions
The idea that it’s good to live in the moment has been around for a long time. Eckhart Tolle’s bestselling book, The Power of Now, has done a lot to popularize this idea in recent years. And an internet search for ‘live in the moment’ turns up lots of quotes from respected thinkers like Buddha, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry David Thorough, Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson, Benjamin Franklin, and Albert Einstein. But it wasn’t immediately obvious what The Council meant by their suggestion that Natalie live in the moment of her new decisions.
You Will Always Have Guidance
When The Council says Natalie will always have guidance, we believe this is a good reminder for all of us. When you’re open to the idea there’s a spiritual part of you that’s always available to offer you helpful guidance when you pay attention to that little voice, or gut instinct, or intuitions that come to you; this guidance will help you with all your decisions.
There Will Always Be More
When there’s uncertainty about a decision, particularly one that feels like it will alter your life in a significant way, once the decision is made it can be tempting to hold on to the decision rather than face the uncertainty of letting it go and making a new decision. But The Council reminds Natalie and the rest of us to be open to new life experiences that inspire new desires, new decisions, and new paths in your life. And by paying attention to the guidance available from the larger spiritual part of you, you can relax and enjoy the forward movement that comes from your new decisions.
You are the Creator of Your Experience
After reflecting on The Council’s comments for Natalie, it feels like their suggestion to live in the moment of her new decisions combines the general idea of living in the moment, with the idea there will always be more to experience and more to decide. And when you live in the moment of these new experiences and decisions, this is where your spiritual guidance is most accessible to the human part of you.
But more than that, from the point of view of The Council’s #2 teaching (which is that you are the creator of the reality you experience), when you live in the moment of your new decisions, every moment becomes an opportunity to create a new decision to focus your attention in ways that adds to your well-being. We believe that makes this very practical advice for all of us.
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Abortion, Loss, Reincarnation, Life, Love, Expansion – Beth’s Story: A Spiritual Perspective
This post describes a session with The Council in response to the comment and questions below from Beth on the subject of abortion. The session is full of thought-provoking ideas on lots of different subjects of interest to many people in addition to Beth. Particularly interesting to us is light that The Council sheds on how our spirit’s intentions often manifest in surprising and unexpected ways in our human experience.
Ordinarily we like to offer a sort of running commentary in these posts if we feel it can add some clarity to something The Council says during a session, but it seemed to make this post too long and wordy. It also seemed to place more emphasis on understanding what The Council is saying rather than on appreciating the feeling of the energy offered by The Council and spirit in response to Beth’s questions. More and more we are learning from The Council that what’s important about spiritual understanding is that it’s a focus of attention that allows you to feel in your physical experience more of the love you are as a spiritual being.
As you read through the post, see if you can feel the energy of this session resonating with your spirit. If a clear understanding doesn’t come right away, be patient with yourself and let your connection to who you are as a spiritual being shed light on the material presented here. Give yourself some time. You are always welcome to use the Comment section following the post to ask a question about this material and we’ll do our best to reply.
Beth’s Comment and Questions
“I have a question about abortions as it relates to the Soul and the Soul’s agreement…the Soul of the child, specifically.
“You see I have unfortunately had to make the decision (twice) in my life to terminate what I perceived as ‘untimely’ pregnancies.
“I have a lot of guilt around these decisions, not because of any religious reasons, but more because I am not sure what I did was the right decision for my life’s path.
“Also, I often feel sad wondering how those two Souls (or maybe it was the same Soul) feel/felt that I chose to terminate their little lives.
“I fully believe that those Souls made some type of agreement with me, but I’m wondering if you could shed light on what those agreements may have been.
“Did those little Souls know that they would play this role?
“Is it the same Soul trying to come back in?
“Would I be able to find out more about them, and who they might have become had I chosen differently?
“If we come back in similar Soul groups, could this Soul have been one that I also lost in a previous life (I believe I was pregnant when drowned)?
“I realize that these are many questions, not one, but I am grateful for your input.”
–Beth
You Can Not Stop Life
Reading Beth’s comment and questions to The Council at the beginning of the session, they were quick to comment at the end of her first sentence.
“We really want to laugh here… the word abortion… what does it mean?
“Abort… Stop… Stop life?
“You can not stop life.
“It is all in choosing, and agreements, and experiences.
“And so we just wanted to add that in there.
“Beth did not stop a life… did not cut a life short… everything went as planned.”
–The Council
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No Wrong Choices
Indecision is the fear of making the wrong choice.
There is no wrong choice.
Spirit is never afraid to experience life.
Indecision is about forgetting
who you really are.
—The Council
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Career Council-ing
Jaqueline’s Questions – Part 2
This is the second of two posts to answer questions from a reader named Jaqueline. In the first post, Trusting You are Spirit in a Physical Body, The Council answers her question about how to connect with inner guidance and find inner peace “even when things seems to be so messed up.”
Jaqueline describes herself as being 23 years old and concerned she hasn’t decided about a career yet. She says, “I know I worry too much and think way too much, but I could really use some clue about what I’m supposed to do in this special lifetime, if I’m going in “the right direction”.
This post describes the portion of our July 24, 2012 conversation with The Council (non-physical spiritual guides) that addresses career and life-direction issues. We found this information personally very helpful and we believe it can also be helpful to others.
At the very end of this post we introduce some new guidance from The Council on the law of beliefs that came at the end of our session on Jaqueline’s questions.
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2011-05-31 Thought for Today
Choice is your greatest power.
Not consciously choosing
Is also a choice.
—The Council
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Feelings are Guidance from the Pure Spirit We Truly Are
Feeling a Need for Change, but Uncertain about a Career Move to the Arts
In this post The Council offers guidance on decision making. The post is a response to Sandy’s request for guidance about a career decision. He’s between jobs and wonders if he should stick to a career path he’s familiar with or try something completely outside of the box. He likes the idea of being involved in the Arts, but he tends to think of himself as a math and science person.
What Do I Do With My Life
The Council observes that many of us stress over making decisions, and this stress can make it difficult to achieve the outcomes we desire. They suggest when it comes to making decisions about the path to take in our life, the more relaxed we can be about the process, the more satisfying the outcome will be. For Sandy, The Council suggests making an effort to enjoy this time between jobs and to consider his desires.
“What brings you happiness? Which thought? Which imaginary situation brings you joy…a smile to your face? There are many things you can choose from.”
–The Council
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Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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