Will I Be In A New Relationship Before My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Full Dreamland.
Dreamland: Hello, Council, Bob, and Cynthia. I appreciate all your guidance to me and others over several posts. I am in the middle of a separation from my husband. I have been told by a psychic that he will be in another relationship soon. I have also been told I will be in a relationship once I master being happy alone and learn my lessons around independence. I want to know if I will get married, or be in a new relationship, or if my husband will.
Council: Oh, is there a race here? Who’s going to do it first? Very interesting.
There’s more interest in finding out, not if you will get married again, and who will do it first, because no psychic can tell you. From moment to moment, your path can change. And a very good psychic may look and say, “Yes, I see you married. How wonderful.” And then the choices you make the next day can move the energy in another direction. So no one knows for sure what will happen.
We would say, if you want to see yourself married again, maybe you can be kinder to people. You can learn from what you went through in one relationship and make sure you don’t do it in another. It always comes from you looking at yourself – what you can do and how you can be on the path that you want to take. So that is the lesson. Look at yourself and don’t worry about what your husband is doing. It’s really none of your concern. His lessons will come to him when he is ready.
But if you would like to be married again without the thought of who’s going to do it first – thinking like that will definitely hold anything good coming forward because you are not looking at it correctly. As we said before, this is not a race. This is about your relationship. What have you learned from being in it? How have you changed? Are you working on yourself? Or are you wondering what he or his family is going to do?
Dreamland: I want to know what are my husband’s lessons with respect to my child and me.
Council: Well we won’t tattle, so we won’t tell you his lessons. But his lessons to you and to your child were to, when it was set up in your mind, your spirit, to come together in a loving fashion, to go through certain experiences, and find a kind, loving way to handle it. That’s what your lessons are. Everyone’s lesson is, when you come here, handle everything with the one answer, which is love, kindness, and compassion. So that’s why you are here. Have you learned it in your marriage? You would think that at one point it was there. Why did it change? What happened?
And this is not for you to look at him or his family and say, “They did this, they did that. He did this. He let them do that.” It was for a while this was going on. What is your part in it? How are you handling it? Are you honest, and sitting down and talking and saying, “You know this is going on. It’s uncomfortable. It hurts. And let’s see what we can do about it because we’re going down the wrong path.” It is that simple. The answer is always, “What am I doing? Am I kind? Am I understanding? Am I loving?” Though we hope, at this time, that you are doing that.
Dreamland: Will he ever realize the mistakes he made in our relationship and feel sorry for what he has done to us? Or will it be very easy for him to forget us and move on, and live his new life happily and without any regrets?
Council: You are not letting go of the thought of him realizing what he did was wrong, he’ll have regrets, he’ll miss you. Again, you are wasting time trying to figure that out. What you figure out is, how am I now as a person? Why do I have to know what his lesson is? That is none of your concern. We would never tell you another person’s lessons. Of course, he might be sorry, and then again, he may not.
But you’re taking your thoughts, your choices, and you’re putting them in the wrong direction. Work on yourself. Let go of what happened. Let go of getting even. Let go of wishing him not wellness, not a good situation, not being jealous if he gets married, and if he gets married first. Can you see that?
Dreamland: I find it disturbing that he and his family can keep on ruining innocent girls and his own child’s life, and not face any consequences. I’m trying to find peace in this situation. Thank you for helping.
Council: It’s not up to you to prepare to find out that he is having a hard time, or that he is having terrible consequences for disrupting other people. Again, we see you are concerned about will his family learn that? We would like to say, have you learned that? Have you learned that all of this has to do with you? It is your responsibility to change how you act if you find you are jealous, if you’re angry, if you’re wishing him and his family wrong. You are on the wrong path. And so when that begins to change, when you realize that, then you will find happiness.
And who knows, maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, you can dream of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, and what you need to know is within you, and when you need that information, you will remember.
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What Can I Do About My Dysfunctional Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name Anon Reader.
Anon: Hi, Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. I was wondering if you had any insight into my lifelong tumultuous relationship with my mother? My sibling and I have always felt that she is controlling, self-centered, cruel, and emotionally violent. I can appreciate from a distance that we all do what we feel we have to do or say, and function according to our programming, but I also can’t continue with this dysfunctional relationship in its current form, and fear I should seriously prepare to walk away if that’s best.
Council: Well #1, we would say there is no programming going on. What’s going on is choices and free will, and that’s what you’re here to learn about. Free will that no matter what kind of relationship you have, how does it make you feel? Can you improve it in any way? What choices do you have?
And so, we see the three of you in several lives together as children, and not getting along, and fist-fighting, and tumbling around on the floor, and beating each other up as children, and trying to get each other into trouble.
And so, it has come forward in this lifetime as one of you as the parent, and then the other two as children. But it was your wish to see how you could create a life where one of you is the adult, how they would handle it, how you would respond to them instead of just three children fighting. It was to learn how to not be in competition, how not be in, “Who’s the boss, and who’s going to get their way?”
And it’s just a lesson from past lives that you have brought forward. You want to see how it can be done with one of you as an adult. And then, if for some reason you choose to walk away and not work it out, you may, the three of you, choose to come back as two adults and a child, or three adults. It is just the lesson that is wanted. It was how to get along, and how to get through difficult times, and jealousy, and attention, and abandonment issues all coming together, how you would handle it.
And so, as you think of this, now see how, with this knowledge, you handle this lesson
Anon: I’d appreciate any advice, and thanks so much for all of your work.
Council: It’s quite fun if you could sit down and picture the three of you as children, and what it might have been like in several lifetimes, fighting, and who was controlling, and who was the boss, and who was going to get their way. Imagine what they might look like. Imagine a certain age that you were all at. What does that look like?
And you can bring some funny thoughts into this lesson. And as the feeling about this lesson changes, in your reality, what you live through will change. So to start the change, to understand it, and perhaps change how you all get along now, which is what is wanted, you will do it by just daydreaming about what the heck it could have been like when you were children.
And who knows? Maybe tonight you’ll dream of us. And of course we have to add, you can see us every night, you can talk to us every night, you can dream of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re going to remember. But what we teach you, what you need to know, is within you. And when you need that information, you will remember.
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Do Imaginary Worst Case Scenarios Manifest In Another Reality?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named EG.
EG: Hello, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have a question about other realities.
I tend to overthink things, and often create worst case scenarios in my head. When I do this, does that mean that these worst case scenarios manifest in another reality?
Council: It manifests in the thought reality, and images and thoughts have their own life. They will become real, as a thought, and it will go out into the universe. It’s there. It exists. It does not mean that you here are a part of it. But a thought – every thought you think is important. Every thought is alive, and is traveling through the universe, over, and over, and over. That is why we always say, try to stay positive, because those positive thoughts will make your reality, and other realities, positive.
So being aware and asking this question, if it exists in another reality, is a wonderful question. Yes, it is thought. It is just energy that’s in this particular thought form, but it does not stay here with you in this reality.
And so, again, the answer would be, learn to meditate. Acknowledge when you have overthought something, or when you are overworrying about something. Acknowledge it, and then have the choice available that you can change it. And that is how you begin to change in this reality, even though you have had many, many negative thoughts.
EG: And does my spirit participate in this [creating worst case scenarios that manifest in another reality]?
Council: Your spirit knows about this. Your spirit doesn’t participate in anything negative. It sees it. It lets it pass. It lets it go. And when you try and call in the positive, your spirit will bring in the positive. There is no negativity for spirit.
EG: Love you guys.
Council: And so, our blessings, our wishes for happiness, and joy, and fun on your path, go out to everyone.
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How to Set Boundaries with Toxic In-Laws for a Healthier Life
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starfish.
Starfish: Hello, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thanks for doing all the amazing work. I have a question for which I’d like to seek The Council’s guidance.
I’m having issues with my husband and in-laws that are causing a lot of mental anxiety, and lung-related issues for me. My husband is too attached to my in-laws, and is not able to have healthy boundaries. My in-laws have certain toxic traits, and they come to have an extended stay with us, causing a lot of disruptions in my health.
Council: Has this always been this way, or are you just aware of it now? So we’d ask you to take a look at this.
Starfish: My husband prioritizes his parents and is not able to see the wrong behaviors done by them. I want to check if it’s possible to have a future for me where I can stay with my husband happily, and not have to deal with or live with my in-laws?
Council: And so we would say this would all be up to you; how you see it and how you work with the energy. It is possible for you to speak to your husband about this and come up with something that would work for the both of you. If there’s no cooperation on his side, then we would say, well what can you do? Can you have your in-laws in your home and not spend too much time with them? Are you able to look at how they behave, then do the work, and try to learn what makes them like that? What are they trying to accomplish?
There’s always a lesson in these difficult challenges. And so we would say, play with that and see what comes out of trying to learn from it. But again, you have to do the work of meditating and seeing the way you want it.
We feel right now you are more on the path of: Can I leave and make a good life for myself, rather than trying to fix it. And there is no wrong answer. The choice is always yours, but it is now time for you to realize the choice is yours. What can you do to try to live with this behavior? Can you talk to his parents? Can you tell them this is upsetting, and will not be accepted anymore? Can you be honest and have this kind of conversation?
But to be there and let it go on, and not say anything to your husband and to his parents is just sitting in this lesson, and we do know what happens. If you don’t fix it now, if you don’t learn from it, you will repeat it in another life until you get the lesson.
So we would suggest that this time do everything that you can to learn from this lesson. If you still feel that it’s not for you, then you make the decision to leave. But always know it is your decision. This will not come from anybody else. So if you see yourself not being able to communicate with your in-laws, you will create that. If you can do the work and see things getting better, then that will happen. But what are you doing with the visualization? How are you working on this?
Starfish: The other option is for me to move away from my husband and create a different life for me and my son.
Council: Yes, you can do that, but then again, look at the whole picture. Is that what you want? How will you move forward? In what area? How will it help you be a better mother? How would it help you make your child happy and give him a good environment? If it will make things difficult for you when it comes to finances, how will you handle that? What will you do with it? How you handle things means a lot. So you don’t want to take your child and move away, not have the right finances, be nervous, maybe take it out on the child, or be worried all the time. Make a plan. If you decide to leave, where will you go? How will you work? How do you see your life moving forward? And this again is visualization.
Starfish: Can The Council please guide me on which path me and my son will find happiness and peace? I want to understand whether it will be on the path with my husband, or leaving my husband.
Council: And no one can make that decision but you. We can not tell you, “Oh yes, you will be happy,” because we don’t know what will be going on in your mind in the future. Are you thinking the wrong thoughts so that you’re creating the wrong outcome? It is always, always up to you. You decide what you want and then do the work of what you want. Will you stay, or will you go? It is entirely up to you. You are the creator.
Starfish: Looking at my anxiety issues and lung disorder, I don’t think I can deal with my in-laws in the same house with the current attitude of my husband. My son and I have suffered a lot in this relationship and I don’t think I can suffer more, and I don’t know how to create a future with my husband without my in-laws’ influence. Sometimes I think my in-laws are here so that I can see the true colors of my husband and move on.
Council: Oh, no, no, no. They are here to see the true colors of yourself, and how you will respond to all of this. And remember, this is something you wanted to learn to grow from it. So this is always about you. And it’s easy to blame the husband, or you know, go off in different directions. It is always about you learning about you.
Starfish: Also, I’ve been told by The Council that if I move away from my husband, my child is going to learn different lessons without his father.
Council: How wonderful. Then there are different lessons.
Starfish: Can The Council please guide me on what will be my and my child’s lessons without the father?
Council: Without the father there will be many other lessons. And again, it’s what you create. Do you create a good home environment? If not, then one of the lessons will be for you or your child how to live in that, how to create it differently, how to move forward differently if it’s not what you want.
And so, until you decide what you want, you will not create the environment that you want. And so we can not tell you to do this or do that. First decide what you want, then devise a whole plan on how to do this where you are truly comfortable.
So your son and you will have different lessons, but that was all chosen, that was all pre-planned. Now which way your decision takes you will allow what other lessons you need to learn, and that you need to go through this lifetime to learn from. And it’s that simple.
Starfish: Thanks.
Council: It is our duty, shall we say, it is our work to help the souls that are in a human reality to learn that: #1, you are the creator. We are not here to give you answers. We are here to show you how to get the answers. And so we say, take your time. You can go back and forth with your decision until one day you will decide: This is it.
And so we all send you all the love from spirit for you to take in, to feel it, to picture it, and send it out again. And then you are on your way to healing not only America, the United States, but the whole planet. This is your purpose.
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What Should I Do About An Ended Relationship I Can’t Move On From?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, DSS.
DSS: My romantic relationship of 7 1/2 years ended in February and I can’t move on. I feel so drawn, even obsessed, that I desire to be this man’s wife. Please help me with clarity. Should I continue to focus on a loving and wonderful relationship with this specific man, or should I focus on the same wonderful qualities with someone new?
Council: Well right there let’s say – which we’ve said many, many times – the way the question is phrased we will never ever tell you what to do, to tell you to move on or hold on, bend this, keep going, or hang on. The answer is within you.
And one of the reasons everyone is here at this time is to learn to listen to their feelings [from spirit]. And the feelings will always make you feel good. They will always be feelings of love.
So you ask about this person and you say that you cannot move on. That is the physical or human part of you that’s afraid to move on. There may be much better future partners for you. Or there may be a time where you would learn to meditate, a time to learn how to manifest, and you create what it is that you do want. And so it is possible for you to have anything, but to get there you have to realize, #1, the choice is yours, and you have to do the inner work to know that your journey starts in spirit.
Now we look and we see, was there anything created where you would be together this lifetime. And we see, yes, but more of a friendship, more of two ships passing in the night. And where you may not have a relationship, even a friendship right now, it was planned that you would sort of come in and out of each other’s lives. So now you ask yourself, what is it that you want? Are you okay with a friendship where you just come together every now and then, or do you want this romantic relationship?
So #1, if you want this relationship, you begin to meditate, you do things to get your vibration to rise. And you do that by thinking loving thoughts, funny thoughts, great memories, whatever makes you sit there and smile. When you’re finally in that place, then detail by detail you imagine what you want. If you want a life with this person, what does it look like? What do you do? And you don’t always have to know how it’s going to happen, but you’re going to put out there that it’s happening, and the universe will take care of it.
So #1, the thoughts, the imaging, that is sending the energy out to the universe, and the main key is feeling that you already have it. What does it feel like being married? Or being together again? And as a little child would pretend to be a movie star of an astronaut, you pretend. You look for that feeling that it is already really happening, and pay attention to how you feel. And the happier you feel about it, the quicker you can bring that in. So the work, the whole thing, deciding what you want, how to do it, how to manifest it and get it to happen, it’s all up to you.
And so we give you blessings, we send you love, and light, and excitement on your paths. And know, and really, really think about it and know you are spirit, and you can create anything that you want.
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Communicatimg With Your Shadow To Overcome Fear
Bob & Cynthia’s Note: As you may be aware, the vast majority of our posts represent conversations we’ve had with The Council to answer questions our readers have written to us in the Comments boxes that appear at the end of most of our posts. Occasionally a reader who pays us for a private half-hour telephone session with The Council receives guidance that we feel will benefit other readers, and we ask this reader’s permission to publish their session. This post represents one of these private sessions.
Cynthia and I particularly like the following Council guidance in this session: When you try to avoid whatever is in your shadow space, it makes it bigger because the more you are afraid of it, the more you won’t deal with it, [and] it will grow on its own.
We like The Council’s idea that each individual is the creator of whatever is in their shadow, and they have the power to change their shadow. We also like the way The Council’s ideas expressed in previous posts on the power of your personal choice, the importance of what you focus on, and the importance of getting yourself into a place where you feel kind of good to create what you desire., are worked into this session.
We owe a great deal of thanks to the anonymous reader who allowed us to make this session available to all of you. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did.
Anonymous: The first question would be if there’s any advice to resolve the war within my mind?
Council: Well what we see in this particular reality that you created is that you wanted to have challenges that took you into good places and not good places, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But you did want to learn about the positive and about the negative. And so we would say, be open to the challenges that come into your mind. When you become very accepting of both positive and negative answers, little by little it will become clearer.
And is there anything in the negative that you can’t handle, that you find either upsetting, or frightening, or you can’t seem to get a grasp on it? Because we do see in your thoughts and in your mind what goes on. There’s a sort of chaos. It goes back and forth, back and forth. So we would say, what bothers you the most?
Anonymous: So the biggest thing is the fear. There’s a part of me that fears I can’t recover from parental criticism. It just constantly sabotages my opportunities. I want to stay invisible.
Council: So that is part of what you’ve created in this lifetime. So when you think of the criticism from parents or others, anybody in authority, why do you feel that must affect you now? Because there are many people who have gone through bad childhoods and adulthoods, and they realize what they’ve gone through, but don’t let themselves stay in that energy. So why do you feel this fear will hold you back, or that it will bring you down, and that it has a hold on you? Because as you know, your thoughts, how you think about things, whether it’s negative or positive, is going to affect your life. So what is it that you fear and you hold onto?
Anonymous: Well it’s not a conscious thing. It’s like an animal that gets burned. I mean, when I really see fire, it’s just a complete reaction. And so the question is, how does one get over this when it’s just… You know, prayer has not worked, and I can’t seem to convince this part of me that there’s no danger in becoming accomplished.
Council: So we would suggest that you go into this shadow part, or fear-held part. Go right into it because it has a hold on you, whether consciously or unconsciously. So there’s a way you can sit and meditate, and when you go into the shadow part, you can picture it as opening a door and you’re in. Everything that can hold you back, anything that’s fearful, is in there.
So we always work with imagery, and the answers come up easier that way. So you would go into this shadow, this dark part of you, and you would start looking for it. Some people go into their childhood home and they picture they’re walking through it, and they find their shadow there, but you don’t have to go that way. You just go into the room where your shadow self is. Now you start looking, and you search for whatever is there that you need to get rid of or make peace with.
And as you look around, a shape will appear. Expect a shape, a color, anything, and it doesn’t have to make sense what it is. It could be a peanut. It could be anything. And now you begin to talk to it. And you can ask it why it’s there. You can ask it why it got there, and tell it that it’s not beneficial for you in this life, and so you’d like to remove it.
And when you start seeing this shape – a peanut, a ball, a person, anything – you look at it and then look at yourself. Where are you attached? There are many, many chords that are going from this fear place to you. So it will go from that object to places in your body. There could be ten of them, there could be 100 of them, and you begin to cut the chords. And each time you cut a chord, you are releasing it. You may not feel it right away. You may have to do it day after day, where you go in and you find the shape and you talk to it again. Does it want to tell you anything? What was its purpose for being there? And again you start cutting the chords. And you tell it, “Okay, you’re not needed right now. You did your job. I am in fear. I’m upset about the future, or how you [the fear] can hold me back.” And again, you continue to cut these chords.
And after you do this for however many days it takes, you tell this shadow part of you that now I am bringing something in that will show you the light, that will help me replace you with something else that will release me from this fear. So now you start looking at what came in with you. Is there someone standing next to you? Is there a box you’re holding, and you need to open the box and let this shape out? You replace what the fear looks like, what the shadow looks like, with light, with things that are going to go with you into your future and make it easier. So eventually, and it does take time, and it’s really all up to you, if you do the work, it will happen.
So #1, you have to be ready to go into the shadow place. Some people do a countdown. You can picture stairs, and each stair has a number from one to seven. And as you go down you see the first step, and it’s red with the #1. And then you go deeper, and the step is #2, and it’s orange. The third step would be #3 and it’s yellow. The fourth step would be green. Then the fifth step is a light blue. The sixth step is an indigo color. And the seventh step is purple. Those are the colors of the chakras. So as you go down the stairs, you know there is a doorway, and that’s the place you’ll meet your shadow.
So when you do this imagery, it works faster than if you try to figure it out with your head. Just go into it and ask what it is. “Give me a shape. Give me a color. Why are you here? What can you tell me?” And you no longer need this shadow. You start cutting those chords, and after a while you bring something in. And every time you go in, you talk to that shadow. So now you finally start telling the shadow, “Okay, I don’t need you anymore in this lifetime. And so this is what is here to help me. And you start every time you come in. You bring whatever it is – the shape, the color, a person, anything – that will help you. And then as that gets stronger, you will see the shadow part disappear. It will get smaller. The chords will not grow anymore. You will not be attached. And then you know on a subconscious level you have released something, and you don’t have to know what it is. You can’t figure it out with your head. It’s an emotion. It’s a feeling.
And once you really feel something has changed and something is happening here – maybe you don’t feel that fearful, maybe you don’t feel the heaviness or a darkness around you – as you begin to see the little bits that have changed, that will happen in your life consciously. Your life will begin to change. Your thoughts will begin to change because now you have made peace with the shadow, There’s nothing to be afraid of. You’ve had any sort of conversation you need with your shadow.
But the key to doing this is to go into it. When you try to avoid whatever is in your shadow space, it makes it bigger because the more you are afraid of it, the more you won’t deal with it, it will grow on its own.
And what you should know here is that this is not something that’s happening to you because you don’t know who did this to you, or why it’s there. You have created it because in this lifetime you want to deal with your shadow part. In other lifetimes there were things that were hurtful, as everybody has had, and it could be that you brought it forward into your current life to heal it. So you wanted to take that challenge on. And it is a very courageous step to take that challenge, to go into it, and make peace with it.
And we know you don’t particularly care for the positive thinking. It has nothing to do with that. It has to do with your strength, and how you handle yourself when you’re ready to look at your shadow. And even if you aren’t ready now, that’s fine. There’s no right time or wrong time. You can think about it for a long time before you even start. You can go very slowly, but it’s always very important to remember that you chose this. You wanted this before you came into this lifetime because there’s a lot of healing in there and it will make up for a lot of other lifetimes, and you wanted to deal with it.
And it is a lot, but what we see here, you do have a strong mind, and we feel you can do this. Or you can do it any other way that feels good for you. If it’s not what we suggested, then just think, “I’m going into this shadow room, and I will find a way. And if there’s something that feels more comfortable for you to do, then we say play with, it and if it doesn’t work, then you can do what we suggested.
You are the creator of everything that’s going to happen in that shadow room. That’s how powerful you are. And everyone has a shadow, and in some lifetimes you’ll work with it, and in other lifetimes you want no part of it. And there are sometimes you create a very, very busy life and you have no time for meditation, no time for reading, and finding out about these parts of your life. And so, right now, what you are going through, you are in control.
Do you have any questions about that?
Anonymous: No, that’s pretty self-contained.
Do you have tips on developing self-discipline and having a structured life?
Council: What do you mean by structured? What do you want to have control over or a structured way? What is it that you’d like to do?
Anonymous: I tend to live my life very amorphously, and sort of let outside events dictate what I work on. Whereas other people obviously sort of schedule things and have, you know, this is what I’m going to work on, and it’s more effective that way, and that doesn’t come naturally to me. So the question is, are there tips on having a more structured life? I’m dealing with things without letting life dictate priorities.
Council: So #1, and this is very important, you have to get to the point where you know you’re not just this human being hanging out. You are a spirit, a very, very powerful spirit. When you came into this reality, one of the biggest things you took with you is the power of choice. You have choices about everything. And some people are afraid to make decisions, and we say, do whatever it is you want. If you make what you think is a wrong decision or something that’s not working, so what? So you change your mind. You make another decision.
You have to know you’re a very powerful spirit, you have choices, and what you focus on, whether you write it down, draw pictures of it, or you just imagine, you have to find out, what do you want in your life? Because if you don’t have the discipline to create what you want, the universe steps in and creates for you, and you may not like the way it’s going. So you have to start thinking, “Alright, you know these weird things happen. I’m not creating it.” You acknowledge that you’re just going along with whatever happens to you, and you want the discipline to change it. And the way you change it, and the only way you change it, is by what you focus on. So if you focus on, “Well, I have no choice. I just have to go along with this, and everybody else can create.” Well we have news for you. You can create like everybody else.
You have to do the work. How do you do it? Number 1, before you start trying to create, you have to get yourself into a place where you feel kind of good. And we say you do that by thinking of a memory, something that makes you happy, or a fantasy, and you stay in that thought until you sort of feel yourself smiling. You feel light. Your energy changes. It will get lighter. You will feel it. When that joy comes in, as little as it does in the beginning when you can feel that happiness, that joy, that’s when you start to create, and not before it. So how do you create? You work, you find that energy, something in your life that makes you happy.
Once you get the feeling, now you start to picture in your head what you want. And this is where some people get lazy. They don’t know what they want. Well you have to find out. Read books, watch movies, find things on the internet that interest you. Find out what you want, and then start to see it. Start seeing yourself doing it. And you can start doing that, and then after a while, no, that’s not what I want. Okay, fine. So change your thoughts.
Now when you think, that sends your thought, your energy, out into the universe. And the way it works, that’s really nice, you’re sending it out there, you want it to happen, but the key is not just the thought. You have to have the feeling. The feeling is the magnet that brings what you want back to you. The thoughts and images send it out, and the feeling brings it back to you. So like a child when you were little. maybe you could pretend you were a cowboy, or a spaceman, or whatever. You do the same thing with what you want to create. You see it, and you send it out, and then you start to feel it. You imagine as if you’re already doing what it is that you want, whether it’s a new job, a relationship, moving, anything.
You reach for the feeling that you already have it. That feeling is the key. And that’s the part that most people forget. They forget that you have to pretend, like a little kid, that you have it, that you’re doing it. And when you do that, it’s amazing how, even if you start with a little thought, you’ll see it happen. And then your thoughts could become stronger. You want more. You see yourself. And when you’re feeling it, you get extremely happy. Like, oh my God, I’m doing this, I’m doing that. But we see here you have to do the work to find out what it is you want, what it is that would make you happy. You have to take the chance. And it’s work. It’s work on yourself, but it’s not only the thought, it’s the feelings.
It’s going into seeing whatever is in the shadow and changing it, and knowing you can change it by talking to your shadow, bringing something to replace it. Then start finding happiness. There had to be happiness in your past somewhere. Find thoughts that make you happy. Then when you feel that happiness – you see how we keep saying, “Feeling”? – it’s because feeling is the key. Feel it. Imagine what you want. Feel it. And that’s how you take control of your life. You pretend. And once you pretend and feel it, you can move mountains, but it takes work.
And also you can do things to help your chakras align better so that the right amount of energy comes into each chakra. And there is a chakra breathing exercise that we have taught people. We’ll ask Bob to send it to you. If you do it, you will be amazed. Even if you do it once a week, because those chakras control different parts of your life – your relationships, your money, your love life, the connection with your purpose in life. It gives you clarity, but the chakra must be aligned, and we see there are some on you that are not aligned.
So we would say, you do all seven chakras at least once a week. You can do it more if you want. It will never ever hurt you, but it brings in the strong energy you need to move forward to face whatever it is, and to get in touch with, “Oh my God, I am so powerful and I didn’t know. I didn’t know how to keep that thought, that feeling that I have created everything I am going through, that I have gone through. I have created every single thing. No one can create for me. So now I align the chakras, I do the work to find what I want.” You go into your shadow, you bring in happiness, or whatever it is you need – light in your shadow – and you move forward. You do the work. It’s a lot of work, but you are at a point in your life, we see, that you are ready to do this.
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How Can I Incarnate On Sirius With My Family Next Lifetime, And Make This My Last Incarnation On Earth?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Seeker.
Seeker: Hello Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thanks for the amazing work you guys do for people like me.
I want to ask a question related to my star system origin, which is Sirius. I would like this incarnation to be my last incarnation on Earth, and I would like to go back to my roots and incarnate in Sirius. I would also like my closest four family members – my mother, my father, my husband, and my child – to incarnate with me in Sirius.
Council: Well we have to say here that you being in this reality, and being in the human body wanting to go back to Sirius, and wanting this to be your last incarnation… We promise you, when you are no longer in this body, and you are somewhere else, or you are off resting, or helping someone by being a spirit, you will want to come back. You will want to come back to another life that you created.
Well you’re not going to go back and sit on a cloud, or sit around and just relax in a beautiful country setting. You are going to go back for a while, you are going to review (only if you wish) what you lived in this life, and how you would have done it better. And then when you are ready, you are going to want to jump in again. That is who spirit is. There is forever, there is growing, and there is resting.
You can rest for a thousand years and stay on Sirius. We will tell you that you will not want to do that. It sounds wonderful now, but you can stay there as long as you want, and you will choose to come back, whether in this reality on the planet Earth, or in another reality in another dimension. There is always so much going on, and you will want to be part of it.
As far as your family incarnating with you is concerned, you can’t make them do that. That is their decision if they want to incarnate, or go in different directions. We usually travel with the same souls. We are in a soul group or soul family, but that doesn’t mean they are going to want to go where you are at one particular time. There may be other things that they want to experience.
And so you love them and accept them, but of course, eventually you will all be together again.
Seeker: Can The Council please guide me if it’s possible for my family to incarnate with me in Sirius?
Council: If they want to. It’s always their choice, not your choice, their choice. And you may speak to them in spirit, and they may say, “Fine, let’s do it again.”
Seeker: If so, what are the steps we should follow to only be on Sirius going forward?
Council: In this reality you can use your imagination to think what it would be like back there, and to have the intention you want to be there. See what it’s like, the way you want it to be, but feel it as if it’s familiar, as if you’ve done it before.
And so you can set that up. But we can tell you that it will make you feel good here that you are setting it up, and yes you are. But when you get back in spirit, if you’re still going to want that, you’ll create it. But you may not want that when you are in spirit, but you can have comfort that you want to go back to Sirius, and you want to go home, and you want your family to be there.
Talk to their spirits at night. In your mind, talk to them and say, “This is what I want. This is what I want my next life to be like.” Is there an interest? Have a reason you want to be with them. Have a lesson that you want to learn, or a challenge, or how you want to be helpful. And as these discussions go on, you will all set it up when, and where, and how it can happen.
Seeker: I would also like to take some guidance in finding a job. Can The Council please guide me on how I can manifest a job in the Federal sector as a remote position?
Council: We would say for you, any Federal position that has to do with research of any kind, apply there.
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How Do I Create What I Desire?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsay. It’s a little different than most of our posts because it describes a half-hour private telephone session that Lindsay scheduled with us to talk with The Council. We thought the information offered to Lindsay in this session would be useful to all the readers of this blog, and she has graciously permitted us to post it. Thank you so much, Lindsay, for allowing us to make the contents of your session public.
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Council: Hi, how may we help you?
My Body Is Very Itchy
Lindsay: Well I have quite a variety of questions today. One of them is about itching. My body is very itchy, and it has been for probably the last 10 years, I get rashes all over, and I was just at the dermatologist’s office a couple of days ago. I’ve tried to find different solutions and nothing has quite worked, so I know it’s probably something inside, something energetic.
Council: (Laughing) We’re laughing here because for the last several months, Cynthia has been going through the same exact thing. And she has gone to allergists who say she has no allergies, and there is absolutely no reason for these rashes and itches. And what did help is that the allergist said when you go to sleep at night, you take a Zyrtec, and in the morning when you wake up you take an Allegra. It helps a little, but not much.
So we have to really say it’s the shift – the energy changing in everyone in this reality right now is causing this. And it’s like the cells in your body are trying to get used to it, and at the same time, it’s pushing up and emptying out stresses that you’ve had, old karma that you’ve had, and it’s just pushing it out, and your body is reacting to it. And when it finally does stop, you will feel lighter, and you will have a better understanding of what goes on in this reality.
But have you found that the itching has become more pronounced now than it was before?
Lindsay: It goes through cycles. So at this very moment, it’s actually a lot less than it has been.
Council: Oh, that’s good.
Color Breathing Exercise
Lindsay: That’s because I read one of your posts from a couple of weeks ago, and you suggested the color breathing because maybe some of the chakras weren’t working properly, but I’d like to do all of them.
Council: Well we would say most of these cases, and really for anything that goes wrong in the body, I don’t know if you’ve heard of the prophet, Edgar Cayce, but he was big on spinal adjustments. Once the body is aligned, it can begin to heal itself. So it’s not something you have to do all the time, but that would help.
Lindsay: Okay.
Council: And we see for you, the fifth and sixth chakra needs help. So that’s the throat, the forehead, and the pineal gland. We would say for now to do the chakra breathing exercise at least once a week. And then, in this reality, drink a lot of water. You can try putting things on your skin, but it’s coming from the inside that’s being pushed out. And this has started slowly, about 20 years ago when this shift began to take place.
So you might find that you feel good, the itching goes away, it comes back, and that’s all it is. It’s that the cells in your body are trying to get used to this new energy. And we’ve told a lot of people, the nervous system, it’s like flicking a switch to turn a light on and off, on and off. Even though this energy is incredible, it’s good, the whole body is saying, “What the heck is going on?” It’s really nothing to worry about. It will pass. But the deeper it goes, more and more stuff will come up. You may remember something. You may get angry at things and at old memories. It’s just pushing it out. And then again, you may remember nothing, but you just sort of feel odd, like, “I don’t feel like myself. What is this?” And that’s what it is.
Lindsay: Yeah. I felt that lately That odd feeling. I just feel lost.
Council: Ah, yes. We hear that a lot. Feeling lost. You don’t belong. What’s going on? Nothing is the same. It’s a big change, and it takes quite a long time to go through it. You’ll go through it as much as your body in this reality can handle, but it’s nothing terrible. And so, in a way, when it happens, if you could tell your body, “This is wonderful. I’m very grateful. Go ahead. Keep healing, keep healing, keep changing, I’m ready.” And those thoughts will help you lessen feeling kind of odd, but everyone is having it. We were laughing that you have the exact same symptoms as Cynthia
Lindsay: (Laughing) Right. That’s so wild. I feel for Cynthia. I know what it’s like to be itchy. Well thank you. I appreciate that answer.
Cutting Out Sugar
When I spoke to you about four years ago you guys told me that I needed to cut out sugar. And it’s really easy for spirit to say that, but it’s so hard. I’m working on it. I’m working on discipline. All the things we’ve talked about over the years. But as far as cutting out sugar, you had said to cut out all sugar, but I wondered about foods like bread and things that turn into sugar, like processed foods. Are those in that category, or not?
Council: Yes, but you cut down on it. If you like pasta, if you like bread, it’s almost impossible to say, “Okay, I won’t have it anymore.” You just cut down on that. And the days that you do have processed foods, it’s very important to drink a lot of water so it moves out of your system.
But are you cutting down on regular sweets? Where are you on this?
Lindsay: I’m doing pretty good. It ebbs and flows. I do really good, and then we have fudge, and that’s amazing, but then I feel kind of wonky the next day, and I know this is probably because I had sugar yesterday. I’m just trying to find a balance where I can be healthy, but sugar is a tough one. It’s everywhere.
Council: And so when you do have the sugar, maybe before it or after it, try and have some protein. That will help take away the response you have to sugar. But when you’re used to having a lot of sugar, it is very difficult, and people get very frustrated, but you do the best you can. And the body – especially since what’s going on now with the energy shift – will get used to it, not right away, but a little at a time. But just know, okay, let me have some protein.
Lindsay: I can do that. That makes sense. I’ve been reading similar things, so I think that’s a good compromise.
Council: A friend of Cynthia’s says – and we can ask you to do it, it hasn’t worked for her, but you can try it – when you see a cookie, or ice cream, or something you want, turn your back on it and wait 10 minutes. After 10 minutes you won’t want it anymore. Your desire will pass. So it might work. People have tried it and it works, but because we’re hanging out in Cynthia’s body, we know it doesn’t work for everyone. (Laughter)
Lindsay: Okay. I appreciate that.
Meditation
As far as meditation is concerned, you said I should do the color breathing about once a week. Sometimes when I do the color breathing, I’m imagining the colors, and some of them in my mind, I can’t get them to behave like I want them to. I imagine the energy flowing down my spine and it gets about halfway and then it disperses. I can’t get it all the way down. I wonder if that’s just my brain. Am I getting distracted? Is there actually some type of energy blockage?
Council: Let’s see what happens with you.
When you do this meditation, do it slower, the breathing with the colors. Now many, many people cannot imagine the shapes and the colors. Some people just don’t have that within them, to be able to picture that. So what we want to tell you is that the body is very, very intelligent. And you will get a better response if you’re getting frustrated with the colors, is just to think – start with the first chakra – okay, there’s a box. And you don’t have to try and see it. You just say to the body, “There’s a box. I’m filling it with red energy. Okay, now I’m breathing it in. I’m breathing it down to the first chakra, then up to my head, and now I’m emptying it out and I’m putting the red energy back in the box. If you just think those steps, it will work. It’s good to keep trying every now and then to see it, but you’re stuck along the way.
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The third chakra of yours is a little blocked. So you try, but there’s nothing to get frustrated about. You just think the words, and it’s the same thing.
Lindsay: Okay. So I would do color breathing once a week. Basically, I’m trying to understand all the different meditations and how often I should be doing them. Because I also want to be listening and quiet, but I also want to do visualizations, you know, and color breathing. So I guess I’m just trying to find a balance between being in meditation and all my worldly responsibilities.
Council: Don’t be so hard on yourself, but every day if at all possible – and this is very, very important – find at least 10 minutes to sit in a chair with your eyes closed and just relax. Sometimes you can picture a color going around you. Sometimes you can just have a feeling. You can say to yourself, “I’m at peace.” What does that feel like? And try to imagine what it feels like. Do you get a picture of walking in a forest or on a beach? But if you get no picture, it’s still okay. Just give it that 10 minutes.
And then some people, and we believe the spirit, Abraham, has said, “Just sit in a chair and find a sound somewhere: cars passing or an air conditioner. Just listen to it. Don’t think of anything. Just listen to it. and then many, many people feel when they meditate that they should have no thought. That’s ridiculous. You will always have thoughts. So what you do is you acknowledge, “Oh, okay. I don’t feel like I’m meditating. I’m thinking of going shopping later.” Okay, that’s fine, but it’s the discipline of you bringing your mind back to the 10 minutes of just relaxing. So that’s good every day.
Are you trying to create something in your life right now?
Creating What You Desire
Lindsay: Yes. My husband and I are trying to create our next steps, what we’re going to do for work basically. We talked to you guys about it several times. You told us what to do, and we’re just so scared. It’s hard, basically, in a nutshell. It’s hard to take that leap. We had talked to you about it before and you said that Cynthia had been in the same position. When the finances are good, it’s very hard to leave. So we want to start our own business and be on our own.
Council: So the easiest way to create – and many people don’t do it this way – that’s why it takes so long. First of all, get an idea of what you want. And it doesn’t have to be perfect, but you have some sort of idea of what you want to do. Now the secret to this is you sit in a chair, you meditate, and you’re thinking about whatever you want. Before you start thinking about how you want it to be – the business that you want – you have to get yourself in a really happy, joyful energy.
So we say before you go to what you want, sit in a chair and come up with a memory that makes you happy, maybe it makes you laugh. And if you can’t find memories, fantasize. You can think of something silly. But when you feel like you can almost sit there with a smile on your face because it feels so good, that’s the time. You get to that point, and now you’re feeling really, really good. Now ask yourself, “What is it that I want to create?” Because that energy of happiness and joy makes what you want, happen much faster. Like if you’re miserable, and you don’t feel good, and you’re meditating, meditating is always good, but you will not create as fast as if you get to the feeling of joy and then start thinking.
And then you can tell yourself – which is important – “I want this, but I may come up with different ideas, and that’s okay. I need to be shown what to do.” They always say they can’t step in and help you unless you ask for it.
So whether you believe in guides, or angels, or whatever, you sit and you think, “Well, I think this is what I want. I could change my mind. I need a sign.” Now when you ask for a sign, you will get it. Every day you ask for a sign, and it will come. But the most important thing for you to remember is, you don’t have to know how it’s going to come. You don’t have to know how you’re going to do it. The universe, God, or whatever you believe in will get it to you. You’re asking for it. You’re saying you’re ready for it. “I need help. Show me, show me, show me.” It will come.
And if you can imagine it, if you get to that happy place and you actually imagine how you think you want it, that’s wonderful, but when you imagine it, stop and say to yourself, “Okay, now I have this new business. What does it feel like?”
So when you imagine and you ask, that’s putting out into the universe what you want. When you can pretend you have it already, and it feels good, that’s the magnet. A lot of people forget the feeling. The feeling is what draws what you want back to you. So the thoughts go out into the universe. You feeling it, pretending like you’re a little child, pretending you’re a cowboy, and you know how kids, they really believe it and they feel it. If you can do that with what you want, that’s your magnet, and that brings it to you.
So you have all the steps now for how to create. And the nice thing is you can change your mind. If you’re creating and then you’re like, nah, that’s not it, this doesn’t feel right, I really don’t want that. Okay, so change your thought. Change what you’re imagining. There’s no right. When you jumped into this reality, you knew one of your best things that came with you was that you have a choice. In everything you have a choice.
So say you want this wonderful job, but it’s making you nervous. You’re afraid. Okay, so you acknowledge it. “I’m afraid of the success. I’m afraid of having it. Suppose I can’t do it.” You just go, “Uh oh. Okay. Look at what I’m doing. Look at what I’m sending out.” Now change the thought. That’s your choice. You acknowledge it. You never try to push it away. Acknowledge it, but then change it. “No. Okay, this is what I want.”
So you know what we teach, and all of the spirits that are coming in now are teaching: there’s fear and there’s love. Do you want to sit in fear and slow up or stop what it is you’re trying to create? Or do you want to love it? Know that you’re a very powerful spirit with choices of where you go. And there’s no wrong decision. If you don’t like it, you change it. It is that simple.
And we tell so many people it’s not easy, but it’s very simple. Just acknowledge what you don’t want and change your thought. But now you have the whole thing. You have chakras, you know to meditate for 10 minutes and just relax. You know, “Okay, I want to create something. Let me get to that happy place first. Once you feel it, bing, you go into it. You imagine it, you create like a little kid. “Oh, I’m really this. I’m an astronaut.” And feel it, and it’s going to come. It’s going to come more easily than you could ever believe.
Lindsay: Well that’s exciting.
Council: So you have a lot to do, but it’s all good.
Lindsay: Yeah. I’m excited. I think I’m ready. I’m more ready maybe than my husband. I don’t know.
Council: You get excited and you tell him, “Oh, this is what I learned. This is how we do it. Let’s do it together. Maybe we’ll find time to meditate in the same room. Maybe not, but you be the teacher. You show the way.
Lindsay: Okay. That sounds good.
I Want To Write
I want to write. I’m ready to start writing. I’m just nervous about how it’s going to go, I guess, but I’ll visualize it.
Council: So what are you nervous about with the writing?
Lindsay: I don’t know. Being successful, or it turning into something. I guess I’m nervous I’m not good enough.
Council: Tell yourself, “I’m writing this just for me. Let’s see what I put out here. I’m interested to see what I’m thinking and how I’m writing it. It’s just for me.” And then that takes the pressure off of you, like it’s got to be good enough, who’s going to read it? Is it going to be successful? This is just for you.
And then you call in spirits. We have taught that your whole life you have a spirit that’s with you – your main spirit. For different parts of your life, other spirits come in, help you, and then leave. So if you want, you can tell your main spirit, “I need help writing.” And it will come in and help you. There is always, always help there, but you have to ask for it. And then that spirit will stay with you for as long as it takes. And then you want to be a dancer. So, okay, I need a spirit to show me how to dance and help me get there. And always say, “It’s just for you.” And that takes all the pressure off.
We Never Tell You What To Work On
Lindsay: Okay. Is there time for one more question?
Council: Okay, Yes.
Lindsay: I just wanted to know if there is anything that my guides or higher self would like me to work on.
Council: Oh, we would never tell you what to work on. Never, never, never. That’s like when we sometimes get questions like, should I marry this person? Should I leave this job? We will never, ever tell you what to do because the choice is yours. So think about everything you want. Just do what feels good.
Like right now you’re talking about the writing. Sit down and do it. Start it. And if you have the idea, well maybe I should be doing this, but when you think of it, it’s not a comfortable feeling, then forget it because it’s not coming from your higher self. Your higher self will give you all the ideas you need that you thought of before you came into this reality. So wait and think about doing this, think about doing that. If you try it and you don’t like it, nope, that’s not what you want this time. So you’ll always know by how you feel.
You should love what you do, whether it’s playing, or work, or whatever. You should absolutely love it. Once you have to force yourself or drag yourself through it, it’s not going to happen. Just like if you read a book, and you start reading it, and it’s like you’re forcing yourself to finish it. That’s a waste of time. Your whole self is telling you, “I don’t like this.” So you shut the book and you get another book. And that’s how simple it is. Pay attention to how you feel. That’s always your higher self talking to you.
Lindsay: I love that. I can do that. That’s an easy thing to check in with myself.
Closing
Bob: This was a remarkable session, Lindsay.
Lindsay: Thank you so much, Bob. I really appreciate it.
Bob: We thank you. Please consider the possibility of us making the recording available to our readers of our blog. It seems like there’s a lot of information that readers can benefit from. You should be very proud of the work that you did here today.
Lindsay: Well thank you. I really appreciate it. And I don’t have to think about it. I would absolutely be okay with you guys sharing this with everyone because I gain so much from other people and what they share, so I’m totally okay with it. But I look forward to listening to the recording, and I hope to chat with you guys again soon.
Bob: Cynthia’s laughing.
Cynthia: (Laughs) Good luck with your itches. I understand.
Lindsay: The same to Cynthia.
Bob: Thank you so much for this opportunity to do this session with you, Lindsay.
Lindsay: Thank you. I appreciate it, and I hope you guys enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Bob: We hope you do too. And as we say on the blog, until the next time.
Lindsay: Until the next time. Bye Bob and Cynthia
Cynthia: Bye-bye.
Bob: Bye
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Should I Accept A Healing Apprenticeship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kaitlin.
Kaitlin: Hi, Bob & Cynthia. It’s been a couple of years since you did a private reading for me. How are you? I have a question for you. In my reading, The Council said that on my path I would find different things I’d be interested in, and I would be a healer. I have found this to be true. I found something that I’m interested in that I want to pursue. I feel a little scared because it would be something I practice on my own, and I don’t know if it would bring a stable income.
Council: Isn’t it wonderful to be scared of something new, and then change your thought about it? “Wow! I’ve created something new for myself.” This will be an adventure. It’s always an adventure – scary at first – when you learn something new. But we will say here, if you enjoy it, do it. Face the fear and do it anyway, and it will bring to you an abundance of whatever it is that you need. So we would say, all spirits set up things that are a little frightening or new to learn. We’re all here to learn, not just to sit around.
So you can be of service to people. We see that would be very good for you. You can become great in the arts. You can become helpful to the less fortunate. Anything that brings you of service and makes you feel good, that’s the way to go. And so whatever it is, if you have to do it alone, you do it alone. but you do it quietly. You don’t have to tell anybody what you’re up to. Just try it and see where it takes you. Once again, one thing will lead to another, to another, to another, and you will have experiences that bring you joy.
Kaitlin: However, that’s not even my question. Besides this healing modality that I want to study, I was recently offered to be an apprentice to become a Pilates teacher after doing just two classes.
Council: Wonderful.
Kaitlin: This feels like something that the universe just handed to me.
Council: It handed it to you because you created it. Nothing that comes to you is not created by you. And so you have an offer of something different. And how does that feel?
Kaitlin: And it would provide a great income. However, there are things that I want to do, like travel on my own this year, and be a bit more free. And I don’t know if I want to commit to a year-long apprenticeship at this time, or even if I am interested in teaching Pilates in the first place.
Council: There is no wrong choice. If you agree to do this, you are making a commitment, and you need to learn to fulfill the commitment. But it’s only a year, and then you have learned things. You have met special people along the way, and you will get some joy from it, and then a year passes quickly, and then you can move on to travel and do other things.
So one will bring you an abundance of money, which will help you eventually get to do all the other things you want to do. So it could make you feel stuck, but then you change it to, this is preparing me, this is helping me get what I need to go on my new adventure of traveling and learning other things. So it’s how you look at it. And then if you feel – thinking about teaching – being still for a year, if that’s so horrible for you to commit to, then you don’t. There is no wrong choice here.
You think of it as being helpful, to prepare you for what you want to do, to get you more money, to get you more experience around people. Or you go straight to traveling around and doing other things. And so the choice, of course, as always is yours. And there is no wrong choice because if you commit to this, after the year you’re off and doing other things you want to do. Isn’t that a wonderful way to experience so many different things within a year or two when you start traveling?
And so we would say, think of it and decide what feels good in your body. What feels good when you think of it? Teaching for a year? “Oh, you’re a teacher.” People will come to you to learn how to do things. You will help people with how to do things they couldn’t do before. You’ll help people to feel good. That’s a wonderful thing. But if that’s not what you do, you will go off and do other things and still be of service. And so when you think of it that way, the choice will be easier for you to make and not so fearful.
Kaitlin: Do you think I’m silly to turn down this offer? And should I accept this opportunity because it was literally handed to me, and it’s a great offer? Or even though it scares me, it’s okay to say no and not commit to it now? I just feel like I’m not sure. even though it’s a wonderful offer. But at the same time, maybe I should take it because it was so easy and just unfolded for me. I can be a bit stubborn, so I’d love your opinion.
Council: First we must tell you, we’ll never tell you what to do. That’s your free will. We would tell you how to think about it, how to prepare for it, and then make a choice and tell you it will feel good when you make the choice. There are no shoulds – you should do this, you should do that. Everything will come around, you’ll be on your path, and you’ll get to where you’re supposed to go.
We’d say, instead of feeling miserable or fearful, and thinking you could be wrong, let that go and start thinking, “Wow, I have a great opportunity. Either way, there’s a great opportunity in front of me, and now let’s see what feels good to me.” So picture yourself teaching. Picture yourself traveling. What is it that you see? And which one feels better? And then you’ll make the choice, but you will get exactly where you want to be.
And so we send you love. And we send everyone happy feelings. Enjoy the day. Enjoy your life. Be grateful. Be happy. Think of things that you have done that brought you joy. Imagine things you can do that bring you joy, and then move forward.
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Do Reptilians and Greys Incarnate As Ordinary People?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: Hi. I’ve read a lot about the New Age and I’ve been wondering for a long time if there are beings like the Reptilians and the Greys, etc. incarnated as human beings?
Council: They take on the form of a human being to blend in with our reality. These Greys or Reptilians are in that form, but coming here to learn and fulfill their purposes. They have the ability to show themselves as a human from this reality, to look like a regular person, and to blend in.
And so they are here to follow our rules, to learn more about us, and to teach us. And yes, when they come in, they are still the Greys, as you call them, or Archileans, or whatever name you like to give them. But they are from another dimension, they are from another system, but they are here for their reasons and will perform and look like a regular human.
Bob: Is it possible to estimate the percentage of human beings that have Reptilian or Grey ancestry?
Council: The percentage changes all the time, and so that is not what’s of importance. What is of importance is how do you know when you’re in their presence? How do you respond? Do you teach this entity with respect? With kindness? So they would learn that from us, and they will learn from our behavior how we are, how to be, and how not to be. So as they will teach us in ways that will advance us, we teach them.
Bluestar Child: I’m not referring only to groups like the Elite or the Illuminati, etc., but to ordinary human beings. I’m referring to your butcher, your baker, your friends, your partner, and your family.
Council: Exactly. The butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker, the grocery man, the person who makes hamburgers, or someone who waits on you in a store. They will perform, and arrive, and take the position they look for in any position that would help them, and help us. And so, yes, they are in government. Yes, they are in law enforcement. Yes, they are in banking and all the important careers. They are everywhere that we can think, and yet you would never know it.
Bluestar Child: If these Reptilians and Greys incarnate as human beings, I’d like to know:
- If these beings have a soul, or not.
Council: Yes, they have a soul. Everything that’s alive has a soul on whatever level they are at, but there’s a soul in everything that lives.
Bluestar Child: That is, if they have a connection with the Source.
Council: Everything has a connection with the Source. The Source creates all. It creates what we need at the time, what is asked for, what you ask for, and what groups ask for. The Source creates what is needed. If it’s here, it’s part of Source.
Bluestar Child: If they are the so-called integrated psychopaths and narcissists, or if all human beings are beings of light with a connection to the Source, and are simply fulfilling their life contract of playing the role of “bad people”.
Council: They are all connected to Source. They are all of the light. How they perform when they are here, whether it’s what we look at as good, or bad, or evil, is part of what they also want to learn, what they want to show us, and what we call into our reality. Everything is part of Source.
It’s by choice, the form we take. It’s by choice what our characters are. It’s by choice what we want to express. It’s by choice what we want to learn.
Bluestar Child: 2. If there’s a way to realize that someone is one of these beings, is it to look into their eyes, because it’s said that the eyes are the mirror of the soul?
Council: If you feel you can tell by looking into their eyes, then look. But we would say more than look into the eyes, feel their presence. Feel how they are around you. See how you feel when you are around them. Feelings will tell you more than just looking into the eyes. People can look you straight in the eye and lie, and smile, and you will agree to accept it, or not. You cannot fool how they feel. You will know. Feeling is more important.
And so we would say when you are around certain people, how does it feel? Even if they smile at you, how does it feel? Is there something bothering you in your gut? Or do you feel elated and wonderful around this person? Learn first with the sense of feeling. And that is for relationships, careers, or anything you want to develop. Go with the feeling, and be open.
Bluestar Child: 3. If you discover such a being in your life, what should you do? Protect yourself by raising your vibration?
Council: You don’t know if you need to protect yourself. If someone is here in the form of a grocery store owner and he is here for his or her purpose, you don’t have to protect yourself from that, but allow them to be, and see how you are around that person.
So the best thing, not only with different entities, but with everybody, is for you to raise your vibration. Every day try to raise your vibration. How do you do this? You do this by feeling good, by thinking wonderful, happy thoughts, by being grateful, and by remembering things that make you smile. That will raise your vibration. Helping others will raise your vibration. Tuning into the feeling of love will raise your vibration. Knowing that you are a spirit and you are connected to the Source will raise your vibration. And knowing that you want to do good while you are here will raise your vibration. Just that thought.
Bluestar Child: Or accept them and integrate their existence normally, as the yin/yang duality within the Source in the third dimension?
Council: It’s a wonderful experience for the other entity and for yourself. And we are here to accept people and to allow them to be who they are. You don’t know their journey, their lessons, your lessons, what they want to experience, so just allow them to be.
If there was something to fear, again we say go with your feelings. You’ll know more by feeling. If there’s an uneasy feeling, if there’s a tightness in your stomach, something is telling you this may not be a good place to be right now. So again, follow your feelings.
Bluestar Child: I’d appreciate it if The Council could shed some light on these suspicions that have been roaming around in my head for some time because I feel confused about the nature of the reality in which we live. Sorry for my long email. Thank you for all the work and wisdom. Greetings.
Council: The reality in which you live is much larger than you know at this time. There are forms in your reality that are right next to you that you cannot see, but sometimes you will get a feeling like, “Oh, it felt like somebody was right near me. It felt like someone touched me.” There is so much going on.
There are entities from different places in our solar system and beyond that. And so just go through life acknowledging there are other beings here. There are other forms of life that we know of right now. And yet you are safe. How do you feel? How do you go about your day? Are you putting out love? Are you putting out compassion? Are you putting out service and helpfulness?
And as you do more and more of that, these other forms will learn from that. So that’s a way you’re teaching them to be better than they are. Or maybe they know so much more, and they can be so much nicer and loving than you are, that you will learn from them. So just accept. And that is just the tip of the iceberg.
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I Have Pre-Birth Memories Concerning Blood Type
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Om3ga.
Om3ga: I have pre-birth memories about planning my life, choosing my parents, etc.
Council: Yes. Many people are remembering that now.
Om3ga: One of my memories is discussing compatibility with my chosen body, specifically about blood type.
Council: We do choose our bodies – if we want to be tall, if we want to be short, if we want blue eyes, if we want brown eyes, if we want long hair. We choose many of the things we want to experience. We also choose if we’ll be a sickly person, and if we’ll perhaps conquer a disease. We’ll have some part of our body – our knees, our back – that hurt. We do have the ability to choose all of this, and there is always a reason behind it, and you’ll not usually remember the reason. But again, if you do not like what you are experiencing, you can change it.
Om3ga: Is compatibility with blood type because different blood types have different frequencies, and depending on the spirit, some blood types may be more compatible?
Council: The blood type does not have a certain frequency. The whole body has a frequency, and this frequency comes from your thoughts. If you are living in fear, if you are living in negative thoughts, your frequency will be low. If you are positive, and you experience joy, and you celebrate your life, you’re walking around in a very high frequency.
So we can not say your frequency is up to your blood type unless, of course, you believe this. If you believe this, you’re going to make it that way. But the whole body – how it operates and what it thinks – is in control of the frequency, not the blood type.
Bob: Can you address the idea of compatibility of blood types?
Council: We do not see where it’s a real compatibility. Before you come into this life, if you create that you’d like to have someone with the same blood type – it would make you feel safer, it would make you feel good – then yes, you’ll create a life where that is important. But the blood type is not important unless you want to have a blood type that affects you, makes you a weaker person, or can bring in diseases if you set it up that way.
But it will all come from your thoughts. Your thoughts create your whole body, your whole life, and how you experience it. But if it makes you feel good, for whatever reason, then we’d say go with it. Find someone with the same blood type. If you’re going to have a child and you need to experience this child as having some sort of disability, then you’d set it up so the doctors would know when you are pregnant, or after the child is born, that this child has a disability because of this blood type. It depends on how you set it up.
Normally in spirit, we don’t concentrate on blood types, but yet there are many people that do. For whatever reason, they want to experience something. They want to learn from it.
So it is very interesting, and before you go to sleep at night, you can ask to remember parts of your life in spirit. What do you think you set up? And you will eventually have a dream, or a sign, or something because we will always answer what you need to know. And as we say now, more and more people are remembering. And more and more people are feeling certain ways, and saying the famous saying right now: “I feel this way. I don’t know why.” Well, “I don’t know why,” means you’re starting to remember or get in touch with what you were setting up in spirit.
So look for these clues. And again, you’re at a good point in your life to explore further than what you have experienced.
Blessings to everyone. And we see you all growing in leaps and bounds right now. And you will learn from your thoughts. You will learn from what you see going on in your life. You will learn from your planet. And what is going on? Just watch what is going on in your life and you will know what you are creating.
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Why Have I Never Had A Romantic Relationship?
This post answers relationship questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: In general in my life, I have a pattern of avoiding closeness and intimacy, and I feel easily constrained. I have never been in a romantic relationship, and especially when I was younger I felt considerable discomfort when I was approached in this respect.
Council: This was pre-planned for you to accept who you are, to be independent, and to watch and learn from the people around you. This was more for you to learn about you in this particular lifetime.
Anonymous: On the other hand, I don’t feel that I’ve had extremely strong desires or commitment to change in this area, but continuing as I have been also doesn’t feel right to me.
Council: Remember, at this point this was pre-determined by you before you came into this body, but you have the ability to change anything that you have pre-planned. And so with that, acknowledge you are at a place where you are uncomfortable in this solitary life. Maybe you’d like to experience a relationship, but not a permanent relationship. We see that’s not what you wanted. You can focus on perhaps even having a close friend. You can focus on that and then decide whether you like this, or whether it is better being more on your own and learning more about you.
Anonymous: What causes my blocks, and how can I address and heal them?
Council: There is no block. This was a choice. And the way you change this is to focus on what you’d like to experience now. Acknowledge what you planned, and now you’d like to change it a little. And the more you can focus on how you’d like it to be, to visualize it, feel it, what it might be like, you can change it. So there’s nothing to remove. Possibly there is a change or a new experience that’s wanted, and you are all in charge of that.
Anonymous: Or are they not blocks, and this is an indication that I intended to live a solitary life and focus on other things?
Council: You did intend that, but you have the ability and the power to change what you previously planned to do.
Anonymous: I try to visualize what I think each version of life could look like, but nothing feels like something I can commit to or settle into. Thank you.
Council: If you are visualizing and it doesn’t feel good, remember the feeling you get is from your higher self. If it doesn’t feel good going into a different sort of relationship, that is your higher self speaking to you.
And so we would say, then focus more on being happy, and different sorts of relationships come into your life so that there is a change and you do enjoy it. But to push and try to create something that does not feel good will not work well.
Blessings to everyone. And we see you all growing in leaps and bounds right now. And you will learn from your thoughts. You will learn from what you see going on in your life. You will learn from your planet. And what is going on? Just watch what’s going on in your life and you will know what you are creating.
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How Can I Be Positive When I Feel So Depressed?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: Hi, I’m hoping for help. I find that I’m having a difficult time being part of this world. I understand I shouldn’t be burdened by all of the atrocities of this Earth, but when I can’t unsee the things I’ve seen, and continue to see, it brings a sense of despair and sadness that I can’t shake.
Council: When you see these things that disturb you, can you stop in that moment and say, “I have chosen to bring this to me? I have chosen to be aware of that. Why would I choose that? Do I need to see it differently? Do I need to pray for people involved in this? Do I need to understand that no matter what happens now, we go on, and when we end this life and perhaps conjure it up again, we learn to understand it differently?”
So when these things that disturb you come into your field of vision, or you hear it, whether it’s on the TV or from other people, you have called that in. This would not come to you if it did not match your vibration. And it’s coming to you because you want to learn to deal with it. You want to learn how to change it. You want to see the good and the bad, and not be disturbed by either one, but to pray and know that in the end, everything will be alright.
What do you think when you see these things? How do you feel? Do you get angry? Why? Can you change it by being angry? It’s all about you learning about you, why you called it in, and learning how to handle it. And perhaps when you work with it long enough, you let it go. You realize all things change. And you just sit, and watch, and wish for the best. You imagine the best and in that, peace will come.
Anonymous: How can I battle these thoughts and continue to be positive when I’m so depressed?
Council: Acknowledge being depressed. Here it is again. Here are these thoughts that bother me. So if they bother you, do you sit in those thoughts? No. You are to change your thoughts to something pleasant, even if you have to force yourself to do this. When you change the thought, the feeling in your body will change.
Blessings to all, and have fun with your creations.
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I Feel Like Women Should Not Tolerate Or Allow Sexism
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to our post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me?
Anonymous: I do have a follow-up question for The Council regarding this topic (sexism). You mention allowing people to live their own path. I have a hard time allowing this behavior.
Council: How would you feel if you believed a certain way, or you did things a certain way, and people wouldn’t let you behave the way you want to? They wouldn’t allow you to have your own thoughts. That’s what you are explaining here. We are here to allow. It may be very difficult for us to allow, but we are here to learn that.
Bob: This reader seems to feel that they have a difficult time allowing this particular behavior (sexism).
Council: It doesn’t matter what the behavior is. You have some sort of problem with allowing it, and so change how you look at it. It may be upsetting for you, but can you say, “This is that spirit’s path. This is the way it wants to be. This is what it is choosing.”
They don’t need your okay to be this way, but can you open your heart to accept the way people are? You don’t have to agree with them, but you can not hope that everyone will think the way you think.
Anonymous: Why must we allow negative behavior?
Council: Because would you want to be living with robots that all behave a certain way and everyone is happy and good? What would you learn from this? How will you grow? How will you learn to expand if it’s only people who behave a certain way, who speak a certain way, and carry themselves a certain way? There’s learning in this for you. You may not like it, but you chose it.
Anonymous: Sexism is degrading and demeaning. I personally don’t feel like women should tolerate that behavior, or allow it when it comes to themselves, or when they see other people being victimized.
Council: Who are you to tell other women what they should allow and what they should accept? Again, you can only allow and accept what works for you. You can not say these women are wrong and how do they let this happen? There are reasons they are going through this and you don’t have to know what those reasons are.
Again, you are not allowing. This is your big, big lesson. So calm yourself down. Tell yourself, “I don’t need to understand this upsets me. So if people talk the way I don’t like, if they behave the way I don’t like, I don’t have to get angry. I don’t have to go into a big speech about how they’re behaving. I walk away.” Take yourself out of the presence of this sort of behavior. You’re in control. You don’t have to stand there and fight because it’s going to get you nowhere.
And you are determined to have these people act the way you want them to act. How would you like it if that was reversed?
Anonymous: Should we not help to raise peoples’ thoughts and vibrations?
Council: Yes, but you don’t stick it down anyone’s throat. And you don’t give anyone your opinion unless it’s asked, unless there’s a healthy dialog going on about this. But even if it is, allow the other people to have their say. If you can’t hear this, then you don’t belong in that dialog because you are not allowing.
Anonymous: Allowing negative behavior helps perpetuate it.
Council: In your reality. In others’ reality, allowing that behavior opens their eyes to try to find a way to change it. And so again, it’s all how you perceive it.
Anonymous: A father who is a womanizer can easily pass that behavior and thought process down to their sons.
Council: That’s one way. And another way is, the child will grow up seeing this and not agree with it, and not like it at all, and be totally different. You are going towards the negative. You are not allowing what’s going to happen. You see it only going in one direction.
Anonymous: When we have the opportunity to teach better options, shouldn’t we take it?
Council: If it’s wanted, yes. If you do it in kindness and show that there is another way without stomping all over somebody else for the way they are behaving, yes, you can do it with love. Everything with love.
Anonymous: I simply can’t turn my head and allow this negative low-vibration way of thinking. Sure, we can’t make someone think a certain way, but we can educate.
Council: If they want to be educated. There could be people around you saying, “Oh, there she goes again with a speech, with a, ‘You can’t take this, and you can’t take that, and this is not right.'” And so there are people that will look at you, where you think you’re doing a great job, and they are so tired of your behavior, but they are allowing you to do and say what you want to. It always goes in both directions.
And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.
We’d like to thank this anonymous reader for having the persistence and courage to take issue with The Council’s guidance in their original post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me? We imagine there are many people who feel the same way. By questioning The Council’s guidance it’s given The Council a valuable opportunity to make an important point about allowing people to behave in ways we don’t agree with rather than trying to change their behavior to be more in line with what we believe.
This point is not always easy to understand, yet it seems fundamental to what The Council has been teaching us for many years. We hope this anonymous reader and other readers who agree with her will be able to consider, as The Council suggests, that there are reasons these people who disagree with them are going through this different point of view, and you don’t have to know what those reasons are to allow them to believe in them.
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Is Alcohol Good Or Bad For My Spiritual Health?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about the use of alcohol and its contribution to spiritual health.
Anonymous: Can you please help me to understand alcohol more? I can’t understand how it’s 100 percent bad. There’s duality. Is it good or bad for spiritual health?
Council: It is both. It’s the choice of the spirit and what it wants to learn by having a relationship with alcohol. Does it help take away depression? Does it help with pain? Does it help you move forward, stay calm, and understand? If you abuse alcohol or use it to help yourself, it’s all in the choice of the soul and what it chooses to be learning at this time.
Anonymous: Where’s the good part? It’s interesting the effect it has on humans.
Council: The good part is there are parties, there are get-togethers and people have a little drink and they know how to handle themselves, and it feels good, and it makes people happy, and it’s a joyous occasion. And then there are the others who become dependent on alcohol and need it more and more so that it controls their life. Again, what does the spirit want?
Anonymous: What is the deeper part of it? I understand there are many lessons to alcohol, but I’d just like to know where I should be standing with it.
Council: We can’t tell you where you should be standing with it. That is for you to observe yourself, along with your feelings, and to see how you are handling it. You have the freedom to learn many, many things from alcohol. It plays a good part and a destructive part, but every soul has a choice. That’s important for everyone to know.
And we’d never come and answer your questions and tell you that you should do this, or you should do that. It’s all your choice and we allow it. It’s so simple for us. Okay, you want to indulge in alcohol and have a wonderful time every now and then. Great. Oh, you want to indulge in alcohol and it’s bringing you down to your knees. It’s destroying you piece by piece. Okay, if that’s what you want, we’re okay with it. We allow. It is your choice, It’s your idea how you want to experience it and what you want to learn from it. Can you turn it around? It’s all up to you.
Anonymous: Also I feel like I can’t get away from alcohol.
Council: That again is a choice. Of course you can get away. Do you have the discipline? Do you have the focus? It’s all a choice.
Anonymous: I don’t feel like I want to stop, but logically I think it might be right. But again, I don’t see how I can get away from it. I feel deeply on alcohol.
Council: We’d say, first of all, stop thinking of it. Stop putting your focus there all the time. You want to get away, you don’t know if you want to get away. Stop giving alcohol your attention. What you focus on, you feed, and it grows.
How about just focusing on, “Ah, I’m at peace, I feel good. What shall I do today? What else do I like to have around me?” Take the focus and move it in a different direction. It’s all what you truly want to experience. You are the only one in control. No one can do this for you.
Anonymous: And I feel deeply on alcohol. Does it amplify my manifestations?
Council: What we see in your energy field is that you are overwhelmed by this. This is almost #1 on your mind. The way you can release it is to meditate. Put yourself in a beautiful garden, or on a beach, or a forest, or someplace else and concentrate on breathing the clean air, maybe drinking some cool water, maybe laying down and relaxing and feeling the sun. Do you see what we’re doing here? Take the focus off of the alcohol and then sooner than you can believe, more and more you’ll be able to go there and focus on other things.
Anonymous: Why do I get deep realizations on alcohol?
Council: Because it’s as simple as that’s how you choose to do it. You can get beautiful, deep realizations in meditation. Just sitting in a chair and thinking of things, and thinking of it one way and then another way. And what would it be like to feel this, or what would it be like to do this, or go there.
Do you see what we’re saying? It’s your focus, over and over. If you think your intention is to get wonderful realizations without the alcohol, you will. So please do not use this as a crutch. We see where your soul wants to go. And where it wants to go right now is to turn the way you’re handling things at this moment.
Bob: To turn things around?
Council: That’s what your soul wants, and it will find a way to do it.
And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.
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Do Pleiadians Come Here And Go Through Abuse For A Reason?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to our post, Do I Have A Connection To The Pleiades Constellation?
Anonymous: Do Pleiadians come here and go through abuse and addiction for a purpose?
Council: Many Pleiadians come here just to observe. They may put themselves in a situation where who they deal with and where they live, the surrounding people will be abusive so they can learn from this situation, watch it, and see how it develops to see how we, in our Earth reality, handle this. At times they might find this situation very interesting and want to experience it, but they can leave immediately, at any time.
And so Pleiadians come to Earth to learn or try to help. So maybe there’s a situation where they help someone being abused, or being an abuser. There are many reasons for Pleiadians to observe these situations, but it’s all a learning situation.
Bob: So it sounds like Pleiadians come here to go through abuse mostly for learning reasons?
Council: And where they are in their emotional reality and how they are developing, they will handle these situations in different ways.
And so again it’s the choice to experience what you focus on, and do you want to turn it around? Where do you want to see this going? Is it helpful to learn this? And how do you use this situation to help others? And that’s how we evolve. We help ourselves, we learn to understand, we learn to love, we learn to help, and we move on.
Bob: Are Pleiadians different from souls that come from other places in this regard?
Council: All souls are one.
Bob: So Pleiadians and all other souls sometimes come to Earth to go through abuse and addiction?
Council: Not all. Again, it’s the choice of the soul.
And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.
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What Am I Here To Do?
This post answers a question for The Council from an anonymous reader about their life purpose.
Anonymous: What am I here to do?
Council: Great question. What do you think you’re here to do? You’re here to do whatever you want, whatever you’ve brought into your life. Do you like it? Do you not like it? Do you want to change it? Is it perfect? You’re just here to create.
You jump into this reality to see what you can do, how to have fun with it, and to meet other spirits that you usually have known before (in other lives). And that’s it. There’s no, you must do this, you must do that.
Many spirits believe, “Am I doing my life purpose? Am I meeting it?” It’s whatever you want it to be. If you only wanted to work in a McDonald’s for the rest of your life, if that’s what you want, then that’s what you do if it makes you feel good. You’re here to have fun. You are here to create things that make you feel good. You are here sometimes to help others on their path. They are here to help you. It’s just experiences.
And then when you leave this reality and you come back into spirit you tell us, “Remember when I did this. And this is what I thought. And this is what I learned. And next time I’m going to do it this other way.” You share with all the spirits what you have done and what you have learned.
There’s not any supposed to do. You have freedom. Your greatest tool when you come into this reality is choice. Choose to do something. If you don’t like it, okay, choose again. It’s as simple as that. Be the creator. Have fun with it and do whatever you want. Find what makes you excited, what makes life interesting, whether it’s working at McDonald’s, picking up garbage off the street, or being a millionaire. Whatever it is, go for it.
Start with your vibration. Start with what you focus on. Stay in that good feeling. Anything you want, you can create.
These are fun questions. We love being part of this, we love watching you, we love giving you supportive energy, and we love seeing you grow. And when you come back here (to spirit) we’ll have a great parade, we’ll have a dinner, we’ll have happiness and dancing, and we’ll all be together again.
And it might help, when you do something that makes you happy, or you help someone, to say to yourself, “Wow, wait till I get back home. Wait till I share what I did with this.” And that’s part of the fun.
And we wish you all love and light, and take out your crayons and your paint brushes, and create the colors, the happiness, and the feelings. Create anything you want.
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I Feel So Disconnected From The World And Other Human Beings
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gayatri.
Gayatri: Please help me. I feel so lost and disconnected from the world, from all other human beings in my life, and human beings in general. This came on me all of a sudden during the COVID pandemic and it’s gotten worse since then.
Council: We’d like to point out here that since the COVID epidemic, a lot of people are going through this, are feeling lost, don’t know how to go back to feeling their old self, or a feeling of being a better self. And it’s all part of the energy in your world, the way it’s creating getting ready to help you through what’s coming up next in your reality.
And so there are many, many people that are depressed, that are feeling alone, that are feeling they’re not even in their own body and they don’t know who they are anymore. This is very common. It’s just showing you that you are very sensitive to energy and you’re picking up other things you’re not used to that are uncomfortable, and so you feel lost.
There’s one way to get through this. Instead of worrying about everything, you now concentrate on you, on reconnecting to you. We’d say every day, even if it’s for a minute, go very close to your mirror and just stare into your eyes. You don’t have to say anything, you don’t have to think anything, just look in your eyes. You’ll begin to feel the part of you, the spirit, that’s within you. It’s taking care of you and reconnecting. Just concentrate on you for now. Start that way.
You’re what they call a traveling spirit, a spirit that’s so sensitive, that’s being bombarded by these other energies. And so it makes you feel not attached to anything. And we can assure you you’re still attached. You are a spirit. You are still you. Go back and find you. Just start by looking in your eyes.
Gayatri: I’ve always thought of myself as a caring and kind soul that sought to connect with source, or God, and all other beings in the loving oneness that exists in the universe. But now I feel like I can’t even think about or feel things, or do things that most normal human beings can. I desperately want to be able to connect with the feeling of all forms of love and empathy, but I find I can’t even take care of myself or anyone else.
Council: You can’t find the words right now to connect with anybody. The only way you can begin this is to take each person you know, one at a time, and as a spirit tell them you send them love, even if you can’t feel a thing. And we want you to say this to the other spirits, even strangers on the street. Look at them. You are a spirit, you know they’re a spirit, and we’re all connected.
And how do you do this? Without words. How would you tell someone you love them without words? How would you feel it within you? Let them know without words that you love them, that you are love. Go for the feeling, not for the words. It’s a hard exercise, but you will grow in leaps and bounds.
Gayatri: I can’t even trust how I process my world with my own body and mind. I really desperately need some answers soon, as I don’t want to lose everyone I’ve held dear in my life: my dear husband, my Dad and family, my husband’s family, and friends. I’ve lost my health, I can’t sense anything normally, or trust what my body is feeling. My oral health and digestive system are awful, and so is my nervous system. My overall body health has become terribly out of shape. I can’t even feel the joy or concrete effects of any exercise.
Council: Your body will react to your thoughts. Your thoughts build your body and build your life. So feeling so confused and out of sorts, your body won’t know how to respond and will not know how to keep itself well. It is confused. It’s the chaos and the loss of not feeling connected. And so again we say, the answer to this is to reconnect with yourself.
Once you start being able to look in your eyes and recognize yourself, little by little you’ll start to feel better, or we’d say align. Your body will align with your thoughts and your health will improve. It’s the thoughts that will get you there. It takes discipline, it takes practice, but if this is what you want – and apparently it is because you’ve created this – you wanted to take this road, this path, to learn how to change everything.
Gayatri: I can’t feel pain, and it goes on: my job, or my ability to even feel like I can do any sort of meaningful work or job again, my purpose, and my will to take care of myself in any way. And I feel so distraught about not having feelings like empathy, or love, or truly feeling sad and crying, or truly feeling joyful and laughing, and authentically bonding with and relating to others. And not looking forward to or being able to create all the wonderful experiences every human being seeks, like romantic love, general love for humanity, traveling, cooking, laughing with and enjoying time with others, being supportive of others, etc.
Council: Being supportive of others, understanding others, connecting with others, the focus in that is on others. The way you heal this and the way you change this is by focusing on yourself and reconnecting with yourself, even if you have to pretend. Let me see if I have a memory. Can I remember something that made me laugh, something that I enjoyed doing in my past, or make something up that you’d like to do in the future?
But the main thing, if you can not do that, is to find a way to look in that mirror every day. And you can do it for a while and feel absolutely nothing. Again, this needs focus, this needs time. And when you keep looking in your eyes, looking for who you really are – which is spirit, and love, and light – you will find it. Things will change. It’s the law of the universe. What you look for you will find.
Gayatri: I really love my amazing and wonderful husband…
Council: Wonderful.
Gayatri: …who is like an angel. Possibly he’s a Pleiadian.
Council: Now do you see? You feel love. You feel it for your husband, so you can feel it when you choose to look for it. Y0u can.
Gayatri: But right now he’s the only person I can even spend time with without feeling completely fearful, inadequate, and like some sort of strange monster that’s reviled by others for being so different from them. I’ve isolated myself from so many people I love and care about. I also feel so bad and awful that I can’t connect deeply with my husband, even though I really deeply want to…
Council: You must connect with yourself first. And you will connect with your husband again.
Gayatri: …and that he has to live with this disconnected and lost energy from me. There’s really so much to describe, but I’m overall very concerned about not being human, and not being able to live a normal human life, or authentically relate to other human beings.
Council: You are human. You are living a human life with challenges, but more than that, you are spirit, and you are so powerful. You have no idea what you can create until you decide to create it, until you decide to connect with who you truly are, to see who you really are. That is your goal, that is your focus. When you reconnect with that, or find the connection because you’re not disconnected, you’re just not feeling it. And you’re not feeling it because of what’s going on in this incarnation for you.
But it’s exactly what you wanted, and you wanted to find a way to change it, and you will. If you do the work, you will. Forget everybody else – being nice, being connected to everybody else. Find you. You are the answer.
Gayatri: I feel so desperate, fearful, negative, manipulative, and I can’t recognize or stand the person I’ve become.
Council: This is something that, in your reality they’ve put it in a category as, you’re a lost soul and you’re experiencing what they call the dark night of the soul. And that’s only happening because you want the experience, the wonderful experience of finding yourself again.
Gayatri: Please, I feel so desperate and hopeless, and really don’t want to fall into a life of despair, wandering the Earth and beyond as a homeless lost soul, terrified of living a dark and despairing existence. I can’t even attend my husband’s family’s upcoming Christmas Eve or Christmas Day celebrations without feeling extremely anxious and scared that I’m not normal, and can’t act normal around them.
Council: You are normal, and this we can promise you. If you do the work, you can change this.
What a brave soul you are to have chosen this experience. And why do you choose this? You chose this because you’re teaching the people around you that see what you’re going through. When you start pulling yourself out of it, they will see it, and it will help them in their life and what they’re going through.
So it was a great courageous decision to go through this. But what you do will affect others, and it’s a wonderful thing. And when you come back into spirit, you want to talk about it with all the other spirits. You want to tell them what it felt like so that we here learn from what you’ve gone through. You are a wonderful teacher to us.
Gayatri: Please, please, I’d appreciate any guidance you may have as soon as possible. I’m hoping even before this upcoming Christmas Eve.
Thank you for all the kind and caring guidance you’ve provided for others. Although I’ve read this guidance, I’m really finding it difficult to focus on positive thoughts without the authentic, deep feelings and emotions that normally come with these thoughts.
Council: The emotions will come. Try to imagine what it would feel like to feel happy again. And even if you can’t feel it, think it. Wow, I’m happy again. I choose to be happy. I choose to connect to myself. I choose to teach the others around me and from my experience. I will grow. I will feel wonderful again, and you will do it.
Remember the thoughts, remember the words, they follow each other. The body will follow what you think and what you say. So you have all the power that you need to change this.
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How Do I Let Go Of An Ex-Friend With Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsey.
Lindsey: I’d greatly appreciate The Council’s insight on a friendship that I’m having a hard time letting go of with love. We’ve known each other for about 15 years, and the last five years haven’t been great. During this time I’ve felt the friendship to be somewhat toxic and one-sided. There was a breaking point for me about three years ago, but I still showed up in group settings. I’ve since distanced myself more this past year, declining gatherings if she would be present. I dream of her often, which I find odd since we’re not in each other’s lives currently.
Council: It’s because subconsciously you do think of this person all the time without being aware of that. And so you would dream of this person, you’d have memories come up about this person, and you’d be, with your human brain, trying to figure out what’s going on, where in a situation such as this you’d have to come more from your heart and not your brain.
And so if it’s a toxic relationship, it’s fine to put an end to it if that’s what you want. But would you stay out of social situations because of this one person? And if you did, then once again your focus is on this person. There would be other people there for you to talk with and hang out with. And so think of it this way. If you need to let go of this relationship, that’s fine. But look at the surroundings, the people you want to be with, or don’t want to be with, and then make the decision for what you really want. And make yourself comfortable in that situation, and learn to focus on these other people. And you would see your feelings would be different hanging out with others in that group.
Lindsey: These past few years I’ve done a lot of self-work and I’m unwilling to allow people in my life that bring down my vibration, or don’t have good intentions.
Council: Ahh, right there, you don’t want people in your life that will bring down your vibration. Let’s see. We will put it this way. You are in control of your thoughts. And so other people that are around you, how you choose to see them will bring your relationship up or down.
Are you practicing accepting people the way they are? Maybe not understanding them. Maybe not even liking the way they react to things, or the way they treat you. But if you could find one good thing, even it’s, “Well, you know, I really don’t like being around this person, or this person annoys me, but they are going through their stuff, and I’ll send them some love.”
Or if I can’t do that, don’t focus on their negative qualities. And so when you don’t focus on these negative qualities, your vibration will not go down. You can simply think, “Oh, they’re on their path. I don’t get it. I don’t have to get it. I don’t have to understand it, but I can accept that.
Lindsey: Do you know if this is a relationship from a past life?
Council: We’d say, yes, there were several past lives. But what we’re trying to teach now and get people to understand, that past life doesn’t matter. It could have been wonderful. it could have been horrible. It could have been some of one and some of the other. You are here now to learn how to focus and create the relationships and life that you want.
And so even though many people like to know about the past – did I have a life with this one, did I have a life with that one – it really doesn’t matter. You are taking leaps up the ladder of enlightenment and growing, where you can let go of the thoughts of the past and see what’s going on now, how you handle it, how you can accept someone, and then just let it go and put your focus somewhere else. You will see a huge change in how you feel, and how your vibration is.
Lindsey: Do you have any advice on how I can be more at peace with the distance between us so I can honor the boundaries I feel are needed?
Council: Honor your boundaries, the ones that make you feel comfortable. Know that you had a relationship for a while. Try to remember the good parts of it and now say, for whatever reason I don’t understand yet, it’s time to let that relationship go. It’s so simple. It’s your choice.
Lindsey: Many thanks for all your guidance.
Council: So focus now on what you want – a new someone in your life, a more peaceful relationship with people around you, being able to feel more love from your heart. Even if you don’t like someone, you can just understand you are a spirit, they are a spirit, and you are all on your own paths.
And so as always, we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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Is My Daughter’s Autism Bringing Her The Life She Desires?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about their autistic daughter.
Anonymous: We have a 3-year-old daughter and a 3-month-old son. Our daughter is autistic and we are going through a challenging phase. Our prayers are unanswered. All I need is reassurance that this is the life my daughter wants and angels are watching her back. Will she achieve her life’s purpose?
Council: It was both of your choosing to have this life together. It was her choosing to be autistic. There are many things that she, as a soul, wants to learn from this, and there are things that you want to learn from this. She is having the exact life that she wishes to have, and so are you. You both agreed to it.
She will develop and you’ll see how this happens. You’ll learn to communicate and form a bond differently than you would with a child without autistic abilities. But we would say to know that this was chosen, know that you both wanted it, and you both want to make this life a wonderful life that you both learn from each other.
Bob: Do you have any comments about Anonymous’s question about angels watching their daughter’s back?
Council: Angels are always around, and they are here to help us, so there’s no reason to worry about that.
Bob: And will she achieve the purpose of her life?
Council: Well, we’ll see what she creates.
We wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lon.
Lon: It’s taken me so long to ask this question because I wanted to ask it wisely and from an enlightened perspective.
My beloved 27-year-old son chooses to be estranged from me. The only explanation I have is that his father brainwashed him against me, especially after my separation from his father 10 years ago. But I suspect his father had been brainwashing him all during my son’s life, as I was often humiliated or invalidated by his father in our son’s presence.
Council: What should be remembered here is that even now at the age of 27, this is his choice to not have you in his life, even if the father brainwashed him and was very negative with what he said about you. It is still your son’s choice whether to bring you back into his life or to just let you go.
And so going through this, the lesson you learn is to accept him the way he is and send him light. Don’t try to force this reconciliation to happen, but in a loving heart and loving energy, send him energy. The energy of love will reach him and it will be his choice whether to accept it.
And we can say here you are in his thoughts, but can you learn the lesson of letting him be who he is? He has to work out his issues around everything that happened. And you, before coming into this incarnation, agreed to be part of this so that you would both learn.
Lon: I only learned two years ago that there was such a thing as parental alienation. My son was my joy and fulfillment in life, and we were truly bonded and always got on well. I thought by now, after a bit of a break, and now that his father passed on two years ago, that he would reach out to me. He’s now living in another country and I found out on social media that he’s married, which broke my heart because even that milestone didn’t cause him to think of me.
Council: And once again these are his issues to work through, and by trying to connect with him or have any sort of communication would not work at this time. If he’s in a place where he doesn’t want to have you in his life, by you trying to force it, it will only push you away.
So we would say work with the vibration of love and do not worry, do not focus on what the father did or what the father said about you. That only brings that energy in and will keep the two of you apart. Just in your mind picture beautiful energy and love going to your son from you. That will change things faster than any letter, any phone call, or anything where you try to make it happen.
Just keep the thoughts positive. Focus on him calling you, or writing you, or coming to see you, and then you have the chance to heal it. That’s what you should focus on. Not what the father did and how hurtful it was. And we understand how hurtful it is at this point. It can be changed if you do the work.
Lon: The only means I have of contact is his email and I don’t know if he blocks the ones I send regularly.
What caused me to bring this heartbreak to myself in this life?
Council: Because you both agreed to it so you could learn to stay in the vibration of love, even when you’re hurting and things aren’t going your way, and that you lost your son right now. And for your son to learn forgiveness for whatever was said to him about you, and to want you in his life. So the both of you agreed to do this.
Lon: And what amends can I make for us to get back together in harmony?
Council: No amends are needed, only the energy of love, thinking of him positively, thinking of him appearing in your life, hearing from him, and that you now have the opportunity to fix this rift and heal it.
And so we wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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Creating What You Desire
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks about karma, a terminated pregnancy and the spirit of the fetus, and light she sees in her head.
Anonymous: Recently I had to undergo a periodical PAP test. The results came back negative, but there are some cell changes and I might need an operation. I’ve had terminated pregnancies. Is this potential operation karma for these terminated pregnancies?
Council: There’s no karma for this unless you’re – in the deepest part of you – feeling guilty and creating what you’d call karma.
And so this is part of an experiment, we should say, that you can create this in your body and then watch it heal, and know that everything is fine, and you create it that way. And you don’t think of surgery, you don’t think of something happening, but always thinking you’re moving on and feeling well. That is very important.
The more you think of karma, the more you’ll create physical and mental handicaps for you to face. And so just remind yourself that everything you’ve gone through, whatever you’ve done in the past, it’s just an experience. What have you learned from it? And you’re moving on with a light, happy thought.
Anonymous: I was writing before about the spirit of the fetus that I had a very strong connection with. My biggest dream is to see each other.
Council: You will always, at one point, see each other, whether it’s in this life, in between lives, or in another life. There will always be the recognition.
Anonymous: You wrote in a previous post that I’ll see this spirit and it will come back to me. Is this still the case?
Council: We’d say of course it’s always up to you. If you believe it will happen and you’re calm with the thought that you’ve both agreed to this, then yes, it will come back to you. If you begin to have doubts, then there will be something you can create where you don’t come together again.
It’s so important for everyone who hears us, what we’re trying to get through to you is that, yes it’s wise to ask this question and that question, and maybe get some help, or maybe get a reminder, but you are the creator. If you come from a place of doubt or fear, you’ll have a hard time creating what you want to create.
If you can just flow with a nice, calm, happy vibration, and think of everything the way you want it to be, you’ll bring that to you, and that’s how your life goes. And you could be creating something today, and tomorrow, and the next day you have doubts and it stops. It slows up. It doesn’t move. It doesn’t come into your vibration because that happy vibration of you having what you want doesn’t match what you’re thinking. You have to match up the vibration of what you want to how you’re feeling now.
Pretend you have it. Visualize it. What does it feel like? How do you see it? How do you want it? And that is what brings it to you.
Anonymous: I think about the spirit of the fetus and wish for it every day. There’s so much love when I think about this spirit.
Council: And then that is what you should concentrate on. Think of the love. Think of seeing each other again. Think of having this life together. That, and only that, will bring it to you.
Anonymous: Now I’m thinking that I had the best gifts for me, the pregnancies, and I didn’t accept them. I want family and kids very much, and I wanted it back then, but felt so insecure with my partner at that time.
Council: It was an experience that you had. Where does it say you cannot create it again?
Anonymous: Will I get better from this?
Council: It’s really up to you. It’s important for you to understand that we don’t make it happen. We don’t give you the power to have this happen. It’s all up to you, your thoughts and your feelings, and lining up the vibration, feeling good, and seeing what you want.
Anonymous: Will I get pregnant?
Council: Again, this is up to you. If you see it, if you stay with it strong enough, imagine it, and feel it, feel it, feel it.
Anonymous: Will I be given another chance to have kids?
Council: (Humerously) Oh, we’re always giving you the same answer. It’s up to you. It’s important that you understand this. We can’t tell you, “Yes, you will, or no, you won’t.” What we can tell you is, if you do such and such then this will happen. If you come from another place of doubt or fear, you think you messed up and you had a chance but now you don’t, how can you create from that?
You will never ever – underline that, put it in capital letters and bold colors – YOU WILL NEVER CREATE FROM A PLACE OF LACK. It doesn’t match the vibration you want.
Anonymous: Why am I experiencing these issues with my health? I do Wim Hof Breathing and pink light meditation. What else can I do to strengthen my immune system?
Council: Always work on the chakras. Do the chakra breathing. Meditate. Meditate that you are in a place that you love – in the mountains, on a beach, in a forest – and you are feeling wonderful. And feel it. What does it feel like to be at ease, to feel great, to be so happy with your life? That’s what will help your health.
Anonymous: I have another question. I see light in my head, especially lately. It’s a very good feeling. What is this?
Council: (Humorously) The light bulb has come on. It is you. That light that you see is you. It’s part of your energy field. It’s who you really are. It’s your higher self. That light is helping you to feel good. It’s there to show you there’s so much more than what you experience every day.
So that light, bring it in, sit in it or lay in bed and just feel it. Get to the place where you can feel it. And that’s how the vibration will become stronger and stronger for you to create the life that you want.
Anonymous: What can I do with this light?
Council: Anything.
Anonymous: It appears to me ever since I was spending a lot of time doing spiritual practices ten years ago. Sometimes it’s stronger, as it is now. I used to use it for making the right choices, imagining in which situation I see more light. Maybe there’s something it’s trying to tell me?
Council: So play a little game and think of something that you want, and ask your higher self to show you the light that’s around that which you want to create. And see how strong that light is. And make it stronger and stronger and stronger. That also will bring it to you.
So use the light to feel good. Use the light to get answers. Use the light to just create and to feel who you really are. You are this light.
Anonymous: Thank you so much for your answers.
Council: Wonderful. Remember you are the creator
And so we wish you all love, happiness, and excitement on your journey. And think of wonderful, wonderful things to experience. It could be the littlest thing. Focus on that and be in a state of gratitude for everything that you have, and everything that you’ve passed through. And that vibration of gratitude, little by little, will begin to change your life.
And so we send you love.
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How Can I Deal With My Difficult Son?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ten.
Ten: I asked a question previously about creating a loving and lasting relationship with someone, and how that works with soul contracts. I’d like to understand what’s happening with my current situation. The person I’m imagining being with has moved to the other side of the world, which is perhaps the exact opposite thing I would like to have created.
Council: When you are creating, do you go into great detail on how this would happen?
Now this person moved away. Does it occur to you that things would come together and this person would move back, or you would move there? You don’t have to know how it’s going to happen, but just see yourselves together and believe it will happen, because every time you doubt, it slows everything up, and what you’re trying to create can’t come to you.
You can’t create what you want from being in a place of feeling the lack of what you desire, of thinking you don’t have it, of thinking it’s not working, of thinking it’s not going to be, and of thinking what’s wrong. So you have to get into that state of believing and feeling it’s already happening.
Ten: I have some understanding there are some things that are more or less predetermined, and this is making me doubt my ability to create the long-term relationship I want to have with this person.
Council: So if you listen to what you’ve just said, it’s making you doubt. The doubt is there. You keep creating doubt about how this would happen, or that you can even make it happen.
Ten: And I also doubt my free will.
Council: Ah. So doubting your free will it will never let it happen. Everyone has the free will to create whatever they want. And how fast you bring it in depends on: do you meditate on it, do you feel it all the time, do you see it all the time, and not go into the doubting, doubting, doubting?
You have free will. Of course you can create this, but you must get to the place where you know. You don’t have to know how, but you know it’s going to happen.
Ten: Is this somehow a wrong person that I have very little free will to create a happy relationship with?
Council: There is no wrong person if this is the one you want to create your life with.
And so, while you can’t control how the other person feels or works, you can create what you want. You want to have a relationship with this person. And so pretend like a little child would pretend they are an astronaut. Pretend it’s already in your vibration because it is. It is already in your vibration, but it can’t get to you when you keep going into: pererhaps it’s the wrong one, or I doubt this, or I doubt that. Keep thinking like this and you will not create it.
Ten: You mentioned “the right person” in the post above, Is The New Man I Met Right For Me? I’ve been imagining and feeling good about things until he moved away, and I still believe it’s possible, but I still belive it’s impossible and my efforts will be in vain.
Council: And so that’s part of the human condition. You believe something can happen, but suppose you’re wrong and you don’t want to get hurt because it won’t happen. And that’s exactly why you’re here. You are here to realize you are the creator. You are very powerful. You can use your mind, with discipline, to create whatever it is that you want.
And so that’s why you’re going through this now. It’s a lesson to show you that part of you knows it can create, but the fear comes in because you don’t want to be hurt, and suppose it’s the wrong person, and suppose it doesn’t happen.
So now you have a choice. Do you go with the good-feeling thought and keep thinking of the way you want it, and most of all, keep feeling it? Or are you going to let the fear take over and hold back everything that’s already there for you? Keep working on creating the dream you want.
And so we send you love, and light, and the thoughts to keep you in the positive vibration, and little by little learn how you are powerful spirits, and that you can create all of your desires.
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How Can I Deal With My Difficult Son’s Behavior?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about her son’s difficult behavior.
Anonymous: I’m really struggling with my son and I’m wondering if The Council has any advice or encouragement? Sometimes I wonder if he’s on the autistic spectrum, but I’m not sure if a diagnosis would get us anywhere.
Council: We don’t see that.
Anonymous: We have an ever-growing rift between us. He’s rude, entitled, not cooperative, anxious, and picks on his little brother.
Council: Number 1, he’s chosen this path so that all around him will learn patience, will learn to love him no matter how he acts, and to accept who he is.
Anonymous: There’s nothing easy about this child. I’ve read every parenting book and I’m still here struggling with him. He doesn’t make friends easily. I find myself really working to help him build and maintain friendships, but it’s too much. I want to stop worrying about him, but I also want him to just let us all be and stop fighting and causing problems within our family.
Council: He’s a very intelligent soul who doesn’t remember why he chose this life. He chose it, number 1, to teach others around him. But when you think he’s ready, we’d say for you and him to read books on crystal children and indigo children. Many times they find themselves lonely, they don’t[have patience for what goes on around them, they don’t like things that don’t move along quickly, they want quick answers, they want the truth, and they are difficult sometimes – even in school – to get along with others. Now if you can teach him, or have him read a child’s book on indigo children or crystal children, he may begin to find himself and feel more self-acceptance. He wants to move forward and have recognition.
When he is difficult, it’s not good to punish him or yell at him. The best thing is to walk away and calmly say, “I won’t give you attention when you’re like this,” and leave him alone. Then teach him about energy, so we suggest you learn about energy first.
In another life your son was a great healer. In his current life there’s a book called, The Reconnection: Heal Others, Heal Yourself, by Eric Pearl, and it teaches you how you can feel the energy in your hands and use it on yourself and others. Give him that book to read, or read it to him, but don’t force it on him. Leave it around so that he can find it. He’ll learn to feel energy and get a different understanding of what this life is about.
So for him you need to go into the world of better thoughts no matter what he does. It’s to teach him about energy, to teach him he’s a special child like many of these crystal babies, and indigo children, and rainbow children. And so that would be the beginning. It will take time, but it will be the beginning of changing him.
Bob: I think you said he should read a children’s book.
Council: They have children’s books. When he’s older he can read more adult books on the crystal children and the rainbow children. There are books for children and there are books for adults so the parents can read these books and learn what is going on and have a better understanding of what he’s going through.
And this is what he created because he wants to find this other way. And not being on that path, he’s frustrated, and he doesn’t want these friends or people, and he’s difficult because he’s not where he wants to be. And so the human brain doesn’t understand what’s going on, but the higher self is saying: This isn’t working; you don’t want to feel like this.
And so these books and learning about crystals will help him. And it’s your job to support and give him these things, and let him explore his own path.
Anonymous: I was nice and normal before he was born. Now I feel like a raving lunatic much of the time.
Council: That’s why you also need to read these books. There will be a better understanding.
Anonymous: He constantly embarrasses me with his behavior and my reaction to him. I can’t find any common ground with him.
Council: It’s to change your reaction. Do not feed it, do not yell, do not become frustrated. Just walk away. Say, “When you behave like this, I will not deal with you,” and walk away. That will give him different ways of looking at things. And so it’s to remain calm, to remain open to see the change in him, to see that in your mind, to help him, to send him beautiful pink energy so that he can take it in, and his spirit will take it in and help him find his path.
Anonymous: We have no shared interests or activities that we enjoy.
Council: Exactly.
Anonymous: What can I do with this child? And yes, I recognize that he’s very bright and talented, but surely he came into this life carrying too much from a past life fear. Can I help him release that?
Council: You have all the information, and that will help him release that.
And so we’ve enjoyed this again. We send you all blessings, love, and happiness. And enjoy what you’ve created. And if you don’t like what you’ve created, then change it, change it with your thoughts and how you think.
You are a great spirit that’s here to learn many, many different things. And you’ve all created this time to come in knowing it would be difficult, and knowing there would be a lot of chaos. But you came in to hold the beautiful light, to love no matter what, and you will see your lives change.
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Why Did I Choose A Life Of Autism, Chronic Illness, and Pain?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader based on a post we wrote called The Spiritual Significance of Autism.
Anonymous: I’ve never been formally diagnosed, but I’m an autistic adult in her 40s. I want to take comfort in your post on the spiritual significance of autism and I believe it, but I’ve been treated hideously and cruelly almost my entire life.
Council: And you do know the way you’re treated by others is really not about you, but more about them and where they are on their path in this particular lifetime. When you make it less about you, you can look at it more clearly without it hurting so much.
Anonymous: Abuse, bullying, social rejection, you name it. What is the worst of all is my family. My father is physically and verbally abusive, my mother is neglectful, and my sister is a narcissist and liar who’s always been jealous of me, tried to cut me out of the family, and told lies to do it. They all act like they hate me.
Council: And so we’d say at this point, when you’ve brought in so much abuse to yourself your whole life, there’s a reason for that. You want to learn about it, what it feels like to be abused, and to turn it around.
And so you already know it’s a difficult place to be, it hurts your feelings, and you feel cast out, but why is this happening now when it’s at a point in your life where you can change it? We’d say number one, before you do anything else, it is your thoughts – your sister is a liar, your family is terrible. Your outlook towards your family and towards other people is so negative that your vibration will attract more negativity and more abuse. You are not a victim here. You chose to experience this just for the purpose of turning it around.
You don’t have to be the person they treat you like. You don’t have to believe what they say about you. You are a spirit. You are so powerful, and you have choices in every part of your life. The #1 choice you need to make now is to have more positive thoughts, to look at these people and instead of being so negative about them, feel sorry for them if you can. Try to realize there are things going on in their life and they take their negativity out on you. Why is that? Because your negative vibration attracts it.
When you start treating yourself with love, with kindness, and doing happy things for yourself, the people around you will see the change. They may not understand it, but they will see it, and it will bring different kinds of people into your life. The kind you want, that love you, that can be caring, and that don’t abuse you. And eventually some of these abusers have the ability to change, if that’s what they want on their path.
And so it all comes from you. The feeling deep down, the feeling of being abused, the feeling of being lied to, the feeling of people abandoning you, all of that is so negative. And so if you go through this every day, every day you are creating more and more abuse.
Anonymous: It’s not just my immediate family though. I’ve been bullied and abused by relatives, classmates, and others, and I feel like I’m a magnet for mistreatment.
Council: How about thinking, “I know there’s one person out there that will appreciate me. Oh, that feels so good when I can find that person.” Look how your energy changes with that. It’s exciting. There is somebody that will be nice. And when you experience that, there will be more and more. Change your thoughts
Anonymous: At this point I just don’t understand how or why I’d willingly take this on and subject myself to so much pain.
Council: To learn from it and know you can change it.
Anonymous: And it’s not just autism. I have chronic illnesses and other pain too.
Council: How would this negative thinking not cause illnesses? It affects your body. Every negative thought goes into the body and eventually it hits the bones, it hits the organs, it hits the skin, you don’t feel good, and you’re mentally depressed. Again it’s the thinking that changes it. When you start to be positive with your thoughts, the illnesses will drop away. Little by little you’ll begin to feel better. There’s so much more for you out there in this life. That is what you need to tune into.
Anonymous: I’m so angry at myself if I chose this.
Council: Ah, angry at yourself. That’s a big negative. You must find ways to appreciate yourself. See the things you do that are nice. See the things you do that maybe help others. See the thoughts you have. What do you do for yourself? Do you go to a movie? Do you take yourself out to eat? Do you go for ice cream? Do these nice things for yourself. It has to change.
Anonymous: All I want is for it all to end, and I constantly wish for death.
Council: It’s not death that will help you, because then you’ll repeat it again in another lifetime if you don’t try to change your thoughts, to think you’re really a good person, you don’t hurt anybody, and you love yourself. Start with your feet. Look at your feet. “I love my feet. My feet are great. I love my hands. Maybe I like the kind of hair I have.” Find the parts of you and every day add more and more. When you start appreciating yourself, the universe says, “Wow. Look at that. Let’s send her more to appreciate.” And your life begins to change.
And that’s your purpose this time around in your current incarnation. So have fun with it. Show yourself that you are powerful. You can change anything, because you can. You are a spirit. The choices you make and the thoughts you have creates the life that you live. What you think is what shows up in your physical reality.
Anonymous: What do I do? I really feel so hopeless and lost, and I don’t know how to cope at all. The very few people in my life who’ve come into it to show me any kindness or love have left, or always leave me.
Council: And so there are more new people that can come into your life. You are the magnet. Your thought goes out there, and it’s out there in the universe. You want people to appreciate you, you want love, you want nice, kind people. It’s there. You’ve got to keep thinking about that. You’ve got to feel it. What would that be, to have a friend, to have someone to hang out with that’s really nice to me?
Feel that. The feeling is the magnet. That is the key. Pretend like a little child that you have this wonderful new friend, that you have a wonderful new life. You’re so excited because all of a sudden these people are popping into your life. Feel it. That’s the magnet. You are the magnet. Send your thought out, feel it, and bring it back to you. The universe will give you what you are feeling.
Anonymous: Is there any way I can just exit this life because I took on too much, and I can’t handle it, and find it unbearable. Is that even possible to do?
Council: It’s possible to commit suicide, but that’s not the way out. The way out is to change that negative thinking. The way out is to know there is so much there, so much more, and now you’re at a point in your life where you want to find it. And just that will change your life. It’s work, but we feel you can do this.
And we also want to say here that when you’re in spirit and you picked all of this, in spirit you’re strong, you’re loving, you know that there’s nothing you can’t do. So when you pick all of this, you say, “Oh, this is horrible. How am I going to do this?” You’re like, “All right, bring it on, let me jump in there, let me change how I think, let me bring more love to myself, let me bring more love into that reality.” And you don’t doubt it for one minute. And then you come into this incarnation and your life begins, but your higher self, which is you, knows what you want to do. And so now is your time.
Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with the positive thoughts. In your reality what is going on is that a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this, and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes from the right thinking.
You’ve created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You’ve agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to have happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and have them work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, help the ocean. You’re all here together to make this reality better and better.
And so we wish you joy. And remember, coming into this life, you came in with the thought of having a joyous time, to find happiness everywhere, and that’s your purpose. Have a happy life, enjoy it, create fun, create love. You can all do this.
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Did I Miss A Date With Destiny?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous #3.
Anon #3: I’ve been experimenting with these techniques and I’ve seen how much of my body I’ve ignored in my decision-making processes. It’s been really useful and insightful, so thank you.
Bob: I assume Anonymous #3 is referring to The Council’s meditation techniques.
Anon #3: I had a strange experience connected to this which has thrown up related questions which I thought I’d ask. A couple of months ago I felt compelled, almost moved beyond my control, to apply for a job in another country, as jobs in my sector are scarce.
Council: Your strong sense of doing this lets you know that it comes from your higher self and that it was something you pre-planned in spirit before you were born.
Anon #3: Afterward I decided I didn’t really want this job. What was I thinking? When I was offered an interview, I was full of fear and a feeling I shouldn’t take this job, so I withdrew my application after journaling and finding nothing positive about it.
Council: So you created going further, an interview with someone interested in you. And yet what we see here is that out of fear you didn’t go in the direction of this job. And that, of course, is always your choice.
Anon #3: I don’t really understand what happened, and now I’m afraid I missed a date with destiny. Is this true? Did I?
Council: Never. Whenever there’s something that’s strongly wanted that perhaps you planned for in spirit, you’ll get the opportunity. When you miss it, you miss that particular opportunity. You don’t miss your destiny, or you don’t miss going on the path that you wish to go on. You will have other opportunities. It will come in other ways. It will always take you to where you want to go.
But we’d say to work on fear. What happens if you take a chance and do something very different? Do you go with love, or do you go with fear? If you go with fear, okay, you’re still not ready. Another opportunity will come along. It will always be there. And if, for some reason, you turn down everything that you create that will help you get there, you’ll have an opportunity to do it in another life. So there is no wrong answer.
The answer for you is to learn how to look at things with love instead of fear, to imagine the good that could come out of it, and that you are always protected. Your higher self, which is you, is taking you down this path.
Anon #3: Does the opportunity you’re destined for come around again?
Council: Of course.
Anon #3: Do we ever miss our calling?
Council: No.
Anon #3: And what happens to the soul contracts with the people I missed by not taking this opportunity? Do other people and experiences come in and take their place?
Council: Of course. It’s always planned in spirit. If I do this, what happens? And then a spirit will say, “Then I’ll jump in.” Or we’ll create something different and we’ll make ourselves be there. There are always backup plans. You are never left high and dry.
Anon #3: I also wonder about that strange, being moved to apply for the job, feeling.
Council: That was your higher self. When it comes with such force and you start thinking, “Am I nuts? What am I thinking of this for? Why would I want to do this?” It’s your intuition. It’s your higher self saying, “This is what I wanted. This is what I wanted. Come on. Come on.” And sometimes that feeling is overwhelming, and the choice is yours.
Anon #3: Was that my higher self moving through me, or spirit aligning me to my purpose?
Council: Definitely.
Anon #3: Or was I just wishful thinking and panic applying, as I really need a job?
Council: Wishful thinking doesn’t come with the force of a feeling that says, “I must do this. I don’t know why,” and doubting, and questioning. But the feeling that’s there is more than wishful thinking, and that’s how you know there’s something going on here. This is something I must want and my higher self is guiding me.
Anon #3: Does spirit ever move through us like that…
Bob: …meaning the panic applying for the job…
Anon #3: …and if so, how do we know it’s that and not us or our higher self?
Council: When it’s fear, you’ll feel it in your body. It’s a different feeling. It’s not overwhelming. There’s a lot of doubt and a lot of thinking going on with your brain, why you should or why you shouldn’t do something.
When it’s your higher self, the feeling is there and you know this is something that you need to follow, but it feels good. And you don’t have to know how it’s going to happen, or when, or where. But that feeling, that really overpowering feeling that sometimes you can just giggle about it, like am I crazy? What is this? It’s a good, happy feeling.
Anon #3: Also, I was wondering how I could have been moved to do something that I first changed my mind about and then felt so much fear around.
Council: Because being in the human body and thinking with the human brain, sometimes it’s very difficult to accept that your higher self can come through so strong, and there’s a lot of success and happiness waiting for you, but it’s the doubt and fear that holds you back.
And so you will go through two feelings. It will feel great, then it will feel horrible. What am I thinking? Oh, but imagine if this happened. A lot of going back and forth, but you always go with the feeling that feels good. When you doubt, that’s not your higher self. Your higher self will never take you down that road. Anything coming from your higher self will feel great.
Anon #3: I’d really love to feel clarity around this, so any light that you can shed that will help me move forward in my understanding would be appreciated. Hopefully there are others out there that will also find this information helpful.
Council: So when something comes so strongly and you don’t know whether to believe in if it’s right or if it’s not, and you have those back and forth feelings, just sit. Sit quietly for 10 minutes and think of it and the feeling that came with it. Will it bring you happiness? Is it something you could never imagine happening and that it could be so wonderful? Concentrate on the wonderfulness of it and imagine what it would be like. Play with it and you will bring it forward, and you’ll start feeling better and better about it.
And so the choice is to feel that good feeling. Imagine what it would be like and just take a chance. You can even go on an interview and if you’re still afraid, turn it down. You will get other opportunities.
Have fun on your journeys. Everyone is on their journey. Find the good feeling and continue on that path.
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Should I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophie.
Sophie: Thank you very much for your answers to my questions in your post about pregnancy and my partner smoking marijuana. They are straight to the point.
It seems that I got pregnant not when I was writing to you, but now, and I want your advice on how to make the best decision. My biggest concern is the baby’s health due to my partner’s marijuana smoking. As far as I know he stopped, but who knows for how long? Also I got a terrible stomach virus at the same time I became aware I’m pregnant.
Council: We’d like to say right here: Do you realize you already have made the decision of what to do, and you are now just creating little scenarios to show you what’s going on?
And so you talk about your boyfriend on marijuana, then you talk about an upset stomach. What else is there?
Sophie: My progesterone dropped down at that time, but now it’s going up again.
Council: And so the progesterone dropped.
Sophie: Is this virus a coincidence, or something I should consider also?
Council: The virus isn’t a coincidence. It’s another way you show yourself what you choose to do.
Sophie: I was also sick just a couple weeks back with a throat infection, but I didn’t take any strong medication, as I had a feeling I could be pregnant, and now I know I was.
Council: And again, now a throat infection.
Sophie: Another question is: Could it be the same soul as my previous pregnancy where I felt so much love for the fetus and was speaking to the spirit, and it said it would come back, and it showed up in a dream?
Council: We’d like to say here, and this is very important, you are giving yourself these different experiences that would stand in the way of a healthy pregnancy. And why you are doing that is because you and the spirit of this child would like to come together in this world.
We’d like you to know that the spirit you have this agreement with will come to you when the time is right. It doesn’t want to come and have a life where it’s not healthy. That is not what it wants to experience. Getting sick and having a partner with marijuana issues limits and will affect what happens.
And so at this time the child really doesn’t want to come into that lifetime. So there’s a lot for you to think about. And do you really want to have a child with this person?
Bob: Could you directly answer whether it’s the same spirit that she was pregnant with previously?
Council: Yes, it is. And it will come again.
Sophie: I kept talking to the spirit and before I knew I was pregnant I heard in my head, “I’m already here.”
The other side of why I want to continue is that I’ve wanted a baby for a couple years already. I feel that I want to take care of a little one and take some time from work to do something meaningful and loving.
Council: And so do you feel that you are capable of taking care of this child and giving it the best life you can provide for it financially and healthwise? Where you are now, is it the best life you can provide for this child?
Sophie: Also I have some concerns if I don’t continue with the pregnancy I’ll blame my partner, as it’s his marijuana use that’s my biggest concern.
Council: And that right there says a lot, which you need to look at. So do you have a child and maybe it will come with some sort of defect because your partner is on marijuana, or you are creating sicknesses that could affect this child? Is that what you want? Or do you want to give the child the best life that you can?
Sophie: And how are we going to plan the next pregnancy if my partner continues to smoke marijuana?
Council: Well we’d think you have a choice whether to continue trying to have a child with this person, or not. The choice is always yours. Look at what’s going on. Look at everything you’re creating. You are giving yourself the answers if you stop and look at it.
Sophie: It might be just a waste of time and a delay to fulfill my dream of having children and a family, so I’m not sure if I’ll be able to continue the relationship.
Council: There is a very good question that you are asking yourself. And the way we see it, you already have the answer. And there is no right or wrong answer. It’s to go by what you know, what you feel, and to have clarity on it.
Sophie: But I don’t know if I’m brave enough to change the direction of my life and take a chance that something brand new might come up, and leave my current relationship knowing it won’t be so soon when I can plan a family with someone new, who first needs to appear.
Council: And so because you’re afraid to take a chance, you’ll stay in this relationship that you’re already questioning? And why shouldn’t you find someone else? Don’t you think you deserve it? Of course you’ll find someone else if it’s your true intent to be happy and in a healthy marriage with healthy children. It’s all there for you, but the choices you make will or won’t bring that in.
Sophie: It seems my partner also plans to propose, and it seems like forever already that I wanted to be engaged and plan a family.
Council: And so that’s not happening either?
Sophie: It’s what I really want in my life, but another concern of mine is his daughter from another relationship, which is hard for me to deal with sometimes, and also the part where we’d all live together.
Council: And there you go again. We’re only pointing out to you what you already know and what you’re telling us. And so have the clarity to look at this. Why would you choose to have this sort of life, and there’s another child in it that’s difficult for you to deal with. That’s not going happily into a relationship. Again, the choice is yours, but the lesson here is to open your eyes, believe in yourself, and then follow what you want, whatever you want.
Sophie: I feel so lost. And whatever choice I make, of course there will be consequences and a delay in my dream.
There’s another question. Do you see that if I decide to change the direction of where I’m going, would it be a good idea to get back together with my first boyfriend and make a family?
Council: The energy is very good there.
Sophie: Somehow an idea came into my mind about him one day and he wrote to me. He proposed to me when we were together, but I said no, as I thought he’s not caring enough for a family and there should be something better, and we broke up. But after almost four years apart, neither he nor I so far created a family.
Council: And so we feel perhaps you created your current relationship to show you that this isn’t what you want, and maybe what you had before is still there for you and you want it. It’s very interesting what you’ve done. You’ve created these two relationships, and you’re at a point now where you can choose.
Sophie: My previous boyfriend also wants a family already.
Council: Wonderful.
Sophie: He said he misses my family, and he got along well with them. And my family also talks well about him and says he was the best of the partners I had.
Council: And so there’s another positive. Are you listening? We’re telling you that’s two positives you’re telling us already about your old relationship.
Sophie: It was my longest relationship I’ve had so far. Maybe you could share some techniques on how to make the best decision, as I feel so stuck and now both decisions seem like carrying some of the worries I think about.
Council: And so we can’t make the decision for you. But from what you’ve told us here, if you look at your current relationship, there were many things in it that weren’t positive. When you think of this new relationship, you’ve already given us a few positive answers about this person.
So look at this person and reconnect with him. You want a child and this person wants a child. Is this person healthy? Do they smoke marijuana or don’t smoke marijuana? Does this person want to have a happy, healthy child, and acts in ways that will have this happen? See the choices of things that this person wants and what you want. Do they combine nicely? Do you want the same things? Is it safer? Do you feel safer in that relationship?
So just look at it. Reconnect and look at it. Go slowly and look at it. And perhaps your child will come from that. It’s all your choice.
Sophie: As you said in the post that answered my last question, I’m thinking of my baby being healthy and beautiful, and having a wonderful time growing up.
Council: In your present relationship do you think that’s possible? This is another question to answer.
Sophie: But in the first weeks when I had a feeling I might be pregnant, my only thoughts were that I can’t accept my partner smoking marijuana and it having an effect on my baby.
Council: There is your answer if you care to truly hear it.
Sophie: At the same time I feel so irresponsible that I put myself in a position where I’m considering pregnancy termination again. It’s not how I want to live. Hope to hear from you.
Council: Good luck with your choices. Be positive. Know there’s so much more for you, and there’s no reason to be afraid to take a chance and go in a different direction. And we send you love and support in whatever you choose.
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You’re Here To Learn To Use Your Thoughts To Create The Life You Want
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Rebekah.
Rebekah: I’ve been feeling a bit paranoid recently. I’m afraid of being powerless, I’m afraid of losing control of my mind, and I’m also afraid of developing schizophrenia.
Council: So many people in your reality right now are feeling powerless and are wondering what’s going on in this world, forgetting that you are the one that’s creating your world. Feeling powerless and worried and confused, that vibration is all around. And so how you counteract this is by thinking about the way you’d like this world to be, the way you’d like to be, and the way you’d like your friends and family to be. Ask to see it. Ask to see more people experiencing joy. Put that out there and then just watch and see what the universe brings to you. You are not powerless, and you are not out of control. You are just here to learn how to use your thoughts to create the life that you want.
Rebekah: My cousin has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and I wish I could know how to help him.
Council: Your cousin’s journey is different from yours, and by helping him you can not change what he’s created for himself. There are reasons he wants to go through this. And so all you can do is show him love, show him understanding, and show him kindness at all times. That’s your only role here. You can’t change another person. Look at him as a spirit. Respect him for whatever reason he’s chosen this path. Part of it is to get you to accept it.
Rebekah: Anyway, I was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) a few years ago. The diagnosis makes sense to me. My therapist said I seem to be currently experiencing some kind of trauma response, but the trauma is unknown. I did psychedelic mushrooms for the first time on New Year’s Day this year and had a frightening experience of being a baby and being afraid.
Council: When you’re in this condition of being afraid of losing your mind, do you feel it’s wise to experiment with mushrooms?
Rebekah: My boyfriend called my Mum and she helped me settle down and reframe what I was experiencing. But I do wonder if that triggered me in some way because I started becoming paranoid and obsessed with doing the right thing and making the right decision for my higher self.
My therapist said my ADHD was making those intrusive thoughts 100 times worse because I’d start overanalyzing everything and struggle to snap out of it. I’m currently on anxiety medication that has helped a lot, but right now I feel myself slipping a bit and I just feel a bit on edge. I had a bit of an energy drink today and also some wine last night, so maybe there’s my answer.
Council: So again we ask, do you think that was wise? Did it work out positively for you? Or are you now having an experience where you don’t feel that good?
And so when you make choices, just sit back and see how they affect you. Did it make it better, or did it make it worse? And then there is your answer. And then in the future, you have the choice to do it or not to do it again.
Rebekah: But I feel different, and feel all the pressure to save the world.
Council: And that is impossible.
Rebekah: I feel powerless and powerful at the same time. I have so much restless energy and so many ideas, but no follow-through. I’m so afraid of losing the people I love and something bad happening. I guess I’m just hoping for some guidance from The Council.
Council: We’d ask you to do the chakra meditations. And for you we’d say to be outside more, to be among the trees, to be around nature, and that will help the way you feel. Reconnect to the Earth. Learn how to ground. And then work on finding happy thoughts, whether it’s something you fantasize about, or whether it’s a memory you have, like a happy childhood or a holiday. Think about that. When you use the discipline of your mind to choose your thoughts, to choose happy thoughts, your energy will change. It’s the law of your universe.
Rebekah: I’ve started a counseling course in an effort to have a career in something I enjoy, but I’m worried I won’t be able to handle it with my mindset.
Council: So how do you go into this course when you are already worried? The thing before you go into this course is to change your vibration by thinking this course will be wonderful for you. It will give you more understanding of what goes on. It will help you bond with people and understand what they go through. And that sort of thinking will change how you feel.
Rebekah: How do I become comfortable with powerlessness?
Council: You are not powerless. That’s the first thought. If you let your mind and your thoughts rule you, then you’re not in control, but you have the choice to have better thoughts. And once you get in line with that, you will see how strong you truly are.
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What Can I Do About My Obsessive Thoughts?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, DivineMaha.
DivineMaha: I have a question about thoughts that go through my head and how it affects me a lot. I feel like the peace I’m having is temporary and I’m always feeling I’m in survival mode, and separated from others at times.
Council: Just thinking like that will help you feel nervous, upset, and tired – almost waiting for the other shoe to fall.
DivineMaha: I’m not sure if it’s my self-worth, my anxiety, or my deep-seated beliefs about myself. I also feel I can’t hear my higher self. Whenever I want to meditate I always worry if my energy would affect the people around me in negative ways because I’m feeling negative or in resistance mode.
Council: Everyone around you has their own energy and what they allow to come into them or not come into them isn’t your problem.
When you are negative you are to take care of yourself. Sit and meditate. If you can’t meditate, listen to music that soothes you. Think good thoughts. When you begin to meditate for yourself, the people that are around you, when they’re on the same level as you and wanting to grow, wanting to feel better, they will feel that peaceful feeling that you get from meditation.
When you truly meditate, you will not have negative feelings. If you think that by sitting here and meditating, you can get negative and people will feel that, you will create that.
Everyone at this time in this reality is here to learn the discipline that needs to be worked on and needs to be controlled some more so that you can be more positive. But anything that you think or that you meditate for will not affect another person unless they’re at a very low level and picks up negativity, or they are at a very high level and pick up the happiness, the peace, and the feeling good from meditation.
What you feel is around you, but what you attract to yourself only has to do with your thoughts and where you are.
DivineMaha: I’m saying this because I’m aware of what’s happening in my surroundings and the people around me. I always make sure I radiate good energy or just be neutral, but sometimes my thoughts are overpowering me and I’m the type of person that pays attention to details.
Council: And so this is normal. And when you get these negative thoughts, just acknowledge them. “Oh, there it is again, but I don’t want to think like this.” So then you use the discipline and the strength you have to change your thoughts.
DivineMaha: Every little thing matters, so it easily affects me, and I’d be in judgment mode and start remembering all the past things that get heavier.
Council: And of course that will bring your energy down. And so, again, recognize it. Look what you’re thinking of. Look what you’re remembering. Well that’s gone. You’re here right now. How do you focus? How do you take the power you have in the present? Do you want to stay thinking about the past and things that upset you, or think of the future and how you’re creating thoughts to make you feel better?
DivineMaha: The thoughts will always be in a loop, over and over. I feel trapped in my thoughts every day, non-stop obsessively thinking.
Council: You are not trapped. As a spirit you came in, and one of the greatest tools you have is choice. So it’s to learn what’s going on, be aware of it, and then you have the choice. Change your thought, or go around, and around, and around. Only you can do this.
DivineMaha: I always had to come up with a solution for each problem thought that pops up each time, and it’s too tiring.
Council: Of course it is.
DivineMaha: Am I controlling?
Council: You just aren’t using your thoughts the way it’s meant for you to use them. You’re not supposed to concentrate on something to try and find the solution. You’ll never find the solution while you are worried, while your energy is down, and there’s nothing but chaos and confusion. The way you find the solution to a problem is to change your thought. Get yourself in a higher vibration, feel loving feelings, and just know that the answers will come.
DivineMaha: I’ve watched a lot of near-death experience stories. I do feel I want to have that glimpse of that pure unconditional love, even for just a minute so I can remember this pure love in this lifetime of mine, that it stays clear within me, and that nothing in this world could shake me. I feel so low right now.
Thank you, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council for everything you do. It means the world to me. Thank you for being there, Bob and Cynthia, to share The Council’s message.
Council: We’d like to say to you here that you don’t need a near-death experience to feel the love, and the joy, and the happiness that is felt by the people that have had this near-death experience. Begin to sit and ask to feel love. What does love feel like? Let me feel peace. What does peace feel like? And imagine, just stretch your imagination, what will they feel like? And you will be surprised by the feelings that come up. It will be wonderful.
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What Is My Spirit Trying To Learn With My Fluctuating Body Weight?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE.
PE: I was wondering if you could give me some guidance about what’s going on with my body weight? I’ve struggled with maintaining a healthy body weight for many years, and I’m tired of going through the cycles of yo-yo dieting.
Council: There were other times (lives) when you were uncomfortable in your body, and so we see why you chose this particular challenge again.
PE: Can The Council help me understand what my spirit is trying to learn or achieve with these challenges related to my body weight?
Council: Because there were many ups and downs in other lifetimes, in your current lifetime you wanted to experience both being very thin and being very heavy, and find out how to acknowledge how you felt in each experience, in each time you experienced the difference in weight, the difference in the shape of your body, your face, and your hair. Did you take more care of yourself when you were thinner or when you were heavier?
You wanted to find out who you are. That was behind the wish in experiencing both, to know when you realize how you feel thin, how you feel heavy, and to go beyond that. Who are you? To start asking the question: Who are you? Who are you really? What does it feel like to believe that you are more than just your body? But at first it was to experience the body in different situations so you can get a hold on it and an idea of how it felt either way, and now to take it further. Who am I really?
And as you begin to ask this question and perhaps meditate on it, you’ll find a way to create experiences for you where you begin to feel the lightness of being a soul. You’d be able to acknowledge the confidence you’re looking for when you know that you are more than just this body. So step by step, it was to lead you to find out who you really are, and this is the way you chose to do it.
Bob: And as they get closer to understanding who they really are, their body weight will fluctuate less?
Council: Yes. And then you would find the shape of the body you are most comfortable in and then take it beyond.
PE: I’ve recently joined Overeaters Anonymous because I don’t know where else to turn. I’d appreciate any guidance in this matter. Thank you so much in advance.
Council: Meditate. Read the book, Emmanuel. Read all three Emmanuel books and get in touch with spirit. Once you read the books you will be led in a completely different direction so you will be able to focus on spirit, get acquainted with it, and move forward from there.
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Will I Have The Baby I Desire With My Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof 3. in response to a post we wrote called: Will I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
Momof 3: We want to say here that we don’t have a turban on our head. We don’t look in a crystal ball and say, yes you will have a child, or no you won’t. It’s all your choice. If you want this child with your partner, if your partner wants a child with you, then see it, feel it, and do the inner work. And when the doubts come up just say, no, and see it the way you want it to be. If this will bring you happiness, if you can see you both having a child and experience the feeling of joy, and seeing what your life would be like living this, you will create it. No one else will create in your life.
So if you want this and your partner wants the same thing, how wonderful. You don’t need anyone else to tell you it will happen. Your thoughts and where you focus will or will not make it happen. So go into the feeling of joy and see it, and we promise you it will happen. It must happen if you see it as real as you can. Go into every detail you want. It will happen.
So we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful, and you feel lighter than you ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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Will My Baby Be Healthy And My Partner Stop Smoking Marijuana?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Zumza.
Zumza: I wrote to you previously about the termination of a pregnancy because my partner was financially unstable. I also wrote because the fetus in that pregnancy that I had a connection with showed up in a dream. And also I experienced unconditional love I felt during the time I was pregnant that I never felt before.
Now I feel I might be pregnant again, but I didn’t plan this pregnancy. The situation of my partner’s finances hasn’t changed. He even turned out to have a marijuana addiction, which I don’t support, and we started arguing about it.
Council: First we’d like to say here that although you say the pregnancy is unplanned, you planned this pregnancy in spirit. You wouldn’t have brought this pregnancy into your life experience if you didn’t want it. So you created this pregnancy. Now why have you created it?
And then you turn and look at your partner, which we see is having a problem with marijuana. Why have you created that in your lifetime? Is it a way to sever ties with this person? Is it a way to realize, “Well I want to be with this person, but perhaps it’s better for us not to have a relationship where we have children?” Always question yourself, because there’s no one that will create anything in your life but you.
Zumza: I want a baby, but I’m scared that my partner’s marijuana addiction will affect the health and development of the baby.
Council: Yes, of course it can affect the baby’s health. And so that’s something that’s making you question: Should you have a baby? Should you have a baby with your current partner? So look at your situation from that point of view. Your situation is all about you and learning what you want. It’s not about trying to cure someone of marijuana or helping them with better financial ways to bring in money. It’s not about you going out and getting another job to fix the financial situation.
What is it that you want? Look at whether this person has a problem with finances, if this person has a problem with marijuana, yet tells you he wants children, but yet smokes the marijuana knowing it can have a defect on the child. What is that showing you? So allow yourself to see the whole picture and then take yourself out of it and realize, what is it that you want?
Zumza: He started smoking marijuana again recently and before that he was smoking during the summer. I live a clean life and if his addiction continues I just want to end this relationship.
Council: So it sounds here like you’re not only saying it, but feeling that you want to end this relationship. And so, what else do you need to see to end it?
Zumza: Do you see if I continue the pregnancy, I will have a healthy baby?
Council: We can’t say to you, “Yes, you will have a healthy baby,” or, “no you won’t have a healthy baby; this isn’t a good idea,” because you will create the outcome. We feel the direction you’re going in – and you can always change your direction and the choice will always be yours – the direction that you’re going in is to scare yourself out of this relationship. If you have a baby and you’re not comfortable going forward because of your partner’s marijuana addiction, you will create a problem with the child that is born because of this addiction.
And so before you go into this, feel what it is. Are you uncomfortable taking the chance of having this child with this person? Are you uncomfortable about maybe having a child that will have some sort of defect because of your partner’s marijuana addiction? You are creating this so that you can open your eyes to what you want, what you will settle for, or what beautiful happiness you are looking for and will find, but perhaps it will be with someone else.
You can’t change your partner. If he stops smoking marijuana right now, what’s to say he won’t do it again? If there’s a problem with finances, who’s to say there won’t be problems again? It’s in your belief at the moment, from what we see, that you are creating a way for you to look at your situation, to look at the truth of what you’re saying, what you are bringing forth, and to make a decision from that. No one can make this decision for you.
Zumza: Will my partner quit smoking marijuana, and why is he smoking it?
Council: He’s smoking it for many of the needs that he feels he has. That doesn’t matter. Will he quit? Maybe, maybe not. It’s his choice. Right now, with the energy around him, we don’t see him quitting. If he does quit, he will return to smoking marijuana. This is what is seen now because that’s what is being created now. Can he change? Yes he can, when he’s willing to create for himself how he wants to live.
And so is it something that you want? Again, look at it. Question yourself. It’s about you. What do you want in your life? A partner that you have to worry about, or maybe someone brand new where it feels perfect, there’s happiness, there’s no problem, and a child will come from another relationship. And so, again, it’s your beliefs, it’s what you choose to focus on now. That will show you the direction your life is going in.
Zumza: Why did I get pregnant at the least favorable time?
Council: This is you. This is what you’re creating. You have a desire for a child, but perhaps you’re creating your situation with the least favorable experiences because you need to see what your partner is like. Do you want to keep him in your life? Do you want to take a chance and raise this child alone?
And so, again, look at your choices. You are creating this so that you will open your eyes and see what it is that you have created so far. And do you want to keep creating on that path, or do you want a new path?
Zumza: I promised myself I wouldn’t terminate a pregnancy ever again.
Council: If it’s a promise that feels good to you, then we’d say, go for it. Is it a promise that you’ve made to yourself, but in the background is the worry that this child can be born with a defect? We’d say, look at it again. If you wish to have this child, then you must do the inner work and see this child being perfect, happy, and see yourself raising this child with joy and fun. That work must begin now.
And so we send you all blessings, and thoughts of happiness, and thoughts of love and joy, and seeing the energy around you growing and becoming more beautiful. And you feel lighter than you’ve ever felt before because you are light. Let it shine.
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What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Also.
Anonymous Also: I was hoping to follow up on Anonymous’s questions (a different reader from Anonymous Also) in their private phone session with The Council. Thank you again, Anonymous, for sharing your invaluable recording. I’ve been wondering about these questions for a while, and I’d be very grateful for The Council’s feedback. I apologize in advance for the dark nature of the topic. I’d like to know what The Council has to say about what is perceived by some to be the limits of positive thinking.
Council: There are no limits. There’s only the limit you put on yourself by thinking there are limits.
Anonymous Also: And how we can go about understanding the following situations in a new way. I ask not to make others feel invalidated or disrespected for their beliefs, but to try to expand my own understanding.
Council: We’d say here that while we answer your questions, and many may hear this or read it, everyone will get something out of it, so you will not hurt or disallow their feelings. Everyone will hear the words differently, and it will come across the way they need to hear it because of what they’re going through, and where they are at this time. So let’s see what you ask.
Anonymous Also: For example, there are stories of people who believe in vibration, crystal healing, etc., who refused medical treatment and then have gone on to die of cancer. I’m assuming it’s not that they didn’t try hard enough to be positive. Although each person has their own story, why might that happen, and what message is their death supposed to send to us?
Council: Well, there are different reasons. They could have said they believed in this work but had a lot of fear behind what they were trying to picture and believe.
There’s also an agreement, maybe with other souls, that they’d go through this difficulty and it would touch the other souls’ lives. It would make them believe, more or less, or see things differently, and question what’s going on. It will always touch people in a way to make them grow, to make them question their beliefs, and to make them question how they’re living their lives.
And so there are many that could take poison and have a miraculous cure. It’s what you believe and how positive you can stay in that belief. Where many people try, and it’s hard for many people, but the doubt and the fear behind the situation will change the outcome of what one is asking for.
Anonymous Also: Alternatively, there are a number of pastors and other notable individuals in the United States who have said that God will protect them from Covid, only to promptly die of Covid weeks later. Another example that comes to mind is a very religious man whose infant son had brain tumors that kept coming back, and despite lots of prayer and true faith in the ability of the child to get better, the child died anyway.
Council: First we’d like to say here, if it’s the child’s desire, because the child creates his own life, to leave this reality, all the prayers in the world will not change that. If there are enough prayers and the soul decides to change what it wanted, it is possible.
And also, especially when it hits someone in their faith – a pastor saying that God would protect them and then the opposite happens – there’s fear behind there. There’s doubt in the belief.
And it also happens that the souls that come together in this group that hear this have agreed to have their faith tested, and so that’s why it works or it doesn’t work. Many souls want to know: “Oh, okay, I’m going to go into this reality and something will come up and it’s not always planned, but something will come up to test my faith. I want to see how I handle it. How do I turn this situation around? And sometimes it can be done, and sometimes it can’t be done, but it always affects all the people involved. And so, many times it’s to test one’s faith when it’s coming from a religious person.
Many people believe a pastor, a priest, or a rabbi, what they say is law and must happen because they have this great connection to God, but we would say that’s not true. It’s your connection to your higher self, it’s your connection to your belief that makes your reality happen.
Anonymous Also: In these examples, people had faith in their beliefs, although I’m sure they were also afraid and angry, like we humans all can be in adverse circumstances.
Council: Of course. And there was questioning, and there was doubt, and there was fear, and that always changes the outcome. But always remember, the person you’re praying for knows if it’s time and they want to leave this reality, or come through a miraculous cure to show the people around them that this is possible. There are lessons. There are plans behind the lessons. And so you can just observe and do what makes you feel good. Pray for the people, don’t pray for the people. That is part of the emotions you wish to experience and perhaps work through, and change it, or just have the experience. It’s all up to you.
Anonymous Also: How are we supposed to understand their stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite significant spiritual effort?
Council: Because the higher self knows what it wants to plan, and what it wants to go through. And so you may not understand what another person is going through, but it’s your place to allow them to go through it and help them in any way you can because we’re here to support and help each other.
But just allow, and know that if it’s time for them to leave this planet, they’re going back into spirit, which is a wonderful place. No one comes into this reality and wants to stay here. As a spirit, when you’re planning what you want to do, what you want to create, you want to do everything and go back home. So dying, as people say, is not the end. It’s just a returning home. It’s a happiness that you experience. You’re in the energy of love. The vibration is wonderful, and that is part of the understanding. You’re not here for forever, even though some people would like to do that, if possible.
But you want to have your fun, or your challenges, and return home and share what you’ve learned, and help the others that are left behind to go through parts of their journey. And that is what creation is all about. What can you create? How much fun? How much of a challenge? What are you going to do with it? Okay, I’ve been here long enough. Time to go.
Bob: So are you saying that the way we’re supposed to understand people’s stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite a significant spiritual effort, is that from a human point of view they may have wanted them to go one way, but from a spiritual point of view they wanted their life to go a different way.
Council: Yes. Many people in human form, they aren’t thrilled with the idea of passing on. Your higher self knows much better. And as you meditate, and as your vibration changes, you’ll become more and more familiar with that thought. The understanding about it will come. And that’s why we say to everyone at this time, meditate, even if you just meditate on the fact that you are spirit. Get to that understanding and everything else will begin to change.
Anonymous Also: The most haunting example for me is the toxic optimism that kept Jews in Nazi Germany thinking it would get better, and then being trapped and then killed as things got worse.
Council: How wonderful? And how strong these people were to hang on to their faith and the hope that their situation would change. Did the people around them need to see these people that had such great hope? Was it there to hold other people together as they went through this experience? It’s a wonderful thing. It was done on a large scale to teach all of your reality at this time about how strong people can be, how many have suffered, and how not to allow this kind of behavior anymore. To not hate and have enemies, but to love, and have compassion, and to live together in peace. It’s a huge lesson on a grand scale.
Anonymous Also: I’m sure there are families in Ukraine who are experiencing this same situation now.
Council: Of course.
Anonymous Also: The message there for me seems to be, if things start getting bad, flee. But I’m assuming that’s not the message that was meant to be taken away.
Council: Some people will believe it’s to their benefit to flee and they will. And others will believe, this is my home and I won’t leave. I will stand and fight. I’ll do what I need to do. And this is their choice. This is their belief. Whether you can understand what they choose, admire them for following what they believe and what they want to do.
Anonymous Also: Yet how are we supposed to understand actions that can be perceived as irrational optimism when the results of those actions are catastrophic for the individuals involved?
Council: To the individual involved it isn’t irrational what they believe, what they’re trying to create, or what they’re hoping for. And again, watch these people and learn from them. There may be a time in this life or a future life where what you see now will be an example for you to use in another life. We all learn together from one another.
Anonymous Also: From my human perspective as part of a powerful divine spirit, I certainly don’t consciously want to die a violent death, and I don’t want that for my loved ones.
Council: Of course. And as you said, the main word here is, consciously.
Anonymous Also: Yet sudden deaths and horrific tragedies happen anyway, including to my family. Yes, we made plans in advance for what we agreed to experience, but if we’re also very much one with our higher selves, how can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us?
Council: Do not forget here that what you have planned, you always have the choice to change. And so you meditate. You talk to yourself before you sleep that you’d like to change the direction your life is going in. You have the power to do this. You are not a victim. Whichever way your life is going is because of the choices you’re making and the direction you planned to go, but you do have a choice to change it.
Anonymous Also: How can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us that we, now as humans and supposedly now also on a higher level, don’t want?
Council: On a higher level, if it’s happening, then it’s wanted. So you can’t understand many of the things that happen that you feel you don’t want, but they do happen. On a higher level everything goes forward, everyone here in this reality is playing their part, is having their experience, and then is moving back again into spirit. It’s a wonderful thing. It’s like having a part in a movie or a play and then going back home.
Anonymous Also: In other words, I’m confused about agency and power, and who really has what. It often seems like what the higher self wants: challenges and bringing love into a difficult situation, and what the human extension wants: safety, not suffering, are opposite, but we’re also supposed to be intimately one and the same.
Council: You are one and the same, and yet it’s very difficult at this time for many people to understand that. And so the higher self creates the human body, the person, to go through whatever it is, and directs it in the way it wants it to have the experience. It’s not always understood by the human brain. But when you start to work with your heart chakra, which is beginning to happen for many people, you’ll get an understanding that comes from feeling and doesn’t come from words.
Anonymous Also: To give another example, I learned in an earlier question for The Council that I was tortured and witnessed torture as a child in a past life, which to some extent has colored my current life with fear. When I think about it, I keep coming back to the thought: Who the heck would want that? To see how I handle it? The answer is, I’d handle torture badly. I’m sure I did handle torture badly. Did I and others really need to be tortured just to have an opportunity to extend comfort to others who are suffering, or understand that children shouldn’t be tortured? Why go so extreme?
Council: The extreme sometimes is needed and the experience is wanted. No one likes the idea of torture. And yet we hear many people say: We are saints and we are sinners. So having the thought of torture is horrible, yes, but then there were lives when you experienced the opposite side of the coin and you were the torturer. It’s just an experience. That is all it is. And so we say it’s difficult to understand because no one wants to go through this. And yet many people, when they’re tortured, are halfway out of their bodies and don’t feel it. And it’s a way of them starting to release the body, to end the torture, and to then return into the spirit life.
And so even though it’s not wanted, sometimes it’s needed. It’s needed for the person, the people around them, and it may be needed to be on the news and go out into the world for others to hear these things. And that’s why this happens.
Anonymous Also: Finally, when I shared your website with a family member because I found it so helpful, she said to me, “It feels like this philosophy is blaming the victim. Like if they had only been more positive they would have been okay. This seemed like a fair criticism to me from her perspective and I wanted to know how The Council would respond to it.
Council: Of course, if they were more positive, perhaps they wouldn’t have created what they created. And so, again, the understanding isn’t available when it comes from your brain. It must come from your heart, that whatever it is there that you’ve decided to go through, again, it’s just an experience and not an ending.
And there are no victims. Of course, many would like to blame others, but there are no victims. Where you can come into this reality and say, “Well, I want to experience abandonment.” You may not specifically say, “I want my parents to abandon me. Or I’ll get married and have children and my husband will abandon me.” You may just put out there, “I want to experience abandonment.” And then, as you go through life, you’ll pull in from the people around you, this abandonment. Some people say, “I want to experience shame.” So they’ll create getting AIDS or another sexual disease so that they’ll feel shameful.
It’s what you create to go through, what it is you want to experience. And it’s not always step-by-step how it’s going to be, and sometimes it is. Again, you have the choice to make your life happen the way you want it.
Anonymous Also: I believe I understand the idea that there are no victims and no perpetrators, and that we switch roles out of love for one another.
Council: Constantly.
Anonymous Also: But in the situation where someone wants something desperately and wants to change their plan, and visualizing it changing it still doesn’t happen…
Council: It doesn’t happen because of the word you use. They want something desperately. When you’re asking for something desperately, the feeling that comes from the word, desperate, is not of a high vibration. When you ask for something in a way: “I’m so excited because this is what I want and this is coming. I’m ready to receive that.” The feel of those words and the vibration is very different. So we’d inform you and guide you, do not ask for something being desperate.
Anonymous Also: This also reminds me of your post, Are There Things We Ask For That We’ll Never Get? which asks similar questions, but for me it didn’t have a graspable enough conclusion about these issues.
Council: Sometimes you ask for things because you think it would make you happy, or it’s something that you really, really want, but your higher self knows you don’t need it, or that’s not the direction you want to go in. So you don’t get it. And yet if you focus, you will bring it into your reality. It may not last or it may last. You are the creator, and so always remember that. Your tools are your choices and your thoughts. Because the words that you sound in your head and the thoughts that you have bring on emotion and bring on feeling.
The feeling is what goes out into the Universe and brings you what you want. What you want must match how you feel. And so, if you feel desperate, what you want will not come. If you are in the state of a vibration where you’re excited and you’re feeling love, and you’re waiting for this, you’ll be able to bring it in.
Anonymous Also: I’m sorry for this long downer topic, but I’d very much appreciate your insight, as always, to make grappling with these big questions a little easier. Gaining some clarity will allow me to finally lay aside some fears and hopefully get to a place of higher vibration, and perhaps there are other readers who struggle with the same questions who may also be helped. I hope so.
Council: So the information we’ve given will touch different people in different ways. But even for yourself, it will give you a different perspective, a different way to think of things, a different way to try to create, and a different way to handle what’s going on in your life. It will change things for you.
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How Can I Overcome Stage Fright With My Dancing Hobby?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: I want to know why I’m in a toxic circle for so many years with my dancing hobby. I don’t know why I have so many emotional problems with it. All my life dancing has been my biggest hobby. It’s made me feel happy, free, and alive when I dance just for myself or with other students, and I’m not bad at all.
Council: And that’s a wonderful thing. You’re doing something, whether it’s for work or a hobby, if it brings you pleasure, if it makes you feel good, that is a wonderful thing. And you’re on the right path
Bluestar Child: But I stopped going to classes many times because I have a stage phobia and I hate dancing in front of an audience. It makes me anxious, I get mentally and emotionally blocked, my mind goes blank, and I forget the choreography.
Council: And so at this point in your reality you’re aware enough of these feelings, and so we’d ask you to ask yourself, if you feel this way then why do you do it? Is there a person with a gun to your head? Are they going to throw you into a cell if you don’t perform in front of an audience?
It’s important to know how you feel and to follow your feelings because your feelings come from your higher self, which is you. And so your feelings are trying to tell you that you love dancing. It’s giving you that answer, but you don’t like doing it in front of an audience. And so your higher self, again which is you, is telling you that you don’t need to do it this way. So ask yourself, why do you force yourself to do it?
You’re in a place in this reality where you’ll create your future. You have choices. You are free to make decisions that make you happy. Always go for the happy feeling. That is your guidance.
Bluestar Child: Do I have past lives that are affecting me in developing my hobby?
Council: There was one particular life in India with dancing that you would do with other women and you’d also perform on your own. At the age of no more than 25 years old the people that owned you or took care of you would take the girls that reached that age and no longer have them dance. And either they would make them be concubines or they would kill them. And so there’s a subconscious memory you have of when you don’t dance, when that time is up and you don’t do what they ask, you’ll then lose your life. And that’s where your fear comes from.
Bluestar Child: Does my problem come from the lack of self-esteem as a woman from my childhood in this current lifetime?
Council: Not at all. You are working through that.
Bluestar Child: Although my teachers know about my problem dancing in public, they ask me or pressure me to dance at galas and events, even if they have nothing to do with my classes, and always for free.
Council: Do you see the connection, how in this past life you’d be told to dance, whether you wanted to or not? You weren’t paid for it. This was just something you had to do. And so this time you’re trying to find another way to handle your situation and enjoy the dancing, but have the choice of whether you want to perform in front of an audience or not, and have a good ending for you, have a good ending to this problem, to this fear, and to move on.
Bluestar Child: They never want to pay me for this job and it seems to me that they abuse me.
Council: Ahh, bingo, another connection with your past life. Do you see it now?
Bluestar Child: And when I tell them, no, that causes problems for me, and my teachers, and with the other students. Is what I’m doing correct, or should I perform in front of an audience?
Council: We feel you know this answer, but we tell you if it’s not bringing you happiness, then dancing for an audience isn’t correct, and that you have the ability to change how you handle this. You have a choice.
Bluestar Child: I’m stressed and I don’t know how to handle this situation that causes me suffering. And since I don’t know how to solve it in another way, in the end I always end up leaving classes to avoid having to dance in public.
I feel very attached, in particular, to Arabic belly dancing…
Council: Ahh, yes.
Bluestar Child: …and Egypt, and I feel that I’ve already danced this dance in another life. I’d like to know if this is the case, or why I have this deep feeling since I learned about this dance.
Council: This is because you have done it before and you did have pleasure from it. And you have pleasure, you’ve created it again in this reality where this dance would bring you joy. And so we say, do it, but do it only for yourself if that’s what gives you joy.
Bluestar Child: I’d like to know how I can approach ancestral belly dance for spiritual development because I feel that I have a spiritual mission to fulfill with it, but I don’t know what it is or how to achieve it.
Council: So what you’d do here would be to dance, to sit and meditate after you dance, or even meditate before you dance, and ask for the feeling, ask for the visions of how you had it before and what you loved about it. And you’ll link into this other life and then when you decide in your current reality to handle the situation your way, the joy you get from this dancing will increase a hundredfold and you will find other ways to use this dancing.
So you don’t have to know how this will happen now, but with the meditation and using your imagination, what would that have been like in India, what would that have been like in Rome, what would that have been like in Egypt, When you dance and you ask for this, the answers will come. And why the answers will come is because this dancing brings you joy. When it brings you joy, the answers will come.
Remember to have fun on this journey that you’ve created for yourself, to have fun with the spirits around you that you’ve welcomed into your life, and always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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Did I Plan To Get Married And Have Children In This Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous N.
Anon N: My primary question is: What is my purpose or goal in this lifetime?
Council: Just to be, to jump in here and create a life and create one with love, create one that’s fun, to create things where you can help others and help yourself. It’s all to learn now, in this time of your life, to work with your mind and find a happy, loving space.
Anon N: In recent years I’ve struggled with understanding if marriage and children are planned or supported for me in this life.
Council: How does it make you feel? Question yourself. When you have the imagery in your mind of being married and having children, how does it feel? Your feelings will not lie. You’re here to learn how to work with your feelings, which is your higher self giving you the direction of which way to go.
If you love the feeling of being married, having children, and you can see a happy home, then yes. If the idea of getting married brings you doubt and not wanting to be married, not that you have to be married, but you always have a choice. Does it feel uncomfortable? If it doesn’t bring you joy, then we would say for now, marriage isn’t something you wish to create.
Anon N: But I”ve also felt that I’m not sure how much of an interest I’ve had in marriage and children and what I should focus on otherwise. At the same time, I feel I’ve cultivated a solitary life out of convenience and comfort.
Council: And if you’ve created this life, which of course you have, are you happy? Does this feeling of what you do on a daily basis bring you joy? Do you need to add something to it? Your feelings will answer you, but ask the questions.
Anon N: But I’m not sure if it makes sense for me to remain in this solitary life.
Council: You may want a solitary life for a while and then be married. Or you may love the solitary life with the freedom it will give you and you don’t want to be married. There’s no right or wrong answer. There’s no: I’m supposed to do this. You’re supposed to do what you create, what makes you feel good?
Anon N: What do I need to know or hear right now for any kind of direction?
Council: Sit and imagine each scenario. Imagine them over and over again and then always see how you feel. It will lead you in the right direction.
Look at the people around you. Are they happily married? Are they not happily married? Do you look at the people around you and say, Oh, I’d like that. I’d like to have a life like that. Or do you look at the people around you and say, No way. I don’t want to be in a steady relationship, in a marriage to one person forever. That’s not what I want. I feel I want the freedom. And follow these feelings.
See what goes on around you. There will be clues. Your higher self will bring the right people to you to show you, to give you examples, and then you’ll know what to do. It’s your job to pay attention.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Every day create happiness, even if it’s for the littlest thing. Because when you’re in the vibration of happiness you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer-term basis. So have fun with it.
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How Can I Stop My Adopted Cat’s Itchiness?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristine.
Kristine: I adopted a beautiful cat last year and she’s been itching on the sides of her head and behind her ears and neck the whole time I’ve had her, which would have started prior to the adoption. The vet thought she had a food allergy and put her on a hypoallergenic diet.
Council: It’s a sound vibration. The cat is feeling a tingle or a vibration from a sound. Apparently, we see this cat, as a kitten, fell and there was some movement. We would put this as easily as possible for you to understand. There was some movement in the ears, so this cat is sensitive to sound and hears and feels some sounds.
This cat needs a lot of loving care and a lot of attention. It should always have a quiet atmosphere. You can do some healing on this cat. You don’t have to know anything special. You can just put your hands on the cat and send love from your heart We see, in time, if you keep doing this, the sound will become less and less, and there’s a possibility of it fading.
There’s no medicine that’s needed. Massage is needed for the cat’s neck, under the ears, and around the body to make it feel comfortable. That’s what we see and what we recommend for this wonderful kitty.
Bob: If a human was having this problem might you recommend craniosacral therapy?
Council: That’s also wonderful if you can find a craniosacral therapist that works on animals, and they are out there. But no loud music, no loud noise, and no yelling. This cat must be in a calm atmosphere.
And of course, the spirit of the cat, just like a human, has choices. When it begins to feel safe and it no longer wants to hear this noise, when it’s used to being in the quiet, it will choose not to hear this noise anymore.
Kristine: The vet thought she had a food allergy and put her on a hypoallergenic diet, which she was on for at least five months, and she continued to itch and bleed.
Council: We don’t see that’s the problem.
Kristine: Friends suggested the cat might have fleas, but the treatment for fleas didn’t work. I kept her inside and stopped using any fragrances and perfumes and that hasn’t worked.
Council: The cat is feeling the vibration of this sound in her head.
Kristine: I’ve taken her to the vet four times and they want her on medication for the rest of her life, even though they have no idea what the cause is, and I won’t do that to her. I’m so horribly stressed and feel awful for her, but I don’t know what else to do.
Council: It’s important for you to meditate and not add to the cat’s stress. The cat will feel your vibration. And so, you have to come with love to this cat, with confidence, with the feeling that the cat is well, and telling the cat it’s well. And that all your love, together with the cat, will help it feel better. Come from your heart. Put your hands on the cat, and send love daily, at least for 10 minutes.
Kristine: Council, please, what can you see? Why is she itching all the time? I want her to have the best life with me. I adore her and I just want her to be happy. She’s all I have.
Besides the scratching, is she happy I adopted her?
Council: Oh yes. There’s great happiness there, so bond closely and just tell her that together you’ll help her feel better.
Kristine: Is there anything else I can do to make her feel loved and happy?
Council: It’s the massage every day. It’s the quietness. No loud surroundings and no tension. The tension also adds to the vibration she hears and feels. Calmness, which will help both of you, we see you both need it. So you’ve come together to both learn to be calm.
Bob: And as far as the hypoallergenic food is concerned, she can feed the cat whatever she wants?
Council: Exactly. If the cat likes the hypoallergenic food, then, yes, continue it.
Kristine: Your love and guidance is beyond appreciated. Love and appreciation, Kristine.
Council: Love to you and your cat on your journey.
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Why Does My Cat Urinate Outside Its Litterbox?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Janet.
Janet: My 18-year-old cat is going to the bathroom outside his litterbox. His veterinarian has ruled out medical issues and says my cat’s trying to tell me something. What’s he trying to tell me?
Council: At this point we can see that this cat is forgetting, almost like a person having dementia, so sometimes he just forgets to use his litterbox. But your cat also wants attention. So we’d say, at some point during the day or in the evening, have this cat in your lap or next to you, pet it, give it a lot of attention, and speak to it. That’s what this little soul wants.
Bob: Eighteen years old is kind of old for a cat. Do you think the extra attention will…
Council: Yes, it will help, but part of this problem is your cat just forgets to use the litterbox.
Bob: And can that be helped?
Council: Yes, with the extra attention you give this cat.
Janet: I feel soul-connected to this cat as well. How are we soul-connected?
Council: You are soul-connected. We see that the soul of this little cat has chosen you, and you chose it to work through this issue of his not using his litterbox sometimes. Also for you to get more of an understanding of what happens with age, not only in humans, but also in animals. And for the soul of this cat to still have the love it wants, as if it was a kitten. And so you are connected where you’ve chosen each other to experience this.
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What Past Lives Did I Chose To Work On In This Life, And Why?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Maureen.
Maureen: I’d like to know the main scenarios of the past lives that I chose to continue to work on in my current lifetime, and why.
Council: There’s never one thing you want to accomplish in each life, but what we see here is the main thing that’s happened in other lives that you’d like to work on in this life is self-esteem and teaching.
Look at the life you’ve created now. Are you proud of your creations? Are you satisfied and feel happy about what you’re doing? Is there more you want to do and don’t feel capable of?
To work on that you must look at yourself, see what you desire, and then find a way – and we always say the quickest way is meditation – to meditate and see it, and then see yourself accomplishing it, whatever it is. It could be the tiniest thing or winning a million dollars. But it’s very important for you to see your accomplishments in your current lifetime, and then to help others that are in a place with low self-esteem. You’ve experienced that in other lives.
First find a way to look at yourself, see your accomplishments, be grateful for them, then see what else you want to accomplish, and then share these desires, even if it’s just with friends. Share what you want, and as you share it, just that little bit plants a seed in others, and they will learn from you, and they will go on and accomplish more.
Those are the main topics that you want to be done at this time. There’s plenty of work to be done there. And so we’d say, now it the time to work on this.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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What’s Blocking My Having A Long-Term Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who’s looking for a long-term relationship.
Anon: I asked you about a long-term relationship in my future a while back and recently, after not focusing on relationships for a while, I tried to date again and met someone I thought had some potential. However, it’s been a very brief and confusing experience and they’ve decided to see someone else.
Council: So what have you found in this relationship that would bring you joy? What have you found that you can move on and find in another relationship? It’s always good to look for the experience and you’ll find in it things you want and things you don’t want.
And so we always say, before you look again, what have you learned? And what is the desire you want that you can create with the next person you bring into your reality?
Anon: I feel I understand the part I may have played in sabotaging things a bit, but I can also see that this person has baggage that makes us incompatible, at least for now.
Council: It’s good that you acknowledge this, but this baggage that you mention, it’s just experiences. It’s just beliefs the other person has, wanting to change or bring into their reality.
As a spirit you can notice, and you’ll only notice where you are, you can notice the differences or the baggage as something you’d like to go through with this person and also learn from. Or just help. Or you can be in another place where this is too much for me. I don’t want to be involved. There’s no right. There is no wrong. It’s just choices.
Anon: Is this just another short learning experience, or is there any further potential in this relationship?
Council: There is always potential. But what we like to put out there to everyone over and over again, you are the creator. If there’s potential and you want to stay in this relationship and see how you create it the way you want it to go, it’s because that is your focus and your heart’s desire. Your wanting will make it the way it will appear in your reality.
So yes, of course there’s the possibility of a relationship with this person. And there’s also the letting go if that’s what you wanted. Always know that you are the creator. What will you learn in the relationship? How will you bring love into this relationship?
Everyone has your so-called baggage. You have baggage. Where is it?
Always remember it’s your choice on the path you take. It’s not written in stone anywhere that you must do this because there’s this contract. There is no contract. There’s just spirits coming to help and say, “I’ll be there for you. I’ll go through this with you. Or I’ll pop in for a little while.”
The #1 example we’d give you is to look at this relationship. Is there enough for you to want to work through the baggage? Or is it too difficult for you? Make that decision and then go from there.
“Well it’s difficult, but I’d like to create it a little differently.”
“Well it’s too difficult. I need to get out of this situation and find somebody else where it’s easier.”
Well you can do this also.
“Oh, I’d like to have two or three partners at one time and just have fun.”
You can create that too. You are the creator.
Anon: At the least I do feel like this person could become a friend in my life and I’d like to help them on their journey, but I’m not completely sure.
Council: Well, you can jump in there for a little while. Show kindness. Be supportive. Show love. See what you receive back. And is this making you feel you’re closer to the true you? Are you closer to spirit?
Whatever decision you make, whatever direction you decide to go in, if you don’t like it, well the answer is simple. You change your mind and you start creating in another direction. It’s as simple as that.
Anon: What would be the most loving way for me to approach this connection?
Council: Be genuine. Love yourself. And in every situation try to remember this person is also a spirit that has agreed to be in your life, and wants you in their life for whatever reasons. Isn’t that wonderful? What a wonderful friendship. So take this relationship where you want.
Anon: Is there someone else coming into my life with whom I’d be able to build or co-create a long-term romantic relationship?
Council: It’s entirely up to you.
Anon: What’s blocking a long-term relationship from coming in?
Council: Just your focus. Find your desire. Focus on it and it will happen.
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Where Should I Relocate To?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anon: I no longer feel like I’m living in the correct place. I’m drawn to relocate to either a new province, or overseas where my husband grew up.
Council: We see here already that this was your desire in pre-planning this incarnation, so we suggest you follow through on that. And also, when you do relocate, there will be beneficial ways to travel, and to see other places, and to meet other people. That was all that was wanted also in this incarnation.
Anon: Moving overseas feels more freeing to me…
Council: Yes
Anon: … but I’m concerned because the country appears to be politically unstable.
Council: At this time in your incarnation there are a lot of places that feel unstable. And yet it’s your choice to be there to learn how to experience it, how to deal with it, and to turn it around and make it favorable for you and your family.
Bob: So it sounds like the pre-planning was to move overseas to the country where her husband grew up.
Council: Yes.
Anon: I feel the urge to move quite quickly and I’m not sure where this is coming from. I was wondering if The Council could provide some guidance for me. Thank you very much. I really enjoy reading all the questions and responses.
Council: The feeling of moving more quickly is because you want to get on your path and experience what you wished to do in pre-planning this. There’s nothing negative about that feeling, but it’s just your higher self telling you, “Okay, let’s do it.” And it will be a wonderful experience for you.
Bob: Getting back to what you mentioned earlier about in their travels, there was something about other places.
Council: Yes, and it could be just day trips or week trips or just to move around, but it all will be beneficial and for things that are wanted.
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Who Is This Older Man I Experienced A Strong Connection With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cretu.
Cretu: Long ago I experienced a very strong connection with a man 29 years older than me. Nothing happened between us. It was a silent knowing, just by looking into each other’s eyes and smiling at each other – a very pure form of bonding.
Council: It was a recognition with someone you’ve been with in other lifetimes.
Cretu: People around us became immediately aware of this energy and my life started to slowly get intoxicated by cruelty and jealousy to the point that years later I became a recluse. One girl went to a fortune teller and asked them to do something bad to me. I never believed in these things, but my life truly went downhill a few years later.
Council: Apparently you do believe that other people can create something bad in your life because no one can do anything bad to you. Many people say they don’t believe in curses or bad things being sent to them, but on a deeper level they do believe it. And so because of this belief, they start seeing things going downhill in their life.
It’s very important for you to know that you’re in charge of your life. If anything is going downhill, if you’re experiencing many challenges and much unhappiness, you are creating this from your thoughts.
The number one thing would be to meditate that you’re in spirit. You come here to the Earth path and you know that you’re in complete control of your life. Anything you’re experiencing, you’re creating it. When your life is uncomfortable, you’re creating it to see, know, and believe you can change it.
Bob: So when Cretu says that she became intoxicated by cruelty and jealousy, she chose to experience the cruelty and jealousy?
Council: Exactly. It was there and it was Cretu’s choice to let it in, but it was your choice on how you’d let this cruelty and jealousy affect you. Could you laugh at it? Can you let it go? Or will it overwhelm you, bring you sadness, and make you nervous? This cruelty and jealousy were experienced by you so you could see how you chose to experience it.
Bob: Any comments on what Cretu says about years later becoming a recluse?
Council: This was all her choice. This was out of fear and out of believing everything is going wrong.
Cretu: When I was in this man’s presence, I used to vibrate with such joy and love that I never felt anywhere else in the world. Just the thought of him would connect me with the source and my higher self. It was magical, and I could tell that it was reciprocated, even though we never told each other it was magical.
Council: This man came into your life to help you to connect with the source. And when you were connected and you knew that feeling was so wonderful, when this person is no longer in your life, it was your experience that would make you try to connect with source and your higher self without this person, and of course you can do that.
Cretu: I’d like to know who and what this person is to me, and who and what I am to him.
Council: You are spirits that have come together before, you have experienced lifetimes together, you learned well together, and you decided to take another crack at this process this time around.
Cretu: I’ve always wondered if there was a past life connection between us.
Council: You’ve come together in past lives as siblings, mothers, and fathers. You’ve switched roles. You’ve been partners before. For many lifetimes you wished to learn the same things, and so you jump in together in different lifetimes to create what you wanted to experience. It’s a wonderful partnership that comes together every now and then, and you’ve chosen this partnership in your current life.
Bob: Any comments on the 29-year age difference between Cretu and this man?
Council: Not at all. This connection was wanted and it was pre-planned that there would be such an age difference. It would just be when their meeting occurred, a recognition, a comfortable feeling, and being elated in the feeling of love because that’s who we truly are. And working together in past lives it was easy to connect to that emotion of who we really are as love and light when we’d be with that person, or even think of that person. It’s still possible.
Cretu: In two different periods of my life I experienced flashbacks from past lives and there’s one scene that’s haunted me forever – the silhouette of a man with a hat and cloak walking at night, and the same man lying with me on the ground in the street as one of us was dying, and promising to each other that our love would have been stronger than death.
It’s not easy to describe what happens to me when I connect with different times. It literally takes me away from the present, and all my soul and mind. I hope I can find answers through The Council.
Council: It’s very important when you had these images to see them and feel them. You can try and find out more about it, like what happened right before that scene in the street, or what happened after it. That’s an experience to connect with the past.
But we tell you that you are here now to focus on the now. It’s important not to keep going back to that past, or to any past. Take a look here and there, but live your life in your present. That’s what you intended to do – create in this lifetime.
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Are My Past Lives Affecting My Addictions In My Current Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Spiritual Girl.
Spiritual Girl: Due to my alcohol and cigarette addictions, I’d like to ask The Council about my past life experiences, and are they affecting my ability to deal with these addictions in my current reality?
Council: Yes, your past lives are affecting how you deal with these addictions in your current reality. In your current life you just wanted to have more life experience concerning addictions.
We see here two lives in the 1800s. One as a young man who was murdered because of his gambling addiction, and that was something you wanted to experience.
Then there was a life where you were sick and you were addicted to a drug that was called laudanum at that time.
You experienced two lives with addictions and wished to have more experiences around addictions so that when you plan in the future to not come into a physical reality, you can help people with addictions from the spirit world. That’s why you’re having more addictions in your current lifetime.
It’s your choice as a spirit to experience these addictions. Take this experience and then help others in the future, which is a wonderful thing.
Bob: Will Spirit Girl be helping others in her current life?
Council: If her life goes forward like it was planned, there will be help for others in her current reality.
Bob: Did Spirit Girl plan to overcome her addictions in her current reality?
Council: Yes, we do see this. Of course Spirit Girl is the creator of her reality, and so she’ll find the help she needs with her addictions when her spirit feels it has enough experience in this part of her life, and then she’ll find a way to turn that experience around.
SG: Also, I have a horrible heartache from being separated from my short-lived relationship with my twin flame (past 20 years). I’ve never had such a beautiful love, and then I had it ripped away from me. It was so painful, but I want to be able to heal the pain.
Council: The past life we see is in the 1800s where you were addicted to laudanum and you were with this person who was the great love of your current life. From the addiction you collapsed one day and died in the street from an overdose.
Bob: It sounds like Spirit Girl is referring to the heartache of being separated in her current life.
Council: Yes. The same person that Spirit Girl separated from in her current lifetime was her lover and then her husband in her past lifetime in the 1800s when she was addicted to laudanum.
Bob: Any suggestion on how Spirit Girl can heal the pain she experiences from this separation in her current life?
Council: To begin with, Spirit Girl can know she and this man have been together in a past life, and if they want to, they’ll be together again in a future life.
The experience of separation is to bring you the knowledge that there’s so much more that you’ve had in a past life, and you can have it again in a future life. You can have again whatever you experienced previously. Be grateful for that, and know there are things that you’ll learn from that experience of separation.
There are questions you can meditate on and get answers to. Before going to sleep, in this state you can talk to this soul from that lifetime or from this lifetime, and you can have that feeling of connection. But always, always know that if it’s wanted, you’ll be together again.
Bob: So it sounds like it would be helpful for Spirit Girl to focus on her connection with this soul rather than on the feeling of separation?
Council: Yes.
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Are Some Events Pre-Planned In Spirit More Likely To Happen Than Others?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari.
Mari: I’ve read in some books on the afterlife and reincarnation that certain important events in life are pre-planned, with a high probability of happening. For example, marrying a particular person, going to a particular school, having a child, or having certain disabilities. And no matter which way you go, that event will most likely occur. Other events are supposedly pre-planned only as possibilities.
Council: Your higher self always knows what you pre-plan and what you want to experience. There are many times when you’re setting up a new life that you pick souls you worked with and learned with before. You’d choose one as a husband, a wife, a brother, or a mother. There are times you want them in your life for a while, and you’ll set that up, learn what’s needed, and then move on.
There are times when you may make an agreement with a soul where you say, Let’s see how our life goes. Let’s see what I create and what you create, and is it a meeting where we’ll become friends and experience more, or is it just a quick meeting and you move on? By doing it this way you don’t know what you’re going to create, and so you have the ability to go into this relationship with this spirit, or turn and go on another path. There are some relationships where it’s very positive, we know each other before, and let’s do it again. What is it that you want to learn? What is it that I want to learn? We’ll support each other in this. And there are other relationships where you just see how it goes.
The freedom is always yours. Even if you decide to recreate something you set up, your higher self knows if you’re learning what you want to learn, if you’re having a good time, and if you’re achieving what you wanted to achieve. You’ll always be able to pick the direction you go in, even if you don’t consciously know that the choice was yours to do this or to do that and to have this experience.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re agreeing with Mari when she says you can pre-plan an event that has a high probability of happening.
Council: Yes
Bob: And you’re saying even though it does have a high probability of happening, you have the free will to change that.
Council: You always have free will. Every day of your life you can connect with the other spirit, with their higher self and your higher self, and you’ll know this is the way we want it to go. Or let’s not go this way. Let’s change this and change that. You’re always in connection with these other spirits.
Bob: And it sounds like you’re also saying that you can pre-plan possibilities that aren’t necessarily likely or unlikely to happen, and you determine at the time you’re living what you pre-planned in that life whether you want to follow that path or not.
Council: Exactly. The choice is always yours.
Mari: You’ve indicated in many places that you have to believe in something for it to occur.
Bob: Can you comment on that?
Council: You can’t believe in something you don’t remember that you’re creating in spirit. You don’t have to believe it because your higher self and the other person’s higher self will work to make this happen. But if it’s something you want in your life, like a new job or a new partner, it always helps to believe you want it and it’s coming to you. There are many things you won’t remember that you have planned, but your higher self will take you there. When it’s something you consciously want, it always works much better if you believe you can have it.
Bob: You’re also saying that even if you don’t consciously believe in something, it can still occur.
Council: Yes, it can. Believe in the power of your higher self because it’s you. You’re the only one who’s creating in your reality.
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Should I Stay Married to My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starseed_Lightworker, who says, I’m at a crossroads in my life and I’d appreciate your guidance in the decision I want to make. My husband and I have had various issues since the beginning of our marriage and it’s been ten years now. I was in an abusive relationship for a long time, and then I decided to love myself and be self-dependent. I was in such a miserable situation earlier in my life that I felt like committing suicide a couple of times during that phase, but my love for my young child kept me alive. By hard work and the grace of God I’m now in a position to take care of myself and my child. The thing is that my husband seems to have changed during the last three years, but I can’t forget what he and his family did to me earlier.
The Council asks you to remember that your husband is on his own journey, and there are challenges and issues that he wishes to learn about, even though you don’t know what this is. We think it’s wonderful that you’ve begun to see the change in your husband. And it’s wonderful that you’ve gone ahead and become what you planned in spirit to become in this life, which was to be powerful, independent, and to do it all yourself and not need another person to do things for you. You don’t have to suffer through abuse or the fear of abandonment. You’ve changed your path and in your lifetime you’ve created the path you wanted to find.
Starseed says, Going forward my plan is to keep doing better work in the office and study part-time in a university while doing work to support myself and my child. Eventually when my child grows up I plan to retire, travel, and do more spiritual and teaching work. I don’t want to be dependent on anyone for money, happiness, and taking care of me. I want to do it all myself. The Council says they see you’re already on this path.
Starseed says, I’ve begun to find solace in loneliness now. The Council says you’re beginning to find solace with yourself, not with loneliness. There’s quite a difference.
Starseed says, I have a very good job opportunity in a different state. It’s remote work right now, but I can move there if I want, which would be a fresh start for me and my child and a different way of living life. The Council says this was also something you wanted to create. You wanted to create travel, have the ability to move around, and be successful wherever you are. Look at what you’ve done. You’ve already brought this opportunity into your life.
Starseed says, The difficult decision I need to make is, should I continue staying with my husband for the sake of my child having a father. Or should I move on and build a new life for myself and my child? At the current moment I like my husband as a friend since he’s changed from his abusive patterns, but I’ve lost the love.
The Council says, Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to remain friends, but not be together as partners? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a friend that lives nowhere near you, but you can communicate in whatever way you wish and whatever time you want? We see what you’ve planned and you’ve planned to move on. We see there’s great success in your future if you stay on the path you wanted to create for yourself, and we see you’re doing a wonderful job of this. You’ll have another love in your life if you wish to not stay with your husband.
You’ve done so much and taken yourself so far. Would you hold yourself back now when you have the opportunity to move on? And as you move on, the work you do will change and your career will change. You have the opportunity if you really want this. If you’re afraid to leave right now, you can leave in the future. We see this is there for you. It’s what you’ve created. But we’d ask you, why would you come so far and hold yourself back? There’s no wrong answer. You will move forward. You’ll decide when. You have the power to make this move happen when you’re ready, and this is a beautiful thing.
Starseed says, I don’t know whether I can love my husband again considering the history. At the same time, I’m also not sure if there will be love for me outside of this marriage. Can The Council please guide me and provide some input. The Council says they are so happy for you. It’s hard for some people after they leave the spirit world. They have all these plans and one thing or another gets in the way. Or their plans change, which is fine. But you have created so much of what you wanted, of what you planned when you were in spirit. You’re a powerful soul. You’ll go forward in this life, whether it’s right now or five years from now.
You are right on track. You’re doing exactly what you wanted to do, and that’s a wonderful thing. We here are so happy for you. We’re proud that you’ve stayed on the path. We know it wasn’t easy, but you took your situation and changed it. Love yourself. Hug yourself. Kiss the mirror as you look at yourself. You’ve come a long way and we wish you much happiness and speed on your journey.
Stay friends with your husband, if that’s possible. Know that when you’re ready and when you want it, you’ll bring in another person to love. If you stay on your path, whether you go now or later, there’s another love and a successful future waiting for you. As much as you can, create in your mind how you think your life would be when you move on. Imagine where you want to live, how you want to work, and how you’d like to spend your free time. The more you focus on these things, the more you’ll know when it’s time to do what you want to do. The choice is always yours.
If you’re afraid at this moment, or you choose to stay and six months, a year, two years, three years later, you don’t like that you stayed, there’s no problem. Then you make another decision and change what you do. Go in the direction you want. Whether you go now or later it doesn’t matter. You are the creator. And while you’re trying to decide, imagine in every detail you can, the way you wish your life to be and all your answers will come.
We wish you all happiness, success, and most of all love and joy. Find the fun and joy on your path. If you feel you don’t have it, head towards it, imagine it, and know you are the creator. What you think of, what you say, what you write, what you visualize over and over is how you’re planning your future.
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Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.
The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.
When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.
And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.
At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.
When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.
Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.
Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.
Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.
Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.
Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.
If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.
Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.
Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other. Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.
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How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.
The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.
The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.
You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.
Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.
Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.
Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.
Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.
Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.
The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.
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Comparing the Ideas of Abraham-Hicks and Brian Weiss
Feeling conflicted about the message of Brian Weiss’s masters compared to the message of Abraham-Hicks
This post answers some very interesting questions from a reader named, Caroline, who’s been a long-time listener and lover of Abraham-Hicks. Caroline says, There’s really never been a message from Abraham I haven’t greatly resonated with. Recently I’ve become fascinated with the topic of reincarnation and read the book, Many Lives, Many Masters, by Brian Weiss. I feel very conflicted and confused after reading this because the messages of these masters seem to conflict with Abraham’s message in many ways. From Abraham I learned reincarnation exists, but its purpose isn’t to fix your past life mistakes or karma. Abraham says karma doesn’t accumulate and isn’t passed on from lifetime to lifetime.
We come into this reality to experience different beliefs
The Council says, first let’s begin with the two souls who are giving these messages. There’s Brian Weiss, who came into this reality to share this message about karma. This message is perceived as totally different from Abraham’s message. This is because we all come to this reality to learn different things and experience different beliefs. Brian Weiss chose to learn what he did about past lives and to share it. He shares this information for people who need to believe what he’s teaching. Abraham has come through Esther Hicks to share what you’d call a different message for other people who need to learn the way Esther is teaching, and function within those beliefs.
There’s no right and no wrong
It’s not that one of these people is right and the other is wrong. With your beliefs (what you choose to believe) you create in your reality. The people who hear about karma and how you bring it from one life to another, they need this teaching and they’ll experience lessons and learning through this teaching. Abraham says there is no karma and we’re here to have a wonderful time and create. Other souls who are on another level need to learn from that message. There’s no right and no wrong.
Choose the belief that makes sense to you
Learn about these two beliefs and then choose what makes the most sense to you. That’s how this reality is made. It’s made that we come here and have choices for every little thing we do. We have the choice what to believe. We have the choice what path we’ll follow. Many people can be raised one way and they have certain beliefs. As they get older they no longer vibrate with their earlier beliefs and so they change their beliefs. That’s the law of this universe. If Caroline disagrees with Brian Weiss’s message, she can play in her mind with the idea that there are other people who need that belief and she can allow these people to have these beliefs.
Caroline’s Beliefs
Caroline says she learned that the sole purpose of coming to Earth as a human is to have fun creating and sorting through desires and contrast. The Council says this is a wonderful belief for many people.
Freedom of choice is there for you
Caroline says she learned nothing is ever imposed on us, nothing is happening to us, everything is attracted to us through our thoughts and vibration. The Council says everything that happens to us and everything we experience is from our thoughts, our beliefs, and what we planned to experience in this life. No one else comes in and creates for you or tells you, this must be done this way and this must be done that way. The freedom of choice is there for you.
Caroline says, I learned from Abraham we can be, do, or have anything we desire. The Council responds, Of course. And if we want to go without and experience poverty, you have the freedom to do that.
It’s wonderful to be in alignment with your higher self
Caroline says, I learned from Abraham the best and only way you can help someone is to be in alignment with your inner being. I learned you can let yourself off the hook regarding thinking that you need to be helping people because everyone has their own inner guidance system and the best and only way you can help is to be in alignment with your own source. The Council says it’s wonderful to be in alignment with your own source, with your higher self. It’s also wonderful to have positive intentions.
We’re here to help others
You’re not here for the sole purpose of helping yourself. We come here from spirit, which is full of love. We come here bringing that love here and wanting to spread that love in this reality. You can’t do that by only taking care of yourself. You take care of yourself, but you look for others to help, to show compassion, to help them if they’re stuck on some part of their path. We don’t say this is something you have to do, but we’re here to spread the love. We are here to help others, not by forgetting ourselves, but by being in alignment and loving ourselves and sharing that love, compassion, and helpfulness with others.
Being selfish is NOT necessary
Caroline says, I learned from Abraham that being selfish is necessary. The Council emphatically states that being selfish is not necessary. Being selfish isn’t something you think of when you’re in spirit. You didn’t think you’ll come to Earth and only create for yourself. You didn’t think you will come to Earth and be selfish and you will come first and then everyone else will come. This isn’t how we share love.
Quotes from Brian Weiss’s Masters
Caroline says, Here are some quotes from the masters in Brian Weiss’s book. In my opinion, every one of these quotes conflicts with one or all of the statements I made above.
It’s just another path
“People of the religious orders have come closer than any of us to learning the lessons of life because they’ve taken these vows of chastity and obedience. They’ve given up so much without asking for anything in return.” The Council says this is something that people who follow certain religions need to believe. They aren’t closer to being enlightened. They aren’t higher on the rung of learning and moving forward because they’ve given up so much. It’s just another path and that’s the path they’re taking.
It’s not your higher intention to help someone so you can have a reward
Caroline says, “The rest of us continue to ask for rewards, rewards and justifications for our behavior when there are no rewards, rewards that we want. The reward is in doing, but doing without expecting anything, doing unselfishly.” The Council says it’s wonderful to ask for rewards. We believe Abraham called it putting your desires in your vortex. You have every right to want to enhance your life and have rewards. But it’s not your higher self’s intention to help someone so you can have a reward. Your reward will come naturally. The universe will help your reward happen. You’ll help others and you’ll be rewarded. That’s how the universe works. As you’re helpful to others the universe will say, How wonderful. We’ll now help this soul. We’ll show this soul what it feels like to be helped so they’ll continue to help others. We’ll give this person rewards. Whatever they’re thinking they’d like, whatever they’re imagining they can have, the universe will supply that for you.
Caroline says I feel like Abraham would say what I just quoted from Brian Weiss’s masters is such old news. The Council laughs and says it’s just another page in the newspaper.
You don’t come here carrying karma from other lifetimes unless there’s something you desire to experience
Brian Weiss’s masters say you should check your vices before you come to this point. If you don’t, you carry them over with you to another life. Only we can rid ourselves of the bad habits we accumulate when we’re in a physical state. The masters can’t do that for us. If you choose to fight and not to rid yourself, then you’ll carry them over to another life. The Council says this is another belief that many people need. It helps them through fear to learn how to be another person so they don’t carry what they believe they’ve done in other lives. It’s just a belief. You don’t come here carrying karma from other lifetimes unless you want to experience something, as we’d say, the other side of the coin.
It’s your choice
But it’s your choice to experience something you handled one way in one life and you wish to handle another way in your current life. It’s not a punishment. It’s something you choose to bring in and see how the other side feels, or how to do it differently. It’s your choice to go through that. It’s your choice to say: I did it this way. Let me see what would happen if, say, I didn’t turn my back on this person. Let’s see what that would look like. In spirit, very calmly, you plan some of the things you wish to experience. It’s all your choice.
It’s wonderful to ask for more
Caroline says the masters say we must accept what comes to us at a given time and not ask for more. Abraham says asking for more and accumulating desires in your vortex and bringing desires into physical reality is the purpose of life as a human. The Council says when you come here it’s to have a lot of fun, even if it’s stressful or challenging. The fun part is working it out, turning the situation around, and finding another way to experience it. As you’re going through your daily life it’s wonderful to ask for more. It’s wonderful to have desires.
Purpose of a child’s death was not to satisfy anyone’s debt
Caroline says, When speaking about the premature death of Brian Weiss’s infant son the masters say: “Your son’s heart was also important for it was backward, like a chicken’s. He made a great sacrifice for you out of his love. His soul is very advanced. His death satisfied his parents’ debts”. The Council emphatically states that this death did not satisfy anyone’s debt. The parents, the child, everyone agreed to that. It was an experience that was wanted. The purpose of Brian Weiss’s son’s death was to see how, through love, they’d get through it. The child isn’t suffering. The child didn’t have this horrible thing happen to him. The parents aren’t being punished for some karma or something they did in another lifetime. It was an experience of the souls loving each other so much that they’d help each other go through this death.
Many people need to believe there’s karma and debts you have to pay
Bob comments he’s not sure the previous quote is accurate, but he asks The Council if they can explain why the masters may have said what they said. The Council says it’s because there are many people that need to believe there’s karma and debts you have to pay. And usually there’s the belief you have to pay these debts by something horrible happening to you. It’s necessary for those people who need to grow by learning this particular way.
Caroline says: Abraham says over and over that nothing is ever imposed on us, especially something from your previous lives. The Council agrees.
You’ll automatically have people come into your life that match your vibration…
Caroline quotes Brian Weiss’s masters again: “We also must learn not to just go to those people whose vibrations are the same as ours. The Council says we normally will just radiate to each other. You won’t have people in your life for a long time that don’t radiate where you are. If some people are growing more slowly, if they have more difficulties, their vibrations can’t reach yours and stay with you for a long time. You’ll automatically have people come into your life that match your vibration, that will help you with something, or that will push your buttons and make you crazy because you asked for this in spirit. The vibration of love is within all of us.
The vibration is just different
Caroline continues with the same quote: “It is normal to feel drawn to somebody who is on the same level that you are, but this is wrong. You must also go to those people whose vibrations are wrong with yours. This is the importance in helping these people.” The Council says it’s not that the vibration of these people is wrong because they don’t agree with you. Their vibration is just different and it’s in your life for you to decide how to deal with it.
Make choices that bring love into your life
Caroline asks, What’s the deal? Do we have to successfully do certain things in our lifetime? The Council says, No. It’s successful if you planned a certain life and you went through the list and did everything you wanted, which never happens because there’s always more and more you want. You’re just here to have fun and experience things. The #1 thing you’re here to do is to make choices that bring love into your life and this reality. When you can experience this love it grows and grows and everyone in your reality, whether you know them or not, feels this love and it will help them on their path.
There’s no unwanted karma that follows you from lifetime to lifetime
Caroline asks if karma is passed down through lifetimes? The Council says there isn’t any karma. If you believe there is, you’ll come up with a story and create something. If you don’t understand why something is happening, you think you must have done something in another life, and so you believe this is passed down. It’s not passed down. There is no karma that says you must pay for something or settle a debt. And yet there are many people who believe in karma because they need to believe it for how they planned to experience their current life. There is no karma that needs to be settled, cleaned out, or cleared before you can go on, or it will follow you from lifetime to lifetime.
It’s not karma if you choose, in spirit, to experience it
Caroline asks if bad things like the death of a child happen because of your karma. The Council says it doesn’t happen because of your karma. It happens because you’ve all chosen in spirit to experience this.
You can be, do, or have anything you desire
Caroline asks if asking for more in life is bad? The Council says never. We’re supposed to be here to ask for more and more and more, and to experience everything we can in this reality. We’re here to create as much as you want. We believe Abraham said you can be anything and have anything, and that’s why you’re here.
Lastly, Caroline asks if people who give up things like sex and choices get closer to source? The Council has a big laugh at this question and says, No, we don’t agree with that.
Caroline says I feel like all the answers to these questions is, no. The Council laughs again and tells Caroline she has all her answers.
We feel the information in this post will be helpful to many people. Listen to the entire 20-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Caroline and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask your own question by typing it into a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.
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What Path Should I Pursue This Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cristiana, who needs some guidance on which path she should pursue in this lifetime. I have lots of skills and interests and therefore many options, or so I think. I’m also very scatterbrained and feel my life is very fragmented in a kaleidoscopic kind of way.
The Council says this kaleidoscope effect is because you brought talents into your current life that you had from other lifetimes. What you brought in to explore this time was an interest in writing, painting, dancing, and the healing arts, whether it be mainstream healing or alternative healing.
Because you brought in so many interests, as your life progresses you’d see which interest drew you to it. Any of these fields would be good for you to start playing around in. You’ve done all of these interests in other lifetimes and were very good at them. If you moved forward with any of these in this lifetime you’d be very successful and enjoy it.
Cristiana says: Which direction should I channel my energy and focus into? For a long time I’ve been dreaming about getting in touch with my artistic side, but it’s not my only calling. I feel pulled toward many activities. I wonder if artistic expression is something I should take seriously, or if it’s just meant to be a hobby. Is there some work from past lives I’m supposed to pursue?
The Council says there’s nothing you’re supposed to pursue. You wanted the choice to do many things that you enjoy. You may want to experience one or all of the interests you’ve brought into this life. Go with whatever you feel drawn to. You also had a great interest in running and exercising.
Start slowly and go into each interest following your feelings. After you done it for a while you may love it, or had enough of it and then you can move on. Now you know what you’ve brought in to explore in this life.
Listen to the entire 3-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Cristiana and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in one of the Comment text boxes located toward the bottom of most of our blog pages.
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How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Aquarius, who has a follow-up question to the ones we answered in our post, Why Has the Man in My Life Become So Distant? She says thank you for providing me with some clarity on this situation. Can you tell me how I can help this man with his commitment issues?
The Council says because this man is afraid to commit to an intimate relationship at this time, giving him room right now is the best thing you can do. If you try getting closer to this man at this time and push the relationship, this will go in the opposite way of what he needs. Be more of a friend right now and make the relationship as free as you can. Let this man come and go. When he does come, be there and enjoy the relationship for the way it is.
When there’s no pressure to take the relationship further and there’s just a lovely time getting together, in time this will help his commitment issue between the two of you disappear. Right now the best thing to do is to be friendly and give this man the freedom that no one is pushing him into a corner. Without going too deeply into what’s coming up for this man, these commitment issues are something he’s gone through in another lifetime.
Don’t force this relationship. Be loving. Be fun. Be open. When this man feels the want, not the need, to be around you, the relationship can begin to change.
If Aquarius has a desire to explore other relationships while she’s waiting for this man to work through his commitment issues, it’s up to her. Isn’t it wonderful that the choice is hers to decide how she wants to handle this situation? Do you want to see other people while you’re working on this relationship with this man? Or do you want to just concentrate on this man? This is why you’re the creator and you have the freedom and the choice, moment to moment, to make any choice you want. And if you don’t like the choice you make, you can make another choice.
Listen to the entire audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Aquarius and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in a comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
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The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
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Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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