Big Changes Are Coming
This post contains an edited transcript of a half-hour private telephone session between The Council and a reader named Todd. Todd has graciously permitted us to make this session available to our readers because we feel the guidance offered will be helpful to many.
This is not the first private session with Todd that he has allowed us to make public. If you find the guidance in this session helpful, it would be nice if you could leave Todd a comment to that effect in the Comment box below to let him know.
Council: At this time in your reality, many people are going through this, where they can not believe what’s happening to some people, what they’re hearing in their head that makes them go out and attack people on the street, or shoot people for no reason.
The energy, it will swing back to where it’s not so crazy. But right now, what is also happening is that so many people are trying to shift upwards. New energy is coming in, and one of the ways that you can realize it’s going on here is that #1, you don’t understand anything anymore. Your body will experience pains. A lot of people can’t breathe properly right now. There are headaches. This is all because something new, much lighter, much happier, is trying to come in. You’re trying to evolve.
But because of where we are with everything going on around us, the body can not handle this downloading of new energy, so it is such a confusing time for people. It’s frightening. And we can always say, the thing you are here for is to come in and bring that light in now. We all agreed to this. We knew all of this was going to happen, and we jumped in saying, “Okay, I’m going to help bring it back.” And then when you get here, it’s overwhelming.
This stage now, you are not the only one feeling like this. And we ask you to find things every day, even if it’s one thing to do that brings you joy, because that vibration of joy and happiness goes out there and hits the whole reality you’re in. And more souls will feel it, so they will look for something that brings in joy. And that’s how we erase, or sort of change the mess that is going on right now. But know that there will be a turning point.
But as a spirit, before you came in, the thought was, “I can handle this. I know what I have to do.” And that is wonderful. And we would say, we have been seeing more people are taking on the practice of, every morning and every night, making a list of whatever they can think of that they were grateful for that day. And the more things you can find to be grateful for, of course, you know the way the energy works, you will find even more things to be grateful for.
So in the midst of this craziness that is going on, very soon there will be proof that there are what people call aliens here. Of course they’re here, and it is a good thing. Also, if it comes up in your conversations, people are afraid, “Oh, aliens. They’re going to take over.” No. They’re here to save us from blowing ourselves up. That’s why they’re going to be… within two years you’re going to have proof.
There will be conversations with people who come forward. You have already passed some. You are in a place where your vibration, because it’s really so high, you are in spirit mode, ready for the connection with these forms from other star systems. You have passed them several times during the day. And that is so your vibration is letting it in, is accepting it, because their vibration is very different. So you will be one of the first that will have a siting and will be able to talk. Even in a dream, what they call aliens know of you. They know of the people who are open and accepting, and not fear-based.
So you’re really going in a very new direction, and you will get information when the time comes on ways to feel better about this. You’re body, which would be a little wacky right now, do not let this frighten you. It’s just that this old vibration in the body is trying to change, and it just doesn’t know how to handle it.
So everything takes time. When you think of this whole reality, all at once everything is trying to change. The weather, the people, their bodies, their thoughts, everything is sort of upside down right now. So it’s kind of hard to hold onto the light, but that’s what you said you would do when you got here, and when you got to this point. And when there is the communication with the other life forms, a lot of peace will come with that, even though many people are afraid of it. So it’s going slowly in the right direction.
And what you can do, we find, in the evening is the best time to picture a waterfall outside your body, starting at your head and coming down all around you, to clear the energy in the different levels of your aura. You can picture a waterfall inside your head. You can picture it coming down through every part of your body, washing out the negativity, bringing in new energy. It’s a clearing out that’s really needed every night because of what is going on in this reality. It’s like you constantly have to clear it out, and then constantly think of a good thought, and how you see your world evolving into what you want.
And just know that you have the power. Nothing has changed. You have the power to change this reality. You didn’t lose it in all this chaos. It’s there, but you have to work also bringing in the new energy, getting rid of the negativity. Watch the people that you’re with. Do you talk too negatively? Do you talk too much about worrying about this or that? And when you see that, it’s part of humanity. You change it. You catch the thoughts and you change it. And you really have to hang on to the good that is here, and more that will come. There are big, big changes to come, and they will all be good. Actually, it won’t go back; it’ll get better.
And so in the spirit world, we also are working very hard to connect with everyone, to connect with your realities and make it better for you, but are you open to it? Always know we are here. We are here to help you evolve. As you evolve, we also evolve. So there is always changing. There is always growth. There is no ending to the wonderful limits that we thought were here. The way you think of it is, you’re in a good place, but these limits that you think are here, even if they feel good, there are no limits. You will get rid of them. It will change. Everything will change, and you will start feeling it in your body.
So as we’ve said before, so many people are not well right now, and don’t know what the heck happened. You know, they used to feel great, they used to do this, they used to do that. It’s just your body is like, “I don’t know what this new stuff is coming in. I don’t feel good. It hurts. I have headaches. I have aches in my body. The pressure is wrong. The sugar in my body is wrong. I used to eat this. I can’t eat this anymore.” Everything in the body is changing.
And you will begin to see little twinkles of light, which are spirits that are around. You will be able to see different shades of colors that weren’t available before. So you will begin to see little things. You will hear things like, “Did I just hear a voice? I’m alone in this room.” All your faculties, the whole body is changing, even though it may feel painful, or you don’t know what the heck is going on. It’s all good.
But be aware, when you think you hear someone call your name, or you hear a strange word, or you know, “I saw these colors out of the side of my eye. I saw a shadow moving.” Because you’re beginning to see other spirits. It’s all good. Some people will be so upset when this happens, and yet we say, just go with it. There’s no harm coming. Nothing bad will happen. This is all about big changes coming that we are open to and that we want.
So with the pressure, you know you can do that breathing where you breathe in for the count of eight, hold your breath to the count of four, and then breathe out for a count of eight. That brings the blood pressure down. You can help with your diet. More sleep is good, and walking is good. Anything that you enjoy sort of pushes you in the right direction. So look for funny things. Look for things that make you happy. And that’s the way you get through this.
The very, very best thing you can eat – and we know many people don’t like it – for your blood pressure, for your heart, for your stomach, for your brain, for everything that goes on for your brain – are beets. If you can eat beets, you’re on your way to feeling really great. That’s going to correct everything. Yes.
And know that eventually you will have proof that there are other people from realities, we would say people from realities that show up here, and it’s good. It is a good thing. Keep that thought. They will bring higher energies with them. They will bring things to teach us, to save this planet, and how to stop a lot of this chaos that is going on. They are coming in now because it has gotten so bad. They have always been here, but it will come where people will actually see them and will hear what they have to say. It’s a wonderful time.
And so when you walk down the street, look at the people, the strangers that pass you, and just tell yourself, that’s a spirit, and that should make you feel good. All these people around you, we’re all spirits. We’re all here for the same reason. It’s a wonderful thing, and that will lift your energy. It’s not just another body passing by. It’s a spirit who, like you, said, “I’m going to jump in.” We’re not here to destroy it. Everybody who jumped in said, “Okay, when it gets bad, I’m going to hold that light. I’m going to do everything to change it.” And then, as you live your life, you make your choices.
Who can do it? Who’s strong enough to somehow remember, or just to say, this is not what I like. I want my world to be the way it was, or even better. But as you walk down, or are on a bus, or a train, or a plane, and you just look at these strangers, and you smile to yourself, “Hey, we all know each other. We all said, “Yep, we’re coming in.” And bless them. In your mind bless them that they are strong enough to hold on to their light, and you’re all helping each other. It’s a wonderful thing.
Todd: Oh, okay. I will certainly do that when I am out and about today I certainly will do that.
Council: You will feel a difference when you look at somebody and you think like that. You’re going to feel differently.
Todd: Okay. No, that makes perfect sense.
And I want to let go of the fear that the United States will become a fascist state or a dictatorship. And that we’re not, as a collective consciousness in our country, going to let that happen. And thank God we have the courts to kind of help us out, and protests.
Council: Exactly. You always have a choice. And even if the choice starts just in your mind, those thoughts go out into the universe, and it will get better.
Todd: Okay, I trust that it will get better, Council, and that we will come up even higher.
Council: Definitely.
Todd: Thank you. I really appreciate your reassurance.
Council: We enjoy talking to you. And we see how you advance, and we saw today in the beginning of this call that there was so much dark energy around, and it’s already changing. So keep the good thoughts.
Todd: Okay. Thank you. I really appreciate your help.
Council: We would like to say that, in case it didn’t come into your thoughts, when we have these sessions, they are very powerful. And when they are put out for others to read it, or hear it, you are fulfilling your wish before you came into this life, to be a teacher of humanity in some small way, and you are fulfilling that.
Todd: Thanks.
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Will My Husband And His Family Learn Their Lessons For Their Bad Behavior?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Soul Peace from a post we published called, How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?
Soul Peace: Thank you, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have a quick follow-up question. Can you please help me get the answer when you get a chance?
I want to know if my husband and his family, including his parents and sister, will learn their lessons, or will be punished for their selfish, manipulative, bad behavior with me and his ex-wife?
Council: And so we would ask you, what are your thoughts on this? We feel that you wish that they would be punished. And in your lifetime, everything is created by you. So we would say, “If you believe and want them punished, that’s what you will create. That’s what you would see.”
In their realities, they feel they are justified by acting whatever way they are acting. And so there’s no justification and no agreeing with you wanting them to be punished because they behaved in a negative way. That would not be part of their reality.
And so if you wish to move forward, if you wish to create a happy life for yourself, it would be good to try and see them in a different light, and not wish negative circumstances to happen to them. And so, this is a lesson for you to move on in grace, in higher vibrational energy, or to stay stuck and wanting others to be punished for what you feel you were treated not well.
And so here the lesson is: change the perspective. Work on that. That they will grow, they will change happily, that they will do it in good grace and easily. And that’s how you would move on and bring in a different set of people into your life.
And so, we would say to meditate on this, work on your heart chakra, and let that part of your life go.
Soul Peace: My husband’s family has a huge role to play in both the divorces. In my case they have impacted my mental health and the life of my child for their selfish motives.
Council: And so acknowledge you feel they have impacted your mental health and your child. Once again, you have allowed this. And you have allowed this because you want to learn how to live differently, to project how you act differently, how you can have thoughts that are more positive for yourself and not focusing on them. Are you creating a better life for your child?
So forget what you have seen, and what you think they have created, and take hold of your life. This is your lesson, and create what you want for you and your child.
Soul Peace: I want to know if they will learn their lessons. Thanks, Soul Peace
Council: They will learn their lessons. They will learn what they need to learn, not that they will learn how bad that they feel they were to you. There are many lessons going on here for many of the people involved. And eventually, if it is allowed, if they are willing to grow, everyone (and we will say here, everyone) will learn their lessons and move on beautifully.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here, on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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Is A Soul Waiting To Be A Member Of Our Family?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eva,
Eva: I found great comfort in your answer, and I really want to thank you once more for your effort to really help people who are in need of a better understanding of our reality.
My question as well has to do with the possibility of having a baby of our own with my current partner. To be perfectly honest with you, I still feel guilty for the abortion I had in the past, and I wonder as well if he and I deserve a baby in our lives.
Council: This is not about who deserves what. This is about not only forgiving yourself, which is not even the right direction to go in. It’s not about forgiving. It’s that you completed what you wanted to do with this other spirit. The spirit agreed to it. What did you learn from this? It’s all about learning. And so, take it into your life now. Okay, you went through that. What have you learned? How does it change the way you live now? How would it change your future?
But we would definitely say, forget the guilt. It’s not necessary, it’s old baggage, and begin to appreciate yourself, that you went through this, what you planned. And so you went through it, you don’t have to go through it again, take the lessons. Really listen for the lesson and move forward with that.
Eva: We both try to spend as much time as possible with the kids we already have.
Council: That is a good step.
Eva: And I feel that if we had a chance to have one more child it would be really helpful for them, as well.
Council: So we would ask you, why are you putting this on another child? If you want more happiness, create it now before you decide to bring another soul into this.
And so many, many people, when their marriages are not working the way they want, they feel: Oh, we’ll have a child and that will fix it. No, it won’t, because you don’t know what you have agreed to with that spirit coming in. Will it make it harder because that’s what was agreed upon? Is it a way to get you to become more independent? Is it a way to fix what you have, and give more love to each other and to the children you have now before you bring another soul in? Or maybe then realizing you don’t need another soul. So this is a big question for you, to take the time and look for those answers.
Eva: I wonder if there is a new soul out there waiting to be the new member of our family?
Council: There is a soul that is available if it’s needed, but it’s on that basis, is the time right? Is it okay with that soul when you’re wanting to bring it in? It has the choice to look how you’re living now. If you’re in a miserable relationship, most souls don’t want to come into that unless it’s agreed upon by you and this other soul that things are worse, but you’re going to work through it.
So there’s always lessons around it, but the answer is to focus now on what you have and bring love in there first.
Eva: Many thanks for your love and understanding.
Council: And so we send you great love, happiness, understanding, hope, and kindness for the New Year that you are now going through in your reality. Ask for enlightenment when you pray, or when you meditate. Ask for understanding. But always ask to be connected to the love and the light in your heart, and that on a daily basis you can send it out and show people this love, this light, a kind word, a smile, and understanding even if you don’t understand.
Just being supportive, that will help you grow. And as you grow, the person you affect grows also. It’s a wonderful thing, we are here to help each other, and that will continue on larger and larger areas of our lives. And so remember, to be of service, find the love you have for yourself, and then share it with others.
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Does My Girlfriend Have Spiritual Insights, Or Is She Crazy?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gašper.
Gašper: Hi, Bob and Cythia. Thank you for these great posts. It does relate to what I’m bringing into my life, although it seems strange to me why I would bring myself difficulties, as there are so many options for me to have fun on Earth.
Council: Because when you are in spirit, you have an idea of what you may want to create, what challenges you want to face, and how you want to work through them. And so this is all setup, and now we would say, “How are you handling your challenge?”
Gašper: I wonder if I can directly ask a related question here? My girlfriend of 11 years has completely changed from being shy to being extroverted and intensely spiritual. She claims she’s the reincarnation of Jesus Christ and listens to literature relating to him and other spiritual things like the Tao Te Ching, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, and so on. But a lot of people suggest that she’s delusional, although she says many things that seem wise and spiritual. She claims that she feels pain all across her body and connects that to the crucifixion in her previous lifetime.
I don’t know where she’s at. Is she a mental patient who’s psychotic and schizophrenic, or are these spiritual insights real that she claims she can feel and understand?
Council: Unfortunately there are many people that are in institutions that are thought to be psychotic and out of their minds, and in fact they are experiencing what they say, for whatever reason that they worked out in spirit.
Now with this person, being an introvert and not sure who she was or what she wanted, she was very sad, and wanted to be this kind of person and that kind of person, and just lost her way. But how she handled it is – and many people would not understand this – to make herself happy she has connected with many lives that she has had. She has connected with things she has imagined she would like to do, and this has taken over her personality.
And this person is very happy thinking she’s Jesus Christ, or a saint, or someone that is very happy, that is very aware of their life, that is able to practice prayers, that is able to practice shamanic beliefs and pagan beliefs. There are many, many lives that she has experienced that she just opened up to in this lifetime because there was such a horrendous not knowing and not being happy with who she was. We hope that is understood?
Gašper: Life with her has become increasingly difficult, as I find her behavior, which includes shamanic dances, singing, yelling, and shaking during sleeping very odd, uncomfortable, and unsocial.
Council: Of course. This is very unacceptable in our reality and our culture. So her being happy and tapping into these different lives sets everybody around her thinking, “This person is crazy.” She’s not crazy. She’s tapping into all the other little pieces of her that she went through in other lifetimes. This doesn’t make it easy for you or the people around her.
Now we have come here to help each other. We have come here to just be. And so in your place, we would say kindness is the best thing you can give her, and maybe talking about things that she experienced before these changes came. You can talk to her and ask her how she changed when she was so quiet, and see what she’s able to tell you.
And you will learn from this, and that is part of this. This is a big experience for her to help you learn about other lives and about so much more than you can experience in this lifetime. This is opening a door for her and for you. How you wish to handle it and what you can feel is comfortable is for you to decide. But we would say, there is no excuse for meanness, and there is no excuse for anger or violence. And we’d like to make that very clear.
And so now you have to play with the thought of what she’s going through. How does it affect you? What are you learning? And how do you want to go forward with this?
Gašper: And my friends and family tell me that I’d better escape such a partnership.
Council: If you wanted to escape it before the lesson is finished, you wouldn’t have created it.
Gašper: I regret that I was aggressive towards her yesterday due to her behavior. I promised to her and myself not to act that way again. It’s as if she and I don’t live in the same world, and that the truth doesn’t lie in either of these two worlds. Thank you.
Council: And so again we would say, you both created this situation and agreed to it. Besides being frustrated or worried and hearing everybody else telling you that she is nuts, what are you learning? What kind of person is she when she’s doing these other things? How does she act when she thinks she is Jesus? How does she act when she’s doing shamanic dancing? Everything that she does, look at this and learn. There are things in here you will learn from.
There is a possibility that in time she can revert back to what she wants to experience here, but maybe be more extroverted, maybe being able to understand and see what she’s gone through, and then take it to the next level.
And so we would say, do what you can, watch this behavior, and forget everybody else’s opinions. What are you learning? Could there be a grain of truth to what your girlfriend is saying? Yes, there is. And now you know she went there because she was so unhappy being who she was. And she is so happy when she is dancing, or in ritual, or reading a bible, or telling a story about Jesus. Watch how the personality changes, and you will see how she was in all these other lives.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying that Gašper and his girlfriend had pre-arranged in spirit to have this kind of relationship…
Council: Yes.
Gašper: …and that he planned to see it through? Because it sounds like he’s questioning whether or not to leave his girlfriend.
Council: The idea was to go through it together and learn from it. And that’s where it is right now. Now is the learning process. If you look at what’s going on right now without judgement, without flipping out and thinking she is nuts, but look at the different lives she’s lived, look at the different personality when she becomes each one of them, and in there is something you both wanted to learn. And we don’t give that away because then we’re handing you your lesson. Just watch it. And then whether you wish to stay in it is totally up to you. But we would never tell you, “Yes, you have to stay there.” No, you don’t. But be in it, and learn from it. And I think if all goes the way you wish it would go, then eventually things, whether it’s by running to a doctor and getting medication, something will turn it around. The idea was to be in it and learn in it. Learn about that person, and then – surprise, surprise – learn about yourself. Who are you while this is happening? How do you handle it?
Very, very brave spirits. This was indeed a wonderful day and we enjoyed these questions. And to everyone who asks for our help, we are overjoyed when we are asked for help. We want you all to know that we are always with you. We always send you healing energy. And just know that no matter what, you are not alone. We are here. Talk to us like we are sitting right next to you. Make us part of your life, because what we want is for spirit to come into your reality, for you to learn that you are spirit. You are part of us, we are part of you. And as you go through joys, and hardships, and challenges, and rewards, we go with you. And so we send you blessings, and love, and light.
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Will I Face My Poor Decisions When I Review My Life In Spirit?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Courtney.
Courtney: Hello Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have made some decisions in the past that have affected people negatively. I feel terrible about this and it’s eating me up. My question is: Will I have to face these decisions of mine when I go through my life review in spirit?
Council: Let’s say that you are facing them right now because you are remembering what the decisions were, and you are feeling guilty about it, or sorry about it. So you’re already facing it.
But if you’re asking, “Are you going to go to the afterlife and have to be judged by what you did or what you said,” the answer is, no, that does not happen. You only go through it again if, at the spirit level, there’s something you need explained, or you don’t understand why you did something, or what the purpose was.
But there’s no reason you have to go through that at all. It’s just an experience. And what is wanted when you choose to do these things is that you will learn, but you will learn while you are here, as a human, in this reality. And this is what you are doing now, and that’s a wonderful thing.
Courtney: Or were these decisions planned in spirit for the benefit of spiritual growth?
Council: Let’s say this. You don’t get to a place in spirit where you say, “I’m going to do this, you’re going to say that, and I’m going to come back and do this and it’s going to bother you. What you do is you pick a topic; it could be shame, it could be anger, it could be abandonment. You want to learn about something, so you agree with other spirits that will come in and help you, and you create as you go along. You haven’t agreed on what’s going to happen, but that what you want to learn will be experienced.
So it’s not word for word that you’ve planned to learn about something, and that is how it happens. But it’s never: “I’ll do exactly this, and you’ll do exactly that.” It’s about you saying, “Oh, I want to learn about being abandoned. What does that feel like? And what can I learn from it? How do I handle it? How do I behave?” So that is what is happening.
Courtney: I feel immense guilt and shame for things I’ve said and done.
Council: So forget about the guilt and think about how wonderful it is that you created a situation where you would experience what you needed to experience to move forward. So instead, pat yourself on the back and then ask yourself, “Do I like how I handled it? Did I like how I behaved, or what I said?” And that is how you learn.
“No, I didn’t like it, so I will never do that again. I see how hurtful it is.”
Or in a particular instance you answer, “Yes, it was bad, but I turned it around. I like the way I handled it.” And that is the purpose of what you are going through.
Courtney: Peace and love, Courtney.
Council: And so we send you all love, and happiness, and excitement that you are moving along on your path, and that all good things, all creation that comes to you will come from higher energy and a higher vibration. And everything you wish to have will be created by you, and only you.
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Do I Have A Soul Contract To Have A Relationship With A Man I Met 5 Years Ago?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Capricorn.
Capricorn: Hi, Cynthia, Bob, and The Council. I was wondering if you could possibly help me with a query I’ve been struggling with. Thank you for what you do on this blog, by the way.
There’s a man I briefly met in higher education about five years ago. I’m inexplicably drawn to him. We barely spoke. We were more like friendly acquaintances, but as far as I know, there was a mutual physical attraction.
Council: And this was something that you agreed upon, and this was the time you decided to call that spirit into your life.
Capricorn: I haven’t seen him in years, so I initially forgot about him. But at the beginning of this year, he popped into my head out of the blue and I started thinking about him again. I can’t figure out why I’m so drawn to him when we barely spoke. I do find him attractive, but there are many physically and mentally attractive people around. And we were only acquaintances, so it should be relatively easy to forget him.
Council: And it looks like you called this person into your life when you are either bored, or in need of affection and attention. And that is what we see is going on now. And yes, you’ve had many lives with this person.
Is there anything that was planned to get together in this lifetime? We don’t see that, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t create it. You can create whatever it is that you want.
And so we would say, look at it, and before you begin to create more, what is it that you need with this person? What is lacking that you are looking for? You will find answers, and then you will decide whether you wish to put in the energy, a lot of energy, a lot of visualization, and a lot of feelings into creating this.
Capricorn: Could you please help me figure out if that’s all there is to this crush of mine?
Council: At this time we would say, yes. Like we have said before, there was nothing planned to have more. And once again, that doesn’t mean you can’t create it.
Capricorn: Did I sign a particular soul contract with him going into this life, or did I have any past lives with him?
Council: Past lives, yes. Contract? Here we go with the contract again. There was no contract. You had past lives with the agreement of, “Oh, maybe we’ll get together, maybe we’ll be friends, maybe you’ll come into my life at a certain point when I need you.”
And so it works both ways. When you call this into your life, this spirit will not only come for you, but you will have things that are there for the other spirits. So there will be growth and there will be something. But again we see here, we want you to look at this and see why you are bringing it in at this time. What are you looking for?
Capricorn: Or is this purely about physical attraction and my own issues with limerence and nothing more?
Bob: And because ‘limerence’ is something that we weren’t particularly familiar with, we looked it up. And it says: Limerence is a state of mind that describes an intense, obsessive, and involuntary infatuation, or romantic desire for another person, and is based on the uncertainty that the other person also desires you.
Council: It’s part of your issues. It’s part of a desire. And so again we say, think for a long time about this. And if you do bring this in, what kind of life do you see for yourself? What is going on?
And that is why you’re bringing this around at this time. You are looking for this to fill a feeling that is important for you to feel for yourself – a feeling of love for yourself, a feeling of knowing who you are, and a feeling of learning how powerful you are.
It could be that you want to create this relationship to see how powerful you are. And all of this is fine. It’s your reality to choose, and do what you wish.
Capricorn: We seem to be quite similar in some ways, and have interests in common, so intuitively I felt there might be something there, but I can’t explain any of it. Also, can I manifest a relationship with him if I decide to do that, or would that be impinging on his free will?
Council: You would not interfere with his free will. There would be an acceptance that person would feel, and that would be created. And then in another reality, if this person didn’t want to be with you, there would be a second reality where you are not together. And so there is no way you can change his free will, or the free will of anyone that you’d like to call into your life.
And so, enjoy your creations and learn from what we teach. There’s always a way it will help you. And just asking the questions shows that you are on another path to expand, to learn how to create, to look at yourself, to show kindness, and to bring in the happiness that we all want. And so we say, have fun with this.
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Can I Manifest A Romantic Relationship With A Guy I Met Online?
This post answers relationship questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine.
Christine: I have finally met this online guy twice. Our connection is incredible. However, I realize the reason it’s been so difficult for us to meet and manage any stability is due to his mental illness. Although I fully support him and want to be there for him, I can’t deal with the ghosting. He’s either completely obsessed with me, or disappears and I don’t exist.
Council: So from what we are hearing, it is very difficult to deal with this, and you’re not in a place that can accept it as it is and have the relationship when you can, or completely walk away. So #1, that is something you need to focus on and decide what works best for you.
Christine: I really sense we’ve had so many lives together, and he agrees, but were we ever in a romantic relationship in any lifetimes? I’d love to know that.
Council: We see many, many lifetimes, and yet – interesting that you ask this question – there’s never been a romantic relationship. You were always siblings or neighbors, and always growing up to around the age of 15, we see. And then, for whatever was going on in your lives at that time, you separated. So in your current lifetime, there is the coming together again, but in his way. This is how he will protect himself from the parting, which is not wanted.
Christine: I’ve discovered when he ghosts me, he’s playing video games, and I think he’s living in a virtual world.
Council: Yes.
Christine: But in 14 years of communication, he’s never mentioned it at all.
Council: So in 14 years this is never mentioned, you never got closer, and where it’s frustrating, you are still there in that relationship. What does this relationship give to you? And again, at this point, is this what you want? It’s a wonderful relationship if you find that it’s enough for you, but we hear and feel that more is wanted. In this particular relationship, and of course you can always change it, but it would take a lot of imagery, work, and feeling to change it. If that’s something you don’t want to do, then this will not get much better than what you have right now.
So there is the accepting that you wanted to learn, or put it on the side and have it when you can have it with this person, and find another relationship that’s more permanent.
So you have options here, but you have to figure out what it is, and then do the mental work to create it. That’s by meditating on it, seeing it down to the last detail the way you want it, over and over. And when you see it, feel it. Feel it like you already have it. And of course when you do this, the universe will bring it to you.
Christine: When he tells me he loves me, is it true, or is it the mental illness talking?
Council: In his reality, he does love you as best as he can, which is wonderful.
Christine: When he tells me, I can feel it and I can hear it, but is it really him, and is it coming from his soul?
Council: Of course it’s really him. There is no fake him. It’s what he’s feeling. And we would say, it would be nice for you to be able to accept that. Because as much as he can love you, he loves you.
Christine: He believes I’m his soulmate, but I feel we’re karmic. I feel like he’s punishing me in this life because of our previous past lives.
Council: There is no punishing going on here. It is something you both agreed to. And you agreed to experience it, and in it learn your likes and dislikes, and how to handle it. And most of all, like what everyone here is doing is, learn to accept it. If there’s true love there and you want to be in it, then accept it. But only you can decide what you want at this point.
Christine: Am I able to manifest a relationship with him, or if we haven’t planned to be together in this lifetime, am I able to do that?
Council: You can create whatever it is that you want, but we would say there are many lessons there. So we’d say for you, do the work. Go back and see how you met. How did it develop through the years into what it is? Fourteen of your Earth years is quite a long time.
Christine: I thought you can manifest whatever you want. I’d love some answers and would be grateful if you can provide me with some guidance. Much love, Christine.
Council: Well that’s a wonderful letter. And there’s so much in this lifetime for the both of you to realize, to accept about each other, to create more. And perhaps accept the relationship the way it is, but have another relationship where you get more out of it.
There’s learning that can be done. You can share with this person what you find out, what you’re working on, asking that person if they’d like to work on it also. And that, again, would bring a closeness. So you can just respond with what you find out for yourself, and share it, and see if just the sharing changes the relationship.
And so we wish all of you great happiness on your journey. You all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And with that we would say, have fun with it.
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Do My Son And I Have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder?
This post answers questions from an anonymous reader about whether they and their son have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
Anonymous: Hello. I’d like to ask a question about my child’s and my health condition. I have faced a mental breakdown a couple of weeks back after going through some therapy sessions. I think I may have ADHD symptoms.
Council: Wonderful title. We love what you create in your realities where you must put a word on what you are experiencing.
Anonymous: Even though my child is very good with his studies, he seems to have focus issues, as well. He’s still young and talented. I would like to ask The Council if both of us, indeed, have ADHD, and if so, how can we improve our focus without taking any medicines for it? Medicines have adverse side effects and I’d like to make sure we can cure this, or learn to live with ADHD without using drugs.
Council: It’s a wonderful thing you chose with your child. Together you chose it to come in with where you were experiencing hyperactivity, or not being able to focus, and you thought it would be fun to learn to correct it together. And so, because this is planned and you are right in the middle of it, we would say forget the title. So you get a little hyper sometimes. Okay. You get a little nervous. Okay.
It would be good to have downtime with your child where you sit together and listen to music. And then when it’s finished in five minutes (a very short time), tell each other what you thought of and what you saw when you listened to the music and your eyes were closed. That will bring the calmness or the stillness.
And then with the focus – this is very good – you can draw pictures, and put a number on top of a picture. There’s Picture #1, #2, #3, and #4. And you sit and show each other pictures. And you have your child draw anything (scribbly whatever), and give five pictures that you have to look at. So you would show them to your child, and then you would cover them up and say, “What was in Picture #3? What did you see?” And that brings in the focus. Slowly it gets the brain to focus and remember. Then your child, whatever it’s possible to draw for you, what do you remember?
And so there’s also a period where you can sit and either tell each other stories, or read stories from a book. And after a page or two say, “Okay, now you tell me back, what do you remember that I’ve read to you from this story?” And so that is how you begin to get the brain to focus and no medicines would be necessary, but it would take work to do this, but we see it is what you wanted. And the change can come about if you do the work.
Anonymous: I’m also in between jobs at the moment. Can The Council please guide me toward what jobs will suit me and my son, given we may have ADHD attention span issues? Thank you and God bless you.
Council: Anything where you can do paperwork, do it on your own, work in a small shop, perhaps do some planting, anything where you are not in a large corporation or working with a lot of people. This particular lifetime is for you to focus on (how you put it back then) shortcomings from the past and how you would correct them in your current life. So anything at all that would put you in a small work area would help build this.
We wish you great happiness on your journey. All of you, you’ve all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And we would say, with that, have fun with it.
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Did I Agree With Any Souls To Be My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: Hi. I’d like to ask if there are souls in line to be my children that I made agreements with?
Council: Are there souls in line to be your children? Yes. In this lifetime? Yes. Are there souls in line to be your children in the future? Yes. You will have children. And so when you decide to bring them in, they will appear. If you wish to maybe experience other things in this lifetime and have children in a future life, then you will wait and you will bring them in then, but there are children in your future. The timing is yours.
Anonymous: Do you see pregnancy for me in the future?
Council: Yes, if this is what you want.
Anonymous: I want to be a mother and have a family very much and knowing if this is possible would help me.
Council: Well get started. Get seeing it. Get imagining it. See yourself sitting in a chair holding your baby. See yourself taking your children to school. Do this inner work. It will happen.
Blessings to all, and have fun with your creations.
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How Can I Heal My Relationship With My Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wairua47, after they read our post, Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?
Wairua: Thanks for answering this question about estrangement in the earlier post. I have a very similar situation with my brother, so these answers are helpful. I’d like to know the cause of my situation, and in what area are there lessons to learn?
Council: There are lessons in every part of everything you experience.
Wairua: And are there any possible solutions to help heal what I thought was a great relationship with my brother. We’re both in our 40s and it turns out he may not have been honest with me over the years about our sibling relationship. I have no idea for how long.
Our relationship has recently turned extremely toxic by his wife who apparently thinks I’m the worst person on the planet, and she has started airing 25+ years of supposed grudges against me. Most of these grudges make absolutely no sense to me and seem insane.
Council: Remember here that you and your brother have allowed this to come into your lives to experience it. So even if his wife is causing problems, it’s his place to deal with it in any way he can. Even if he doesn’t believe what she’s doing, he’s trying to find a way to deal with that. You, on the other hand, are blaming her and maybe blaming him. You don’t know what’s going on.
We’d suggest, at this time, that you have the best relationship with your brother that you can have right now. What would that be like? Would it be when you speak with him not to bring up the complaints and don’t mention his wife? When you act like that, do you have a better relationship with him? And so remove what you think the problem is and see how your relationship goes.
Wairua: When I message my brother he usually ignores me. But when I call him on the phone he appears to enjoy speaking to me and has good things to say, be he seems to avoid questions about all the stuff his wife says.
Council: And again we suggest you not bring that up. It’s very difficult for him to deal with it at this time. And so he may love talking with you, but he doesn’t want to go into the problems, and that’s the way he needs to handle that right now.
Wairua: But then, after every nice phone conversation with him, I always get some upsetting, or angry, or accusing messages from either his wife or from him. Obviously I’m not actually sure who’s actually messaging me. This has been continuing for months. He never seems to try to get in touch with me unless there’s a complaint, and recently I’ve asked him multiple times to call me about the last complaining message, but he just ignores me so I’ve given up trying.
Council: So if you were to get a call from him with a complaint, you can say something simple like, “I love talking with you, and when we don’t talk about complaints the conversations are better. So I won’t bring it up and I would appreciate if you don’t bring it up.” And this way it stays on sort of an even keel where you can somehow have the relationship until you realize something different about it, or your brother realizes something different.
So again, allow yourself a good conversation. Still call your brother when you want to and enjoy that. And if there are any complaints after your conversation, you don’t mention them.
Wairua: I’d love some help. He’s my only sibling. We have no cousins or other family and he means the world to me.
Council: We see here, the way this is going, it has a very good chance to heal, so don’t push it and don’t complain. And allow yourself, your brother, and his wife to do whatever they need to do, and it will flow.
And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can, feel it for yourselves every single day, and you’ll begin to change your life.
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If We Focus On The Reality We Desire, Can We Not Be Touched By Chaos?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader after they read our recent post, Can We Influence Another Person’s Lifespan?
Anonymous: Wow! I remember the Seth books covering this concept, but The Council has presented this in a way that’s easier to comprehend. How exciting. And thank you to the co-creator (the person) who presented the question.
To expand on this concept, if we live during a time of mass chaos (war, death, etc.), is it possible not to be touched directly by any of that chaos if we focus on the reality we want to live in?
Council: Of course there is. What you focus on, you will experience. So no matter what is going on, the part of you that is focusing on what it wants in your current lifetime will create it. You might see the mass chaos, or hear about it all around you, but you’ll never have to go through it. It’s just something that you would see sort of at a distance and maybe feel, “Oh, I’m so lucky, this isn’t bothering me,” or “I don’t have this sort of problem.”
What your whole life is about is to find out that you are the creator. We are all here this time because we’re really at a place where we want to learn that we really do create our reality. So no matter what is going on around you, your thoughts will create what you want to experience.
Now because you are this beautiful gigantic spirit, if there’s chaos going on around you and a part of you also wants to learn about that chaos, you will have these two different lives going on but each part of you will only create and focus on only what it wants in that life.
So you could have the same circumstances in both lives, and one life is peaceful and the chaos doesn’t touch you, and in the other life your spirit wants to learn how to go through that chaos and you will experience it. But the two parts of you are living and experiencing these different lifetimes so you don’t know what the other one is experiencing. The whole of you is learning and taking all of that in. It is a wonderful, wonderful thing.
If you had 10, 20, or 100 lives going on, you couldn’t focus on all of them. You would probably lose your mind. You couldn’t handle it. It would be overall sensational and overstimulating. Even the bodies in each lifetime couldn’t deal with that.
And so you have many, many lifetimes and they’re all there. They’re all still going on. And you, because you are this intelligent spirit who can create all of this, is experiencing each lifetime separately. And so when we say, “You are the creator,” we’re not fooling around.
Anonymous: Is it best when we’re observing this chaos to consider it the creation of others?
Council: No. If it’s something you are experiencing, then you have allowed it into your life.
Anonymous: Can you speak more to this as it relates to mass events?
Council: When there is a mass event going on, like perhaps the COVID that affected your reality, everyone who experienced it has agreed to it. You say, “Okay, this is going to happen at this time. I’ll be part of it. Let me go through it. Let me see what I learn from it. How do I handle it?”
If there is an explosion and many, many people die – a factory blows up and children and the elderly die – each spirit has agreed to go through that for whatever reason it chooses.
So everything, whether it’s something good that affects the whole world, or some sort of chaos, if you’re experiencing it, you have agreed to it. You have let it in your life, and there’s no other way you can experience it.
Anonymous: Much love and gratitude.
Council: And so, as always, we wish you all love and fun in your creations, learning from them and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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Is My Daughter’s Autism Bringing Her The Life She Desires?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about their autistic daughter.
Anonymous: We have a 3-year-old daughter and a 3-month-old son. Our daughter is autistic and we are going through a challenging phase. Our prayers are unanswered. All I need is reassurance that this is the life my daughter wants and angels are watching her back. Will she achieve her life’s purpose?
Council: It was both of your choosing to have this life together. It was her choosing to be autistic. There are many things that she, as a soul, wants to learn from this, and there are things that you want to learn from this. She is having the exact life that she wishes to have, and so are you. You both agreed to it.
She will develop and you’ll see how this happens. You’ll learn to communicate and form a bond differently than you would with a child without autistic abilities. But we would say to know that this was chosen, know that you both wanted it, and you both want to make this life a wonderful life that you both learn from each other.
Bob: Do you have any comments about Anonymous’s question about angels watching their daughter’s back?
Council: Angels are always around, and they are here to help us, so there’s no reason to worry about that.
Bob: And will she achieve the purpose of her life?
Council: Well, we’ll see what she creates.
We wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lon.
Lon: It’s taken me so long to ask this question because I wanted to ask it wisely and from an enlightened perspective.
My beloved 27-year-old son chooses to be estranged from me. The only explanation I have is that his father brainwashed him against me, especially after my separation from his father 10 years ago. But I suspect his father had been brainwashing him all during my son’s life, as I was often humiliated or invalidated by his father in our son’s presence.
Council: What should be remembered here is that even now at the age of 27, this is his choice to not have you in his life, even if the father brainwashed him and was very negative with what he said about you. It is still your son’s choice whether to bring you back into his life or to just let you go.
And so going through this, the lesson you learn is to accept him the way he is and send him light. Don’t try to force this reconciliation to happen, but in a loving heart and loving energy, send him energy. The energy of love will reach him and it will be his choice whether to accept it.
And we can say here you are in his thoughts, but can you learn the lesson of letting him be who he is? He has to work out his issues around everything that happened. And you, before coming into this incarnation, agreed to be part of this so that you would both learn.
Lon: I only learned two years ago that there was such a thing as parental alienation. My son was my joy and fulfillment in life, and we were truly bonded and always got on well. I thought by now, after a bit of a break, and now that his father passed on two years ago, that he would reach out to me. He’s now living in another country and I found out on social media that he’s married, which broke my heart because even that milestone didn’t cause him to think of me.
Council: And once again these are his issues to work through, and by trying to connect with him or have any sort of communication would not work at this time. If he’s in a place where he doesn’t want to have you in his life, by you trying to force it, it will only push you away.
So we would say work with the vibration of love and do not worry, do not focus on what the father did or what the father said about you. That only brings that energy in and will keep the two of you apart. Just in your mind picture beautiful energy and love going to your son from you. That will change things faster than any letter, any phone call, or anything where you try to make it happen.
Just keep the thoughts positive. Focus on him calling you, or writing you, or coming to see you, and then you have the chance to heal it. That’s what you should focus on. Not what the father did and how hurtful it was. And we understand how hurtful it is at this point. It can be changed if you do the work.
Lon: The only means I have of contact is his email and I don’t know if he blocks the ones I send regularly.
What caused me to bring this heartbreak to myself in this life?
Council: Because you both agreed to it so you could learn to stay in the vibration of love, even when you’re hurting and things aren’t going your way, and that you lost your son right now. And for your son to learn forgiveness for whatever was said to him about you, and to want you in his life. So the both of you agreed to do this.
Lon: And what amends can I make for us to get back together in harmony?
Council: No amends are needed, only the energy of love, thinking of him positively, thinking of him appearing in your life, hearing from him, and that you now have the opportunity to fix this rift and heal it.
And so we wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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Tell Me About The Guide I’ve Been Communicating With
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Liza.
Liza: I’ve been interacting with a non-physical being for over two years now. It’s been wonderful and still is, but we have limitations on how we communicate. I’d dearly like to know more about this being, and why this being has chosen to be in my life at this time.
Council: Because you’ve made an agreement with this spirit, and at this time you’ve pulled it in.
And so it takes time to learn how to work with your guide. And you should treat this guide as you would any friend. When you communicate, if you don’t understand, tell this guide to slow down and explain what they’re trying to communicate. Tell your guide if you don’t really understand what’s happening. Ask them how else you can reach them.
We’d say #1 is to meditate more because this opens your psychic ability. When you communicate, do you get blocks of information? Do you just get words? Do you hear things or feel things? And so you can ask your guides if you should put paper and pen in front of you, and hold it, and your guide will write the words? Should you sit in front of a computer? Should you just play soft music and sit quietly and your guide will talk to you? But on your end, the ability to relax and meditate opens up your centers so that you can have more communication, and the communication is there for you if you do this.
Play with your chakras. Learn to keep them strong and working. And know that when you talk to this entity, tell them you need more communication. Tell them you need to make the communication stronger. Does your guide talk to you through the alphabet? Does it talk to you using numbers? Ask this guide how it wants to communicate with you. Your guide will always try and find a way that it knows you’ll understand.
Some people with guides only see pictures. There are no words or information. Communication comes in pictures. If they give you a rose and it feels good, it’s a sign of love. If your guide shows you paper, sit in front of a computer or with a pen and paper and they’ll talk to you that way. And it takes time. But always question and tell your guide they need to make this clearer. That will come from the other side.
But be aware, do your work here. Always surround yourself with white light. Surround your chakras with the proper colors and symbols, and you will increase this communication. Some people work with their guides for years before they ever get some sort of system that works.
But it’s up to you to tell your guide if you don’t understand. Tell them you need it clearer. Give it to me another way. And maybe you’ll see your guide. Maybe you’ll see pictures. But be aware it’s up to you to do the chakra work, to do the meditation, and to ask questions.
Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with the positive thoughts. For what is going on in your reality, a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this, and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes with the right thinking.
You’ve created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You’ve agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to think happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and have them work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, help the ocean. You’re all here to make this reality better and better.
And so we wish you joy. And remember, coming into this life, you came in with the thought of having a joyous time and to find happiness everywhere. That is the purpose. Have a happy life. Enjoy it. Create fun. Create love. You can all do this.
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What Are Shadow People?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lorraine.
Lorraine: What are shadow people?
Council: (Laughing) Oh, yes. Many people have different sorts of thoughts about this. The main thought is that they are demons, they are horrible, evil entities that are waiting to jump in your body and waiting to take you over. That is not true. It’s a very, very widespread thought.
When you see these shadow people, shadow animals, shadow babies – when you see them through the side of your eye and it’s quickly gone, it’s not hiding somewhere waiting to jump into you. What it is is entities from another dimension that are passing through sort of checking you out. They’re attracted to your light. Nobody wants to kill you or hurt you, but they are looking at their reality and our reality. They are passing through.
So you surround yourself with love, send these shadow people love and they will go about their business. There’s no evil intent here. It’s just another type of entity. And sometimes when you are another entity, you go into other worlds and you pass through, not because you want to live there, but because you want to see what’s going on. And that’s what it is.
Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we will send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with positive thoughts. A lot of positive thoughts are needed for what is going on in your reality. And when you tap into this, and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes from the right thinking.
You’ve created your lives with the special people in them for a purpose. You’ve agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to have happy thoughts, and positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and have them work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, and help the ocean. You’re all here together to make this reality better and better. And so we wish you joy.
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Can I Earn A Living Doing Alternative Healing Therapies?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar: I wrote to The Council a few months ago about career guidance and The Council recommended that I work with children. I’ve been thinking about it and I have to admit that I’m actually quite attracted to the alternative therapies, but I have never considered dedicating myself to it professionally because I’m afraid of: 1) Not being worth enough to carry out this work professionally.
Council: That immediately will cause a block into your manifesting it.
Bluestar: 2) That others will reject me, or see me as a weirdo if I dedicate myself to these topics openly.
Council: And there’s the second block.
Bluestar: And 3) Not being able to earn a living financially doing this activity.
Council: (Laughing) The third block.
And so you need to forget about these blocks. Get them out of the way. Of course you can make money at this. And you know if people did think you were crazy, so what. There are many, many wonderful people in all parts of life, with all kinds of careers, and people think they’re nuts. What do you think? What do you feel in your heart would give you pleasure?
Working with other healing modalities is a great way for you to develop more positive opinions about yourself. When you do practice other healing modalities and you see that it helps yourself and others, you will slowly begin to see that there’s something to this.
And so forget everybody else. We ask you to stop doubting, and to look more positively that this is a new adventure, that you had planned to do things like this because you’ve done them before, and you want to have the joy of doing them again. The right people will seek you out when you begin to feel better about yourself.
Bluestar: The Council has told me that I have already been a healer in several lifetimes. I’d like to know if I decided on a healing path in the end instead of working with children, or doing both at the same time, and already having a Reiki Master’s degree and an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping course, what therapies do you advise that I should train for to be able to better help others people according to my abilities?
And so we think with your Reiki degree and your EFT training that it would be good for you to start using it on yourself and on others. When you get joy from this, then there are so many other techniques. You can learn hands-on healing, you can learn Hawain techniques of healing, you can learn Rolfing, you can learn massage, and you can learn how to work with crystals and oils to help increase what you’re doing. Any sort of body technique would be good.
If you care to go deeper into it, acupuncture would be great, acupressure if you don’t like the thought of needles, and many people don’t. These are things that you should be looking into, reading about, perhaps getting sessions on yourself and seeing how it feels. When you begin to see an improvement in yourself, then you’ll have the interest to perhaps take another course.
We’d also say it would be good for you to learn about people’s emotions so you can speak to the people when they come to you and find out what’s going on. You can learn color breathing. There is so much out there. But we say take what you know now and begin to use it, and begin to charge money for that service. When that comes in, that will give you the power to seek more out. And so there’s no need to charge crazy amounts of money. Even if you started with donations, we’d like you to see that you have the ability to do this, to earn a living from it, and to move on and learn more. That is your path.
Bob: Do you have any comment on your guidance from a previous session that Bluestar Child work with children?
Council: All of this can be done with children, and it will.
Bluestar: All the guidance I received has helped me a lot. And I’ve also been practicing the meditations that you have given and they’ve gone well for me.
Council: Wonderful.
Bluestar: Thank you very much.
Council: Wonderful, wonderful questions. This has been such a joy for us. And we’ll send everybody love and happiness on their journey, and remind everyone to stay with positive thoughts. In your reality, for what is going on, a lot of positive thoughts are needed. And when you tap into this, and more and more of you do this, the whole reality that you exist in right now will change. The course of your world is up to you. It all comes with the right thinking.
You have created your lives with special people in them for a purpose. You have agreed to do things together. And always the agreement was to have happy thoughts, positive thoughts, finding things that don’t work right and have them work right. Help each other, help animals, help the trees, help the ocean. You’re all here together to make this reality better and better. And so we wish you joy.
And remember, coming into this life you came in with the thought of having a joyous time, to find happiness everywhere, and that is your purpose. Have a happy life. Enjoy it. Create fun. Create love. You can all do this.
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Should I Have A Child With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sophie.
Sophie: Thank you very much for your answers to my questions in your post about pregnancy and my partner smoking marijuana. They are straight to the point.
It seems that I got pregnant not when I was writing to you, but now, and I want your advice on how to make the best decision. My biggest concern is the baby’s health due to my partner’s marijuana smoking. As far as I know he stopped, but who knows for how long? Also I got a terrible stomach virus at the same time I became aware I’m pregnant.
Council: We’d like to say right here: Do you realize you already have made the decision of what to do, and you are now just creating little scenarios to show you what’s going on?
And so you talk about your boyfriend on marijuana, then you talk about an upset stomach. What else is there?
Sophie: My progesterone dropped down at that time, but now it’s going up again.
Council: And so the progesterone dropped.
Sophie: Is this virus a coincidence, or something I should consider also?
Council: The virus isn’t a coincidence. It’s another way you show yourself what you choose to do.
Sophie: I was also sick just a couple weeks back with a throat infection, but I didn’t take any strong medication, as I had a feeling I could be pregnant, and now I know I was.
Council: And again, now a throat infection.
Sophie: Another question is: Could it be the same soul as my previous pregnancy where I felt so much love for the fetus and was speaking to the spirit, and it said it would come back, and it showed up in a dream?
Council: We’d like to say here, and this is very important, you are giving yourself these different experiences that would stand in the way of a healthy pregnancy. And why you are doing that is because you and the spirit of this child would like to come together in this world.
We’d like you to know that the spirit you have this agreement with will come to you when the time is right. It doesn’t want to come and have a life where it’s not healthy. That is not what it wants to experience. Getting sick and having a partner with marijuana issues limits and will affect what happens.
And so at this time the child really doesn’t want to come into that lifetime. So there’s a lot for you to think about. And do you really want to have a child with this person?
Bob: Could you directly answer whether it’s the same spirit that she was pregnant with previously?
Council: Yes, it is. And it will come again.
Sophie: I kept talking to the spirit and before I knew I was pregnant I heard in my head, “I’m already here.”
The other side of why I want to continue is that I’ve wanted a baby for a couple years already. I feel that I want to take care of a little one and take some time from work to do something meaningful and loving.
Council: And so do you feel that you are capable of taking care of this child and giving it the best life you can provide for it financially and healthwise? Where you are now, is it the best life you can provide for this child?
Sophie: Also I have some concerns if I don’t continue with the pregnancy I’ll blame my partner, as it’s his marijuana use that’s my biggest concern.
Council: And that right there says a lot, which you need to look at. So do you have a child and maybe it will come with some sort of defect because your partner is on marijuana, or you are creating sicknesses that could affect this child? Is that what you want? Or do you want to give the child the best life that you can?
Sophie: And how are we going to plan the next pregnancy if my partner continues to smoke marijuana?
Council: Well we’d think you have a choice whether to continue trying to have a child with this person, or not. The choice is always yours. Look at what’s going on. Look at everything you’re creating. You are giving yourself the answers if you stop and look at it.
Sophie: It might be just a waste of time and a delay to fulfill my dream of having children and a family, so I’m not sure if I’ll be able to continue the relationship.
Council: There is a very good question that you are asking yourself. And the way we see it, you already have the answer. And there is no right or wrong answer. It’s to go by what you know, what you feel, and to have clarity on it.
Sophie: But I don’t know if I’m brave enough to change the direction of my life and take a chance that something brand new might come up, and leave my current relationship knowing it won’t be so soon when I can plan a family with someone new, who first needs to appear.
Council: And so because you’re afraid to take a chance, you’ll stay in this relationship that you’re already questioning? And why shouldn’t you find someone else? Don’t you think you deserve it? Of course you’ll find someone else if it’s your true intent to be happy and in a healthy marriage with healthy children. It’s all there for you, but the choices you make will or won’t bring that in.
Sophie: It seems my partner also plans to propose, and it seems like forever already that I wanted to be engaged and plan a family.
Council: And so that’s not happening either?
Sophie: It’s what I really want in my life, but another concern of mine is his daughter from another relationship, which is hard for me to deal with sometimes, and also the part where we’d all live together.
Council: And there you go again. We’re only pointing out to you what you already know and what you’re telling us. And so have the clarity to look at this. Why would you choose to have this sort of life, and there’s another child in it that’s difficult for you to deal with. That’s not going happily into a relationship. Again, the choice is yours, but the lesson here is to open your eyes, believe in yourself, and then follow what you want, whatever you want.
Sophie: I feel so lost. And whatever choice I make, of course there will be consequences and a delay in my dream.
There’s another question. Do you see that if I decide to change the direction of where I’m going, would it be a good idea to get back together with my first boyfriend and make a family?
Council: The energy is very good there.
Sophie: Somehow an idea came into my mind about him one day and he wrote to me. He proposed to me when we were together, but I said no, as I thought he’s not caring enough for a family and there should be something better, and we broke up. But after almost four years apart, neither he nor I so far created a family.
Council: And so we feel perhaps you created your current relationship to show you that this isn’t what you want, and maybe what you had before is still there for you and you want it. It’s very interesting what you’ve done. You’ve created these two relationships, and you’re at a point now where you can choose.
Sophie: My previous boyfriend also wants a family already.
Council: Wonderful.
Sophie: He said he misses my family, and he got along well with them. And my family also talks well about him and says he was the best of the partners I had.
Council: And so there’s another positive. Are you listening? We’re telling you that’s two positives you’re telling us already about your old relationship.
Sophie: It was my longest relationship I’ve had so far. Maybe you could share some techniques on how to make the best decision, as I feel so stuck and now both decisions seem like carrying some of the worries I think about.
Council: And so we can’t make the decision for you. But from what you’ve told us here, if you look at your current relationship, there were many things in it that weren’t positive. When you think of this new relationship, you’ve already given us a few positive answers about this person.
So look at this person and reconnect with him. You want a child and this person wants a child. Is this person healthy? Do they smoke marijuana or don’t smoke marijuana? Does this person want to have a happy, healthy child, and acts in ways that will have this happen? See the choices of things that this person wants and what you want. Do they combine nicely? Do you want the same things? Is it safer? Do you feel safer in that relationship?
So just look at it. Reconnect and look at it. Go slowly and look at it. And perhaps your child will come from that. It’s all your choice.
Sophie: As you said in the post that answered my last question, I’m thinking of my baby being healthy and beautiful, and having a wonderful time growing up.
Council: In your present relationship do you think that’s possible? This is another question to answer.
Sophie: But in the first weeks when I had a feeling I might be pregnant, my only thoughts were that I can’t accept my partner smoking marijuana and it having an effect on my baby.
Council: There is your answer if you care to truly hear it.
Sophie: At the same time I feel so irresponsible that I put myself in a position where I’m considering pregnancy termination again. It’s not how I want to live. Hope to hear from you.
Council: Good luck with your choices. Be positive. Know there’s so much more for you, and there’s no reason to be afraid to take a chance and go in a different direction. And we send you love and support in whatever you choose.
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Does The Council Answer Questions So Others Can Also Benefit?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amanda.
Amanda: Many times the answers The Council offers one of your readers seems like it’s exactly what I might need to hear.
Council: Of course.
Amanda: Or more likely, it’s the answer to a question I haven’t asked out loud before. Does this make sense?
Council: Yes, because that vibration, that question, and the answer that’s needed will reach you. And so there are many times you can read something and say, “That’s for me. That’s what I was looking for.”
The level of understanding, the level where you are in your vibration to hear the answer, you will hear it, but you will hear it differently than the answer that’s addressed to the person who asked the question. You will hear exactly what you need to hear, and that’s how this works. And so, in your search for an answer, you will find it.
Amanda: Is The Council answering questions in a way that’s also excellent advice and observation for others on here.
Council: Always.
Amanda: It’s just amazing.
Council: It’s very amazing that you are all together in this reality, and on a spirit level you know you’re helping each other with the questions. Even though consciously you don’t know this, it’s an agreement with souls to come in, to support each other, to love each other, and to help by your examples, by what you’ve gone through. It could be similar, or even different from another person, but the answers will help you. And that’s how you plan your reality.
And so we send you love, we send you happiness, we send you energy to raise your vibrations, and the ability to look inside yourself and around you, and appreciate yourself and everything you have around you, and to go forward and look for the fun and the happiness.
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Does The Concept Of A Soul Contract Work Against My Free Will?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ten.
Ten: Doesn’t the concept of a soul contract work against my free will?
Council: It doesn’t.
Ten: If I have a soul contract with someone to learn something, and then this experience is not what I desire to have in my reality… For example, instead I’d like to create a long-term relationship and have this person be a life partner. Is it possible for the soul contract to be rewritten?
Council: In your reality you are all so hung up on this contract. This contract isn’t written in stone. It’s something you’ve discussed with another soul. You’ve agreed to it, but you’ve also always agreed to the idea that if this way is not working we’ll find another way, but we will have it give us what we need. We’ll find another way to work it out.
So at night when you sleep, and you always leave your bodies and do this astral travel, you can talk this over with the other person, and you can put forth what you want to happen. Then when you’re back in your body in this reality, you start thinking of what it is you want and how you’d like to see it going. There’s nothing that you can’t create.
It takes work to sit. Make the time every day to see it, picture it, and feel it, but not from a place of doubt or a place of, “Oh, it’s not happening. It’s never going to happen, but I’ll try.” But yet you really truly don’t believe it, but you’re going to try, but you don’t believe it, but you’re going to try, but you don’t believe it. And that prevents it from happening. You have to be childlike and see it happen, and feel it, and you don’t have to know how you (which is your higher self) is going to create it. But it’s there. You can have anything you want.
So when you do this focusing every day, forget what’s going on right now and focus everything on the way you want it to be. If you do it with excitement, with joy, with the attitude of looking at what you’re going to create, this is great and things must change for the better.
Ten: Someone told me a person I met recently was just there to open my heart and there’s no possibility of being in a harmonious long-term relationship…
Council: How would someone else know that?
Ten: …with that person because of our soul contract.
Council: Someone else would not know what you’ve agreed to with another soul. They can not tell you how the relationship will be because no one, NO ONE (in capital letters) can create in your reality. It will all happen the way you want it to happen. You must feel it, you must believe it with such joy of knowing how happy you’ll be when it gets here. How happy and excited you are now that you are creating it, and no one else can tell you otherwise. Or I guess they can tell you anything, but they can not create in your life.
Ten: How do I work with my higher self to create the type of relationship I desire with the specific person, and change our agreement?
Council: Sit. Meditate. In your daily coming and going take a little time. If you’re going to a movie, create it in your mind that you are going to the movie with the person you want to go to the movie with. Find little ways to imagine things the way you’d like it with this other person, or the way you’d just like things to be for you. Take the time to imagine it and laugh, know that when you’re imagining, when you’re letting that good feeling in, you will create it.
Ten: If soul contracts restrict the possibilities of what can be created, then aren’t we just puppets of our higher selves? We have no power to actually be creators here in the 3D reality.
Council: So you are a puppet of you. That’s what you are saying. You are a puppet of you. Your higher self is you. And this soul contract, there should have been another way to describe two souls, three souls, four souls agreeing to do things a certain way. But once you put the word, contract, it’s almost like you expect your souls to go to court and have to fight this and get a divorce from this thought.
You are in control. Do it with your thoughts. Do it with your feelings. Know that you can connect.
At night, at any time, speak to the other soul in your mind. You will make things happen.
And so, as always it made us very happy to help. It’s so much fun for us to give answers to help people move forward. That’s our purpose right now.
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How Do I Rewrite My Soul Contract?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Stephen.
Stephen: How do I rewrite my soul contract? I really want to do this. Thank you.
Council: This can be difficult for many people to understand, but there really is no dead-set soul contract. There are many things you speak of before you planned this reality. Maybe I’ll do this, maybe I’ll do that. And when you talk to other souls and you decide what it is, and you pick your parents and the life you’re going to go through, there’s nothing there that’s written in stone.
Your higher self, which is you (and we underline that), which is you and nobody else, knows specifically what you want to do. And it’s easy for you to want to rewrite this contract, but all you really have to do is take a good look at what you’re doing and how you can just tweak it a little bit, and make it a little bit easier, or make it go in another direction. But the main thing, the real main thing that your soul wants to do this time around, even if you find another way to do it, your higher self will lead you that way.
But we don’t want everyone to hear, “Oh, I made this soul contract and I can’t get out of it.” You can change it because you are the creator. You created what you wanted in this reality. You create the where, the why, the who, and the things you’re going to experience, but there’s nothing you can not make better, that you can make easier, or go off in another direction. It’s very important at this time that everyone knows you are the creator.
So maybe there is a contract, for lack of a better word, and because in your human reality you need that word, contract. So you strike something out. So you put a line through it. It’s important to remember that you are creating your life the way that it’s going. And it’s simple, but not always easy to think of picturing your life the way you want it. And the more you can do that, and pretend you have it already, or it’s going in that direction, that is how you’ll bring it in. But you do it from a place of love and excitement that you are in charge, that you can do this or do that, and change this or change that, and make this life the way you want it.
You came here to have fun and to have some challenges to see how you’d handle them. And if it’s difficult, you can lighten the load, so to speak, but there’s nothing we want you to feel is an ironclad agreement and you are stuck for it this life.
And so for ten minutes a day before you go to bed, think of one little thing that you’d like to have some more joy in order to experience your life in an easier way. And start seeing it and feeling it, and we promise you when you keep doing this, you’ll see people around you, and things around you, change. Even if it’s slowly, there’s the improvement that you want.
And when you see that, be grateful for it and know, “Well look at what I did, because I have created it.” No one else will create in your reality.
Bob: Anything else for Stephen?
Council: We think that’s quite a bit. Do that work. Do that understanding. Most of all, you are the creator, you are spirit. You want to do this, you want to do that. Trust your higher self. It will take you down the path you want, and you will experience what it is that you came to experience. And whatever it is, there are many ways to get there. So play with it in your mind. I’d like to do this. Maybe I could do it this way, this way, or this way. Play with it and you will come up with what works for you.
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Did My Partner Pre-Plan His Prostate Cancer?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lizzy.
Lizzy: My life partner was recently diagnosed with localized Stage 4 prostate cancer, which was a huge shock for both of us because we didn’t expect anything like this. I’ve been interested in topics like pre-birth agreements for some time and I’d like to ask: Is this a disease my partner wanted to experience?
Council: This disease wasn’t specifically called for, but it was some sort of disease, some sort of malady that would bring the both of you together, to work together to find a way to deal with it. And so at this time what was created was the prostate problem.
And so a Stage 4 prostate cancer in your reality is a time where they would suggest surgery, and if you’re comfortable with this, then it’s fine to go in that direction. If you’re not comfortable with it – and the choice is always yours – then you should explore other modalities, other things that can help.
And so you will create this now, step by step, how you want it to go, how you want to experience it. But it was specifically to bring the two of you to work together as you look for a way to heal, a way to show other people that will hear your stories or know what’s going on.
So you’re out there on the leading edge deciding which way to go and then to see it working, without doubt, to see, yes, this will work, this sounds right. This feels good. Follow what feels good. It’s now the time in this reality where everyone is learning how to follow their feelings. And so we would say, explore that.
Lizzy: Is there another reason why my partner has prostate cancer at such a young age?
Council: It’s just that the time was right for both of you to experience some sort of episode where there was a medical problem, and it has gone to prostate cancer.
Lizzy: What message is this disease supposed to be telling my partner?
Council: The message is to explore, to learn more, not to be frightened by a medical diagnosis, but to know in your heart that when you believe, when you research and you find something that feels right, to follow it and know that it will work. And so it’s learning with your feelings, learning from the knowledge you have, and to learn how not to doubt, but to go forward.
Lizzy: We talk about this disease openly because I know he needs it and I try to be supportive.
Council: Wonderful.
Lizzy: I’m reading a lot on the internet about prostate cancer and I’m looking for ways to help him even more. I started helping by cooking him healthier and lighter meals.
Council: How does that make you feel? Is that working?
Lizzy: I’ve read that cauliflower, broccoli, and celery are good for the prostate. Am I on the right track?
Council: If you were to read and believe that drinking soda every day would help it, if you truly believe it, it will work. So the point here is to find what you believe. Ah ha, this will work, this sounds good. When you have that ah-ha moment, follow it.
Lizzy: Are there any other superfoods that could help him to heal?
Council: Well if you continue to read in your reality, what’s been created is tomatoes are wonderful for the prostate. The zinc vitamin is excellent for the prostate. Large amounts of Vitamin C are good for the prostate. And yet if you were to read that and not believe that could work, it won’t. The lesson here is to feel what feels right. Acknowledge what feels right no matter what it is that you want to try. When it feels right and it gives you hope, and you know this can work, you should follow whatever it is.
And so continue to read up on it and maybe there will be more that you will feel will work. But we’d say at this point to do the color breathing, not only of the first chakra but all the chakras, and Bob will send that to you.
Lizzy: In general I try to stay positive because I know it’s important. But the more I think about it, I feel like I’m struggling because I don’t know what to do to help him heal.
Council: Ah ha. Just the word, struggle, brings on doubt and brings on the feeling of being helpless. And so now you should think: I know what to do. I’m searching for it and I will get the answer by reading and feeling what gives me more hope. What’s the thought that gives me more hope? What is it that we should do? And follow that.
Lizzy: Is there anything you would recommend?
Council: Of course, meditation every day. And the part of the body – in your reality there’s an explanation for this – the prostate is moving forward, going forward in your life. So if there’s a fear about the future, it could cause prostate cancer. If there’s a fear of money or career it would also cause this prostate problem. So look at what’s not working, or what’s causing you the most trouble in this life, and work on that.
Lizzy: His Urologist has recommended that my partner have surgery. That would mean we wouldn’t be able to have the children we want so badly. Is there any other option?
Council: Well there’s always the adoption option. But again we’d say research this, and if it’s possible, and you feel the only way to go forward now is to work with the sperm and have it frozen so that you can use it in the future, then by all means do that. You must follow what feels good to the two of you. That’s what’s being taught by all of us spirits that are out there channeling and teaching everyone that’s ready, everyone that’s wanting to grow, that now is the time when you need an answer, follow your feelings.
Lizzy: The only thing we could think of right now is sperm cryopreservation. Is that the path we should take?
Council: It’s not necessary right now while you do the research. If you feel, after trying other things or looking for other methods that feel right, if nothing feels right, then go in the direction of cryopreservation.
Lizzy: My life so far has taught me that every unpleasant situation has a hidden gift.
Council: And this will show the both of you are the creator. How you think about things, what you choose to focus on, you will see coming into your life. So no one can create for you. You will learn how to create by your research, by your thoughts, by your feelings, and you will learn that, yes, we are creating what happens in our lives.
Lizzy: Is there some gift for our relationship hidden in this disease?
Council: Always to bring you closer, always to learn how to rely on the spirit, rely on that you both have chosen this, and to go forward. There’s a great adventure in front of you. As long as you get rid of the fear, go on this adventure. You’ve chosen to do this together, and so you are fulfilling it. And now create the outcome that you want.
Lizzy: Is this disease meant to push us in a different direction in this life?
Council: It’s to help you become more of who you really are.
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What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Also.
Anonymous Also: I was hoping to follow up on Anonymous’s questions (a different reader from Anonymous Also) in their private phone session with The Council. Thank you again, Anonymous, for sharing your invaluable recording. I’ve been wondering about these questions for a while, and I’d be very grateful for The Council’s feedback. I apologize in advance for the dark nature of the topic. I’d like to know what The Council has to say about what is perceived by some to be the limits of positive thinking.
Council: There are no limits. There’s only the limit you put on yourself by thinking there are limits.
Anonymous Also: And how we can go about understanding the following situations in a new way. I ask not to make others feel invalidated or disrespected for their beliefs, but to try to expand my own understanding.
Council: We’d say here that while we answer your questions, and many may hear this or read it, everyone will get something out of it, so you will not hurt or disallow their feelings. Everyone will hear the words differently, and it will come across the way they need to hear it because of what they’re going through, and where they are at this time. So let’s see what you ask.
Anonymous Also: For example, there are stories of people who believe in vibration, crystal healing, etc., who refused medical treatment and then have gone on to die of cancer. I’m assuming it’s not that they didn’t try hard enough to be positive. Although each person has their own story, why might that happen, and what message is their death supposed to send to us?
Council: Well, there are different reasons. They could have said they believed in this work but had a lot of fear behind what they were trying to picture and believe.
There’s also an agreement, maybe with other souls, that they’d go through this difficulty and it would touch the other souls’ lives. It would make them believe, more or less, or see things differently, and question what’s going on. It will always touch people in a way to make them grow, to make them question their beliefs, and to make them question how they’re living their lives.
And so there are many that could take poison and have a miraculous cure. It’s what you believe and how positive you can stay in that belief. Where many people try, and it’s hard for many people, but the doubt and the fear behind the situation will change the outcome of what one is asking for.
Anonymous Also: Alternatively, there are a number of pastors and other notable individuals in the United States who have said that God will protect them from Covid, only to promptly die of Covid weeks later. Another example that comes to mind is a very religious man whose infant son had brain tumors that kept coming back, and despite lots of prayer and true faith in the ability of the child to get better, the child died anyway.
Council: First we’d like to say here, if it’s the child’s desire, because the child creates his own life, to leave this reality, all the prayers in the world will not change that. If there are enough prayers and the soul decides to change what it wanted, it is possible.
And also, especially when it hits someone in their faith – a pastor saying that God would protect them and then the opposite happens – there’s fear behind there. There’s doubt in the belief.
And it also happens that the souls that come together in this group that hear this have agreed to have their faith tested, and so that’s why it works or it doesn’t work. Many souls want to know: “Oh, okay, I’m going to go into this reality and something will come up and it’s not always planned, but something will come up to test my faith. I want to see how I handle it. How do I turn this situation around? And sometimes it can be done, and sometimes it can’t be done, but it always affects all the people involved. And so, many times it’s to test one’s faith when it’s coming from a religious person.
Many people believe a pastor, a priest, or a rabbi, what they say is law and must happen because they have this great connection to God, but we would say that’s not true. It’s your connection to your higher self, it’s your connection to your belief that makes your reality happen.
Anonymous Also: In these examples, people had faith in their beliefs, although I’m sure they were also afraid and angry, like we humans all can be in adverse circumstances.
Council: Of course. And there was questioning, and there was doubt, and there was fear, and that always changes the outcome. But always remember, the person you’re praying for knows if it’s time and they want to leave this reality, or come through a miraculous cure to show the people around them that this is possible. There are lessons. There are plans behind the lessons. And so you can just observe and do what makes you feel good. Pray for the people, don’t pray for the people. That is part of the emotions you wish to experience and perhaps work through, and change it, or just have the experience. It’s all up to you.
Anonymous Also: How are we supposed to understand their stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite significant spiritual effort?
Council: Because the higher self knows what it wants to plan, and what it wants to go through. And so you may not understand what another person is going through, but it’s your place to allow them to go through it and help them in any way you can because we’re here to support and help each other.
But just allow, and know that if it’s time for them to leave this planet, they’re going back into spirit, which is a wonderful place. No one comes into this reality and wants to stay here. As a spirit, when you’re planning what you want to do, what you want to create, you want to do everything and go back home. So dying, as people say, is not the end. It’s just a returning home. It’s a happiness that you experience. You’re in the energy of love. The vibration is wonderful, and that is part of the understanding. You’re not here for forever, even though some people would like to do that, if possible.
But you want to have your fun, or your challenges, and return home and share what you’ve learned, and help the others that are left behind to go through parts of their journey. And that is what creation is all about. What can you create? How much fun? How much of a challenge? What are you going to do with it? Okay, I’ve been here long enough. Time to go.
Bob: So are you saying that the way we’re supposed to understand people’s stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite a significant spiritual effort, is that from a human point of view they may have wanted them to go one way, but from a spiritual point of view they wanted their life to go a different way.
Council: Yes. Many people in human form, they aren’t thrilled with the idea of passing on. Your higher self knows much better. And as you meditate, and as your vibration changes, you’ll become more and more familiar with that thought. The understanding about it will come. And that’s why we say to everyone at this time, meditate, even if you just meditate on the fact that you are spirit. Get to that understanding and everything else will begin to change.
Anonymous Also: The most haunting example for me is the toxic optimism that kept Jews in Nazi Germany thinking it would get better, and then being trapped and then killed as things got worse.
Council: How wonderful? And how strong these people were to hang on to their faith and the hope that their situation would change. Did the people around them need to see these people that had such great hope? Was it there to hold other people together as they went through this experience? It’s a wonderful thing. It was done on a large scale to teach all of your reality at this time about how strong people can be, how many have suffered, and how not to allow this kind of behavior anymore. To not hate and have enemies, but to love, and have compassion, and to live together in peace. It’s a huge lesson on a grand scale.
Anonymous Also: I’m sure there are families in Ukraine who are experiencing this same situation now.
Council: Of course.
Anonymous Also: The message there for me seems to be, if things start getting bad, flee. But I’m assuming that’s not the message that was meant to be taken away.
Council: Some people will believe it’s to their benefit to flee and they will. And others will believe, this is my home and I won’t leave. I will stand and fight. I’ll do what I need to do. And this is their choice. This is their belief. Whether you can understand what they choose, admire them for following what they believe and what they want to do.
Anonymous Also: Yet how are we supposed to understand actions that can be perceived as irrational optimism when the results of those actions are catastrophic for the individuals involved?
Council: To the individual involved it isn’t irrational what they believe, what they’re trying to create, or what they’re hoping for. And again, watch these people and learn from them. There may be a time in this life or a future life where what you see now will be an example for you to use in another life. We all learn together from one another.
Anonymous Also: From my human perspective as part of a powerful divine spirit, I certainly don’t consciously want to die a violent death, and I don’t want that for my loved ones.
Council: Of course. And as you said, the main word here is, consciously.
Anonymous Also: Yet sudden deaths and horrific tragedies happen anyway, including to my family. Yes, we made plans in advance for what we agreed to experience, but if we’re also very much one with our higher selves, how can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us?
Council: Do not forget here that what you have planned, you always have the choice to change. And so you meditate. You talk to yourself before you sleep that you’d like to change the direction your life is going in. You have the power to do this. You are not a victim. Whichever way your life is going is because of the choices you’re making and the direction you planned to go, but you do have a choice to change it.
Anonymous Also: How can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us that we, now as humans and supposedly now also on a higher level, don’t want?
Council: On a higher level, if it’s happening, then it’s wanted. So you can’t understand many of the things that happen that you feel you don’t want, but they do happen. On a higher level everything goes forward, everyone here in this reality is playing their part, is having their experience, and then is moving back again into spirit. It’s a wonderful thing. It’s like having a part in a movie or a play and then going back home.
Anonymous Also: In other words, I’m confused about agency and power, and who really has what. It often seems like what the higher self wants: challenges and bringing love into a difficult situation, and what the human extension wants: safety, not suffering, are opposite, but we’re also supposed to be intimately one and the same.
Council: You are one and the same, and yet it’s very difficult at this time for many people to understand that. And so the higher self creates the human body, the person, to go through whatever it is, and directs it in the way it wants it to have the experience. It’s not always understood by the human brain. But when you start to work with your heart chakra, which is beginning to happen for many people, you’ll get an understanding that comes from feeling and doesn’t come from words.
Anonymous Also: To give another example, I learned in an earlier question for The Council that I was tortured and witnessed torture as a child in a past life, which to some extent has colored my current life with fear. When I think about it, I keep coming back to the thought: Who the heck would want that? To see how I handle it? The answer is, I’d handle torture badly. I’m sure I did handle torture badly. Did I and others really need to be tortured just to have an opportunity to extend comfort to others who are suffering, or understand that children shouldn’t be tortured? Why go so extreme?
Council: The extreme sometimes is needed and the experience is wanted. No one likes the idea of torture. And yet we hear many people say: We are saints and we are sinners. So having the thought of torture is horrible, yes, but then there were lives when you experienced the opposite side of the coin and you were the torturer. It’s just an experience. That is all it is. And so we say it’s difficult to understand because no one wants to go through this. And yet many people, when they’re tortured, are halfway out of their bodies and don’t feel it. And it’s a way of them starting to release the body, to end the torture, and to then return into the spirit life.
And so even though it’s not wanted, sometimes it’s needed. It’s needed for the person, the people around them, and it may be needed to be on the news and go out into the world for others to hear these things. And that’s why this happens.
Anonymous Also: Finally, when I shared your website with a family member because I found it so helpful, she said to me, “It feels like this philosophy is blaming the victim. Like if they had only been more positive they would have been okay. This seemed like a fair criticism to me from her perspective and I wanted to know how The Council would respond to it.
Council: Of course, if they were more positive, perhaps they wouldn’t have created what they created. And so, again, the understanding isn’t available when it comes from your brain. It must come from your heart, that whatever it is there that you’ve decided to go through, again, it’s just an experience and not an ending.
And there are no victims. Of course, many would like to blame others, but there are no victims. Where you can come into this reality and say, “Well, I want to experience abandonment.” You may not specifically say, “I want my parents to abandon me. Or I’ll get married and have children and my husband will abandon me.” You may just put out there, “I want to experience abandonment.” And then, as you go through life, you’ll pull in from the people around you, this abandonment. Some people say, “I want to experience shame.” So they’ll create getting AIDS or another sexual disease so that they’ll feel shameful.
It’s what you create to go through, what it is you want to experience. And it’s not always step-by-step how it’s going to be, and sometimes it is. Again, you have the choice to make your life happen the way you want it.
Anonymous Also: I believe I understand the idea that there are no victims and no perpetrators, and that we switch roles out of love for one another.
Council: Constantly.
Anonymous Also: But in the situation where someone wants something desperately and wants to change their plan, and visualizing it changing it still doesn’t happen…
Council: It doesn’t happen because of the word you use. They want something desperately. When you’re asking for something desperately, the feeling that comes from the word, desperate, is not of a high vibration. When you ask for something in a way: “I’m so excited because this is what I want and this is coming. I’m ready to receive that.” The feel of those words and the vibration is very different. So we’d inform you and guide you, do not ask for something being desperate.
Anonymous Also: This also reminds me of your post, Are There Things We Ask For That We’ll Never Get? which asks similar questions, but for me it didn’t have a graspable enough conclusion about these issues.
Council: Sometimes you ask for things because you think it would make you happy, or it’s something that you really, really want, but your higher self knows you don’t need it, or that’s not the direction you want to go in. So you don’t get it. And yet if you focus, you will bring it into your reality. It may not last or it may last. You are the creator, and so always remember that. Your tools are your choices and your thoughts. Because the words that you sound in your head and the thoughts that you have bring on emotion and bring on feeling.
The feeling is what goes out into the Universe and brings you what you want. What you want must match how you feel. And so, if you feel desperate, what you want will not come. If you are in the state of a vibration where you’re excited and you’re feeling love, and you’re waiting for this, you’ll be able to bring it in.
Anonymous Also: I’m sorry for this long downer topic, but I’d very much appreciate your insight, as always, to make grappling with these big questions a little easier. Gaining some clarity will allow me to finally lay aside some fears and hopefully get to a place of higher vibration, and perhaps there are other readers who struggle with the same questions who may also be helped. I hope so.
Council: So the information we’ve given will touch different people in different ways. But even for yourself, it will give you a different perspective, a different way to think of things, a different way to try to create, and a different way to handle what’s going on in your life. It will change things for you.
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Is Humanity Ready For The Information I Plan To Offer In My Workshop?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Just Me Again.
Just Me Again: I never went to Cambodia.
Bob: Apparently Just Me Again asked The Council about going to Cambodia in a previous question.
Just Me Again: Not only because of not wanting to leave my cat behind, but also because life happened and I had to learn some more. I got retrenched and moved to a small town in the countryside. My brother took his own life in the early stages of Covid, and I brought my mother to stay with me in this small town, as we were both struggling with my brother’s death.
Council: It was pre-arranged that you and your mother would always be there for one another. So whether she was there for you as a child and it’s your turn now to be there for her, it’s an agreement and commitment you made, and it’s still your choice whether you would follow through on it.
Just Me Again: I’m working on a project to create a center where we offer a 10-day residential retreat for women, not only to empower them, but also for them to return home with knowledge to also empower their families and communities. It’s a holistic program to help these women understand how to deal with the baggage they carry, learn about self-love and forgiveness, discover their gifts and abilities, etc., and focus on working with high-vibration tools like flower essences, crystals and gemstones, and consciously consuming high vibration food, etc.
Council: And we’d say at this point, the best teachers are the ones that haven’t learned about crystals and essences from books, but have used it in their life so that you can give an example of what happens. Right now, people are very interested in knowing how it works. How do you know it works? So we’d say look into this program that you wish to develop, and how you’ll develop it.
But we’d say at this point going forward in your reality it’s very important to teach about vibrations, how to get into a higher vibration, how to stay there, and how to use your mind to create with your feelings, and with your images. We’d say this is very important for you to add to your program and to teach this, and then it will be very successful.
And have stories about yourself, and about others you know who have used the tools you’re going to give these women, and how it affected them. How did they make the change? People get hope when they hear success stories. And that is part of your path.
Just Me Again: There will also be workshops following the 10 days to teach creating your own high-vibration medicine.
Council: Wonderful.
Just Me Again: I resonated with your previous advice about having a past life in Atlantis and it feels like memories are coming back, and much of the center is based on guidance downloads that I’m receiving.
Council: So ask your higher self to give you memories of your past life in Atlantis, or any other life where you were in a healing capacity. And keep asking, because at this point in your reality, what we see is many, many people now will start to depend on their higher self, even though some people don’t realize the higher self and your human self are one entity. Even if they separate it, asking your higher self for information, it will always come, and it will come in your feelings.
And so it’s important that you teach people how to feel, how to ask a question and feel. That’s how the answers will come going forward in your reality. And this way you’re pointing others in the right direction. Develop the vibration and learn how to stay in it. Talk to your higher self and sit and wait for the feeling. You will get your answers.
Just Me Again: It is a process of downloading this information I am receiving. I feel there’s still more to come.
Council: There is much more to come.
Just Me Again: I’d like to ask a few questions. Although I’m not giving the long version of the program here, does The Council feel that humanity is ready to receive the straightforward basic knowledge of what I have to offer at this time?
Council: Definitely. We say to go forward with this plan. When you think of it, does it make you excited? Do you feel joy? There’s your feeling. Do it.
Just Me Again: Will the program be as effective as I believe it will be?
Council: Yes, if you gather enough information and experiences, it will be very successful.
Just Me Again: And is there any guidance from The Council?
Council: We feel we’ve given it to you (laughs).
Just Me Again: If funds for this project are approved, I’ll take my mother with me to the center, as I’ve committed to taking care of her.
Council: Yes, you have.
Just Me Again: She’s very open to all this new information, loves reading, going through my books on these topics, and she’s 80 years old. Will it be the right thing to take her with me? The funding will allow me to get special care for her on the premises, and allow me to follow my calling at the same time.
Council: Talk to her about your plans and what you’re going to teach, because she’ll be aware of this stuff and she’ll use it in her own way. So make your mother part of the discoveries.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any messages from my father and/or brother who are both on the other side? Or any other messages from anyone that I need to receive right now?
Council: Of course we’d say the only message that they give is feeling proud of supporting you on your path, and of sending love so that you can create what you thought you’d like to do in spirit. And so they are on their path, and they are learning in the spirit. They are planning new lives, and they are helping others. And so when you ask if they have messages, the one big message is they always send you love, because they want you to get through this reality by having accomplished what you planned in spirit.
Just Me Again: Are there perhaps any other lifetimes with knowledge of high-vibration healing and tools that The Council wants to make me aware of that may assist me in establishing this program?
Council: We’d say read everything you can on Atlantis. Read everything you can on Lemuria. In the early parts of Egypt, they used a lot of teachings from Atlantis, and then we’d say they added their spin to it. Study early healings from Egypt. Learn what they did in the temples. And as you begin to remember this, your knowledge will grow. You’ll get new ideas that you don’t have now to put into your programs, and this is a wonderful adventure.
Bob: So are you saying that Just Me Again had past lives in Lemuria, Atlantis, and Egypt, all three.
Council: Yes
And so we send you all blessings. And remember to have fun on this journey that you’ve created for yourself, and to have fun with the spirits around you that you’ve welcomed into your life. And always, always show kindness, and love, and compassion.
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What Is The Source Of My Mood Swings, Anger, And Rage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I continue to go through a major shift in perception. I feel as though I’m learning so much about life, self-healing work, etc. However, while trying to heal, I’ve yet to understand my mood swings and the source of my anger and rage.
Council: This happens now at a time in your reality where many people are dealing with emotions: anger, happiness, depression, and feeling very uplifted. It’s the time with a mass agreement for people to go through this because it will take your planet, your reality, to a higher level.
And so it’s important right now to pay attention to your feelings. Do not fear them. Let your feelings come up and then always try to focus the energy of love on every emotion. You’ll begin to feel different. It’s a way you’ll learn to control your emotions. Accept them when they come, acknowledge them, and then always put the stamp of love on each emotion.
And so follow the ups and downs that your higher self is showing you and you’ll move forward and you’ll learn much more about your life and purpose here. You’ll have more confidence and we can guarantee you’ll move forward.
Elizabeth: I want to learn to control my anger and rage, and how to release it in a healthy way.
Council: Not so much to control it, but to let it come and then say to yourself, “Anger is here again. Anger is paying me a visit. What does it remind me of? What could it be that causes this anger? Is it here just for me to change it?” And many times that’s the reason. It just comes up and you need to do the work where you don’t say, “Go away.” You say, “Hello, anger. You’re part of this life, but now we’re going to make you feel better.”
And you’ll put love and pink light all over yourself and all over the thought of anger. Try to picture what it looks like. What shape does it have? Put pink light on it and you’ll see and learn many things. Just accept it.
Elizabeth: I realize anger is disguised sadness. It seems so ingrained in me and comes at times I don’t even understand. Is it a loss of control?
Council: Of course it’s loss of control, but it comes from other lifetimes which aren’t important to delve into. Just know: Okay, I’m carrying this, I created this in spirit to be happening so I could learn how to change it.
Elizabeth: If it is loss of control, where did I learn the need to want it, and the fear of losing it?
Council: In other lifetimes when there was loss of control, when there was too strenuous a life for you, when there was no ifs or buts, you wanted things a certain way and they wouldn’t happen. And so you bounced around each side of the coin. What does it feel like to have control? What does it feel like not to have control? It doesn’t matter when this happened. Only that you look at it now and you think: Okay, these feelings, they may be coming from other times, they may be coming now only because I’ve asked it to come forward so I could heal it.
Elizabeth: If the anger and sadness are from childhood trauma, what’s the event I need to look at to understand and allow myself peace and grace?
Council: There’s nothing in your current particular life you need to look at. What you called forth is feelings from other lives. You called forth the lesson to learn how to change these feelings. And many, many in your reality want to learn how to work with their mind on a great scale to change things. And that’s why the feelings are so powerful. It’s now on a great scale all over your reality, people trying to learn how to work with their mind because that’s how you create.
Elizabeth: I know love is the answer…
Council: Yes it is.
Elizabeth: …yet sometimes the rage consumes me. Can you help?
Council: Feel your rage, say hello to it, get ahold of your thoughts, your mind, and say, “I’ve created this because I want to learn how to become more of the spiritual person I am, and I’m now going to infuse this thought and this feeling with love. And I’ll do it with my mind.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Every day create happiness, even if it’s for the littlest thing because when you’re in that vibration, you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer basis. So have fun with it.
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How Can I Stop My Adopted Cat’s Itchiness?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristine.
Kristine: I adopted a beautiful cat last year and she’s been itching on the sides of her head and behind her ears and neck the whole time I’ve had her, which would have started prior to the adoption. The vet thought she had a food allergy and put her on a hypoallergenic diet.
Council: It’s a sound vibration. The cat is feeling a tingle or a vibration from a sound. Apparently, we see this cat, as a kitten, fell and there was some movement. We would put this as easily as possible for you to understand. There was some movement in the ears, so this cat is sensitive to sound and hears and feels some sounds.
This cat needs a lot of loving care and a lot of attention. It should always have a quiet atmosphere. You can do some healing on this cat. You don’t have to know anything special. You can just put your hands on the cat and send love from your heart We see, in time, if you keep doing this, the sound will become less and less, and there’s a possibility of it fading.
There’s no medicine that’s needed. Massage is needed for the cat’s neck, under the ears, and around the body to make it feel comfortable. That’s what we see and what we recommend for this wonderful kitty.
Bob: If a human was having this problem might you recommend craniosacral therapy?
Council: That’s also wonderful if you can find a craniosacral therapist that works on animals, and they are out there. But no loud music, no loud noise, and no yelling. This cat must be in a calm atmosphere.
And of course, the spirit of the cat, just like a human, has choices. When it begins to feel safe and it no longer wants to hear this noise, when it’s used to being in the quiet, it will choose not to hear this noise anymore.
Kristine: The vet thought she had a food allergy and put her on a hypoallergenic diet, which she was on for at least five months, and she continued to itch and bleed.
Council: We don’t see that’s the problem.
Kristine: Friends suggested the cat might have fleas, but the treatment for fleas didn’t work. I kept her inside and stopped using any fragrances and perfumes and that hasn’t worked.
Council: The cat is feeling the vibration of this sound in her head.
Kristine: I’ve taken her to the vet four times and they want her on medication for the rest of her life, even though they have no idea what the cause is, and I won’t do that to her. I’m so horribly stressed and feel awful for her, but I don’t know what else to do.
Council: It’s important for you to meditate and not add to the cat’s stress. The cat will feel your vibration. And so, you have to come with love to this cat, with confidence, with the feeling that the cat is well, and telling the cat it’s well. And that all your love, together with the cat, will help it feel better. Come from your heart. Put your hands on the cat, and send love daily, at least for 10 minutes.
Kristine: Council, please, what can you see? Why is she itching all the time? I want her to have the best life with me. I adore her and I just want her to be happy. She’s all I have.
Besides the scratching, is she happy I adopted her?
Council: Oh yes. There’s great happiness there, so bond closely and just tell her that together you’ll help her feel better.
Kristine: Is there anything else I can do to make her feel loved and happy?
Council: It’s the massage every day. It’s the quietness. No loud surroundings and no tension. The tension also adds to the vibration she hears and feels. Calmness, which will help both of you, we see you both need it. So you’ve come together to both learn to be calm.
Bob: And as far as the hypoallergenic food is concerned, she can feed the cat whatever she wants?
Council: Exactly. If the cat likes the hypoallergenic food, then, yes, continue it.
Kristine: Your love and guidance is beyond appreciated. Love and appreciation, Kristine.
Council: Love to you and your cat on your journey.
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Do We Have To Unite With Our Twin Flame To Spiritually Ascend, Or With Our Multidimensional Self?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: In general, is it necessary to unite with your twin flame to spiritually ascend from the third dimension here on Earth, or is it an attachment of the ego that we need to let go of and actually have to unite with our own multi-dimensional selves?
Council: Exactly, let go of the ego. You don’t need anything or anyone else to move up the ladder and go from one dimension to another, which you’ve already done.
And so it’s the beliefs that you must have a twin soul, you have to have a soulmate. No. You need to create what you want with your thoughts. You need, in your prayers, in your meditations, to always want to connect with that higher part of you that knows what it wants to do, that knows what you wanted to experience in this lifetime. That’s all that’s needed. No one else is needed.
BS: Is there a true twin flame?
Council: When you create a twin flame, you take a part of your spirit and send it out there and create the kind of person you want this twin flame to be in your life. So it’s you (as a spirit) taking on the persona of another person: a man, a woman, an animal, whatever it is. But it is you, and you can create this as many times as you want and in as many realities as you want. The twin flame is you.
It’s like you looking in a mirror and saying, “Let me put on this Halloween costume and let me see what I find with this person that I’m creating. What is it about me that I want to learn? Why do I want to create this twin flame so I can feel comfortable? Why do I want to create this twin flame so that I can have a lot in common, so that I can grow at a pace that feels comfortable, that I’m supported by someone (and that someone is you) to go through this reality and [go through] what I want to experience.”
Bob: Do you differentiate between the terms twin flame and soulmate?
Council: The soulmate is someone that you create because you think this soulmate will be the great love of your life. And it’s another spirit that’s agreed to come into your life and play that part.
But when you create this twin flame, it’s the mirror of you. And so there’s not another spirit that’s involved in that.
Bob: So on the subject of twin flames, if it’s another person, how is there not another spirit involved in that?
Council: A twin flame is you. It’s a part of you that you’ve sent out to come in the form of a person, or an animal, or whatever it is that you need.
A soulmate is another soul that perhaps you’ve been in other lifetimes with, or it can be someone new, but it’s a different soul, a different spirit that said, “Yes, I will come in and be whatever we decide we need to be in this lifetime.”
The twin flame is you creating with you.
Bob: I think I understand. It sounds like you’re saying that in spirit you send a part of yourself and create another person, but it’s your actual spirit in the form of another person.
Council: Exactly.
Bob: And you’re calling them a twin flame.
Council: Yes.
Bob: It doesn’t involve the spirit or soul of another.
Council: Excellent, Bob. Yes, you’ve got it.
Bob: But the soulmate…
Council: …is another spirit.
Bob: Thank you very much for that clarification. I appreciate that.
Council: Good question.
Bob: Now we have a point of clarification that we’d like to ask about in our post where we answered Bluestar Child’s first four out of five questions. It was a post entitled, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
Early in that post Bluestar Child said, “I would like to ask The Council if I have a twin flame, and I don’t mean a soulmate.” And you said, You’re going to try to answer them. This can be difficult to understand.” And we appreciate that you just provided some of that clarification.
Council: Yes, we’ve just given you the simplest explanation.
Bob: Now in that previous post, just after that statement, you said, “We were all created at the same time. There are no new souls.” And then you said, “There are souls that are new by creating your current reality.” And we’d like some clarification on those three statements.
Council: There are no new souls, but we’ll say there are millions, or a nice word that Cynthia likes, cazillions of souls everywhere, in every reality, in every dimension. And so there’s not a new soul being born. What happens is, in your reality when you bring a person in, it’s someone that’s agreeing to be here. It’s not a brand new soul. When you give birth, it’s not a brand new soul. The soul could be thousands of years old. We are all here. We are all doing many, many, many things.
So there’s no need to create a new soul. When you feel you want to create something, there’s nothing brand new. You’ll send out a part of yourself for whatever reason so that to your human mind it seems like a new soul, but it isn’t. There’s no need for anything new. We’re all here forever.
Bob: That’s interesting. So it sounds like you’re saying that on a spiritual level, all souls were created at the same time.
Council: Always was, always will be. And there are no words in your language to explain this. It’s just that we’re vibration and we are energy that goes on forever. There is a change in form perhaps, but we are always there.
Bob: And the change in form doesn’t involve any new souls?
Council: Exactly. And believe this or not, we all know each other, all cazillion trillion millions. We’re all connected. How wonderful is that? That will blow your mind.
Bob: So when you say there are souls that are new by creating your current reality, you’re saying that an old soul can seem new by bringing them into our current reality and experiencing them for the first time.
Council: Exactly. It could be a soul that you’ve never been with before so they would feel new.
Bob: But this soul and all souls were originally created all at the same time.
Council: Exactly.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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Pregnant With An Unplanned Third Child At 40 That My Husband Doesn’t Want?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, L.
L: I’d love to ask The Council’s advice. I’ve recently determined I’m pregnant with our third child. It was unplanned, and I’m 40 years old. I’m struggling to find clarity in my heart about what to do. We’re in a big transition, seeking a new home and work. And physically I feel how challenging another child would be on my body and my energy. And my husband doesn’t want another child.
Council: You already know your husband doesn’t want this child. It sounds like you have a problem with knowing how you’d handle this new child and that it will be stressful.
And so we’ll say here, where we can never make the decision for you, it’s so wonderful that no matter what you decide, we see here that this spirit, and you, and your husband have agreed to either way, having the baby or not having the baby. It was thought that spirit would come in at a certain time and you would then all decide, were you ready?
And so if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable, that you don’t feel in your heart it is a good decision, it’s okay not to bring forth this child into this reality. You’ve all agreed to this. And so there’s no wrongdoing. There’s nothing to feel guilty about. The child will go on and, if it wishes, be born to another couple. It may stay in the spirit world for a while, or a long time. Nobody will suffer from this.
And so the decision is yours, and it should be made with love. You and your husband send each other love and send this spirit love. This spirit already is sending you love.
And so everything, no matter which way you decide, will be perfect.
L: And yet I also feel it’s a divine blessing to conceive without trying, and there’s immense grief considering how to end the pregnancy.
Council: It’s a divine blessing because you are divine, the child is divine, your husband is divine, and you’d agreed to have this child if it was at a good time and if it would be good for all three of you. So the three of you brought this pregnancy forward and brought it through with the knowledge that if it wasn’t a good time to have this child, you could end the pregnancy and release the child.
L: It’s very early, but I wouldn’t wish to wait very long if we take this path of stopping the pregnancy.
Council: This is understandable so all of you can go on. The spirit can go on, you can go on, and your husband can go on.
L: Can you shed any light on spirit and moving forward with love for our entire family?
Council: There’s all love for you in spirit. All of you have it within you. All of your higher selves know what’s planned. And any decision, and we say it again, any decision that you make is perfect.
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Is There An Evil Spirit Around Me And/Or My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sonaliv27.
Sonaliv: Is there a spirit or something around me and/or my children?
Council: There are always spirits around you, and there’s nothing to fear with this. It’s just that you’re one of many who wish to come into this reality and learn to experience more than what’s usual.
You want to experience connections with spirits from other realms, and the spirits there have come to you to help you connect with this. If at any time you feel this is too much for you, or you don’t want this connection, then you can easily ignore this and you won’t create it. There’s no reason for concern that these are what you’d call bad spirits. They’re just here because you wanted this from a spiritual perspective.
When you were in spirit and you were planning your current lifetime, you wanted to come in and then to grow, to experience more, and to be open to new experiences that would help you realize who you are. You wanted to help realize that you’re also a spirit, and you’re so much more than your physical body that you travel around in. That’s why you may feel these spirits around you, but we’d say there’s no reason to be concerned. You’re always in control.
Sonaliv: Is this spirit evil?
Council: This spirit is not evil. There are many spirits that are coming in because they’re part of the agreement to help the ones in the physical to realize there’s so much more. It’s a teacher. It’s here to give you a different experience. You can always go with it, learn from it, and experience it, or take it out of your consciousness. Don’t give it any focus and it will leave.
Sonaliv: How do I make this spirit leave?
Council: Make sure that you truly want this spirit to leave, because you are the creator and you did create having this spirit come into your life for the purpose of learning.
And so we send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that will help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. When you do this you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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Will My Children Ever Feel Good In School?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kati.
Kati: Dear Council, please help. Will my children ever feel good at school? My 10-year-old struggles academically due to attention issues, but does great socially, though the environment is lively and distracting, which doesn’t help his attention issues.
Council: First we’ll like to say this child is an Indigo child, and the attention problem the school would see is because he’s very curious and will get bored easily. Subconsciously the Indigo children know they have great things to do and to change when they are here. That’s what’s going on with that child right now.
This is nothing to worry about. Don’t fall into the system’s way of thinking there’s something wrong with him. Indigo children learn at their own pace. They make friends when they’re ready. They’ll search for the right kind of people, they’ll search for the right kind of information, and they don’t want to waste their time. This is part of what an Indigo child goes through.
There’s no need to worry here. You’ll see by watching this child what motivates him, what his interests are, and how he works through his problems.
Kati: My 8-year-old struggles socially, hasn’t made a good friend in school in three years, hates going to school, but does great academically.
Council: Do you see the opposites with these two souls? They’ve agreed to come in and they know each other from one or more previous lives. They’d be examples to each other so that one would learn from the other, and learn how to balance themselves out. It’s a wonderful path they’ve chosen to come on.
There’s a learning process for you, but they’re here to definitely help each other to be examples. As they get older they’ll figure out what they want. There could be a time when one is jealous of the other, but that’s fine. The relationship will evolve. They’re here to be examples and to help each other in their current reality.
Kati: We are considering switching schools to a small private religious school, though we’re not of that faith, or homeschooling, but those are upheavals as well. Is it worth the financial strain to send them to private school?
Council: No, not at all. They’ll still have their issues to face. And why disturb what they’re going through now, where they’d have to start again with the feelings, and being bored, or not having friends. It’s to your children’s benefit that you do not change their schooling habits and where they learn.
Kati: Would my children be happy doing homeschooling?
Council: That wouldn’t help either.
Kati: In addition to feeling like we’re constantly struggling with their individual school issues…
Council: And that’s understood, but just sit back and watch, and encourage them in any way you can.
Most of all it’s important that your children feel accepted no matter how they are, and to feel loved by you. Show your children love. Show your children acceptance. These are tools that will help them grow.
Kati: Mass shootings in the news make me fear that school is no longer a safe place for kids.
Council: And at this point it isn’t safe. But in your current reality, all of this is happening because a great change is wanted. All the souls here have allowed this to come in to learn from it and take their power. And parents, as well as all adults, have a lot of power that they’re looking to find right now, and to change the circumstances into the kind of world that’s wanted.
Every single soul that’s in this reality at this time came in to find out whatever the problem is, and to face these problems in large groups, or individually, and to change these problems and bring love into every situation.
But we do understand your fear. Meditate on things being wonderful. Meditate on how you’d like things to be. See that in your mind. Focus on that.
You’ll find that thoughts are very powerful. Stay in the positive.
Kati: The whole topic of school feels so intense and it’s been a struggle for four years. Do you have any insights as to why we’ve struggled so much, and if there’s a better option for our family? I don’t want to live in fear anymore, and I don’t want to be weary of the subject of school anymore.
Council: As crazy as this may sound, you did choose to experience fear, and so did everyone else in your current reality. Either you fall victim to this fear, or you use your mind and your energy to not accept this fear.
Now focus on what you want. When you focus, the vibration changes, and then everything around you changes. That’s how your current reality works.
Do the work. Go inward. Focus. Visualize, and you’ll see the change begin.
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Was My Recent Abortion A Soul Agreement Between Me And My Child?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, ACuriousSpirit.
ACuriousSpirit: I had an abortion recently and it’s not something I really wanted to do, and I’m still deeply sad about it. I’d like to ask The Council if this abortion was a soul agreement between me and the child.
Council: Of course it was. There’s no reason to feel sad, or regret what was done, or feel guilty. It was your wish to experience this abortion and afterward to feel love for yourself because this was something you did.
It’s important for you to understand that the child’s soul also wanted to experience the abortion for its own reasons. You both helped each other out. There’s great love there. As you understand that and feel love for yourself, this love will grow. At another time you’ll have children if you want to.
ACS: Will I be reunited again with the soul of this child?
Council: At this time this particular soul doesn’t feel it needs to come back to you. It feels like it will move on. You have other souls in line, so to speak, that are willing to come to you when you’re ready for children. You’ll be reunited when you’re both back in spirit, but not in your current life.
ACS: How can I best deal with the sadness and move on with my life.
Council: Forget the sadness and know that you may not understand in your current reality why you chose to experience this abortion. How wonderful that the loving soul of this child said, “I will be this child. I will come to you and you’ll get pregnant, and then when the time is right, you’ll abort me.”
That soul had such great love for you that it did what you needed because you wanted to experience this abortion. Learn from this experience. Learn all about love. You can still be connected to the spirit of this child, and send love to this spirit, and thank it for helping you experience this abortion. And you allowed this spirit to learn what it needed by having the abortion and letting that spirit learn the lesson it wanted from that experience.
There’s only love here, only a great love that brought you two together to experience this abortion. There’s no sadness, there’s no guilt. You fulfilled a contract, so to speak. You fulfilled an agreement. You came together out of love to help each other. When you’re back in spirit, and perhaps when you plan another life, you can be together again. There’s only love here.
ACS: I’d also like to know why the father of this child rejected us and if this was also a soul agreement between me and him.
Council: Of course this was another soul agreement between you and the father. You would have to learn about abandonment, you’d have to learn to feel great love for yourself, and not feel unimportant or that there’s something wrong with you because this man left you.
The soul of this man will learn how it feels to leave someone. Perhaps that soul wants to learn about regret. Perhaps it wants to learn about how wonderful and free it feels not to be tied to a family. This person will learn what he needs to learn by leaving you, but it’s all done out of love. You decided to have this experience with the father so that he could learn from it and you could learn from it.
Concentrate on yourself. Find the loving things within yourself. Focus on that. And when you meditate, or you sit quietly, thank these souls for playing their part in your abortion experience. And jokingly say, “Maybe we’ll do this again and we’ll have a different ending, or a different lesson.”
That’s all that’s meant at this time.
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Are Some Events Pre-Planned In Spirit More Likely To Happen Than Others?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari.
Mari: I’ve read in some books on the afterlife and reincarnation that certain important events in life are pre-planned, with a high probability of happening. For example, marrying a particular person, going to a particular school, having a child, or having certain disabilities. And no matter which way you go, that event will most likely occur. Other events are supposedly pre-planned only as possibilities.
Council: Your higher self always knows what you pre-plan and what you want to experience. There are many times when you’re setting up a new life that you pick souls you worked with and learned with before. You’d choose one as a husband, a wife, a brother, or a mother. There are times you want them in your life for a while, and you’ll set that up, learn what’s needed, and then move on.
There are times when you may make an agreement with a soul where you say, Let’s see how our life goes. Let’s see what I create and what you create, and is it a meeting where we’ll become friends and experience more, or is it just a quick meeting and you move on? By doing it this way you don’t know what you’re going to create, and so you have the ability to go into this relationship with this spirit, or turn and go on another path. There are some relationships where it’s very positive, we know each other before, and let’s do it again. What is it that you want to learn? What is it that I want to learn? We’ll support each other in this. And there are other relationships where you just see how it goes.
The freedom is always yours. Even if you decide to recreate something you set up, your higher self knows if you’re learning what you want to learn, if you’re having a good time, and if you’re achieving what you wanted to achieve. You’ll always be able to pick the direction you go in, even if you don’t consciously know that the choice was yours to do this or to do that and to have this experience.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re agreeing with Mari when she says you can pre-plan an event that has a high probability of happening.
Council: Yes
Bob: And you’re saying even though it does have a high probability of happening, you have the free will to change that.
Council: You always have free will. Every day of your life you can connect with the other spirit, with their higher self and your higher self, and you’ll know this is the way we want it to go. Or let’s not go this way. Let’s change this and change that. You’re always in connection with these other spirits.
Bob: And it sounds like you’re also saying that you can pre-plan possibilities that aren’t necessarily likely or unlikely to happen, and you determine at the time you’re living what you pre-planned in that life whether you want to follow that path or not.
Council: Exactly. The choice is always yours.
Mari: You’ve indicated in many places that you have to believe in something for it to occur.
Bob: Can you comment on that?
Council: You can’t believe in something you don’t remember that you’re creating in spirit. You don’t have to believe it because your higher self and the other person’s higher self will work to make this happen. But if it’s something you want in your life, like a new job or a new partner, it always helps to believe you want it and it’s coming to you. There are many things you won’t remember that you have planned, but your higher self will take you there. When it’s something you consciously want, it always works much better if you believe you can have it.
Bob: You’re also saying that even if you don’t consciously believe in something, it can still occur.
Council: Yes, it can. Believe in the power of your higher self because it’s you. You’re the only one who’s creating in your reality.
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What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.
My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.
We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.
When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.
My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.
Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.
Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.
At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”
And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.
So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.
That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.
And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention, and to want more, and more, and more.
The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.
They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.
Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?
Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.
Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?
Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.
Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.
Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.
Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.
Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.
Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?
Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.
Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?
Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.
Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?
Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.
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Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.
Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.
Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.
Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.
Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?
Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.
Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.
Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.
Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.
Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.
Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.
You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.
Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?
Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.
Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.
Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.
Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.
Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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Forgiveness Is Your Issue, Not Abandonment
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eleanor, whose questions follow-up on our post, Is My Current Relationship With My Soul-Contracted Life Partner? which we published in response to her earlier question. Eleanor says, I’d specifically like to know more about abandonment, as I don’t feel I’ve really moved forward with this issue.
Ever since I received your guidance in that earlier post, I’ve seen just how many abandonments I’ve experienced, both in my love life and at work. I’ve had everything from colleagues taking my ideas and becoming rich and famous, to more recently a colleague in a project I run ghosting me and the work. They’re the fourth person to leave this project. Love-wise it’s been similar, from infidelity and abuse, to lovers putting deposits on homes with me and then disappearing. I’d like to know why this abandonment has been a running theme in my life.
The Council says, You may not believe this, but your issue was not only abandonment. Your issue is abuse, feeling hurt, feeling heartbroken, and feeling alone. These are some of the feelings you brought up, because what you wanted to learn about was forgiveness.
A good thing for you to do is to go back and think of everything that made you feel abandoned, heartbroken, and abused. Ask yourself how you feel about these people who were involved. Can you do the work that’s needed now of forgiving these people? Read Pat Rodegast’s book, Emmanuel, which has a section on forgiveness. That may help you.
But the real work is not to just concentrate on abandonment. Focus on all these things that make you feel alone. When you learn to forgive, and this is a big chunk that you wanted to work on in this lifetime, take each issue and ask yourself how you feel about the people involved? What do I think they did to me? How did they make me feel? Can I get to a place of love and release this hurt? Can I forgive them, because when they treated me this way, they were going through their own challenges? And all these people agreed with me in spirit to work out this issue of abandonment with me.
Forgiveness is a big subject. It can go back to your parents, your grandparents, your siblings, schoolmates, work colleagues, friends, family, and lovers, to name a few. There’s a lot you wanted to cover because your main issue was that you wanted to learn how to forgive. And then learn how to forgive yourself for feeling the way you did about each person, being angry with them, or surprised and shocked. And the grief and anger you store in your body, can you let go of it?
Know that you’ve planned to work through this issue of forgiveness in spirit and everyone involved has agreed to this with you. You’re exactly where you want to be. Forgiveness is a big challenge. It’s always easier to start looking at someone else and how they treated you. When you can learn to forgive them, then the harder part is learning to look at yourself.
How do you forgive yourself? How did you allow this to happen? Why didn’t you speak up for yourself? Why didn’t you leave a relationship earlier? Why did you allow people to treat you like that? When you did allow this, you didn’t love yourself. We’re all here to take every challenge we have and bring love into it. You can do this. It will take a lot of work and really wanting to look at the issue of forgiving yourself. Know you set this up when you were in spirit.
Eleanor asks, Does this have something to do with past lives I’ve had, and my abusive and neglectful upbringing? The Council says it’s not just about past lives. There were lots of past lives where you were hurt and went through abandonment or love issues. But there were also many good lives. It’s not so much about what life this desire for forgiveness came from? It’s more like you asked in spirit what challenge you wanted to work on in this lifetime, and you came up with forgiveness.
As far as your abusive and neglectful upbringing is concerned, that was also planned in spirit. The feelings of not feeling good about yourself, being abused, and not being treated right started very early. This is what you set up in spirit.
Eleanor says, Is this something I chose to change in this lifetime. The Council says, Of course. You didn’t want to just go through this lifetime and experience this need for forgiveness and feel horrible without changing it and without learning to love yourself and others. We’re all here to help each other. Of course you wanted to change this.
Eleanor says, I’d also like to know what I need to do to heal this pattern, as I’ve always wanted to have a permanent life partner and the same colleagues to go forward with work-wise. The Council says if you do this work as we explained it, there’s definitely a partner out there for you, but you must start this work.
Eleanor says, I’m also wondering if I do this work, will I be able to reattract this colleague who’s just left, and also my ex-boyfriend. Or is it that in healing this pattern I grow beyond this particular colleague and ex, and attract a new (what I hope is) permanent colleague and boyfriend?
The Council says you’ll understand the answer to this question after you do some of this inner work. You can decide if you want to bring these people back into your life. And of course you can if you want to. But then you might get to a point and decide you want more. You want something new and you’ll create that. You are the creator of your life and you can have it go in any direction you want. But you must do the work because you wanted to do this so badly this lifetime. To work on forgiveness for one issue is a lot, but to pick so many issues is even bigger. If you can get to forgiving one or two people, you’ll know how to do it and the rest will come easily.
The Council closes by sending everyone love, light, energy, and happiness. We wish you all feel that we’re here to help all of you, whether we speak with you, or we’re just here sending you light. That’s what we’re all about. We’re about supporting each other and helping each other understand what you’ve picked in this lifetime, and how to give you some guidance to keep you on your path, and show you how to experience it and change the way it is, because that’s what you planned.
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Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.
The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.
When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.
And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.
At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.
When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.
Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.
Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.
Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.
Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.
Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.
If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.
Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.
Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other. Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.
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Why Aren’t My Partner and I Planning to Have Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks for guidance with her relationship with her life partner. We’d love to start a family together, but still nothing happens. My life partner keeps talking about wanting to have children with me, but he also mentions that he’d like my financial situation to be similar to his. I’d also like that, but I don’t know what to do to improve my finances. It seems very difficult for me right now. Is my financial situation the reason we don’t try to have children, or is it something else?
The Council says your finances are part of the reason you’re not trying to have children, and it comes from a lifetime you had as brother and sister in a very poor family. There wasn’t enough to eat, there wasn’t enough clothing, and you had no education. You were the older one and took care of your brother. You found the means to feed both of you and move forward in life. You were the one who took care of your brother.
In this life your boyfriend has the subconscious memory of the previous life. He desires you to be in a better financial situation, thinking this will take care of you both going forward in this life. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to have children where there will be an experience of lack. It’s the memory of you taking care of him, and that’s what’s causing this delay with children and with wanting you to have a better financial situation before you go forward.
It’s not that you have to do better financially. It’s that your boyfriend needs to deal with his issue of being able to independently take care of you and a family. That’s what he wanted to learn going forward. In that past life you took care of him. In this life he wanted to take care of you. And yet these memories are within him and so he can insist you do better financially.
This is where the hold-up with having children is coming from. If you both can agree on it we suggest you have children now. Your boyfriend will learn he can fulfill the role of being the breadwinner, being independent, learning how to be a family man, and learning how to take care of himself, you, and your children.
Denisa asks, Have my boyfriend and I agreed in spirit to have children in this lifetime? The Council says yes. You both want this a great deal, but there are the memories and past lives you need to work through. You need to understand where this desire for your financial stability comes from and you both need to let go of this.
Denisa asks, What can I do to improve my financial situation. The Council says that isn’t necessary. That isn’t what you need to do. What is meant now is to have conversations and be in a place where you can express that the financial situation you have, what you make now, is more than enough for now to start a family. Eventually we see you can make more money, but what’s needed is to express that your situation is okay and you believe he has the ability to take care of you, himself, and a family. Give him the confidence to go forward with this. This is what was agreed upon.
Eva says, It seems to me I don’t know which way to go. I’m thinking about writing a book about my childhood, what I’ve been through, and what I’ve learned from it. The Council says writing is very powerful, and writing is energy. We’d say write about your childhood or anything else because you’re putting more energy out and that will bring you more financial success.
Eva asks, What is the main purpose of our relationship? The Council says to be supportive of each other. Support your partner with words that give him confidence. Your partner wanted to teach you to be the supporter, the one who listens to the questions, the one who’s able to talk about what’s worrying both of you. You would bring guidance to your relationship. You’d make things are clearer for him to give him the opportunity to grow. As you listen to him and give him confidence, you are growing also because you’re fulfilling what you both agreed to.
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How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.
Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.
Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.
Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.
Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.
Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.
Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.
Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.
Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.
In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.
When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.
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What Can I Do About My 20-Year-Old Son’s Behavior
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine, who’s concerned about her 20-year-old son. He’s finished high school and has done very little with his life since then. He spends most of his days smoking marijuana from early in the morning until late at night. He also believes he has an alcohol addiction. When he was younger he was very outgoing and appeared happy and enthusiastic about life. Now he’s often very aggressive and his reaction to a situation often appears way out of proportion, and he can be very nasty and domineering.
The Council says your son’s behavior appears pre-planned so he can experience not moving forward in his life right now. His escaping with alcohol and marijuana was also pre-planned. His violence and frustration come from being in this place and pre-planning to change it.
Because your son isn’t moving forward to change his behavior, his higher self is trying to drag him in the direction of changing it, whether in the direction of seeking professional help, or going into a group for help, and reading about how he feels – anything taking him in the direction of wanting to change his behavior. He appears to be stuck in his situation and he’s not able yet to take those steps forward to change it. Your son has no understanding of how you’re trying to help or how you might try to speak about these things to him.
The only job you have right now is to let your son be who he is. We realize this could be frustrating and painful for you, but these are experiences and lessons he wanted to have and then to change. When he’s ready he’ll take these steps. You’re there to give your son love and support.
If he complains to you about being an alcoholic or being lazy and not being able to move forward, all you have to do is say, “Okay, what are you going to do about it?” He needs to realize it won’t magically happen. He has to do something about his situation, even if he was to start imagining he felt better or imagining he’s out there traveling the world. Have him imagine whatever it takes to make him behave differently. You can suggest that and then leave his situation alone.
Your job was to bring this soul forward into this life so it could go through whatever it picks to go through and to accept him and love him the way he is.
Christine says when he’s nasty and domineering it’s impossible to speak rationally with him and we’re left feeling totally depleted. He can also be very lazy. Because he’s my son, I feel like I’m responsible in some way. The Council says you’re playing the part that’s needed and he wished for you to play to get him to this point in his current situation.
When you feel frustrated it will help you if you think he’s really into living what he pre-planned. This is wonderful. Let’s let him do what he has to do and we’ll watch as he finds his way out of this situation and how he learns to change it. You aren’t responsible for his behavior. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. You did whatever you were supposed to do to get your son to this point and it’s all up to him now to change it.
Christine says, I felt we were very loving and attentive parents, but I know we weren’t perfect. My other son is very different. I’d appreciate some insight into my son’s behavior and our relationship. The Council says you have two sons. Make sure you offer them both love and support. Be there for both of them, not fine with one and disappointed with the other.
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How Do I Deal with Feelings of Ill Will Towards My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ph, who wants to ask about their relationship with their mother. They say, I don’t like her and I guess I fear her because she was abusive and manipulative during my childhood and also later. The Council says when you were in spirit you both agreed on how she would treat you.
Ph says, I feel angry for having to interact with her and I’d prefer to never see her again. At the same time I feel guilty about this and I feel like I should be able to forgive her and have a normal relationship with her. The Council says there’s no purpose in feeling guilty. Your mother’s behavior is something that was planned in spirit and you both played your parts.
Ask yourself, what has this experience done to your thoughts and your feelings? If you cut off communication with your mother and if you choose to never see her again, will you feel that there’s no closure and no understanding? The part we’d like you to understand is that you planned this in spirit because it was an experience you wanted to go through to see how you’d handle this situation. Would you be able to turn your mother’s behavior around and have understanding why she behaved this way towards you? What did you learn from this? Did it make you fearful? Did it make you know your mother was someone you didn’t want to be like?
Going forward can understand forgiveness isn’t really necessary because no one forced this situation upon the both of you. You both agreed to have this experience. Can you look at your mother without hate and not wanting to be together with her again, and realize you are a powerful spirit? You can be with your mother and you can be in control of how you act with each other. You have the power if you allow this relationship into your life, but you decide to live it differently.
It’s important for you to constantly know you are a powerful spirit. You can get control of what direction this relationship goes in. And if you feel this relationship is something you don’t wish to go further within this lifetime, you can cut it off. We’re sure the two of you will come together again in another life to finish this lesson.
Ph says, I feel sad, angry, and confused because I want to care for myself and not deal with my mother. At the same time I feel I need to have compassion. The Council says as hard as this is to believe, you both agreed to experience this difficulty. You planned this in spirit step by step because this was something you wanted to experience.
Your mother came into your life to help you with what you wanted to learn and grow from. You went through the experience of growing up with her. That part is finished. Now ask yourself what you’ve learned. Do you want to put an end to it now, or do you bring love into it instead of blaming her for the way you were treated? How brave of you to go through this experience with her and have her teach you to hate her until you learn this is what you both wanted.
You both wanted to find compassion. If you understand who you are as a spiritual being and who your mother truly is, and if you choose to go the route of showing compassion, you will see a change in your relationship.
Ph wraps it up by asking what’s there for me to learn and do. The Council repeats, compassion and love, but first understand who you are. First understand you both agreed to experience the relationship the way you did. Now that this part is finished, where do you go with this? How do you want to take this relationship the rest of the way? That’s what you need to focus on.
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What Can You Tell Me About the Baby I Lost?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, CocoMakerDesigns, who’s asking about the baby she lost. Why did he come to me and why did he have to go?
The Council says your pregnancy was an agreement between the two of you. The spirit who was your child wanted to just experience the very beginning of life. Because you’ve had other lifetimes with this spirit, you decided to be the person that would help him come into this world to feel what it was like to be an embryo in the uterus. You volunteered in spirit to do this.
From what we can see, the spirit of your son has already gone into another reality and is living a life differently than it would have with you.
If you feel you’d like to know if you’ll see this spirit again, we can say, yes, you’ll have other realities together if this is something you both want.
Now you’re in a place where, if you still want to have children, you can go forward with this and create other spirits that are waiting to come to you and have agreed to part of your life. Whatever you wish to create and experience and they wish to create and experience, it links up together. These other spirits are on standby if you wish to have more children.
Coco wraps up her questions by asking, Should I stop trying to have more kids? The Council says if this is something you want, then go for it. It’s already in your plans and you have the power to go forward with what you’ve planned with other spirits.
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What are These Shadows I See from the Corners of My Eyes?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Live_Breathe, who’s curious about seeing shadows from the corner of their eyes. For many years I’ve been seeing these shadows. I’ve not faced any negative consequences from it, but I’m curious to know what it is.
The Council says some of these shadows are human spirits passing through. Your higher self planned for you to be able to see spirits in this lifetime. Your Third Eye chakra wants to see more of what’s going on around you. When you see shadows you’re seeing spirits, and this is a wonderful thing.
We suggest that you meditate. Sit quietly, even if it’s for 10 minutes a day, and meditate on the Third Eye chakra. Do the chakra breathing technique that we’ve recommended in other readings. As you begin to meditate and your Third Eye begins to open, you can begin to experience clairvoyance. You’ll see more clearly and begin to hear things.
This is a wonderful thing because it’s time for everyone in your reality to want to know more about who they are as spiritual beings. There are other spirits you’ve known that have passed on, but they’re still around. This is a wonderful way to communicate and let them know you’re seeing them. When you see a shadow you can begin to ask them why they are there or if they need something from you. See where this takes you.
Live_Breathe says, At times I almost feel as if a shadow has walked into the room only to realize later there’s no one there. Does seeing these shadows mean I’m unconsciously developing my clairvoyance? The Council says, yes.
Live_Breathe closes by asking, Do I need any protection from these shadows? The Council says there’s no protection needed unless you believe there’s something fearful there, but there isn’t anything to be afraid of. If for any reason in your thoughts you feel something isn’t right, then you can surround yourself with white light and you’ll be fine. There’s nothing there to be afraid of.
The Council says so many souls that came into this lifetime, lived a very calm life, and then all of a sudden they are opening up, for one reason or another, to energy and spirit. It’s time for this communication to take place.
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When Will COVID Conditions Improve in India?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader whose name is, Lightworker, who asks about current Covid conditions in India. They say conditions are getting worse every day and millions of people are dying. We’ve lost close family members due to Covid and almost every day we hear of someone passing away from the coronavirus.
The Council says instead of going into fear, what are the thoughts you have around this? Be grateful your parents and others you know haven’t gotten the coronavirus. Know that everyone in this reality agreed to go through this pandemic. How does it make you want to change? Do you want to bring closeness with family and friends? Do you want to learn to take better care of yourself? There are many reasons this virus was created.
From time to time the coronavirus will calm down in one place and pop up in another. This will go on for a while until enough people have learned the appreciation for life no matter what you face. As this goes on it will change. There will be different strains that present themselves, but there will always be cures that will be identified to help. This is pushing medicine in the direction it’s meant to go.
Eventually all the cures that will be needed will be created from the vibration of light and energy. This is why the coronavirus is being created. To push for different and better ways to find a cure. As sad and frightening as this situation is right now, it’s pushing your reality into a better place.
Lightworker says, As an empath this situation affects me deeply. The Council agrees and says you should learn to meditate every day.
Lightworker asks, Can The Council please give me insight about when they see this situation improving? The Council says they can’t give you a date, but they see the situation will improve. It’s up to everyone in our reality how long it will take.
Lightworker says, I’m very scared for my aged parents in India who are presently alone. If possible, can you give me guidance about how I can remain positive and stay protected from this virus?
The Council says always envision your parents as being well. Don’t dwell on the fear and talk to them about it. Send your parents light and love with your thoughts and it will help them get through the coronavirus. You don’t have to know how your parents will stay well. Just see them as well. As we’ve said in other readings, everything starts in your thoughts, feelings, and visualizations. The energy from all of that will help you create what you need to keep your parents safe.
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Something Missing from My 10-Year Relationship with Boyfriend
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who’s had a loving boyfriend for the past 10 years, but she feels like something’s missing in this relationship.
The Council advises Loving Star to search within herself and asks what she thinks is missing and what she’s bringing to the relationship? How would you use what you find is missing to heal this relationship and bring more love and understanding into it? When something feels like it’s missing it’s always easier to blame the other person. They aren’t acting a certain way or they aren’t doing a certain thing. What’s missing within you? When you’re connected to your higher self there’s nothing missing.
The Council suggests you meditate. When you’re connected to your higher self you’ll feel the love with everything around you – with your partner, with yourself, and with your environment. Right now it’s important for you to search for what you feel is missing within yourself to find the answer you’re looking for. You’ll find this answer as you reconnect with your higher self.
Loving Star asks The Council, What was our pre-birth plan? Did we agree in spirit we’d stay together? The Council says you planned to be together. And when you planned this from a spiritual vibration, you thought you’ll stay together, you’ll have fun, you’ll do this and that and help each other grow. What’s happening to you now and what you’re feeling in your relationship is part of what was planned. You would notice the emptiness or something missing and you planned to find it, but within yourself.
Out of boredom or not wanting to do the inner work you’ll look for others and bring that into your life. When you constantly think there’s something missing, you’re looking for another answer. You’ll attract another person to you. Not necessarily the right person, but another person. Now you’re faced with the old boyfriend and the new boyfriend.
Loving Star says, I ask this quesstion because I fell in love with another man who, as you mentioned in a previous reading for me, was my father in another lifetime. The Council says wouldn’t it be wonderful for you to find that love within you and for you? Love yourself.
Loving Star says, I talk to angels a lot and they told me this new man also likes me very much and he’s waiting for me to show him my love. I currently keep all my feelings for him inside me because I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend. On the other hand, I’d like to show this new man that I feel the same way he does.
The Council says if you do this, what do you expect will happen? Will you ride off into the sunset and be happy forever? That’s not why this new man is in your life. Ask yourself, if you share these feelings do you share them just to have the ability to share them and not expect anything else to happen? Or if you share your feelings what’s the intent behind this? What do you think will happen? Search these feelings within yourself.
Loving Star asks The Council if it’s okay for her to have these feelings for another man. I feel very bad about having them. The Council says of course it’s okay. You’re in a physical reality and with that comes a physical life with emotions, and thoughts, and lessons, and fun, and hardships. This is all part of being in a physical reality. It’s not necessary to feel bad about having these feelings. No purpose is served for you to feel bad about this. It’s just emotions.
Loving Star asks The Council, What happens when I show my love to this man? I feel very confused about it because I feel very drawn to him. I’d like to know your views, insights, and guidance on this situation.
The Council advised Loving Star to find out your intentions for sharing your feelings with this man. Is it just to share it to find out whether this person also has loving feelings toward you? Or is it to change your life? Is it to leave your boyfriend because this other person has feelings for you? There isn’t any right or wrong answer, but what do you expect and what do you want to happen? Do you just want to say, I feel very drawn to you and I just wanted you to know that? And then hear this person say these words back to you? Is that enough?
The Council says, We feel you’re looking for an escape. We feel you’re looking to fill a hole within you. This person has played this role to get you to this point where you have to decide what you need. Why do you need another person to make you feel good? Why can’t I feel good and love towards myself and just be happy with the people around me? Why can’t I choose out of happiness where I want the next part of my life to go?
The Council agrees what’s missing from Loving Star’s relationship with her boyfriend is really something that’s missing within herself. These two men are playing roles they said, in spirit, they would play so you’d come to a point of confusion and have to figure out your situation. Figure it out not just from your head, but from your heart. Connect with your higher self and see how it views the situation. What do you want? What are you trying to do? The answers will come to you if you try this.
The Council closes by saying that only love is real. When you go into spirit you take this love with you. When you’re in spirit and then you come onto physical reality you take this love with you. That’s what we’re all about.
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A Challenging Ex-Husband and Dependence on Her Mother
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amorist, who says, in my life I feel I’ve been coping with relationships with many overbearing individuals. I assume there’s a purpose, but my ex-husband has been such a challenging person who I think fits the description of a narcissist. Empathy doesn’t come easily to him and he has very toxic ways of dealing with others.
The Council tells Amorist, you’re someone who’s trying to learn that you are a spirit in a physical body and everyone on Earth is also a spirit. Take a look at how you’re seeing these other people as overbearing and your ex-husband as being narcissistic. Instead of seeing these people as spirits that are pressing your buttons, see them as people who are pressing your buttons to see if you can look at them differently.
You may find these people overbearing and annoying, but can you get yourself to a point where you realize you don’t know what goes on in their lives. You don’t know what they’re going through. Can you see these people as spirits that are here with their own problems and experiences that they wish to go through and turn around? You’ve all agreed to be in this life together and to press each other’s buttons.
We love you as a spirit and we love you for everything you go through. But you’re in a place where you look at people negatively, which is fine because this is there to help you turn it around. Look at these people in your life that are annoying or overbearing and begin to see them as going through their stuff and trying to learn from it.
And in their own way when they get to a certain point they’ll see they are their higher self. You may not know it consciously, but your higher self is here because you want to turn your thinking around. We want to accept everyone for who they are and wish them well on their way.
Amorist asks about her history with her ex-husband beyond their current lifetime. The Council says because of what you wished to learn, knowing about your history is not important. What’s important is focusing on your present. You didn’t plan in spirit to focus on the past. You need to focus on what’s happening now and that’s what you wanted to do.
Amorist asks what her children are learning from her ex-husband. The Council says your children are learning from you how you respond to your husband. Do you speak negatively about him or about others? Your children will learn how you speak. How you handle these situations and how you speak will help your children on their path. Look at people differently, and have patience with them. Understand something is bothering these other spirits. You may not know what, but you can begin to understand we’re all here to have the fun of changing your thoughts and your life for the better. When you do this you’ll see how your world will change.
Amorist says, as a result of my ex-husband’s influence I’m concerned for the well-being of my children. The Council asks you to be loving and positive around your children. Amorist says things were so difficult for a long time. It was heart-breaking. Perhaps there’s something you can tell me about this situation that will ease my anxiety or help with my outlook.
You’re still focusing on what you’ve gone through with your ex-husband and your children. It was a difficult situation, but how are things right now? Is it still difficult? Do you still find the people around you to be obnoxious and difficult to get along with? Are you picking up on people’s bad traits? Are you judging them because they aren’t the way you believe they should be? It’s not so much about the other people, but about you, the way you are thinking, and how you handle these situations.
Amorist says, my mother is someone who is a very emotionally reactive and controlling individual who I feel seeks out disappointment and problems. The Council asks Amorist if she hears her judgemental words. This is what you see within your mother. Take another look. Look at her differently and understand your mother has her problems and difficulties, but there must be something positive you can see in her. Even if it’s the littlest thing we ask you to please focus on that.
Amorist says we’re living with my mother now and I’m really struggling with this situation. I want my own home so badly, but I don’t see the path forward toward that goal. The Council says when you become more accepting of everything, when you become grateful that you have a place to live with your overbearing mother, and when you can see good things in others your life will change. You’ll be able to move forward and have a better life, a home, and everything else you need, but you have to change your thoughts.
Amorist asks, how will I make ends meet and find a safe space for me and my children? The Council says safe space begins with love and positive thoughts. Do you play with your children? Do you talk about beautiful things? Do you point out what’s good or how other people are trying? Do you show this to your children? When you do these things you’re teaching them to look for the good in others.
Amorist asks, why am I dependent on my mother? The Council says it’s because you’ve decided to be in this place to learn from it. Amorist says, I love my mother but I feel sort of trapped, as though I don’t have space or privacy. I just want everyone to be happy and okay. The Council tells Amorist you must be happy and okay within yourself and then you’ll be able to see it in others. If you feel trapped in a jail cell, you’re the one with the key. We can promise you if you work hard to look at the good in others, if you can find the love you feel for people, if you can be grateful for what you have and teach that to others around you, when you do these things you’ll get what you need.
Amorist closes by asking, who am I in all of this? The Council answers you are a spirit who’s created this situation to learn from it, to grow from it, to bring love into this reality, to help others around you, and we’ll all grow together.
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How Do I Find My Way Home in My Recurring Dreams?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Juan, who’s disturbed by The Council’s reference to evil persons acting a role and us being responsible for our misfortunes as learning paths.
The Council asks Juan who he believes should be blamed for his misfortunes. There is no one else who creates in your reality. When you create misfortunes it’s what you’re allowing yourself to focus on. It’s what you’ve allowed to be around you in this reality so you can change it, so you can see it, and bring peace, which is very much in need right now in your reality.
Evil people have agreed to come in to play the part of evil, difficult, and angry people that stir up others if the others allow this to happen. These people that you consider evil are still spirits. They aren’t what you think of as horrible. They’re playing a role that everyone concerned has agreed to.
There’s no reason to be disturbed about wars or evil because it doesn’t really exist in spirit. It’s just something that’s created in the moment to see how you want to handle it. It was created to see if you can remember who you are as spirit. Your role in coming forward was always to bring understanding and love, and change the direction of this evil into something better.
When you’re disturbed about evil people, you’re only being upset about what you’ve decided to learn about, even if you’re not one of these so-called evil people. If you know people you consider evil, or people who want war, or cause discord among each other, when you see this how do you handle it? Are you pulled into this discord? Do you stand your ground and speak only of love and ways to calm others down?
There are many people in your reality that can be brought into a terrible place of forgetting who they are and they look to harm each other. When this goes on, what do you learn from it? Can you send light and love to these groups or individuals that aren’t remembering that all is peaceful? They aren’t bad. They’re just playing the part you’ve all agreed to.
Juan says for a long time he’s had lots of dreams of being absolutely lost. I see myself in strange places trying to find my way home. I walk, drive, go over bridges, ride buses, talk to people, and never get anywhere. I don’t know where I am. My firm desire is to find my way home, but I don’t know where my home is. These dreams last for some time while I search and end when I wake up feeling dissatisfied.
The Council says these dreams of being lost are you astral projecting in the sleeping state to other places you’ve been to before, or perhaps meeting up with people you’ve known in other lifetimes. You want to go home, but the home you’re looking for is the home of spirit. Many people are going through the same process at this time. You want to go back into spirit where you remember there’s only love. You want that feeling again. You want to feel the strength, the love, the support of when you’re in spirit, and to know that everything is truly all right no matter what. You’re feeling frustrated is because you want to go home to spirit, but you’ve got things to do in this lifetime and it’s not your time to go home.
You can meditate on what life in spirit would be like, what would it look like, what would it feel like? What would it feel like being in a place where there’s only love and happiness. The joy is overwhelming. In your meditations we ask you to try and reach for that. When you meditate and you connect to your higher self, you will have the feeling of absolute love of being in spirit.
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Why Was I Chosen to Have My Four Beautiful Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sandra, who has two sons and two daughters. In the past three weeks she’s met two beautiful people that came into her life unexpectedly. Both are from different walks of life and don’t know each other. They’ve both told me my children are on this Earth for a reason. The Council responds that we’re all here for a reason, and the main reason is just to have fun, experience what we wish to experience, and bring love into this reality.
Sandra says these two people have told her that her children are Star Seeds and will be part of the up-and-coming war. The Council says there’s a great fascination right now in our reality and many beings want to know where they’re from, what planet, what star, and are they Star Seeds. In reality, The Council emphasizes, we’re all Star Seeds. We’ve had experiences on other planes of existence. We’ve gone from one reality to another and one planet to another.
Sandra says she’d love to know where her children come from and why I was chosen to carry these beautiful souls? The Council says you agreed to bring in these beautiful souls rather than being chosen, to have the experience of being with them, loving them, teaching them to love, and seeing the directions they want to go in.
You agreed before coming into this reality that the lessons and experiences you all wanted agree with one another. You were allowed to do this because this is what you asked for and the souls of your children agreed. The souls of your children liked the ideas you have and what you want to learn we want to learn. We’ll go through our stuff, you’ll go through your stuff and we’ll see what happens.
You and your children have been in the Pleiades, you’ve been Arcturians, and you did a lot of work on Orion. The majority of your work was to go from place to place passing on the information these other realities are experiencing, both positive and negative. You taught many people. You were on councils to help each place come up with laws to live by, always bringing peace. Among what’s known as the Grey People there was lots of aggression, and you were on councils to protect that reality and work with others to keep that reality peaceful.
Your children will eventually have a lot of people around them and a lot of friends. They’ll be very happy and peace-loving.
The Council doesn’t see any up-and-coming war that’s planned. As you bring your thoughts and focus into every reality, you’ll create peace and you’ll create war. War is never wanted and The Council doesn’t see it for the reality you are currently in.
The choices you make, the thoughts you think, your intentions, and how you treat each other will determine the reality your experience. On a day-to-day basis always look for the love. Always put out kindness. Always look to help others that need help. These are some of the best things you can do in your current reality.
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