Creating Your Ideal Partner
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Starfish. We previously answered Starfish’s related questions in our post, Will I Meet My Ex Again, Or Meet Someone New To Share My Life With.
Starfish: Hi. I want to continue my question on this topic. After I posted this, I met a man who was my first boyfriend. I was in a relationship with him for one year, and then we broke up.
Council: Now when you think of this relationship, was it fun? Was it something you enjoyed? And we ask you to remember that part of it.
Starfish: My ex-boyfriend, who I loved dearly, but I was bored with the connection. So I keep blaming myself, even though he loves me so much.
Council: And why do you blame yourself? It was boring? And what did you do to make it exciting? What is it that you brought to this relationship? What is it that you wanted to talk about, and that you wanted to share? Always look at what you bring to the relationship. That is a #1 step in any relationship.
Starfish: My intention was still to have a partner who I can get married to. I met two other men after him. I feel like in my mind the man, K, was my husband, but so far the connection is unable to start. He’s busy with things in his life, and we are unable to meet or get to know each other.
Council: So there you are being shown that what you have is what you’ve created right now. The person not wanting to have more contact with you shows you were this person is right now. That does not mean that you cannot change this. You can. You have to start with meditations, with seeing it, with visualizing it, appreciating it, and working with the vibration. But from what you tell us right now, the man is not in a place to want to have more of a relationship with you.
Starfish: I only got to see him three times in the last four months. This made me question my intuition, and that maybe I was wrong because he doesn’t communicate or answer my texts much.
Council: Well your intuition is correct, that you are noticing he’s not returning texts, or calls, or wanting more to do with you. That is correct.
Starfish: Which makes me feel like he doesn’t want this connection.
Council: At the present that is true, but once again we say you can do the work, and you change it. And a lot of people will say, “You know, it’s hard work. I don’t want to do that.” Okay, that’s fine. Then move on and create the person of your dreams.
Starfish: But when we’re together, it feels good. I did not have the same feeling with the others. The other guy, N, he’s everything I wished for in a partner – the nice way he treated me, his communication – except our connection is more like friends.
Council: And can you appreciate how wonderful it is to have this kind of person in your life? You can stay friends and have a wonderful relationship.
Starfish: I’m confused about who to keep focusing on moving forward to create a reality with. I know I want to be with the K guy, but the circumstances are so against it, which makes me question if I’m heading the wrong way.
Council: If you are questioning, you are not sure you will be able to make this [relationship] happen. So #1, you would have to stop the questioning and start the knowing that this is what it is right now, but this is the way it’s going to be, and start working on the way you want it. And that’s how you change it.
Starfish: Or I’m just making toxic decisions for myself. The other connections were much easier, but my feelings are not in it.
Council: Alright, so follow your feelings. Create another person, and another one after that, and another one after that. Create as many as you can, and how wonderful it is that you can keep creating them. But keep creating and adding to each relationship what’s missing, and what you would like in it. And then you will create the perfect person for you.
Starfish: I don’t want to keep creating new people in my life because I’m very tired of this temporary experience.
Council: Well, you must first become aware of what it is you want, and what it is that’s lacking in all these other relationships, and create this one person that would have what it is you need that you don’t get in these relationships. So when you know what you don’t want, you will know what you want. Take a look at the relationships you’ve had. What is missing? And now add to the person who would be the ideal for you. And if you say you’re tired of creating, then you will just be stuck right now until you take the bull by the horns and say, “Okay, this is my life. I will create what I want.”
Starfish: I just want to choose one person and stick to that. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
Council: And maybe it is your way of having fun, by creating all these people. There are many people who can’t even create one person, and you have been able to create several. So you can have fun with that. And you can say to yourself, “Well let’s see what I create next, and maybe this one will have everything that I want.” But be excited and be happy about it. When you are looking at it like you are tired of creating, you will never bring in the relationship that you want.
And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create, create.
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Questions About Career, Health, And Extraterrestrials
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Firefly.
Firefly: I’d like some direction regarding my career. In many ways I appreciate my job very much. I like taking day trips and helping people.
Council: Wonderful.
Firefly: I’d like to be working more with plants, trees, and maybe animals. I want to work with nature and the earth.
Council: And so it is so important that you realize this. And what are you doing now to make this happen? Number 1, the first step you’ve done. You realize what it is that you love. So now, as you imagine it in your head, go forward. How do I get into this area of work?
Firefly: I haven’t discovered anything yet that allows me to take action towards my exciting ideals except for searching on employment sites.
Council: And how about forgetting employment sites, and go around to places where they do this kind of work? Go to a park and see if they need people to volunteer there. Go into a nursery and learn about plants, and start growing, even if it’s a little plant on your windowsill. Go into a shelter that needs help with the animals. Now forget researching it and go out into these places where these things are happening, and you will meet the right people, and you will find the one particular thing that you would like to do right now.
Firefly: I think I do need to be out and about.
Council: Oh, yes.
Firefly: I would love more travel opportunities in my future, and to continue working with my significant other. I am also trying to redirect myself towards better health, and would appreciate any input about creating this.
Council: The fastest way you can create anything is with gratitude. And so we would say, talk to your body, talk to your spirit, and talk to the universe about how happy you are with the body you have, even if it doesn’t work correctly all the time – that it is strong, and that it has taken you this far. And send love to yourself and to your body. And talk to every cell in your body, and tell it that it knows how to heal everything, which it does. And it has the intelligence to do it, and you support it. And that’s all you really need.
You need to appreciate who you are. You need to appreciate the different kinds of work there are in your lifetime that you can get involved with. When you start sending yourself and all the other things, love and happiness, and giggles, and find things to laugh about. Even if you were to walk and fall down on the floor, you can laugh and say, “I’m clumsy. Or feet, what were you doing?” You become almost child-like, and love every part of yourself, and everywhere you can go in this universe. And you will create what you’re looking for.
Firefly: The last thing I’d like to mention about the future I’m trying to create is extraterrestrial contact and collaboration in order to benefit the Earth, and coming into a truer version of myself.
Council: And so, do you meditate on that? That would be the first step, to meditate. If you had contact with extraterrestrials, what would you do? How would you want it to be? Is there a way to be helpful in this area? So take it along the steps, what would it be like?
Before you go to sleep at night, think about how you would like that to be. Ask for signs. It’ll come in your dreams about meeting extraterrestrials. It is done. Once you put it out there with the intent, it is there. And it will sometimes come in a book that you will read. Sometimes someone will pass you on the street, and you actually have to turn around and look, because there’s something about that person. There are so many extraterrestrials that are here that you would never believe how many you already know.
And so, pay attention to your feelings, and the signs will come to you. Keep asking. Keep seeing. Keep being a beacon of light and peace to these other creatures, and you will bring it into your life.
Firefly: I am trying to create more dream and meditative connections, but I am wondering if I can look forward to something more direct soon.
Council: Of course you can. But if you wonder with doubt, that puts a hold on it. You are spirit. You are here to create anything you want. And so, meditating, you bring the thought to yourself, this is going to put you out there to make that connection. It is doable.
Firefly: I appreciate you so much.
Council: And so we send you love, and all the joy that you can find in your lives. Create, create, create.
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How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Soul Peace.
Soul Peace: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. Thanks for all the guidance you provide through the blog. I want to ask The Council a question. I have faced relationship and emotional abuse issues in previous marriages. What kind of changes do I have to bring in myself in order to create a successful relationship?
Council: First, we would ask you to look at these relationships, and they always come with a lesson. And when you don’t get the lesson, it will happen again, and you’ll have another opportunity. And when you don’t get the lesson, it will happen again. The people may change, but the lesson is there.
So we ask you to look at this. What happened in each relationship? What did you do that you feel brought some of this on? There is always your part in it. What did you settle for? What did you not appreciate about yourself? There is always, always a lesson. And then when you acknowledge what it is, to thank yourself, to thank your higher self, and find ways – meditate on how to change your behavior.
Everything that happens to someone is part of their growth. It is always something they have created. So we would like you to understand this didn’t come out of the thin air, and no one’s trying to get even with you, or do this to you. You called it in, and it is your way of learning how to grow.
Number one, before you start anything, you must find a way to love yourself. Whether you look in the mirror every day and just tell yourself you love yourself, or appreciate yourself. Find things during the day that you appreciate what you have done. It is in honoring yourself and loving yourself that you would bring in the right people to love you. But if you have the negative words that you speak to yourself, or if you have doubts about who you truly are, which is spirit, all of that will get in the way. You have to find a way to find love for yourself. The rest will take care of itself. You will find the right relationships. Work on yourself first.
Soul Peace: My other question is around starting my company. I have always been inclined toward spirituality and metaphysics.
Council: That’s wonderful.
Soul Peace: Lately I have also faced emotional issues such as anxiety, and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
Council: And when you grow in one, which is spiritual, the second problem will disappear. So they go hand in hand. You become more spiritual, you meditate, you pray, you go out in nature, you walk on a beach. Whatever that is, the littlest thing, sit in a chair and look at the trees. All of that will begin to change your vibration. And when that changes, you make room for new ideas to come in, for new paths for you to go on. And that is another thing you can start to do right now.
Soul Peace: I’m thinking of creating something that helps people tackle these issues. How can I do this? Should I create a blog, or an app, or write a book that can help people?
Council: All three sound wonderful. But the easiest would be to start a blog so that you can write your feelings and what you’ve discovered. And have people write on it also, maybe to answer you or ask you questions. And so, the reaching out to other spirits with the intention of helping is what makes this happen. Of course, eventually a book would be wonderful, and you are very capable of all of this.
But we would say, when you begin this, make it very personal. Not just for you, but maybe for others whose stories you have heard. When you connect with people, they don’t want to feel like they are reading a book and getting information. They want examples. They want stories that feel real. Stories that you have gone through, and how you have gone through it, and changed it. Or people you know that write to you, or talk to you about how they have changed their lives.
Always make it about the person who has grown from the experience. Perhaps it was very hard in the beginning, but there was a way. What way did they choose to change it? Because that way will work for others, and that’s why you are there. To put this out. To get the ideas across that there is always a way. And by sharing with different spirits, the way will come forth.
Soul Peace: Being a spiritual and emotional coach is very different from my current line of work. I want to ask The Council if this is a direction I should go into.
Council: It’s a wonderful direction. How wonderful that by helping others, you’ll be helping yourself. By wanting to heal others, healing will come to you. It is a wonderful direction.
Soul Peace: And if this is a direction I should go into, what should be the starting point, and how do I grow this? Thanks.
Council: Begin to play with a blog. It’s very simple. Just throw out some ideas and see where it goes. Put yourself out there.
And so our wishes for happiness, and joy, and fun on your path go out to everyone.
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Understanding Your Soul’s Purpose: A Guide to Creation
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sara.
Sara: Hello. I’d love to have The Council’s input on my life path. I’m pretty much in touch with my higher self and my spirit guide team. I know why I am here; I came to help. Right now I feel kind of useless because all I have as directions is to let things fall into place.
Council: And so, many times you feel you know why you are here, and the main reason you are here is to take the love from spirit and bring it into this reality. But a lot of times it’s just to play, just to be, which means there is no one purpose in your life. There is nothing that you are supposed to do.
And many people put that pressure on themselves: “Why am I here? What am I supposed to do?” You are here to create. You are here to create anything you want. And as you create it, you can change it. Do you want it? Do you not want it? How do you make it feel good?
So the main reason you are here is to create. So just be. See what it is that you want. Play with what comes into your mind, what you think you would like to do, and go for it. And if it’s not what you want, then you change the thought and you go for something else.
You are not here to save somebody from being murdered. You are not here to save somebody from committing a robbery. There’s nothing you are supposed to do. You are supposed to live this life and whatever comes along, you want to work with it, you want to see what kind of creator you are, and how you can take your thoughts and change things.
But we say now, when you want something, it is much more important as we advance, that you feel it, even if you don’t get a clear image. If you want to be wealthy, “What would it be like if I had all the money I needed?” And feel it. Don’t look for pictures or scenes. If you want a great love, feel it, and that will bring you everything you want.
Sara: I’m a soul of great ambition. That’s why I am here. I feel things are too slow. Why do I feel like that?
Council: Because you have it in your mind, as a human, you are here to do something. “Why aren’t I doing something? I need to do something. I don’t know what it is.” So of course it feels slow. Instead of looking at it and just enjoying everything, enjoy being in this reality. What would you like to do with it? How would you like to form it? How would you like to experience this lifetime?
So the feeling of things going too slow is because you are not just being. First, appreciate what you see around you, what you have around you. And then any idea that comes to you, play with it. And when you play, instead of thinking, “I have to find something, I have to find something,” when you appreciate it and play with the feelings, what you want will come to you. And it may change many times, but to be aware that you are changing things, that you are more relaxed, and more tuning into what it is that you want. That is when you will get the feelings of what you want to do, and the feeling, the emotion, will bring it to you.
Sara: Am I just supposed to continue what I am doing, and feel like it’s enough?
Council: If you are just waiting for something to happen, that’s not enough because anything will happen. What you’re supposed to be doing is learning how to create. You are just supposed to be here and find the joy that is here. And when you find joy, anything is possible. You can create anything. So just don’t wait for something to happen. Work on it, because you are here to learn who you are. You are here to learn who you are and what you can do, which is anything.
So just be, and play with thoughts, with dreams. Whatever it is, just play with it and appreciate everything. And if there is something you feel you are supposed to do, and you’re not, and you keep holding onto it. If you have the thought in your head, or the feeling, “Oh well, it’s okay. If I don’t do it now, I will do it in the next life.” Just relaxing with that thought would take the pressure off of it, where you would hear more from your higher self, and you would get more and more of the feeling of what to do. You would feel the gratitude, you would feel energy moving, you would feel the vibration of making things happen, and that’s why you are here, to play.
Sara: I trust my higher self, but I am bored. This human life is ‘ugh’. I want to help more. I want to live the life I was supposed to come here to live.
Council: There is no ‘supposed to’. You want to help more? Read about ways to help people until you read something, or find out something, or see something, “Oh, how interesting”, and then do it. Move forward with your thoughts, but mainly move forward with the feeling that you are already doing it. Feel yourself doing it, and it will all come, but do remember that there is no ‘supposed’.
Sara: I’m happy, and I have a beautiful life, but I don’t feel like my soul’s purpose is living to its highest potential.
Council: Your soul’s purpose was to come here to play, to create, to see things, to change things, to make things the way you want it, and to be happy. That’s your soul’s purpose.
Sara: I’m at the point where I don’t have my clairs (clairvoyance, clairaudience, clear knowing, and clairsentience), so I’m not connected enough to my taste in the higher realm.
Council: You are always connected to the place in your higher realm. And so, if you want your clairvoyance, clairessence, etc., all you have to do is go back and start to meditate, and that will bring your senses, your higher senses, into play in your life.
Sara: But I have too much knowing to continue my standard human life. Any tips? Thank you.
Council: We wish you well on finding what it is. Pretend you are a child in a big playroom with many, many toys around you, with many colors. And go into that room and take some colors and mold them as if you were playing with clay. And you can say to yourself, “This is my relationship,” and play with it. So it has no shape yet, but this is what you want. So feel it. “I am creating my relationship.” And color it pink, yellow, whatever is beautiful to you. And here is my career. “Oh, I have another lump of clay.” What does that feel like? And shape it. You might, in your mind, see it shaping, which is fine, but again we say, feel it.
And we send you love, and to remind you, have fun on this journey. That’s what the purpose was for. You want to come in and just mix it up, and have a good time, and everyone can get there.
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Improving Self-Esteem for Healthy Relationships
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I am almost 44 years old and for the first time, I think I feel in love.
Council: Oh, that’s wonderful.
Bluestar: This guy is my Zumba teacher. The problem is that he’s 20 years younger than me, he already has a girlfriend, and I am hopeless and sad.
Council: And so why would you want to try and have a relationship with someone who is in one already, and perhaps is very happy? Is it just that you are looking for a relationship? And this has come along and there’s a feeling of familiarity, or just a fantasy that you can imagine, and it brings you happiness. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, but the reason is that you do want a relationship for yourself.
Bluestar: A while ago I had two Akashic record readings, and the guides told me they saw me with someone in the near future. But in the second reading they told me that until I had more self-esteem, I would not be ready to be with anyone.
Council: And that is true with everyone. You always need some self-esteem. The more you can love yourself, the more you will bring in the perfect partner for you. When you have serious issues about feeling good about yourself, how can you bring someone in who will appreciate you and love you if you do not love yourself?
Bluestar: So I would like to know, was this [Zumba teacher] the guy that the guides told me about, or is he a different man? And if he is another person, have I already missed that opportunity by not being ready?
Council: There is someone there for you. We would not say it is this person [Zumba teacher], even though with the correct imagery you can create it the way you want it. You have not missed any opportunities. When you are ready, when you realize you are loveable and there is someone for you, and you don’t know who it is right now, but that you can get excited that that person is there and will come into your life, that’s when you’ll create it.
Bluestar: Have I had one or more past lives with this Zumba teacher that I like, and if so, how were they, because his company seemed familiar to me from the beginning?
Council: It seems like in the early 1700s he was wealthy and you were a maid in his household. But you were very friendly then, you had good rapport, and that is the familiar feeling, that good rapport, that comfortability that you feel now.
Bluestar: I would like to know if this guy that I like has any romantic or sexual feelings for me now, or if he only feels friendship for me?
Council: We see it as friendship. Again, you have the ability to change it.
Bluestar: How can I work on my self-esteem as a woman to have a healthy romantic relationship with someone? I am trying to improve my relationship with myself by saying more positive things to myself and valuing my talents more, but I don’t really know what else to do.
Council: So take a look at what you do every day. If you cook something and it comes out nice, pat yourself on the back. Be aware of it and acknowledge it. “Oh, I did this and it tastes great.” Or, “I read this chapter in a book. I really enjoyed this book. I picked a good book.” Or, “I went and I got a haircut. I like this haircut. And if I’m not too crazy about it, well you know what? I learned I can go somewhere else.”
Look at the positive things that you do, the littlest things that you do every day. Even going to a store and buying groceries that you need. That you remembered to get this, you remembered to get that, and you’re taking it home. And there’s a little bit of independence that you do on your own. Make the effort. Look and acknowledge all the good things you do. As that happens, you will feel better about yourself, and then there’s Mr. Right.
Bluestar: I am waiting for your response, and I am sending you lots of love and gratitude for your time.
Council: And we send you love too.
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Where Should I Travel To Or Relocate To Permanently?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Alice, in response to our post, Is There A Specific Career I’m Meant To Do, Or A Place I Should Live?
Alice: This is interesting. I’d also like to know about places I should travel to, or relocate to permanently. And were there any significant past lives?
Council: Well we will tell you. This is very interesting. There’s a lot going on.
If you want to travel, yes, go and do it. Go to Egypt, go to England, go into the Americas where the southern Indians are. There are many, many places. But really what’s going on, in a past life you were a monk in Japan. You lived in a temple and were never ever allowed to leave, and it was always your desire to see what was outside. What would it be like? And that seemed to get in the way of you relaxing and doing your rituals, your daily chanting, and your daily praying as a monk.
So what is suggested here is to travel anywhere just to move, but to go back to Japan, go to the mountain of healing, Mt. Koriyama (Bob’s note: we think they meant Mt. Kurama), and spend time there. Visit as many temples as you can, and see the feeling it brings back to you. You will feel more appreciative now of that time than you did when you were actually living there (in your past life).
So what your spirit is trying now is to go back and find the things that you should have perhaps been appreciating. That is what is happening to you now.
Alice: I feel very drawn to living a nomadic lifestyle…
Council: Of course, you wanted that when you were back in Japan (in your past life).
Alice: …and would like to know some first steps to take. I’m thinking of Egypt as the first country on my wish list.
Council: Wonderful. Go to Rome. Go to New York. Go to India. Go anywhere, anywhere at all because you wanted that so badly, and it was in the way in that last life when you were a monk. It took away a lot of the spirituality you were looking for. It took away the ability to be grateful for a lot of things. And so, this is a time where you do a do-over.
Bob: Any suggestion on how long Alice should travel around to these different places around the world?
Council: Whatever feels right. Always follow your feelings. You can go to one place and then, all of a sudden have this feeling, I have to go back to Japan. I have to go to those roots. I have to find out where I was and what it was like, and that can happen as quickly as possible, as quickly as you want to learn how to appreciate. And so just enjoy it. Travel for as long or as short a period as you need, and it will all come.
And so we send you love, and happiness, and joy, and adventure, and gratitude in everything that you do.
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How Do I Handle This Relationship With A Man Who Isn’t My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lisa.
Lisa: I met a man who makes me smile and feel special. Being around him instantly raises my vibration and makes me happy.
Council: With familiar souls that usually happens.
Lisa: We’re drawn together like magnets. He has asked me out, but I’m married and won’t have an affair. I want this person in my life as a friend because I feel like we bring each other up and can help each other, but I’m not exactly sure why the Sun or the universe brought him to me.
Council: The universe, or God, or whatever you believe in, brought him to you because you have called it in. You are at a point in your life where you want someone to make you feel special.
We suggest you begin to find things about yourself that make you feel special, so it doesn’t have to come from an outside source. When you begin to appreciate yourself and not rely on this person to help you feel good, then your relationship can move on and you can become friends.
Lisa: Is he my twin flame or soulmate? Am I crazy and he’s just a player, and I’m making this up because I want to feel loved?
Council: Yes, you’ve created it because you wanted to feel love, but it’s someone that you’ve known in other lifetimes. There’s that coming together with sort of a giggle because it’s what you have planned, and how you go forward with what you both create out of this relationship is in the works. And so, it’s a wonderful place for you to be at this time.
Lisa: My husband doesn’t know about him. If he did know about him, I’d never be allowed back to the park, even though we are just friends and only talk at the park. How should I handle this?
Council: Well, you can be honest and tell your husband this. Or you can just go there and not feel that this is something you have to be sneaky about because it’s just a friendship. And you have to be very clear that you want to keep the relationship just a friendship.
And so eventually we would hope you would get to a point and say, “Oh, I met this person and we talk a lot.” And maybe you can find out if this person is married, what kind of job is this person interested in, and does he have a family? And just repeat that to your husband so it is open, it is honest, and everyone will be okay with it. Let go of the thought that you have to keep this information quiet, or secret, or you won’t be able to go to the park. That will bring in drama and chaos.
So just think of it as a familiar soul. You’re friends right now and you’re just going to go forward. It doesn’t have to be secret. There’s nothing wrong. When you feel things have to be secret, that will create problems.
And so we send you all love, and wonderful, wonderful experiences, and clarity, and fun along the way. Life is always supposed to be fun, even in the difficulty. It’s the way you look at it. And know that no matter what, you have the ability to change it.
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Can I Get A Better Paying Job Than My Last Job, Or Should I Accept An Inferior Job?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Seeker.
Seeker: Hello. I love you, Bob & Cynthia, for your helpful work for the community. I would like to seek career guidance from The Council. My previous work opportunity has ended, and it’s very difficult for me to get an equally good job with a good salary and benefits.
Council: And so the thought should be, now that this job has ended, I have an opportunity to get a better job, more benefits, and more salary. Do you see how you have to change how you think of creating in your future?
Seeker: I have been trying everything in my power to get into a good mental state, remain positive, and reach out and apply for job opportunities. Can The Council please guide me if it’s possible for me to get an equal or better paying job compared to my previous job, or should I accept an inferior job?
Council: This inferior job that you speak of, it will teach you many things. If you’re not creating the dream job that you want, instead of thinking of it as an inferior job, think of it as a job you will do for now and be grateful for it because it will give you the money and the opportunities to survive. And so this job that you think of as inferior helps you get from Point A to Point B, so start by appreciating that.
Then, as you are working in this “inferior job,” you start planning what you want – the people you want to be with. Would you like it to be a job with a lot of people, or just a lot of one-on-one? Describe it to yourself. Write down exactly what you want. You will create it, but the key to creating this is: 1) Have no job, but be okay with it while you’re looking. Or 2), accept a job that you feel is inferior, be thankful for it, and move on from there. It’s that simple. Always remember to be grateful first. All the rest will follow.
And so we send you all love, and wonderful experiences, and clarity, and fun along the way. It’s always supposed to be fun, even in the difficulty. It’s the way you look at it. And know that no matter what, you have the ability to change your life.
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How Acceptance And Appreciation Can Help You Lose Weight
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wannabe Beauty Queen.
Beauty Queen: I have some questions about health and beauty which I’d love some help with.
I’ve had a deep and very upsetting problem with my weight that I just can’t seem to crack, and I’d like to know how I can permanently lose weight, keep it off, and also build muscle and tone. I’ve tried many, many things over the years, but seeing as I’m writing you, nothing’s worked.
Council: It’s because you do not accept who you are. And so now your weight is bothering you, and we can tell you until you learn to appreciate yourself and others who are overweight or have other features that are unpleasant to you, you’ll stay on this merry-go-round.
And so we’d say first, what you wanted to learn was acceptance, to love yourself no matter what you look like or what you experience. That’s very important for you. When you can start appreciating something that’s good about your weight, something that you can focus on and be grateful for, your weight will begin to change.
So any physical problem that’s coming up for you, you have created because you wanted to experience learning acceptance, accepting yourself, and accepting those around you.
Beauty Queen: What’s behind my weight problem and how do I resolve it? I’d very much love the key to remedying it.
Council: There’s the word. You very much love. Yes, and you’re very much in a place where you have to learn to love yourself the way you are now and then show that love to others who are perhaps not exactly what are considered beauty queens. And so it’s all about acceptance. It’s a big lesson for you.
Beauty Queen: These days my hair also seems to grow slowly…
Council: Oh, another problem.
Beauty Queen: …and break at a certain length. It’s also very dry. Why is this?
Council: You are not happy with your hair. And so the more unhappy you are about it and the more you focus on this problem, it will stay that way, and it can even get worse. That’s how powerful you are. What can you find about your hair that you like and appreciate about it? Look at your hair differently. Try to find something good in each situation.
Beauty Queen: Again, I’ve tried things to no avail, but I’d really love waist-length healthy-looking hair. Also is it true I can make my hair grow straight even though it’s curly? How do I go about doing this and how long would it take me?
Council: Appreciate what you have and then focus, focus, focus. Anything you are determined about and anything that you love can change and can bend with time into the way you’d like it to be. We don’t feel you are ready at this time to believe you can do this so we would say for now to go with appreciation.
Beauty Queen: I also used to have a thing where people used to tell me all the time how young I looked for my age.
Council: Oh, another problem.
Beauty Queen: What do I have to do to naturally look much younger than my years again?
Council: Love yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself. Find as many parts of yourself that you appreciate.
Beauty Queen: What did I have then, and how do I get it back?
Council: With your focus, with your mind, with your visualizations, and with your feelings. Feel good about yourself. Feel beautiful. Feel that you are special and that you are here to learn how to change everything into what you would like it to be, not because you don’t like it, but because you see it, and in it you’ve found something to appreciate and now you want to make it even better.
Beauty Queen: How do I be the one who naturally defies aging?
Council: Oh, that’s a good question. Do you feel like you don’t want to age? Then you know what that means. You will leave the planet and you’ll transition back into spirit. As long as you are in your human body you will age. And again for you, appreciate each age that you get to, everything you experience, what it was like ten years ago, what it’s like now, what you want it to be ten years in your future, and accept who you are. But if you want to not age, if you want to defy that and live forever, we feel at one point you could do that, but not now. And so if you don’t want to age, we’d say be careful what you think because that will help you transition over to spirit.
And so once again these are lovely questions. And we send everyone loving energy, and support from the spirit world to love yourself and to learn how to walk down that path, and be kind to each other.
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Why Did I Choose A Life Of Autism, Chronic Illness, and Pain?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader based on a post we wrote called The Spiritual Significance of Autism.
Anonymous: I’ve never been formally diagnosed, but I’m an autistic adult in her 40s. I want to take comfort in your post on the spiritual significance of autism and I believe it, but I’ve been treated hideously and cruelly almost my entire life.
Council: And you do know the way you’re treated by others is really not about you, but more about them and where they are on their path in this particular lifetime. When you make it less about you, you can look at it more clearly without it hurting so much.
Anonymous: Abuse, bullying, social rejection, you name it. What is the worst of all is my family. My father is physically and verbally abusive, my mother is neglectful, and my sister is a narcissist and liar who’s always been jealous of me, tried to cut me out of the family, and told lies to do it. They all act like they hate me.
Council: And so we’d say at this point, when you’ve brought in so much abuse to yourself your whole life, there’s a reason for that. You want to learn about it, what it feels like to be abused, and to turn it around.
And so you already know it’s a difficult place to be, it hurts your feelings, and you feel cast out, but why is this happening now when it’s at a point in your life where you can change it? We’d say number one, before you do anything else, it is your thoughts – your sister is a liar, your family is terrible. Your outlook towards your family and towards other people is so negative that your vibration will attract more negativity and more abuse. You are not a victim here. You chose to experience this just for the purpose of turning it around.
You don’t have to be the person they treat you like. You don’t have to believe what they say about you. You are a spirit. You are so powerful, and you have choices in every part of your life. The #1 choice you need to make now is to have more positive thoughts, to look at these people and instead of being so negative about them, feel sorry for them if you can. Try to realize there are things going on in their life and they take their negativity out on you. Why is that? Because your negative vibration attracts it.
When you start treating yourself with love, with kindness, and doing happy things for yourself, the people around you will see the change. They may not understand it, but they will see it, and it will bring different kinds of people into your life. The kind you want, that love you, that can be caring, and that don’t abuse you. And eventually some of these abusers have the ability to change, if that’s what they want on their path.
And so it all comes from you. The feeling deep down, the feeling of being abused, the feeling of being lied to, the feeling of people abandoning you, all of that is so negative. And so if you go through this every day, every day you are creating more and more abuse.
Anonymous: It’s not just my immediate family though. I’ve been bullied and abused by relatives, classmates, and others, and I feel like I’m a magnet for mistreatment.
Council: How about thinking, “I know there’s one person out there that will appreciate me. Oh, that feels so good when I can find that person.” Look how your energy changes with that. It’s exciting. There is somebody that will be nice. And when you experience that, there will be more and more. Change your thoughts
Anonymous: At this point I just don’t understand how or why I’d willingly take this on and subject myself to so much pain.
Council: To learn from it and know you can change it.
Anonymous: And it’s not just autism. I have chronic illnesses and other pain too.
Council: How would this negative thinking not cause illnesses? It affects your body. Every negative thought goes into the body and eventually it hits the bones, it hits the organs, it hits the skin, you don’t feel good, and you’re mentally depressed. Again it’s the thinking that changes it. When you start to be positive with your thoughts, the illnesses will drop away. Little by little you’ll begin to feel better. There’s so much more for you out there in this life. That is what you need to tune into.
Anonymous: I’m so angry at myself if I chose this.
Council: Ah, angry at yourself. That’s a big negative. You must find ways to appreciate yourself. See the things you do that are nice. See the things you do that maybe help others. See the thoughts you have. What do you do for yourself? Do you go to a movie? Do you take yourself out to eat? Do you go for ice cream? Do these nice things for yourself. It has to change.
Anonymous: All I want is for it all to end, and I constantly wish for death.
Council: It’s not death that will help you, because then you’ll repeat it again in another lifetime if you don’t try to change your thoughts, to think you’re really a good person, you don’t hurt anybody, and you love yourself. Start with your feet. Look at your feet. “I love my feet. My feet are great. I love my hands. Maybe I like the kind of hair I have.” Find the parts of you and every day add more and more. When you start appreciating yourself, the universe says, “Wow. Look at that. Let’s send her more to appreciate.” And your life begins to change.
And that’s your purpose this time around in your current incarnation. So have fun with it. Show yourself that you are powerful. You can change anything, because you can. You are a spirit. The choices you make and the thoughts you have creates the life that you live. What you think is what shows up in your physical reality.
Anonymous: What do I do? I really feel so hopeless and lost, and I don’t know how to cope at all. The very few people in my life who’ve come into it to show me any kindness or love have left, or always leave me.
Council: And so there are more new people that can come into your life. You are the magnet. Your thought goes out there, and it’s out there in the universe. You want people to appreciate you, you want love, you want nice, kind people. It’s there. You’ve got to keep thinking about that. You’ve got to feel it. What would that be, to have a friend, to have someone to hang out with that’s really nice to me?
Feel that. The feeling is the magnet. That is the key. Pretend like a little child that you have this wonderful new friend, that you have a wonderful new life. You’re so excited because all of a sudden these people are popping into your life. Feel it. That’s the magnet. You are the magnet. Send your thought out, feel it, and bring it back to you. The universe will give you what you are feeling.
Anonymous: Is there any way I can just exit this life because I took on too much, and I can’t handle it, and find it unbearable. Is that even possible to do?
Council: It’s possible to commit suicide, but that’s not the way out. The way out is to change that negative thinking. The way out is to know there is so much there, so much more, and now you’re at a point in your life where you want to find it. And just that will change your life. It’s work, but we feel you can do this.
And we also want to say here that when you’re in spirit and you picked all of this, in spirit you’re strong, you’re loving, you know that there’s nothing you can’t do. So when you pick all of this, you say, “Oh, this is horrible. How am I going to do this?” You’re like, “All right, bring it on, let me jump in there, let me change how I think, let me bring more love to myself, let me bring more love into that reality.” And you don’t doubt it for one minute. And then you come into this incarnation and your life begins, but your higher self, which is you, knows what you want to do. And so now is your time.
Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with the positive thoughts. In your reality what is going on is that a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this, and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes from the right thinking.
You’ve created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You’ve agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to have happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and have them work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, help the ocean. You’re all here together to make this reality better and better.
And so we wish you joy. And remember, coming into this life, you came in with the thought of having a joyous time, to find happiness everywhere, and that’s your purpose. Have a happy life, enjoy it, create fun, create love. You can all do this.
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How Can I Stop Feeling So Depressed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sunshine73.
Sunshine: I was hoping The Council could help me. You and The Council helped me once about sickness. I have another problem I’ve always dealt with ever since I was a small child. It’s depression. As a young child I didn’t know what it was. I just knew I felt sad a lot and didn’t know why.
Council: You felt very sad. And this comes from the life you lived in ancient Rome where you lived in Pompeii and you were there A.D. 79 when Mount Vesuvius erupted. You lost your whole family and everyone you knew, and eventually you succumbed to these ashes that covered many bodies. Many people drowned. And that is staying with you, and your subconscious remembers that past life, and now it helps you go through this depression.
And so knowing where it came from, look around you. See what your family is like. Do you have them in your life? Does it make you feel good? Are you appreciating that whoever you have in your life, you reach out to show kindness, to show love, and to help when it’s needed? That’s your lesson from your lifetime in Pompeii. So when it was time to leave, it was already too late to help yourself and your family.
And so now experiencing depression and experiencing sadness are leftover feelings from that life. And you brought this in so you could learn to be there for yourself, be there for others, and let go of the depressed feelings.
There is no ending. We’re all spirits, and we come in life after life. And so you’ve chosen this time to be there before something horrible happens to show love and to reach out. And that’s what you desired to do in your current lifetime. But we see here what you’re feeling – the depression and the sadness – is so strong that reaching out to others will help erase the depressed feeling.
Sunshine: I’m now almost 50 years old and nothing has changed. I still deal with depression on a regular basis. I try different things and sometimes they help for a little while. Is there anything in a past life that’s causing this?
Council: Yes. And knowing it (and it takes a little time for your present mind to accept it), knowing where the sadness and the depression are coming from, that alone will help you release it.
Sunshine: How can I stop feeling this way so much?
Council: You can read about that time in Pompeii. Look at pictures of the city that was dug up, knowing that you were there and that was your home. And just sometimes going back to that life you can experience how wonderful it was before the end came. And that will also help you let these depressed feelings go. And remembering, even though you transitioned in that life, here you are again. You are safe.
Sunshine: I’ve been trying to do some work with crystals to help, but I don’t really know if I’m doing that right either. I just know I can’t go on living my life in sadness. I want to be happy and enjoy my life and my family.
Also, is it depression that takes all of my energy?
Council: Of course. Depression makes you feel a loss of wanting to do anything in this life, taking your energy, and making you feel fatigued all the time. Depression is a heavy energy. So accepting where it comes from and thinking eventually: Oh, the depression is from this past life and I don’t need to feel this way now. There’s nothing in this lifetime that’s causing me to feel this way. It’s just something I wanted to heal, and now with this understanding, I will heal it.
Bob: Anything to add about Sunshine’s working with crystals?
Council: Crystals are always good. Some people, when they meditate or just sit in a chair for 15 or 20 minutes, surround themselves – north, south, east, west – with clear quartz. Hold one in your right hand and one in your left hand, and that moves the energy.
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What’s My Life Purpose, And How Can I Create A Life of Freedom?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LDavis1978.
LDavis: What is my purpose in life, and how can I create a life of freedom?
Council: Everyone always wants to know their purpose in life, forgetting that many times in spirit before coming into your reality there is no purpose. You just come in for fun. You just come in to see who you’ll meet, what you’re all experiencing, how you’ll help one another, and just find yourself along the way. You’re not always coming in with a set destination saying, “I must accomplish this and I must accomplish that.” It’s so much easier to come in and say, “Let’s see what I create in that personality, and then let’s see in that personality how I handle it.
LDavis: I live for my family, but feel constrained by corporate life and the nine-to-five grind.
Council: So right there we say what does that tell you? You are feeling constrained by this. And so if it’s not helping you move forward, helping you feel good and find a purpose, then begin to think in your mind what else can I do? “Let me experience something brand new that will make me feel happy, that will make me feel free, and that I will appreciate.” And you send that message out to your higher self and your higher self will direct you.
LDavis: I’d love to have the time and freedom to live my life as I please, yet I also need security and the stability of money to provide a roof and food for my family.
Council: Many people desire a house and a life that’s exactly what they want, and yet subconsciously they believe this isn’t possible. They believe they’re stuck in this kind of job or that kind of job. But for you what would work right now would be to go into a state of appreciation for the job you already have. Appreciate that it allows you to do things for yourself and your family. It’s there giving you financial stability at this time.
But as you appreciate your job and think about how it allows you to do so many different things, also add: “But I’m ready for a change. I’d like more freedom. I’d like more happiness in the job that I’m in so many hours during the week.”
So we’d suggest you start with appreciation that you have this job, that this job makes it possible for you to have a roof over your head, to have food, to do things for your family, and appreciate it and thank it. And now say, “I’d like more. I’d like to change it.”
And as you think those thoughts, the universe will answer that. It will bring you things. And you could have several opportunities come to you, and if it’s not what you like, you can put it out there and not take that job and ask for something else. And the universe will continue to bring you things because you appreciate what you already have.
Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. Start there and then use your imagination. You can imagine any sort of job you want. Even if you think you’re not capable of getting that job, that you’re not capable of doing it, just play in your mind, what sounds good, what sounds fun? Play like a child would play in their imagination.
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Will I Meet My Ex Again, Or Meet Someone New To Share My Life With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.
Starfish: I was wondering if my ex and I will ever meet again. It was a very unique connection for me even though it’s been two years since we last talked, and I still think of him dearly. There was so much love there. We never officially dated, despite having feelings for each other. The connection was too triggering for both of us since we mirrored our childhood wounds so deeply. We weren’t ready for a relationship.
Council: So you chose to come together to look at these wounds and help yourself and each other heal them. But as we see what you planned, you didn’t think about staying together. So that purpose was done. You experienced it at whatever level you both could handle in this particular lifetime with what was happening around you.
Starfish: I want to know: Do my ex and I plan to meet again in the future to wrap up this connection?
Council: Well we would think so, but of course, as we said, that’s entirely up to the both of you to make the decision, and then to create it.
Starfish: Or was this connection just a lesson for me to learn to not reactivate the same wounds with my future partner or partners?
Council: It was to look at the same wounds that you had, and to heal them.
Starfish: I really wish to see him again. I miss him as a dear friend, and I wonder if he’s doing all right.
Council: We see he’s alright. And at the moment we see he has gone forward with his life. We don’t see anything at the present moment where you’d connect again.
Bob: I was under the impression you said before that they might connect again, and now you’re saying that…
Council: He has moved forward. You can connect again in another lifetime if that’s wanted, but in this lifetime there was the wanting to come together, but there was nothing that was planned where they would stay together. It was to work on the wounds and then make a choice from there, and that was to go on.
Bob: So in answer to Starfish’s question: Do my ex and I plan to meet again in the future to wrap up this connection? you weren’t referring to their current life?
Council: Not this lifetime.
Starfish: Does he feel the same about me too?
Council: We could say he wishes you well, but again, there’s no thought of reconnecting.
Starfish: A long time ago I asked him to block me so we couldn’t contact each other. He hasn’t unblocked me since then, and now I can’t contact him first.
Council: So at the time you suggested that, was it apparent to you that you no longer wanted this connection by asking him to block you, but now there’s a change of heart? If you want this reconnection, then we would always suggest doing the inner work. Talk to his spirit at night or in the day, and put to him what you’d like. And then do the work – the discipline of seeing it and feeling it however you want. You run into him, he calls you, whatever it is, if that’s your strong desire without any doubt, then we can say, of course you can create that again.
Starfish: Is there anything I can do? I’m willing to open my heart again this time. I regret pushing him away back then.
Council: Have the image in your mind of you and him sitting across from each other inside a pink bubble, and send that image to him. His spirit, of course, will receive it and will know what you’re doing, and then we’ll see where he would be with that. So that’s your part in what you can do.
Starfish: If my ex and I don’t plan to meet again, does The Council see anyone important coming into my life soon?
Council: Of course, if that’s what you want to create. We do see there was a thought of having a permanent relationship. There is someone that you can pull in – a spirit that’s willing to be part of this reality with you. And so, that is there for you if you choose to go in that direction. It’s always good to remember that it’s up to you. Your thoughts, your images, and your feelings will create what you want in your life.
But before you go into this focusing and imagining, you must raise your vibration. And by doing that you must become very happy, very joyful, very playful, and feeling like a child who’s excited about something. When you’re in that state, and you do the work in your mind of seeing it and feeling it, you will create it.
Starfish: What can I do to manifest a new loving romantic connection?
Council: Whatever it is that you want, you raise your vibration, and you do the inner work. It’s focus, focus, focus.
Starfish: Are there still any inner wounds I need to be aware of?
Council: Of course. There are many. And it will come up with what you choose to face in this lifetime.
Starfish: How can I work through these wounds?
Council: As they come up, whatever you find hurtful, look at it. What does it remind you of? How does it make you feel? Why does it make you feel this way? And then ask yourself if there’s forgiveness for all concerned with this, including yourself? And so, trust, we can say, is one of the issues. So learn about trusting.
And so, we send you love, we send you happiness, we send you energy to raise your vibration, and the ability to look inside yourself and around you, and appreciate yourself, and appreciate everything you have around you, and to go forward and look for the fun and the happiness.
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Did I Have Past Lives In Atlantis?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar: I’ve always been attracted to Atlantis, and I want to know if I had a life or lives there? If the answer is yes, I would like to know my work in those lives.
Council: You had two lives in Atlantis, that we see. In one life you took care of growing plants and food. You set up different areas with a grid of crystals around them to help the plants grow. You played music over the crops, and you tended to take care of these plants, some to put in a house to take care of the environment, some were crops to eat food, and some were just to be around the outside of the home for the energy that came forth from these plants.
And so you did a lot of that work in that particular life. You were in charge of many of the people there, teaching them how to grow and take care of the spirit in each plant. And by touching on that spirit, that’s how you maintained that every plant, every vegetable, everything that grew, was healthy and never turned brown and died. It was always perfect. And that was that one particular life.
In another life when Atlantis did sink, you were there working in the health field. You worked in the temples to take care of the people that came with injuries, or some sort of sickness in some organ that you would be able to identify just by touching the person. And with that information, you would know what healing room to put them in.
And you were there in the end and you didn’t survive the sinking of Atlantis. You were helping many of the children, the adults, and the elderly try to get away, but you did go down with the sinking of Atlantis. In that particular life you were a woman, and in the life where you took care of the crops, the plants, and the food, you were a male.
Bluestar: Did I incarnate with my twin flame in Atlantis?
Council: In Atlantis, they never had a mindset of a twin flame. The belief was, you were all connected and you were all of one. And so, whoever you got together with in each of those two lifetimes, was a choice of both of you to be together, but there was no soulmate or twin flame. In Atlantis you were all connected.
And so we send you love, we send you happiness, we send you energy to raise your vibration, and the ability to look inside yourself and around you so you can appreciate yourself, and appreciate everything you have around you, and to go forward and look for the fun and the happiness.
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Why Do We Get Sick, And How Do We Heal?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsay.
Lindsay: I’ve looked through old posts, but I wasn’t able to find any specific questions on seasonal colds and the flu. Why do humans get sick with viruses?
Council: In your reality, it’s part of the belief system. You came into a reality with others where this is something that happens that you go through, and so you want to know how you’d handle this. What would make it easier for you to go through this? People get sick because they believe it’s there, and sooner or later they’ll get sick.
Oh, the flu is going around, I hope I don’t catch it. And just by thinking, “I hope I don’t catch it,” brings it into your reality. So it’s the thoughts and the beliefs that make you sick, and that makes you experience seasonal allergies and terrible colds in the winter. People die of cancer because they believe someone dying in their family had it, so they’d also get it. It’s possible, and being in that state of fear, it’s created.
And so we’d say, if you wish to be well, you must be in a place of loving yourself and having good thoughts. Your reality is wonderful. Your reality can make you strong and it can make you well. You can sail right through this lifetime, But when you go into thoughts like, here comes the Winter and now we’ll be sick, and here comes the Spring and now we’ll have allergies, it’s the thought system and a deep belief that this will happen.
And yes, it’s here, it’s created in your reality, but now how will you handle it? You know by handling it you must change your vibration. How do you change your vibration? You change your thoughts. And just that would make you not be sick in the Winter, or not have allergies in the Summer.
Be grateful for being in a reality where there are different seasons and different things to appreciate in each season, and to love your body and know that it’s strong. And of course, do the wise thing physically. Eat the right foods and get plenty of rest. It’s all your belief and how you go forward with what you think.
Bob: You already address this next question to a large extent, but I’ll ask it anyway.
Lindsay: How can we prevent illness with seasonal colds and the flu?
Council: As the season approaches, meditate, sit, smile, and think I am healthy, I am so wonderful, I have created a healthy body for myself, and all is well. Keep seeing it, seeing it, over and over again. You are just feeling great. What a wonderful surprise. I’ve created a season that I am just sailing through feeling wonderful.
Bob: And you’ve already addressed to some extent this next question, but I’ll ask it anyway.
Lindsay: When you or your child is sick, what can we do to heal quickly?
Council: Play a game while you are sick. Do things you like. Lay around, watch TV, play music, create something (possibly arts and crafts), be together in the family. And just know that being in the family, going through this sickness, it’s just something that for some reason you’ve created, and you have the ability to get rid of it. But treat it as a fun thing. Treat it as if it’s a time for me to rest, so I’ll rest. But I will be happy because I am well. I am well deep inside. And I will see it, and I see it over and over again, and then I’ll experience it.
Bob: In addition to what you’ve already said about getting sick…
Lindsay: Is there a secret to staying healthy?
Council: Appreciate things every single day, even the littlest thing. Laugh about some memories, or find something fun to do. Raise your energy. Diseases and sickness aren’t in a high vibration. It will not touch you because it’s not in your vibration. You can rise above that.
And the answer to all questions concerning how to improve your life: be grateful for everything, have positive thoughts, and send yourself and others love.
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What Can I Do About My Unhappy Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Maria.
Maria: I’m currently stuck in an unhappy marriage and I’m trying to keep the peace for the sake of my family. We have a young adult son still living with us. My husband and I have been talking about divorce for years now, but we’re still together.
Council: Is divorce what you truly want? Is it a different kind of attention you need in your marriage? We feel there’s a big part of you that doesn’t want to move forward with this divorce. What would you need to feel good in this marriage? What is it you think you can contribute to make this work?
Remember small things about how you met and how you were attracted to your husband. Go back to the good memories and focus on that. You’ll feel a stirring inside as the memories come back. Again, is this what you want? Look for it. Concentrate on this.
If you say you’ve been talking about a divorce for years, then ask yourself why it’s been years? Is it just to keep the family together? Truthfully ask yourself that question. Is it an excuse not to move forward unless you have another partner in the wings? Something you can be sure of if you leave this marriage? That you’ll have a wonderful new relationship? There are no guarantees, but you are the creator. So what is it you wish to create?
Maria: I do love my husband and care for him, but I’ve been very sad because we argue every day and we’re more like roommates that don’t get along.
Council: So what are you arguing about? Is it that important? Is it that you’re so aware of the lack of understanding and the lack of communication that was once there? It’s always possible to bring this back.
And so again we ask you to look at what you had. Do you still want it? Do you want to bring the magic back?
Maria: My husband has some addictions, but I know he’s trying to fight them. I know he loves me in his way also.
Council: Everyone has come into their lives with the thought of having a wonderful time. No one comes here to suffer. But as life goes along, you create different things from your experiences, and different things you want to work out that you’d like to understand and then change.
Remember your husband is also a spirit in a physical body. You are a spirit in a physical body. You both are trying to learn and work things out. The way that happens is you must come from a place of love. Look at yourself and feel love for yourself. It’s in there, even though sometimes it’s hard to find. Look at your husband. Look at him knowing he’s a spirit here with his issues and his work that he wants done.
And perhaps you’ll get to understand that you can help each other learn. You can help each other through this. And that’s how you turn around the issues that you’re looking at.
Maria: I didn’t expect to meet someone very special a few years ago that I felt I knew from other lives.
Council: And so realize that you brought this person in.
Maria: We couldn’t help but fall in love with each other. Nothing happened other than some kissing and communication of love. This person died in terrible circumstances and I almost died too as a result.
Through several mediums I’ve learned we’ve met at each and every incarnation since the time of Atlantis, as we promised each other we’d do that.
Council: We don’t say that every incarnation you have been together, but if believing that helps you face whatever it is that you need in your current lifetime, then you’ll create the mediums that tell you that. And so there are many, many, many lifetimes and you aren’t always together. That doesn’t make your relationship any less.
You came to each other again in your current lifetime for whatever amount of time you’ve created where you’d be together to enjoy each other and to make each other feel good, and that is what it sounds like you did for each other. And that’s a wonderful thing.
Maria: And we’ll meet again. I know that.
Council: If that’s what you want and this other soul wants, yes, you’ll create another lifetime where you’re together. How exciting is that?
Maria: I’d love to know more about my relationship with this man. I’ve received lots of communication from him and I now know he’s one of my guides and he’s helping me and protecting me.
Council: And so how does that make you feel? Is it wonderful to know that you have a connection with this person and that he’s still helping you in your current life? What is this person showing you? When the person has passed on, they’ll always help you move forward to create a new life for yourself. Are you hearing that information? Take a look. Pay attention.
Maria: I feel so privileged. Other mediums told me that he would help me find some other man if I move away from my husband.
Council: When you connect with a spirit who has crossed over, they will never tell you, “I’ll help you if you leave such and such a person.” They’d be there sending you love knowing, and having you know, that everything will be okay. But the choices are always yours. It’s not a spirit saying, “Well I’ll help you only if you do this.” So we’d ask you to question that information from these mediums.
Maria: I also had a dream or visitation from my Mom and she was trying to prepare me for a man that’s coming to me, but I woke up before she could tell me more.
Council: And so, are you creating another man? Is this what you want? Do you want to go back to the first relationship and make it work with your husband? Or are you ready to walk away and you’re creating another man? You are the creator.
Maria: As I’m trying to heal from the most difficult loss of my life – that man I fell in love with – and learn to live with my husband and all the health problems I have, I decided to try alternative medicine. Another big surprise from the universe, the person helping me with my health seems to be another soulmate, but this time he’s the one telling me we’ve been together in other lives, helping each other, and fighting on the same side of wars.
Council: So if you look at what you’re creating, you’re desperate to feel there’s a new man in your life. You’re desperate to feel loved. You want to hear those words from another man, and this is what you’re creating. That’s wonderful if that’s what you really want. And so question yourself. Think about it. This new man doesn’t come out of nowhere into your life. You invite this in.
And so from what we see the direction you’re going in, if something were to happen where this man would disappear, we’re sure the way you think, the way what you want is being dealt with, you’d create a third man, and then a fourth, and a fifth.
So we say ask yourself, “Why am I doing this? Maybe I should stop and feel good about myself. Maybe I should love myself for a while and then take a look at this marriage. What do I need to feel happy? Do I need to feel my own power? Do I need to understand more that I’m the creator, and everything that comes into my life, whether it’s good or bad, I am bringing it? So let me now question everything I’m creating.” And you’ll learn more about yourself and what it is that you want.
Maria: It was immediate recognition with this man who was helping me with my health issues. He used the word, “buddies,” but I don’t feel that type of connection, like fighting wars together. What I feel is a more loving, comfortable, and safe feeling. I feel like hugging him a lot, but just like I love to hug my son.
I also saw in my mind one of his spiritual guides. He said I described him perfectly. I think he’s holding back telling me more about those lives, and I’m doing something similar because I didn’t tell him what I think his guide was communicating to me. It was something like he was glad we finally met, and then he smiled a lot and had an expression like, “Pass the popcorn, this is going to be interesting.”
I’d like to know more about those past lives with this new man and what I can expect from him now.
Council: You can expect whatever it is that you create.
And so we’d say at this time, don’t live in the past. Don’t try to find out about past lives. You’re here to live your current life. In a past life he could have murdered you. You could have murdered him. Or you could have been great lovers, or brothers and sisters. That doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’ve brought this into your current life. What is it that you want and how will you go about creating it?
Be in the present. That’s a big lesson for you in this lifetime. So we’d say, question everything you do. Question what you think about everything. Question what you want, but stay in the present.
Maria: Is he a soulmate with whom I could share my life? Or just a very good friend, or perhaps a collaborator?
Council: Again, you wish us to be the fortune teller and that’s not our job. You will create your life the way you want it to be. There’s nothing you can’t create. And so, do you want him to be the person you spend the rest of your life with? Or do you just want him there for a while and then move on? And so stay with that thought. You are the creator. What is it that you want? It’s all up to you.
Maria: I’ve suffered so much with my previous loss that now I’m not even allowing myself to dream of falling in love again.
Council: We think you are allowing this dream.
Maria: I’m still debating divorcing my husband. How can I find a way to live independently from him?
Council: Think of how it truly would be. Can you support yourself? Can you pull away from him completely and move forward? We would say it’s very questionable because now at the end of your comment, the way you started it, you are ending it. By not knowing, you are still debating whether to leave this marriage or not. And so we say to you as a clue, look at this marriage again.
Maria: My health is limiting how much I can work. I’m very creative and I’ve been thinking about writing a book and also singing. No one ever shines a light on my singing.
Council: And so you shine the light on it. Sing by yourself. Sing in your house. Sing in front of friends. Show yourself that you appreciate your singing.
You want to write a book. Sit down and begin this book. And yet you say because of your health there are some things you can’t do. So once again, if you go through with this divorce, can you support yourself? Can you get around? Look at this. It is part of what you want to do in this lifetime to challenge yourself by how you think about yourself. And so start thinking the way you want to feel about yourself. Whether you’re there or not, imagine yourself being a great author. Imagine people asking you to sing, even if it’s only at parties.
See yourself where people around you are appreciating what you can do. But before you get there you must appreciate yourself for who you are, and appreciate your gifts. So do not look to others for attention and approval. Give yourself the attention you want. Approve of yourself first and your life will truly turn around.
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How Do I Move On From A Difficult Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Davis1Amanda, who asks, Can you let me know about a person in my past, how I can thank them for their role in my life, and understand how I can move on from that difficult relationship?
The Council says when you’re no longer physically in touch with a person, if you don’t talk to them, have them in front of you, and there’s no communication, there’s always communication energetically. To thank them, think of the role they played in your life. They’re always in your life to give you information about what you’re trying to heal.
When you think of this person, what do you think of? If you find yourself having lots of questions about the challenges this relationship brought you, start by being thankful for what you remember that was helpful. When you can’t figure out what was missing from this relationship, what made it difficult, or what the lesson was, change the focus of your attention and think about what you got of value in the relationship.
When you can find whatever it is you can be thankful for, then simply sit and talk to this person in your mind, thanking them. Perhaps you can tell them you don’t understand the full lesson yet, but thanking them for being there, whether it was for a short time or a long time. Send them love and pink light. They’ll receive it. Your higher self will know what you’re doing and their higher self will receive it. By doing this, the feelings you have about this relationship will change. Sometimes this will bring a person back into your life. Sometimes it gives the relationship lots of love so you can move on.
Your purpose now is to concentrate on what it was that you liked in this relationship. What drew you into it? What kept you there? You can always find good things when you think about any relationship. When you do this you’ll begin to release it, to get some understanding of it, and then move on. It’s your purpose right now to have gone through this relationship and now to move on, to learn it’s okay to move on, and what you wanted was to get some understanding. That’s where you are right now.
Meditate on this relationship. Think about it with joy. The more you can find yourself smiling, the more you can find things to appreciate about this relationship, the more you’ll move on from it, and more clarity will come to you.
The Council sends everyone blessings, love, happiness, peace, the courage to look at who you really are, the desire to know who you really are, and to experience who you really are. The way you do this is through the thoughts in your mind. Everything you live is coming to you from your thoughts.
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Please Elaborate On Water, Sun, And Electricity Curing COVID
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, LilyDaisy, who says: I was listening to your post, The Coronavirus Disease (COVID-19) From a Spiritual Perspective, because I’ve been feeling sad about the divide between people who are vaccinated and people who are unvaccinated, and I was looking for some peace. I realized I heard something in that session I didn’t catch the first time I listened to it, and it was incredibly interesting. In that post The Council mentioned water, sun, and electricity as the source of the cure.
Cynthia and Bob went back and listened to that post and found that The Council doesn’t actually say water, sun, and electricity will be the source of the cure for COVID. During that earlier COVID session when Bob asks The Council how we’ll know when the virus has passed, The Council says: The scientists and doctors will say the virus is under control – that electricity, or the sun, or water, or something is putting an end to the virus. This is immediately followed by The Council saying this (meaning electricity, sun, water, or something else) doesn’t matter. What matters is your thoughts. Stay in the vibration of love. Stay in the vibration of happiness and the feeling we’re all safe and working on this, and the virus will pass.
Coming back to our session on LilyDaisy’s follow-up question, The Council is quick to re-emphasize that thoughts will be the cause of the cure for COVID. Then they say, In Atlantis they had great temples of healing. They knew how to heal with vibration, with the sun, and with water. We feel that will not be done in this lifetime.
The Council continues: There were dome-shaped temples in Atlantis that were made out of crystals, and a crystal would be placed in the area of the temple where the sun would hit for the longest period of time during the day. The sun going through the crystals, and the sound that was played while the people were in this healing dome, created cures for all these peoples’ diseases.
They took crystal domes and put them over the water, and the vibration of the sun would purify the water and give these domes healing powers. They used color, vibration, and sound in ways that were very advanced compared to today, but we feel right now this form of healing isn’t available in your current reality.
COVID was created so people could have time to be at home, appreciate their lives, appreciate their families and friends and realize how much they want to be together, and to be kind to each other. And when the vibration of these kind and loving thoughts takes over, there will no longer be the COVID virus. COVID was created out of fear, out of violence, and out of upset feelings. It was created with wrong thinking.
The thinking that’s needed now is thoughts of love. Grow plants, love the trees, honor the oceans, and believe everything has a vibration. Everything overcomes a bad vibration with the vibration of love. Love your home. Love every part of it. Love everyone in it. Love everyone you know. Be kind. Think happy thoughts. Find ways to have fun and laugh. With these thoughts you’ll see COVID disappear.
The Council repeats that water, sun, and electricity were sources of healing in the past, but they won’t be the source in this lifetime. But they add that this can be changed with the right thinking. In Lemuria and Mu, as well as Atlantis, they were very advanced. And yet with the feelings of love and appreciation for the scientists and the doctors, someone can come up with some sort of cure in that way. But we say don’t worry about that. Concentrate on the vibration of love.
In closing, The Council asks everyone to search for joy and to find it in any way you can.
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Is There a Long-Term Relationship in My Future?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Core, who asks for advice on her romantic relationships. She says, For the past few years I’ve been experiencing brief connections that never lead to anything long-term. While these experiences have taught me a lot, they’ve also been heartbreaking for me. I recently went through another one of these brief relationships and it’s really bringing me down. I’m starting to feel a loss of hope because I don’t understand how I can get out of this pattern. I feel each time this happens, I learn many things and I’m trying my best, but I’d like to experience being in a relationship and building a foundation for something that lasts longer than a month or two.
The Council says in a past life you lived in a farming community. You were alone most of the time working, unable to get away and be with other people. In your current lifetime you wanted to be able to flit around from relationship to relationship, whether it’s an intimate one, a friendly one, or family. You wanted the freedom to experience a lot of these relationships.
Now that you’ve done that and you desire to turn your path to a more permanent relationship, the first step would be to appreciate every relationship you’ve had. Think about this and outline in your mind all the things you liked about each one.
When you’re in a new relationship, instead of worrying if it will last or not, appreciate what you have. Tell yourself you’ll love this relationship and appreciate everything that goes on, no matter how long the relationship lasts. Being in the present and being appreciative will change the energy of worrying if your current relationship will last or not, to: this is wonderful, I love being in this relationship and I appreciate it. Now I’m ready to find a permanent relationship. If you put that energy out there, things will begin to change.
Core asks, Is there a longer-term romantic relationship between me and a partner there for me in the future? The Council says you’ve planned in spirit that there will be one. To bring this relationship in now you should constantly think you’re ready for it, and not be upset about the relationships that didn’t last. Appreciate them. Appreciate that you could experience so many different relationships and now you’re ready and waiting to find a relationship that will work just for you. You’ll bring in the right person to have a relationship with.
Core asks, What can I do to make finding a long-term relationship easier on myself. The Council says to meditate, and keep seeing down to the tiniest detail, what you’d like a permanent relationship to look like. As you keep meditating and visualizing this, you’ll begin to bring in the energy of the right person for you.
Core asks, Can you provide any insights on my situation and why I’ve been experiencing these brief connections. The Council reminds Core how she wanted the different experiences because in a past life that you want to heal differently, you went from having minimal relationships with others to having many relationships in your current lifetime. You’ve now had a balance. You’ve had almost no relationships and you’ve had a lot of them. Now you can steer your life in the direction you want. When you make the connection to a past life that you’re working on now, the connection becomes easier to make, and the change is easier to make.
Core says, There’s a similar pattern around other aspects of my life. Living situations, career, friends, and circumstances come into my life and then leave so fast for me. The Council agrees and says it’s because it’s all energy and it comes in many different forms.
Core says, I know I’m growing and transforming rapidly because of these brief relationships, but I’m beginning to burn out. Any help would be greatly appreciated. The Council advises Core to visualize and feel as if you’re already in the relationship you desire and you’ll create this relationship.
The Council closes by saying to have fun on your path. Always look for the fun. Happiness will bring in everything you wish to create, even if you know what it is now or not. Your higher self knows. When you stay happy, your higher self is able to bring in what you want to create.
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Requesting Guidance for a Never-Ending Divorce
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy. She says it’s a full year since I asked The Council about my divorce and it’s as if time has stood still. My divorce is no further along than it was then. I’ve tried everything to move the divorce forward, but my husband is intent on going to trial, and he has so much to lose. The challenges he’s faced with emotional abuse and substance abuse will now play out publicly in court and it’s possible he might lose custody of our children.
The Council says this is the way your husband wants the divorce to go. How would you like the divorce to go? If you put the thought in your mind that your husband is intent on going in the direction of court, does it bring up fear? Does it bring up frustration? Or are you satisfied with this and think we’ll go to trial, but I know his behavior and abuse will come out and the trial will go in my favor?
Find thoughts that bring you satisfaction and joy. The timing of when your divorce is finalized doesn’t matter. What will make the divorce move forward is if you take your thoughts away from frustration and appreciate your life. Go about your business and do what you want with your children and know that this divorce will eventually happen when you accept the way it’s going and know for sure, without a doubt in your mind, that everything will come out okay for you and your children.
Your husband has his lessons to go through. At this point your lesson is to accept what’s going on. Don’t think of the divorce as a battle and you’re going to war. Your husband is bringing on this challenge. You can accept it with peace in your mind and things will turn out in your favor.
Amy says, Losing custody of our children isn’t what I wanted for my husband, but he watches TV all day long and on TV you don’t see reasonable people gracefully dismantling their lives with their children at the center. I feel I’ve been fair and I’ve tried to settle this divorce fairly and quietly for the sake of our children, but there’s something blocking this divorce. The Council says the block is what you and your husband have come together to do and the lesson to be learned in it. You may not realize that spiritually your husband may have decided he wants to lose his children and learn what that’s about. You don’t have to know the reason, or what your husband is creating. This will show itself to you.
Amy says, We still live together, I still support him, and he refuses to work. The Council asks Amy why her husband should work if she lets him live with her and supports him? This doesn’t seem sensible. If you want to keep him living in your home and supporting him, that’s fine, but know you’re agreeing to this. You’re allowing this to happen. If you want something different you’d handle the situation differently.
Amy says, I can see so clearly what my life looks like with my children when I get to the other side of this divorce. I’ve deepened my relationship with myself over the last year and I’m anxiously awaiting the change and the experience it will bring to my family overall. The Council reminds Amy to do the inner work, keep seeing the pages of a calendar flying by, and the time has passed and your divorce is happening.
Amy says, I’ve been getting ready to get ready, as Abraham-Hicks teaches, and I feel good. It’s surprising to most people that I feel no animosity toward my husband. The Council says this is wonderful because animosity isn’t necessary and that in spirit you both created this situation.
Amy says, Our life is far more peaceful than it ever was before, living without the emotion and intensity our marriage held. We’re co-parents living in the same house and it feels a little like a dress rehearsal. The Council says without saying too much about your husband, some of what he’s created is to go through life easily and have things done for him. What he’s creating and will continue to create is to have people come into his life and make it easier.
Amy says, I’ve recently come to the point where I stopped trying to control the outcome and I’ve even given up on the timeline for the divorce. Right now I get to be with my children every day while the divorce works itself out and I’m grateful for every minute with them in the same house. Having said that, it’s time for me to move on. I feel a strong pull towards something else and I have no idea what that is. This is exciting – nervous excitement. There’s not another love interest or even a thought of one, or a friend or a family member pulling me along so I know this is a different calling.
The Council says it’s wonderful that you’ve stopped trying to control the outcome. This is the way to make the divorce happen. Stay in that feeling of excitement. Stay in the feeling of being pulled toward something new and wonderful. Even if you don’t know what you’re excited about, stay in that excited, happy feeling.
Amy says the universe takes care of my husband. Life just happens for him. He just seems to walk through life carelessly without consequences. No matter how badly he treats people or screws up, someone picks up the slack. It’s as if you can see him being carried. I know we all have a higher power watching over us. It’s just easy to see with my husband that he’s always taken care of no matter how bad his behavior is or how much he alienates friends and family. The Council says this isn’t any part of what you need to experience. He’ll go through all the emotions and all the experience he needs on his path.
Amy says, I can’t be the person I’ve been for my husband anymore. I need to move on, but I feel a block and I can’t seem to clear it. The Council says there isn’t any block. Think of the divorce moving forward. You’re on the correct path. All that you wish, if you continue to focus on it, will come to you. Let go of the time factor. It’s not necessary. Stay in a vibration of happiness and love and you’ll see your divorce come quickly.
The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, and understanding, and realizing there are many lives you’ve experienced and many more you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. When you’re happy, you’ll see the connections that are being made. There will be more understanding. Stay in that feeling of joy.
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How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.
The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.
The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.
You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.
Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.
Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.
Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.
Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.
Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.
The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.
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When Will COVID Conditions Improve in India?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader whose name is, Lightworker, who asks about current Covid conditions in India. They say conditions are getting worse every day and millions of people are dying. We’ve lost close family members due to Covid and almost every day we hear of someone passing away from the coronavirus.
The Council says instead of going into fear, what are the thoughts you have around this? Be grateful your parents and others you know haven’t gotten the coronavirus. Know that everyone in this reality agreed to go through this pandemic. How does it make you want to change? Do you want to bring closeness with family and friends? Do you want to learn to take better care of yourself? There are many reasons this virus was created.
From time to time the coronavirus will calm down in one place and pop up in another. This will go on for a while until enough people have learned the appreciation for life no matter what you face. As this goes on it will change. There will be different strains that present themselves, but there will always be cures that will be identified to help. This is pushing medicine in the direction it’s meant to go.
Eventually all the cures that will be needed will be created from the vibration of light and energy. This is why the coronavirus is being created. To push for different and better ways to find a cure. As sad and frightening as this situation is right now, it’s pushing your reality into a better place.
Lightworker says, As an empath this situation affects me deeply. The Council agrees and says you should learn to meditate every day.
Lightworker asks, Can The Council please give me insight about when they see this situation improving? The Council says they can’t give you a date, but they see the situation will improve. It’s up to everyone in our reality how long it will take.
Lightworker says, I’m very scared for my aged parents in India who are presently alone. If possible, can you give me guidance about how I can remain positive and stay protected from this virus?
The Council says always envision your parents as being well. Don’t dwell on the fear and talk to them about it. Send your parents light and love with your thoughts and it will help them get through the coronavirus. You don’t have to know how your parents will stay well. Just see them as well. As we’ve said in other readings, everything starts in your thoughts, feelings, and visualizations. The energy from all of that will help you create what you need to keep your parents safe.
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How Far Have I Come Toward Accomplishing My Goals?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Maureen, who’s been shown many things by her higher self and others in this lifetime, including relevant past lives. Maureen says, I feel as if many large and small loose ends have been bundled into this life. I also feel and greatly appreciate the many pieces moving around to help me succeed. I’m scared I’m not getting what I need to get in this life and I’m overanalyzing everything until I’m exhausted.
The Council asks Maureen what it is you’re not getting. Analyzing too much is always a problem. Try to relax and just be in your life. It’s good to question things, but only for a short time. Meditate on your question. Talk to people about what’s on your mind. But going over and over things, trying to analyze and find answers to your questions when you’re not ready for the answers, will serve no purpose.
If you’ve found out about past lives, that’s wonderful, but try being in the moment and focusing more on your current lifetime and what’s going on around you.
Maureen says on the other hand I feel I’ve come so very far. The Council says they can see you’ve come far, but you’ll never get it all done. You’ll never get all the answers to your questions. In each lifetime there are more questions. There are more things you want to know. There are more ways you want to achieve things. You’re always learning from each experience. Be happy that an answer comes. No matter how much you analyze or know about your past, you’re here because you want to focus on what’s going on in your present.
Maureen asks, How far have I come in this life regarding my goals and what advice can you give me moving forward? The Council says you have many, many more goals that you wish to reach. And you’ll get there when you meditate or sit quietly and imagine what you’d like to create next in your life. Appreciate some of the things you’ve learned. Whether it’s a challenge or something that brings you lots of joy, what have you learned from it?
Taking what you’ve learned when you appreciate yourself and how your higher self is guiding you through each step of the way, you’ll have more understanding of how you can create moving forward. When you begin to see what you’re creating on a daily basis and you enjoy that, then you’ll know there’s nothing you can’t do. You can achieve anything. You have to focus on it. You need to appreciate what you have. You have to think about the directions you need to go in. You’ll find that you reach your goals that you focus on. You may zig-zag around, but you’ll reach them. In your next lifetime there will be more goals. There will be more lessons. There will be more fun to have, and it will go on, and on, and on.
When you ask if you’ll reach your goals, you’ll reach whatever you want to in this lifetime if you take the time to see it and feel the way you want it. Imagine every detail of whatever it is you want. If you want more money, picture it in your checkbook, picture going to your bank, picture going into a shop and you can buy anything you want. You don’t have to know how the money is coming to you. It’s just there. Picture traveling. Picture whatever it is you want to do. Just by picturing it and feeling it as if you were doing it, and the joy you experience doing this, you’ll create what you want.
Stop overanalyzing and start appreciating more. There’s no way you’re not getting what you need in this lifetime. You’re getting it at your own pace. You won’t slide back down the rungs of a ladder because you’re not climbing as fast as you want. You’ll get there. Enjoy the getting there. The joy comes from creating what you want, not when you get it. It’s the creation along the way and the fun of how you’re doing this that matters. Imagine you’ve been dreaming of something and it showes up in your life. Get excited about that and then create some more. There’s no fear you’re not getting what you want.
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Why Don’t I Have a Best Friend or a Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Diana, who says she’s struggled with deep loneliness most of her life. I have good friends, but I’ve always craved a best friend who’s always there and I can trust 100% for support. I’m 46 years old and single, and I’d also love to have a partner or a husband. Is there something I’m doing wrong?
The Council suggests instead of focusing on not having a best friend, look at your situation differently. If you have many friends, they can all be a best friend. There’s always something in each person that will make you feel close to them. You’re lucky to have many friends. If you had one best friend and they moved away, you’d have nothing.
Be grateful you have these best friends. The more you can focus on being grateful you have them, one of them will become the way you want a best friend to be. Or you’ll meet someone new and you’ll bring this person in and they’ll act the way you want a best friend to be. Be more grateful for the friends you have. The more grateful you feel, the more you’ll be able to bring your life closer to the way you want it to be. By focusing on not having a best friend you’re attracting more of not having a best friend into your life.
Diana says, I’ve been attracting the wrong people. What can I do to change this? The Council says to appreciate your friends. They’re not the wrong people. They are spirits that have come into your life to teach you to learn about each one of them, and to teach you to be grateful and feel happiness they’re in your life. When you do that it forces you to grow. It allows you to bring people in your life or new people to a point where you can allow closeness. This is with friends, people at work, and with a relationship.
If you can’t be grateful for the friends you have, you’ll never bring in the right partner because you’re searching. You’re searching for a best friend. You’re searching for closeness. And this searching prevents closeness from coming. When you’re satisfied and grateful for what you have, your friends become closer and the partner you want will appear. It’s all from your gratitude.
Diana asks, Will I find my tribe and husband one day. The Council says it’s all there for you. Change your thinking and it will happen. She asks, Should I move locations and start a new life, or is that just escaping my issues? The Council says your issues will follow you wherever you go. If there’s somewhere you’d genuinely like to move to and have a new start, that would be fine. But if your thinking doesn’t change, if you’re not grateful for what you have, what you want won’t come to you because you’re resisting it with your thoughts and you’ll stay searching.
Diana closes by saying the loneliness is really affecting my mental health and I’d be grateful for your advice. The Council says don’t focus on your loneliness even though you’re feeling lonely. Begin changing your thoughts. Get excited about new friendships and a new partner in your life. Imagine how it will be in every way you can and in every detail. Keep thinking these thoughts and everything will change.
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Does My Dead Husband Want to Continue Our Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, AlwaysMrs, who asks if her husband wants to continue their marriage. As you read this post you’ll understand AlwaysMrs’ husband recently passed away, but her question doesn’t make that quite clear.
After commenting that they know AlwaysMrs’ husband has passed away, The Council says when you’re in spirit you’re feeling love for the person you were married to and all the people you were married to in all your lifetimes. This love never goes away. You might say we’re all partners and we’re all married to each other. We’re all connected. In spirit your husband is still connected to you. It’s not the same as if he was here in physical reality, but the love and the connection you shared are still there.
AlwaysMrs says, I’ve received mixed messages where sometimes the message is: Yes, he’ll forever be my husband. He’ll do everything in his power to be what I need and want. I don’t need to find someone else and he doesn’t want me to be with someone else.
The Council says when you’re in spirit you’d never wish a person to be alone and not find and experience love again. It’s all part of the journey. Your husband would love you to move on. He wants you to remember him and remember the love you shared, but now move forward in your life with all the other experiences you want to live through while you’re still in a human reality. A spirit would always want you to love someone else and to move on.
AlwaysMrs says others give general messages like: He wants you to move on and be happy, alluding to finding another person to love. The Council says when you think of him you’ll still feel the love he sends to you. And that’s to help you do whatever the next step is in your life that you want to do.
AlwaysMrs says, I want to continue our marriage and strengthen our connection as he lives on. The Council says he lives on in spirit. You are still in a physical reality. You can strengthen your connection by meditating, by speaking to your husband every day, and imagining him walking through life with you, but that doesn’t open you up to creating others in your physical reality.
AlwaysMrs says, Because I can’t directly hear from my husband and have to rely on mediums, I don’t know how he feels right now. The Council says please don’t rely on mediums or anyone else. Meditate. Connect with the spirit of your husband. Talk to him and you’ll get the answers you need. If you don’t hear these answers in words, you’ll just know the answer to a question. You’ll know what’s the next step to take. Answers come differently when they come from spirit.
AlwaysMrs says she wants to know if her husband wants to continue the marriage the way she does and if he’ll try to make our marriage work with me until we’re together again. The Council says your husband wishes you to be happy. You’ve chosen to experience things in a physical reality and that means meeting other people, having other experiences, and moving on with your life. There’s nothing your husband is able to do in the spirit world that will keep the two of you married. He’ll send you love and he’ll cheer you on to move forward with any other relationships in any way you wish to go in your physical reality.
Focus on your life in your physical reality. You won’t lose your connection with your husband. What your higher self planned with your husband and what he wants for you now is to move on and live your life. There are other things you planned, even though you don’t know what that is at this time. It’s good to stay connected to your husband, to love him, to remember the love you shared with him, but focus on the here and now. There are other things you wish to do.
AlwaysMrs says, I don’t want to pursue a relationship he doesn’t want anymore. I know how my husband felt before, but obviously things have changed and I need to know how he feels now. The Council says when you’re in spirit you perceive things differently. Where he is you wouldn’t say, I don’t want to pursue this relationship because my husband doesn’t want it anymore. Where he is you’re always connected.
AlwaysMrs says, I still need to know how my husband feels and how we move forward as still married or not. The Council says you appreciate the life you had in your physical reality. You feel the love you had. You connect with your husband on another level by meditating and know you’re connected. The love that’s there is there for you now to help you create the different experiences you want to have in the future.
The Council closes by saying only love is real. When you go into spirit you take this love with you. When you’re in spirit and you come into a physical reality you take this love with you again. That’s what we’re all about.
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Feeling Guilty Over My Mother’s Recent Passing
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Darla, whose mother recently transitioned to spirit with Alzheimer’s Disease. Darla cared for her mother at home up until the last two weeks of her life when she was moved to an assisted living facility. She says the disease left my mother unable to eat or drink, but her memory was intact and she was able to talk to me almost until the very end.
The Council asks Darla if she’s able to appreciate what she’s gone through and that you offered to care for your mother during a time that was so difficult for you?
Darla knows her mother is at peace now, but she suffered tremendously the last few months, often lying on the floor crying in pain. I felt helpless as far as helping my mother get better and it was torture seeing her suffer.
The Council says many people come into this reality to learn about suffering, or to teach someone else about it. Sometimes as they go through this suffering they might tell you that they know you can help them, but you’re not doing it. This is just to bring the lesson of suffering further into your reality so you can feel the guilt, and learn there’s no purpose for it except to help you grow in another direction.
Seeing your mother suffer and knowing it was difficult for you, what did you experience from this? Instead of feeling guilty that maybe you haven’t done enough, focus on what you did do. This is very important for you.
Darla still feels the heavy weight of guilt in her heart as she chose to honor her mother’s wishes to die without any artificial means of sustaining her life. And The Council asks, why would you feel guilty when you’re doing exactly what your mother wanted?
Sometimes that feeling of not doing enough or trying to stop another person’s suffering is because you don’t understand the full experience of what’s going on here with soul growth and soul experiences. So you learn from the suffering.
Before you came into this reality from spirit you both agreed to experience your mother’s difficult passing. You did exactly what was supposed to be done by having your mother go through her life and ending her life the way she wanted. This was to push you forward so you can learn to experience the love you showed her rather than the guilt.
We’re all here to bring love into every situation. The love you showed by being able to stay and be a part of her passing, and help where you were able, and let your mother have her way and make her transition the way she wanted, shows you are a brave soul for going through what you’ve chosen to do.
This is what you wanted to learn. This was your mother’s way of teaching you to realize who you really are. You are both spirits who agreed to go through this difficult passing, and this would give you the opportunity to bring love into this reality. Take your thoughts and change what you focus on and look at all you’ve done.
By learning to let go of the guilt, your mother, who’s in spirit now, will be overjoyed to know that what you had planned had worked. You wanted to bring love into yourself and feel good about yourself. Realize you helped your mother, who wanted to experience this difficult passing and she wanted to see how the people around her would handle this situation. Your mother wanted to teach you to go through this challenge and when it’s over to realize what a great human being you are to go through this so beautifully.
The Council says they feel the last two days of your mother’s life she was more back in spirit than in physical reality. A lot of what you saw your mother going through during this time wasn’t fully experienced by her because she was already with us.
Darla asks if her mother forgives her for not being able to help her. The Council says this is where you’re wrong. There is nothing you need forgiveness for. Your mother loves you so much and she’s so proud you’ve fulfilled what you both wanted. Your mother has a wonderful feeling in spirit that you were both able to pull off her passing the way she wanted it.
Darla asks if her relationship issues with her mother from past lives are resolved. The Council says there’s more to come. This particular challenge is something that both of you wanted to experience to help each other grow in your current lifetime. There will be future lifetimes you’ll share with your mother and work through additional relationship issues.
The Council applauds Darla for what she’s gone through and how she’s handled it and followed what you both planned to the tee.
The Council closes by thanking Cynthia and Bob for having the ability to take their information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and get relief from what another spirit has gone through.
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Should I Hope To Be Contacted By This Guy?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, T. Franks, who asks about love and finding their soulmate. She says, I’m in my mid-20s and dreamed of finding my Prince Charming since I was a little girl. I’ve learned so many lessons in this lifetime and I’ve found unconditional love with members of my family with whom I’d previously not gotten along. I’ve dated a number of men, but we never shared that soul connection and I’ve never been in love. I want to experience the feeling of being in love with someone who is my soulmate.
The Council says when you date someone, whether your expectations are very high or it’s just a few dates, that is a soul connection. It’s two souls that have come together, whether for a short time or a long time. It’s a good idea to look at each of these relationships and find what’s good in each one of them. How did it make you feel? Being grateful for what you like you can create more and more love.
T. Franks says, recently my mother connected with someone who has a son my age who lives near me and he seems perfect on paper. It’s over a week and I’ve still not heard from him. I understand things are crazy with COVID, but I wonder if I should hold out hope or if the son won’t be contacting me and I should just move on.
The Council feels your thoughts about love and other people stepping in to help you make a connection are a little desperate. It’s like you think who’s going to step in and help you find true love. Be at ease with yourself. When you want something, ask for it, look for it, and you practice knowing this thing is coming to you. It will come easier than if you think you want to find your soul connection and have a parent’s friend step in. We understand these people are trying to be helpful, but the vibration is the wrong vibration to bring to you what you want.
The Council says looking at what was pre-planned before coming into this reality, this man also has different needs that he wants to be met. It’s a way where you can come together. We don’t see this relationship lasting a long time, but it’s just to bring in the vibration of having someone to speak with and to join with for a while. We see you pre-planned in spirit to be transitions for each other.
You planned to stimulate within each other what you’d call the vibration of true love or true romance by just being friends. We don’t see this relationship as one you have planned for the long term. It was just for you two to come in and sort of push each other through something by having a connection and wanting more. We don’t see this man as your Prince Charming.
T. Franks says dating is really difficult these days because I don’t participate in the hookup culture and online dating apps. I don’t want to be 40 years old when I finally find my Prince Charming.
To this, The Council asks why not? When you create true love you create it on your own terms. It doesn’t matter if you’re 15, 20, 30, 40, or 70. When you finally find the person you’re able to have a love relationship with, what does it matter how old you are? This is what you need to look at. You need to feel grateful that love is there for you. Sooner or later, as you keep positive thoughts about this love, you will have it. Would you rather not have true love at 40 and not have it at all. Or have it at 40 and go through the rest of your reality with it?
The Council advises T. Franks to appreciate the love she has with her family. Appreciate anything you can build on with this man you’re hoping to meet. Look around yourself to friends and anyone you feel a comfortable and supportive relationship with. As you appreciate that and ask for more, it will come.
There is a long term relationship that you pre-planned in spirit. We don’t want to give it away because your homework is to just appreciate the love you have around you from family, from co-workers, from friends, wherever you feel it. Even if you have a pet that you show love to and feel it back. Appreciate that. Appreciation will bring you what you want.
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How Can I Help My Daughter Feel More Confident?
This post answers question for The Council from a reader named, Mel, who asks the best way to help her daughter feel more confident and boost her self-esteem. Mel wonders if her daughter’s past lives are preventing her from seeing the wonderful, smart, amazing woman she is?
The Council says Mel’s daughter needs to feel accepted. Do you compliment her often? Do you point out all the wonderful things she does? Right now your daughter’s confidence comes from you. When she gets enough of this and she believes it and accepts it, she’ll have more and more confidence in herself and won’t need the acceptance from outside herself. She wanted to learn appreciation for herself in her current life.
In your daughter’s last lifetime she worked as a servant and did what needed to be done. There wasn’t any excitement for her in that life and she didn’t have any goals. In her current life your daughter wanted the experience of feeling confident, and when she feels this way she’d allow herself to experience desires of different things she wants. We ask you to allow your daughter to be who she is, but also to fan the flame of her feeling good about herself.
Mel says maybe the interactions my daughter and I had in our past lives have prevented her in some way from healing her lack of confidence in her current life. The Council reminds Mel that the confidence your daughter is working on in her current reality comes from her last lifetime where there wasn’t any confidence, no dream, and no hope.
Mel asks if her daughter’s being overweight is a result of past lifetimes. The Council says the desire to lose weight isn’t a problem from past lives. This is something your daughter created to accept, and once it’s accepted and your daughter feels good about herself, the extra weight will disappear when the time is right and when your daughter learns what she wanted to experience.
The Council says if there’s a problem with being overweight, is it in your eyes or your daughter’s? Does something come up if you talk about this? Is this more negative than positive? If it is The Council advises talking more positively about weight loss. The fact it’s part of who your daughter is now doesn’t mean she’ll always be this way. Being overweight is one more thing your daughter created to keep in front of her while she was trying to build up her confidence.
The Council reminds Mel that everything she and her daughter talk about should be positive on all subjects. When your daughter learns to be more positive and look at things more positively, her life will change for the better.
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Is it Right to No Longer Yearn for a Partner and Babies?
This post answers questions for The Council from a woman who goes by the name, Merry Muse, who says she’s a 35 year old female who feels all her friends, family, and peers are committing to relationships and having children. For the longest time I yearned for the same thing. Now I find myself feeling so joyful being single and what I’m getting to do for our community, I no longer yearn for a partner or babies.
The Council says they love Merry Muse’s choice of the word “joyful”. When you believe there’s one road you’ve chosen and then your higher self brings you to experience something else and you find joy there, it becomes up to you to choose the joy and appreciate it and want more of it, or to commit to what everyone else is doing.
Merry asks The Council if this alternative path is right for her? The Council says when you think of a married life with children, how does that make you feel? When you think of what you’re doing with your community now, how does that make you feel? The right path for you will be how you feel. When the questions you’re asking are followed by a feeling, you’ll know what direction is right for you.
People around you are committing to having children and you thought you wanted that also. Now because of your journey it’s your choice whether to go on the new path where you feel joy, or do you just commit to a life where everyone else is having children and this is probably what’s expected? The Council suggests Merry Muse reach for the joy.
The Council says just because Merry Muse may choose to remain single and work in the community doesn’t mean she can’t change her path again at a latter date and go back to wanting a marriage and a family. Just enjoy where you are right now. And if what you’re doing right now brings you joy, you’re moving in the right direction and doing what will bring you growth.
Merry Muse says this alternative path feels right to her, but from society’s viewpoint I’m not fulfilling my reproductive role. The Council asks if Merry Muse is married to society? And is society bringing her joy with what they expect from her? What do you feel, and follow this path.
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How Can I Re-Fix My Teeth and Jaw Problems?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, LongJourney, who says growing up I had terrible teeth. I was teased about them and would cover my mouth every time I smiled. When I was 20 years old I got braces and when the braces came off I was told by many people I had an awesome smile. I finally felt more confident and had something about myself to love.
I’m now 37 years old and my teeth have misaligned, my jaw is clenching, I look different, I can’t chew or close my mouth properly, and I’m scared my teeth are chipping away. I feel the one thing I loved about myself is being taken away from me.
The Council asks who is taking your beautiful smile away from you? When your jaw tightens it’s because you have a certain idea about how life should be. You’re not flexible in your thinking. Why do things need to be a certain way?
The reversal of your once beautiful smile is something you wished to experience when you were in spirit before you came into this lifetime. You wanted to find a way to love and enjoy yourself, which you did at the time your braces came off. Now that your teeth have shifted your spirit says, can I still love myself. I did for a long time. Why would my teeth shifting make me lose that love for myself?
You can fix this problem by beginning to think of all the times your braces made you look beautiful. Go into the memory of what this felt like. Instead of being in fear and anger that your teeth have shifted and something has taken away your beautiful smile, you – in spirit – are taking your beautiful smile away so you can learn for yourself the love that’s within you.
Appreciate the time you had feeling good with the smile you loved. Remember this thing and think about it, not demanding it has to be that way again, but in a gentler way where you’d like to create that again. The Council says if you feel thankful you were able to have braces, and thankful for being shown the love within you, and if you can stay in that wonderful vibration the right team of people will come into your life to fix your jaw and teeth and you’ll have that feeling of love again. But you have to create this at a vibrational level first.
You wanted to come into this lifetime to learn that love and beauty is within you. Understand it’s not the way you physically look, but in appreciating yourself. The way you planned your life, your higher self allowed you to get that feeling of love so when you came to the part of your experience where your teeth misaligned again, you had those loving memories you could remember and go back to.
LongJourney asks if her mouth problem is related to past lives. The Council says in Egypt as a young child you had rotten teeth yet you were very happy and your teeth never seemed to make you feel bad about yourself. In your current lifetime you wanted to see how you’d handle the same problem. Would you be as happy and free with almost the same physical problem as you were in the lifetime in Egypt?
LongJourney asks if these problems are caused by past life or spiritual issues, how can I manifest them to a lesser degree? The Council reminds LongJourney to go back to the time when the braces fixed her teeth and remember what this felt like. Now you must find the answer of how to love and feel good about yourself again, and you must find this answer before you can make the changes you desire.
Know you are the creator. You created a beautiful mouth once. You can create it again. And The Council reminds LongJourney they can never do this from the vibration of being angry because her teeth have shifted. Rigid thinking will never get you to the place where you realize there’s someone out there who’s able to give you the results you desire. Practice meditation. Go into the memories over and over and feel how happy you were when people complimented you on your smile. Things will change.
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Was I Right to Divorce My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Laurie, who asks if she was right to divorce her husband. Laurie read another post on our blog where The Council says you can create a long and happy married life if that’s what you wish to create. Laurie says this is what she wanted, but lost trust in her husband because of his financial manipulations. The Council asks Laurie how she can wish for a happy life when she states that she doesn’t trust her husband? When you are in the vibration of mistrust, you could never create a happy marriage.
In your marriage were you able to appreciate how your husband was towards you? Were there things you loved about this marriage and thought about over and over? Or did it get to a point where you didn’t trust your husband, didn’t like his behavior, and felt he had the power to make you feel good or bad about yourself?
When you go down a negative road and you have thoughts like: he drove me crazy, he lied, maybe he cheated on you, and maybe he hid financial aspects of your lives – if you felt these things throughout the marriage and there’s no room to appreciate any part of your married life, you can never have a happy marriage.
If you were miserable in this marriage and felt there was dishonesty, how would you change the marriage to be the way you wanted it to be? If you were able to look at your husband and say: A, B, C was done, I see where he was coming from, I can see why he did these things, and I realize he has his lessons – can we talk about that? Can we try to understand and change these behaviors? If there was a possibility you could do this and let go of what was already done, there could have been a change in your marriage. But if you feel the hurt was so horrible and that’s all you felt, you wouldn’t be able to change your relationship.
Laurie writes that she lost trust in her husband because of his financial manipulation, his telling their university-aged children she was crazy, sharing details of their intimate relations with other people, as well as other unspecified reasons. Her husband didn’t want to go to counseling and accused her of overreacting. She told him she deserved to be treated better and ended the marriage. The Council asks Laurie if you believe you deserve a better marriage and there was so much dishonesty, why do you still question if you did the right thing by divorcing your husband?
Laurie asks The Council if they feel under the circumstances she’s described if her marriage could have been saved? The Council says if Laurie was open to a different way of perceiving this marriage, if you knew what you wanted and what boundaries could change, if you’re able to come from a place of forgiveness and love, you’d bring the vibration of change into your surroundings. This would be felt by your husband as a spiritual being and then the spirits within both of you would know whether you’re able to change the marriage based on what you both planned to experience when you were in spirit before coming into this lifetime. But The Council adds they feel where Laurie was when she was still in the marriage and where she is now, it wouldn’t have been possible change her marriage into a happy one.
The Council says now it’s wise to go back and see what Laurie has learned in this marriage. Take your focus off being hurt and off the memories of everything that happened in the marriage that was unpleasant and begin to think about what you’d like to experience in a new relationship. What would you like to experience moving forward? What would you like your lessons to be now? What would you like your communication to be like in a new relationship? By letting go of the hurt and concentrating on what you’d like moving forward, this will change your vibration so that the kind of new person you bring in will match that vibration.
Be kind to other people, help other people, send love to other people, and that’s the kind of person you’ll bring into your life. The universe will not judge you. It will send into your life people that speak like you, that think like you, that have traits like you, and together you’ll learn how to grow.
Everyone has lessons with each other. Will you be open to helping the kind of person that comes into your life and helping them grow and experience what they need? Would you be vulnerable to ask for what you need without thinking about being hurt and whatever you experienced in the past?
Watch your words. Watch your thoughts. Watch your actions. And however you can, get yourself into the vibration of love. You can do this by memories, by thinking about the way you’d like your future to be, by appreciating what you have around you now. Anything that will get you into a positive vibration will help you move forward.
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Why Haven’t My Breast Developed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Depressed05, who says they think due to malnutrition her body didn’t develop breasts during puberty. She’s tried a lot of things to make her breasts grow, but nothing seems to work and it’s taking a toll on her self-esteem and confidence.
The Council says all the things Depressed has tried to make her breasts grow have been things outside herself. They say the answer is within you. You’ll never create the breasts you desire until you feel grateful for things you already have.
The Council says Depressed created this situation with her breasts when she was in spirit before she came into this lifetime and it was to learn acceptance. They ask her to think about what she’s able to appreciate about her body in her current life. What parts of your body are you able to love? And they ask Depressed to imagine or pretend you look the way you wish your body would look.
Every part of your body, down to your very cells, is listening to what you’re thinking and the universe will give you what you focus your attention on. If your focus is negative the universe will offer you what you consider negative experiences, and if your focus is positive the universe will offer you positive experiences. If you’re miserable and can’t accept your body, and you think about these things over and over, the universe will say, “Oh, this is making her miserable and she doesn’t like the way this looks. Let’s give her some more.”
The first step is to think of what you’d like, and to do this you need to be in a higher vibration. Think about what you like about your body. And if this is too difficult you can concentrate on anything you like or appreciate because when you appreciate something, the universe will send you more things to appreciate.
Once you get into the vibration of appreciating, from there you can create the changes you want in your life. Appreciate what you have, and that you’re the creator, and that you can change your life. Things will come together to make you appreciate the way you look and your perception, once it changes, will bring you what you’re looking for. Physically you’re able to create the change in your life that you’re looking for, but not from the vibration you’re in right now. What things are going on in your life that make you feel good? Think about this and stay in that vibration.
Your situation with your breasts not developing happened because you asked for this to happen when you were in spirit. You wanted to learn to accept the things around you, accept other people, but mainly to accept yourself and to find anything that reminds you that you’re a spirit living in a physical body. You are pure energy and energy can change form. Get in the right vibration and you can begin to see this change happen.
It will help you to put on clothes, stand in front of a full length mirror, and take a good look at yourself. See what clothing you wear that makes you feel better. What colors help you feel better? What gives you comfort when you put it on and you like the way you look? Find anything you enjoy. Eat whatever foods you wish to eat and know it’s filling your body with good feelings and vibrations. You’re taking care of your whole body. Once you begin loving yourself, and doing things to take care of yourself and appreciate yourself, how you feel about yourself will change.
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Why Did I Create My Skin Sensitivity to the Sun?
This post answers questions for The Council from an Anonymous reader who asks why they created a life where their skin is so sensitive to the sun? It seems like their skin is getting worse rather than better and I truly dread the summer. They want to enjoy this physical reality and pass on a love of nature to their children. And the reader asks if they can do anything about this skin sensitivity?
The Council says Anonymous’s skin sensitivity to the sun definitely comes from some past lives. The cells in your skin in your current lifetime brought in a life The Council believes took place in India. You were a beautiful woman in that lifetime. But the beautiful women who were made up perfectly, dressed perfectly, and had perfumed hair were never allowed outside. There were only small gardens they could go into, but they were never allowed to go out in the general population.
Because you were very curious in this lifetime you’d sneak out at night to be among other people. You wanted to be recognized for your beauty, but to go out among the people you had to be covered from head to foot. You couldn’t let anyone see you until you were in this particular place where people gathered. And so there was a belief that being out without covering your body was dangerous.
Unfortunately your sneaking out at night was found out and you were thrown into a cell and forgotten, even though you were one of the most beautiful women. After a long time you just rotted away. If you were able to get some sunlight when food was brought to you, the light hurt your eyes because you became sensitive to it in the dark.
In another lifetime in the middle 1800s you were an orphaned boy who helped different shopkeepers by running errands. In this life you always felt unseen. No one appreciated you. There was never a thank you. At night you ate whatever food you were able to get. In this lifetime, when you spoke to other orphans that also had to steal to keep themselves alive, the one thing you always said was that you wanted to be seen and appreciated. You were going to create this in your life, even if you had to wait for another lifetime, which people believed in at this time.
In your current lifetime your skin reveals the individual you are. The skin represents you as a person. In your current life your skin is still in hiding from the fear of being discovered from your life in India. In your current life you badly want to be seen just like the young orphan boy wanted to be seen. You are dealing with the part of you that wishes to enjoy life in the sun, and the part of you that fears having to sneak out completely covered from the life in India and when you were discovered, thrown in a cell, and forgotten. The memory of these past lives is here with you in your current life.
It would be good for you to read books on past lives and understand that as you realize where your skin sensitivity comes from it will begin to heal. When you really understand your skin sensitivity, when you can visualize what it must have been like, feel what it must have felt like, and when you can feel the fear of being outside without being covered, you’ll realize you brought all of this into your current life to heal it. You’ll realize as you heal this sensitivity that you’re free from it. Then begin to speak to your body: “You’re safe. You can be among people. You can be outside.” And the sensitivity will begin to ease.
If Anonymous is able to do the inner work The Council describes, their skin sensitivity can decrease. When you feel safe in your current life your sensitivity will begin to change. Go out in the sun, but make sure you’re protected. Then little by little you can remove protective clothing as you feel a lessening of your sensitivity. It will happen slowly if you do the work.
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Did I Marry the Right Man?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Curious, who asks if she married the right man and if they pre-planned their marriage. She’s asking because when they got married they went through some difficult times even though things seem to be working out fine now. She sometimes thinks that something will pop in out of nowhere and they’ll be going through those bad times again.
The Council says of course Curious married the right man and they pre-planned this in spirit. The Council asks if Curious is able to appreciate that things are working out now and focus on these happier times rather than worrying about what happened earlier? Nothing will pop in out of nowhere and create bad times. What creates bad times is your thoughts.
The lesson is being in the present and know that if something comes into your life, you now know you can both work through it. And this is a clue where you want to go in this lifetime. Everything isn’t always happy. Life happens, but you’ll be able to work through whatever happens.
The Council suggests Curious avoid thinking something bad can happen again. Concentrate on the fact that she and her husband have changed the bad times they experienced. You’re in happy times now, and no matter what comes along, you’ll be able to work through it again.
The Council sees this should be a good marriage for everyone involved – a marriage with some easy lessons. As you learn to appreciate each other and stay in the vibration of joy and love, you’ll move through whatever problem you need to create and work through it. You both created this life, you both planned for this life, but you planned for it to be easy.
Curious asks if The Council sees her and her husband having a long happy married life and are they meant to have any more children. The Council says you can create a long and happily married life if that’s what you wish to create. And they do see another child for Curious and her husband.
The Council congratulates Curious and reminds her to be in the present and appreciate what she and her husband have already worked through. They are two spirits that have come together to learn together and enjoy together. Stop thinking something will pop in unless you wish some happiness to pop in.
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Healing Panic Attacks
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wendy, who says she has a long history of anxiety and panic attacks that she’s already managed to grow and heal a great deal from. She says there’s a lot of fear behind her anxiety and when it turns into a panic attack the situation gets ugly quickly. She says she’s unable to function, she shakes, becomes nauseous, paces for hours, and becomes terrified she’s going to die. Family and maternal responsibilities are a huge trigger for these attacks, which saddens Wendy because there’s nothing more important to her than being joyfully present with her children.
The Council says the anxiety and panic is a familiar feeling for Wendy from her past lives. They see three past lives where Wendy has lost children. The panic that she’s going to die she experienced in Egypt where her children were taken away when she was a slave. The most recent life was in World War II where Wendy was separated from her three children in a concentration camp and died never knowing what happened to her children. She didn’t know how to stay calm in that environment and so the anxiety and panic she experiences in her current lifetime comes from this life during WW2. There was also a lifetime where there was a loss of children in a fire.
The Council says Wendy’s lesson in her current life is to get in touch with who she is as a spiritual being in a physical body. Many of these unconscious memories come back into this lifetime because they want to be healed. For Wendy, her current lifetime incorporates these unhealed feelings from these past lives.
Wendy’s children have come into her current life so she could learn to love them and to know she doesn’t need to be with them all the time. Her job was to bring her children in and give them the opportunity to live a life the way they need to create it. These children have agreed to be in this lifetime for Wendy to watch them grow, appreciate them, get in touch with her feelings, and ask why she’s afraid of not having enough time with them. The Council says she’ll have all the time in the world to be with her children in her current life.
The Council suggests Wendy think that she hasn’t created a path in her current life that involves loss. This panic, depression, and anxiety is a great teacher and Wendy has created this in her life to bring these unhealed memories forward so she can heal them. Your children are safe and you are safe. There isn’t a need in this lifetime for pacing and being nervous. These past life feelings are here to teach you to look at yourself and think how wonderful it is that you have these children that you can be with and you can also have time away from them. You aren’t here to stay in panic, die early, and be without your children. Your children won’t be taken from you in your current lifetime.
The Council suggests daily meditation on the fact that you and your children are spiritual beings in physical bodies. Imagine sitting with the souls of your children before you came into your current life and thinking how you can help each other grow and what will you teach each other? Your children are here to show you happiness, to show you the light within them, and to show you that you also have that light within you.
The fear Wendy experiences from her past lives is what keeps her from enjoying her children in her current life. Appreciate your children. Look at the joy they bring into this life and choose to concentrate on that. When you can change your thoughts, one thought at a time, the panic will lessen. The thought of losing your children will slowly disappear. It’s your choice how you look at your situation. This lifetime you can choose to heal the past lives with the loss of children, with the loss of companions, with the loss of family. How brave you are to bring all of these feelings in and decide to heal them and feel better in this life.
The Council suggests in addition to meditating or sitting and watching your children and thinking how wonderful they are, perhaps getting some massage to help your body relax. As you relax the areas in your chest and solar plexus this will bring more peace and you’ll be able to change the way you feel physically and mentally.
Your children are with you to help you heal. That was their spiritual agreement so you could experience a wonderful life with them. And they’re here to learn their lessons of seeing you the way you are and seeing the change you can bring about. As you change, your children will learn they have the power to change things in their lives. It’s a beautiful circle of healing.
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Is Our Material Life Preordained By Our Pre-Birth Spiritual Choices?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Juan, who says that according to his understanding of the information presented on this website, our existence in this material life is preordained by our choices before we are born into this lifetime.
The Council says some of the lessons you wish to experience are pre-planned while you’re still in spirit before you incarnate into your current lifetime, but not all your lessons in this lifetime are pre-planned this way. You leave your current life open so you can experience it and pick any road you wish to travel.
When you go back into spirit after you finish this lifetime you observe how you handled each situation and whether you liked the way you handled them. Do you need to go through that same lesson again in a new lifetime, or was your experience in this lifetime good enough? What did you learn? You have freedom in your current life that comes with many surprises, and you also have pre-planned lessons.
Juan asks if pre-planning your life in spirit is what’s meant by the phrase, “You create your own reality?” The Council says we create with every thought we have. It is not all created before you incarnate into your current life. You may pre-plan the parents you want in your upcoming life. You may create the wife, husband, or relationship you want to have. But what happens in these relationships depends on the spirits you’re interacting with.
Your life has the freedom to go in any direction, and that’s what’s fun about creating your reality. This is the reason The Council advises us to come from love. If you look at all your experiences from the point of view of love, your life will go in the direction of love.
Juan asks, “Once we’re in this material existence and we believe in the spiritual life, is there a way to remodel an existence of hanging on by our fingernails very close to poverty?”
The Council answers that there is a way for you to change the circumstances in your current life. Look at your life and ask the question, “Why is my life the way it is? What is my life meant to teach me?” And then begin to believe you can live your life an easier way and you don’t need to continue experiencing your life the way you’ve been experiencing it.
In your mind imagine how you’d like your life to be and how you’d like it to change. Go into great detail and think of it as often as you can. Then practice feeling as if these changes are already happening. That’s the way you change something you have pre-planned in spirit that you no longer feel you need in your life.
The reason you keep experiencing something you don’t want in your life is your higher self is trying to show you that you don’t understand the lesson this experience is trying to teach you. Keep asking why you’re creating this aspect of your life that you no longer want? What is it I could be trying to learn from having this experience? Am I helping the people around me learn from having this experience?
Juan says he’s heard that in order to change your reality you have to raise your vibration and he asks what it means to raise your vibration?
The Council says thinking good thoughts will raise your vibration. Thinking how to make your life and the life of the people around you better will raise your vibration. These good thoughts will put you in the vibration of love, and that raises your vibration.
Juan asks what’s the effect of having a positive attitude on raising your vibration and improving your life? The Council says when you have a positive thought about everything, it not only lightens how you feel, it lightens your thoughts and every experience you have going forward. The reason for this is that a positive thought can only attract positive experiences into your life.
When you’re in the vibration of love, being grateful, and being positive, you can’t attract to yourself a horrible experience. Think loving thoughts. Send love to yourself and the people around you. Be helpful. Find things to appreciate, even if it’s a flower. This appreciation will raise your vibration. It’s the law of attraction: what you feel and what you think will attract into your life what you experience.
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Recommendations for Improving a Difficult Life After Divorce
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Laurie, who left a 25 year marriage a couple of years ago to a man she believes is a narcissistic sociopath. She investigated her ex-husband’s finances in preparation for the divorce, but the mediator wouldn’t hear details. She broke down and settled on the divorce terms and later realized it was at a large financial cost to her. The Council asks Laurie, when she realized the divorce wasn’t fair to her, was she able to let go of this because she’d made the decision? Or did you feel anger and loss, and that you were taken advantage of, and now feel the divorce was wrong?
The Council points out that the decision you made was to accept the divorce settlement, and it’s very difficult for some people to see where their decisions bring about what’s happening. Do you want to put yourself in a place of fear and anger and fight the settlement you accepted. Or has this taught you a valuable lesson and now you wish to move forward in peace and begin to create the life you wish to have?
Laurie says she feels lost, financially scared, and despite all the horrible things her ex-husband has done to her, she misses him because she’s afraid of living alone, unloved, and unable to do things that may have been possible in the marriage. The Council says because of finances and the fear of being on your own are you willing to put yourself back in a situation that was unbearable? The Council asks Laurie to question herself about this decision. Why would you put yourself in a situation where you’d have to go through the difficulty again, and it would be the same. What’s the reason for going back to this man? Is it worth hanging onto this relationship that will prevent you from moving forward and creating a new life because you’re in the middle of this traumatizing experience?
You and your ex-husband have both agreed in spirit to create your marriage. What have you learned? If one person is beating up the other person, why would you consider going back to that? Isn’t there an easier way to learn? Or have you forgotten you came into this lifetime to bring love into your life? That’s the bottom line why you’re here.
The Council says Laurie isn’t alone. There’s always spirits around you that are willing to help you if you give them a chance. If you have the littlest bit of faith, signs will come to you through dreams, through readings, and through talking with people. Opportunities will open up for you when you simply say I want to experience love. I want to experience a life where I’m happy and feel safe. Put this out there on a daily basis. Visualize the kind of life you’d like to have and create this with your thoughts. You’ll begin to build what you desire so that it shows up in your reality.
Laurie says she’s 57 years old and believes stress is taking a toll on her previously healthy body. She’s confused why she’s suffered from her divorce rather than having gotten to a better place. The Council says the marriage was an experience she wished to have and then move forward. Do you sit and think over and over all the uncomfortable things you went through? Or do you say to yourself it’s a new beginning. I’ll begin to create from a place of love.
Many people who go through a divorce are very sad and they get stuck in that sadness and don’t move forward. The Council says they can see that happening in Laurie’s case. They say not only are you not moving forward, but you’re thinking about going backward.
Find joy in things you like to do. Appreciate you’re not in an uncomfortable relationship with a partner like your ex-husband. When your thoughts change the situation must change and your body must change. You’re a spirit in a human body and you’ve created your life every step of the way. Can you wish your ex-husband happiness in the lessons he needs to learn? What were the signs your relationship was detrimental to you? What do you see that you’d handle differently? How would you bring more joy into a relationship?
You’re at a place where you can begin to move forward and change everything. There’s no need to go back. There are many new friends available to you. There are some old friends from other lifetimes that will come into your life. No matter what you’ve gone through, no matter how horrible you think it may have been, you agreed in spirit to experience it and you’ve come through it. Now ask yourself where can you go from here? What do you want?
Laurie says she’s been given the lesson that life isn’t fair, but still wants to believe light triumphs over dark. The Council says of course life is fair. It’s exactly what you wanted to experience. It may not look like wonderful experiences, but it’s what you called in to your life.
The Council recommends Laurie read books about changing her life, like Emmanuel’s Book, by Pat Rodegast and books from Abraham, by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Fill your mind with the words of spirit. And try the exercises that are explained in the Abraham books.
Laurie says she still thinks about going back to her ex-husband despite all the horrible things he’s done to her. She’s empathetic to the hurt little boy inside him rather than focusing on the horrible things he’s done. The Council says it’s wonderful you can feel for the little boy inside him. The Council says that’s a plus, not a minus. Perhaps you can send that little boy some love with your thoughts. Perhaps you can send beautiful pink energy to the adult to help him move forward with their lessons.
By not blaming your ex-husband and understanding he also had lessons he wanted to learn from your marriage, and that you both agreed in spirit to everything that happened in your relationship, the love within you expands and you will grow. Whether you wish yourself love or you wish other people love, just thinking about love changes your vibration.
The Council advises Laurie to do simple steps first. Be grateful. Send love. Be interested in what other people say when they come along to help you. Give other people compliments and be kind. You’ll see yourself beginning to feel better.
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How to Change Your Life From Sadness to Happiness
This post answers questions from a reader named, Georgie, who says her life has been difficult and sad for as long as she can remember. In recent years she’s become sick with various immune diseases.
The Council says when you have a lot of trauma in your life, if you don’t deal with it, keep the grief inside yourself, and you focus on the grief and the sadness, it will eventually start to affect your body.
Georgie says because of ill-health she lost her business, her side job, her house, and her cat, and she’s dependent on her partner of 7 months. The Council says Georgie has called for these experiences to learn from them. And if you haven’t learned from them, you’ll have to experience it again in this lifetime or future lifetimes.
You’re spirit is ready to experience a different kind of life, and yet you’re still focusing on these sad experiences which attract to you more of the same. Remember the good times. Change the focus of your attention and appreciate what you have. Feel gratitude for times when things were good. When you do this because you’re ready to start again, your lessons will be different from what they were in the past.
Georgie says her partner is unable to handle all her health problems. She feels abandoned again and wants to break this cycle, but she feels helpless and depressed. The Council says believing these thoughts and not doing the inner work to change her life, she’ll keep creating the same depressing experiences.
Georgie says her partner is her fiance, but now he only wants to be friends until he’s in a better place. The Council advises Georgie to consider that her partner also has issues that he’s working on and he’ll do what he must to work on them. And at the same time, you should be working on your issues so that a change can take place.
Georgie says she’s still able to live with her partner, but she wants to be with him romantically rather than friends for now. The Council say while being just friends isn’t what you want right now, aren’t you a bit grateful that you’re not being thrown out with nowhere to go. Things can change in a friendship and The Council suggest Georgie focus on how wonderful it is that her partner is allowing her to stay where she is.
Georgie asks if she and her partner are destined to be together? The Council says you and your partner make this destiny. In spirit it was decided you would like to be together. Now can you both do the work necessary to create a life where you can be happily together? You can be together, but there must be changes in your lives to see it the way you desire it to be.
Georgie asks if good health will ever return to her. The Council says all her health problems will change when Georgie begins to feel happiness from memories or from something that happens, even if it’s just one thought each day of something she’s able to appreciate. Her vibration will begin to improve and she’ll begin to attract more appreciative thoughts. Your body will improve as your vibration improves and you start to feel appreciation. It’s your decision. No one else can create for you.
When you’re depressed and as you listen to the recording you may feel it’s too difficult to change the pattern of your thoughts to happier ones. You may not feel good about staying in the house with your partner, but only as a friend. This will leave you in a stagnant, going nowhere energy. You need discipline, and The Council sees it is possible for you to do this. The littlest positive changes will begin to happen and as you acknowledge them, there will be more positive changes.
Georgie asks The Council if she’ll ever feel strong, love herself, and feel loved by someone else? The Council says when Georgie returns to the spirit world after this lifetime she’ll feel all this love. There is nothing but love in spirit. But Georgie’s job is to bring the love from spirit into the life she’s creating now. By forcing yourself to hold onto a more positive thought for 3 seconds, if that’s all you can do at first, you will begin to change your negative beliefs. This is your job. This is why you came into this lifetime. You came to experience the traumas you’ve gone through, live through them, see what you allowed these traumas to do to you, and now you have the chance to change your life and make it the way you want it to be.
Georgie asks The Council if she’ll be financially stable and have work that she loves, or even work that she likes? The Council says, as you slowly begin to feel better, you’ll hear about ways to do new things that you enjoy to bring financial stability into your life. It’s all there for you, but it begins with your thoughts and the inner work. Don’t worry about the future. Be in your present moment and insist that you think good thoughts.
The Council hopes their guidance helps Georgie move along her path. By this time next year there should be many positive changes. If you go in the direction your spirit planned, moving forward with the thoughts about how you can bring love into your life, your life has to change.
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Moving On From a Mistaken Soul Contract
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who’s read our post, A Broken Sacred Contract and How to Move On, and says she’s currently struggling with the same issue of a broken soul contract. Her partner ended their relationship recently and Eden feels this amounts to breaking a soul contract the two of them had together.
The Council begins by reminding all of us that spirit always has the ability to change, at any point, the lessons it wants to learn, implying that Eden’s partner has the ability to change a soul contract if this is his desire. But The Council goes on to say that what Eden and her partner planned in spirit for this lifetime didn’t come about in the way they planned and therefore the lessons they planned on learning couldn’t be accomplished while the two of them remained together in a romantic relationship.
The Council sees that Eden and her partner had been together in several lives before this life, and what they planned in spirit for this lifetime was for one of them to be the mother and the other one of them would be her child. As an alternative, one of them could be an orphan and the other spirit could be the teacher of this child. The lessons the two of you planned on learning were planned to come from the mother-daughter or the orphan-teacher relationship, not from a romantic relationship.
In your relationship with this partner he subconsciously felt there was something wrong, and his spirit knew this wasn’t the direction it wished to go in. Even though Eden doesn’t consciously believe she had a change of heart about being in this relationship, you both agreed, in spirit, to end the relationship so you’d be able to move on and experience the lessons you, in spirit, wanted to learn.
Now you’ll go off and have different experiences. The Council says you always have a backup plan. Some of what you wished in spirit to learn, will be learned along the way from other people. The Council says the mother-child or teacher-orphan relationship that was originally planned in spirit didn’t come about. And they say this only shows that at any point in your life you’re able to change what’s going on if the lessons you originally planned don’t materialize. And The Council assumes in a different lifetime the two of them will return to learn what they previously planned to learn in this lifetime from the mother-daughter or teacher-orphan relationship.
The Council closes by advising Eden to appreciate the relationship she had with her partner and wish each other the best. And moving forward knowing that Eden has lessons she desires,ask for these lessons to come forward into her life in her meditations and prayers, and life will answer Eden’s prayers. Eden will see that although her life is changing in a different direction from what she originally thought, there will be very interesting experiences that will come along.
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Problem Being Estranged From Her Family
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kali, who’s concerned about being estranged from most of her family. She says the estrangement feels terrible, but she hasn’t found a way to reconcile with her family. Kali asks if there’s a soul contract reason for this estrangement and how she can move forward. And she asks for advice on how she can reconcile with her family, or how she can be peaceful with the estrangement.
The Council says each person in this family is on their own path and wants to learn different lessons. You’re all here to learn about love and forgiveness.
This family does have a soul contract: it’s to come together and allow each other to create the atmosphere they need to learn.
You wanted to figure out who you are as a spiritual being, and see each person in your family from a spiritual perspective. Each person has a hardship and one or more lessons they have to go through. As you begin to see your family from this more spiritual perspective, what goes on in the family begins to change.
What has this estrangement from your family done for you? How do you see yourself in this situation? Do you feel less than because your family isn’t close? Do you blame yourself for certain things? Are you dealing with anger? If you’re going through any of these feelings, why are you taking on these negative thoughts? Change the perception of who you are by focusing on yourself and what you’re learning from each person in your family.
You’re family has chosen to come together, not so much to learn about everyone else, but to learn a little bit about everyone else. Now take the focus and put it on yourself. Your family situation was created for each family member to go deep inside themselves and see what you think about yourself according to how you’re being treated by the family. Are you feeling abandoned? How do you feel about all the fighting and verbal abuse? Do these feelings make you feel less than the spirit you are? You’re still part of all spirits that are here trying to create and learn.
As you figure out who you truly are as a spiritual being by watching the other members of your family and understanding, even if just a little bit, that it’s difficult for everyone and your identity doesn’t hinge on how your family treats you. You’re a brave spirit who came to this reality at this time to learn about yourself.
The agreement between the souls in your family was to learn about the family dynamic, learn about forgiveness, learn about love, and learn about abandonment and hurtful feelings. In the middle of this learning, begin to remember you’re all spirits wanting to learn about these feelings, and then put the focus on yourself, especially when you feel the estrangement can’t be fixed.
What is your part in this family? It’s just a small part of who you are as a spiritual being. Can you look at the people in your family with kindness by allowing them to be who they are? Each person in your family has chosen to be there to learn about themselves. Some will learn and some won’t.
Appreciate who you truly are as a spiritual being, not only in your family, but with friends and coworkers. Are you taking the love we’re here to bring into this reality and use it wherever you can, whether it’s accepted or not?
In your family the dynamic that was set up is like a keg of dynamite, but this is a good thing. The family didn’t come in and say they’d all get mad at each other. They came in and said, some how we’ll find a way to learn about ourselves. We’ll do whatever is necessary for as long as necessary to look at each other, and maybe after a while feel some sadness that there’s no connection. And then they’ll question the sadness and begin to wonder how that can begin to change. And when the desire to change is there and the true looking at one’s self begins to happen, changes must come.
The courageous souls that these family members are, came together to learn about themselves. What they’ve created is a situation where there’s understanding that everyone in the family will eventually accept what’s going on, accept their own behavior, and then move on from that behavior. As they move on, the family may not change, but you’re all wonderful spirits who have chosen to help each other grow by learning about yourselves.
It wasn’t your agreement that members of the family will do one thing or another and then all make up and come together. What was arranged was that family members will learn about themselves by being in this family. They will try very hard to bring love into this family dynamic and grow from this. No matter how this family situation turns out, everything with the family does not have to be resolved. Because the family members allow each other to go on one’s own path, this creates a great spiritual leap.
It can be difficult to accept a lack of resolution for the family situation. But when you come into this reality and say: let me learn about myself no matter what goes on around me; let me have the understanding and calmness to allow everyone to deal with what they need to deal with in their own way; and as I learn about myself and begin to change, and my energy begins to become lighter, it will reach each family member to help them on their path. This is what you’ve agreed upon.
In spirit, when you learn about yourself and you search for ways to handle situations with love, without blame, and accepting the behavior of others, the vibration will change and you must grow. It was with this thought that this family has come together.
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Asking for Guidance to Remove Marks on Their Face
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, LookingForAdvice, who’d like to know about the marks on their face that have been increasing lately. LookingForAdvice has been to a doctor who says there’s no medicine to reduce these marks, and they ask The Council if there’s any product that might help them with this and make sure they don’t come back as often. LookingForAdvice says they’re a big believer that all body-related issues are trying to tell us something, but in this particular case they don’t understand the issue.
The Council says this particular problem is an emotional one for LookingForAdvice and it will take a lot of inner work on their part to reduce these facial marks. Your body is trying to get you to look at yourself. You’ve created these marks because on some level you’ve learned not to like yourself.
Meditate and begin to appreciate yourself and what you’ve accomplished. When you can do this, your face will become free of these marks. Identify with who you truly are as a spiritual being and discover what is going on in your life. Are there people around you that hold you back? Are there people that irritate or upset you and you’re not dealing with this? This can create symptoms that show as marks on your face. You may think you love yourself, but go deeper.
In the meantime, learn about the fifth, sixth, and seventh chakras. These chakras control the energy to your face. If you learn how to work the energy in these chakras you’ll see improvement.
And you can help yourself with the Edgar Cayce pack, which is flannel or pure cotton and castor oil. Soak the flannel or cotton in the castor oil and place it on the marks on your face. Castor oil is known to heal the cells of the body on a deep spiritual level and remind the cells they are part of God, spirit, and love. While you work on your emotions and begin to love yourself more, you can also work with castor oil and with the fifth through seventh chakras.
Always begin by looking in the present for ways to love yourself more, but also look back at your life. Was there a sibling who was appreciated more than you? Do you feel like you haven’t done enough with your life? Do you feel you aren’t pretty or handsome enough or you aren’t intelligent enough? These marks are on your face and your face is how you show yourself to the world. Look at your emotions around this to learn how to heal these marks.
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Should I Stay In My Marriage or Leave with My Child?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name SoulPeace, who says she needs to choose between staying in a marriage that isn’t working out well and trying to make it better, or walk out of the marriage with their child.
The Council asks SoulPeace what part they’re playing in this marriage? Is she adding to the difficulties that are coming up? When you step back and look at this relationship the major question is, why isn’t the marriage working? What do you need from this marriage and what are you bringing to it? Do you feel the love you felt in the beginning of this relationship?
The choice is always yours whether to leave the marriage or stay with it, but the work must begin within you first. Look at what you have without blame, then try to decide what you’d like your marriage to look like. If you can focus on the marriage working and be open to the positive changes, then you can make this marriage work. As you begin to change how you treat your husband, how you speak to him, and how you appreciate the little things he might do, The Council says you can stay in this marriage lovingly.
SoulPeace says she’s always been scared of living on her own and taking on all the responsibilities of caring for their child. She doesn’t feel the love for her husband the last few years. The Council asks if she’s able to partner with him in bringing up their child? Are they able to get together and have fun with this child so it has a more loving life? When you’re able to come together and take the focus off what the other person is doing wrong and you’re in the vibration of love and joy even though the focus is your child, you have the ability to make the marriage better.
SoulPeace says she feels like she’s with her husband because it’s the more traditional option and she’s scared to live on her own. She finds it difficult to forget the things that happened in the past. The Council reminds SoulPeace that it’s a choice to take the focus off the past. When do you let go of this? When do you begin looking forward instead of backward? Have you learned from the mistakes you’ve made? What have you done to prevent these mistakes from continuing? If you decide to stay in this marriage, but continue with blaming your husband and stay in the vibration of anger and hurt, you won’t be able to change your future so you have a happy life.
If you decide you want to save your marriage, try thinking the reason you’ve gone through the dissatisfaction in your marriage is that you and your husband agreed to come to this point and then ask yourself if you can turn your marriage around. If you decide to leave, what are the steps you’d take to support your child and live on your own just the two of you? See this how you want it to be rather than out of fear. Visualize how leaving could work for you.
SoulPeace says she feels like she’s coming back to the same point in the relationship over and over. She’d like closure to this and to move ahead in any direction which is best for her and her child. The Council asks SoulPeace if she’s truly looking for closure or does she want to fix the marriage?
To start closure The Council suggests SoulPeace imagine where she and her child would go and how you’d live. If you want to change your marriage for the better The Council suggests letting go of the past. Maybe your husband doesn’t know how to undo what was done or fix the marriage, but perhaps you can discuss moving forward. Can you leave the past in the past?
Discuss how you’d like your marriage to be. What does your husband want the marriage to be like going forward? When memories come of what your husband did or didn’t do in your marriage that hurt you, acknowledge the hurt and then say goodbye to those thoughts. After a while those thoughts won’t come as frequently. Yes these things happened, but now you have an opportunity to create the future differently. You have the power to refocus on a happier thought and create the life you desire.
The Council closes by saying SoulPeace has a lot of work to do and a wonderful journey in whichever direction she chooses.
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Shame Over Hair Loss
This post answers questions from an anonymous reader who asks The Council why she created a health condition that causes her to loose hair along her front hair line.
The Council says Anonymous has created this lesson of shame and of loving and accepting herself. This is what she’s working on now.
Anonymous says she knows The Council advises staying in a positive vibration for healing, but when she tries to be positive she’s often overwhelmed by deep feelings of shame.
The Council says when Anonymous looks in the mirror she’s looking at her physical reality. She’s created this hair loss to look deeper than her physical reality. Does she have good thoughts toward others and herself? Does she send love and compassion to others and herself? If she thought she could never heal this hair loss condition, can she love herself any way? Can she let go of the shame?
The Council says Anonymous has brought this shame into her life from several other lifetimes and in her current lifetime she’s experiencing this shame over her hair loss. Because it’s been difficult for her to work on this shame and loving herself in other lifetimes, her spirit created hair loss in her current lifetime so she could work on letting go of the shame and loving herself. If Anonymous can learn to love and appreciate herself with her hair loss, her hair will begin to grow back.
The Council suggests focusing on the happiness that can be created as Anonymous moves forward in her life. In the vibration of love, hopefulness, happiness, and going forward no matter what she sees in the mirror, this is the beginning of change.
Anonymous says she knows her spirit has created this hair loss and she’s grateful for the knowledge and growth that’s come as she seeks answers. Yet she feels a part of her soul is breaking because of the shame she feels when she looks in the mirror.
The Council says her soul isn’t breaking. Her soul is asking her to look at herself and realize her soul and her physical body are one.
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Questions About My Two Abortions and One Birth
This post answers questions for The Council on the subject of abortion from a reader named Mind at Peace. She says she’d been pregnant three times, but only able to give birth to her second child because the first and third pregnancy were aborted.
She says the first abortion was an accident because she wanted the baby, but she decided to abort her third pregnancy because she wanted to go back to school and do something with her life. Now she sometimes regrets her third abortion and wonders if she made the correct choice.
The Council says, as they’ve stated in other posts, there isn’t any reason to regret an abortion, miscarriage, or not seeing a pregnancy go full term. They say in each case the abortion has been agreed upon by all souls involved, including the soul of the unborn child.
Mind At Peace asks The Council to shed some light on why the third soul came into her life. We assume this question is about her third pregnancy and second abortion, but The Council first answers as if she asked about her child that was born. They say Mind At Peace and this child knew each other from previous lifetimes and there are some experiences they’re planning to go through together.
After their brief answer about this child The Council says the other two souls didn’t want to come into this reality, but wanted the experience of being in a mother’s womb, and Mind At Peace agreed in spirit to provide them with this experience.
The Council says during her first and third pregnancy Mind At Peace wasn’t really prepared to bring a child into the world. These pregnancies were to learn appreciation for bringing life forward and learn about the responsibility involved. They also took her attention off problems that would have overwhelmed her and had her concentrate on the unborn child rather than her other problems.
The Council says the lesson for Mind At Peace and her child was to have compassion and care for each other. In another lifetime in Asia they were brother and sister and very poor. Living on the streets this poverty caused separation between the two of them. They each cared for themselves instead of each other.
At the end of Mind At Peace’s comment she ask if her first aborted child came back to her as her second child, and The Council says yes.
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Grandfather’s Passing
This post in inspired by questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, about death and the experience we have during the last days and hours of our lives. Her grandfather, who loved her deeply, is currently passing and she wonders what he’s experiencing while she’s with him in hospice.
The Council says each person has their own experience when it’s their time to pass. Her grandfather was connecting to others in spirit who passed on before him, and as this became clear to him he would come back into this reality. The Council describes it as going back and forth with one foot in each place.
Sarah asks The Council for a better understanding of what her grandfather was experiencing in his last hours, a better understanding of the connection the two of them shared, and what things will be like for him after he passes. The Council says where he is after his passing he only experiences joy and love. The releasing of her grandfather’s body and returning to spirit was a great experience for him.
The Council asks Sarah to review this lifetime with her grandfather. What has she learned from him? The Council believes Sarah and her grandfather have come together after a previous lifetime where there was just the two of them. They were uneducated and living off the land. In his current lifetime it was important for her grandfather to support his family so he didn’t continue the pattern from that past life where there wasn’t enough food and shelter.
The Council says as Sarah gets past the grief of her grandfather’s passing she can look for all the things in his life to be grateful for. They ask Sarah if she can take this perception of gratefulness and love, and give it to the people that are around her in her current lifetime. And can she find things to appreciate in each of these people before they pass on?
Sarah asks if it’s important to be with her grandfather as he passes on. The Council says each person is different. Some have no idea you are sitting by the bed for days because they’re in conversation with the spirit world and they’re resting before leaving the body. Some become conscious again and are very happy to have family present.
Sarah asks if he’s aware of what’s going on when he appears to be unconscious. The Council says most people are aware, even when you think they’re not. They can still hear. Sometimes the spirit is lifting out of the body and they’re able to see who’s in the room even though they appear unconscious.
Sarah asks if her grandfather is experiencing fear. The Council says they don’t see this for him. Some do experience fear until they see the light and the other people who have crossed over before them, and the fear leaves them. As they see spirits and angels and experience all the love that is coming towards them, there isn’t any fear going into the light.
Sarah asks if she’ll experience more of this lifetime with him, but in another form? The Council says to ask her grandfather for signs he’s around, and ask for dreams. Speak with him as if he’s still in his physical body and see what happens. As she tells her grandfather what’s going on in her life, see what happens around her and she’ll experience the connection is still there.
Sarah closes by saying she’d like to understand the end of life process from a spiritual point of view so she’ll be able to navigate it in the future. The Council says anyone who is getting ready to leave this particular lifetime, look for the light, think of people you have loved who have gone on before you, feel the energy of love, and it will carry you right into the spirit world.
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Relationship, Dark Magic, and Asexuality Guidance
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Gabriela, who previously asked The Council a relationship question. Now she’s following up on her previous question as well as asking about dark magic and her choice to be asexual.
Relationship
Gabriela says when she tried to change the focus of her friendship with a women named Laura to a more romantic one it went badly. The Council asks if Gabriela was appreciating this friendship? They say Gabriela must appreciate the friendship first and then experience where this goes.
Gabriela asks The Council to shed light on past lives she and Laura have lived together and why they can’t seem to get together in this lifetime. The Council says they shared many lives together, but in the one that’s affecting their current lifetime, they had a happy relationship. What they intended in their current life was to come together as friends, which is a different kind of relationship than in their past life.
Gabriela carries with her memories of this past lifetime and wants a more romantic relationship in their current lifetime. Her friend Laura is remembering on an unconscious level that the two of them agreed in spirit to have a warm and close friendship. They are both in the same relationship, but have different ideas how this relationship should be. The Council says if Gabriela can accept a friendship, they feel she’d get a lot from this and would be able to find different partner to have a romantic relationship with.
Gabriela is the creator of her reality, and if she still wants a romantic relationship with Laura and if she has a strong belief in this, and if she’s able to concentrate on this romantic relationship without doubt, The Council says it can be created. But they add, Gabriela should be open to experiencing a friendship with Laura without pushing it to something beyond this, and she can find great happiness in this.
The Council says the friendship that’s wanted by both of them is capable of changing into something more, but Gabriela must experience the friendship first. That was the agreement. Once that’s done for a period of time, the friendship is capable of changing into something more romantic.
Dark Magic Rituals
Next Gabriela raises the subject of dark magic rituals and asks what The Council has to say about them. She believes that because these rituals go against other people’s free will, she is skeptical of them, but she also knows people get results with these rituals and asks how this is possible.
The Council says it’s your intention and your focus on what you’re trying to create that’s behind these rituals. Your focus is the magic, whether it be black magic, white magic, good magic, or bad magic. If you wish to harm someone, and you focus on it, you can create this in your reality. If you wish good for someone and you focus on it, you can also create this in your reality. The ritual helps you focus. On the subject of creating dark magic The Council says there is free will and everyone is able to create whatever they wish to experience.
Asexuality
Gabriela asks The Council why people are born asexual like her, because she says it can be a life-long loneliness sentence. The Council says the souls that come into this human reality in any way that is thought of as different are here for one purpose: to have the people around them accept them and show love no matter what you are. We are all here to bring the vibration of love from spirit into our physical reality.
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Finding Love in a Relationship with an Ex-Boyfriend
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Mary, who asks about a relationship with a man she was with and who she loved, even if he never loved her back. Mary says she still loves him and wants a life with him, but only if he loves her.
The Council asks Mary why she wants to go back to this relationship if she feels this man never loved her? They see this as a pattern that feels familiar and she’s afraid to let go of this relationship and move forward.
Mary asks if the feelings she still has for this man are the reason she feels stuck in all areas of her life. And she asks how she can stop feeling in love with him because he doesn’t love her and probably never did.
The Council says you let go of these thoughts by choosing other thoughts and by using your imagination to bring into your life whatever you want. They say it’s Mary’s choice if she wants to hang on to the feelings she has for this man, and they ask if she does hang on, what is she learning? What lessons does she think she needs to learn? And they say the answer is the simple lesson of dreaming big.
The Council says life changes only by your thoughts and beliefs. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend never loved her, this is what she’ll create. If Mary believes her ex-boyfriend can recognize her as a spirit in a physical body and that she’s in his life to offer love as well as receive it, and hold onto these thoughts, The Council says it must happen.
The Council adds that it’s work to hold onto these thoughts and change what you see. If this is something Mary truly wants, she should focus on what she appreciates in this relationship. Why does she want to be in it? See the good moments in her mind and expand on them.
Mary needs to love and appreciate herself first and then she’ll get the guidance she desires about this relationship. There was an agreement made in spirit for Mary and her ex-boyfriend to come together and go through these difficult times. The Council advises Mary to find the love in this relationship. If she was able to find it once, The Council says she can find it again.
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Should I Give My Marriage a Second Chance?
This post is inspired by follow-up questions from Vacha, who terminated a pregnancy, returned to India with her son, and separated from her abusive husband in America. Now she’s asking if her marriage is finally over or can it still work out if she gives it good thoughts and positive energy?
The Council says the end result of Vacha’s marriage is entirely up to her. They ask her what she sees in her life right now. Is she getting along better with her husband, and have circumstances changed that made their life together so miserable for her?
The Council says Vacha will create with her beliefs what happens in her marriage. If she believes her husband won’t change and thinks she’ll be wasting her time trying to have good thoughts and a happy marriage, The Council says she is already in a negative vibration. They add it’s possible to create happiness with anyone, but she must believe in this happiness. If she believes she’s tried time after time to make her marriage work and doesn’t see a change, then there’s a belief her marriage will not change.
The Council says Vacha pre-birth planned in spirit to learn independence in this lifetime, and they suggest once she experiences this independence then it may be possible to change her relationship with her husband for the better.
Vacha also asks about her mother and father and says her mother is dealing with bad treatment from her own father (Vacha’s grandfather). The Council asks Vacha how she feels about this and does she see her future becoming like her mother’s.
Vacha says her mother and father don’t have a good relationship, and The Council asks her to look at this. Is this what she wants for herself? In order for Vacha’s parents to feel better they would have to begin seeing each other differently. They will need to talk about things they like about each other and appreciate the years they have been together. They will need to change their thinking and focus on positive aspects of their relationship.
In their closing The Council asks us to remember the promise we made in spirit to bring love into this lifetime in everything we do, and they suggest this is what we should meditate on.
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Insights into a Relationship
This post is inspired by a reader named Diana who asks The Council for insight into her 6 month old relationship with her male partner. She’s 42 years old and wants to settle down, but she’s torn about whether to continue this relationship. On one hand they have a deep connection and compatibility on many levels. On the other hand Diana finds her partner’s struggle to cope with the daily practicalities of life quite unsettling. The thought of ending this relationship feels almost unbearable, but she feels stuck with moving forward in the relationship.
The Council suggests Diana look at all the things to be grateful for with her partner. The relationship is not enough for her because she focuses on his shortcomings. Start focusing on things in the relationship that bring her joy.
As Diana begins to appreciate this relationship, The Council asks her to look at what she’s doing to help her partner. Relationships come together as an opportunity to show love to each other, show each other how to grow, and how to transform their challenges. When Diana feels her partner isn’t making good life choices, rather than blame him she can speak with him about other choices and gently show him the way. The Council sees that over time the circumstances of this relationship can improve.
The Council recommends if Diane doesn’t want to move forward with marriage or living together, move forward on how she views these activities and with the thought of helping her partner. If she can take these steps, the relationship will become more of what she wants.
The Council says looking for her partner to improve to make her feel better is not the answer. As Diana begins to appreciate this relationship and sees her partner change, there will be a softening within her and she will allow herself to see what she wants to change within herself.
The Council feels that while the choice to leave this relationship is always Diana’s, they see at this time there is no reason to leave. There is a lot that can be changed and much more that can be appreciated about each other that will help the relationship grow and become more of what she desires.
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How Can I Overcome the Shame of Being Bullied?
This post is inspired by a question from Megan, who asks The Council how she can overcome the shame of being bullied in high school.
The Council recognizes the pain Megan experiences from being bullied and they say it’s her choice whether to continue replaying these memories, which will create more of this pain, or she chooses to change the focus of her thoughts to love. The challenge here is for Megan to recognize who she is as a loving spirit and go deep within herself to feel the love, without approval from others, no matter what’s going on in her life.
The Council says it’s good for Megan to read books about past lives and books about people who’ve come to know through mediums how they create difficult lessons in their lives with the understanding it was all pre-planned so they could learn from turning their life around. They say as Megan becomes more aware of how and why she created the bullying, the pain will become less and it won’t be necessary for her to experience these feelings.
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
Home Page
The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.
The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.
Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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