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Communicatimg With Your Shadow To Overcome Fear

Bob & Cynthia’s Note: As you may be aware, the vast majority of our posts represent conversations we’ve had with The Council to answer questions our readers have written to us in the Comments boxes that appear at the end of most of our posts. Occasionally a reader who pays us for a private half-hour telephone session with The Council receives guidance that we feel will benefit other readers, and we ask this reader’s permission to publish their session. This post represents one of these private sessions.

Cynthia and I particularly like the following Council guidance in this session: When you try to avoid whatever is in your shadow space, it makes it bigger because the more you are afraid of it, the more you won’t deal with it, [and] it will grow on its own.

We like The Council’s idea that each individual is the creator of whatever is in their shadow, and they have the power to change their shadow. We also like the way The Council’s ideas expressed in previous posts on the power of your personal choice, the importance of what you focus on, and the importance of getting yourself into a place where you feel kind of good to create what you desire., are worked into this session.

We owe a great deal of thanks to the anonymous reader who allowed us to make this session available to all of you. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did.

Anonymous: The first question would be if there’s any advice to resolve the war within my mind?

Council: Well what we see in this particular reality that you created is that you wanted to have challenges that took you into good places and not good places, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But you did want to learn about the positive and about the negative. And so we would say, be open to the challenges that come into your mind. When you become very accepting of both positive and negative answers, little by little it will become clearer.

And is there anything in the negative that you can’t handle, that you find either upsetting, or frightening, or you can’t seem to get a grasp on it? Because we do see in your thoughts and in your mind what goes on. There’s a sort of chaos. It goes back and forth, back and forth. So we would say, what bothers you the most?

Anonymous: So the biggest thing is the fear. There’s a part of me that fears I can’t recover from parental criticism. It just constantly sabotages my opportunities. I want to stay invisible.

Council: So that is part of what you’ve created in this lifetime. So when you think of the criticism from parents or others, anybody in authority, why do you feel that must affect you now? Because there are many people who have gone through bad childhoods and adulthoods, and they realize what they’ve gone through, but don’t let themselves stay in that energy. So why do you feel this fear will hold you back, or that it will bring you down, and that it has a hold on you? Because as you know, your thoughts, how you think about things, whether it’s negative or positive, is going to affect your life. So what is it that you fear and you hold onto?

Anonymous: Well it’s not a conscious thing. It’s like an animal that gets burned. I mean, when I really see fire, it’s just a complete reaction. And so the question is, how does one get over this when it’s just… You know, prayer has not worked, and I can’t seem to convince this part of me that there’s no danger in becoming accomplished.

Council: So we would suggest that you go into this shadow part, or fear-held part. Go right into it because it has a hold on you, whether consciously or unconsciously. So there’s a way you can sit and meditate, and when you go into the shadow part, you can picture it as opening a door and you’re in. Everything that can hold you back, anything that’s fearful, is in there.

So we always work with imagery, and the answers come up easier that way. So you would go into this shadow, this dark part of you, and you would start looking for it. Some people go into their childhood home and they picture they’re walking through it, and they find their shadow there, but you don’t have to go that way. You just go into the room where your shadow self is. Now you start looking, and you search for whatever is there that you need to get rid of or make peace with.

And as you look around, a shape will appear. Expect a shape, a color, anything, and it doesn’t have to make sense what it is. It could be a peanut. It could be anything. And now you begin to talk to it. And you can ask it why it’s there. You can ask it why it got there, and tell it that it’s not beneficial for you in this life, and so you’d like to remove it.

And when you start seeing this shape – a peanut, a ball, a person, anything – you look at it and then look at yourself. Where are you attached? There are many, many chords that are going from this fear place to you. So it will go from that object to places in your body. There could be ten of them, there could be 100 of them, and you begin to cut the chords. And each time you cut a chord, you are releasing it. You may not feel it right away. You may have to do it day after day, where you go in and you find the shape and you talk to it again. Does it want to tell you anything? What was its purpose for being there? And again you start cutting the chords. And you tell it, “Okay, you’re not needed right now. You did your job. I am in fear. I’m upset about the future, or how you [the fear] can hold me back.” And again, you continue to cut these chords.

And after you do this for however many days it takes, you tell this shadow part of you that now I am bringing something in that will show you the light, that will help me replace you with something else that will release me from this fear. So now you start looking at what came in with you. Is there someone standing next to you? Is there a box you’re holding, and you need to open the box and let this shape out? You replace what the fear looks like, what the shadow looks like, with light, with things that are going to go with you into your future and make it easier. So eventually, and it does take time, and it’s really all up to you, if you do the work, it will happen.

So #1, you have to be ready to go into the shadow place. Some people do a countdown. You can picture stairs, and each stair has a number from one to seven. And as you go down you see the first step, and it’s red with the #1. And then you go deeper, and the step is #2, and it’s orange. The third step would be #3 and it’s yellow. The fourth step would be green. Then the fifth step is a light blue. The sixth step is an indigo color. And the seventh step is purple. Those are the colors of the chakras. So as you go down the stairs, you know there is a doorway, and that’s the place you’ll meet your shadow.

So when you do this imagery, it works faster than if you try to figure it out with your head. Just go into it and ask what it is. “Give me a shape. Give me a color. Why are you here? What can you tell me?” And you no longer need this shadow. You start cutting those chords, and after a while you bring something in. And every time you go in, you talk to that shadow. So now you finally start telling the shadow, “Okay, I don’t need you anymore in this lifetime. And so this is what is here to help me. And you start every time you come in. You bring whatever it is – the shape, the color, a person, anything – that will help you. And then as that gets stronger, you will see the shadow part disappear. It will get smaller. The chords will not grow anymore. You will not be attached. And then you know on a subconscious level you have released something, and you don’t have to know what it is. You can’t figure it out with your head. It’s an emotion. It’s a feeling.

And once you really feel something has changed and something is happening here – maybe you don’t feel that fearful, maybe you don’t feel the heaviness or a darkness around you – as you begin to see the little bits that have changed, that will happen in your life consciously. Your life will begin to change. Your thoughts will begin to change because now you have made peace with the shadow, There’s nothing to be afraid of. You’ve had any sort of conversation you need with your shadow.

But the key to doing this is to go into it. When you try to avoid whatever is in your shadow space, it makes it bigger because the more you are afraid of it, the more you won’t deal with it, it will grow on its own.

And what you should know here is that this is not something that’s happening to you because you don’t know who did this to you, or why it’s there. You have created it because in this lifetime you want to deal with your shadow part. In other lifetimes there were things that were hurtful, as everybody has had, and it could be that you brought it forward into your current life to heal it. So you wanted to take that challenge on. And it is a very courageous step to take that challenge, to go into it, and make peace with it.

And we know you don’t particularly care for the positive thinking. It has nothing to do with that. It has to do with your strength, and how you handle yourself when you’re ready to look at your shadow. And even if you aren’t ready now, that’s fine. There’s no right time or wrong time. You can think about it for a long time before you even start. You can go very slowly, but it’s always very important to remember that you chose this. You wanted this before you came into this lifetime because there’s a lot of healing in there and it will make up for a lot of other lifetimes, and you wanted to deal with it.

And it is a lot, but what we see here, you do have a strong mind, and we feel you can do this. Or you can do it any other way that feels good for you. If it’s not what we suggested, then just think, “I’m going into this shadow room, and I will find a way. And if there’s something that feels more comfortable for you to do, then we say play with, it and if it doesn’t work, then you can do what we suggested.

You are the creator of everything that’s going to happen in that shadow room. That’s how powerful you are. And everyone has a shadow, and in some lifetimes you’ll work with it, and in other lifetimes you want no part of it. And there are sometimes you create a very, very busy life and you have no time for meditation, no time for reading, and finding out about these parts of your life. And so, right now, what you are going through, you are in control.

Do you have any questions about that?

Anonymous: No, that’s pretty self-contained.

Do you have tips on developing self-discipline and having a structured life?

Council: What do you mean by structured? What do you want to have control over or a structured way? What is it that you’d like to do?

Anonymous: I tend to live my life very amorphously, and sort of let outside events dictate what I work on. Whereas other people obviously sort of schedule things and have, you know, this is what I’m going to work on, and it’s more effective that way, and that doesn’t come naturally to me. So the question is, are there tips on having a more structured life? I’m dealing with things without letting life dictate priorities.

Council: So #1, and this is very important, you have to get to the point where you know you’re not just this human being hanging out. You are a spirit, a very, very powerful spirit. When you came into this reality, one of the biggest things you took with you is the power of choice. You have choices about everything. And some people are afraid to make decisions, and we say, do whatever it is you want. If you make what you think is a wrong decision or something that’s not working, so what? So you change your mind. You make another decision.

You have to know you’re a very powerful spirit, you have choices, and what you focus on, whether you write it down, draw pictures of it, or you just imagine, you have to find out, what do you want in your life? Because if you don’t have the discipline to create what you want, the universe steps in and creates for you, and you may not like the way it’s going. So you have to start thinking, “Alright, you know these weird things happen. I’m not creating it.” You acknowledge that you’re just going along with whatever happens to you, and you want the discipline to change it. And the way you change it, and the only way you change it, is by what you focus on. So if you focus on, “Well, I have no choice. I just have to go along with this, and everybody else can create.” Well we have news for you. You can create like everybody else.

You have to do the work. How do you do it? Number 1, before you start trying to create, you have to get yourself into a place where you feel kind of good. And we say you do that by thinking of a memory, something that makes you happy, or a fantasy, and you stay in that thought until you sort of feel yourself smiling. You feel light. Your energy changes. It will get lighter. You will feel it. When that joy comes in, as little as it does in the beginning when you can feel that happiness, that joy, that’s when you start to create, and not before it. So how do you create? You work, you find that energy, something in your life that makes you happy.

Once you get the feeling, now you start to picture in your head what you want. And this is where some people get lazy. They don’t know what they want. Well you have to find out. Read books, watch movies, find things on the internet that interest you. Find out what you want, and then start to see it. Start seeing yourself doing it. And you can start doing that, and then after a while, no, that’s not what I want. Okay, fine. So change your thoughts.

Now when you think, that sends your thought, your energy, out into the universe. And the way it works, that’s really nice, you’re sending it out there, you want it to happen, but the key is not just the thought. You have to have the feeling. The feeling is the magnet that brings what you want back to you. The thoughts and images send it out, and the feeling brings it back to you. So like a child when you were little. maybe you could pretend you were a cowboy, or a spaceman, or whatever. You do the same thing with what you want to create. You see it, and you send it out, and then you start to feel it. You imagine as if you’re already doing what it is that you want, whether it’s a new job, a relationship, moving, anything.

You reach for the feeling that you already have it. That feeling is the key. And that’s the part that most people forget. They forget that you have to pretend, like a little kid, that you have it, that you’re doing it. And when you do that, it’s amazing how, even if you start with a little thought, you’ll see it happen. And then your thoughts could become stronger. You want more. You see yourself. And when you’re feeling it, you get extremely happy. Like, oh my God, I’m doing this, I’m doing that. But we see here you have to do the work to find out what it is you want, what it is that would make you happy. You have to take the chance. And it’s work. It’s work on yourself, but it’s not only the thought, it’s the feelings.

It’s going into seeing whatever is in the shadow and changing it, and knowing you can change it by talking to your shadow, bringing something to replace it. Then start finding happiness. There had to be happiness in your past somewhere. Find thoughts that make you happy. Then when you feel that happiness – you see how we keep saying, “Feeling”? – it’s because feeling is the key. Feel it. Imagine what you want. Feel it. And that’s how you take control of your life. You pretend. And once you pretend and feel it, you can move mountains, but it takes work.

And also you can do things to help your chakras align better so that the right amount of energy comes into each chakra. And there is a chakra breathing exercise that we have taught people. We’ll ask Bob to send it to you. If you do it, you will be amazed. Even if you do it once a week, because those chakras control different parts of your life – your relationships, your money, your love life, the connection with your purpose in life. It gives you clarity, but the chakra must be aligned, and we see there are some on you that are not aligned.

So we would say, you do all seven chakras at least once a week. You can do it more if you want. It will never ever hurt you, but it brings in the strong energy you need to move forward to face whatever it is, and to get in touch with, “Oh my God, I am so powerful and I didn’t know. I didn’t know how to keep that thought, that feeling that I have created everything I am going through, that I have gone through. I have created every single thing. No one can create for me. So now I align the chakras, I do the work to find what I want.” You go into your shadow, you bring in happiness, or whatever it is you need – light in your shadow – and you move forward. You do the work. It’s a lot of work, but you are at a point in your life, we see, that you are ready to do this.

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October 16, 2024 Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Chakras, Choice, Desire, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | Attachments, Challenges, Fear, Focus, Happiness, Imagery, Self-discipline, Shadow, Thoughts | 8 Comments