Is My Husband A Narcissist?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Wanderer.
Wanderer: Hello, Council, and Bob, and Cynthia. I have a very important question as I am going through an emotional and spiritual enlightening process. I want to check if you think my husband is a narcissist.
Council: Aah, so we hear you say you are going through an enlightening process, but being more enlightened, you would not be interested in somebody else being a narcissist. So right there is something for you to look at – how you are looking at this person or people in your life.
And even if they were under this title that you give them, it does not matter. What helps you grow as a spirit, and evolve, and have new people coming into your life is to allow them to be however they are. You may see them as narcissistic, and yet others may not.
So again we say, check on your perception of what is going on. And even if you feel they are [narcissistic], we would say to you, so what? Are you not here to learn to love? Are you not here to learn how to accept everyone the way they are? How you handle this is with your thoughts. If you evolve and allow them to be, you will find more peace, and it doesn’t matter what they are. And we hope you will work on this.
Wanderer: His family dynamics are such a way that I see very selfish behavior from men. This includes creating a story that includes selfish motives, not having boundaries, thinking children are supposed to serve elders, and so on.
Council: And in this, what is your behavior like? You can be aware of this, but are you kindly setting boundaries so you do not let the others affect you? Are you treating the children with kindness in love?
Everything that you see in another, take a look, because a part of it is for you to see what is bothering you, and what is going on in your life. Are you part of this? Are they a mirror to show you? And of course, we see, yes, your thinking, your perception, and your actions also need to be looked at so that they can change.
Wanderer: My husband has been neglectful and has double standards – different standards when it comes to his family, and different expectations when it comes to our own family.
Council: And that is part of his growth. It is part of who he is. And all you need to do is to be aware of it, and then act appropriately for yourself with kindness, and with letting others be.
Wanderer: I want to check if he is a narcissist, and if there’s any hope for a change.
Council: We would say that your belief that he is a narcissist makes it true for you. But we would also say that there are others who do not believe that. So is this person a narcissist, or isn’t he? It is what you believe. It is what you choose to see.
And at this point in humanity, how everyone is here to bring the love from spirit into your lifetime, it is what you choose to see. And even if you think he is, and his whole family is – they’re all narcissists – so does that mean that you have to be like that?
It’s like, wish them well, hope that they change, but you do the changing, you make your boundaries, you always be kind and show love. And it is not always easy, but we can tell you this: if you begin to try to be accepting, if you begin to show the littlest kindness, and not keep tabs on what you do, and what they do, if you come with that intention, your life will change. You will grow. The people in your life will change. You will bring new people into your life, and you will find happiness. And so take the attention and put it on yourself. How would you like to be?
Wanderer: Interestingly, I think my mother has also been somewhat neglectful toward my Dad, and has been unable to love him truly. So there’s a pattern in this behavior I can see where they don’t see their own faults, and they weave a storyline that suits them.
Council: And we see the pattern, and this does not make it good or bad. It makes it come to your attention that we see the pattern that you are seeing negatively into each person, that you are tuned into that negative vibration where you will find things wrong with others. Again, take a look at this. Do you see the pattern? Are you willing to change? And most important, how will you go forward? What about you? What about your thoughts? What about your actions?
It is all coming to a head that you will see all these actions in others that you think are horrible, but we would say, what is your part in this? You wanted to learn this. It is here in front of you. And so you are in a wonderful place on your path where you have the ability to acknowledge, but then to plan how you want to be.
Wanderer: I’m trying to develop more self-love…
Council: That’s the key.
Wanderer: …and self-worth at this time to be able to choose better.
Council: That’s the key. You’re getting it. We are very proud of you.
Wanderer: I have a question on my personality type, as well. My husband is a master at gaslighting, and tells me that I’m narcissistic, where I’ve only been a giver in this relationship.
Council: And so he sees you as this. Do you see the pattern that is going on between all of you? And he sees you as narcissistic. You do not believe you are that way. And that’s what you [should] think of when you see him as narcissistic, or his family. They don’t believe they are that way. And so the lesson is right there in front of you.
Wanderer: Can The Council please guide me if I have any narcissistic traits?
Council: To other people, yes. To you, no. What is more important is how you see yourself, how to be honest with yourself, the way you are acting, and never mind what everybody else thinks. That is your lesson going forward.
Wanderer: Also, can The Council please guide me on how I overcome this narcissistic and financial abuse?
Council: You begin to love yourself. Really, really love yourself, and to show kindness to yourself, to others, to make boundaries with love, and with kindness. Then everything will begin to change.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are, that you are all spirits here on the same path of bringing love, of bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, and of feeling good about yourself. How learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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What Can You Tell Me About Our New Cat?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named The Inquisitor.
Inquisitor: I am wondering if you can tell me about my new kitten? We adopted a new special breed of cat because of allergies in the house. He is so unlike any kitten I have cared for, and I am wondering if I can provide him with something more.
Council: We would want to say here that just like a human being – animals, plants, and minerals – they all want the feeling of touch. They want the feeling of love. And they are here to teach you to bring it out so that you grow with these feelings.
Inquisitor: I have scarcely seen him play, and he just wants to be close to us and sleep. His appetite is good, he is very vocal, and he gets a lot of human availability and attention.
Council: So this is wonderful. Not only for the cat, but for the people around it. It is the cat’s purpose to bring out the feeling of love. And so if this is all the way you say it is, this is all that it is getting, it is all that is needed. And that also is all that is needed in human form. The touch, the compassion, the feeling of love, and safety. And so you are doing a good job.
Inquisitor: It has been a few weeks. Does he miss his family?
Council: This animal does not think that way. You are his family, and that is what it knows.
Inquisitor: Does he need a companion?
Council: At this time, we do not see that. Maybe if it becomes more playful, you may see it may want a companion, but right now it is very important what you are doing, and all is fine.
Inquisitor: Do we know him from some time in the past?
Council: We do not see that with this particular animal. And so it is a new soul that has come into your life. Welcome it.
Inquisitor: Any information you can share about him is very appreciated.
Council: And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, about feeling good about others, and about feeling good about yourself. How learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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Will My Husband And His Family Learn Their Lessons For Their Bad Behavior?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named Soul Peace from a post we published called, How Do I Create A Successful Romantic Relationship, And Start A Spiritual Business?
Soul Peace: Thank you, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I have a quick follow-up question. Can you please help me get the answer when you get a chance?
I want to know if my husband and his family, including his parents and sister, will learn their lessons, or will be punished for their selfish, manipulative, bad behavior with me and his ex-wife?
Council: And so we would ask you, what are your thoughts on this? We feel that you wish that they would be punished. And in your lifetime, everything is created by you. So we would say, “If you believe and want them punished, that’s what you will create. That’s what you would see.”
In their realities, they feel they are justified by acting whatever way they are acting. And so there’s no justification and no agreeing with you wanting them to be punished because they behaved in a negative way. That would not be part of their reality.
And so if you wish to move forward, if you wish to create a happy life for yourself, it would be good to try and see them in a different light, and not wish negative circumstances to happen to them. And so, this is a lesson for you to move on in grace, in higher vibrational energy, or to stay stuck and wanting others to be punished for what you feel you were treated not well.
And so here the lesson is: change the perspective. Work on that. That they will grow, they will change happily, that they will do it in good grace and easily. And that’s how you would move on and bring in a different set of people into your life.
And so, we would say to meditate on this, work on your heart chakra, and let that part of your life go.
Soul Peace: My husband’s family has a huge role to play in both the divorces. In my case they have impacted my mental health and the life of my child for their selfish motives.
Council: And so acknowledge you feel they have impacted your mental health and your child. Once again, you have allowed this. And you have allowed this because you want to learn how to live differently, to project how you act differently, how you can have thoughts that are more positive for yourself and not focusing on them. Are you creating a better life for your child?
So forget what you have seen, and what you think they have created, and take hold of your life. This is your lesson, and create what you want for you and your child.
Soul Peace: I want to know if they will learn their lessons. Thanks, Soul Peace
Council: They will learn their lessons. They will learn what they need to learn, not that they will learn how bad that they feel they were to you. There are many lessons going on here for many of the people involved. And eventually, if it is allowed, if they are willing to grow, everyone (and we will say here, everyone) will learn their lessons and move on beautifully.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here, on the same path of bringing love, and bringing acceptance, of feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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Do I Have Hybrid Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Shawn.
Shawn: Do I have hybrid children? My name is Shawn and I’m from Virginia. I have been seeing UFOs, and aliens, and hybrid children.
Council: Very interesting that at this time, where what you would call aliens are being chosen to come forward, and a little at a time having the human person identifying with them and seeing them. Some believe they are part of them.
And so, you are in that place where you are open to communication. And when you ask, “Do you have hybrid children?” we would say, in this particular human lifetime, no. But you have been around thousands of years, and have been in different galaxies, on different planets. And so there were children there that were yours. Would you consider them hybrid? No. They were your children then. And so it is easy for you to feel a connection, and wanting to know more.
We would say, what would be very interesting for you to find out, it would be the aliens (so to speak as you identify them) that came into Atlantis and taught the people there because they were more advanced. They taught the people in Atlantis how to use energy to build things, to create, and to move things. And so any stories you can find, perhaps movies, any books, on how Atlantis was developed, you would find interesting because you were part of that.
Bob: By hybrid children, Shawn is refering to children of human and alien parents together?
Council: Yes, yes. And so in this lifetime there was no connection between the human and an alien to have children, in this particular lifetime.
And so we wish everyone to become aware of how wonderful you all are. That you are all spirits here on the same path of bringing love and bringing acceptance, about feeling good about others, about feeling good about yourself, and how learning to accept yourself and others is important. Most of all, reach out with the kindness, reach out with the love, and that is how we all came here to change this reality.
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What Can I Do About My Husband’s Debt Problems?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lost89.
Lost89: Hi, Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. I hope you guys are doing well. I have been so depressed and lost for the past couple of years. Nothing has been going right for me. My husband has made very poor decisions regarding our finances. We are in a huge debt now because of him. The situation keeps getting worse. I try to make him see reason and control his habits of spending money in an unwise manner, but he just doesn’t seem to understand. He keeps getting into more debt.
Council: We’d like to say here that this is a lesson from, we would say, three past lives that are affecting him now. And that’s why it’s so hard because he’s having a hard time with this lesson. And there was one life back in ancient times, and he had nothing. He was a slave who served. And his attitude, how he handled that, was being unaccepting. He could not find gratitude that he was a servant, but in a very good house. He wanted to be free. He wanted lovely things that he saw around. And he died in that same position of having nothing. And at the end, he didn’t even understand and was upset about that.
And then many years later, he brought it again. And it would be in a time that you would call the Old West in the United States. And he was not only a gambler there, but he was a drinker, and in a lot of trouble, and killed a lot of people. And he always wanted to gamble. More, more, more. More money, more money. He didn’t feel it was enough because he was carrying the feeling from the prior life. So in this life, the Western, he was shot. He was murdered. And he was shocked. When he was shot, he was not ready, and did not have the time to have a thought about what happened, and try to change his life.
And then we come further into the 1930s, and he was in Germany and had a beautiful house, and it was the time when the Germans were taking over and using the extermination camps. So the beautiful house that he finally achieved, the money, the paintings, the clothes, everything he wanted in the prior lives he had, but he lost. It was taken from him. So once again, he had a feeling of not having enough and not being safe.
And so when his life ended in that lifetime, he has brought it forth this time because his soul really, really wants to heal this. And from what you’re saying, he’s having a hard time again. And unfortunately you have to follow the rule of: let him be. Let him learn by himself. Let him see how it’s affecting your life and his life. And so he really wants to and needs to do it. And he will create a way either to fix it, learn from it, or carry it forward again.
And so that’s why it’s such a hard lesson. And you are part of it because you agreed to help. And so you are helping by being there, but you will help even more by allowing him to do what he can. Now you, in any way you can, make as much money as you possibly can, but always keep some for yourself. And so there is always some money, but he may not know that.
And so we ask you to learn how to meditate. If not, then daily sit in a chair, even if it’s only for ten minutes. And see, now that you know what is happening, see it changing. See that image. Feel in your body how happy you are when you see he’s beginning to change. And that’s how you heal it.
Lost89: We are starting to even get letters about lawsuits from the Supreme Court of Creditors.
Council: Yes, this is part of it.
Lost89: He bought an expensive car that I didn’t want and that we didn’t need. We barely have any money to even buy groceries and pay rent because all our money is going toward debt and expenses.
Council: Now when you get these letters, when you get the bills, even if you think it does no good, sit down with him and show him. Say, “Read this,” or read it to him. “Look what’s happening.” Point it out. That is part of your job. You can point it out and say, “What is your plan? What do you want to do about this?” So by you doing that, you are putting the lesson in his face. So every time there is a notice, every time there’s a bill that’s not paid, you stop him, and you sit down, and you show him. “Okay, here’s this again. What are we going to do?” And that’s how you teach him.
Lost89: It seems like no matter how hard I try to save money, things just keep getting worse. It’s always one thing or another. Please help put some insight and guidance to this matter. Thank you. Love and light.
Council: You must do it energetically first. And because you wanted to be there to help that person, and it helps you grow when you learn to accept, when you learn to be nice, even when it’s so hard for that person. You will be working on issues that are coming forward with you. So we would say, take these steps, and you will see a change.
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How Can I Incarnate On Sirius With My Family Next Lifetime, And Make This My Last Incarnation On Earth?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Seeker.
Seeker: Hello Bob, Cynthia, and The Council. Thanks for the amazing work you guys do for people like me.
I want to ask a question related to my star system origin, which is Sirius. I would like this incarnation to be my last incarnation on Earth, and I would like to go back to my roots and incarnate in Sirius. I would also like my closest four family members – my mother, my father, my husband, and my child – to incarnate with me in Sirius.
Council: Well we have to say here that you being in this reality, and being in the human body wanting to go back to Sirius, and wanting this to be your last incarnation… We promise you, when you are no longer in this body, and you are somewhere else, or you are off resting, or helping someone by being a spirit, you will want to come back. You will want to come back to another life that you created.
Well you’re not going to go back and sit on a cloud, or sit around and just relax in a beautiful country setting. You are going to go back for a while, you are going to review (only if you wish) what you lived in this life, and how you would have done it better. And then when you are ready, you are going to want to jump in again. That is who spirit is. There is forever, there is growing, and there is resting.
You can rest for a thousand years and stay on Sirius. We will tell you that you will not want to do that. It sounds wonderful now, but you can stay there as long as you want, and you will choose to come back, whether in this reality on the planet Earth, or in another reality in another dimension. There is always so much going on, and you will want to be part of it.
As far as your family incarnating with you is concerned, you can’t make them do that. That is their decision if they want to incarnate, or go in different directions. We usually travel with the same souls. We are in a soul group or soul family, but that doesn’t mean they are going to want to go where you are at one particular time. There may be other things that they want to experience.
And so you love them and accept them, but of course, eventually you will all be together again.
Seeker: Can The Council please guide me if it’s possible for my family to incarnate with me in Sirius?
Council: If they want to. It’s always their choice, not your choice, their choice. And you may speak to them in spirit, and they may say, “Fine, let’s do it again.”
Seeker: If so, what are the steps we should follow to only be on Sirius going forward?
Council: In this reality you can use your imagination to think what it would be like back there, and to have the intention you want to be there. See what it’s like, the way you want it to be, but feel it as if it’s familiar, as if you’ve done it before.
And so you can set that up. But we can tell you that it will make you feel good here that you are setting it up, and yes you are. But when you get back in spirit, if you’re still going to want that, you’ll create it. But you may not want that when you are in spirit, but you can have comfort that you want to go back to Sirius, and you want to go home, and you want your family to be there.
Talk to their spirits at night. In your mind, talk to them and say, “This is what I want. This is what I want my next life to be like.” Is there an interest? Have a reason you want to be with them. Have a lesson that you want to learn, or a challenge, or how you want to be helpful. And as these discussions go on, you will all set it up when, and where, and how it can happen.
Seeker: I would also like to take some guidance in finding a job. Can The Council please guide me on how I can manifest a job in the Federal sector as a remote position?
Council: We would say for you, any Federal position that has to do with research of any kind, apply there.
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How Can I Overcome My Fear Of Being Known?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Saturn.
Saturn: Hi. I want to ask about how to heal my reserved side of myself. I’ve always been very closed off and scared when I meet new people. This frustrates me as my personality is not actually like that, and people usually misunderstand who I am because I’m unable to express my true self.
Council: Your true self is to be quiet and not express yourself a lot. It’s your purpose in this lifetime to accept yourself the way you are, and not try to change and be the way different people want you to be, so you can be 10 or 20 people fulfilling everybody else’s thought of who you are. So we would say, relax into you, being quiet, being reserved. Accept yourself. It’s a wonderful place to be.
And we would also like to put out there that being this way, you will teach other people about how others are that are reserved and quiet, who they truly are. That they are nice, or they are mean. You will teach them. And that’s the purpose that you have all agreed to. So whoever you meet, you have pulled in to show them that perhaps being quiet is a nice gift.
And if you accept it, and can smile, and talk when you feel like it, others will see how true that is. Being quiet is a nice gift. And they may want to get to know you better, but not forcefully. They will learn to accept what you have to offer.
Saturn: This might be because I grew up in a strict childhood environment, and trauma caused me to be repressed. People sometimes think I’m too serious or that I’m judging them, even when I’m not.
Council: So can you accept them? Let them think what they want. Let them judge you. That’s none of your business, what they think about you. You are only to be who you are and accept yourself, and then they will learn to accept you.
Saturn: I have no intention of making people feel hurt or uncomfortable…
Council: That is a good thing.
Saturn: …yet I still am, with just my presence of being too distant and cold. But I remember even before that as a very small child, or even as a baby, I have always been afraid of people truly seeing me. I feel this fear to the depth of my soul, as if it is me, but I know it’s not. I wonder if this issue is due to past lives, and how can I be more open from now on?
Council: So yes, we would say the discipline and being afraid of showing yourself has popped up for you in quite a few lives, but that was all created to bring you to this point. And so, an enemy, from a soldier, from an authority figure when you were young, and so your thought is to be quiet and to hide. Well now your job is to sort of connect the dots and know that was then. These feelings are here for you to heal them, but the feeling of being afraid and having to hide is not now. That was then. Connect the two lives, and when you do that, you will see a change happening.
Bob: Any more advice on how Saturn can be open from now on?
Council: A little at a time, but don’t do it under pressure. When you start to accept yourself, you will come out of your shell, you will be able to talk more, to communicate more, but it must come from you first accepting yourself and knowing it’s okay to be the way you are.
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I’m Struggling With Health Issues, And Falling Asleep During Meditation
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, The Law of One.
Law of One: Thank you both for all that you do. I contacted you once before a few years back when I was probably at the lowest point in my life, and your message played a pivotal role in taking the next steps necessary on my journey.
I’ve been struggling quite a lot with health issues since that time, however, and have gotten progressively worse. I am only 26 years old. I’ve exercised weekly for over a decade, I eat as healthy as possible, to the point of it being absolutely rediculous. However, it has gotten to the point where I constantly fall asleep during my meditative practice. To say this breaks my heart is an understatement.
Council: Well we would like to say here, if you’re exercising and doing all this stuff, and part of you knows that it’s rediculous, it’s your higher self telling you this. You need to relax. Try eating things that you might enjoy, but you don’t because you don’t think that it’s healthy. You could eat the healthiest food there is, and if you believe it’s not enough, it’s not going to help you. You could eat the most horrible food – greasy, or fried, or whatever you think is horrible – and if you know that your body loves this and it’s a lot of fun, that food will keep you healthy.
So #1, it’s your thoughts and your attitude. And we would say stop being so strict. So we would ask you to think, do you do that? Or you don’t feel right if you don’t do that exercise? Do you not feel right if you don’t eat a certain way? It’s all okay.
As far as your meditation goes, many, many people fall asleep, or fall into what they think is sleep while they meditate. When you sleep, as you come out of it, you come out slowly. You’re aware, “Oh, I was asleep. I’m sitting in this chair. Blah, blah, blah.” When you come out of a deep meditation where you don’t remember what went on there, you are – boom – awake. Like, “Oh, I fell asleep,” but you are wide awake. It’s not that, “Oh, you know, I’m slowly realizing that I fell asleep.” There’s a big difference.
Many, many people, when they meditate, go so deep in they have no memory of it, and they think they’re sleeping. But what happens is your higher self is learning things and communicating with spirits, and when the time comes that you need this information, you will remember it. So right there, let’s stop being hard on yourself, and know that you’re reaching your guides, you are reaching the spiritual world, and when the time comes, you will know what it is.
When you have the discipline to meditate all the time, it is not overlooked by spirits. The spirits will always reach out to you and try to get you to know that they are there, they’re working with you, and eventually you will feel it. But your purpose this lifetime was to relax and accept yourself with no authority, with no rules, with none of these, “You must do this, you must do that.” Just relax. When you learn to live that way, things will change in your life, and it will all be for the better.
Law of One: With regard to my meditation, it’s all I have and my only purpose, as far as I’m aware of. I just want to go home to spirit.
Council: You will go home to spirit eventually. There’s no rush.
Law of One: I will take any advice that you can offer me. I would appreciate, however, if there was some particular piece of advice that you could give that won’t go over my head.
Council: As simple as this sounds, we would really like you to find some nice, fun, pleasant things to do. If it’s to go and lay on a beach, if it’s to ride in a boat, if it’s to sit on a swing like when you were little, find some very simple things that will make you feel good.
Law of One: I feel like I’ve tried everything under the sun, and I’d like some peace and steadiness in my life. Thank you for your time.
Council: When you follow this information, you’ll see the difference taking place. It is so simple. Love yourself. Tell yourself in the mirror every morning, “I love you. Today will be a fun day. Today we’ll take it easy. I’m open to communicating with the spirits.” It will all happen.
(Bob’s Note: Ordinarily this is where The Council usually gives us some parting words which we call the closing, but this session ended without any closing thoughts.)
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Do Reptilians and Greys Incarnate As Ordinary People?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Bluestar Child.
Bluestar Child: Hi. I’ve read a lot about the New Age and I’ve been wondering for a long time if there are beings like the Reptilians and the Greys, etc. incarnated as human beings?
Council: They take on the form of a human being to blend in with our reality. These Greys or Reptilians are in that form, but coming here to learn and fulfill their purposes. They have the ability to show themselves as a human from this reality, to look like a regular person, and to blend in.
And so they are here to follow our rules, to learn more about us, and to teach us. And yes, when they come in, they are still the Greys, as you call them, or Archileans, or whatever name you like to give them. But they are from another dimension, they are from another system, but they are here for their reasons and will perform and look like a regular human.
Bob: Is it possible to estimate the percentage of human beings that have Reptilian or Grey ancestry?
Council: The percentage changes all the time, and so that is not what’s of importance. What is of importance is how do you know when you’re in their presence? How do you respond? Do you teach this entity with respect? With kindness? So they would learn that from us, and they will learn from our behavior how we are, how to be, and how not to be. So as they will teach us in ways that will advance us, we teach them.
Bluestar Child: I’m not referring only to groups like the Elite or the Illuminati, etc., but to ordinary human beings. I’m referring to your butcher, your baker, your friends, your partner, and your family.
Council: Exactly. The butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker, the grocery man, the person who makes hamburgers, or someone who waits on you in a store. They will perform, and arrive, and take the position they look for in any position that would help them, and help us. And so, yes, they are in government. Yes, they are in law enforcement. Yes, they are in banking and all the important careers. They are everywhere that we can think, and yet you would never know it.
Bluestar Child: If these Reptilians and Greys incarnate as human beings, I’d like to know:
- If these beings have a soul, or not.
Council: Yes, they have a soul. Everything that’s alive has a soul on whatever level they are at, but there’s a soul in everything that lives.
Bluestar Child: That is, if they have a connection with the Source.
Council: Everything has a connection with the Source. The Source creates all. It creates what we need at the time, what is asked for, what you ask for, and what groups ask for. The Source creates what is needed. If it’s here, it’s part of Source.
Bluestar Child: If they are the so-called integrated psychopaths and narcissists, or if all human beings are beings of light with a connection to the Source, and are simply fulfilling their life contract of playing the role of “bad people”.
Council: They are all connected to Source. They are all of the light. How they perform when they are here, whether it’s what we look at as good, or bad, or evil, is part of what they also want to learn, what they want to show us, and what we call into our reality. Everything is part of Source.
It’s by choice, the form we take. It’s by choice what our characters are. It’s by choice what we want to express. It’s by choice what we want to learn.
Bluestar Child: 2. If there’s a way to realize that someone is one of these beings, is it to look into their eyes, because it’s said that the eyes are the mirror of the soul?
Council: If you feel you can tell by looking into their eyes, then look. But we would say more than look into the eyes, feel their presence. Feel how they are around you. See how you feel when you are around them. Feelings will tell you more than just looking into the eyes. People can look you straight in the eye and lie, and smile, and you will agree to accept it, or not. You cannot fool how they feel. You will know. Feeling is more important.
And so we would say when you are around certain people, how does it feel? Even if they smile at you, how does it feel? Is there something bothering you in your gut? Or do you feel elated and wonderful around this person? Learn first with the sense of feeling. And that is for relationships, careers, or anything you want to develop. Go with the feeling, and be open.
Bluestar Child: 3. If you discover such a being in your life, what should you do? Protect yourself by raising your vibration?
Council: You don’t know if you need to protect yourself. If someone is here in the form of a grocery store owner and he is here for his or her purpose, you don’t have to protect yourself from that, but allow them to be, and see how you are around that person.
So the best thing, not only with different entities, but with everybody, is for you to raise your vibration. Every day try to raise your vibration. How do you do this? You do this by feeling good, by thinking wonderful, happy thoughts, by being grateful, and by remembering things that make you smile. That will raise your vibration. Helping others will raise your vibration. Tuning into the feeling of love will raise your vibration. Knowing that you are a spirit and you are connected to the Source will raise your vibration. And knowing that you want to do good while you are here will raise your vibration. Just that thought.
Bluestar Child: Or accept them and integrate their existence normally, as the yin/yang duality within the Source in the third dimension?
Council: It’s a wonderful experience for the other entity and for yourself. And we are here to accept people and to allow them to be who they are. You don’t know their journey, their lessons, your lessons, what they want to experience, so just allow them to be.
If there was something to fear, again we say go with your feelings. You’ll know more by feeling. If there’s an uneasy feeling, if there’s a tightness in your stomach, something is telling you this may not be a good place to be right now. So again, follow your feelings.
Bluestar Child: I’d appreciate it if The Council could shed some light on these suspicions that have been roaming around in my head for some time because I feel confused about the nature of the reality in which we live. Sorry for my long email. Thank you for all the work and wisdom. Greetings.
Council: The reality in which you live is much larger than you know at this time. There are forms in your reality that are right next to you that you cannot see, but sometimes you will get a feeling like, “Oh, it felt like somebody was right near me. It felt like someone touched me.” There is so much going on.
There are entities from different places in our solar system and beyond that. And so just go through life acknowledging there are other beings here. There are other forms of life that we know of right now. And yet you are safe. How do you feel? How do you go about your day? Are you putting out love? Are you putting out compassion? Are you putting out service and helpfulness?
And as you do more and more of that, these other forms will learn from that. So that’s a way you’re teaching them to be better than they are. Or maybe they know so much more, and they can be so much nicer and loving than you are, that you will learn from them. So just accept. And that is just the tip of the iceberg.
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Can I Manifest A Romantic Relationship With A Guy I Met Online?
This post answers relationship questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine.
Christine: I have finally met this online guy twice. Our connection is incredible. However, I realize the reason it’s been so difficult for us to meet and manage any stability is due to his mental illness. Although I fully support him and want to be there for him, I can’t deal with the ghosting. He’s either completely obsessed with me, or disappears and I don’t exist.
Council: So from what we are hearing, it is very difficult to deal with this, and you’re not in a place that can accept it as it is and have the relationship when you can, or completely walk away. So #1, that is something you need to focus on and decide what works best for you.
Christine: I really sense we’ve had so many lives together, and he agrees, but were we ever in a romantic relationship in any lifetimes? I’d love to know that.
Council: We see many, many lifetimes, and yet – interesting that you ask this question – there’s never been a romantic relationship. You were always siblings or neighbors, and always growing up to around the age of 15, we see. And then, for whatever was going on in your lives at that time, you separated. So in your current lifetime, there is the coming together again, but in his way. This is how he will protect himself from the parting, which is not wanted.
Christine: I’ve discovered when he ghosts me, he’s playing video games, and I think he’s living in a virtual world.
Council: Yes.
Christine: But in 14 years of communication, he’s never mentioned it at all.
Council: So in 14 years this is never mentioned, you never got closer, and where it’s frustrating, you are still there in that relationship. What does this relationship give to you? And again, at this point, is this what you want? It’s a wonderful relationship if you find that it’s enough for you, but we hear and feel that more is wanted. In this particular relationship, and of course you can always change it, but it would take a lot of imagery, work, and feeling to change it. If that’s something you don’t want to do, then this will not get much better than what you have right now.
So there is the accepting that you wanted to learn, or put it on the side and have it when you can have it with this person, and find another relationship that’s more permanent.
So you have options here, but you have to figure out what it is, and then do the mental work to create it. That’s by meditating on it, seeing it down to the last detail the way you want it, over and over. And when you see it, feel it. Feel it like you already have it. And of course when you do this, the universe will bring it to you.
Christine: When he tells me he loves me, is it true, or is it the mental illness talking?
Council: In his reality, he does love you as best as he can, which is wonderful.
Christine: When he tells me, I can feel it and I can hear it, but is it really him, and is it coming from his soul?
Council: Of course it’s really him. There is no fake him. It’s what he’s feeling. And we would say, it would be nice for you to be able to accept that. Because as much as he can love you, he loves you.
Christine: He believes I’m his soulmate, but I feel we’re karmic. I feel like he’s punishing me in this life because of our previous past lives.
Council: There is no punishing going on here. It is something you both agreed to. And you agreed to experience it, and in it learn your likes and dislikes, and how to handle it. And most of all, like what everyone here is doing is, learn to accept it. If there’s true love there and you want to be in it, then accept it. But only you can decide what you want at this point.
Christine: Am I able to manifest a relationship with him, or if we haven’t planned to be together in this lifetime, am I able to do that?
Council: You can create whatever it is that you want, but we would say there are many lessons there. So we’d say for you, do the work. Go back and see how you met. How did it develop through the years into what it is? Fourteen of your Earth years is quite a long time.
Christine: I thought you can manifest whatever you want. I’d love some answers and would be grateful if you can provide me with some guidance. Much love, Christine.
Council: Well that’s a wonderful letter. And there’s so much in this lifetime for the both of you to realize, to accept about each other, to create more. And perhaps accept the relationship the way it is, but have another relationship where you get more out of it.
There’s learning that can be done. You can share with this person what you find out, what you’re working on, asking that person if they’d like to work on it also. And that, again, would bring a closeness. So you can just respond with what you find out for yourself, and share it, and see if just the sharing changes the relationship.
And so we wish all of you great happiness on your journey. You all created this, and you all wanted to learn so much from what you have created. And with that we would say, have fun with it.
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Why Did I Marry An Alcoholic And Suffer So Much?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Stella.
Stella: Hello. I’d like to ask The Council the reason for my having married an alcoholic and going through such suffering.
Council: First, look at this. Did you know he was an alcoholic before you married? And if you did know, why did you marry him? Take a look at this. Always look at your behavior. What are you feeling? Did you think it wasn’t that bad and you could change him? What we’re learning now is just to be. Just allow anyone to be whoever they are and just go with it.
More and more people would experience what they consider really weird relationships and really weird experiences going on with their lives. How do I handle it? Where did this come from? I feel crazy. I don’t know how to get things going.
And it’s part of the lesson your whole reality wants to learn right now because there is such chaos, and there’s so much that people will feel they can’t create anything. People will feel, “I have no hope. What is going on with this world? What is happening?” And many people will get very angry. Many people will get very frightened.
And through this all the spirits here are teaching: Just be. Just allow. Whatever is going on, just allow it and watch it. And when you watch that person, send them love. Send them light. Send them good thoughts. And just by flowing with it, just by going with it and not being in a crazed place where you must change it, by flowing and just using your thoughts you will see and come to understand I cannot control this person.
I cannot control what’s going on in the world, but I will have faith in God and in the universe. I’ll work with light and send it all over this planet. I will send light anywhere where I hear there’s a problem. And I will just wait. I will just watch it. And by allowing and holding the light, you begin to change your world.
Stella: Also, what career will help me financially because my husband is a full-fledged alcoholic and can’t be relied upon to bring an income from good sources.
Council: Well you have had, in past lives and careers, where you wrote. You’re very good at writing, and you did bring it in with you so that you could do it if you wanted to. But we would say now, for you, it would be one of these jobs where you can get out of the house three times a week so you could experience things. And then the other two days a week you would work in the house so you would get an example of both, both areas of your life. What goes on for you when you’re out, and what goes on for you when you’re in. And the experience will give you an idea more of what you’d like to do.
But we would see that you don’t need to be around large groups of people. A quiet job is good for you. It gives you time to reflect on what is going on around you. And so any office work, any work with figures or with writing would help you, and it would also give you more confidence. It’s something you can do.
Stella: I did have some past life sessions, but somehow I see nothing.
Council: And so if you see nothing, that means you really don’t need to know anything from your past lives. And as we teach now, we’re all saying, “Okay, forget that. Don’t be wasting your time on past lives. Take your time and create it now. Create the life you want in the future.
Do you say kind words to people? That will show up in your future. Are you helpful to people? That will show up. Your future life, by the kindness you show, the words you speak, by the fun you have, will show up in your future. And that’s why it’s so important now.
It’s fun to learn about your past, but let it go and work now on your future. And at some time in the future, everyone will be able to do this. Everyone will be able to create a better life. And so start now.
Stella: Thank you so much in advance for all your answers I’m so desperately waiting for. Regards, Stella.
Council: And so we would say, don’t think you are desperately waiting for answers. You have the answers, and now you have some ideas on how to bring them forward.
Blessings to all, and have fun with your creations.
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What Is My Life Purpose?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about her life purpose.
Anonymous: I’m seeking guidance to understand my life’s purpose. I am a wife, mother, and daughter. My sons are my utmost priority, but I feel like the next phase of my life should be about service.
Council: Wife, mother, daughter – you have plenty of purpose right there. And you’ve probably fulfilled a lot of your purpose as a wife, mother, and daughter, so be proud of that, or just being you.
Anonymous: Is there a path I should follow?
Council: You’ve been following it. But if you believe this is the time for you to be of service, or time to do more things for yourself, then even if it’s one little thing, just imagine what you’d like to do. How would you like to spend a day? And begin to build on that.
And you can ask in your mind to be shown things that would be interesting for you. And when you ask and you observe, you will find this part of your life should be more of an interest in what would help you grow.
And so we would say to start slowly. Do you like fashion? Do you like being around food? Do you like to draw? Do you like to help elderly people or children? Play with this and then imagine it. Expand on it. What does that look like for you? What are you doing? More and more answers will come once you start thinking: I want to do something more. I want to do something different. And the answers will come.
We would never tell you, “Oh, you need to be a cook. Oh, you need to be in the fashion industry. Oh, you need to study nursing.” We make you do the work because one of the reasons for coming here, you wanted to discover things that made you feel good. You wanted to be of service, but to discover what made you feel good. And so we are saying to ask and the answers will come. Make the intention to find what to do with this part of your life.
Anonymous: I have a husband, in-laws, and family who are troublesome. My husband is a narcissist. He only thinks of his needs. He doesn’t appreciate me for anything. Life has to be about his needs. And he has a secret porn addiction I recently found out about. How do I handle this? Do I bring it up or leave him to his karma?
Council: Well what we see here is your husband cares about things for himself, which is part of the Earthly path. But we would say many people jump up and down when they find out their partners look at porn. And we would say: So – it’s part of this Earth. There is nothing wrong. It is an experience. It’s part of the body, what makes you feel good, and what you’re interested in.
And so, when you don’t make a big thing of it, it will either pass, or you can ask to be involved in it. It’s how you approach it when you bring it up. Does it disturb you? Then you need to do the inner work to find out why it disturbs you. It is part of life. Is it because it’s done secretly? You can change that and talk about it. You can accept it into your life.
If you have created it in your life, you wanted to learn how to handle it, how to look at it differently, and not that it’s this taboo subject. And that is part of accepting everything that comes along, and just seeing where you are on your path, and how to handle it. And so we ask you: How do you feel about it? Keep asking yourself.
Anonymous: Most of all I want nothing more than to be at peace, with health, and to help those I can.
Council: Now being at peace – could it be the porn thing? Just accept it. Let it go. Don’t bring it up. Don’t try and have a conversation. Or have a conversation, but use words where you keep it calm.
Whatever you handle now, if you want peace, you work on it ahead of time. How do you speak about it to bring peace and acceptance? And that’s a new way of handling things.
Anonymous: I want to be financially independent and live this life in peace, and leave this world to return to God and have no desire to be reborn.
Council: We’d like to say that we can guarantee when you go back to God, there will be a lot to share with other spirits. And after a while you will want to come back because when you’re in spirit, you find out how much fun it was, or what did you learn, or was it difficult, and you met the challenges? And it’s better to come back and experience and help people rather than, as some people think, I want to sit on a cloud and play a harp. So we can guarantee, in time you will want to come back.
Anonymous: I seek divine guidance.
Council: Start with something you love. Start with something that’s interesting, something you’d like to do. You never imagined you could, but now you’re playing with it. When your attention turns to where you want to do something that’s fun, and peaceful, and for you to enjoy it, once you have that intention, you don’t have to know how, but it will come to you. You will be shown the way.
Always know you have the answer. You have to know how to ask for it. You need to go into the vibration of joy, and happiness, and pretend as a child, pretend you can do this, pretend you can do that. It will come.
Blessings to all, and have fun with your creations.
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I Feel Like Women Should Not Tolerate Or Allow Sexism
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from an anonymous reader in response to our post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me?
Anonymous: I do have a follow-up question for The Council regarding this topic (sexism). You mention allowing people to live their own path. I have a hard time allowing this behavior.
Council: How would you feel if you believed a certain way, or you did things a certain way, and people wouldn’t let you behave the way you want to? They wouldn’t allow you to have your own thoughts. That’s what you are explaining here. We are here to allow. It may be very difficult for us to allow, but we are here to learn that.
Bob: This reader seems to feel that they have a difficult time allowing this particular behavior (sexism).
Council: It doesn’t matter what the behavior is. You have some sort of problem with allowing it, and so change how you look at it. It may be upsetting for you, but can you say, “This is that spirit’s path. This is the way it wants to be. This is what it is choosing.”
They don’t need your okay to be this way, but can you open your heart to accept the way people are? You don’t have to agree with them, but you can not hope that everyone will think the way you think.
Anonymous: Why must we allow negative behavior?
Council: Because would you want to be living with robots that all behave a certain way and everyone is happy and good? What would you learn from this? How will you grow? How will you learn to expand if it’s only people who behave a certain way, who speak a certain way, and carry themselves a certain way? There’s learning in this for you. You may not like it, but you chose it.
Anonymous: Sexism is degrading and demeaning. I personally don’t feel like women should tolerate that behavior, or allow it when it comes to themselves, or when they see other people being victimized.
Council: Who are you to tell other women what they should allow and what they should accept? Again, you can only allow and accept what works for you. You can not say these women are wrong and how do they let this happen? There are reasons they are going through this and you don’t have to know what those reasons are.
Again, you are not allowing. This is your big, big lesson. So calm yourself down. Tell yourself, “I don’t need to understand this upsets me. So if people talk the way I don’t like, if they behave the way I don’t like, I don’t have to get angry. I don’t have to go into a big speech about how they’re behaving. I walk away.” Take yourself out of the presence of this sort of behavior. You’re in control. You don’t have to stand there and fight because it’s going to get you nowhere.
And you are determined to have these people act the way you want them to act. How would you like it if that was reversed?
Anonymous: Should we not help to raise peoples’ thoughts and vibrations?
Council: Yes, but you don’t stick it down anyone’s throat. And you don’t give anyone your opinion unless it’s asked, unless there’s a healthy dialog going on about this. But even if it is, allow the other people to have their say. If you can’t hear this, then you don’t belong in that dialog because you are not allowing.
Anonymous: Allowing negative behavior helps perpetuate it.
Council: In your reality. In others’ reality, allowing that behavior opens their eyes to try to find a way to change it. And so again, it’s all how you perceive it.
Anonymous: A father who is a womanizer can easily pass that behavior and thought process down to their sons.
Council: That’s one way. And another way is, the child will grow up seeing this and not agree with it, and not like it at all, and be totally different. You are going towards the negative. You are not allowing what’s going to happen. You see it only going in one direction.
Anonymous: When we have the opportunity to teach better options, shouldn’t we take it?
Council: If it’s wanted, yes. If you do it in kindness and show that there is another way without stomping all over somebody else for the way they are behaving, yes, you can do it with love. Everything with love.
Anonymous: I simply can’t turn my head and allow this negative low-vibration way of thinking. Sure, we can’t make someone think a certain way, but we can educate.
Council: If they want to be educated. There could be people around you saying, “Oh, there she goes again with a speech, with a, ‘You can’t take this, and you can’t take that, and this is not right.'” And so there are people that will look at you, where you think you’re doing a great job, and they are so tired of your behavior, but they are allowing you to do and say what you want to. It always goes in both directions.
And so we wish you all peace, and love, and happiness, and health, and adventure, and joy, and a wonderful, wonderful way of creating with your intention, with your feelings, and with your smile. Smile as you think of how you want things. It will help you immensely. So have fun with it.
We’d like to thank this anonymous reader for having the persistence and courage to take issue with The Council’s guidance in their original post, Can You Help Me With How I View Sexism Around Me? We imagine there are many people who feel the same way. By questioning The Council’s guidance it’s given The Council a valuable opportunity to make an important point about allowing people to behave in ways we don’t agree with rather than trying to change their behavior to be more in line with what we believe.
This point is not always easy to understand, yet it seems fundamental to what The Council has been teaching us for many years. We hope this anonymous reader and other readers who agree with her will be able to consider, as The Council suggests, that there are reasons these people who disagree with them are going through this different point of view, and you don’t have to know what those reasons are to allow them to believe in them.
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What Are The Spiritual Reasons For Alzheimer’s And Dementia?
This post answers questions from an anonymous reader.
Anonymous: What does The Council want us to know about Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia? Specifically, what can they tell us about caring for someone with these illnesses, and the spiritual reason for these illnesses?
Council: Number 1, these souls are so brave and so courageous to come into this reality and experience these diseases for themselves, and mostly for the people around them.
Do not think for one moment that these people do not understand what is going on, because they do. There’s a way they want to teach you to understand them without words, to understand them and communicate with them through feelings.
And when you do this, at one point you will find that there is communication. And even though their outward way of behaving or trying to speak does not make sense, watch them. And when you watch them, see what you feel. No matter what, they want you to love them the way they are.
They mostly have decided to do this so that you can experience love, to have the love inside of you grow more than you ever thought it could, and to accept them the way they are, and they will know it. They will know when you’re trying to communicate. They will know that even though they are different, you are accepting them. You are giving them love, and that will help you grow, and that will help them grow.
And so we wish you all a great journey, and to find love on your journey everywhere you can. Show it every day you can. Feel it for yourselves every single day, and you’ll begin to change your life for the better.
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If We Focus On The Reality We Desire, Can We Not Be Touched By Chaos?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader after they read our recent post, Can We Influence Another Person’s Lifespan?
Anonymous: Wow! I remember the Seth books covering this concept, but The Council has presented this in a way that’s easier to comprehend. How exciting. And thank you to the co-creator (the person) who presented the question.
To expand on this concept, if we live during a time of mass chaos (war, death, etc.), is it possible not to be touched directly by any of that chaos if we focus on the reality we want to live in?
Council: Of course there is. What you focus on, you will experience. So no matter what is going on, the part of you that is focusing on what it wants in your current lifetime will create it. You might see the mass chaos, or hear about it all around you, but you’ll never have to go through it. It’s just something that you would see sort of at a distance and maybe feel, “Oh, I’m so lucky, this isn’t bothering me,” or “I don’t have this sort of problem.”
What your whole life is about is to find out that you are the creator. We are all here this time because we’re really at a place where we want to learn that we really do create our reality. So no matter what is going on around you, your thoughts will create what you want to experience.
Now because you are this beautiful gigantic spirit, if there’s chaos going on around you and a part of you also wants to learn about that chaos, you will have these two different lives going on but each part of you will only create and focus on only what it wants in that life.
So you could have the same circumstances in both lives, and one life is peaceful and the chaos doesn’t touch you, and in the other life your spirit wants to learn how to go through that chaos and you will experience it. But the two parts of you are living and experiencing these different lifetimes so you don’t know what the other one is experiencing. The whole of you is learning and taking all of that in. It is a wonderful, wonderful thing.
If you had 10, 20, or 100 lives going on, you couldn’t focus on all of them. You would probably lose your mind. You couldn’t handle it. It would be overall sensational and overstimulating. Even the bodies in each lifetime couldn’t deal with that.
And so you have many, many lifetimes and they’re all there. They’re all still going on. And you, because you are this intelligent spirit who can create all of this, is experiencing each lifetime separately. And so when we say, “You are the creator,” we’re not fooling around.
Anonymous: Is it best when we’re observing this chaos to consider it the creation of others?
Council: No. If it’s something you are experiencing, then you have allowed it into your life.
Anonymous: Can you speak more to this as it relates to mass events?
Council: When there is a mass event going on, like perhaps the COVID that affected your reality, everyone who experienced it has agreed to it. You say, “Okay, this is going to happen at this time. I’ll be part of it. Let me go through it. Let me see what I learn from it. How do I handle it?”
If there is an explosion and many, many people die – a factory blows up and children and the elderly die – each spirit has agreed to go through that for whatever reason it chooses.
So everything, whether it’s something good that affects the whole world, or some sort of chaos, if you’re experiencing it, you have agreed to it. You have let it in your life, and there’s no other way you can experience it.
Anonymous: Much love and gratitude.
Council: And so, as always, we wish you all love and fun in your creations, learning from them and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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How Do I Let Go Of An Ex-Friend With Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lindsey.
Lindsey: I’d greatly appreciate The Council’s insight on a friendship that I’m having a hard time letting go of with love. We’ve known each other for about 15 years, and the last five years haven’t been great. During this time I’ve felt the friendship to be somewhat toxic and one-sided. There was a breaking point for me about three years ago, but I still showed up in group settings. I’ve since distanced myself more this past year, declining gatherings if she would be present. I dream of her often, which I find odd since we’re not in each other’s lives currently.
Council: It’s because subconsciously you do think of this person all the time without being aware of that. And so you would dream of this person, you’d have memories come up about this person, and you’d be, with your human brain, trying to figure out what’s going on, where in a situation such as this you’d have to come more from your heart and not your brain.
And so if it’s a toxic relationship, it’s fine to put an end to it if that’s what you want. But would you stay out of social situations because of this one person? And if you did, then once again your focus is on this person. There would be other people there for you to talk with and hang out with. And so think of it this way. If you need to let go of this relationship, that’s fine. But look at the surroundings, the people you want to be with, or don’t want to be with, and then make the decision for what you really want. And make yourself comfortable in that situation, and learn to focus on these other people. And you would see your feelings would be different hanging out with others in that group.
Lindsey: These past few years I’ve done a lot of self-work and I’m unwilling to allow people in my life that bring down my vibration, or don’t have good intentions.
Council: Ahh, right there, you don’t want people in your life that will bring down your vibration. Let’s see. We will put it this way. You are in control of your thoughts. And so other people that are around you, how you choose to see them will bring your relationship up or down.
Are you practicing accepting people the way they are? Maybe not understanding them. Maybe not even liking the way they react to things, or the way they treat you. But if you could find one good thing, even it’s, “Well, you know, I really don’t like being around this person, or this person annoys me, but they are going through their stuff, and I’ll send them some love.”
Or if I can’t do that, don’t focus on their negative qualities. And so when you don’t focus on these negative qualities, your vibration will not go down. You can simply think, “Oh, they’re on their path. I don’t get it. I don’t have to get it. I don’t have to understand it, but I can accept that.
Lindsey: Do you know if this is a relationship from a past life?
Council: We’d say, yes, there were several past lives. But what we’re trying to teach now and get people to understand, that past life doesn’t matter. It could have been wonderful. it could have been horrible. It could have been some of one and some of the other. You are here now to learn how to focus and create the relationships and life that you want.
And so even though many people like to know about the past – did I have a life with this one, did I have a life with that one – it really doesn’t matter. You are taking leaps up the ladder of enlightenment and growing, where you can let go of the thoughts of the past and see what’s going on now, how you handle it, how you can accept someone, and then just let it go and put your focus somewhere else. You will see a huge change in how you feel, and how your vibration is.
Lindsey: Do you have any advice on how I can be more at peace with the distance between us so I can honor the boundaries I feel are needed?
Council: Honor your boundaries, the ones that make you feel comfortable. Know that you had a relationship for a while. Try to remember the good parts of it and now say, for whatever reason I don’t understand yet, it’s time to let that relationship go. It’s so simple. It’s your choice.
Lindsey: Many thanks for all your guidance.
Council: So focus now on what you want – a new someone in your life, a more peaceful relationship with people around you, being able to feel more love from your heart. Even if you don’t like someone, you can just understand you are a spirit, they are a spirit, and you are all on your own paths.
And so as always, we wish you love and fun in your creations, and learning from them, and moving on, and helping the other spirits in your life on their path. And always remember, bring in the love, bring in the love. You can always find it in anyone if you truly look for it.
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Why Is My Son Estranged From Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lon.
Lon: It’s taken me so long to ask this question because I wanted to ask it wisely and from an enlightened perspective.
My beloved 27-year-old son chooses to be estranged from me. The only explanation I have is that his father brainwashed him against me, especially after my separation from his father 10 years ago. But I suspect his father had been brainwashing him all during my son’s life, as I was often humiliated or invalidated by his father in our son’s presence.
Council: What should be remembered here is that even now at the age of 27, this is his choice to not have you in his life, even if the father brainwashed him and was very negative with what he said about you. It is still your son’s choice whether to bring you back into his life or to just let you go.
And so going through this, the lesson you learn is to accept him the way he is and send him light. Don’t try to force this reconciliation to happen, but in a loving heart and loving energy, send him energy. The energy of love will reach him and it will be his choice whether to accept it.
And we can say here you are in his thoughts, but can you learn the lesson of letting him be who he is? He has to work out his issues around everything that happened. And you, before coming into this incarnation, agreed to be part of this so that you would both learn.
Lon: I only learned two years ago that there was such a thing as parental alienation. My son was my joy and fulfillment in life, and we were truly bonded and always got on well. I thought by now, after a bit of a break, and now that his father passed on two years ago, that he would reach out to me. He’s now living in another country and I found out on social media that he’s married, which broke my heart because even that milestone didn’t cause him to think of me.
Council: And once again these are his issues to work through, and by trying to connect with him or have any sort of communication would not work at this time. If he’s in a place where he doesn’t want to have you in his life, by you trying to force it, it will only push you away.
So we would say work with the vibration of love and do not worry, do not focus on what the father did or what the father said about you. That only brings that energy in and will keep the two of you apart. Just in your mind picture beautiful energy and love going to your son from you. That will change things faster than any letter, any phone call, or anything where you try to make it happen.
Just keep the thoughts positive. Focus on him calling you, or writing you, or coming to see you, and then you have the chance to heal it. That’s what you should focus on. Not what the father did and how hurtful it was. And we understand how hurtful it is at this point. It can be changed if you do the work.
Lon: The only means I have of contact is his email and I don’t know if he blocks the ones I send regularly.
What caused me to bring this heartbreak to myself in this life?
Council: Because you both agreed to it so you could learn to stay in the vibration of love, even when you’re hurting and things aren’t going your way, and that you lost your son right now. And for your son to learn forgiveness for whatever was said to him about you, and to want you in his life. So the both of you agreed to do this.
Lon: And what amends can I make for us to get back together in harmony?
Council: No amends are needed, only the energy of love, thinking of him positively, thinking of him appearing in your life, hearing from him, and that you now have the opportunity to fix this rift and heal it.
And so we wish you love, and happiness, and fun in creating your lives. You are the creator in your life. No one else is.
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How Can I Deal With My Difficult Son’s Behavior?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader about her son’s difficult behavior.
Anonymous: I’m really struggling with my son and I’m wondering if The Council has any advice or encouragement? Sometimes I wonder if he’s on the autistic spectrum, but I’m not sure if a diagnosis would get us anywhere.
Council: We don’t see that.
Anonymous: We have an ever-growing rift between us. He’s rude, entitled, not cooperative, anxious, and picks on his little brother.
Council: Number 1, he’s chosen this path so that all around him will learn patience, will learn to love him no matter how he acts, and to accept who he is.
Anonymous: There’s nothing easy about this child. I’ve read every parenting book and I’m still here struggling with him. He doesn’t make friends easily. I find myself really working to help him build and maintain friendships, but it’s too much. I want to stop worrying about him, but I also want him to just let us all be and stop fighting and causing problems within our family.
Council: He’s a very intelligent soul who doesn’t remember why he chose this life. He chose it, number 1, to teach others around him. But when you think he’s ready, we’d say for you and him to read books on crystal children and indigo children. Many times they find themselves lonely, they don’t[have patience for what goes on around them, they don’t like things that don’t move along quickly, they want quick answers, they want the truth, and they are difficult sometimes – even in school – to get along with others. Now if you can teach him, or have him read a child’s book on indigo children or crystal children, he may begin to find himself and feel more self-acceptance. He wants to move forward and have recognition.
When he is difficult, it’s not good to punish him or yell at him. The best thing is to walk away and calmly say, “I won’t give you attention when you’re like this,” and leave him alone. Then teach him about energy, so we suggest you learn about energy first.
In another life your son was a great healer. In his current life there’s a book called, The Reconnection: Heal Others, Heal Yourself, by Eric Pearl, and it teaches you how you can feel the energy in your hands and use it on yourself and others. Give him that book to read, or read it to him, but don’t force it on him. Leave it around so that he can find it. He’ll learn to feel energy and get a different understanding of what this life is about.
So for him you need to go into the world of better thoughts no matter what he does. It’s to teach him about energy, to teach him he’s a special child like many of these crystal babies, and indigo children, and rainbow children. And so that would be the beginning. It will take time, but it will be the beginning of changing him.
Bob: I think you said he should read a children’s book.
Council: They have children’s books. When he’s older he can read more adult books on the crystal children and the rainbow children. There are books for children and there are books for adults so the parents can read these books and learn what is going on and have a better understanding of what he’s going through.
And this is what he created because he wants to find this other way. And not being on that path, he’s frustrated, and he doesn’t want these friends or people, and he’s difficult because he’s not where he wants to be. And so the human brain doesn’t understand what’s going on, but the higher self is saying: This isn’t working; you don’t want to feel like this.
And so these books and learning about crystals will help him. And it’s your job to support and give him these things, and let him explore his own path.
Anonymous: I was nice and normal before he was born. Now I feel like a raving lunatic much of the time.
Council: That’s why you also need to read these books. There will be a better understanding.
Anonymous: He constantly embarrasses me with his behavior and my reaction to him. I can’t find any common ground with him.
Council: It’s to change your reaction. Do not feed it, do not yell, do not become frustrated. Just walk away. Say, “When you behave like this, I will not deal with you,” and walk away. That will give him different ways of looking at things. And so it’s to remain calm, to remain open to see the change in him, to see that in your mind, to help him, to send him beautiful pink energy so that he can take it in, and his spirit will take it in and help him find his path.
Anonymous: We have no shared interests or activities that we enjoy.
Council: Exactly.
Anonymous: What can I do with this child? And yes, I recognize that he’s very bright and talented, but surely he came into this life carrying too much from a past life fear. Can I help him release that?
Council: You have all the information, and that will help him release that.
And so we’ve enjoyed this again. We send you all blessings, love, and happiness. And enjoy what you’ve created. And if you don’t like what you’ve created, then change it, change it with your thoughts and how you think.
You are a great spirit that’s here to learn many, many different things. And you’ve all created this time to come in knowing it would be difficult, and knowing there would be a lot of chaos. But you came in to hold the beautiful light, to love no matter what, and you will see your lives change.
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How Acceptance And Appreciation Can Help You Lose Weight
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Wannabe Beauty Queen.
Beauty Queen: I have some questions about health and beauty which I’d love some help with.
I’ve had a deep and very upsetting problem with my weight that I just can’t seem to crack, and I’d like to know how I can permanently lose weight, keep it off, and also build muscle and tone. I’ve tried many, many things over the years, but seeing as I’m writing you, nothing’s worked.
Council: It’s because you do not accept who you are. And so now your weight is bothering you, and we can tell you until you learn to appreciate yourself and others who are overweight or have other features that are unpleasant to you, you’ll stay on this merry-go-round.
And so we’d say first, what you wanted to learn was acceptance, to love yourself no matter what you look like or what you experience. That’s very important for you. When you can start appreciating something that’s good about your weight, something that you can focus on and be grateful for, your weight will begin to change.
So any physical problem that’s coming up for you, you have created because you wanted to experience learning acceptance, accepting yourself, and accepting those around you.
Beauty Queen: What’s behind my weight problem and how do I resolve it? I’d very much love the key to remedying it.
Council: There’s the word. You very much love. Yes, and you’re very much in a place where you have to learn to love yourself the way you are now and then show that love to others who are perhaps not exactly what are considered beauty queens. And so it’s all about acceptance. It’s a big lesson for you.
Beauty Queen: These days my hair also seems to grow slowly…
Council: Oh, another problem.
Beauty Queen: …and break at a certain length. It’s also very dry. Why is this?
Council: You are not happy with your hair. And so the more unhappy you are about it and the more you focus on this problem, it will stay that way, and it can even get worse. That’s how powerful you are. What can you find about your hair that you like and appreciate about it? Look at your hair differently. Try to find something good in each situation.
Beauty Queen: Again, I’ve tried things to no avail, but I’d really love waist-length healthy-looking hair. Also is it true I can make my hair grow straight even though it’s curly? How do I go about doing this and how long would it take me?
Council: Appreciate what you have and then focus, focus, focus. Anything you are determined about and anything that you love can change and can bend with time into the way you’d like it to be. We don’t feel you are ready at this time to believe you can do this so we would say for now to go with appreciation.
Beauty Queen: I also used to have a thing where people used to tell me all the time how young I looked for my age.
Council: Oh, another problem.
Beauty Queen: What do I have to do to naturally look much younger than my years again?
Council: Love yourself. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself. Find as many parts of yourself that you appreciate.
Beauty Queen: What did I have then, and how do I get it back?
Council: With your focus, with your mind, with your visualizations, and with your feelings. Feel good about yourself. Feel beautiful. Feel that you are special and that you are here to learn how to change everything into what you would like it to be, not because you don’t like it, but because you see it, and in it you’ve found something to appreciate and now you want to make it even better.
Beauty Queen: How do I be the one who naturally defies aging?
Council: Oh, that’s a good question. Do you feel like you don’t want to age? Then you know what that means. You will leave the planet and you’ll transition back into spirit. As long as you are in your human body you will age. And again for you, appreciate each age that you get to, everything you experience, what it was like ten years ago, what it’s like now, what you want it to be ten years in your future, and accept who you are. But if you want to not age, if you want to defy that and live forever, we feel at one point you could do that, but not now. And so if you don’t want to age, we’d say be careful what you think because that will help you transition over to spirit.
And so once again these are lovely questions. And we send everyone loving energy, and support from the spirit world to love yourself and to learn how to walk down that path, and be kind to each other.
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There’s A Gigantic Shift In Consciousness Going On
As most of our readers know, in addition to being able to write a Comment on our blog where they can ask The Council a question for free and get an audio-recorded answer from them, readers also have the choice to pay for a private half-hour telephone session where they can speak directly with The Council and ask them whatever they like.
Recently a reader named Todd had a phone session with The Council. The information offered by The Council during this session struck us as being important enough that we asked Todd if he wouldn’t mind sharing it with our readers, and he’s generously agreed to let us publish a modified version of his session.
Thank you so much, Todd, for giving us permission to share your phone session with The Council with our blog’s readership. We hope they find the information as helpful as we did. If you find this information in this post is helpful to you, please consider leaving a comment thanking Todd for giving us permission to share it with you.
Council: Good morning.
Todd: Good morning. How’s it going?
Council: (Laughs) For us, wonderful (more laughing).
Todd: Good. I wanted to reach out to you because I’ve been very tired lately and just kind of low energy. I’ve been that way on and off my whole adult life, but it seems to come and go and I’m really experiencing that now. I don’t know what I can do about it or what that’s about. The second thing is that I’ve been moody and kind of mildly depressed, then feeling okay, then feeling depressed, then feeling down, then feeling okay. And then the third thing is I’d like a sexual energy scan and what you’re sensing in that. All three of these issues kind of go together, but I don’t know if they’re all related or not.
What do you think you’re depressed about?
Council: What do you think you’re depressed about?
Todd: I don’t know. That’s why I’m reaching out to you guys.
Council: When you’re depressed, it’s usually right before that there are some sort of thoughts that bring the depression on. There’s a lot going on with you right now, but are there any certain thoughts that you feel bring on the depression?
Todd: Well I know I’ve been really hard on myself, and I overthink things. I realized that last night, and since then I’ve been feeling better. I still think about my stepdaughter occasionally, the one that won’t talk to us and we’re in conflict with. And I still think about my sexuality. And then I think about how crazy the world is. Those are the things that kind of come to me, but I know it’s all within me too.
There’s a gigantic shift that’s going on
Council: Well #1, many, many, many people are going through what you’re going through now. The depression, the fatigue, overthinking, and sort of feeling lost. And it’s because there is this – and I’m sure you’ve heard of it – this gigantic shift that’s going on from one dimension to another dimension. And we see here there are many books about the fifth dimension. And everyone in your reality has agreed at this point to change, to open up to more than what was possible before.
Proof of alien visitation
First, of course, there are many, many talks about aliens visiting this planet, and being on this planet, and it was always denied, and then perhaps it’s true, then it’s denied, then perhaps it’s true. Now we can promise you are going to hear very soon that it is true. There will be proof. And it’s time to open up to this other life force.
We’ve got to change
There’s also a change in everyone’s vibration where the thoughts will be less on the physical and more on the spiritual. It’s a path everyone’s willing to take right now. And what brought this on? Very smart spirits in your reality where everyone has created such chaos in their life, and in their world, with the planet, with the Earth, with people. And it was all created for people to say, “We’ve got to change. We don’t want this. There’s another way to live. We’re losing a lot of the happiness and the innocence that we felt before. Everything is too much chaos. Nothing goes very easy.” And so being in this reality you are also going through this.
Do the chakra breathing
Now the fatigue is part of the energy leaving and the new energy trying to come in. It’s very, very important at this time to do the chakra breathing with the colors and the shapes because the chakras are taking in energy, then they aren’t taking in energy and they are shutting down. A lot of that is going on with you right now. But you’re evolving. So it’s not something frightening, even though it is uncomfortable. It’s just that you are part of this change.
Your thoughts must change
Now physically we’d say, eat better and take vitamins. This is what’s needed in your reality. Do things that make you happy. Then there’s what’s going on mentally. The thoughts must change. The overthinking, the worrying about this, worrying about your stepdaughter. You can’t change her. That is not your purpose in this lifetime.
Just accept and send love
Your purpose with her and yourself is just accepting who you are, who they are, and letting them go about their lessons and what they need to learn in this lifetime. The best thing you can do for them and yourself is to send love. Just accept and send love. And that love will help everyone and yourself work out what you need to work out. But it’s the relaxing and the loving that’s going to change. And we’ve said before many, many times to people that when there’s more love in this reality, disease will start to disappear, and violence would disappear because the love will overtake everything. When that happens your thoughts will be lighter.
Change negative thoughts
So now it’s your responsibility to change those thoughts. That’s what you planned before you came here, that when the chaos hits, you would be a light bearer. You would do your best when these negative thoughts come in, to change it. Just acknowledge, “Here I go again. Oh boy, what I’m thinking isn’t good. I have to change it.” And then refocus your thoughts. There’s so much mental work and energetic work that is needed at this time.
And so we’d say for you, do the work on your chakras, and take care with your thoughts. It’s hard not to overthink, but maybe think of good memories or some fantasies you’d like to happen in the future. You are in creation mode. This is what you planned, and now you’re at the point where it must be done.
You feel good and then you start feeling negative
Getting tired, getting depressed, all of that is trying to leave your body. It’s such a major change, such a major shift that it’s knocking the heck out of everybody. It’s like you think you’re handling something, you think you’re getting better, then boom. And these are such old patterns and stuff from old lives that are coming up. And you get days of feeling good, maybe weeks of feeling good, and boom, you start getting negative. Here I go again. When does this change? This is not happening. Boom, depression, boom, fatigue. It wears you out.
Go back to the basics
And what we’d like you to know is, it’s part of what’s going on, and the hard part for you is the imagination. Change it. Force yourself to find good thoughts. Make things up. Become like a little child. Pretend this, pretend that. Whatever you need to do. And if there are actual things that make you happy, going to a movie, going out to eat, going to a park, visiting friends, whatever it is, playing a game, go back to these basics. That’s what’s happening.
I can change it
And we want to say to you, you’re right in the middle of it. You’re right on time, as usual. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. The only thing you have to get rid of is the worrying about it. Okay, here I am again, but I can change it. That’s the thought that changes it, that gives you the strength. No one else is going to change it. You’re going to change it.
Everyone is having a hard time being positive
But acknowledging, it’s just acknowledging this horrible feeling, these horrible, depressing thoughts, feeling that I’m getting nowhere, that I’m not evolving, nothing is working. That has to change. And that’s the hard part. We’d say that’s 100% throughout your reality. Everybody is having such a hard time being positive, and it’s so needed.
You’re right where you’re supposed to be
And so we want to say, congratulations, you’re right where you’re supposed to be. And yet we know you as spirit. We know you can do this, and it’s our place in this time to be of help, to be of support, to send all of you energy to get you through this.
Your good thoughts go out and touch everyone
When this was all planned when you were in spirit, we all thought, “Oh yeah, okay, this is going to be interesting”, because in spirit, there’s nothing that we feel we can’t handle. All right, in our reality every one of us is going to help each other. Because if you have one good thought, there’s someone on the other side of your world that feels that positive energy. Your good thought goes out and touches everybody. So someone else that’s having a good thought, you will feel it.
Imagine something you’d like to have happen in your life
And this is what you planned to do. No one said it would be easy, even though in spirit you think it will be. But it’s what is needed. But you know what we say, the answers are always simple. They’re not easy, but they’re simple. And the answer is, change the thought. Start there. Start with your imagination. Make up something that you’d like to have happen in your life. Something where, when you think of it, it feels so good, and that’s the beginning. The feeling good, and the more you can do it, the more thoughts will come to help you feel good.
You’ve chosen a wonderful time to be here
And to know we’re all in this together, all of us. We here in spirit go through this with you and watch and help in any way we can. And to say, this is such an exciting time that you have created, that you will meet entities from other galaxies, from other planets, from other dimensions. This is such a wonderful time that you’ve chosen to be here.
We can learn so much
And so we say, being positive will help you get through all of this. So many people are afraid of other life forms. And in their reality they’ll create things to be afraid of, things that they will hear that scare them. And yet others will get excited and say, we can learn so much from these others, from realities that know so much more than we do. We’ll learn there will be technology, there will be control of your thoughts by you, of your mind, and of learning how to heal your body on different levels.
Do you choose love or fear?
There’s so much positiveness that’s ready to come in, but which way do you go? Do you choose the love and the positive, or do you choose the fear and the negative? And how do you choose? You choose it with your thoughts. It’s so important right now. The little problems that you’re facing now, of course feel like huge problems, but they’ll drop away because there will be so much more exciting times coming in if you do the work and you let it happen.
Get ready to connect with entities that know more than we do
And we had someone ask a question about shadow people. People are now talking about something called shadow people. This is horrible. They’re going to jump in your body, they’re going to take over. it’s an evil energy. And we explained, sure, if that’s what you want to create. But these shadow people are not bad, are not here to take over your body, are not here to cause problems and evil things happening. Why you are seeing them through the corner of your eye when you think something is there – an animal, a person – because they are from another dimension and have come for a visit, and you’ve been allowed to see them just for an instant, just to get used to this.
Todd: I haven’t seen them yet.
Council: Well sometimes someone will say, “Oh, I thought I saw someone out of the corner of my eye. There’s nothing there.” This is happening and we say here it is positive. It is getting ready to connect with other entities that know so much more than we do, that are here to help, and that we will learn from. But we must use positive thoughts, and that is what we’re getting you ready for. And this is what you’re starting to feel, the old nonsense, the old chaos.
Negative thoughts can create sinus problems
And so believe it or not, one of the big things that are created by people with negative thoughts are sinus problems because it’s up there in that area where your brain works. And so now a lot of people are saying, “Oh, my sinuses, or my allergies,” and they believe it. It’s part of your thinking. And many wouldn’t understand that, but it’s just how the thoughts affect the body.
Todd: What about the throat? Is it the same with the throat?
Council: Yes, of course.
Todd: I’ve been choking a lot lately.
When you go positive, everything will change for the positive
Council: Yes, of course, because the sinuses are trying to empty out and that will go down into your throat, which by the way happens to Cynthia. It will also go into your stomach and cause diarrhea or constipation, and it affects the whole body. It is so important – we underline it with an asterisk – be careful of your thoughts. Take charge. This is what you wanted. When you go into positive mode, everything will change for the positive. The way you feel, the way you think, what’s happening around you, it will become lighter.
Do things you enjoy
Now when you feel fatigue or depression, take a nap. That will help stop the thoughts. And try to do things that you enjoy, whether it’s the littlest thing or not. Just do something that you will enjoy and you will see it happening. You’ll see it happening to people around you.
It’s not your place to judge, but to send love
Who’s going with the negative and who’s going with the positive? And again, it’s not your place to judge them, but to send them love and allow it to happen. And that’s where you are. But you definitely need to work on your chakras because they’re getting, what we would say, clogged up with old energy that needs to leave.
Todd: Okay, I’ll do that tonight. And what read or energy do you get on my sexuality? I know that’s been a big issue that I’ve talked to you about before, and I’m still working on it a little bit, and I’m feeling more of a connection. Do you get a sense I’m on the right track with that?
You are evolving
Council: Yes, but there are again, your thoughts. You worry about this. You are troubled by this. And so the easiest way to fix it is to say, “I am evolving. I don’t know how my answers will come where I feel good, but they will. And I don’t have to tire myself out by questioning it over and over, by worrying I’m not in the right place over and over. I am evolving. And as I accept that, that I am evolving as slowly or quickly as I can, it’s a wonderful thing. It’s going in the direction I need, that I planned for.” Now isn’t that a better thought?
Todd: Yes, it is. And I know that in the past you talked about working through sexual issues from past lifetimes. I remember you talking about that and that’s what I was getting a read on, but now it sounds like more about current-day worry and business. I just need to let that go.
You don’t have to concentrate on past lives
Council: When you concentrate on the now about knowing you’re evolving, you don’t have to concentrate on past lives. You don’t have to worry did this happen in this life or that life. Did more happen? What have I gone through? That evolving is gone. Because of the major shift, that no longer applies. At one time it would. You want answers from past lives. Now you know, “I got through it. No matter what it was, no matter how many times, I got through it, but I’m evolving now.”
You don’t have to know why, how, or when an answer will come
All the answers I need, all the feelings I need, all the actions I want to be able to do, it’s coming, and I don’t have to know why, how, or when. It is coming, and that’s what creates it. It’s a change from worrying and searching for answers to the now with believing and knowing that you don’t have to know the answer right now, but that it is happening. It has to happen. It has to happen because you chose to be in this reality at this time to go through it and to heal it. And you are exactly where you need to be. It is fine. It is wonderful. Let it happen.
Todd: I just had an intuition that Steph and I got together this lifetime to really look at, and work through, and heal sexual energy and sexual issues, and that we’re still doing that, and that we’re on the right path. That’s what came to me.
Council: Yes, of course.
Todd: Okay, that’s good.
Council: That’s 100% right, and you will. Together you can work it out in whichever way helps the both of you. And it will just come to you when you relax and say, “Okay, that’s one of my purposes of being here and it’s time to change it, evolve it, and make it more of what I wish it would be.” And you do that with your thoughts.
Healing will come from your thoughts
Besides running to a doctor, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or a counselor, in this part of your life on this planet the healing will come from you. The healing will come from your thoughts. You are in charge now. How wonderful it is that you know that now? There’s no answer that’s going to come from any outside source. It’s going to come from you.
All your answers are inside of you
Do you realize you are this wonderful spirit that has all the answers already? They’re all inside of you. All you have to do is stay positive. You don’t have to try and figure it out. Your only lesson here is, no matter what, stay positive. Treat yourself well. Stay in the vibration of happiness and that’s it, and it will come. It’s so simple. Not easy to do, but you are learning, you are evolving. And the more you do it, the more you’ll begin to see, this works. And that’s why you’re here.
Todd: Wow, okay, that makes sense. It certainly has been a process. And you’re right, I’ve worried about whether we are ever really truly going to be sexual, but I need to remember that we are here to support each other sexually, even when we don’t do “the act”, but it will happen, and probably happen when I least expect it.
Concentrate on the love
Council: When you bring the love in, everything will happen. Just concentrate on the love. Two people that love. That’s it. It will happen. There is your answer. Concentrate on the love and enjoy each other. And there are different ways to enjoy each other. You are in control. The worrying will not cause it to get better. It will slow things up. So you are here together to work on this and this is exactly what you are doing.
Todd: Okay. Well that does help. That helps me understand why I’ve been so tired and just kind of moody. The big realization I had last night is to be kinder to myself, and so I’ve been in a better mood since last night. So I’ll just keep going with that. Does anything else come up that I need to do, or that’s pretty much the ticket?
Work with your mind
Council: Work with your mind. Whatever it is that brings you good thoughts, that will help everything change.
Todd: Okay, great, thank you.
You have no idea how many people you will help
Council: We’d like to say here that part of what Todd is here to do – take this in, Todd – is to teach others. And by allowing yourself to share what you’ve learned and to share your questions, you have no idea how many people you will help. But the choice is always yours. If it’s something you need to keep private, that’s fine. You will help many people in many different ways.
Bob: Todd, you’ve got some work to do on your chakras, but it sounds like what you’re experiencing is right on time, and you’re doing the evolution work, so congratulations.
Todd: Yes, thank you. I think so too, and I plan to do the chakra meditation tonight. I have colored lights that match the colors of the chakras that I click on when I go through the chakras, and I really enjoy that. I haven’t done it for a week and a half so I need to do it again.
Bob: Well, we’re here if you need us. And you can always ask questions on the blog if you want, but I really got a lot out of this session and I hope that we can make it available, at least in part, to other readers.
Todd: Okay. Thank you so much, Bob.
Bob: Thank you, Todd. Until the next time.
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What Can I Do To Help Help My Vitiligo Skin Condition?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Prayers For Healing.
Prayers: I want to ask a question about a medical condition I’ve had since I was five years old. I have vitiligo, and most of it has self-healed throughout the years.
(Bob: Vitiligo is a skin condition that has to do with missing pigmentation of the skin.)
Council: And we see it self-heals, and comes back, and heals again. And is that what you experience?
Prayers: I only have it on my hands, feet, and elbows. It tends to grow, and heal, and grow, and heal, but stays contained to these areas. I’d like to ask The Council: What can I do on a spiritual level to help heal this condition?
Council: This is created from a life you had before as a leper. And you were so miserable and hated yourself, and hated all the lepers that you were forced to live with because you weren’t welcome in any areas. And so you always wished that you could do something with the skin to make the leprosy disappear. So in in your current lifetime you didn’t create leprosy, but you created this vitiligo condition with the skin.
We can tell you when you work on accepting this skin condition, and thanking it for not being leprosy and just affecting the pigment of the skin, and when you work on truly loving yourself the way your skin is, you will heal it. It’s about self-love, it’s about acceptance, and not to hate yourself, or hate what you look like, like you did in your past life.
Prayers: I know the science behind the reason for my loss of color, but I want to know what I’m doing in my life that’s preventing me from getting better.
Council: The science doesn’t matter. It’s all a past life that you’ve brought forward in another way because you want to learn acceptance, how to accept other people, and what they look like. Are they heavy, are they skinny, are they ugly, are they pretty? How to accept yourself and love people for the way they are. Love yourself. Loving yourself in this particular life is what you were going for.
And so we’d say meditate. Meditate on who you are, that you are really a spirit in your body, and that you created your body because you wanted to learn how to let go of how you looked, and to realize who you really are, and to love. When you can give yourself the vibration of joy and love and not care about these pigmentations, when you can love yourself no matter what you think you look like, it will heal. That was your purpose in creating it.
Prayers: Should I be eating certain types of foods or avoiding certain types of foods?
Council: Only if you think that’s going to help, but that’s not where it’s coming from. It’s coming from emotion about raising your vibration by putting beautiful pink and then white light around yourself every day, and meditate, and stay in that circle of light. And picture yourself loving. Don’t picture yourself healing, picture yourself loving. The healing will come.
Prayers: Does this come from a lack of self-love or from not speaking my truth?
Council: Bingo, a lack of self-love. And of course it’s always about speaking your truth. And your truth from spirit is always speak kindness, speak love, uplift other people and love yoursef for doing it.
And so intuitively you know this is what it’s about. And so we say now that you have a clearer picture, you can do this. Do the inner work and you will heal.
Prayers: I’m willing to do the inner work to help release the root cause of this condition. Thank you.
Council: We’d also say if you want, you can go and imagine yourself as a leper and not feel the hate for yourself like you did, but to send the part of you that was in that body, in the body with leprosy, send it love, and that will also help.
Have fun on your journeys. Everyone is on their journey. Find the good feeling and continue on that path.
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You’re Here To Learn To Use Your Thoughts To Create The Life You Want
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Rebekah.
Rebekah: I’ve been feeling a bit paranoid recently. I’m afraid of being powerless, I’m afraid of losing control of my mind, and I’m also afraid of developing schizophrenia.
Council: So many people in your reality right now are feeling powerless and are wondering what’s going on in this world, forgetting that you are the one that’s creating your world. Feeling powerless and worried and confused, that vibration is all around. And so how you counteract this is by thinking about the way you’d like this world to be, the way you’d like to be, and the way you’d like your friends and family to be. Ask to see it. Ask to see more people experiencing joy. Put that out there and then just watch and see what the universe brings to you. You are not powerless, and you are not out of control. You are just here to learn how to use your thoughts to create the life that you want.
Rebekah: My cousin has been diagnosed with schizophrenia and I wish I could know how to help him.
Council: Your cousin’s journey is different from yours, and by helping him you can not change what he’s created for himself. There are reasons he wants to go through this. And so all you can do is show him love, show him understanding, and show him kindness at all times. That’s your only role here. You can’t change another person. Look at him as a spirit. Respect him for whatever reason he’s chosen this path. Part of it is to get you to accept it.
Rebekah: Anyway, I was diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) a few years ago. The diagnosis makes sense to me. My therapist said I seem to be currently experiencing some kind of trauma response, but the trauma is unknown. I did psychedelic mushrooms for the first time on New Year’s Day this year and had a frightening experience of being a baby and being afraid.
Council: When you’re in this condition of being afraid of losing your mind, do you feel it’s wise to experiment with mushrooms?
Rebekah: My boyfriend called my Mum and she helped me settle down and reframe what I was experiencing. But I do wonder if that triggered me in some way because I started becoming paranoid and obsessed with doing the right thing and making the right decision for my higher self.
My therapist said my ADHD was making those intrusive thoughts 100 times worse because I’d start overanalyzing everything and struggle to snap out of it. I’m currently on anxiety medication that has helped a lot, but right now I feel myself slipping a bit and I just feel a bit on edge. I had a bit of an energy drink today and also some wine last night, so maybe there’s my answer.
Council: So again we ask, do you think that was wise? Did it work out positively for you? Or are you now having an experience where you don’t feel that good?
And so when you make choices, just sit back and see how they affect you. Did it make it better, or did it make it worse? And then there is your answer. And then in the future, you have the choice to do it or not to do it again.
Rebekah: But I feel different, and feel all the pressure to save the world.
Council: And that is impossible.
Rebekah: I feel powerless and powerful at the same time. I have so much restless energy and so many ideas, but no follow-through. I’m so afraid of losing the people I love and something bad happening. I guess I’m just hoping for some guidance from The Council.
Council: We’d ask you to do the chakra meditations. And for you we’d say to be outside more, to be among the trees, to be around nature, and that will help the way you feel. Reconnect to the Earth. Learn how to ground. And then work on finding happy thoughts, whether it’s something you fantasize about, or whether it’s a memory you have, like a happy childhood or a holiday. Think about that. When you use the discipline of your mind to choose your thoughts, to choose happy thoughts, your energy will change. It’s the law of your universe.
Rebekah: I’ve started a counseling course in an effort to have a career in something I enjoy, but I’m worried I won’t be able to handle it with my mindset.
Council: So how do you go into this course when you are already worried? The thing before you go into this course is to change your vibration by thinking this course will be wonderful for you. It will give you more understanding of what goes on. It will help you bond with people and understand what they go through. And that sort of thinking will change how you feel.
Rebekah: How do I become comfortable with powerlessness?
Council: You are not powerless. That’s the first thought. If you let your mind and your thoughts rule you, then you’re not in control, but you have the choice to have better thoughts. And once you get in line with that, you will see how strong you truly are.
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How Can I Stop Feeling So Depressed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Sunshine73.
Sunshine: I was hoping The Council could help me. You and The Council helped me once about sickness. I have another problem I’ve always dealt with ever since I was a small child. It’s depression. As a young child I didn’t know what it was. I just knew I felt sad a lot and didn’t know why.
Council: You felt very sad. And this comes from the life you lived in ancient Rome where you lived in Pompeii and you were there A.D. 79 when Mount Vesuvius erupted. You lost your whole family and everyone you knew, and eventually you succumbed to these ashes that covered many bodies. Many people drowned. And that is staying with you, and your subconscious remembers that past life, and now it helps you go through this depression.
And so knowing where it came from, look around you. See what your family is like. Do you have them in your life? Does it make you feel good? Are you appreciating that whoever you have in your life, you reach out to show kindness, to show love, and to help when it’s needed? That’s your lesson from your lifetime in Pompeii. So when it was time to leave, it was already too late to help yourself and your family.
And so now experiencing depression and experiencing sadness are leftover feelings from that life. And you brought this in so you could learn to be there for yourself, be there for others, and let go of the depressed feelings.
There is no ending. We’re all spirits, and we come in life after life. And so you’ve chosen this time to be there before something horrible happens to show love and to reach out. And that’s what you desired to do in your current lifetime. But we see here what you’re feeling – the depression and the sadness – is so strong that reaching out to others will help erase the depressed feeling.
Sunshine: I’m now almost 50 years old and nothing has changed. I still deal with depression on a regular basis. I try different things and sometimes they help for a little while. Is there anything in a past life that’s causing this?
Council: Yes. And knowing it (and it takes a little time for your present mind to accept it), knowing where the sadness and the depression are coming from, that alone will help you release it.
Sunshine: How can I stop feeling this way so much?
Council: You can read about that time in Pompeii. Look at pictures of the city that was dug up, knowing that you were there and that was your home. And just sometimes going back to that life you can experience how wonderful it was before the end came. And that will also help you let these depressed feelings go. And remembering, even though you transitioned in that life, here you are again. You are safe.
Sunshine: I’ve been trying to do some work with crystals to help, but I don’t really know if I’m doing that right either. I just know I can’t go on living my life in sadness. I want to be happy and enjoy my life and my family.
Also, is it depression that takes all of my energy?
Council: Of course. Depression makes you feel a loss of wanting to do anything in this life, taking your energy, and making you feel fatigued all the time. Depression is a heavy energy. So accepting where it comes from and thinking eventually: Oh, the depression is from this past life and I don’t need to feel this way now. There’s nothing in this lifetime that’s causing me to feel this way. It’s just something I wanted to heal, and now with this understanding, I will heal it.
Bob: Anything to add about Sunshine’s working with crystals?
Council: Crystals are always good. Some people, when they meditate or just sit in a chair for 15 or 20 minutes, surround themselves – north, south, east, west – with clear quartz. Hold one in your right hand and one in your left hand, and that moves the energy.
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What Is The Source Of My Mood Swings, Anger, And Rage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I continue to go through a major shift in perception. I feel as though I’m learning so much about life, self-healing work, etc. However, while trying to heal, I’ve yet to understand my mood swings and the source of my anger and rage.
Council: This happens now at a time in your reality where many people are dealing with emotions: anger, happiness, depression, and feeling very uplifted. It’s the time with a mass agreement for people to go through this because it will take your planet, your reality, to a higher level.
And so it’s important right now to pay attention to your feelings. Do not fear them. Let your feelings come up and then always try to focus the energy of love on every emotion. You’ll begin to feel different. It’s a way you’ll learn to control your emotions. Accept them when they come, acknowledge them, and then always put the stamp of love on each emotion.
And so follow the ups and downs that your higher self is showing you and you’ll move forward and you’ll learn much more about your life and purpose here. You’ll have more confidence and we can guarantee you’ll move forward.
Elizabeth: I want to learn to control my anger and rage, and how to release it in a healthy way.
Council: Not so much to control it, but to let it come and then say to yourself, “Anger is here again. Anger is paying me a visit. What does it remind me of? What could it be that causes this anger? Is it here just for me to change it?” And many times that’s the reason. It just comes up and you need to do the work where you don’t say, “Go away.” You say, “Hello, anger. You’re part of this life, but now we’re going to make you feel better.”
And you’ll put love and pink light all over yourself and all over the thought of anger. Try to picture what it looks like. What shape does it have? Put pink light on it and you’ll see and learn many things. Just accept it.
Elizabeth: I realize anger is disguised sadness. It seems so ingrained in me and comes at times I don’t even understand. Is it a loss of control?
Council: Of course it’s loss of control, but it comes from other lifetimes which aren’t important to delve into. Just know: Okay, I’m carrying this, I created this in spirit to be happening so I could learn how to change it.
Elizabeth: If it is loss of control, where did I learn the need to want it, and the fear of losing it?
Council: In other lifetimes when there was loss of control, when there was too strenuous a life for you, when there was no ifs or buts, you wanted things a certain way and they wouldn’t happen. And so you bounced around each side of the coin. What does it feel like to have control? What does it feel like not to have control? It doesn’t matter when this happened. Only that you look at it now and you think: Okay, these feelings, they may be coming from other times, they may be coming now only because I’ve asked it to come forward so I could heal it.
Elizabeth: If the anger and sadness are from childhood trauma, what’s the event I need to look at to understand and allow myself peace and grace?
Council: There’s nothing in your current particular life you need to look at. What you called forth is feelings from other lives. You called forth the lesson to learn how to change these feelings. And many, many in your reality want to learn how to work with their mind on a great scale to change things. And that’s why the feelings are so powerful. It’s now on a great scale all over your reality, people trying to learn how to work with their mind because that’s how you create.
Elizabeth: I know love is the answer…
Council: Yes it is.
Elizabeth: …yet sometimes the rage consumes me. Can you help?
Council: Feel your rage, say hello to it, get ahold of your thoughts, your mind, and say, “I’ve created this because I want to learn how to become more of the spiritual person I am, and I’m now going to infuse this thought and this feeling with love. And I’ll do it with my mind.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Every day create happiness, even if it’s for the littlest thing because when you’re in that vibration, you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer basis. So have fun with it.
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What Can I Do About My Problems With A Work Colleague?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Frustrated Worker.
Frustrated: I have a question about a work scenario. I’ve had a special and intricate working relationship with a colleague for nearly a decade. While they have an anxious disposition, they were always supportive and followed through when it counted. But for the last few years they’ve really let me down. There have been delays after delays, they’ve continuously moved deadlines, put other peoples’ work before mine, told little white lies, dismissed my feelings about the work being delayed, and this sort of thing.
Council: Why have you stayed in that situation for a couple of years? It’s a situation that’s presenting itself to you. When you look at it, it makes you turn and look at yourself for the growth to see why you stay in that situation when everything is showing you that it’s not working and there is a problem here.
Frustrated: It’s left me in a very tricky situation. I recently had to confront them. They took offense and it looks as though our working relationship may be over.
Council: Taking this step and confronting them is good. When they take offense you have to realize either it’s something they’re going through or it’s something to do with their thinking. When it goes that far it’s very plain for you to follow your feeling. It can’t be comfortable being in this. Your feelings, which is your higher self’s way of talking to you, is saying, “It was good, but now it’s time for a change. And the change comes because you are ready for growth.
Frustrated: Separating the work we’ve done together and the work I have planned for us will be like undressing a salad. And because the work they do is very excellent and idiosyncratic, I can’t see who I’d replace them with.
Council: It’s time, when you make the salad and you make the same dressing for many years, that you tire of it, or your taste buds want something new. So now it’s time to dress your salad with something new.
Frustrated: Can this relationship be saved, or am I supposed to let this go?
Council: There’s nothing to save. It was wonderful. Hopefully all involved have learned from it and now have different paths to travel, and this includes yourself. There’s nothing to save. You’re supposed to follow your feeling and get excited about something new that you can bring into your life. And you do this by writing it down, thinking over and over about the new people that could come into your life, and the way you want it to be. So you start that inner work and you begin to bring in the new people.
Get yourself in a happy mood and excited mood where you’re thrilled to be going forward. When you do that you must bring in these new people. Make up your mind instead of thinking, should I try and fix it, should I hold on? If you make up your mind to move forward, there’s a new path, there are new things to learn, and there are new people to bring into your life. Once you start imagining that, making that your intention, these people will definitely come along.
Bob: Just to be clear, to answer the question, “Am I supposed to let this person go?” The answer is, yes?
Council: That’s what’s happening around you. It’s pointing to that. Is your higher self showing you this? And you feel the loss of the relationship. You feel it’s not working. You know they’re putting you off and putting others before you. The answer is so simple. You can hang on to this relationship, but it won’t get better. You can try to create it, but why would you want to create this where your feelings are pushing you to move in another direction?
Frustrated: What would I have to do to save this relationship, or how do I find their replacement?
Council: If you want to save this, then you would see these people understanding what you’re saying, you’d see them wanting to work with you and put your work first, and coming through for you. You can see that. You can create this.
And yet we must say here that even if you create this for a while, what you’ve created in spirit is that now it’s time to move on.
Frustrated: Are there other souls who are lined up to take the place of this person if they decide with their free will to leave?
Council: Definitely, but it’s your work to call it in, to imagine it, to see it, to be open and excited about this wonderful new part of your journey.
Frustrated: Why did this happen? Is there a higher purpose for why this has occurred?
Council: Of course there’s a higher purpose. It’s your higher self that wants to go forward, that you’ve planned in spirit other things you want to do. So of course there’s a higher purpose, and guess who created it? You did. You created it in spirit. Remember that you are a spirit, that you create everything that happens, and move towards what you want.
Bob: It sounds like you’re saying that the higher self of A Frustrated Worker has created one direction and the higher self of the colleague maybe created another direction.
Council: Everyone has created their own direction. What’s important here is the direction you want to go in. How does it feel in the situation you are in? Is it satisfactory to you? Does it bring you joy? If not, follow your feelings. There’s something new, there’s something different. These other people have created what they want and they’ll go in their direction. And so it’s just for you to accept and let flow what’s being presented to you.
Frustrated: I’d really appreciate your insight, as I feel I’m in complete limbo at the moment.
Council: Imagine what you wish for. Start creating with your mind. It’s a wonderful time to do this.
Happiness and blessings to everyone. Enjoy yourself. Find your power. Create happiness every day, even if it’s the littlest bit, because when you’re in the vibration of happiness, you’ll be able to bring into your life at any time what will give you happiness on a longer basis. So have fun with this.
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Have I Met The Person I’ll Marry After My Husband Passed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, and is in response to our post, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?
Momof3: This topic of twin flames and soulmates has been something that’s intrigued me. I’ve often wondered if my late husband is my twin flame or soulmate. I was inseparable from him, but he passed away. I still feel connected with him spiritually and energetically, and it overwhelms me sometimes.
Council: Of course you’re still connected. Just because someone passes into spirit and one is back in the physical reality, there’s no break in the connection.
And so you want to know if this was your soulmate. We’d say, yes, because this soul and you have chosen each other as mates in this particular lifetime. Any two people that come together are soul mates. You decide to spend this life together, or part of this life together, and work things out together. And so you are mates.
We realize many in the physical world think there’s something wonderful, that they must find the one, the soulmate. Anyone you have a relationship with is a soul that’s mated to you for whatever length of time you decide. And so we’d say, yes, and enjoy that, and enjoy the connection you still have with your husband.
Bob: In a recent post you clarified the difference between the terms, twin flame and soulmate.
Council: Yes. This relationship with her husband was not a twin flame. He was another spirit.
Momof3: I’m sure we had a soul contract or past lives together, or maybe I’m just believing these things to have answers and cope with losing him.
Council: The soul contract you speak of is just an agreement that we’ll go into the physical reality and this is what we plan.
Momof3: But since my husband passed, I’ve met other men and had relationships, and I also feel connected to those men. I guess they’ve all come into my life to teach me something. Are they all my soulmates also, or is there just one?
Council: They are soulmates also. They’ve come in to give you the feeling of love that you feel you’ve lost with your husband passing on. And so it’s just a way to experience love. Different ways are available with different people, and that is all agreed upon.
Momof3: I was told that my late husband wasn’t the one I’d spend my life with and that my true soulmate or twin flame would come after him.
Council: There’s such an emphasis in your reality about this true soulmate. We’ll say again, anyone that you’re in a relationship with is a soulmate. So yes, it’s true you didn’t spend this entire reality with your husband. There will be others. There will be as many as you wish to create. You can get tired of creating many other mates, and then you may create the one that fills your desire for what you want a soulmate to be. And that’s how it works.
Momof3: Of course I never thought that would be true and I’d lose him.
Council: Nothing has been lost. It’s important to remember that. The connection is there and you can still speak to your husband and he’ll speak to you. You only need to be quiet and to believe, and you’ll see the answers.
Momof3: I wonder if I’ve met this person I’d marry now.
Council: We don’t see that yet. And yet if someone comes along and you really want this person to be your forever partner, you can create it that way. It’s so important to remember that you are the creator.
So as you go about your life and the people you pull in to meet, see which one fits perfectly to what you want. And then you’ll create that reality that you’ll be together, and how long you’ll be together.
Momof3: I’ve had a love relationship that recently ended, and I’m trying not to get involved in another one too soon.
Council: It’s all up to you.
Momof3: But I feel like there are connections with people I meet. In particular, there’s a man I’m dating, I’ll call him, J, but I don’t want to make the same mistakes of past relationships.
Council: There’s no rush. Take your time. Enjoy this relationship. See it the way you want it. Focus on the way you want it to be, and that is what you’ll create.
Momof3: I do believe all these friendships and meetings are to teach me something and help me heal, and for me to help J, as well.
Council: It’s to teach you that you are the creator.
Momof3: In helping J, I feel healing, but I feel that I’m searching for my soulmate and I feel incomplete.
Council: That’s because of the belief you have. So now remember that anyone who comes into your life can fit the bill of being your soulmate. And while no one is perfect, whoever comes into your life, there’s always some sort of agreement, I will teach you this, you will teach me that. We’ll go through certain things.
And so, do not expect the perfect soulmate to be a perfect physical human being. That’s not what you’re here for.
Bob: How would you address this feeling that Momof3 has about feeling incomplete?
Council: Because many come into this reality with the belief – and they are here to change this belief – that they are not complete, that you have to have the soulmate to be complete, that you have to have the twin soul to be complete. That isn’t true. You are complete. You are everything that you have ever been in every life. Every answer that you need to every question is within you.
The way to create whatever it is that you want in this life is up to you. You can change it day by day by what you want. And just by focusing on it the life around you will change. It’s all up to you. No one will come along and do it. It’s all up to you.
Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying that the feeling Momof3 has that she’s incomplete comes from a belief that she needs someone outside of herself to complete her. And it sounds like you’re suggesting that’s not true.
Council: Exactly.
Momof3: Then there’s my oldest son. We’re so alike, but we also butt heads a lot. I feel like he hates me and loves me, and it’s a difficult relationship. Is he from my past lives? And does he have to work out things with me from these past lives?
Council: Yes, you know your son from before, but what’s going on now is that you’re here to learn that you have given birth to this soul. You have agreed to bring this soul into this reality. You’ve only agreed to give him entry. You do not control him. You don’t own him. You’re here to watch how he grows, to learn from what he goes through, and to be as understanding as you can.
The way to love him is to let him be himself. Yes, there are times your child will hate you. There are times your child will love you. But when you show love and you allow this child to be whatever he needs to be, and to work on whatever he needs to work on, it will all turn around. And because you show love and acceptance, you’ll receive that same love and acceptance.
Momof3: How can I have a loving relationship with him, or do I just let him be and concentrate on myself?
Council: Of course let him be, but show him love. Show him when you’re disappointed, when you feel maybe his actions are hurtful, but allow him to be. And whenever he does something you don’t approve of, we would end the conversation with the words: I love you, and I’ll allow you to go through whatever you need to go through. Those words will change so much.
Have patience. Just remember you’re not here to control. You’re not here to boss this person around and have things done the way you want. Watch him with curiosity. What is he learning? What is he going through? And what am I learning from it? There’s great growth on both parts when you can look at things this way. And all will be well.
Momof3: Maybe I’m just trying to find answers to feelings and emotions I feel towards men that I can’t explain. Maybe it’s just me being lonely and simply wanting to be loved and to love like it was with my husband. But I feel lost and confused, and I feel like I’m constantly searching for my other half.
Council: You are your other half. What we wish you to do now is to focus on what it is that you want, and know that you can have this.
Momof3: I try to hold back my emotions and feelings because I know I’m vulnerable and just looking to be loved like I was with my husband.
Council: And so your thoughts would be: I am strong. I am a creator. I had a wonderful time with this person that was my husband and I want more of it. And so now I’ll create it. Now I’ll bring someone else in.
You are not lost. You are not a victim. You are now a creator. Think of what we just said, how the feeling is so much different from the way you think about your situation. Come from a place of power and know you can do this.
Momof3: But it’s difficult because I feel when I don’t listen to my heart and emotions, I feel anxious, unbalanced, and overwhelmed.
I’d love to know if I’ve already met the person I was told I’d eventually marry, and who it is, or his name.
Council: You have not finished creating yet.
Momof3: Or if that was something just made up.
Council: We ask you to focus. Do not go so much from what others tell you, but know yourself. We can say over and over again, you are the creator. Picture it. Feel the way you want your life to be. Picture yourself married again and having a wonderful life. See it. Every time you can, see it and feel it, and it has to come to you. But you must take this place of power and understanding of who you really are and make this happen, because you can.
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What Was My Past Life In Lemuria Like?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, A Lemurian.
Lemurian: I was told in a past life reading that I was a healer from Lemuria, and I’m a Pleiadian. I was also told I had a twin flame relationship with someone in the Pleiades who lives on Alcyone (a star in the Pleiades). I’d like to find out more about this and what my life was like in Lemuria.
Council: In Lemuria the teachings were about healing, oneness, honoring each other, and meditation. You learned how to use your mind to exist and to create what you needed. There was a peaceful atmosphere and there were always positive thoughts. There were times when you’d get together in groups and meditate in temples. And you taught little children about energy and thoughts.
The healing you performed wasn’t so much physical, but with your mind. When you experienced things that were upsetting or things that caused you to be anxious, you knew in that life how to change this, what to meditate on, and what part of the body to focus on. That’s the healing you did in Lemuria.
Lemurian: What was my family like in Lemuria?
Council: Everyone was family in Lemuria. That’s how they existed. Everyone worked together. Everyone learned from each other and cared for each other. There was the experience of unity and oneness. Have you created that here with your family? With your friends? In Lemuria that brought you great joy.
Coming in at this time in your current lifetime, because of what’s going on, in spirit you chose to come here now and to learn again how to focus, how to be positive, and how to be one with your family and friends.
We suggest that in your meditations or quiet time, you go with the elements of nature. That would feel familiar to you. Go within your heart and find that peaceful feeling that you had in Lemuria. It’s there. When you find it and you experience that oneness, that feeling of love for everyone that you’ve created in your life, you wanted to share that feeling and show it, not so much in what you say, but in how you treat yourself and others.
Lemurian: Can I meet my twin flame in my next lifetime, and what was he like?
Council: Your twin flame can be met in your next lifetime if that’s what you want. And because you’re in the midst of creating it, you’ll pick the way you meet, how important that person is in your life, if that person stays with you, or if that person comes into your life only for a while. Will this person turn out to be a parent or a teacher, or a friend? You’ll create that.
You can begin now by thinking about how you’ll want the relationship to be. With your thoughts, see how your meeting will be and live it now. Go into those thoughts and experience them and feel them as if you’re living them now, and you’ll draw them to you.
But wanting to meet this twin soul will come about if, when you create that life, you want that to be. You may want that now instead of in the next life. It’s all up to you.
Lemurian: Can The Council give me any information regarding this twin flame?
Council: Take that feeling of being positive, and no matter what you face and what you experience, when you focus on these feelings, you’ll bring them to you now and your life will improve. The feelings within you will exist with more happiness with what you create. Take all of that and use it in this lifetime. And when others see your attitude becoming gentle and having an acceptance of everything that happens, that’s how you’ll teach others in your current lifetime.
We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, and the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them. We send you the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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Is Mom’s Dog, Waylon, Our Deceased Dog, Papi?
This post answers questions for a reader named, Virgo Rising.
Virgo Rising: A few months ago I asked The Council about my deceased dog, Papi, and whether or not he’d reincarnate again to either me or my Mom. You confirmed that he’s come back to my Mom before, and that my Mom’s childhood dog, Tippy, was Papi’s spirit. But you didn’t know what his current plans were, and if he was going to come back to either of us again.
Council: At this time he won’t return to you. There’s a new dog in this environment. These little souls are trying to teach you what you wanted, which was to see love everywhere.
It’s wonderful to think or hope that when a dog comes it’s a reincarnation of another dog we’ve had. But what you’re not seeing here is that it doesn’t have to be a reincarnation for a dog to be loving and to have similar personalities. The lesson for these dogs is to bring love in. They want to be accepted for the way they are.
There are new animal spirits that want to come to you and your mother and be part of your lives. And they want to teach you to open up and to love other animals that you haven’t had before. Love is a great thing. These animals are here to teach you to love who they are and to know they’re different. Isn’t it wonderful to have more spirits come to you? Animals that want to be loved, want to teach you to love, and there doesn’t have to be any ties to them being with you before.
Virgo: Since I asked that question about Papi, my Mom got a new puppy named, Waylon. She swears that Waylon is either Papi or another dog she had in her current lifetime because of the strong connection she has with him. I’m not as convinced this puppy is Papi reincarnated because Waylon’s personality is nothing like Papi’s personality.
Council: Sometimes when a dog comes back they have completely different personalities, but we would say this is not Papi reincarnated. Waylon is brand new to you and your mother.
Virgo: My Mom says she thinks it could be Papi though because Tippy and Papi’s personalities were different, yet they ended up being the same spirit.
Council: Can you love animals with different personalities? They don’t have to be the same. Can you give love to new spirit animals that come to you? That’s the choice. That’s the lesson here.
Virgo: My question is: Is Waylon, Papi reincarnated.
Bob: And you said he’s not.
Council: Correct.
Virgo: And if he’s Papi, does he remember the life he had before with me and my Mom when he was Papi? Or do dogs lose their memories of their previous lives when they incarnate the same way humans do?
Council: When some animals come back to families, they remember. The bond is so strong that the human spirit and the animal spirit will choose to experience each other again. But like humans, many animals just come in, and they come in with love, to show love, and to receive love.
Virgo: If Wayon isn’t Papi, is he another dog or pet that either of us knows from this lifetime?
Council: (laughing) No, he’s not Papi. Waylon is new. Show him love.
Virgo: If Waylon’s not Papi, is there a way to manifest Papi reincarnating again because both of us miss him very much?
Council: Focus on the new spirit. With your mind you can put it out there that past dogs would come back, but that’s not what you wished to do in this lifetime. There are so many animals that need homes and that need love. Can you appreciate what you had in these past animals that you’ve had and allow them to move on? Perhaps they can become more than an animal if that’s where they are.
Can you open your heart to the new ones? This is all about growth. This is all about expanding the love. It’s always good to give a home to an animal that needs it. It’s good for you. The animal will bring out many positive things in you. And it’s certainly good for the dog. The lesson here is expansion.
You don’t need to go backward. You need to move forward. Expand the love to other souls. The animals you’ve had in the past will be around you. They never go far. The lesson here is to expand.
Virgo: It’s weird, but I almost feel like Papi is more than an animal. I feel like he’s part of me and my Mom’s soul group. I even had a dream once where a guide told me Papi was part of my oversoul. I don’t know if that’s true or not. Maybe I interpreted the dream the wrong way, but it wouldn’t surprise me if he was because he never felt like just an animal. He feels more like a human, as crazy and ridiculous as that sounds.
Council: At this point focus on the future. Focus on moving forward. Focus on expanding. The love you’ve received from these animals before is still with you, and they are still with you.
What you need to understand is these little souls want you to move forward and want you to help other little souls that come to you. That is your purpose. Your purpose was to experience strong connections and strong feelings of love. Now pass it on.
There was a movie named, Pay It Forward. Take what you’ve received and now look for others that need your love. Pay it forward.
And so we send you blessings in every area that you need them. And we remind you that you all are a blessing in your current reality.
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Will My Children Ever Feel Good In School?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kati.
Kati: Dear Council, please help. Will my children ever feel good at school? My 10-year-old struggles academically due to attention issues, but does great socially, though the environment is lively and distracting, which doesn’t help his attention issues.
Council: First we’ll like to say this child is an Indigo child, and the attention problem the school would see is because he’s very curious and will get bored easily. Subconsciously the Indigo children know they have great things to do and to change when they are here. That’s what’s going on with that child right now.
This is nothing to worry about. Don’t fall into the system’s way of thinking there’s something wrong with him. Indigo children learn at their own pace. They make friends when they’re ready. They’ll search for the right kind of people, they’ll search for the right kind of information, and they don’t want to waste their time. This is part of what an Indigo child goes through.
There’s no need to worry here. You’ll see by watching this child what motivates him, what his interests are, and how he works through his problems.
Kati: My 8-year-old struggles socially, hasn’t made a good friend in school in three years, hates going to school, but does great academically.
Council: Do you see the opposites with these two souls? They’ve agreed to come in and they know each other from one or more previous lives. They’d be examples to each other so that one would learn from the other, and learn how to balance themselves out. It’s a wonderful path they’ve chosen to come on.
There’s a learning process for you, but they’re here to definitely help each other to be examples. As they get older they’ll figure out what they want. There could be a time when one is jealous of the other, but that’s fine. The relationship will evolve. They’re here to be examples and to help each other in their current reality.
Kati: We are considering switching schools to a small private religious school, though we’re not of that faith, or homeschooling, but those are upheavals as well. Is it worth the financial strain to send them to private school?
Council: No, not at all. They’ll still have their issues to face. And why disturb what they’re going through now, where they’d have to start again with the feelings, and being bored, or not having friends. It’s to your children’s benefit that you do not change their schooling habits and where they learn.
Kati: Would my children be happy doing homeschooling?
Council: That wouldn’t help either.
Kati: In addition to feeling like we’re constantly struggling with their individual school issues…
Council: And that’s understood, but just sit back and watch, and encourage them in any way you can.
Most of all it’s important that your children feel accepted no matter how they are, and to feel loved by you. Show your children love. Show your children acceptance. These are tools that will help them grow.
Kati: Mass shootings in the news make me fear that school is no longer a safe place for kids.
Council: And at this point it isn’t safe. But in your current reality, all of this is happening because a great change is wanted. All the souls here have allowed this to come in to learn from it and take their power. And parents, as well as all adults, have a lot of power that they’re looking to find right now, and to change the circumstances into the kind of world that’s wanted.
Every single soul that’s in this reality at this time came in to find out whatever the problem is, and to face these problems in large groups, or individually, and to change these problems and bring love into every situation.
But we do understand your fear. Meditate on things being wonderful. Meditate on how you’d like things to be. See that in your mind. Focus on that.
You’ll find that thoughts are very powerful. Stay in the positive.
Kati: The whole topic of school feels so intense and it’s been a struggle for four years. Do you have any insights as to why we’ve struggled so much, and if there’s a better option for our family? I don’t want to live in fear anymore, and I don’t want to be weary of the subject of school anymore.
Council: As crazy as this may sound, you did choose to experience fear, and so did everyone else in your current reality. Either you fall victim to this fear, or you use your mind and your energy to not accept this fear.
Now focus on what you want. When you focus, the vibration changes, and then everything around you changes. That’s how your current reality works.
Do the work. Go inward. Focus. Visualize, and you’ll see the change begin.
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Help Me With My 3-Year Relationship With A Lying Drug Addict
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carovana.
Carovana: I’m in a 3-year relationship with a drug addict, but the real problem is that he constantly lies.
Council: What have you learned about this drug addict and his lying? How do you handle this? Are you trying to change this person? You can’t do that. Can you be more understanding? Yes, you can understand, but there’s a time when you need to just watch this person and let them be who they are and then decide what you’ll do with this knowledge.
Carovana: He wants to appear different from what he really is, what he really does, and what he thinks. He twists facts and reality for his own benefit, and no matter how smart I am, he continues to try and deceive me.
Council: Are you tiring yourself out by trying to show this person you’re really smart and you know what he’s doing? We’d suggest you just let this person be, and then decide if you want to be around him. That’s all. You won’t change this person.
Carovana: I developed panic attacks due to the frequent state of restlessness and anxiety in which I’m thrown by his behavior, and we constantly fight. He doesn’t act this way solely to cover his drug abuse. His game spreads much wider and deeper. He’s also obscenely incoherent. His words go South and his actions go North.
Council: You can stay with this man if you can understand how he is and not believe what he says. Offer love and understanding. But to be in the relationship and saying to yourself, “I must show him that I know what’s going on, I must show him that I’m smart,” that’s not the purpose of this relationship.
The purpose of this relationship is to allow someone to be. It’s for you to allow others, and not just this person, but look at the years when you were growing up with your friends and family. Did you allow them just to be and then learn from it? And did this allow you to be just as you want to be, being in a place of love and peacefulness? Can you do that for yourself?
This was your mission, so to speak, in your current lifetime. Just to accept everyone and what they’re doing, and sending love and light to them to help them grow. But not to forcefully try to show them, “I know what you’re doing. You can’t fool me,” and tire yourself out. It’s just the purpose of being there, and most of all, just being yourself. That’s what this relationship is supposed to teach you.
When you see that someone is really one way and pretending to be another, do you do that? Do you do that to please people and to have them think of you differently? It’s a mirror effect. And so we say, just allow.
Carovana: The reason I stayed in this relationship so long is that another side of him, very prominent, is that he’s incredibly loving and sweet. He chose me as the woman of his life, tells me I’m the woman of his dreams, and is extremely attached and devoted to me. It’s almost morbid. This makes it really difficult to break up with him and in fact, all my attempts have failed. I’m also in a very lonely phase of my life so I lack the social support and the favorable environment that would make it easier to move on.
I can’t explain or comprehend this duality in him. He lost his mother when he was nine years old, but it’s not a good excuse to act this way now that he’s 36 years old. I hope The Council can shed some light on him, on us, and on me. I’d be very thankful.
Council: There are lessons for this man to learn, starting with his childhood and moving into adulthood. Not feeling safe enough for him to be who he really wants to be, he doesn’t know how, the role model wasn’t there, and the understanding of just being wasn’t there. Instead he chose to pretend because there’s no acceptance of himself.
With you there, if you can accept this man the way he is, you are the role model. You’re the role model by setting your boundaries, by not believing everything that’s said, but by understanding that everything that’s said is out of fear and nonacceptance of yourself. Once you can do that and not knock yourself out to understand it or change this person, it will change, because now you’re looking at it differently. And when you look at something differently, it will change.
See the relationship the way you want it to be. First concentrate on yourself. Accept yourself, and then look around you, and not at just this person, but others that come in and out of your life. And when you learn you have choices, you have the ability to bring into your life what you want. When you focus on that, it must happen.
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What Can You Tell Me About The Tension In My Husband’s And Son’s Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kristi, after she read our post, Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
Kristi: Great post on family dynamics. This raises a couple questions of my own that I’d like to ask The Council.
My husband and I have a great relationship and we’ve been married 20 years this November. My husband treats me like any woman would ever want to be treated, and I have almost no complaints in this department. I’m so very thankful for him.
We have one child together, a son who’s 18 years old. My husband’s and my son’s relationship is a strained one, unfortunately. My husband sets extremely high standards for our son, which are often unattainable. And even if they were attainable, my husband wouldn’t be happy then either. I feel like my son could wrangle the moon and my husband wouldn’t care.
When standards aren’t met, a child often feels like they’re not good enough and I see this playing out before me. My son is a sweet guy, very smart, and stays out of trouble, but he has low self-esteem.
My husband makes no attempt to foster a close relationship with our son. We all live together in the same house, but my husband and son can go without talking to each other for weeks at a time. And when they do talk to each other, it’s usually my husband telling my son what he hasn’t done properly.
Council: This is so wonderful. We have such advice for you. We see it so clearly.
Your husband and son were husband and son in a previous lifetime. In that lifetime they were wonderful together. Whatever your son did, your husband praised him. Everything was okay and everything went along beautifully.
At the end of that life, your son said to his dying father, “I wish I could have done more. I wish you would have pushed me more so that I could have given you more, and so that I could have become more in this lifetime.”
And so, in the wonderful past life they experienced together, both wished they had done more. Your son wished he’d become more. Your husband wished he didn’t settle for what your son was in that past life, and he wished he did push your son more.
So going back into spirit they asked each other if they wanted to try this again, but this time the son wanted the father to push him. The son wanted to become so much more in the new life they create. Whatever way the father can find to push the son, to get him to do more, to not settle, the son wants the father to do that with him.
That will be our lesson, to become more as a father and be even more proud of his son than he was. And the son wants to be important. He wants to feel that. He doesn’t want to feel there’s so much more he could have done. He wants to know there’s a strong father behind him that won’t let him settle.
And so your husband creates a family where there weren’t good role models for him to follow. He becomes a stern father who, out of love, whether he can admit that or not, isn’t going to settle for what your son does, no matter how good it is. He’ll ignore your son and not give him any confidence or any hurrahs for what he does. And this is your husband’s way of pushing your son to want his father’s attention, and to want more, and more, and more.
The most wonderful little book for you to read is, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, by Neale Donald Walsch, about two angels. One angel asks the other angel to come back into a new life, and if the first angel does something mean to the second angel, can the second angel still remember the first angel is a soul and forgive him. We suggest you read that book. That’s exactly what’s going on with your husband and your son.
They’re being tough with each other, but underneath they want so much more for each other. Your husband wants to leave this life thinking he was a wonderful father, and he pushed his son so much that, look what his son accomplished. And your son wants to think at the end of this life, my father never complimented me enough, he pushed me and pushed me, but I see it now, it was out of love because look at what I’ve become.
Bob: Is it a good idea for the son or the father to read, The Littlest Soul and the Sun, as well?
Council: They may not be open to it, but I’d leave the book around and see who gets drawn to it first and who reads it. It’s perfect for what’s going on, and it’s the wife’s job not to judge or step in because she can’t fix this. This is between your husband and your son. They’ll find a way. Their lessons and challenges in this reality is to find a way to come back to love. That’s the reason we’re all here, to come back to the state of love.
Bob: Was the father in this life the father in the past life, and the son in this life the son in the past life?
Council: Yes. And so they brought that role into their current life to work it through.
Kristi: I try to step in and talk to my husband about how difficult he’s being, but he doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from.
Council: Yes, he doesn’t understand, not at this time.
Kristi: He’s not abusive at all, but he doesn’t offer the love and acceptance a parent should provide.
Council: You provide love and acceptance to your husband and your son for the way they are. Always send them light so they can find a way to work out this challenge they wanted to go through in this lifetime, and they’ll find the path that will bring them to the state of love.
Kristi: My husband’s father was absent most of my husband’s life, so my husband didn’t have the best role model for parenting. Whereas I had the best father in the world and I only want the same thing for my son. I’d love for them to have a better relationship, but I understand this isn’t my battle. I’d love more insight into their dynamic, whether or not this was planned in spirit before coming to this Earthly plane, and why?
Council: It was definitely planned. And their higher selves know why they created this situation, what they’re trying to do, and will take them along their path until they understand and find a way to bring more love into their lives.
Kristi: Do you see my husband’s and son’s relationship getting better with time?
Council: It can always get better, but they are the creators. The best thing you can do is to accept what they create. They can create a change in a year if they want, or it could take 20 years. You must let them go through whatever it is they need to see, understand, and feel, and they’ll find a way.
Kristi: What can I do to help this situation?
Council: Send love, and have fun watching your husband’s and your son’s journey.
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Why Don’t I Have A Good Relationship With My Mother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ilona, who asks about her relationship with her mother.
Ilona: I experienced difficulties that were a great challenge for me from the time I was young. My mother always perceived me negatively and didn’t show me as much love as my two sisters.
Council: You set this experience up yourself in spirit. From the very beginning you wanted to learn the lesson of independence, the lesson of accepting others for who they are, you wanted to learn about boundaries, and you wanted to learn how to let go of things and move your life in the direction you wanted. As a young child you began to have feelings that perhaps you weren’t good enough, feeling you weren’t accepted, and so your path began.
Ilona: I’d like to know why my mother doesn’t need me in her life? Why is she pushing me away? Did I hurt her in any way?
Council: There’s nothing you’ve done to hurt your mother, but in spirit, before you came into this reality, you and your mother set up the kind of relationship you’re having. What feels to you like your mother is pushing you away was an agreement you made with her so that your life would be difficult and you’d have to be stronger. And in finding your strength you’d feel very proud of yourself.
In 2020 my mother had a stroke, and in the first few months I felt like our relationship was getting better. That was until my youngest sister moved in with her. Since then my relationship with my mother has been tested again.
Council: Go back to this time when your mother had her stroke and you thought your relationship was improving. How did you feel about this? How do you remember this time? This is the feeling you’re looking for again, but you set it up so you’d feel this way whether you had your mother’s approval or not. This was a taste to remind you of what you were looking for, and then it was taken away. This was all your choice on a spiritual level.
Ilona: After my youngest sister moved in, my mother doesn’t respond to my messages, and doesn’t want to talk to me when my sister isn’t there. I suspect my sister doesn’t want me to have a nice relationship with my mother and only wants to keep my mother to herself.
Council: Whether this is what your sister wants or not, how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? It’s up to you to make up your mind and go in the direction of what you want to happen. It’s a lot of work to look at this relationship and decide if this is what you want. Is it too difficult? Or can you look at it and learn your lesson and feel good about yourself, whether you have your mother’s or your sister’s approval or closeness with them.
What can you find about yourself that makes you feel good? Is it somewhere else in a different relationship? Can you accept what your mother and sister do, send them love, and let go? If you can’t send love, can you just let go? Because what you’re looking for isn’t to be found in this relationship. This relationship is to get you to look more at yourself, to find out about yourself and the kind of person you are, what you’ll allow, and what you won’t allow. It’s about boundaries. The bottom line is you’re supposed to learn about yourself, love yourself, and feel good about what you accept, and what you don’t accept.
We’re not sent to Earth to suffer and feel horrible. We’re sent here to look at these lessons and to find a way of dealing with them, whether letting it go to make you feel good, or whether it’s pushing forward to see what you can do. When you realize you can’t change another person, can you accept them for who they are? See them and speak to them when you feel like it, or completely walk away. These are all decisions you wish to make. You wish to take your life in the direction you find more comfortable and more loving for yourself.
Ilona: Why is my youngest sister so manipulative?
Council: It’s the part she chose to play and that you both set up and agreed to in spirit. So if she’s manipulative, do you want this in your life? Do you wish to fight against this? Or can you accept your sister for who she is and know that she has her own lessons to learn from this kind of behavior? And then not focus on how manipulative she is, but how – now that you see it – that’s something you don’t want around you, and move forward appropriately.
Ilona: What can I do to improve my relationship with my mother?
Council: Always send your mother and your sister the energy of love, whether you understand them or not. And decide to be there for them when they want you to be there, or completely let go. You must make the decision. Remember you can’t change another person. You can accept them for what they’re doing because you don’t know what they’re trying to learn in their reality. Focus on yourself and what you want, and move in that direction.
Ilona: Is there any hope for me?
Council: There’s always hope. On an energetic level you can picture them changing. Picture them calling you. Picture them asking you to meet with them. You must do the work on an energetic level first. You can do this if it’s what you want, but you first have to decide what you want. Work energetically with them and you’ll see the change begin to happen. There’s nothing you can do physically in your reality to get them to change. You can see the change happen when you constantly focus on how you want your life to be.
Ilona: Is there anything I should know right now?
Council: The most important thing is to concentrate on yourself. See how your relationship with your mother and sister is going. Decide what you want. Do you want a relationship? Do you not want it? Then work energetically. Even if you decide it’s not what you want, picture your relationship going in different ways, but happily. Imagine they’re happy without you in their lives and you’re happy without them in your life. Always come from a place of love, letting go, and everyone feeling the happiness and joy that’s intended when you learn lessons.
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What Can I Do About My Son’s Anger Toward His Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says, I’ve been working on my relationship with my young son. In many ways it has improved and he seems to walk through the world with less anger. However, he still seems to have an enormous amount of anger and jealousy toward his younger brother. This is causing a lot of tension in our family and makes it difficult to trust him. Will his anger and jealousy ever go away?
The Council says his anger and jealousy will go away in time if he handles the challenge he’s set up for himself in spirit. Then this will change. At this particular time there is a jealousy of the younger brother, and this is normal in many families. And yet your son has brought in grudges from a few lifetimes, of feeling ignored, abandoned, and feeling that in these other lifetimes he wasn’t treated properly.
The way your son set up this lifetime was that he wanted to be the star attraction, and now having a younger brother, he doesn’t feel that way. There’s a lot of chaos going on and emotions that he doesn’t quite understand right now. He only knows that he isn’t very fond of his younger brother.
It’s good for you to have lots of patience at this time. The only thing you can do is show love, but there are also times where discipline is needed. What’s wanted here is equal attention between the two brothers so that the older son would see that his younger brother was special, and so was he.
Your problem son has to come to terms with being in this reality. If he wants to be a star or to have lots of attention, the way to get this attention is by finding something he loves and developing that talent, not by putting fear and worry in others, and by negative behavior. You have to find a way to show discipline, and also show love at the same time.
Anonymous asks, Is there anything I can do to alleviate this anger and jealousy? The Council says you have to remember that he is the creator. Even though he and you don’t understand what’s going on at this time, he set it up this way in spirit so he can find himself, and find the kind of person he really wants to be. By allowing him to be himself, by allowing him to learn about discipline and about being kind to others, that’s the way you help your son find the path he’s looking for.
Anonymous asks, Where does this anger and jealousy come from? The Council says it comes from other lifetimes where he felt ignored and he was disciplined improperly and unfairly. Your son has gone through lives where he was punished for things he did, and things he didn’t do. In one of these lives your son was thrown out as a very young child around nine years old. This is all in the subconscious, which is stirring up feelings that are confusing him. He doesn’t know how to let go of these hurt feelings from other times.
With patience, discipline, and showing love to both boys in front of each other, showing the younger son the love you have for the older son, and showing the older son the love you have for the younger son, showing kindness, and showing understanding, that’s how you teach and help him find his way.
Anonymous says, In the past The Council suggested I go to therapy, and I have. It’s been okay, but I honestly can’t seem to cultivate a sense of calm and peace in our family. My son is very resistant to any sort of calming technique like meditation and breathing. He prefers to laugh maniacally and endlessly pick on his little brother.
The Council says, When your son laughs maniacally, how do you handle it? Do you become angry? Do you become fearful? Instead, there’s a way you can just look at your son, with your eyes show him love, but immediately turn and walk away. Do not feed it or ask him why he’s doing this. Walk away and he’ll have to deal with what he’s done.
Anonymous says, I’m very open to any perspective or suggestions from The Council. The Council says it’s like we’ve said before, love is the answer, but so is understanding, and so is allowing your son to become who he wants to become. At this time it takes a lot of patience on your part. There’s a lot of unnecessary behavior going on. Know that while this is going on that you won’t condone it, but you won’t fight it and have long discussions about it either. When this behavior comes up, look kindly, but then turn and walk away. This will be unexpected, and that will help him find another way of thinking about what’s going on.
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Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.
The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.
When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.
And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.
At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.
When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.
Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.
Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.
Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.
Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.
Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.
If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.
Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.
Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other. Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.
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Requesting Guidance for a Never-Ending Divorce
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy. She says it’s a full year since I asked The Council about my divorce and it’s as if time has stood still. My divorce is no further along than it was then. I’ve tried everything to move the divorce forward, but my husband is intent on going to trial, and he has so much to lose. The challenges he’s faced with emotional abuse and substance abuse will now play out publicly in court and it’s possible he might lose custody of our children.
The Council says this is the way your husband wants the divorce to go. How would you like the divorce to go? If you put the thought in your mind that your husband is intent on going in the direction of court, does it bring up fear? Does it bring up frustration? Or are you satisfied with this and think we’ll go to trial, but I know his behavior and abuse will come out and the trial will go in my favor?
Find thoughts that bring you satisfaction and joy. The timing of when your divorce is finalized doesn’t matter. What will make the divorce move forward is if you take your thoughts away from frustration and appreciate your life. Go about your business and do what you want with your children and know that this divorce will eventually happen when you accept the way it’s going and know for sure, without a doubt in your mind, that everything will come out okay for you and your children.
Your husband has his lessons to go through. At this point your lesson is to accept what’s going on. Don’t think of the divorce as a battle and you’re going to war. Your husband is bringing on this challenge. You can accept it with peace in your mind and things will turn out in your favor.
Amy says, Losing custody of our children isn’t what I wanted for my husband, but he watches TV all day long and on TV you don’t see reasonable people gracefully dismantling their lives with their children at the center. I feel I’ve been fair and I’ve tried to settle this divorce fairly and quietly for the sake of our children, but there’s something blocking this divorce. The Council says the block is what you and your husband have come together to do and the lesson to be learned in it. You may not realize that spiritually your husband may have decided he wants to lose his children and learn what that’s about. You don’t have to know the reason, or what your husband is creating. This will show itself to you.
Amy says, We still live together, I still support him, and he refuses to work. The Council asks Amy why her husband should work if she lets him live with her and supports him? This doesn’t seem sensible. If you want to keep him living in your home and supporting him, that’s fine, but know you’re agreeing to this. You’re allowing this to happen. If you want something different you’d handle the situation differently.
Amy says, I can see so clearly what my life looks like with my children when I get to the other side of this divorce. I’ve deepened my relationship with myself over the last year and I’m anxiously awaiting the change and the experience it will bring to my family overall. The Council reminds Amy to do the inner work, keep seeing the pages of a calendar flying by, and the time has passed and your divorce is happening.
Amy says, I’ve been getting ready to get ready, as Abraham-Hicks teaches, and I feel good. It’s surprising to most people that I feel no animosity toward my husband. The Council says this is wonderful because animosity isn’t necessary and that in spirit you both created this situation.
Amy says, Our life is far more peaceful than it ever was before, living without the emotion and intensity our marriage held. We’re co-parents living in the same house and it feels a little like a dress rehearsal. The Council says without saying too much about your husband, some of what he’s created is to go through life easily and have things done for him. What he’s creating and will continue to create is to have people come into his life and make it easier.
Amy says, I’ve recently come to the point where I stopped trying to control the outcome and I’ve even given up on the timeline for the divorce. Right now I get to be with my children every day while the divorce works itself out and I’m grateful for every minute with them in the same house. Having said that, it’s time for me to move on. I feel a strong pull towards something else and I have no idea what that is. This is exciting – nervous excitement. There’s not another love interest or even a thought of one, or a friend or a family member pulling me along so I know this is a different calling.
The Council says it’s wonderful that you’ve stopped trying to control the outcome. This is the way to make the divorce happen. Stay in that feeling of excitement. Stay in the feeling of being pulled toward something new and wonderful. Even if you don’t know what you’re excited about, stay in that excited, happy feeling.
Amy says the universe takes care of my husband. Life just happens for him. He just seems to walk through life carelessly without consequences. No matter how badly he treats people or screws up, someone picks up the slack. It’s as if you can see him being carried. I know we all have a higher power watching over us. It’s just easy to see with my husband that he’s always taken care of no matter how bad his behavior is or how much he alienates friends and family. The Council says this isn’t any part of what you need to experience. He’ll go through all the emotions and all the experience he needs on his path.
Amy says, I can’t be the person I’ve been for my husband anymore. I need to move on, but I feel a block and I can’t seem to clear it. The Council says there isn’t any block. Think of the divorce moving forward. You’re on the correct path. All that you wish, if you continue to focus on it, will come to you. Let go of the time factor. It’s not necessary. Stay in a vibration of happiness and love and you’ll see your divorce come quickly.
The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, and understanding, and realizing there are many lives you’ve experienced and many more you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. When you’re happy, you’ll see the connections that are being made. There will be more understanding. Stay in that feeling of joy.
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How Can I Help This Man With His Commitment Issues?
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Unicorn, to our post, Why Has This Man In My Life Become So Distant? Unicorn says, I’d love to know how I can help this man with commitment issues, but I have no idea how to. His behavior has turned 360° and I think he’s met someone else and hasn’t been honest with me.
The Council says there are several relationships this man goes in and out of. But you’re helping him with his commitment issues by understanding them, then letting them go, and allowing this man to be who he needs to be. Forcing him to face these commitment issues doesn’t help this situation. Now that you know there are these commitment issues, you can’t force this. You can only accept the situation, wish this man well, and see how he moves along his path.
The Council says it’s always Unicorn’s choice to know she’s unable to heal what this man is going through regarding commitment. You can only be in this man’s life if you wish to be in his life, but you can’t heal his life. This man has to understand why these issues are going on in his life and he has to decide for himself if he wants to make a change. You see the situation as his commitment issue. It’s upsetting and you want to heal this. This man can be very happy not being committed to one person.
You don’t know the path this man is on. All you can know is, do you wish to be in this man’s life? Do you wish to be his friend? Can you handle this? If you’re only in this man’s life hoping you’ll be able to push him into understanding his commitment issues and he’d have an “ah ha” moment, this isn’t how things works. The choice is yours to be in some sort of relationship or out of it.
Send love into this relationship and watch it grow. Create with your thoughts the way you’d like this relationship to be. Create with your thoughts that whatever this man’s commitment issue is, why it’s there, and where it comes from, you can send light to this man to help him on his path.
Unicorn says, He always called me Unicorn because he never met someone like me before. Then overnight he pretty much became a magician when it comes to communication. He hardly ever communicates with me, but he agrees to see me without being intimate or affectionate when we’d become close in this way months ago. The Council says at this point it’s up to you. Can you deal with this kind of relationship? Is this what you want? Are you comfortable with this? See where the relationship goes and use your thoughts and your feelings to create more. The choice is always yours.
Unicorn says, I’m still confused why this man is happy to see me, but not communicate with me. The Council says he can be happy to see you now and then, when he’s in the mood, and he has nothing else going on. You don’t need to know the reasons why. If there’s happiness when you get together, be in that moment and enjoy it.
Unicorn says, I feel this man pushed his way into my life to cause grief and chaos. The Council says there was no pushing. Your coming together was planned in spirit. You let this man into your life to discover what you need to discover about you, and about how you let this relationship affect you. Moving forward, take your attention off this man and put it on yourself. Why are you in this relationship? Why does it bother you? Why do you stay in this relationship? How does it make you feel? How can you bring joy into this relationship when you’re together? Your purpose is to accept what this relationship is, to bring joy into it, and to appreciate what’s there.
Unicorn says, To be honest, I’m deeply hurt. I’m lost in what to do and need guidance. All I want is the truth to the situation. But if my soul has planned to be in his life to help him heal the issue of commitment, then I’d love to know how I can help. The Council says again, You can accept this person the way they are.
The Council says you’re all so much more than you think you are. You’re all on this wonderful path of growth, understanding, realizing there are many lives that you’ve experienced, and many more that you’ll create when you’re ready. Focus on being the creator. Focus on bringing joy and laughter into your life and everything will come to you. Everything will be shown. When you’re happy you’ll see the connections that are being made in your life. There will be more understanding. And stay in that feeling of joy.
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What’s Going On with My Troublesome Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Peace5, who wants to know about their brother. Peace5 says, He’s almost 23 years old and has been very troublesome lately. I don’t know what’s gotten into him. Even though he has an incurable disease, he stopped taking his medicine, he stopped taking care of himself, and he’s very nasty with me and our whole family, even my 6-year-old son.
The Council suggests trying to find compassion for your brother. Imagine how you’d feel knowing you have an incurable disease. Some people can find a way to work with an incurable disease and have positive thoughts. Others, like your brother, become depressed. Being nasty and stopping his medication is a sign he can’t find hope. He can’t love himself. He’s going through this depression because he’s closed himself off to loving himself and accepting love from others.
We hope your family will be able to find some sort of therapy for your brother that will help with his depression. Once he’s able to have a few positive thoughts, once he’s able to change his lower vibration, hope will come to him and he can have thoughts of helping himself. He can’t cure himself when he’s in the vibration he’s in now. That vibration must be changed.
If it’s at all possible we recommend doing the chakra breathing meditation we recommend in another post. You can do this with him and so can the rest of your family. This meditation will help align his chakras so he can feel better.
Get your brother the first Emmanuel book, by Pat Rodegast and leave it in his room where he can find it, but don’t tell him to read it. Once he’s able to connect with this book and begins to read about depression, illness, dying, and changing his life, it’ll start to put him on the right path.
Peace5 says, My brother takes medical marijuana for his disease, but I believe it’s harming him more than helping him. He’s not interested in anything at all, including looking for a job. All he does is lay around all day long, sleep, and shower four times a day even though he doesn’t go anywhere. He fights with us, curses at us for no apparent reason, and doesn’t speak with us. What’s going on with him and do you think he’ll ever change for the better?
Again The Council asks if you can find it in your heart to feel some compassion for your brother? Try to understand he’s in a difficult place. Can you accept where he is now? Offer him love. Speak with him. Talk with him like he’s a regular person. Don’t tiptoe around him or not say things in front of him. Get excited and share your life with him. Tell him stories. This will be the beginning of your brother feeling cared for.
Don’t force your attention on him, but when you’re around him try to be joyful. If you can be in a joyful vibration it increases the likelihood of your brother becoming joyful. It’s important you’re whole family is very accepting of you’re brother’s situation and condition and forget he has this incurable disease. Forget he’s laying around. Forget he’s doing nothing. Just be nice to your brother and accept who he is.
The Council asks Peace5 to remember you can’t make your brother better. You can be in the right vibration around him. You can speak to him joyfully. Have your brother feel that no matter how he behaves, he’s accepted. Show him by your conversation that you care about him.
At first he probably won’t accept your positive intentions, but we ask you to continue with them anyway. When your brother sees no one is fighting with him, that you accept him, that you allow him to lay around if he wants to, that you don’t preach to him about doing nothing, he’ll eventually get tired of doing these things and begin to raise his vibration and begin to try and find a better way. In doing this and sending him love and light with your thoughts to help him through his difficulties, things will change.
There are many reasons why your brother may have chosen the life he’s currently living. He wants to understand his situation. In the spirit world, where we’ve either experienced a similar life situation in another incarnation, or we’ve seen others go through what we’re going through, we wonder if we can also do that. Can I bring love into that situation? Can I turn that situation around? Do I want to teach things to other people about how to handle this situation and how we all need to reach for love and show love in that situation?
That’s why we choose situations like the one your brother is in. There are many reasons, but the many reasons are unimportant. The main reason is: Am I bringing love into this situation? Am I bringing love and support and positive thoughts to the person who’s going through this difficulty? That’s what’s needed. In spirit we’re all confident we’ll be able to do this. In reality it’s much more difficult. The reason why we came here is to have fun. We came here to face every situation with love. And when you bring love into any situation, it must change.
Bob closes by asking if there’s a possibility of curing this incurable disease. The Council says there’s always this possibility and this, of course, is up to your brother.
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What Can I Do About My 20-Year-Old Son’s Behavior
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine, who’s concerned about her 20-year-old son. He’s finished high school and has done very little with his life since then. He spends most of his days smoking marijuana from early in the morning until late at night. He also believes he has an alcohol addiction. When he was younger he was very outgoing and appeared happy and enthusiastic about life. Now he’s often very aggressive and his reaction to a situation often appears way out of proportion, and he can be very nasty and domineering.
The Council says your son’s behavior appears pre-planned so he can experience not moving forward in his life right now. His escaping with alcohol and marijuana was also pre-planned. His violence and frustration come from being in this place and pre-planning to change it.
Because your son isn’t moving forward to change his behavior, his higher self is trying to drag him in the direction of changing it, whether in the direction of seeking professional help, or going into a group for help, and reading about how he feels – anything taking him in the direction of wanting to change his behavior. He appears to be stuck in his situation and he’s not able yet to take those steps forward to change it. Your son has no understanding of how you’re trying to help or how you might try to speak about these things to him.
The only job you have right now is to let your son be who he is. We realize this could be frustrating and painful for you, but these are experiences and lessons he wanted to have and then to change. When he’s ready he’ll take these steps. You’re there to give your son love and support.
If he complains to you about being an alcoholic or being lazy and not being able to move forward, all you have to do is say, “Okay, what are you going to do about it?” He needs to realize it won’t magically happen. He has to do something about his situation, even if he was to start imagining he felt better or imagining he’s out there traveling the world. Have him imagine whatever it takes to make him behave differently. You can suggest that and then leave his situation alone.
Your job was to bring this soul forward into this life so it could go through whatever it picks to go through and to accept him and love him the way he is.
Christine says when he’s nasty and domineering it’s impossible to speak rationally with him and we’re left feeling totally depleted. He can also be very lazy. Because he’s my son, I feel like I’m responsible in some way. The Council says you’re playing the part that’s needed and he wished for you to play to get him to this point in his current situation.
When you feel frustrated it will help you if you think he’s really into living what he pre-planned. This is wonderful. Let’s let him do what he has to do and we’ll watch as he finds his way out of this situation and how he learns to change it. You aren’t responsible for his behavior. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. You did whatever you were supposed to do to get your son to this point and it’s all up to him now to change it.
Christine says, I felt we were very loving and attentive parents, but I know we weren’t perfect. My other son is very different. I’d appreciate some insight into my son’s behavior and our relationship. The Council says you have two sons. Make sure you offer them both love and support. Be there for both of them, not fine with one and disappointed with the other.
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Do My Current Career Struggles Relate to Job Karma?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Adhvazila, who asks about their professional life. They say, I’ve been struggling on the professional front for quite some time. Does this have anything to do with job karma and will it end any time soon?
The Council says they don’t like to use the word karma. Karma is really just a choice you make. In many of your lives you had it very easy, didn’t have to work, and had no patience for people who lived by standards that weren’t up to yours. In your current life you thought you’d like to experience the difficulty, the struggle, and how to accept it and change it. And that’s where you are right now.
We see you coming out of these career difficulties when you become grateful for the job you have, even if that’s not something that’s easy. Focus on the fact that you are working and that you can support yourself. Show this attitude of gratefulness and then begin to look elsewhere for other jobs. Put out there the kind of work you’d like to do. Show patience and kindness to everyone you meet because of the way you were in other lives. This is what you wanted to express in your current lifetime.
Adhvazila says, There’s a sense of loss of direction and currently my situation is also quite stressful. The Council says when you’re feeling stresssful it’s good to take deep breathes every day. Be grateful for the job you have. If the stress comes from your work or if it comes from the people you work with, be patient and kind and you’ll see the stress reduce.
Adhvazila asks, Will I ever be able to earn a good living in a less stressful environment? The Council’s advice is to love what you have and you’ll come out of the situation you’re in.
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My On/Off Relationship with My Sister-In-Law and Our Past Lives
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, SillyGoose, who’s asking about her relationship with her sister-in-law. She says, I feel like I have a strong connection with her and her husband from past lives. She can sometimes be very kind and sometimes she becomes very rude. I want to stay away from her, but then she manages to pull me back into her life again.
The Council says in a past life you were your sister-in-law’s mother. You were strict and trying to teach her, but she was a rebel in that life. When you handed out punishment you’d then feel guilty. She’d then pull you back in, make you love her, think she’d behave, and then she’d act out again. In your current life, part of her remembers how to pull you in. But there’s true love there between the two of you and your sister-in-law will get clearer on this as time moves on.
Understand this dynamic that’s going on now. If you can laugh at the idea that at one time your sister-in-law was your naughty little child that knew how to manipulate you, this is what’s going on in your current life. Understand you can let go of what she does and see yourself and her as spirits.
SillyGoose says, I’m confused if my sister-in-law really cares for me or is she just pretending to? The Council says your sister-in-law’s love is real.
When your sister-in-law is being rude, try to remember this comes from a time where she’d do that to annoy you as her mother. When your sister-in-law is frustrated she can turn to that being rude, but then afterward she’ll try and pull you back in her life again because she doesn’t want to loose you. Yes, there’s love there. Yes, you’re going through things. Yes, she’s going through things. But now you’re the one who has this information and can look at the situation differently. Just watch as your sister-in-law zig-zags back and forth. Perhaps you can find it somewhere within you to laugh about this because it’s a past life trait and it will change when you can accept it and be more humorous about it. Then you’ll be able to see the true love she has for you come through more and more.
Be humorous and patient with your sister-in-law. Watch how she acts as if you’re watching a movie, and your situation with her will make more sense as you begin to realize and understand her behavior is coming from a past life. Your purpose in this life is to love her again. This is what you wanted. Teach your sister-in-law that you accept her the way she is. Her purpose in this life was to know you’ll always be there for her and not leave her because she’s not a good person or doesn’t behave a certain way. You’re both learning from this dynamic that’s going on in your life and you brought these traits into your current life to help each of you learn from it.
SillyGoose asks, am I supposed to stay connected to my sister-in-law or is it better to stay away? The Council asks, with what you know now, what feels good to you when you ask yourself that question. The answer is within you. You know what it is. There’s no need for us to tell you. Ask yourself and do the work.
SillyGoose asks what lessons she has to learn from her sister-in-law, and The Council says, acceptance.
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What’s My Life Purpose Now That My Husband Has Passed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Grieving Widow, after she read our post, Why Did My Partner Crossover Sooner Than Expected? She says I also have similar questions. My husband passed suddenly in a car accident and I’m unable to accept it. I’m constantly trying to connect with him and continue our relationship.
The Council asks Grieving Widow what she’d need to accept her husband’s death. You know he’s no longer in your physical reality, but he’s here in spirit. There are ways you can connect with him through meditation or asking for a connection in your dreams. You can ask for little signs he’s around that would give you the comfort he’s really gone nowhere. He’s still part of your life, being around you, seeing what you do. He left because it was his wish and his time to finish this lifetime. It was to give you a chance to explore more of who you are and what you want moving forward.
Grieving Widow says she doesn’t want to be here without her husband and asks The Council what is her purpose here without him? The Council says to find out who you are. What would make you happy? What ideas did you have while your husband was still here about things you wanted to do, but never had the chance? Now is the time to move forward and do these things.
Grieving Widow says we have three sons and my relationship with my oldest isn’t good. How can I help him with his life lessons and be the best mother to all my sons when I can’t even find joy in anything anymore?
The Council asks Grieving Widow if she’s saying she doesn’t find joy with her children? Do you focus at all on how to be with them, be part of their lives, and invite them into your life to give you some sort of comfort? Communication is needed here. There’s a coming together to bring you closer together.
What you need to remember is that your children will see how you’re carrying on now that your husband has passed on into spirit. How do you handle this? Do you show them that you’re aware your husband is now in the spirit world, and that you know at some point you’ll all go back into spirit, and that your husband is helping all of you from spirit? Do you talk to your children and uplift them in this moment?
The loss of a husband is traumatic, but your children have lost their father. Do you focus on that? This is a way for you to learn to be of service to others, and at this point it’s your children that need you. How will you be of service? The Council reiterates that much more communication is needed.
Grieving Widow says, I don’t believe I chose to be without my husband and I’m struggling to find a purpose to stay in this life. Do I have a purpose to remain here? The Council assures Grieving Widow that you did plan in spirit with your husband that he would pass. Your purpose, as we mentioned before, is to find out more about yourself and what you would like. What are your interests? Hold your children together. Bring your family closer. Be of service to others.
The Council understands in the human form this is a very difficult time for you. Give yourself more love by accepting you are sad at this moment, accepting this is a grieving time, accept all of that, but somewhere within that make time to help others through what they’re going through.
Grieving Widow says, I feel my sons will learn their life lessons better if I’m not here because I feel I hinder them. The Council reminds Grieving Widow that she is part of her children’s life lessons and they are very aware of how you speak and how you act. Remember that the way you do this, you are adding to their lessons and showing your children how to be and how not to be. They need you in their lives for many more reasons. Be aware of your behavior and your communication. This is part of what they agreed to learn and you have all agreed to this.
The Council understands Grieving Widow’s feeling that she’s hindering her children, but because you’ve all agreed to your husband’s passing, you don’t hinder them. And if you feel you hinder them now, how do you change that? If you can learn how to meditate and how to find things to be grateful for it will change your vibration and help you through this time.
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How Can I Help My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.
The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.
If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.
StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.
Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.
A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.
You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.
Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.
The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.
StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?
The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.
If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.
You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.
Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.
By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.
On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.
The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.
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Why Did I Have a Loving Childhood and Now I’m Surrounded By Difficult Men?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Serenity, who says she’s a kind woman who comes from a wonderful family and grew up with minimal problems and nothing but love. When I got married we were happy at first, but as the years went by we grew apart and now have nothing in common.
The Council says they don’t see Serenity’s situation the same as she does. You have much in common with your husband and much more to accomplish with him. The feeling of drifting apart is caused by not connecting on a deeper level about moving forward. This relationship isn’t over.
Feeling you’re not connected with your husband allows you space to bring other souls into your life if that’s what you planned. It’s an opportunity to face life’s challenges and happy moments and have experience with another spirit.
Serenity says, we’re married 35 years. Several years ago I rekindled communication with my first love who had become a severe alcoholic and I’m helping him slowly get better.
The Council asks how you’re helping this man. Are you supporting the process of healing himself? You won’t heal anyone. The decision to heal is up to that spirit and it’s your place to accept what they’re going through. Whether he heals and becomes sober or stays with the alcoholism, your purpose is to be a watcher, a supporter, and allow him to be who he is. This is what you planned in spirit.
Serenity says, although my original feelings have changed, I still love both men in different ways. The Council says your feelings haven’t changed, they’re just refocused at the moment.
Serenity says, I’m confused about my purpose in life and why, after being brought up in such a loving environment, I seem to be surrounded by extremely difficult men.
The Council says this gives you a foundation for what you want to create going forward. If you were brought up in a loving environment, did you plan to face challenges and learn from them, and then change these challenges into a loving reality? The loving beginning of your life gave you something so when you get in other relationships, can you create a loving atmosphere. See if you can have a partner that’s also loving to help you find that loving feeling. It’s to learn what you’re currently going through isn’t what you want, but you’ll experience it and this will help you know what to create going forward?
Serenity says, all I ever wanted in life was a simple, intelligent, honest man to love me, have common interests, travel, and enjoy a beautiful life together. I’d like to know my purpose in life and why this has been so difficult to achieve in this incarnation.
The Council sees you wished to have the beautiful and perfect relationship that you have when you’re in spirit. You wanted to experience this in your current lifetime. You can still have this by focusing on what you want. How much of it do you have with this man you’re helping with alcoholism? How much of this experience do you have with your husband? Then refocus your thoughts and concentrate solely on the fact that you’ve had loving relationships in your youth and you need to create it again with these two men in your life.
When you feel this love around you, then you can make a choice to be with one of these men or keep both of them in your life. You came into this lifetime to have love at the beginning of your life and then have challenges. We are here to bring love into every challenge we have, no matter what that challenge is.
As you focus your thoughts and bring in better thoughts, the people around you will feel the change and it will help them move through their challenges and grow. You’ll be a beacon of light and help them through whatever it is they wish to learn.
The Council thanks Cynthia and Bob for bringing in this information to all the souls who need to know there’s more to life than the human condition you’re experiencing, to hear our words, and to connect with their higher selves. This way each one of us, if we grow even an inch, we bring everyone else on this planet with us.
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Why Did My Brother’s Spirit End His Rugby Career with an Injury?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Phindezwa, who’d like to better understand her role in her younger brother’s life. A few years ago he was injured, which led to the end of his professional rugby career. Since then he’s struggled to find a meaningful career path and I’m currently supporting him, but I want him to be fully independent. Phindezwa asks why her brother’s spirit chose to end his rugby career and experience major difficulties over the last few years.
The Council says your brother’s spirit chose this path to be an example for others. It was pre-planned in spirit for him to have a rugby career he felt good about and to remember how that felt. Then your brother’s spirit wanted him to experience a feeling of failure, to not understand what happened, and not be able to move on. Once that was felt, you chose to be the creative and comforting one. It’s good that you’re playing this comforting role. But when your brother is trying too hard to find another career, almost out of desperation and sadness because that’s not what he wanted in his life, this makes it difficult to bring in this other career.
It’s good for you to talk to your brother as much as possible and share any ideas you and he might have about his new career. He can still have a career in sports if he wants, but not as a professional athlete. He needs to have a feeling of: I experienced the accomplishments I achieved, I believe I created this change in my life, and now there’s something more I can accomplish. There’s something out there that can make me feel even better than I did playing rugby. When he finds this he wants to show people that face the same sort of loss, whether being fired from a job or not finding one, how to go about overcoming this loss.
When your brother is able to pick himself up and try almost anything until the right position comes along, and if he faces everything he tries with the idea of seeing how it goes, and if this isn’t it then it will be something else. Each job leads him closer to what he wants to do. But we suggest somehow your brother keeps looking for work in the area of sports.
Phindezwa asks what her role is in her brother’s life. The Council says it’s to be a supportive person, the one that talks ideas through with him, the one that lifts his spirit, and the one that teaches him he can create whatever he wants. He was good at one thing. Now he’s in a place where he can be great again at something else.
You’re also there to see how your brother’s life is affecting you. Do you like being in the role of a supportive person? What feelings does it bring up in you? Know that you and your brother have pre-planned these experiences in spirit. You’re in the role you desired to experience. You wanted to see how to be supportive and yet step back and let your brother find his own way, but always be there for him. You’ll be showing your brother love and accepting him exactly the way he is. As you accept him and you know there’s a new career for him, he’ll begin to feel that.
As soon as your brother can create independence in his life, it will be there for him.
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I’m Worried My Mother Will Pass Away
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LoveMyParents (LMP), who asks about their mother’s health. LMP says recently her aunt passed away unexpectedly and she was younger than my mother. This has triggered a lot of concern regarding my health and my time with my mother.
LMP lives away from their home country and can only visit their parents once every year or two. They say, I’ve been crying a lot since my aunt’s death and worrying about my mother’s health. I plan to move back to my home country in about five years so I can spend quality time with my parents and I’m around when they need me. As an only child I’m very attached to my mother and can’t stand the idea of her passing away.
The Council asks LMP why they’re focusing on the loss of their mother. They have gone nowhere. You should appreciate that they’re here and you still have time to be with them. The more you focus on the fear of losing your parents, the more likely you are to bring this into your life.
The Council asks LMP to change the focus of their attention. Appreciate your parents. You have a lot of time with them. Plan when you’ll see them, how you’ll have a good time together, and that all is going well. Doing this will help you move forward toward what you want, which is having your parents around you. If you continue focusing on loss, you’ll create this in your life.
The Council wants to remind you there isn’t any loss when someone’s physical life comes to an end. They understand your aunt has transitioned and come home to spirit. She’s in a wonderful place. There’s no grief where we are. Appreciate her life. Your aunt is experiencing more joy now than you can imagine. Be grateful she and your parents are fine. Whenever someone transitions to spirit, all is well. There is no loss and you’ll all be together again.
LMP says they’ve been feeling depressed and have experienced many sleepless nights recently. Can The Council please guide me if my plan to move to my home country in five years is okay and will I still have some years to spend with my mother and father? The Council says if you stop being afraid one of your parents will pass on from their physical life, five years is fine. There’s a future that includes you and them being together again. Don’t put a limit on your thinking. Appreciate your parents. They are here and you are here. Think about when you’ll get together and have some fun.
LMP asks if there’s any way to increase the length of my parents’ life using visualization and positive thought. The Council says positive thoughts and visualization will always help keep your parents in your reality. If you keep focusing on your parents being healthy, you can create that.
Remember that positive thinking lets you create in a way that allows your parents to be there for you. If the time comes where your parents are ready to leave this physical reality, you’ll know about this in spirit ahead of time and there will be an acceptance of their passing. But we see here what’s being created by all of you is plenty of time to be together.
Stay focused on the positive. Enjoy and feel grateful for every moment. Don’t have the thought in the background of how much more time do I have with my parents. That’s still coming from a negative place. Be positive and you’ll have your parents around. You’ll create this in a way that when it’s time for them to transition to spirit when they truly want this, you’ll be fine with it.
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How Can I Help My Daughter Feel More Confident?
This post answers question for The Council from a reader named, Mel, who asks the best way to help her daughter feel more confident and boost her self-esteem. Mel wonders if her daughter’s past lives are preventing her from seeing the wonderful, smart, amazing woman she is?
The Council says Mel’s daughter needs to feel accepted. Do you compliment her often? Do you point out all the wonderful things she does? Right now your daughter’s confidence comes from you. When she gets enough of this and she believes it and accepts it, she’ll have more and more confidence in herself and won’t need the acceptance from outside herself. She wanted to learn appreciation for herself in her current life.
In your daughter’s last lifetime she worked as a servant and did what needed to be done. There wasn’t any excitement for her in that life and she didn’t have any goals. In her current life your daughter wanted the experience of feeling confident, and when she feels this way she’d allow herself to experience desires of different things she wants. We ask you to allow your daughter to be who she is, but also to fan the flame of her feeling good about herself.
Mel says maybe the interactions my daughter and I had in our past lives have prevented her in some way from healing her lack of confidence in her current life. The Council reminds Mel that the confidence your daughter is working on in her current reality comes from her last lifetime where there wasn’t any confidence, no dream, and no hope.
Mel asks if her daughter’s being overweight is a result of past lifetimes. The Council says the desire to lose weight isn’t a problem from past lives. This is something your daughter created to accept, and once it’s accepted and your daughter feels good about herself, the extra weight will disappear when the time is right and when your daughter learns what she wanted to experience.
The Council says if there’s a problem with being overweight, is it in your eyes or your daughter’s? Does something come up if you talk about this? Is this more negative than positive? If it is The Council advises talking more positively about weight loss. The fact it’s part of who your daughter is now doesn’t mean she’ll always be this way. Being overweight is one more thing your daughter created to keep in front of her while she was trying to build up her confidence.
The Council reminds Mel that everything she and her daughter talk about should be positive on all subjects. When your daughter learns to be more positive and look at things more positively, her life will change for the better.
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Help Me Understand the Deaths of My Mother and Her Brothers
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elyanna, who’s asking about the death of her mother and the subsequent deaths of her mother’s brothers. It seems strange they were sudden deaths and occurred in the bathroom. My other uncle died recently from a COVID related illness.
The Council says it doesn’t matter if these people died in the yard, on the beach, or in the bedroom. Rather than asking why these people died in the bathroom, the important questions are: How do you feel about these deaths and the disappearance of these people from your life? What’s coming up for you emotionally? What are these deaths teaching you?
Elyanna says her widowed grandmother has been devastated due to the loss of five of her children and though she prays a lot she doesn’t understand why this has happened to her. The Council says your grandmother, in spirit, wanted to learn the same lesson you wanted to learn about what happens when someone dies. Can you still connect with them? You were both interested in these lessons.
You and your grandmother, while in spirit, were talking about this and your grandmother was wonderful enough to ask if she can get in on this lesson learning with you. We can both go through this. And as we go through it, if we have the courage to talk about it and how it makes us feel, maybe we’ll both learn from these deaths. It will lead to a greater acceptance and not so much confusion. We’ll know we are all spirits who move on in and out of lifetimes.
It’s wonderful your grandmother prays a lot, but The Council feels what will help now is if the two of you speak about these deaths and look for their spiritual meaning. Who were these people in your life? Who are both of you and what you’ve learned? You’ve all created this situation in spirit and these deaths wouldn’t happen unless you all agreed to it. The lesson isn’t so much where these people die, but what this brings up for you?
Your family has come together so you can all work on these lessons about death and what it brings up for each of you. Keep in mind there’s really no death. There’s just moving on to another form of reality. You’ll have people on the other side waiting for you. You’ll talk about this life and what you’ve all learned. Do you want to go through a similar life again or do you want to learn different lessons? Was it fun being in this lifetime? Do you realize you worked together well? Did you all accomplish what you wanted to? If you didn’t accomplish what you wanted it doesn’t matter in spirit because you can choose to learn these lessons in your next life..
You all wanted to learn about death and that there’s so much more than this individual life. We suggest you read Brian Weiss’s books about life after lives so you get the feeling there’s more and there’s no ending. You’ll always be together in spirit with your loved ones. You’ll be together in other lifetimes if you all choose to. The Council closes by describing your family as being brave.
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Is My Family Trauma More Spiritual Than Psychological?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gloribet, that were prompted by her reading of our post, What is the Purpose of My Life? Gloribet says she experienced much pain as a child because of emotional abuse and hard discipline from my father. This seems to be a theme in my father’s family where there’s a lot of trauma that’s passed down through generations.
The Council says the reason your family is experiencing this trauma is that each person wanted to work with this trauma and learn from it. You came together as a family to experience this trauma so that each person can realize it’s in the family and ask why this is going on? Just having this thought will provide each of you with support.
Gloribet says this trauma had a great effect on me. I put my life and health at risk constantly, but I’ve always been very protected. Now I’m healing and growing spiritually from what I lived. Is there a spiritual component to the pain in my father’s side of my family? Is the cause of this generational trauma more spiritual than psychological?
The Council says it’s always spiritual. It comes into your human life as a psychological problem or challenge, but your spirit chooses this challenge in order to work its way through it. Every member of your family has a different reason for going through this trauma, but you all came together to offer support you can feel on an energy level.
Gloribet asks: How can I help my family break from this trauma and give my aunt’s children a chance at a life filled with love and light rather than anger and pain? The Council says you can’t change anyone else. Your cousins will go through what they need to go through until they come to a place of understanding and learning. How you can help others in your family not have to go through this trauma is by treating everyone with kindness, empathy, understanding, and love. Don’t always focus on this problem in your family and talk about it. You’ll teach the younger generations through your actions and let these people know there’s someone there for them to speak about this trauma if they choose.
Gloribet asks if her helping with this family trauma is part of her chosen spiritual path and will help her with her personal growth. The Council says if your path has been difficult, it was chosen by you in spirit. Of course you’re on the right path. Will you get to where you want to go? Yes, when you show kindness and love and accept people for the way they are.
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Tell Me About My Kundalini
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Luana, who asks about her kundalini. She says the electricity she feels is very real and she feels she has to control all her emotions. Luana closes by asking for help.
The Council says the kundalini is an energy center in your first chakra you can awaken through meditation or visualization, working with different colors of each chakra. The electricity you feel won’t make your hair stand up or hurt you in any way. And many people believe working with kundalini energy requires controlling your emotions.
When you learn to work with kundalini energy you bring it about by visualizing your energy rising from one chakra to another. You do this slowly and visualize each step. You’ll get a tingling feeling, but there’s nothing to be afraid of.
Bring your kundalini up to the heart chakra and stop there. When your kundalini comes into your heart you’ll feel a lot of love, you’ll be able to forgive more, and you’ll be aware of accepting more love in your life for yourself and others.
There are myths that when you bring the kundalini energy all the way up your spine to the top of your head and beyond you can travel to other planes and other lives, but we want your to know you don’t have to work with your kundalini to do that. You can also accomplish this with meditation and visualization.
If you do the chakra breathing we recommend in another post, the kundalini energy will rise by itself without any special effort on your part.
Go slow with your exploration of your kundalini energy. In a past life you dabbled quite a bit in the occult, you were taken with its power, and did what you would consider some not very nice things. In your current life we recommend you go slowly with this energy and only do good.
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
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Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.
The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.
Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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